21 сағат бұрын
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@andijonesgrif 43 минут бұрын
It takes a long time to get out of the habit of being anxious about every tiny little every day decision you make. It takes time but you can heal from this with time after you cut contact with the narcissist.
@paulettehammond-duerson8989 3 сағат бұрын
I don’t see my house as clutter! I am moving in, I have boxes that I open one day at a time! I miss a few days, then I open a box or two! It’s a constant stream of stuff in transition! I’m in no hurry! I have all winter to do it!
@aprilrochellebryant8451 5 сағат бұрын
I'm still working on coping w/my social anxiety everyday. In large crowds/groups or waiting in long lines I always sweat profusely. Concerts don't seem to affect me as bad, but it's a very short list of activities.
@johndi1962 5 сағат бұрын
Kind of concerning. Every video of a man and a woman engaging it shows the male as the aggressor. You do know woman can be the aggressors as well?
@heatherbowman9450 6 сағат бұрын
EXACTLY😮 2:29
@rosieE121 6 сағат бұрын
Years later it is still hard to organize.
@VijoyaChappelear 6 сағат бұрын
😢
@Nuffy444 6 сағат бұрын
To everyone who says I talk a lot or too much or too fast… I was actually abused as a child not just trynna be a silly lil goose
@michaelthompson-li7zs 7 сағат бұрын
Wow. Have watched hours of stuff relating to the big N , you are the only one that explains the reluctance to kiss and intimacy , tho my partner goes straight for the ****. For a guy this has always been strange to me
@michaelthompson-li7zs 7 сағат бұрын
God yes. My N friend wants me to go straight down and give immediate oral pleasure
@motowngirl5891 8 сағат бұрын
I stay away from everyone Waste of time
@eph2vv89only1way 9 сағат бұрын
I repeat myself or tell the same story over and over to be heard. I figure if I say it 10 times I might. MIGHT. be heard once
@Imelda123 11 сағат бұрын
My narcissistic, cold and hyper-organized mother told me when I was ten that people who don’t keep their rooms clean don’t make good parents. I’m still a chaotic but I put relationships first and my children adore me. What the hell, maybe I could dust or something!
@Imelda123 11 сағат бұрын
What helps me is putting on a timer for ten minutes when I’m in the mood and then I clean exactly what I want. Hah!
@rebeccastone5293 17 сағат бұрын
I was married to a narcissist, and it did some serious damage to my mental health. I'm so much better now, but some of these habits remain.
@voca-voca9469 17 сағат бұрын
That is the description of my autism lol
@wms72 17 сағат бұрын
I rock back and forth while praying
@wms72 17 сағат бұрын
I feel broken
@RightisRight-jl3ho 6 сағат бұрын
We are!!!
@Waiting4Him111 19 сағат бұрын
If I cleaned until my fingers bled it wouldn't be good enough for my mom. Now I keep my home comfortable for me. When she comes over to inspect and critisize my house, I crank up the heat to 80 degrees and she leaves in 10 minutes.😁 I found her kryptonite.
@parafoxlouise5097 19 сағат бұрын
Who’s coming to listen I’m isolated and nobody wants to deal with him and those who are blinded by his loveliness think I’m nuts.
@Bella-y1o9h 20 сағат бұрын
Thank you for this video I have been through so much abuse in the past and was wondering why I don't like to clean, i thought it was me but now I realize why, it is because of the reminders of the past.
@kittied4482 21 сағат бұрын
This was harsh. I do all of these to extremes.
@920WASHBURN 21 сағат бұрын
See I'm just lazy
@jesseduke694 23 сағат бұрын
I have a couple questions. 1st question: Can the victim of being around a narcissist turn into a narcissist themselves?? 2nd question: Does someone that is a narcissist act that way to everybody they come in contact with or will they or can they just be a narcissist toward someone spacific, but yet not be that way with other people they have contact with???
@jesseduke694 22 сағат бұрын
Third question: Can the feelings or symptoms that you talk about or describe here also be felt by people that might not be victims of narcissist? Maybey sometimes people might just get worn down by life?? The reason I'm asking is when I read through the comments so many people jump right in & claim to suffer this or that? I'm not making light of that but I too relate to most of, if not all of the symptoms you describe but was hesitant to shout it out & claim it? Some of the comments talk about it as if it is their personal suffering & theirs alone??? Am I seeing narcissist claiming to be victims of narcissist?? Is that even possible??? I am so in the dark on this?? I never even heard this term until a few yrs ago. I grew up thinking some folks just have problems?? I never thought of it having a name or a category?? The ADHD thing threw me for a loop as well when I was told as a adult I had this? I thought all of the sudden I'm constantly hearing about all these people have ADHD & now I'm told I have it?? Why havnt I ever heard this before?? But after learning about what it was I then realized I have heard this before. All throughout my childhood. It just didn't have a name when I was a kid. They didn't give you a pill when I was a kid. They said "learning disorder" or "easily distracted" when I was a kid. They gave you a special teacher, but not a pill. This is why I would get yelled at by my parents for fxxkin around to much when I had to finish my chores! And I grew up on the biggest fox ranch in iowa at that time so I had more chores than any kid my age back then. I had to water 300 head of fox twice daily, nomatter weather. But somtimes it was like I just get to thinkin about somthing & I'd forget what I'm supposed to be doing just momentarily. I would be startled by my dad yelling at me to get chores dun!! Becouse he would see me standing there with a water hose but I would be spraying a fence post lost deep in my thoughts. But he would snap me out of it & I would turn & get right back to watering the fox. I remember thinking to myself "what am I doing? I they just yelled at me for screwing around to much!" It's like I would forget? Anyway, I think this narcissist shit might be like that?? I've been around it, I just didn't know it was somthing that you could recognize??
@ArtyAntics 23 сағат бұрын
No 1 should have been ‘you still see yourself as a victim’. Seeing myself as a survivor was a big turning point for me.
@chakkakon 23 сағат бұрын
In 2021, I spent the entire day cleaning the whole house and it looked beautiful. He came home and called it a $hithole. I never cleaned again other than wiping counters and sink, dishes, toilets, sink, tub and laundry. Now it’s a $hithole.
@KirahLiie Күн бұрын
I'M DEFINITELY DEALING WITH THIS ISSUE
@KirahLiie Күн бұрын
NEMA-I CLAIM THIS VIDEO
@viktorhaluzicky5216 Күн бұрын
My girlfrirnd of 7 years just left no warning. I display all u discribe. On top of when i tried to get an explanation, everithing she projected everithing she did to me. As if i did that to her. She sleeps well and in a new relationship Displays none of what u say .....
@ChristianComedyAndDebateChanne Күн бұрын
Both of my parents are narcissists. 340 days out of 365, they fought. Every day, fighting. Sometimes, my dad was physically abusive. After they divorced and i grew up, they started manipulating me. Always with the criticisms, gas lightning, insults... my father over played his hand but my mother i cut her slack since she has the mind of a 5 year old.
@a.humphries8678 Күн бұрын
My mess is a reflection of me and my narc relationship...
@Milina-u5k Күн бұрын
We not this problem but madsons always believe their Magicians 😂😂😂😂 🔮🔮🔮🪄🪄🪄🪄🪄🪄 that's why😮😮😮😮😮😮 they stay idiots for life 😂😂😂 me Mastermind 😚😚😚😚😚🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣
@godsblackpanther Күн бұрын
Its to do Also with no Longer Trusting your Own Judgement because its been Stripped from You... The Cognition has been Scrambled... Intentionally Gaslight... with a Vengeance Loving Yourself Enough to Trust Simplifying Back to Basics. And Breathing...Deeply😊😊😊
@suzannejohnson5588 Күн бұрын
The feeling of worthlessness and not deserving of happiness can make you not even want to move. Cleaning isn't even a thought. Abuse destroys every corner of your mind, I'm trying, but folding laundry that I've looked at for 3 days can be awful. Therapy can be one of the best things you could ever do if you find the right person and go at your own pace, no matter if it takes years. Stay safe, talk to who you feel comfortable with, and know that you are enough!
@lisafoster3494 Күн бұрын
All of these
@krumpus1845 Күн бұрын
I cleaned 24/7 and if I took a day off, I wouldn’t hear the end of it lol such a miserable life
@cassieweldon9125 Күн бұрын
I thought these were symptoms of ADHD...............but things are popping up in my brain right now........I think I've been dealing with a lot more than I thought....................no wonder I'm so fookin tired!
@LumpyBumpylou Күн бұрын
Interesting they chose to use a woman as the victim for the whole video
@fabriziodelgado7442 Күн бұрын
Do they also kind of imitate the narcissist? My sister is married with one, and she gaslights so I can start a fight.
@dominiquehobden4197 Күн бұрын
I feel these videos are victim shaming
@louiseholt3580 Күн бұрын
Just took a blow today my mother winded me and depleted my strength
@michaelsergejhelgesson1637 Күн бұрын
Spot on,especially the over-explanation.Defending everything you do ( or don't ) in order not to get another " death sentence "..!
@esthersevier587 Күн бұрын
I decided not to date anymore as a result of a narcissistic relationship my level of trust and picking a good partner has diminished.
@Aya_Anderson Күн бұрын
I thought one or two these would apply. Now I feel whole attacked and seen at the same time!
@kristienvanlaar5637 Күн бұрын
1) talking in circles to avoid direct answers 2) binge eating (to fill an emotional void) or restriction (to regain control), to reclaim a sense of stability amidst the chaos 3) adopting new personas: (if you live in a constant emotional survival, you forget who you are) you try to change your persona to match with whoever around you, to get aproval and avoid conflict 4) compulsive self monitoring 5) over explanation: convince others of their validity: constantly needing to justify yourself to avoid conflict 6) compulsive googling 7) engaging in impulsive spending: shop to fill an emotional void, thinking new things will make you feel better 8) engaging in self-care extremes: leads to more confusion and stress 9) repeatedly touching their face, especially around the mouth and chin: self-soothing gestures like face touching can signal a need for comfort or reassurance 10) rocking slightly back and forth when standing
@Betty-q4y Күн бұрын
Eye spasms (blepharospasm)
@debbiebradney131 Күн бұрын
My upbringing prepared me for the life ahead as an adult. I hate people and life. I never got what i wanted, and I never had friends. I was the black sheep, and I ache physically, mentally and emotionally. I was never good enough, never happy, overworked and overtired. I was used and abused. Underappreciated and still taken for granted. I see the comments and I can relate. Whenever I tried to get organized and cleaned , I couldn't do it my way and in my own time, at my pace. I never knew what a narcissist was, i never heard of the word until a few years ago. I'm age 60 and still haven't quite grasped what it means. My mother was a control type, and my partner is too. He wasn't like that in the beginning, and I have reason why I am still living in the same house as him, but I can't go into the details publicly. There's never going to be a chance my life will improve because of the pain and trauma I've had. The people who I'm related to don't care about me, and the 2 people living with me don't help the situation either. No one keeps in touch with me, and I feel like I'm alone. I went on strike keeping up with the cleaning after too much arguing years ago. This life is Hell for me . If my life ended anytime soon, I'd be happy. I'd finally have peace . Arthritis has taken it's toll , it is an endless ride i can't get off. Pain prevents and tires me. People judge and can be cruel. It's not worth the friendship or arguments to explain myself about the state of my home. I wash and clean, try chores, and try not overdo it, and within hours or day's later I'm back doing those same tasks. Because someone leaves their mess, and they don't seem bothered to do something about it. People would think I'm lazy. I'm misunderstood.
@graftme3168 Күн бұрын
Whoa! I do ALL of these things! Except for #3. I don't believe I change my persona, but I don't get too involved with getting close to people. And, I don't doubt myself, because I DO monitor myself. I know what I believe in. I occasionally impulse spend, but only when I have the money. I don't go in debt. I'm afraid of debt! Been there, done that!
@graftme3168 Күн бұрын
Edit: I realized that I do all these things, but after watching, I don't do any of them to extremes. I think personal health and mind care has helped me stay in control.
@kimber8160 Күн бұрын
When your reaching out it's used as a weapon or some form of control or a opportunity to be open game and it's uncomfortable n anxiety takes over n it feels fake cuz deep down I don't like being around them n they know I have nobody else. So 8 take on things by myself.
@tinkabreytenbach-sima8218 Күн бұрын
It's because we were bullied to clean up after those lazy abusers.