Why we *almost* left Denmark!!

[@johnnypractice4816]

On behalf of your viewers in our household (everyone) we want to thank you for coming to Denmark, and we're glad you stayed! You're clearly very good people and we hope you will always feel welcome here. ♥

[@TravelinYoung]

Thanks so much!

[@macedk]

I can only second that :)

[@hmmmmmmm496]

I am half danish who moved to Denmark 8 years ago. I struggles so much the first two years, I didn’t know the language because my parents didn’t think it was necessary since they never thought we would ever moved to Denmark but it happened. I had hard time making friends until I started gymnasium, and my danish went by really fast, within 6 months, I speak danish non stop, thanks to my gymnasium friends for not craving in and speak English to me. I know a few people who moved to Denmark the same time as i do and they did struggle and some even worse than I do, and all I heard from them was “maybe I should move back” (I am guilty of this too). It hard in the start and the mindset of putting dane into stereotypes played a big part of it(at least for me). I didn’t understand why it was so hard in the start, when I basically grew up around other dane and the culture. Anyway, great video! It seems like a lot people really struggles when they first got here and I feel like we all can related to that

[@Weise1001]

honestly.. moving to another country is exciting, but also poses a lot of challenges. you leave a lot behind..its no small feat finding your self in a new country

[@user-uu1vx6fi3z]

I have been living in Denmark for 33 years. There have been many times I felt like going back to America. It can be difficult to be a foreigner here and I don't blame the Danes, although they don't always make it easy. I have been together with a Danish woman for 25 years and we have a 16 year old son, so I will probably be here for the rest of my life. Denmark is a beautiful country with great social benefits. There are many worse places one could live. Denmark is all right. Thank you for sharing your story.

[@thirtykey]

I ran into Maya on the train and had a quick little talk. It was nice meeting her! As another American living in Denmark, I appreciate your perspective.

[@andersthomsen3409]

As a Dane who's lived in Jutland for most of my life, I'll just say: I don't mind you stayed. Your presence is acceptable. :)

[@lassemadsen607]

Så dejligt jysk^^

[@denmark39]

Acceptable? You have to be Danish to understand this. 😄

[@denmark98]

😂😂

[@davebutler6015]

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[@davebutler6015]

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[@benthansen3415]

Thank you for your honesty and for staying!! Love you!! 🇩🇰🇺🇸

[@TravelinYoung]

Happy we did :).

[@brostenen]

It is 2022 and you are still here. That alone is monumental. Good going. 👍

[@ThomasVSGyldborg]

Good that you enjoy the sodas. :-) It was nice meeting you guys.

[@bofoenss8393]

It is not only foreigners who struggle to make meaningful and close friendships. Many Danes struggle as well. We are polite and nice but keep people at an arm's length and you really have to be insistent and keep wanting to push past that border for a long time before most Danes open up and welcome you into their private sphere. But once there, it is incredible and rewarding.

[@gamingforlife4830]

lol ? what.. aint true buddy ;)

[@Zandain]

Very happy that you decided to give it some extra time, guys! 😊 hello from Hundested 🌸🌱

[@HannahJ]

My husband moved October 2020 and we moved here to join him in October 2021 (because of COVID and other things it ended up being soooo long after he'd moved). My husband had his job that he really enjoys and found a church to go to as well as a couple of ex-pat groups so found it really easy to settle in. When we joined him, the restrictions had lifted a bit but people were still cautious about spending time together (and the weather was getting suckier lol). Leading up to our first Christmas here was really hard, I missed my family and Christmas is like this big pause in a way where the crazy of life stops and we actually get to see each other. Along with the gloomy days/early evenings I was desperate to go home. I think my Mum knew something was up because I wasn't calling her as often. (And I see this too, I didn't want to call her and tell her how unhappy I was because then she'd want to get me out of here and I'm not a quitter or at least I try not to be). I was self-employed back in the UK and bringing my job with me hasn't as been as easy as I hoped it might be. I'd been looking for a job where I'd "go" to work rather than sit around the apartment. I was offered a job with a company but when I explained that I'd like to do shifts between the school runs (so like 8:30 to 3) they said they couldn't do that - I'd either need to do 6/7 to 3 or I could start after the morning school run but would need to work until 5/5:30 - it was a bit more complicated than this as I also needed to travel nearly 40 minutes both directions too (so I could do an 8:30 shift but I'd have to take my son to vuggestue by 7:45 so I'm getting even less time to see my kids). Anyway, offered a job but they rescinded the offer and I was unemployed again (I did have a little cry which seems really silly but at the time I was sad, someone wanted me and now they didn't). In January/February I went to chat to my friend during ministry time at church, I explained to her that I was fed up of being miserable. Hiding in the creche with my 1yo wasn't doing me any good but I felt like I couldn't speak enough Danish to join the worship team or the Cafe team which is where I used to serve in our church in the UK. We sat down and chatted through things - What was I doing for a job? Maybe I come along to staff day at church once a week so that even if I'm not really doing anything other than coming to share breakfast with people at least I'm getting out of the apartment with a purpose. We talked through what skills I have and it turned out there was an opening on a team and would I like to join - Sure! I can do that! It's a voluntary job but it gives me something to do and I think at the moment the mental health benefits are the winner. My Mum said to my husband recently that she thinks comparing how I was at Christmas when they visited compared to how I was when I visited the UK back in April, she could see I'd definitely made an improvement and definitely seemed happier. It was my birthday at the end of April and I was really excited for my first birthday in Denmark but as it got closer it got harder like Christmas. Husband would be at work, Kids would be at school/vuggestue. My "best" friend here (or I think she is even if she doesn't think she is lol) would be at work too - AND I couldn't go to a church group that was on the evening of my birthday as I had Danish class. So it was adding up that for what would have been really exciting was about to turn into me, being at home, watching KZbin and knitting or something like that on my birthday. Thankfully that Church Friend came to my rescue and we went out for lunch which was really lovely. It was lovely to hang out with her properly - we had coffee when I'd been here about 2-3 weeks and I felt so nervous and was really struggling with this sort of "Covid anxiety" that I seemed to gain. The whole being in lockdown and not speaking to people had made it really hard to actually make friends again. Anyway, essay of a comment! I think a lot of Danes get painted with this brush of being really happy but also really hostile and not friendly. I definitely think this varies. I think some people are really lovely but you just need to be patient and crack that outer shell lol. I think once you're in, you're in lol. If you're struggling to find friends at work or because you're unemployed for instance, see if you can find a community group to join - in my case this was joining the Copenhagen Yarn Lovers group on FB, I found out that they'd got a gathering, I put my husband on childcare and off I went, I was bricking it but when I realised that in this group, there's an American, another Brit, a German lady and a couple of Danes we all vote for speaking English during the group and soon enough we're getting on like a house on fire. The other Brit and I compare notes about where we're from in the UK and things like that and then she becomes that "best" friend I mentioned before.

[@avejst]

Good deep video 👍 Thanks for sharing your experience with all of us 👍 😀

[@twisterwiper]

Very interesting stuff. It was courageous of you to move right in the middle of some really important formative years for Maya. Glad you stuck it out. Looking forward to “Why you are staying”.

[@14lachris]

Thanks for sharing your starting problems. It really makes your channel feel more real.

[@CRBarchager]

I'm happy you hang in there. I have enjoyed your many explorations in Denmark and I'm sure I'm not the only one.

[@jimmyhansen861]

Glad your choos to stay! Proud to have you! ❤️

[@sarah4hp]

Glad you were able to overcome that tough beginning stage where the language is new, you don't really know anyone and have to try to make new friends, the new job or school is an adjustment etc. etc. It is certainly a huge change to move to a different country, and I hope you are proud of how much work you put into making it work, because you should be. I hope you will always feel welcome and at home in Denmark, and I am so happy you chose to stay here and share your life with us like this!

[@jimclarke9036]

Young Family, Thank you for sharing your testimony. I'm glad to hear that you all found the resolve to stay in Denmark and make the most of the opportunity. I agree that the challenges you all faced during your first year were not necessarily "Danish" in nature. I commend you all for your bravery and fortitude. My sense is that your determination is paying off in spades. I have lived vicariously though your videos during the pandemic because I have thought often about living in Denmark. I have no Danish heritage and I have only one pen pal who happens to live in Copenhagen. Even so, I've been intrigued with Scandinavian values and the high standard of living there ever since I first learned about the region as a kid. Denmark has been of particular interest to me for a variety of reasons, but I have always been most impressed with the people. I'd rather discuss these thoughts and opinions of mine with you rather than list them all here. I am a bit unclear about the full timeline, but my guess us that you all are close to reaching your five year anniversary in Denmark. In my book, that amount of time involves having been around the block a few times. Now that you all have enjoyed the experience of working and living in Denmark, would you like to finish your careers there? Do you want to become Danes in the long run. Perhaps another way to ask these questions is to ask you all a more emotional question. If you all were to attend a national soccer game and all the spectators started singing, Vi er røde Vi er hvide Vi står sammen Side om side Do you all think you all would sing with them and feel the same in your hearts now? Jim

[@kirstenmadsen2628]

Glad you stuck it out. Danes tend to move in relatively small circles/ groups. It makes it difficult to integrate but I find foreigners find the way we use our language in irony or slighty sarcastic far more difficult to handle, so much have to be known of the undelying culture to grasp the full meaning. I like to think we are worth the effort ☺️😘

[@freyjasvansdottir9904]

I have lived in Denmark the last 21 years and I don’t have a single danish friend

[@sylla2]

@@freyjasvansdottir9904 ; what isn't true?

[@Vic-Valentine]

@@freyjasvansdottir9904 ill be your friend :)

[@Yuyayayu872]

Thank you for sharing your strugglles. Not enough expat families share the struggles and how they overcame obstacles in living abroad.

[@RAimotion]

We are happy you guys did not give up!

[@rickiegrayholm]

So happy that you're here 🙂Really like your honesty in your videos

[@dkexpat2755]

Very happy you guys stayed around. I really hope Maya got it better now. For sure when she hits University she will make tons of friends! Its kinda like a reset from all the people youve been with all your childhood. Alot of people are moving to a new city, so they tend to be open and more socialable. Also it warms my heart to see you drinking Hancock :D

[@Norseraider84]

Yes ! Absolutely stay ! 🥰🤘🏻 you bring so much joy and it’s an honor to have you guys here with all us crazy Danes 🥰

[@mariamysager2789]

I am happy, that you stayed. Miranda, you look absolutely stunning in that salmon coloured top combined with the turkise jewelry.

[@EFJoKeR]

Hard to imagine you guys being "down"... But logically i know everyone has those periods... But you all come across as these bundles of joy, and that's one of the things that make me enjoy your videos... But glad you decided to stay... Denmark has certainly become richer with you guys here...

[@LitzysDelight]

I've tried living in 3 countries and I do understand how you felt although the first 2 countries were a set period so you could see an end to it when you struggled. From age 4-8 I lived in Belgium when my dad got stationed in the military but luckily small kids rarely struggle I've found. My oldest sister was in her teens and ended up moving back to her mom. She had such a hard time leaving friends and boyfriend behind in Denmark. I did a 1 year exchange program in the US and it was so easy blending in and making friends. I found Americans welcoming, curious and open. Only person from our program who struggled was a girl from Japan but she ended with a very strict family and I have a feeling that might have something to do with that. Then in 2007 I moved to Sweden and boy did I struggle. You'd think with a country so culturally close to your own it would be a breeze but it sure wasn't. I think Sweden might be very close to Denmark in that aspect. I stuck it out and joined a union, became a work representative and went to courses... only then it helped with my immigration. My language improved and I suddenly had people with something in common. I think when it comes down to it it helps to do something actively to change the situation (I know in certain situations you can't always do that) Had I just sat back and said "I can't make friends and everything is poop" and just left, then I wouldn't have had that experience in life. I ended up staying until 2019 before moving back to Denmark.... where actually I'm in the same situation again. I'm in a new place with no friends and struggling. Making friends as an adult sucks :)

[@Hermitgangster]

I am glad you decided to stay. You are doing Denmark a great service by doing these videos - both on an introspective level of national character, but also in terms of the outer.

[@TheChiefEng]

To use an American term...I feel you. It is actually very difficult for foreigners to make real Danish friends in Denmark. I think this has something to do with our culture where Danes tend to have relatively small groups of real friends who we tend to have grown up with. The Danes foreigners in Denmark are most likely to become real friends with are actually Danes who have already tried to live and work abroad. Danes are definitely not as open as Americans. We take friendships extremely seriously. When we befriend someone, we usually intend to and expect that friendship to last for the rest of our lives. It's difficult to explain but as you have probably found out by now, Danes are very reserved. It is usually not in our culture to be as outgoing friendly as Americans usually are. To be honest, Danes should really try to open up more to foreigners who have chosen to make Denmark their home. I have spend most of my life abroad. That was just what happened due to my educational background. You are right when you say that you should never regret anything. You cannot change the past anyway. It's always better to live today and plan for tomorrow.

[@majbrittcastrupjrgensen2874]

As a dane, I agree! I have an apartment in Alanya, Turkey. It is away from the city, close to the mountain, very peacefull and quiet. During the years I have gotten turkise friends of all ages. Their hospitality is amazing! They are so helpful, always in a good mood. They opened their homes to us, makes dinner, tea. They care for their elderly family members and show them the respect they deserve! I admire that so much. Despite our differences in belief, we get along so well and I have no doubt, that they love and respect me for who, I am with tattoos and everything. Never have I felt more comfortable among other people, than with my turkish friends! We, the Danes, really need to open our hearts and minds to other cultures….we could learn so much from each other!

[@simonbach3618]

Well it is hard to open up to foreigners when we also dont open up to other Danes.

[@Fl3XeR4]

hell its even hard for Danes to find other Danish friends.

[@thomasroedgaard117]

o happy you guys settled and hopefully have a great life here in Denmark. Much love 😀

[@Nils_Ki]

As a German with some amount of Danish influence through the Danish minority in Southern Schleswig I have lived in Denmark for many years. Even with that background I did not always feel really happy about my choice to live in Denmark. So I can relate to your struggle. Eventually I moved back to Southern Schleswig, but I am still in Sønderjylland almost daily and in Copenhagen at least twice every year. I love that country. By the way, you guys should try to visit Southern Schleswig. There is interesting stuff to see here too.

[@gwainknight4907]

I would like to visit some day, i go through Germany every time i go to Denmark (by road from UK) i would like some good country side places to stay in for a week or so in Germany, i think i will have a look around Schleswig next time i am going to Denmark, thanks for the info!!

[@LarryFleetwood8675]

I visited Tondern every summer with the family for many years as a kid, it was great I love that place and the closeness to the German border is a nice plus too.

[@mmikkelsen7]

My wife and I are Danish but we live in the US together with our 14 year old son. We can really relate to so many of your videos and it is a real treat to hear about the way you experience Denmark as Americans and the differences. I myself am a big fan of smørrebrød but I can appreciate it’s difficult to make that adjustment as an adult :) We’ve been here for 16 years now and there have been countless learning experiences too. Many of which have involved me making an ass of myself. As an example when we wanted to buy our first car and apply for a car loan the lady at the credit union told us we needed someone to cosign. I’d never heard of this before and wasn’t sure what the significance was so I asked HR at my new job in the US if this was something they (my employer) could do. Based on the look on their face it became clear to me your employer does NOT cosign on a loan which is painfully obvious to me today ofc. Like you I have also both felt and experienced personal growth as a result of coming here. And to Miranda on not knowing Danes are vikings…..just terrible.. :)

[@conn7125]

It was “meant to be” for you to stay in Denmark 🙏🏻🤗🙏🏻 and we’re so happy that you stuck it out. I think everyone that move to a foreign country will have the same thoughts about staying or going back home. And coming to a country that probably are very different from the US and to learn one of the hardest languages in the world is a full time job besides a normal job. It’s such hard work and I sure would have been easier for you to move to England. But I’m truly happy to hear the ending of this video 😀😀 that you guys are going to stay.

[@sylla2]

You are super welcome here! ❤️ We like you! You make Denmark better! ❤️ We want you here! Stay! ❤️ The problem is - I think - that most of us Danes don't really need any new friends. How luxurious is that!! But the biggest barrier is language. So many very important things, so much humor and so many subtle details are sadly lost in translation. That's a huge reason why so many of us find it difficult to truly bond with foreigners who don't speak Danish fluently. We Danes simply don't speak English well enough to really express ourselves. Thus we feel crippled. Furthermore, we suddenly lack all the cultural, historical and political references that we otherwise use constantly when speaking our native language. Also our irony and sarcasm is very often is misunderstood (which is completely understandable, by the way!!) And if you are talking to someone who doesn't pick up what you are really saying, because you lack the ability to really say what you want, you are not especially motivated to invest time and energy in creating a new friendship with this person. Especially not when you already have plenty of close, old friends that you already don't see enough because of work, kids, house cleaning, grocery shopping and other boring adult stuff.

[@runes.nielsen2084]

Great video, glad you stayed :-) Did you try the Gambrinus Light from the Hancock brewery? It's one of my favorite beers :-) It's soooo, good! (don't buy the Gambrinus Dark, though. It's not as good. And the light and dark are about the color of the beer.) I was born in Skive so I grew up drinking the wonderful range of Hancock products. Have you tried the clear cola? Sports Cola. Their guld øl is also rather wonderful.

[@gautamghosh9917]

I can relate to the hardships you must have faced. After living in USA for 3 years I eventually decided to move to Germany and I faced the same cultural issues but now after living in Germany for 1 year I feel more connected to the culture and understand their point of view. That I think is an invaluable experience :)

[@denmark98]

You shouldn’t under estimate the difficulty in moving to any culture and Denmark 🇩🇰 has its challenges as you heard and already met. Glad you stayed

[@OrganicGem33]

I Can understand you. I love Denmark but this is true; it’s hard to make friends, it’s hard to find a good job (not just any job), and the language is hard. I’m glad that my husband is Danish because that helps, but all the foreigners understand you I think. I have lived in a lot of place (Asia, north and South America, other countries in Europe), and can say it has one of the hardest places to adjust to. It has nothing to do with Danish people, for me it’s been getting the job that meets my qualifications and still trying to learn the language but not knowing enough which limits my career opportunities. 😃

[@MrTmn2401]

Love your honesty, love your channel. Regards from Tonny Trolden Brewery.

[@TravelinYoung]

Thanks! I hope you are doing well!

[@Pacian]

Dear Travelin Young, I can appreciate how you feel. I have lived in Scandinavia for 15 years (10 Years in Sweden and five years in Denmark). I find living in Denmark a challenge every single day. As a person of color, I face challenges every day, mostly in my work environment. As a Buddhist, I try to find something positive no matter how negative the experience. I am grateful for having an opportunity to live and work in Denmark. But it was the most challenging experience I have ever encountered, but I enjoyed the growth and the chance to be exposed to another culture. Continue success.

[@photorockbar471]

Have you seen this? kzbin.info/www/bejne/b4uxd2uAhNFprKs

[@anders9646]

Why do you face challenges every day in the workforce because you're a person of color?

[@FrobergDK]

@@anders9646 Fordi det er nemmere at give dét skylden..

[@zethenok]

you remind me of family that emigrated to Australia, and persevered even though it was hard at first, the reverse emigration, and you seem strong all 3, so good luck in the future❤❤

[@PenskyMaterial]

Maya out having fun? Good for her. Glad she is starting to enjoy life here

[@peterhansen8594]

You absolutely should consider a visit this weekend to a rural (country) festival...

[@chrisbagge3129]

Once again thank you for your videos. This one tells us Danes something about what we could do to help people like the three of you to feel welcome to Denmark.

[@zornanrichards]

I lived in a small city in Jutland, went to school in Ribe, and absolutely loved Denmark. I made friends whom I still keep in touch with, and have gone back a few times over the years. Do I regret leaving DK? Yes and no. If I had stayed, my life would have been good, absolutely. The possibilities were there for a lively life. But I came back to the USA, completed university, fell in love and the rest is history. Luckily my family loves to travel so we have gone all over the world, but Danmark will always be my 2nd home. So, no real regrets since my life turned out nicely…but I always wonder what it would have been if I had stayed. Enjoy your time, and practice your Danish- it will help you greatly.

[@Je-Razor]

It's so cool you actually made a video because of my question in the comments I made about a week ago! Or at least I'm assuming it was my question since you actually answered the question in this video. Sometimes it is good to see the negatives about a subject. Especially if someone sees your videos and consider moving to Denmark and expects it to be perfect from day 1 because they only saw the positives. I'm really looking forward to the video about why you're staying!

[@TravelinYoung]

It was a good question :).

[@sperstarz]

Happy you guys stayed open minded and with dedication made things turn around before giving up. You guys look very happy and drinking apricot soda on a late night would indicate you've embraced that danish hygge 😉

[@Christian_Bagger]

I came back to Denmark at 18 after a 4 years stint in US.. the first year settling in is the toughest. You don’t know how tough it is, if you haven’t tried it, because it’s a struggle!

[@Valjean666dk]

Hopefully sharing this will help others to "push through it", knowing that you struggled too.

[@malenenielsen1319]

When I was in my 20'ies I moved to England to work for 3 months but ended up staying 4 years. It was a real struggle when you move to a new country and don't know anyone I almost had to stop people on the street and ask them if they wanted to meet up after work. I went to Danish places in London trying to meet people as it was really hard connecting with people even though I was working. So I don't think it's only in Denmark it's difficult meeting new people. I still have most of my friends I met over 20 years ago in England that being Danes, British and Australians and I still meet new friends in Denmark that are foreigners.

[@Bjowolf2]

I think it's very much about breaking the ice, and also about (some) Danes not not being outgoing enough or being "shy" even and not feeling confident enough in their English to carry an "intelligent" conversation, not knowing what to talk about with a gang of "very strange" outgoing Americans ( etc. ). We really mean no harm, we just haven't been used to having that many foreigners around us, so that we don't really "know" how to react towards them 😅 But hopefully we will get better - and your great videos have definetely been a lot of help in that respect, getting us think about all these things that we often take for granted and seeing ourselves and our peculiar reservedness through the eyes of the foreigners. We are very happy that you have decided to stay - and hopefully people in DK will thaw up more in general to you - and others in a similar situation - , now that we have seen that you are actually not dangerous and that you are even great people with your hearts in the right place. Not bad for an American family 😂 PS In Sweden next door it's far worse than here in DK 🙄

[@traver1965]

I admire your honesty

[@muhest]

Personally I think we (danes) as a society is richer with you guys in it, and from what I’ve seen you guys are richer for staying here. If your youtube channel made it easier to stay, then hooray for you getting online. 😉💐

[@TrekkieGrrrl]

Well I’m glad You guys stayed. Otherwise my favourite KZbin Channel wouldn’t be here ❤️

[@TravelinYoung]

Awwww, that is nice of you to say :).

[@wollaminfaetter]

Hey guys. Thanks for sharing. I would like to ask you this: Did you have a home to return to in US at that time, or did you actually leave it all behind to go to Danmark?

[@TravelinYoung]

We sold our house and cars, so going back would have meant finding a new home and maybe even a new city for that home to be in.

[@wollaminfaetter]

@@TravelinYoung That's very brave, and a testament to your need for adventure. Love it. Having a child who is almost a young adult at that time makes it even more risky. I hope y'all will look back on all this with a big smile 😁

[@okoustrup]

Glad you stayed Denmark (Danes) are tribal - very reserved towards newcomers, taking a long time to get friends and accepted But - when you get friends, it's for life We moved to US - got 'friends' pretty quick ... for 1-2 years, and then the interest faded Your work experience (in your first job) make me think it's an american company in Denmark. I've mostly worked for american owned companies - one thing in common, they try to make it an american company, considering Danish culture. I've worked for Danish companies, which were an absolute nightmare, and I've worked for Danish companies, where I couldn't wait to get to work What I want to say ... thanks to the union structure - you can get help and/or find a new job, plus we have the 2 year unemployment security (to find a new job) Denmark is far from perfect, but we constantly try to improve So please stay, we danes are difficult - but try to forgive our strange behaviours

[@deepakdeb9892]

Loved your life lesson!

[@MaximusMeridiusDK]

So glad you stuck it out and decided to stay. Denmark is a better place for having you here :D

[@janusmadsen2489]

I am a Dane. Have lived in 5 countries. It does take time and would really say after pretty much 2 years - then you get it.

[@hejmuesli]

Have you tried Hankock SportsCola? Very recommendable. Maybe for a Try It On Tuesday, if you haven't tried it yet.

[@TravelinYoung]

I have, also good :).

[@alanpetersen8404]

hey travelin young. stick to it it will come i now its hard to start for as foreigner in dk good luck regards allan petersen dk

[@Finnec123]

Man, it must be hard to make friends in DK. We're like a clan, disliking strangers in most cases. Luckily, youngsters normally have an easier time. But phew! Glad you chose to stay! I remember some years ago when I lived in Copenhagen, walking down a street, it suddenly popped into my head: "We [Danes] are like one big family!" But in reality, that's not true. Anyways, my one and only niece is married to an American (two kids 👍🏻🙂) and he's the most intelligent guy I've met so far. Unfortunately, he couldn't get into a ph.d. program (though qualified), so he got a master's degree twice, in two different studies instead. Luckily, it's free (gratis) here. Or was free. I'm not up-to-date. 🤷🏻‍♂️ Long time since I went to uni. Anyways, it seems 1st gen immigrants sometimes have a hard time, while the 2nd gen does much better. If that's true, it means that the 1st gen must make sacrifices for the sake of their kids... Of course language and marrying a Dane is everything. 🙂 But then your forward family tree changes from American to Danish. 🤷🏻‍♂️

[@Romaniour]

Hello, thank you for the video, I'm curious, did you get an expat tax on you earnings?

[@stefaneriksen2036]

I understand you guys. I’m a Dane myself, but the danish people are really introverted. I’ve been in USA lots of times. And the Americans are so much more open minded..

[@assepa]

It's definitely tough when you all feel down like that, and amazing that you managed to keep the overview and ultimately managed to turn it around. As the saying goes: happy wife, happy life. If the wife is sitting at home without a job and maybe even not able to speak the language, and so not able to get out there and make friends somehow, she will not be happy. Same for a daughter (I'm guessing), maybe even more so.

[@futtejanas5690]

delicious to hear honesty.

[@ullanielsen1715]

W😍W… Miranda you Look absolutely stunning ♥️..

[@ninsemor]

I was strugling too when I moved to Germany and worked there. hard to find friends unless I met a Dane lol. It is very hard so I feel with you guys

[@TheAlkochef]

Im glad it all worked out

[@brostenen]

Perhaps you can attend the 4'th of July party in Rebild Bakker now that Covid restrictions have been lifted. 🙂

[@RuerlKhan]

I have a question - have what is happening in the states ever making you feel like moving back? Or is the news you recieve from the states more likely to make you stay?

[@brianwittrupjensen5188]

Good things happen to good people 🙂 I'am so happy i't all worked out for you.

[@_-martin-_]

What the heck! No try-it-on-tuesday?? :D

[@kentbroegoldschmidt5124]

Love to you.. I am glad that you stay.

[@3goldfinger]

Looking back from a far (Australia), I often look back and try to analyze the difference between Danish and Australian people. Looking back, adult people where I grew up, would always address each other with Mr and MRS, never on first term name, even living next door to each other for many years. They always kept a distance. There was never any friendship between neighbors. Always polite, but never friends. We kids were brought up with, don't speak unless spoken to. Many of us kids still suffer from that. But someone has to be the first to break the ice. Here in Australia, the first thing to do, is to get to know your neighbors, some you will like,some not. Denmark will get there soon. Happy stay in Denmark. As I often say, "Det ser langt fra godt ud".

[@Noblemand]

Pulling the plug is the easiest thing to do. But pick up the glove and give it a a few chances mostly pays off. Happy that things turned out well for you :)

[@srenvigandkryger7003]

How did the corona-train hit you and affect your descision on staying? Did you ever regret staying during the whole lockdown period?

[@TravelinYoung]

Not at all and I’d say corona caused us to connect more to Denmark and helped us create this channel. It helped us decide to stay.

[@allanjensen8324]

Love your mindset 🥰

[@chuckhansen]

It’s difficult for Danes too (I’m Danish American) to fit in in another part of the country. For me it was moving from København to Sønderjylland. 12 years later I’m still struggling. And I have no language or culture problems. Well, I don’t understand sønderjysk or Sønderjylland culture. But aside from that ….

[@FrobergDK]

Hvad fanden er der at forstå? Kaffebord og grænsehandel. ;)

[@nielsp156]

Glad you stayed😀

[@broendbykim]

Hi Josh - you are not the only one falling in to that trap to generalizing countries etc., we all do, but it seems for me anyway now reaching 60 years old, that it is the most restrictive and "dangerous" things to do because you will miss so much - damn why did I have to get this old before realizing that ?

[@futtejanas5690]

by the way .... just a little note. it has been fun to see your "development" .. (no harm meant) Johs a year ago: "forester's shirt", savage beard and hat. Miranda a year ago: (dare I say? ..) plain little gray mouse. today, they could both be on their way to a party. and MY IMPRESSION ... I do not think you have "played dressup" ... I THINK this is something close to "everyday clothes" Correct me if I am wrong.

[@Martytw1]

As a Danish expat living in Taiwan in the Far East Asia, I can totally relate to blaming the country you are living in … blame the Taiwanese, blame the language & finally I was like you know what ? I’m gonna do as South always said blame Canada 🤣🤣

[@Brian__LL_Cool]

Hancock Is from my town . Skive ! ;-)

[@b2501733]

try THOR passion fruit soda its great too

[@kentakeura1617]

please stay stay! :)

[@lameduck3105]

I would like to be Brisket's friend.

[@icecave89]

Nice video. I'm here after 39 years. Yes old 🙂US EXPAT. Living in the Danish countryside. I've never regretted my choice and never thought of returning to the US. I'm a California Cowboy 4th generation Californian. Born and raised in Oakland. My story is so long and convoluted I'll save it. However I did notice one thing to comment on. The thing about all of a sudden things work out. I took the E.S.T. training as a young man when I was stuck in a dead end job and worked for E.S.T. for a while. The best 2 things I took away from the Training and Seminars was 1: Take Responsibility for your Choices, and 2: Write down what you want as a list. I did both for the rest of my life and got everything I could ever want. So after 39 years I say go for it............I know why you wish to live in Denmark......

[@TravelinYoung]

Funny you mention writing a list. One of the things we did before we got married was to sit down one night and each write a “bucket list.” When we compared lists, we saw we both wanted almost all the same things. I wish we still had them to see how many things we ticked off 🥰 - M

[@icecave89]

@@TravelinYoung 🙂 Those lists really work. I was working construction inspection in California and wrote on my list. I'd like my own desk and coffee breaks, 3 weeks later a PC company offered me Logistics Manager with a desk and coffee breaks 🙂 That job brought me to Luxembourg and I never returned to the US.

[@viggozing598]

Didn't you socialize with fellow american expats or belong to American business organisations in DK? Spending the last 40 years in North America, it would have been tough for me not to have that kind of support.

[@TravelinYoung]

We actually didnt because we felt that sticking to the American community would keep us in a bubble. That's also why we put Maya in Danish Folkskole.

[@jesperbreitenstein4820]

hope you stay forever😊

[@FintaruS]

Do you say "igen" are "again" at 10:08 🤔 too me it sounded like "igen" your becomeing more Danish then you know 😉

[@Uzi2800]

Lol Miranda look like she is going to a new year party, beautiful dress nice hair and so on…. And Josh…………………. Omg milking a cow😂😂🤣🤣 You can take it Josh😂😂

[@TravelinYoung]

Ha! Im 99% certain I was dresses up because had an important work meeting that day and then came home and did this video. - M

[@tineditmarunnerup9513]

More interesting: HOW are you gonna manage to stay-stay? Can you get a permanent residence permit?

[@briancuthbert4508]

Danish friends in Denmark??? Are you mad?? Been here 30 years without Danish friends. Welcome to friendly Denmark. 😉

[@toocooldk]

And Deloitte is perhabs one of the more Americanized:-)

[@TravelinYoung]

Depends on perspective, from my view not so much.

[@iaretehleet]

It's not easy to integrate in Denmark. Even for Americans. Proceed with caution

[@stagesnake4146]

It’s very common for many foreigners to feel like the Danes are not very welcoming to outsiders. And in my experience I have found this to be true. It’s way easier to make friends in other countries. I’ve lived in many. So some of those stereotypes are true and you shouldn’t be afraid to point them out when they happen. No need to always be so politically correct about it. Facts are facts.

[@lawrencefox563]

Did I miss who you work for in Denmark?.

[@TravelinYoung]

No, we don’t talk about our employers by name on KZbin. They aren’t affiliated with what we do here, so it’s best to keep them separated.

[@535535peter]

No, you wouldn't want your life to be like Sitting in a waiting room. You gotta get up. And do stuff. With people. 😉

[@onlinecheatersexposed8491]

you laugh at pant, but it actually make sure unnecessary stuff ends up in the landfill. so stuff can be recycled.. we dont do stuff the same way americans do, we care about the envoriment.. we actually dont have landfills