Why You Can't Get Over Your Toxic Job

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@Jennifer-my5dm 3 ай бұрын

Over ten years ago, I was gaslighted by a truly toxic boss and the head of HR. I'm now working for a vastly superior company, making more money, and my boss and coworkers are amazing. But I'm still so pissed off over the way I was treated at that other job. The PTSD is real.

@Jennifer-my5dm 3 ай бұрын

Am I a bad person because I want something bad to happen to my ex-boss?

@Chance754 2 ай бұрын

@@Jennifer-my5dmNo you are not a bad person, but 10 years ago! Oh my! 😮not trying to be rude but please speak to someone so you can recover!

@colejohnson 3 ай бұрын

Isolation is such a great word to describe it. When we feel like we are on an island, we may start questioning if something is “wrong” or “off” with us. Self-trust can start diminishing real quick.

@timgibney5590 3 ай бұрын

I am still paranoid at my present job that I am about to get fired or setup. I was not like this and my confidence has never recovered from 10 years ago. It is still hurting my career years later

@DancingThroughLifexoxo 3 ай бұрын

I found myself wondering why I miss my old job when I hated most of it, and why I still think about it when things are good. It's true, it's much more boring and simple, and it almost feels unsettling

@Retro_Gamer113 3 ай бұрын

Currently sitting with a burnout at home from a toxic workplace :(

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

The burnout is sooo real

@saraf9883 3 ай бұрын

Hi from a survivor of several toxic jobs...I think looking back that the desperation to put the other toxic job behind and start a new one is that you just take whatever without looking too hard at it or asking too many questions, like rinsing your mouth with a strong mouthwash or gasoline to try to remove a bad toxic aftertaste..

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

This is so common! I'm the toxic situation *anything else* sounds better, but it might not be.

@bill4632 3 ай бұрын

I left my job 2 months ago. I've had a couple interviews for another job. I had another interview yesterday. It looks more hopeful than the previous one. Hopefully I'm working by next week sometime. They said they were going to email me the "hiring package", to fill out.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

That's exciting!

@nancykay4128 3 ай бұрын

I had to leave yet another toxic job two weeks ago after many shouting matches with my micromanaging boss that raised my blood pressure. I ended up having to drive myself to the ER the next day with shortness of breath, very high blood pressure and dizziness. While the ER doc and nurses were giving me an EKG and meds in an IV line, I was still very upset and going on about all that led up to this. A nurse then came back in and told me I had to stop or I wouldn’t be able to calm down enough to be released. It was a real wake up call!

@PurplePinkRed 3 ай бұрын

All of this is so accurate! I'd also add that many of us have had toxic or abusive childhoods and are replaying our roles in the workplace. Once you start unpacking your trauma, you are less likely to tolerate toxicity.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

1000% this. And nice to hear from you! How have you been??

@Jennifer-my5dm 3 ай бұрын

Yes. I now realize how the mental abuse I dealt with as a child has affected me in the workplace. I was convinced I deserved to be bullied or gaslighted.

@radishfever 3 ай бұрын

It took me twenty years to recover from my toxic job. My biggest regret is not leaving sooner.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

This is one of the most common regrets I hear!

@lorgnetteify 3 ай бұрын

… all the years 😢 lol

@radishfever 3 ай бұрын

@@lorgnetteify Obviously you never had to work in a toxic workplace. I wasn’t crying for twenty years but you never forget how bad it was.

@lorgnetteify 2 ай бұрын

@@radishfever I have plenty of experience lol I'm old. Yea it sucks. The trauma is baggage that comes with you in your new job. I work comfortably from home now.

@AdrienneWasch 19 күн бұрын

I’m so sorry you had that horrible of an experience! I can’t even imagine the pain that toxic job put you through. 😢

@AnnaFhaumnuaypol 3 ай бұрын

This is too accurate.. it trashes my confidence and really increases my anxiety to the point that I dont want to go back to work anymore. When I read job descriptions, it makes me sick. It's so bad that I would apply just for the sake of "achieving" something for the day and when HR really does reach out, I purposely dont pick up my phone and/or not answer my email. It's a struggle everyday of having to be an adult and finally having to choose something...

@LatinaChef1986 3 ай бұрын

Yup, left one bad work place for another. Now, struggling to find a job.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

Sending vibes for a better opportunity coming your way.

@MORGANFREEMANVOICE777 3 ай бұрын

I actually like my new CSR job and my boss says I am doing a good job. My supervisor and coworkers are toxic and gossipers. So I know they gossip about me. I go above and beyond but I am not stressed. I just work and if they fire me they fire me.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

If the best thing they have to talk about is other people... What sad lives they live. I'd choose having people talk about me over talking about others any day.

@darthxellaa912 3 ай бұрын

Great topic. Toxic environments condition you to expect the worst. When you make it to a positive environment, sometimes we fear the worst.

@lisabagdonjones1950 3 ай бұрын

I spènt five years in a really toxic work environment hoping it would get better. Sometimes the toxicity level would drain only to come back with a vengeance. And yeah, once I quit, I unknowingly jumped into another toxic job. I didn't let that last beyond two months. Wth is wrong with employers?

@christophetreboutte2656 3 ай бұрын

That's everywhere. But that's not a reason to give up. Most of the management are not trained or qualified to be managers, they take the money but avoid taking responsibility and blame others. Setting up boundaries between you and your life and your job is essential. You can only worry about what you control and can change. If your are well paid your life is conditioned by your job otherwise your are abused to do more than you are paid for.

@MrRdubay1 3 ай бұрын

I left a job that leadership was toxic, but they hid it well. Very disappointing. So glad I left.

@yukio_saito 3 ай бұрын

I am recovering from mental issues but still grapple with physical symptoms. As the book title says, the body keeps the score. 😖

@sinakonjikelana 2 ай бұрын

Woooow 😢, it's been a year and four months, and still so confused why I can't get over it💔

@Chipotle77 3 ай бұрын

I felt desperate and took the first job I could get in order to leave a toxic job. My current job is much better as far as how people treat me & speak to me, but we're overworked, understaffed, and underpaid. I'm afraid to leave though. Afraid to end up in a job that's as toxic as, or even more toxic than, my previous one.

@Sirie7206 2 ай бұрын

Me too.

@davidellis5141 3 ай бұрын

Hi Jennifer ! Hope you enjoy a 4th of July break from work & the heat. I'm so glad to be semi retired & watch & comment to support you in your continued efforts to help others heal from bad experiences & excel in present & future opportunities. It's really awesome ! 😊 .. Keep filtering out those trolls & bots who are now 85% of the Commenters & repliers on the platform.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

Thanks for your continued support and positivity David. I deeply appreciate it!

@elifsoyarslan8254 3 ай бұрын

omg this i so spot on!!!

@davidellis5141 3 ай бұрын

🙅‍♂️! 😬

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry it resonates though

@justindavis1924 3 ай бұрын

Even if its toxic, sometimes its better than being jobless...

@daleru14 2 ай бұрын

This is exactly how teaching is these days

@ohmystress8442 2 ай бұрын

Oh look. You made a video about my life 😶

@nezzy8147 3 ай бұрын

Jennifer, this video touched my soul. I'm so glad you discussed this aspect of toxic work environments. It wasn't until I left a job that I really understood how much it affected my mental health. I was unable detach, and had to the hard work to recover. Thank you again for such an amazing video :)

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad you got out of your toxic job! Toxic dynamics get normalized, and when you step out I know it can be like "wtf???"

@ThomasSpikes-sg3ye 2 ай бұрын

I rather have peace than being in chaos

@FlashDance002 3 ай бұрын

I sure hear stories from friends and relatives months and even years later.many jobs later.i went thru a bad time at my job...had nice coworkers, and awful ones...it was fine mostly at first and went bad later..oddly many quit later..i admit i hope dont end up in a place of poison..I'm watching..i realize most jobs are both..but i hope more good that bad..but i rarely hear good stories from People

@Al-rn5qy 3 күн бұрын

Awesome video, Jennifer. I'm glad we have people like you talking about this subject and teaching us how to cope with it. Dealing with toxic jobs isn't something you learn in school, college, or even something your parents can prepare you for. We're often thrown into jobs like these, then expected to "figure it out" for ourselves. But your channel is doing a great job helping us to deal with a topic we were never taught otherwise. Thank you career bestie!😊

@earthsteward9 16 күн бұрын

If you have ever had a toxic job, you will need help getting over it or you will be scarred for life. I've had several toxic jobs and I have given up on having fulfilling job unless I work as an entrepreneur and sometimes I just want to move to a log cabin in the middle of the woods, far from any other human. I worked with people who I thought were friends who then conned me into working for free for a month. There was manager who would make mistakes and then put the blame on me. I still shudder when I think of a manager who would come to my desk about once a week with his fists clenched to his side and his shoulders flexed like he was ready for a fight. Even though I was a good worker, he would still do it at least once a week. I am so angry at myself that I didn't complain or just leave. This manager would be super nice other times and I couldn't deal with the dichotomy in my mind.

@SuperPinkwink 2 ай бұрын

I anyone at some point exclaim WHAT IS Wrong with me? Did I deserve this?? Only to realize it wasn’t you it was them months later (but on a low level you still think you deserved it). Starting a new job next week- I could use some encouragement. I can’t help but fear the same bull Malarkey will happen at this one.

@LxUxNxA 2 ай бұрын

I have a really nice job now thanks to your channel . Thanks Jennifer 👍 I fully forgot myself for 2 years , had very low self confidence and didn’t believe I would be good enough to survive so much as job interview let alone a new role! I found something that will give me the experience that I need to progress in the future and I’m really enjoying it so far . Thanks for helping me to wake up! 💙✨

@jeremybuchanon3174 3 ай бұрын

I had two toxic jobs in a row. Each one took me about a year to get over. Now I just think of myself as a temp worker. It's pretty liberating.

@AmyChoy87 2 ай бұрын

the office I recently joined- then botched my relocation 1week prior, is not in chaos, and the rug of shxt unveiled and is toxic AF. I still need to be there for now (working remote- and would love to know how to navigate - the leader is a nice guy but ADHD and he often do everything informally on chat and phone and changes , no possible to get record as they change so quickly, and its not my team anymore now that i am working remote support. I guess i am asking how to re-establish and protect my energy, and restore my confidence and shift to a mode where I do't care because he is enganging me to their toxicity

@Understatedalways 2 ай бұрын

In my new job, there's a person who constantly attempts to sabotage my schedule. Hate it.

@violettovar3590 3 ай бұрын

I once left a toxic job after ten months of being employed. It was so bad I went into out patient care. After two weeks I got diagnosed with psychiatric disorders not as a result of being in a toxic environment but it did affect my work performance and tolerance of bad behavior from bosses and coworkers.

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

I'm glad you proactively got the support you needed. Toxic jobs can exacerbate mental health conditions (speaking from personal experience only here)

@davedsilva 2 ай бұрын

The parallel of women getting addicted to this at work and with men explains a lot.

@What_is_happening_here_omg 2 ай бұрын

I can't thank you enough for this.

@zuzumontague 3 ай бұрын

I just got fired from a toxic job yesterday, Now, I fear the previous jobs I left on a good note will be toxic due to the likely work environments that have changed since I left. My confidence is shattered and I feel useless.

@marc-andrejobin7376 26 күн бұрын

Learn how make voodoo dolls.

@TheNoDegreePodcast 3 ай бұрын

You give such deep insight into toxic workplaces!

@JenniferBrick 3 ай бұрын

Just wait until my next video 😏

@TheNoDegreePodcast 3 ай бұрын

@@JenniferBrick Looking forward to it!

@Sirie7206 2 ай бұрын

You’re so right! I just left my toxic job and started a new one. I feel on guard and keep thinking it’s going to be a toxic job. And now that I am at this new job, I question from time to time if it really was the that bad, but then I remember all the toxic things about it and know I had to leave.

@mellymelle860 3 ай бұрын

I still can’t sleep

@spikespiegel5501 2 ай бұрын

@theloner7512 3 ай бұрын

💯

@lukaszkludczynski 3 ай бұрын

There are small and bigger places to work, family brands, and big corporations. Not always job is toxic; sometimes people judge others wrong based on their views. Unfortunately, in the latest great opportunities place to work, I was bullied and laughed at. I couldn’t speak with anyone; my manager never talked to the boss. The boss always says to me not to help other people and focus on my work. One day things go too far, I have to speak with HR and give my paper statement. Then hell started. The company created fake mistakes for me and added other rules I broke while I didn’t... I was told to leave as my performance was not great. I worked a lot and took any overtime hours as possible, and then I was not visible anymore...

@KBlade1 2 ай бұрын

One thing I noticed about these jobs is those weird people who feel the need to belitte. Why even add that to the workplace? We're all trying to make money in peace.