Why the Narcissist Sees You as the One Who Won

[@narcabusecoach]

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[@YucaipaFreshly3746]

@narcabusecoach ok I will do I'm definitely want 2 start recovery and want out thank u sir

[@BasudevNayak-t8h]

Make this topic in Hindi

[@Carol-gs5tu]

I left 14 years ago and still being stalked, 14 years of restraining orders and 2 warrants and can’t get caught. I don’t want to scare anyone into not escaping. I have a beautiful blessed life a Angel of a husband and at the same time I’m seriously sick from being retriggered

[@zivaiva9777]

Because they always compete and compare. Everything, everywhere.💔✨️

[@Lou-n7o-m4t]

Very poetic! I like this!

[@loverofart-j2i]

Exciting video, A year ago i took the no contact route, well i wouldn't say it didnt go well, but i missed her and sometimes you have to leave your comfort zone and go for what you want, Without knowing and having a huge ego, we might actually miss out on our soul mate all in the name of not settling for less, I know who i am, and at the same time i know what i want for me, so i did all i could to get her back, and I must say, it was the best decision i have ever made, we have been together again for over 7 months, yes marriage isnt always rosey, but i am lucky to have her, just as she is to have me, we compliment each other.

[@sherryanderson-y2p]

its difficult to let go of someone you love, i am in a similar situation, and i do not know what else do to have her back, i have been dying inside, people actually think i am happy, i am not

[@loverofart-j2i]

I feel your pain brother, after trying out the no contact experiment that failed miserably, i had to find other means, i had to reach out to a spiritual adviser, it was brilliant idea which i never thought it was, but it worked wonders for me.

[@sherryanderson-y2p]

Amazing, how did you get a spiritual counselor, and how do i reach him/ her?

[@loverofart-j2i]

Her name is Suzanne Ann Walters, and she is a great spiritual counselor who can bring back your ex.

[@sherryanderson-y2p]

Thank you for this valuable information, i just looked her up now online. impressive

[@rc21078]

On point! Exactly how I am made to feel 😢 they are suddenly the victim now that I was courageous enough to leave. It took me years to come to this realization that they are never going to change.

[@timd-s1p]

Very good, Danish!

[@michelleharkness7549]

For the record- btw; thank you 😊: again: thank you 😊

[@cazjay017]

They flip the script - to avoid any accountability by projecting their own guilt and shame. So true.

[@Shve18-o6x]

Don't get caught in their delusional thinking.... always run for inner peace🏃

[@kayodudu5190]

Danish I dont know how I woukd have made sense of Narcissism, but thanks to your videos It all makes sense now. Thank you immensely..

[@annking8633]

God led me to your messages. Divine intervention. I can't thank you enough.

[@lynneleverton8825]

Anyone who leaves with their sanity intact, is a winner!

[@kcs9928]

I always thought I was a problem and crazy and delusional. Now I see everything but my trust is limited with people. I think that is because all the people who were supposed to be my saviors hurt me.

[@vickibrown8490]

I thought I was going crazy. The Dr told me I wasn’t- I asked how he knew, & he said “If you were going crazy, you wouldn’t know. You’d think you were acting normal.” Remember that if anyone tries to gaslight you in the future & you feel like you’re going crazy.

[@nomeanpeople]

after being with him for 40 yrs, I'm leaving the abuse. most people already know about his temper, his outbursts, and overall disagreeableness. I'm not worried about anything he tries to lie about. There was a time that I would have, but now, I'm like, " shoo, shoo, little bug "with a smile of freedom on my face. I've learned how to play the game over the years & I'm continuing until my apartment is ready.

[@Hesetmefree1981]

CONGRATULATIONS ❤MAY GOD BLESS YOU AND HE RESTORES WHAT THE LOCUSTS DESTROYED!!!! ALWAYS!!!

[@marisolloera5192]

Yes 🥺and how heartbreaking this is. Throughout all the proof , it’s still not true -to them. Flipping everything and yet making us feel like we are still the ones to blame. 🥺it is just so painful and you feel so crazy.

[@matrika-n9n]

Moment he knew about my safe exit, he went to my home and gathered people from neighbourhood started drama full of lies, was in depression with heart panics for 2 months, he never accept my exit, i don't bother anymore about him. Im free from his abuse, physical violence... No contact since past 4 months... helped me to recover though i cry like hell some days.

[@azkamahmood8222]

More power to you

[@mariposa1933]

LET THEM …think what they want. Amen!! 🙏 The only thing I got away with was my great escape from my them!! This channel is blessing to us all! Praise the Lord for you! ❤

[@tinaureta9891]

I NEEDED THIS TODAY!! I always come back to your Channel Dr. Bashir. You help me again and again. This is exactly EXACTLY What I have endured since the day he abandoned me after 25 years. He is SO GRANDIOSE. But God will have His say. I know

[@gorunsko31]

Yup. They have their own story, bc they re-write history. Thank you 🙏

[@michellefreeman9434]

Thank you for your kind and encouraging words ❤

[@aloksrivastava7938]

We are the "villains", so we should not be with "good people" like narcissists. We as the "villains" in their story, learnt the lesson early in our lives: "No one owes you anything in this life." It is high time they should learn the same.

[@terrydyer2490]

I've been destroyed beyond repair. Completely alone. That narcissistic demon made sure of it. I'm the villain now. No contact for over 4 years.

[@YoungAtHeart9]

I divorced my covert narc husband 15 years ago… Got therapy, some healing, and remarried 10 years ago. The other day, narc ex texted me photos of grandbaby that Estranged daughter does not share w me. His text claimed that he feels bad about this situation, but that he can do nothing about it (victim mentality). I responded w something to the effect of: a real father would say something rather than playing the Disneyland dad role. His response was that it was my fault b/c I didn’t accept responsibility. (Projecting) Anyway, long story short…he sucked me in by sending grandbaby pics and I felt upset for about a week afterwards. I blocked him, so no more pics or opportunities to upset my equilibrium. 15 years away and he can still suck me in and blame me for it. No more!!! I’ve had 15 years of peace & he’ll not steel another day!

[@LeeuwvanHaaren]

Your narcissistic ex is a jerk. He turned your daughter against you and now he is sending pictures to make you feel bad. I understand how you feel because I am in the same situation. I have not seen my daughter in 8 years because of my ex. I hope you are happily married now. Don't let the idiot intimidate you. Stay strong. Much love ❤

[@jomansson5742]

So sad. Kids are sponges. My friend's ex turned the kids against him for a decade. Then they came back to him and had a happy reunion. After he passed, they reverted back and said he was nobody to them, an absent parent. Wow.

[@dawnad6233]

Can't believe the content of the video happened to me just seconds ago. My narc sib commented on similar lines. Sir your videos are too realistic. Thank you for helping us understand our situation better. Hope to heal myself and stay joyful

[@IndraniSasmal-q9j]

But my experience with these people has always proved that most of them are ruined by their cruelty to themselves

[@KarinRandell-jo3uf]

Danish is absolutely correct 🎉❤

[@cherylberk4593]

Absolutely spot on correct.Even if THEY left you, they call up years later accusing you of thriwing them out. My ex husband toldeveryone he was broke bcs I cleaned him out, when I didnt ask for alimony or child support. Awful, but true. Thank you.

[@YucaipaFreshly3746]

No weapon formed against me shall prosper...god will turn my and your ashes to beauty

[@DanJudge-g9m]

Everyone looses, it's a waste ❤🦅

[@lisaharris9894]

They were already broken before we met them.

[@123playland]

OMG ~ telling their flying monkeys destroyed me 😂

[@dvawva5197]

The abuser is the victim because there’s a huge amount of shame that goes along with their abhorrent behavior.

[@Jennifera777]

This is exactly what happened to me, my mother antagonized me everyday, my dad shamed me did not talk to me when I came in the room, he would look away from me as if I was to bad to even look at. My sister was the golden child who betrayed me, lied on me the family and put a barriers between our brother and his children, so I never got to be a part of my niece and nephews lives.My sister had a vendetta to get me away from the family and she successfully did so. All the while, I AM THE BAD SEED! My mother said I made her life a living hell when I loved her, gave my 2 cats to her because she was in an unhappy marriage with my dad and begged me for the cats. She did not want the cats in the home when I moved in but by the time I left she had to have them. I hated to see my mother and father so unhappy and arguing all of the time. I moved back home when my mom was lonely and asked me to do so because she knew I loved her, yet to this day I am bad. I stood up to my mother when she over stepped my boundaries and I was punished for it. I tried to stay away from them in my room but she would cause us to argue all the time.. I HATE that even though I could see the truth about them and my therapist helped me to stay grounded, their projections onto me got inside me and I started to stop taking care of myself and living life. I want my life back, I have always taken care of myself and now I've gained so much weight and have health issues. What they do is beyond criminal because they damage your soul.

[@quintSsence]

being able to love is something beautyful and very rare don't be so naive and share it with those who will destroy you for this ability, bc they can't your mother is not your mother just bc the birthed you und guess what lesser is the case for your "father" and siblings! look for reell

[@maritzacaruth9283]

Totally understand. My siblings think I am the 'golden child' because I am the only one of 4 who lives in the same city as her. Which in turn causes my children (3 of her 17 grandchildren) to feel compelled to indulge her tantrums. Idek if they (my sibs) realize she's a narc but they do maintain distance because of how draining she is. It's alot but, you must stay close to God. You are a caring soul & He sees your heart. He will bless you to get to the other side of this madness. I am praying for you. My mom went on a hunger strike when she found out I was moving out, called an ambulance and everything. They gave her a sandwich and juice and sent her back home. 😂 I prayed for God's will to be done. It will be a year next month that I've had my freedom back. You did it before, you can do it again! Love and light to you. 🎉

[@Jennifera777]

@@maritzacaruth9283 Thank you and God bless you.

[@Jennifera777]

@@quintSsence Thank you and God bless you.

[@aliceroberts1980]

They destroy your life

[@larshesthaven5828]

Just get away from the narc and stop thinking about any of their bs victimhood...and remember to stay away and live your own life

[@glendaschilder3048]

They spread so many lies on me im having an identity crises

[@chrysanthemum8392]

Great discussion!

[@kryssysmith1486]

An family memember enabler once said, "I hate being in the middle. Why don’t you just make up with them?" I shook my head and laughed sadly, knowing I’d tried to communicate three years earlier, but they refused. This enabler knew everything that happened between us. I once thought I was the brainwashed one, but the enablers in my family are far worse off than me.

[@terrydyer2490]

I went through the same. I feel you.

[@kryssysmith1486]

@@terrydyer2490 It's extremely invalidating, and they know it. They just choose to do it without any remorse for how it affects the other person's health or mental health.

[@c0zyb34R]

It crossed my mind. Nobody has to accept somebody’s apology but they were a pawn for crossing a line that they probably set him up and if you don’t want someone in your life don’t do things that will bring them into your life. He distracted me just to save a thief from justice. I’m glad the narcissist gets to pick their punishment beforehand knowing all the scenarios. They disgust me.

[@charmaineandrews5435]

No lies told❤

[@INFJgirl8982]

AMEN! AMEN! AMEN! .... Thank you for voicing the TRUTH

[@ColleenHogan-v6p]

Absolutely 💯 agree with you..

[@deborahrobinson6553]

He told me he would never survive without me. I survived him. I'm sure he will be just fine. This video cemented my thoughts on the issue.

[@aparna1170]

Mine was like I need to leave the house we lived in and as always leans in to see the reaction. I was like, did we ever live? As always, it was because u weren’t co-operative.

[@TamekaBuckley-h8e]

Absolutely Amazing because We are Winners with GOD ✋🏾❤🙏🏾

[@tinaureta9891]

The Narcissist crazy beliefs and words DOES NOT DEFINE ME!! I have Moved On!

[@stxxrz._.0]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤all so true ❤❤❤thank you I needed this today❤

[@richellepeace4457]

He thinks he won, he did. He won't when God punishes hiim with eternal screaming.....

[@jelkel25]

Your unsaid task is to "fix" them or keep trying to fill the bottomless pit that is their ego. Both of these tasks are like trying to empty the ocean with a bucket. You fail because they don't want to be fixed, they just want the attention so sabotage to get more. In their world everything is deliberate so your failure is deliberate hence, you "won". They are obsessed with "won", you are not allowed to do this so they are the victim and you must be punished. It doesn't occur for a millisecond this situation is self inflicted.

[@seameology]

There's also overflowing rivers and streams pouring into that ocean.

[@jelkel25]

Exactly.

[@dascha_KindGottes]

Thnk you for these videos. Its very informative God bless you Danish ❤

[@stanleywilliams3019]

I still have trouble accepting my narc believes his lies it’s obviously true he does, but I figuratively scratch my head thinking “can anyone be this crazy”? Strong language but this is an understatement. I say that I have an out date from the multiverse of madness 😱 Hang in there empaths. You did see what you saw, hear what you heard, and felt what you felt. Don’t fall for their Jedi Mind Tricks. Because you are not evil like them, you can’t imagine life as an ongoing set of lies. They don’t imagine it, they are completely lost to reality like Danish said, because they can’t bear the weight of how horrible and devilish they are.

[@terrymassie7656]

I'm experiencing a 3D situation where the narc sees a challenge after being told they can not control others.

[@muritalaiyabodekhadijat5601]

Thank you for this video.

[@sonalgodbole7506]

We did not get away, we were discarded them...

[@Arrtists]

I hope you know just how helpful you are and also how wise and so spot on you are. I always enjoy what you share and your insight. This video was especially helpful thank you

[@c0zyb34R]

You can be sincere if a narcissist wants an excuse they won’t accept it.

[@priyakarthic1406]

😢😢OMG they damage my character for no cause of reason...am keeping my mouth shut 😭

[@Jennifera777]

I took antidepressants and stimulants to deal with this abuse and now my dopamine is deficient and as a result, I am helpless because my brain does not work right, it's like I am paralyzed. If anyone knows how to overcome this please comment. Thank you

[@seameology]

I don't know how long you've been out, but, in my case, I was on and off medication for a couple of years. I'm fourteen years out and not on any drugs. You also have to stay narc free. My healing was delayed because I worked in a communal narcissistic cult company.

[@Shve18-o6x]

Soo true Danish ... 😢

[@dhavalhalpati1125]

for the longest time, i thought being magnetic was something you either had or didn’t. i used to watch others shine while i felt stuck. then i found Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and it made me realize it’s all about the vibe you give off. chapter 3 especially changed the way i carry myself-it’s such a powerful shift.

[@Workingitnevershirkingit]

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[@Wishdom-j3b]

Good for you. Now take your advertisement elsewhere.

[@melanielanders7819]

After 16 years I found out my husband was having a long standing affair. He became violent when I told him I knew! He tried to choke me to death and our 2 boys heard him say, “ I am going to fucking kill you!” He dropped me, but continued to attack me, pulled guns on me, and held himself at gun point 3x, while I was crying and begging him not to. This.was torture and went on 3 years. I was petrified he would kill me, and after the divorce I got very sick with rheumatoid arthritis and took treatments for 13 years until I finally got in remission! My rheumatologist was certain the fear caused my body to break down, as there was no family history of autoimmune dz. I was a long distance runner for 31 years and this had to stop along with my profession as a neuro nurse anesthetist. I am finally ok after 18 years, but will never be able to run, ski , or practice!

[@1welshman]

“Yeah but that was before I’m NOT like that now” 🙄 move on guy’s somehow you will still be the one at fault in their minds regardless of what you have endured.

[@derekazyan9942]

My narc dumped me for a dentist and is playing a victim.

[@patriciasehako7817]

My son's father cheated on me and I worked away, he saw me glowing and made good in life and wanted to come back, what blew my mind is the told me straight in my face "you never fought for me" I just walked away, what a looser 🙄

[@juliansears6181]

Thank you for today message it truly bring clarity to the Why of the behavior and the How to the application towards the behavior thank you again stay blessed

[@catherinecarry1539]

Thankfully I did get away from them 😊

[@Jennifera777]

I still love my mother even though she did all of this to me. Is it Stockholm syndrome?

[@lauriefuller4073]

Exactly!

[@kcs9928]

I feel so bad for the women who date my ex after me. He won't bring them around cause I honestly am not jealous but want to expose him. He's on his 5th gf after we separated 3 years ago and make me the bad guy.

[@seameology]

Always.

[@athulumargaret8372]

Danish i dont care anymore about what the narcissists in my life think!

[@ANiN477]

First of all, I didnt watch this video yet. Second, because I did.

[@irenehamilton2981]

Dont ever expose them while you live with them bad idea do it whe you have everything squared away like mailed successfully moved all your important things moved then move very far away from them change jobs xhange cities or even states my advice becareful

[@terrymassie7656]

I was drawn to the title.

[@official_ashish143]

been there, feeling like no matter how hard i tried, i just didn’t stand out. then i picked up Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki, and honestly, it changed everything. chapter 3 opened my eyes to how energy works-it’s not about effort, it’s about alignment. people started noticing me in ways they never had before.

[@lamarkagwe1870]

@Danish thank you for all the help it's very crucial in the healing journey...One question please, why does the narcissistic pattern keep following me in the people I bring into my life...is it my late father's narcissistic interject and how do I break it?

[@eeekamouse1074]

My ex husband 150%. Word for word.

[@rebeccaboyar]

Its so crazy my x Narc said he needed to leave the new supply before he ruined her life to. To buying a home. As he complained keeping up our home was too hard. BS. After I learned he was with the new supply. I kicked him out and he used the words you won. Lol I've been zero contact and going into my third year single. 🥰💝

[@rachaeldjordjevic5415]

All survivors of demon abuse- deserve their time over- to have another chance at life 😢

[@aparna1170]

Some video this was. Well said with clarity. Precise and concise.

[@aparna1170]

So correct. We couldn’t make their lies into truth so they are the victim

[@aparna1170]

This video resonated with me at all levels each and every word of it

[@mw6434]

Week person who r controlled by devil r called narcissist.

[@aparna1170]

I agree we are unbelievably powerful

[@aparna1170]

He will have each and every person devalue me and study me to get a reaction. Everything needs to have a logic to me so I stayed unaffected

[@chicken_nugget_fugget1472]

Hello Danish, I know this might be a silly question, but can narcissistic abuse happen without ever meeting the person? Like on a game or social media, etc. thank you! ❤

[@mac-ju5ot]

It's always hard to prove that they were narcs after uve list everything they don't care how u survived

[@loriw1189]

True

[@aparna1170]

This is an amazing video

[@TaimoorMaliks]

Is it really possible for Narcissists to fake their kindness or fake their apologies? If so, could somebody explain how it’s possible?

[@Lou-n7o-m4t]

And you weren’t competing in the first place. 😅

[@austinpeters9870]

I agree

[@SoliSono]

🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤

[@susannel967]

🙏❤

[@monicarai1497]

Omg. Your mom is just like mine. She could be killing me and would still go around telling everyone that I left and "got away" 😂....(According to narc sister)

[@VinitaSinghal96]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@lisaharris9894]

I basically raised my ex-husband. Red flag, but i was young

[@rohinirabha6715]

Please hindi main Sir 🙏🙏🙏

[@monishmansuri8896]

if you’ve ever felt like no one notices you, trust me, i get it. i felt like that for years, trying all the confidence hacks and advice out there. but nothing clicked until i read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki. there’s something about chapter 3-it’s like the missing puzzle piece i didn’t know i needed.

[@monicarai1497]

Because you need to understand smth Danish....guilt is the easiest way to keep someone with you. And these mf's (sorry for the language) KNOW that.

[@backrack01]

What would happen if I send my ex this video. Or her flying monkey.

[@zakiralma-jb1ku]

ever feel like you’re the one no one notices, no matter what you do? i’ve been there. i tried all the advice out there, but nothing stuck until i read Magnetic Aura by Takeshi Mizuki. the insights in chapter 3 blew my mind-it taught me how to let my energy do the talking before i even say a word.

[@Ericka11111]

💛💫💛

[@aparna1170]

So true

[@aparna1170]

Mine was an idiot of the highest order. Though some people move with people who like them most people are with people who are good people. And most people come thru when u seek help. When people invite me he will prove that those people don’t like me. They need people so they are inviting you eat., he will hell bent on proving that no one likes me as much they don’t like him

[@aparna1170]

If I look down at him as a sub standard person, he will have someone look down at me. They won’t have any effect in me. And he will call me u r so powerful u bounce back well. Will I get affected by his cheap vulgar associations