Why Those Abused by Narcissists Over Apologize

[@brendawarner5415]

My partner is a relentless critic of me. I am now just observing, noticing, that no matter what I do,he finds something wrong ....not apologizing anymore. Just observing.

[@susanservin1949]

I had a client tell me I was the "sorriest" person he'd ever met- because I was always apologizing. It did make me realize that the behavior was a leftover from narcissistic abuse.

[@spartan1857]

I always wondered why several people in my circle would swing - smiling to instant anger or rage. I always blamed myself. I apologise all the time now, trying to fix it. I didn't even know what narcissism was until a year ago. Now I understand these people seek control over others - and that is why they can mood swing in an instant. It's not my fault, nor I am I responsible for them. I used to think I was.

[@alisondare7203]

You might need therapy. I didn't realise how much I was doing it until I did. I would apologise for stuff I hadn't even done and wouldn't ever stand up for myself. I still have issues but it's getting there.

[@yaelboyer446]

Ya i used to be like that so many years for being exist,no more

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

I had to apologize to my narc dad, by dad, though I did nothing to apologize for. It was demeaning for me. Keeping the peace(jumping at Dad's beck and call, he's never pleased) cost me my self-respect. I can't be bothered with him now!

[@spotthenarcissist]

Have you ever found yourself constantly apologizing, even when it's not your fault, after dealing with a narcissist? What steps have you taken, or can you take, to break this cycle and rebuild your confidence?

[@ElizabethOrtiz-o4v]

Oh, how I can Relate!!!!!!!!!!!!!!🤨😔

[@DillyDallyLove]

Same... let's destroy the things that have always hurt us! ✊️❤️

[@DillyDallyLove]

I apologize all the time because I have fear that someone is going to hurt me.

[@AmandaPryar]

If we went shopping, he would always push in front of me to make me step back and then make a point of verbally telling me that I keep stepping back into an aisle (to avoid him) and into a shopping trolley; I kept saying sorry, and then he would say that I shouldn't keep saying sorry because it wasn't my fault, Which made me say it more often . We're not together now but I still say sorry.

[@babyyodapeakokkin6720]

This narc sees himself as doing no wrong So why should he have to apologize he says

[@tatianawoellner6620]

Guilty 🙋🏻‍♀️😢

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

Dad told me to apologize to him, I hadn't done anything to apologize for. He thought it would "humble" me. It is humiliating to/for me since he's the one abuing me, he's an asshole! He's "messed up"! I gave up on him!

[@manfredthewonderdog]

Does this explain why women apologize profusely and excessively???

[@bailujen8052]

I (a man) apologise excessively too much as well and I'm in that experience caused by my mother

[@jackilynpyzocha662]

Women are told to be nice, get along with people, it is pressure, to please someone else at my cost. Not worth it! Dad is my narcisisst and nitpicks at me. He's a pain in my ass. I went no-contact since Easter,. my life is improving each day without his bad influence!