Why We Almost Broke Up

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[@eltina21]

You could tell. Cuz before Geo use to act hard and how she didn't care, like not wanting a ring or a wedding or proposal etc but you could tell she was emotional and wanted it but she didn't want to be vulnerable

[@jdoe3240]

lol agreed and when she got her breasts done, that was it.

[@jeny2021]

100%

[@lazybeastz182]

geo is alot more vulnerable in front of bart vs other cast mates of jk

[@AL-fo3jj]

Yup

[@yipyiphouray]

Different love languages. Bart is more acts of service. While Geo is more quality of time and word of affirmation. Bart is doing a lot for them, thinking of their future and investing in it. But Geo was looking for someone who can just say the right thing and just showing that they are emotionally caring. BAM! know your love language!

[@alexysspowell9710]

yipyiphouray how much do I owe you for this psychiatry appointment? 😂😂😊

[@Nicolas-fo8qd]

Do you have nothing better to do than to leave comments talking about someone elses' relationship?

[@jacobjche]

This guy read the book.

[@jdoe3240]

@@Nicolas-fo8qd wtf? Why the pessimistic perspective? This was a great analysis and some people could learn from the comment.

[@mariomunoz7167]

@@Nicolas-fo8qd Then why are you here? Ask yourself the same question, bubbah.

[@imweirdniknowit]

There's nothing wrong with Bart wanting to provide financially and monetarily for his family. His drive is very commendable. I do hope he understands that balance is very important, especially now that they have Taika and especially because he's a boy and there is already societal pressures to "man up" and not show emotion. It's very important for Bart to learn how to feel, understand, process and communicate his emotions in a healthy way and lead by example for Taika and their future kids. The effects of having a parent who's emotionally distant but financially stable are farther reaching and harder to correct than being "poor" but having emotionally healthy parents who help you to be emotionally healthy.

[@Jen_nifer99]

That last sentence is so sooo freaking true

[@Emily21134]

OMG PREACH

[@jeny2021]

So powerful everything you just said wow

[@AZ_TONY]

He's a man, his sole purpose is to provide, as men providing for women we ask for nothing in return, yet it's always more a d more with yall, "I don't feel this, I dont feel that, you're not doing this, I'm not getting that" a mans nature is to provide, a womans nature is to understand endure and support, we provide the pillars and the foundation, women provide the love and the affection, when we begin to understand this is when we'll start seeing better results in relationships.

[@333.senpaimamiii]

I appreciate the humility & amount of guts it takes to actually open up & express these deepest, darkest parts of your relationship. It means a lot to most of us. Thank you for being great role models, both together & separate.

[@jdoe3240]

Every couple experiences trials and tribulations, and it's great they're open about it because it's normal.

[@vellam8766]

​@@jdoe3240 I feel relieved someone said this.

[@ryan-mj6ts]

especially in public

[@fruitypebblez3404]

I’ve always noticed during videos how much focus Bart gives Geo As she talks to him. He always seems engaging. Just an observation. Hope everyone is doing well today while under quarantine with their partners.

[@Jameszhangdude]

Fruity Pebbles Bart is a really good role model! It’s very inspiring how he went from high school delinquent to where he is now, completely respectful and caring, but tough when he needs to be. He has great qualities for a strong father figure.

[@airwreckuhhh]

James Zhang FOREAL!!!

[@meijimiko]

I've only been in a relationship for 1 year and 2 months. But I stumbled across a tiktok? It gave valuable love advice I would love to share - when your car runs out of gas, do you just get out the car and abandon it? No, you make the decision and effort to drive it to gas station. And fill it up with fuel. Just like a relationship, when there's no fuel, you don't just abandon it. You make the decision and effort to refuel it. Love you two ♡♡♡

[@jdoe3240]

love this and thanks for sharing

[@Taromilktea1995]

Not really sound advice

[@dexterfromlabs]

Trust me you newbie just when it gets nasty toxic all of this goes to hell an advice from a experienced guy, have been in a relationship for about 4 years now and very happy but still it sucks sometimes cuz my other one compromises less but yeah one thing both need to work in order to get the shit out

[@tenglei2]

if the car drains your gas way too fast (aka toxic), it might be time to look for a better car

[@meijimiko]

@@tenglei2 nice one

[@FlexyStraws]

I love how Bart hands Geo so much power over the outcome of the relationship; Bart: "I'll never break up with you, the only way we break up is if you break up with me." That is such an amazing level of implied trust and confidence, that even I struggle to truly believe in within my own marriage.

[@tigertank06]

Aren't they married? So wouldn't breaking up mean divorce or separating? That's what married couples do not break up.

[@FlexyStraws]

@@tigertank06 You'd be surprised how often married couples end up divorcing, and its often over a lack of trust over its success.

[@riquerod8594]

There's no such thing as a perfect marriage. I guess I can consider myself the old man in this group chat, as I'm 50 and married now for 28 years and known my wife for a total 32 yrs; seeing couples like Geo and Bart gives me hope. I wish I saw more young couples commit to one another.

[@lynninfinite]

Rique Rod - I think some people fear commitment. I also think those people haven’t met the right person who they want to be committed to. Like some “”players”” will settle down with the right person. And I do believe some people are meant to be free and untied to anyone lol

[@Hextin]

Sorry geyser. Womem killed marriage and relationships. Thats why mgtow is increasing in popularity. Hopefully women get the fucking reality check they need and quit that "i dont need a man". shit. And before anyone tries that 'you're sexist' shit let me remind you women initiate 70 percent of all divorces and men loose 99% of the time in family court. Marriage and divorce only benefits women PERIOD.

[@lv5310]

@@Hextin I get the whole red pill stuff but you can't keep going forward by pointing the finger. The courts make woman have an advantage so to avoid it all together. Go out with women with a positive attitude and wanting to have fun. It's not good to overload with so many videos of mgtow either. Good luck man

[@xDDufiosy]

L V sure, agreed. But women who want commitment have to realize that men have limited options for commitment. Marriage for a lot of guys is generally off the table, especially the more successful he becomes. When we are talking about ways to be balanced and respect one another, smashing men for criticizing marriage is one of the most emotionally manipulative positions women can take.

[@mercyz2734]

@@Hextin It seems like you have met every single woman on this entire planet and you really have gotten our whole gender put together and generalized. Amazing work! Appreciate it LOL

[@Justaperson354]

The best relationship advice ive been given is from my grandparents (married 60 years) is that understand that the person you met will never be the person you know today as people always change and grow. however, make sure you both grow together. Conflict comes when you feel not valued and seen as an equal. He loved my grandmother so much. After any fight they’d have he would cut her a piece of pie or bring a sweet to her and she would make some tea and they’d share a laugh together after a good cry. I’ve only seen him cry when he would sit with my gran.

[@thatgirl5630]

They sound like the cutest and wisest old ppl 🥺I wish I had grandparents to tell me advice about love :,)

[@Jameszhangdude]

It sounds like the two are way overworked and just tired. And the tiredness and stress is consuming all facets of work-life, leaving no energy for anything else outside. Home should be a place of comfort, not another source of stress where you are not pressured to do much or self improve, etc. Enjoy home, enjoy the weekends, enjoy the time together even just doing nothing, and regain the headspace from whatever happens at work.

[@EL-gm2xr]

When Bart started running I immediately knew he was going through something. Like coping. Bart and Geo still look like they need some work and I'm rooting for their best outcome 🥰 ...Love ain't all about the pretty feelings. Dedication, commitment, and effort is needed to make love last forever.

[@baka5831]

When?

[@yourfavoritenetcitizen6525]

Lmao @ the running part

[@7thking361]

I agree, Love isn't a feeling. It's a choice and a commitment. The feelings are a roller coaster and a part of the journey.

[@ScepterShard]

@@7thking361 I think love is moreso about commitment than people think, think about it. You dont love someone UNLESS you are committed

[@vanessa11209]

I completely empathize with Geo, I felt what Geo felt for a while too.

[@BossGokaiGreen]

MOST PEOPLE JUST GIVE UP OVER A PETTY ARGUMENT OR SOMETHING HELLA STUPID. WHATEVER HAPPENED TO “FOR BETTER OR WORSE”!? IT’S NOT FOR BETTER OR BETTER, IT’S FOR BETTER OR WORSE! I AM ROOTING FOR THE BITH OF YOU UNTIL THE END! YOU GUYS ARE ENDGAME! AND REMEMBER GEO, LEONARDO DI CAPRIO WS A SCORPIO JUST LIKE BART! YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH THAT ENERGY AND YOU BETTER STICK WITH HIM UNTIL THE END OR YOU WILL SCAR HIM OFF WHITE WOMEN/LATINA WOMEN FOR LIFE! AND ASIAN MEN LIKE BART ARE COMMITTED ARE IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL, AS IN A LIFETIME MARRIAGE! ASIAN MEN DON’T DO DIVORCE! AND JUST THINK OF TAIKA, HE DESERVES A COMPLETE HAPPILY WITH A MOM AND DAD! BART AND GEO, YOU TWO ARE VERY ROMANTIC AND DESERVE EACH OTHER! ❤️🐷

[@vanessa11209]

Gokai Green think you replied in the wrong box bro ...

[@etf42]

@@BossGokaiGreen exactly. i still cant figure out what her problem was

[@ItsEvana]

etf42 she is comparing her current feelings to the reflection of her past. She then comes to terms that you can’t expect someone to not grow or even hatred comes from false and unfair expectations.

[@DouchiVue]

Same :( when she started describing herself more I was like, shit, that’s literally me.

[@crystalquynguyen6956]

The k drama thing hit me so hard😭. When you have to fill your romantic needs with k drama because you don’t get enough of it in the relationship.

[@Phonoodles408]

You should check out itaewon class

[@Jen_nifer99]

I’m single and that’s what I plan on doing for most of my life 🤣🤣🤣 filling my romantic needs with K-Dramas

[@rolandoperez6612]

Bart is a good interview. He stays quiet and lets them spill their guts lol

[@tatid6743]

There’s a therapist who says there’s only a few reasons why people break up and one of the main ones being contempt. “The feeling that a person or thing is beneath consideration, worth or deserving scorn” and that builds and builds with miscommunication and causes break up.

[@vaelkokach2941]

i used to follow these guys from the start, before geo got pregnant and then i stopped watching for like 3 years and damn i missed you guys congrats on the boy i'm really suprised how much he grew up. god bless

[@dylanvo9121]

FOR ALL TIGERBELLY FANS The episode Bart was talking about in the beginning is Episode 239 at 34:28

[@janaeeex4679]

Dylan Vo omggggg thank youuuu 😭

[@baka5831]

Dylan Vo I’m confused?

[@deniselopez4106]

THANK YOU

[@ToDahRANDOMOBILE]

You're a hero

[@mandiisingh7475]

This was such a real conversation it hit me right in the feels about my relationship and if we had the level maturity they had it would have worked, lot of learning about relationships on this podcast, that't why i love Bart & Geo's relationship because they kind of teach you like friends.

[@nickrathmann3204]

it's crazy how this talk between Gio and Bart, opened my eyes on why it didn't go well in my last relationship. Also the perspective of Gio, showed me what kind of "mistakes" people do, who are more on the rational side of the spectrum without realizing. Thank you for your braveness to share such a topic with us.

[@foodievlogs377]

It seems like they’re opposites of each other, Bart is more systematic and Geo is more emotional. I see my relationship in theirs. I definitely had problems with my bf if he didn’t spend enough time or etc but he thinks I’m always complaining about the little things. I think if they both find their own hobbies, they can come back home and share. Especially if you’ve been with the same person for years, you gotta find some ways to cope with each other.

[@miayoung2943]

I agree, also I try not to compare my relationships to others and overthink from that, however in a wide view of it all I definitely relate and look up to Bart and geos relationship over the years, relationships are hard and through it all you can tell they have a true soul connection with their humor :’)

[@heyitsjujuu]

Geo is definitely a _FP personality and Bart is a _TJ personality.

[@veronichelle]

@@heyitsjujuu correct! Geo is an ISFP and Bart is INTJ.

[@angeedrinkscoffee]

One thing that is so valuable in a relationship is to push each other to do better , yet still maintain respect for each other’s comfort zones. Bart, is genuinely trying to make the people around him better and stronger mentally.

[@JaySensei]

Man everytime I see or almost see Geo cry, it makes me want to cry because she does not seem like the type of person to cry easily.

[@kingbollywood22]

She's a drama queen.

[@JaySensei]

kingbollywood22 you got the “queen” part right lmfao

[@divy668]

@@JaySensei the best response to a prissy comment. Can I be that classy

[@JaySensei]

Marianne Uptegrove lmaoo. KZbin has a whole lot of those comments just prancing around

[@kingbollywood22]

@@JaySensei Why are you guys mad at me... She literally said it herself that she is a drama queen. Bunch of simps.

[@Winterhowlr]

Listening to Bart talk about the "at all cost" and "overtime". I feel that is a boss mentality that is unfair to an employee. Sorry but this resonates with me strongly right now. I work in healthcare and due to covid, there are lots of extra chaos and hours that we have to pick up. All we hear from the management are things like " we are all in this together", "lets not be calculative", " we can get through this together". We are essentially suddenly forced to work round the clock, forced to test for covid without a say, had our AL frozen. Basically make all the sacrifices with no extra benefits while the company benefit from the revenue of covid testing. So much for " in this together" when all they had to do was open their mouth to send and "order" down, but we are the ones struggling to carry things out. It's hard not to be calculative when things are done at your expense. Sorry if it isn't exactly related, just wanted to rant for abit.

[@pinkee12491]

Nope, agreed. Hearing him say that, it's clear that he does have that boss mentality that he doesn't even realize. You pay people for their work period.

[@uglyhippos]

Yeah it sounds his dream is not necessarily everyone else dream he works with. They most likely working to get paid to support their life outside of work. For example some people value family time more than work and don't want to miss their kids birthday for some work thing.

[@stephaniek6705]

Thank you for your work. I don't work it healthcare but I totally agree with you. Being expected to work like a robot without complaints or a healthy life outside of work, expected to work overtime all the time, we're human beings... Sure, if it's your company, you can make all the sacrifices you want, but don't expect your employees to sacrifice their own life for your company.

[@jdoe3240]

He's clearly not talking about people like yourself. Most employees only work because they have to, and not because the want to. He's looking for the exceptions because he is an exception himself, and not a lot of people can relate to that.

[@rosyr.5568]

@@jdoe3240 perfectly said.

[@evemenjivar]

i saw title and immediately clicked on it

[@guidofeliz8384]

I am super introverted, too. I can relate to Geo's comment in this respect.

[@rarri99]

from 13:00 on when he talks about the girl that felt like she had to put up a shield and pretend like she wanted pragmatic love when in reality she wanted romance, and that the same thing happened to Geo... I guess more people are going through this than I've realized.. But now that I think about it same exact thing happened to me. I got into the relationship with my ex thinking I didn't want or need all that lovey dovey stuff, even though in the beginning we were super infatuated and crazy about each other, we weren't as romantic as other couples out there can be, then after a while the honeymoon faze ended and I found myself wanting the romance still, whilst he detached and went much colder, so in order to not loose him I found myself acting like I didn't care about romantic things, or that I wasn't romantic, but I've realized that I actually wanted romance, I wanted surprises and displays of affection. I vaguely remember kind of talking to him about it, and he told me that he thought that I wasn't a romantic type of girl and that I stressed this a couple of times in the past which is true, but I realized along the way, once I was in love that I actually was romantic, love changed me, before I used to be a stone cold person but after falling in love I found this new side of me. And it was one of the many reasons why we fought all the time, I wanted attention and display of affection, he wasn't about that anymore, and this is one of the MANY MANY reasons we broke up. But yeah crazy to see that this happens more often than you'd think and it's not really talked about, so thank you. I think this happens when you're the type of girl that is seen as " one of the guys" and that is completely herself with her partner, you become best friends, so you both think that you don't need the romance, but in reality the girl ends up realizing that under all that toughness she is still a girl and wants love and attention, and gestures. At least this is what happened to me, and I think Geo is like that too, I might be wrong.

[@KevOnRicks14]

Dang you wrote a whole essay

[@rarri99]

@@KevOnRicks14 yeah so?

[@KevOnRicks14]

@Its Arii nothing it's just I could only right the first paragraph

[@rarri99]

@@KevOnRicks14 ok??

[@triziamallari3724]

Damn I can relate to this so much

[@triziamallari3724]

One thing I’ve noticed that I don’t think anyone here mentioned was that people had forgotten that Bart was once in the US military. He spent good amount of years in his life being taught how to be tough and within those years, he lived by the same rules everyday. I think that experience plays a role of who he is now. Also, he always mentioned about how he grew up poor and never had things he wanted as a kid. I’m sure he just wanted to make sure Taika and Geo can live comfortably and not experience what he experienced. But yes it doesn’t take away the fact that he had been emotionless as Geo mentioned. I think Bart just needed to have this conversation so he can realize that his ways weren’t effective. It goes both ways because Bart wouldn’t have known Geo felt this way until this conversation. It’s great that they were able to talk it out and work things through instead of just ending it. This podcast is very interesting topic.

[@nanakwon3757]

You guys probably won't even see this comment but I just want to say i'm so appreciative of you both sharing something so intimate about your relationship when it's not even owed to us and to give so many people hope that recovery and mending of a relationship is possible and comfort that even you guys went through real relationship problems :(

[@christinasiew3707]

Hearing Bart's rant, sounds like he didn't value or respect emotions and sentimental feelings. His logic and reasoning usually decides it’s not necessary and it’s even something negative. I guess he is slowly learning they are important for him and especially others.

[@babykosh5415]

BALANCE as Geo said

[@lv5310]

@Mike Tran lol. You think problems stop at being lesbian? 😂😂😂

[@NhuNguyen-ut8oz]

lol Bart’s marines background really shined through in this one, always so enjoyable to hear the views of these two 👍🏼

[@mel-hz4vu]

Almost half of their relationship was a rough patch..ans they stuck through it... amazing. :')

[@khailoseo483]

What a PROFOUND AND RELEVANT dialogue! So glad I clicked Liked and Subscribed! Thank you so much Bart and Geo! This is what I believe in a relationship that has Authentic and Transparent Communication, Acceptance and Worthy of Trust for each other! I love this couple!

[@guidofeliz8384]

I agree with Bart. Too many people complaining about stupid stuff. He is former military and so am I. I hate lazy people.

[@ThanuG15]

I'm glad you were able to talk it out :)

[@jorgeestrada7764]

Jeez I would been sad to lose a good KZbin couple who work so good together and are my goal as friends and family and in relationships way I want what they have in my future wife

[@joshcardenas]

I really admire Bart his words make me realize I’m lazy and need to work harder.

[@seina121]

20 minutes in and this is so enlightening and helpful for such a heavy situation Im in currently. There really should be more videos like this on KZbin and other platforms! Showing that in SOME relationships there is a light at the end of a very dark tunnel.

[@paigetan2324]

I love Geo and Bart’s relationship. Even though they went through so much hardship together they never gave up on each other. Watching this podcast made me emotional bc you can just see how much they love each other. Love you guys!💕

[@droptopp3479]

What a timing with this upload, its been 2 weeks since me and my girlfriend broke up. We both loved each other soo much, never really had any big issues. But for sme reason we had alot of mini arguments the past couple months. We were together for 2yrs and half also. These past months we were a little toxic to each other and also our paths/goals in life was drifting apart and didnt line up anymore. I really thought she was the one for me and she did too but these past few months just didnt work out so we decided to part ways. We both broke up in good terms im assuming because we needed to grow ourselves. I do hope that one day life will bring us back together. Im scared that we might not end up together in the future.

[@lirapereira2403]

Stay strong mate.

[@buymerockstar4506]

Life always finds a way. Even if you do not end up together, you two will both find someone who will be the right person and who's goals and life choices will align. Learn and grow from the relationship, and even if you stay in ezch other's lives, hope things work out for you dude!

[@guidofeliz8384]

Geo really loves this guy.

[@pepe_ronii]

i havent been actually watching the vlogs recently, but i picked up like 2 to see, and i really felt that Bart n Geo had sumn sumn goin on behind the scene

[@maplenerd22]

Every relationship have sumn sumn goin on behind the scene. If you don't, you're probably not in a real relationship. Relationships are hard and it takes work. That's just a fact.

[@BossGokaiGreen]

MOST PEOPLE JUST GIVE UP OVER A PETTY ARGUMENT OR SOMETHING HELLA STUPID. WHATEVER HAPPENED TO “FOR BETTER OR WORSE”!? IT’S NOT FOR BETTER OR BETTER, IT’S FOR BETTER OR WORSE! I AM ROOTING FOR THE BITH OF YOU UNTIL THE END! YOU GUYS ARE ENDGAME! AND REMEMBER GEO, LEONARDO DI CAPRIO WS A SCORPIO JUST LIKE BART! YOU FELL IN LOVE WITH THAT ENERGY AND YOU BETTER STICK WITH HIM UNTIL THE END OR YOU WILL SCAR HIM OFF WHITE WOMEN/LATINA WOMEN FOR LIFE! AND ASIAN MEN LIKE BART ARE COMMITTED ARE IN IT FOR THE LONG HAUL, AS IN A LIFETIME MARRIAGE! ASIAN MEN DON’T DO DIVORCE! AND JUST THINK OF TAIKA, HE DESERVES A COMPLETE HAPPILY WITH A MOM AND DAD! BART AND GEO, YOU TWO ARE VERY ROMANTIC AND DESERVE EACH OTHER! ❤️🐷

[@msyxtyx]

15yrs later and I can definitely relate to what you guys talked about. That was a phase in my relationship that we experienced too. EMOTIONAL INTELLIGENCE 🙏

[@apples2010ful]

Damn, Geo really balance Bart out and I'm here for it

[@jmrkivex3442]

Geo don’t doubt yourself :(( it really gateways to overthinking sometimes and this ‘gaslighting’ will really get you

[@naomieadair5635]

I really love how attentive towards Geo Bart was during the beginning. He didn’t interrupt, or respond; just listened. He really just wants to be the best for his family and give them the love he lacked as a child.❤️❤️

[@Cosmeticsbychailai]

Poor Bart if you see his body language this looked hard for him

[@jordinhocharles]

That shit is hard seeing that you hurt someone you care for.

[@mattiea871]

Average Mo .. what?

[@girlextasy]

It seems like Bart sees emotionality as weakness, no bud, emotionless people are or can become unhinged. Being around emotionally deprived people isn't healthy. Though it's a fundimental diffrence between men and women, women have been brought up to be more in touch with their emotions so hats off to Geo, she is a badass for handling Bart's disconnected self. I just hope that he's okay because not displaying emotions can sometimes end up in horrible mental breakdowns.

[@dfrancz]

It's not really emotionless and more in order with priority. While I can agree women are more emotionally in touch it's only because men are raised to be more in touch with what the idea of the now entails for what follows. Women prefer to live the moment to enjoy the thoughts and feelings while men live the moment for what it is and it's objective importance.

[@ashleyhill2969]

What I love most about you two is not how honest you are with us about your relationship, but how honest you are with each other. You really don’t see it much and it really is something for so many people to look up to.

[@oyaoyaoya638]

i saw the title and immediately clicked ;~;

[@xanng1342]

Barts got a very macro view on things which causes him to be easily desensitised and detached emotionally but he is receptive in changing and understanding that , unlike him, not everybody is just on pure hustle mode all the time.

[@TheReMorseCode]

I think one of the best traits someone can have is receptiveness to criticism + willingness to change. I respect Bart for that

[@getscared4271]

I love the way Bart looked at geo when she was gonna start crying. I felt that. 😖😖 There is something so strong between both of them, it’s just so amazing. It’s so beautiful to see something that was once broken, build up and grow into something much stronger than before. Not a lot of people get those chances. I’m just so emotional right now cause of how well spoken this was. I’m really happy that both of you grew into a better version of yourselves and I give so much blessings for both of you. I love you guys so much 🖤🖤🖤🎉🎉 And remember, just because the clouds turn gray doesn’t mean the sun won’t shine again. 🌤🌦🌈🎉🎉

[@cherrysakura16]

Thank you for sharing such deep topics about your relationship. It really helps me as well to put my relationships into perspective and work out how I'm perceiving things. I wish people would talk more about these things cuz a long term relationship really isn't easy.

[@lopololo100]

I totally get the relationship feeling cold and disliking your partner while still being in love... I ended up trying to distance myself from my partner because it felt like our communication or our emotions weren't meeting up, so to lessen the eventual hurt you try make it seem OK if everything were to end tomorrow. As for finding your people, I would love to know how you guys make friends. I usually meet people through work or my partner but it never goes past an initial interaction. So it'd be great to hear a podcast about that 🙂

[@katherinep708]

yeah, I wish I had friends too

[@jacobleaver2450]

thats fucked up

[@lopololo100]

@@jacobleaver2450 it's a coping technique. We all deal differently with pain.

[@jacobleaver2450]

@@lopololo100 yes it is. But its still fucked up to do that to someone lol

[@anditspaganpoetry]

"so to lessen the eventual hurt you try make it seem OK if everything were to end tomorrow." EXACTLY.

[@khukhimasipa2082]

Tell me why I dropped my GOT marathon for this, the title got me 😂😂. Anyway, Bart and Geo have a healthy relationship and I give them props for being transparent. I understand that they don’t share everything but damn what they do share can be helpful to the masses and I appreciate them for it. Relationships (romantic and non romantic) are hard. Some people lie to themselves and everyone else by pretending they aren’t. But them being honest and open reminds us all that no one has life figured out but you’ve got to put yourself first and figure yourself out. Otherwise you’ll be pouring out from an empty cup and you’ll be resentful.

[@theassasinboy13]

Didn’t read the rest of your comment. Please stop watching game of thrones for your own sake I beg you

[@mic.truong]

@@theassasinboy13 ew a city fan

[@zakmohamed1140]

@@mic.truong spurs...

[@Sarapapa666]

Agree with the first guy. If you haven’t gotten to season 4 yet, I would advise you to stop watching after it. If you really can’t stop, just don’t watch season 8. It’s a pile of shit and it ruins the entire show (but the hints that the show was declining started to appear after season 4).

[@RascalHooligan]

Oh lawd, save yourself and abandon GOT. Im still in recovery.

[@DAVIE5179]

One thing I like about you guys is that you keep working on your relationship and individual characters.

[@alexanderlee7476]

Bart, I feel you. I work through all things because the work needs to be done. My bday, weekends and holidays are not as important as getting what needs to be done. I think you just need to find the people with the same core values.

[@will_portilloe]

I disagree in the sense of romantic relationships. I agree in a business sense. But I am also someone who wants to get things done and I also don't put much importance on holidays and stuff like that. But we need balance in our lives. We can't just lean to one extreme. We begin to put unfair expectations on others and ultimately push everyone away because we become callous and cold. It's about balance and in the midst of the things that need to get done, we should love our partner the way they need to be loved.

[@dipintamang4547]

Watching this gave me an insight into my own relationships like never before, as I see a lot of myself in Bart.

[@SkarletwiththeK]

Wow this just popped up on my feed and this conversation was wow , I’m only 25 and I’ve been with my bf for 7 years now and we have gone through similar stuff . Absolutely loved this podcast !

[@Tanyalasagnaa]

damn i relate so much with bart on the aspect of people caring so much and making excuses. feels like i can never find any friends either because i’m just not that type of person to want to celebrate. i rather work or reach a goal instead. that military mentality 👏🏽👏🏽

[@soowie4599]

Bart has the humour, genius, and humble easy pickin, support each other's own ambitions and support to the fullest

[@jammer220]

Man you guys have come a long way. I remember watching those relationship videos when Geo had half her head shaved. Glad you guys fought for each other.

[@gilbertmenjivar7969]

This was the most real thing I have seen in KZbin in awhile! Thank you

[@theprolificnetwork4670]

Geo is So Diana Prince right now. The admiration that Geo is expressing just makes me so freaking jealous! Bart humble as hell again. I thought I met my soul mate and things did not work out I'm like WTF what now😳

[@kingbollywood22]

Well, you are now alone forever. Sorry bud

[@dipintamang4547]

Might I suggest investing into a Pornhub Account. As a society we must support humanitarian work, especially given these "uncertain times".

[@Lvlvlvlv77]

I can't even express how much I love them. I can write essays but they have always been an idol to me from all the skits representing diversity and friendship to now I'm watching them as parents and every time I watch their vlog I feel so loved and as if they're my parents who're there to talk to me no matter what. I love them so much.

[@Thomas2nguye]

Fk em they are azz holes to their employees

[@good_to_be_gold8]

Stay strong guys. Relationships are a marathon not a race (:

[@Justaperson354]

Marathons are races...

[@ayofrtho7014]

@@Justaperson354 you get what they mean 🤦‍♀️

[@sufisalieh9608]

It's so good to hear you open up and be honest about the challenges you are going through. Emotional detachment is so common for people living with trauma. We often without realizing disconnect from triggers in our life that we associate with a bad experience. The most important thing is to realise that this is happening to us and communicate to our loved ones about what we are experiencing ❤️

[@karlanayeli406]

bart and geo are sooo good for each other. they listen to each other the way they both listen n just communicate w. each other is amazing

[@BIGMAMAisback]

Oh Geo, I feel for you and I am so proud and happy for you that you have been able to become the woman you deserve to be

[@TheJoey023]

Omg the sincere way that Bart was staring at her while she was talking, he seemed so sad to make her feel that way. And Geo is really brave for talking about her feelings like this, because it is not easy!

[@jennfigueroa9432]

I love how Bart looks so attentively to Geo when she speaks

[@mercmao5208]

YOU GUYS ARE SO MUCH MORE LOVING NOW ! I FEEL IT IN THE VLOGS ! !

[@hydroponic2103]

“I resist temptation” :( that made me so sad

[@purplehazee90]

@MsLoveablelizzie yeah that part rubbed me the wrong way. ofc there's temptation out there, but if you dont want it, it's not really resisting. you can find other people attractive but it shouldn't be this constant battle not to cheat. i hope bart just phrased it wrong but he didnt meant it like that b/c if i heard that, it would make me so sad.

[@binhliang4618]

oh boy, everyone ganging up on bart in these comments. he used to do shows all the time and bart n geo had to build trust because there would be girls that would want bart...and he always avoided infidelity

[@purplehazee90]

@@binhliang4618 Yeah I know. I'm not trying to bash Bart or anything-I know he has strong morals. It's just the way he said it-you only "resist" things that you want right? So if he didn't care for these groupies and loved Geo, then he wouldn't have to "constantly" fight his temptation.

[@foolscrown1416]

@@purplehazee90 I don't quite think that's true at all, at all times those base level impulses will STILL be there. It's the curse of being a man, there.

[@JJ-jc2is]

Fools Crown hmmm idk, obviously ppl find others are attractive while in a relationship but the word temptation was a poor choice. He should have just left it at not cheating imo, I think if you have to “resist temptation” it implies that you are actively forcing yourself to not cheat on ur partner. I think if ur in a relationship then it should just be natural to not feel tempted. Temptation and attraction are different imo

[@Dylamos]

Interestingly enough.... my girlfriends therapist has told her that unconditional love doesn't exist and thriving for it is self harming. I personally disagree, but i feel like whatever a therapist says to you is never definitive and that's where you have to not only draw a line, but remember this as a focal point. Your love may just be very different from your partners.

[@katherinep708]

can you elaborate on what her therapist meant by unconditional love doesn't exist?

[@Dylamos]

@@LaiToTheLee Depends on how deep your relationship is. Do you have children? Was the cheating because they love the other person or pure lust? We aren't talking about just falling in love for a few months. We're talking about long term relationships love and relationships are developed. But doesn't mean they become a love that's unconditional at some point

[@IKIGAIofficial]

i think unconditional love DOES exist. to your children though.

[@katherinep708]

@@IKIGAIofficial sadly there are a lot of parents that demand their kids to pay them back and take care of them when they're old, doesn't seem so unconditional-_-

[@IKIGAIofficial]

@@katherinep708 yes ive seen more of that case with my friends families than not. it is sad and i cannot understand it. like how could you not love your own kid no matter what?

[@mattcler7849]

I wish i found videos like this a year or 2 ago. I really needed to hear this to understand what I was feeling at the time. I never knew how to self reflect or even really comprehend what was going on with my thoughts, I just knew that something was off with me. I felt like I didn't have any right to be sad or depressed (especially being a military veteran) but deep down I was and would just bury my bad thoughts with impulsive spending/ behaviors to take my mind off of constantly blaming others for my short comings/ reasons my life is shitty. It inevitably trickled into my relationship with my best friend and person I loved most. But I didn't know what I needed to do. I couldn't understand why I was so emotionally disconnected from her and just not wanting to be around her anymore. I just wanted her to be happy again and I felt like that wouldn't be possible with me so I just shut myself off from trying to connect to her. Looking back now that I have a better grasp on how my mind has been working all this time I wish I could have been better and tried to preserve the relationship. This podcast helped me better understand what I need to do in order to be better If I do ever get back into a relationship again. Just wanted to say thanks for sharing your guys experience,it was very insightful.

[@mushu.mewmew]

Bart everything that you are so amazing, there is so many people like you and the way you look at the world. Dont change or doubt yourself. ❤❤

[@THEDIAMONDLIFE1]

Oh Geo I feel for u girl lol Bart is so set in his ways that it pains him to even TRY to put himself in someone else’s shoes or view things any other way than his own. I commend u for ur patience!

[@StaceyQ22]

Every time she talks, it’s about Bart. She always gassed him up 😂😂😂

[@Ejeeha]

I love this! You two were so open and humble.

[@DopeyySaeSae]

Bart & Geo gang🎉❤

[@puffcreams]

You guys are the only youtubers I can watch talk for so long and stay engaged

[@SuckMyT0e]

Bart, I get the "we need to get shit done" mentality but why not put that towards your family or friends? Like, thanksgiving is about family and friends, you shouldn't have to feel guilty putting your loved ones first

[@cynn_thor]

Wow. Currently going through what Geo felt. But in my situation, there's other things that I feel can't be fixed. Things happened in the past that hurt me and still do...sucks.

[@charismaf1834]

I'm going through this too. Your feelings are validated.

[@Messyfaee]

I really really relate to geo in this podcast... I’ve been having trouble loving myself and I almost left my amazing boyfriend Because of it. Never limit the love that you receive.

[@IKIGAIofficial]

"you accept the love you think you deserve"

[@rosaramirez1655]

Thank you for opening up, I’m very emotional person, I’m still trying to figure it out.

[@jameschoi6098]

What Bart said about "my files" is how most guys wired....I have been watching you guys since JK and it's really great to see how much you guys have matured and stuck together through thick and thin instead of just giving up.

[@guidofeliz8384]

I don't know why I find Geo to be an interesting person. I don't mean this in a disrespectful manner.

[@EsmeLovesFood]

geo articulates my feelings so well

[@dzyiii5502]

I feel you guys will be okay. You guys are processing the same pains at different paces, and it gets lost in translation. It's clear that something happened during the running of their gym, Geo says Bart was too demanding, Bart obviously wishes Geo had done more. Geo couldn't have done more, she was pushed to her limit. Bart isn't forgiving as he could be to that. It's a loop, that ends with one party just fully acknowledging the other's pain, and then the other will follow. It ends when both realize they aren't competing with each other for one truth, and fully allow the other person to feel what they want to feel, without taking it personally. Really hard for a couple as close as these two, but watch how every time they start to say how they really feel, the back peddle a bit. It also takes a lot of self-control to really explain your feelings clearly. It's not selfish for either to want their pain acknowledged first, it's human. It's not weak to not try to acknowledge the other's pain, they are already in pain. If the love is strong enough, they will see the other person truth above their own mutually, so neither have to be right, or wrong.

[@radrainbow101]

👏👏

[@emmal9976]

Thank you so much for opening up to us even though you don't even need to. I feel like hearing your experiences and struggles not only as a couple but as individuals have really helped me grow. You guys really taught me about how just because I may be feeling like shit now, if I work hard at it, my relationship will be better and I will be better.

[@kimberlycuellar4983]

Love how real Bart and Geo are

[@maddisonhands7893]

I read the title wrong and I had a mini heart attack

[@therealest297]

General gist of the topic, if you want to be lazy. Geo loved and hated Bart a little bit after they got married, she didn’t know why at the time but it was because she felt like she was being an inadequate partner to Bart (at the time) and not being up to par to what his standards were. From Bart’s perspective he didn’t realize what he was doing wrong because he’s a robot (of course) and he felt like he was doing everything right, but he says that he himself isn’t very emotionally intelligent enough to realize this was what the problem was. This due to being slim an Asian household where he was raised to believe that feelings are fleeting. That she only hated him for right now and he would just be more lenient towards her in business and Geo would not dislike him so much. (Hope this saved you some time)

[@Sinderella01]

Then why bother writing it out if u were just gonna add that last line 🤣

[@richardwang9578]

@@Sinderella01 because reading this would be faster than watching a 1hr podcast dumbfuck

[@AL-fo3jj]

She didn't have the same business acuity as Bart and felt ashamed and didn't see her own strengths to the relationship. Bart also is working in a way that is robotic but it's stems from his appreciation of Geo who supported his dreams when he first started out which drove him to achieve more but ultimately made their relationship seem more distant.

[@guidofeliz8384]

I need someone like Geo in my life. I really like Geo. She's super cool. I mean no disrespect to Bart.

[@HaloHuntress]

I needed to listen to this. Thank you! Geo explained exactly how I'm feeling now in a relationship.

[@dragonfireshield1976]

For the blue light glasses... just install "f.lux" on your computer and activate night colour on your phone...

[@hydroponic2103]

Dragonfire shield THANK YOU I NEED THIS

[@harambeisnotgay945]

Geo and Bart are super cool because they balance one another out. Bart pushes geo to get out her comfort zone and be hard on her and geo mellows out Bart and helps him see Both sides

[@bloomers31]

I feel like Barts heart broke a little in this one

[@raz0051]

After watching this i loved what bart said about the job aspect. I got let go by 3 jobs in a span of 4 months because i got a disability and wasn't about to meet their targets. Got me a little depressed and low on motivation. BUT now fuk it i'm going to do whatever i can to get something to do even if i'm let go.

[@divrodricks2525]

This was such a beautiful, raw and insightful conversation. There's definitely a lot I'm taking from this

[@guidofeliz8384]

Geo: Your soul did not meet Bart in your past. You really like Bart. Simple, right?