Why the rules are holding you back in your decorating

[@amberrae5963]

Along time ago I remember posting pictures of my home on Facebook in a primitive group and some ladies were harsh saying it wasn’t primitive because of my white walls. (This was before white everything came into style) so I painted my dining room a yellow mustard color and it was a hit! People loved it… but I didn’t! It felt dark like I lived in a cave. I swear it was starting to depress me!! So I went back to what made me happy!! That’s when I realized that you have to stay authentic to you! Not styles. I also want to add you look beautiful in this video and so is your room! Way better than the red to me!! 🥰

[@AnneClay]

@@amberrae5963 thank you Amber! I’m so glad you went back to the color that made you happy! We try so hard to “do it right” and your story is a perfect example of that! Thanks for sharing!

[@bluebird8224]

Thanks for sharing your feelings and thoughts. That is not easy. It is one thing to feel and think, it is another thing to write it down and talk about it. We don't always have the luxury of shopping for things we LIKE. You are lucky to have that privilege in this time of your life. I love how you decorated !!! Someone asked me in recent years, What do YOU like? Nobody had ever asked me that about the yard, because I had never had to think about it - that wasn't my thing. But since she asked, I thought about it and came up with some good ideas. For one, if you live in the city, plant things on a hill, and leave the flat spaces for picnic tables and badminton. Plant shade trees on the south side and evergreens on the north side. The bare trees in winter give sun for warmth and the leaves give shade in the summer. The evergreens on the north are a windbreak. And plant English boxwood, of course. .

[@AnneClay]

@@bluebird8224 that’s very interesting! I have to say that I’ve never thought about planting a yard… very good ideas! Thank you for sharing them with me!! And yes, I am very fortunate to have access to These items. There isn’t a day that goes by that I continue to be very grateful for all that I have been given.

[@anniep9323]

I love the color of the wall it is so calming . Everything looks great and simple !! Love it 🤎

[@AnneClay]

@@anniep9323 thank you Annie!!

[@mustangmama-]

It's your home, you do what makes you happy. Absolutely love your home and your bedroom redo is my favorite.!! Thank you for sharing!!

[@AnneClay]

@@mustangmama- thank you so much! Yes we all have to do what makes us happy!!

[@joannetaggart4136]

I loved your room in red and love what you've done now. The fabric on the sofas are works of art. I am a late bloomer. I plan on trying new stuff. And Ann, I love, love your carpet you designed! I love the room. Thank you for your guidance. ❤

[@AnneClay]

@@joannetaggart4136 thanks so much Joanne! Yes I do love the fabric on all those furniture pieces.

[@JohnGill-k4g]

Thank you for the video Anne! The new sitting room looks great and still carries through the 18th C vibe, with your own personal touches adding to the charm! With the changes in color and decor, you have really lowered the energy level to a visually more relaxing space...it's great! This is a balance we struggle with at times in our 1727 Saltbox...brighter versus more muted (but still classic Colonial) colors....adding too much decor to a room which probably would not have been done in 18th C New England? But, collecting antiques and reproductions is really enjoyable! At the moment, I've just got to have a Red Fox (we see them on our property, attracted to the chickens) pelt hanging in our Tavern room. At the end of the day it's all about balance; and, we should evolve to what makes us most comfortable and happy! So glad you did that, thoughtful & inspiring!

[@AnneClay]

@@JohnGill-k4g thank you John.. yes! It is a more relaxing space. Are you out searching for a red fox pelt? I imagine that would not be the easiest thing to find but I love how you tie the idea into the life of your home! I’ve seen a few red foxes in our yard through the years but I’ve never seen them eyeing our 🐓

[@carmenmontmarquet706]

I did love the red but the new color is more calming and seems to tie everything together! I do love how this room turned out! Thanks for sharing!

[@AnneClay]

@@carmenmontmarquet706 thank you Carmen!

[@LindaMcGuire-fz3qu]

Love all your info.U help us frustrated decorators. Can't wait to do some new ideas. 5:15

[@AnneClay]

@@LindaMcGuire-fz3qu wonderful! I’m so glad you found it helpful!!

[@PatriciaFox-g2g]

The red was beautiful but i love how calm the room is now 👍great job!!!!

[@AnneClay]

@@PatriciaFox-g2g thank you Patricia! I like it too!

[@cabinfevercrafts1439]

We had an 1850s log cabin adapted for our living space. The builder was a collector of early American antiques and was insistent that we needed to decorate our cabin with authentic, time period pieces. I became caught up in his enthusiasm and began to feel that my mix of family antiques from the Victorian era were not quite up to snuff. Well, years have passed, and now I mix my decorating up with pieces l love, that mean something to me. And there are some new and old early American items. (Think David T Smith meets Old Sturbridge Village meets Victorian oak) All very eclectic, cozy, comfortable, and way outside the “rules”. Our home is an extension of our memories, our interests, and our personal creativity. No apologies to anyone.Thank you for your wonderful videos!

[@AnneClay]

@@cabinfevercrafts1439 so interesting! Thanks for sharing your story!!! Love the confidence!!

[@deborah3055]

Hi Anne I think the room looks amazing but I liked the red also . As long as your happy that’s all that matters oh and Tom too 😊 Have a great day and thanks for the inspiration 💕

[@AnneClay]

@@deborah3055 thanks Deborah. Tom goes along with anything I do for decorating… makes things easy!

[@nitamay3534]

I love the gray room it look so much better.

[@AnneClay]

@@nitamay3534 thanks Nita May!

[@mrso4746]

Anne!! So nice to see you, Happy New Year!! Thank you for the new video.

[@AnneClay]

@@mrso4746 you’re very welcome!! Happy New Year!

[@barbarasimmons7637]

This video had every good advice about decorating! Thank you, Anne!

[@AnneClay]

@@barbarasimmons7637 thanks Barbara!!

[@kellylassen6769]

Awesome video!! I'm going through this right now after taking Christmas down. My home was built in the 40's and very small. Under 1000_sq feet. I'm glued to your videos for inspiration! Lol Hugs!

[@AnneClay]

@@kellylassen6769 taking Christmas down always leaves us open for lots of new possibilities :)

[@aprilmogensen]

Enjoyed this video & all the decoratiing information. I have enjoyed seeing your home thru out all your videos.

[@AnneClay]

@@aprilmogensen thank you April!

[@bonniemiller9197]

Well Anne, I sit here in my living room where all the trim {including an 1830 fireplace and overboard} is painted Cromwell Grey and the walls are Dunmore Cream from Ben Moore Historical Colors. Soooo, of course I love the new color palette you have chosen. Last spring I took an old cutting board and hung it over the fireplace with some painted country tin hung on it and painted country tin on the mantle. My daughter-in-law said to me "Mom I am not feeling the bread board over the mantle." I smiled, did not take offence and said, "You don't have to, I need to." That painted country tin shows beautifully on the grey and every time I see the collection displayed it reminds me of my dear sweet painting teacher who did most of it. Makes my heart sing and sing. Do your thing.

[@AnneClay]

@@bonniemiller9197 love it Bonnie… thanks for sharing!

[@itsjustmommyitsjustmommy1016]

It’s looks beautiful! Simple and not overwhelming. It’s a relaxing room. You did good.

[@AnneClay]

@@itsjustmommyitsjustmommy1016 aw thank you! Yes it’s very relaxing!

[@robinrhea6125]

Wonderful sermon on decorating! Great information! You've hit the nail on the head, in my opinion!❤

[@AnneClay]

@@robinrhea6125 haha thank you Robin.

[@shellyswt]

I absolutely loved the red but I can see why you chose this calming and grounding color. A very authentic early American color too! I love the simplicity and intentionality of the way you decorate. Not cluttered but perfectly placed! Just gorgeous! 😍

[@AnneClay]

@@shellyswt thank you so much Shelly! I think that’s one of my favorite things about decorating… balancing scale and texture as if the room is a big painting. It’s a totally artistic endeavor!

[@Sophiamia6960]

You look amazing Anne! Carnivore looks fantastic on you!!

[@AnneClay]

@@Sophiamia6960 aw thank you!!! It’s a slow process this carnivore thing!! But I feel great!

[@leadepp4047]

The room is beautiful! I love your house and how you decorate it.

[@AnneClay]

@@leadepp4047 thank you so much!

[@franzone70]

I actually liked the red! I love your home and look forward to your videos every Sunday. I remember once years ago l decorated my first home in the foo foo country look, l loved it, but my ex sister in law came over to a Holiday party l had and told everyone how cluttered my home looked. I was devastated and ended up getting rid of all my country stuff and went modern.I hated it! Now l have a cape cod by a lake and l have a mixture of primitive and lodge look with Victorian in my bedroom,l love it and will never let anyone dictate how to decorate my home! ( and thankfully don’t have that nasty sister in law anymore).

[@franzone70]

Actually the gray is a lot more calming!

[@AnneClay]

@@franzone70 oh wow! Thats quite the story! I had a friend that used to always comment about all “my stuff”. I was in my early 30s and it made me feel a bit insecure at the time I remember. Glad you’ve got a place you LOVE!

[@christinecook377]

I do love primitive, english and colonial american decor. It is very hard to find your place in the decor world. I mix it up and use things I really love. Sometimes I feel it is too much, but it is my home and I have to live with it, (along with the family). LOL I enjoy your videos and do get ideas from you and your friends. Thank you for your input!

[@AnneClay]

@@christinecook377 thanks so much Christine for your comments. The great thing about our decor is it’s always evolving with us!

[@missbonimeduridesidns1793]

Oh Anne, the red was good,but the color after is just marvelous.

[@AnneClay]

@@missbonimeduridesidns1793 aw thanks!!!

[@lindamounts2193]

I know it may be all about the patina but I would have to sand and refinish the floors and install floor boards to clean up the corners.

[@AnneClay]

@@lindamounts2193 if you sand 250 year old floorboards you can do damage to them. At some point I may do something to clean them up but right now I have two senior dogs so for now I’m happy with the patina. It matches the ceiling that’s falling in… part of the “charm” of being in an old home lol

[@pamwright5126]

What a beautiful room. It sure is a calm What a beautiful calm room. Love the single basket on your coffee table. Just went upstairs and got a similar one for my table. Good job❤❤❤

[@AnneClay]

@@pamwright5126 lol thank you. Happy Decorating!

[@leslieW5177]

The room is beautiful; very serene. I would never wish to offended you with a red paint comment, but I too followed that same vein with a pink dining room in my 80 year old cottage 😮. It didn’t last very long…oh what fun. Also, I wanted to thank you for the sale a few days ago along with the tribute to your friend, Lana. You all showed a deep respect for her and I am truly sorry for your loss. Blessings dear friend. 🙏❤️

[@AnneClay]

@@leslieW5177 thank you for all the kind words Leslie. I’ve made some pink mistakes too in my life.:)

[@kathypeterson526]

I loved this video, Anne! So true, not to give up what makes your soul happy to achieve a look.💝💝💝

[@AnneClay]

@@kathypeterson526 thanks Kathy! All true!!

[@brendaw53]

Looks so calming! Love the wall, fireplace and trim are the same color!The simplicity makes it more charming! Thanks for sharing! ❤🕯️📙☕️

[@AnneClay]

@@brendaw53 thank you Brenda! I was debating if I was going to do the TV wall in one color too but then I realized I’d have to paint inside the shelves and the he thot of that shut me down lol

[@veronicadelancey-smith6408]

Love it ALL!!! Great video!

[@AnneClay]

@@veronicadelancey-smith6408 thanks Veronica! Glad you enjoyed it!

[@sandysmom100]

I kove it ! I like how its pretty minimalist .I try watch other primative creatirs and other creators of other design .As i am getting older and i can't stand lookimg at to much clutter in my home imcluded . We have an antique kinf of Nancy meyers look woth some very modern pieces too . We can't psint cuz we are renters .But im fiinding myself kimd if drawn to the vintage farmhouse / and now primative style . I love this so much , I've been feeling stuck !

[@AnneClay]

@@sandysmom100 it’s rough to live in an apartment and not being able to paint. I understand too the desire as you get older to have less items and become more minimal. Every year I get rid of a bit more.

[@DianaBird-sz8tt]

You nailed it ❤️

[@cindyk4294]

Anne, you are such an inspiration. I’ve been a faithful supporter from the beginning. I have little specs of red in every room because it’s my favorite color. In my last house we painted our kitchen red and I hated it! So… I can absolutely understand where you are coming from. I’m hoping you visit Primitive Goods again…it’s been a while and I love that shop. Prayers for you and those you love. p.s. the room looks amazing, I am blown away.

[@AnneClay]

@@cindyk4294 thank you Cindy! I’m think that’s so interesting that you hated your red kitchen. How long did you have to live with it?

[@cindyk4294]

@@AnneClay we lived with it about 18 months. My husband liked it and it was a bit of a battle to change it. If it’s not right for you don’t hesitate to admit, it was a bad decision….And remember, red is my favorite color.

[@AnneClay]

@ totally can relate!

[@BarbaraHorton-b6e]

I love the red

[@AnneClay]

@@BarbaraHorton-b6e it was a valid color choice that suited the home and the time period.

[@lindamounts2193]

@@AnneClay For me it was the sheen that threw me off and maybe one wall of it as an accent.

[@sborras12]

Love your home❤

[@AnneClay]

@@sborras12 thank you!

[@jeanwalker8639]

And I like that color better than the red. It’s much more relaxing and it goes with antiques

[@AnneClay]

@@jeanwalker8639 it really does go well with antiques… a nice earthy feel!

[@leetavanholten122]

Also, I want to add something I have tried to pass on to friends and family over the years about "how to" decorate...when deciding what colors or pieces you want to bring to your home, if you "let" yourself "pick" the piece that's been "waiting" for you, that's the item you should have.. sounds sort of "whoo whoo" 😂, I know, but simply put, if you are drawn to something, or if your eye "catches" something, if you can say "but I just love this!" that's the perfect pick for you... people worry too much if something is the right color, the right shape, the right "style" for there house, but I have found if you fill your home with things that you just simply LOVE you will have the home you 💕...We are all rather "eclectic" in our choices at times ..."country", "cottage", "vintage", "farmhouse", oh my, even "Victorian" one lady, but you can "blend" items from all those different themes to a very cohesive and comfortable home as you are surrounding yourself with all the elements of each design that you love, being "comfy and cozy" in our homes, and the best of all, welcoming your family and friends into that home as well...a home should be "lived in"... comfortable to all who enter...in the end, the rest is"just things"...sorry Anne, if I have intruded overly in your thoughts and ideas, but you really do make me think of how I have lived before and how I live now, truly inspiring ❤ Thank you, again

[@AnneClay]

@@leetavanholten122 I love it Leeta. Thank you for sharing all of your valuable experience!

[@leetavanholten122]

Oh darn! I "lost" the first comment I posted about when and how I "fell in love with you and cousin Mel...oh well ❤️ Another time 😂😀💓

[@leetavanholten122]

Maybe it didn't go through, it was pretty long 😍

[@AnneClay]

@@leetavanholten122 that’s too bad!

[@katherinesica3215]

PERFECTION! I truly enjoyed every second of this. The room looks great! Thank you thank you! ❤

[@AnneClay]

@@katherinesica3215 thank you Katherine!

[@dawnsawyer4275]

It’s beautiful Ann

[@AnneClay]

@@dawnsawyer4275 thank you Dawn!

[@paulabrown257]

Anne I love your new look! What color is the lipstick/ gloss. Love it❤

[@AnneClay]

@@paulabrown257 lol thank you. Let me look!BUXOM 2144. It’s a lip plumping gloss from Ulta

[@paulabrown257]

@@AnneClaythank you when I first saw it on you it was very striking! ❤

[@lindafrederick4250]

👍♥️♥️

[@troypowell8367]

Looks great Anne!! (Really liked it before too, but change is good)

[@AnneClay]

@@troypowell8367 thank you Troy!

[@Elisabeth-zi8ww]

Oh Anne, I love the change of color in the family room, it flows with the rest of your home perfectly. It took me a couple of tries trying to get the correct trim color throughout my home, finally Tinderbox Brown..thanks heavens paint is inexpensive compared to wallpaper, another story..😉 Just ordered a gallery wrap print from your website, so looking forward to having a piece of your art in my colonial home...stay safe and warm from Arizona 🌵.

[@AnneClay]

@@Elisabeth-zi8ww hi Elisabeth! I’ll have to look up that color… it has a wonderful name! Yes paint is much cheaper than paper!! I got a little spooked out because I didn’t want to keep adding coats of paint to my old wood but in the end a girls gotta do what a girls gotta do.:)

[@AnneClay]

@@Elisabeth-zi8ww oh and thanks for the order! Hope you enjoy it!!

[@Elisabeth-zi8ww]

@@AnneClay The paint company is Olde Century Paint, love there paint and stain colors, very muted, not garish. Have you ever used Briwax paste to age on of your art print canvases? I did watch your video on aging canvases, but I have Briwax in the house..

[@AnneClay]

@ I imagine you can if water based but I’ve never used it before. Try it on a corner first or on something you don’t mind testing it on.

[@Elisabeth-zi8ww]

@@AnneClay Thanks Anne, will try it on the side of the canvas.. Have a good evening. I too love Outlander, season seven the second half has been amazing.. looking forward to season eight..love men in kilts... 😊

[@cathytuttle720]

What paint color is the room ? I do Love it.

[@AnneClay]

@@cathytuttle720 Ben Moore Dash of Pepper

[@annesandstrommusic7538]

The room is lovely. I’ve recently gotten some antiques on FBMP. My style is what I’d call “colonial-influenced.”

[@AnneClay]

@@annesandstrommusic7538 thank you. I love that… “colonial influenced”

[@Hdkcidnkdjdbdndidbrnrodbdjdkdb]

Loved this video. Your room looks amazing. I too have a historic red paint color in my keeping room, and it has been bothering me for about a years. I’ve purchase both a brown and an earth colored paint and still l hesitated.This video has given me the push to paint! Thank you.

[@AnneClay]

@@Hdkcidnkdjdbdndidbrnrodbdjdkdb oh yay!!! You won’t be sorry!!! It took me so long to get up the nerve to paint it again but having that red gone has lowered my blood pressure :)