Why you cringe at your own music (and how to stop)

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@nerds-nonsense 9 ай бұрын

"This isn't a bad take, it's just not what I want" "This bassline doesn't suck, it just doesn't fit" Also, anxiety is a bitch

@Trad_Baylor 9 ай бұрын

It’s great advice man. Random observation- but these single take videos you have on here are SO IMPRESSIVE. I can barely get out ten words at a time without messing up what I want to say. I guess I should apply the advice in this video to that.

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

Bro my first videos are the same. I’ve just been recording multiple videos a week for 2 years. After a certain point, you get better at communicating! Also, get comfortable with silence. Silence is not a bad thing. Quite the opposite. And it’s better than ums and ahs haha.

@SonicCartography 8 ай бұрын

@@AndrewBarrMusic I appreciate the sentiment, but I've been recording long-form videos for almost a year now, and I can still barely get through two or three sentences without messing something up, and it's only through the magic of editing that I appear well spoken, so it's still impressive... Anyway, good video, advice, and reality check!

@LilLingLing6789 16 күн бұрын

When I play live I pretend that it's the most amazing sound ever it's just me that's faulty so with that concept I tell myself it's all in my head But then I feel like I'm being lazy or half assed I remind myself that dire straights are legends with Mark

@actuallyasriel 8 ай бұрын

I have chronic anxiety and it's held me back a lot. I'm still working on assuming better intentions of people, but hearing someone say back to me that the critics in my head are just in my head and that they're not real was really validating. It shook something up deep down and now I just have to figure out what to do with that, haha. Thank you, genuinely

@AndrewBarrMusic 8 ай бұрын

Thank you. And keep going. Don’t stop. Keep creating.

@brentjohnson7044 9 ай бұрын

You've identified some really important factors here, but I'd like to point out another one: a failure of what you hear in the recording to match what you heard in your head. When you hear someone else's song, that's your first exposure to it, so what it sounds like is how you think of it. But when you are creating something for which you have already have an audiation in mind, chances are it's not going to match perfectly. It can be difficult to switch your mindset to evaluating what you have instead of comparing it with what you intended, even if you eventually decide that what you have is just as good or better than your original idea.

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

I love this 🙏

@LilLingLing6789 16 күн бұрын

How I look at it is like this In a band you're not going to get your whole way you're going to have to compromise and work together which means what you visioned will never happen only some of it... In your mind envision your song and know that yeah you may have to drop aspects of it but whatever happens what comes out of it will be awesome... That's my little tip too hehe

@guywaggiemusic 9 ай бұрын

I really needed to hear this. Im always finding the little things standing out in my recordings. Once I released my music, and family and friends started listening while I was around, the second hand embarrassment was a real thing.

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

I’m glad you got enjoyment and maybe some insight from this video! And I’m Glad it could help

@lvbboi9 9 ай бұрын

In the past i have gotten to the point of "If you're assuming, why not assume positively?" when dealing with anxiety, and while I'm no psychiatrist, I think I understand. By assuming the worst, your brain thinks it's _protecting_ you from the worst. If it assumes the worst,it won't hurt as much.

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

Yes. Much like the amazing ability to see snakes in a pile of sticks, our brains are always on the lookout for danger and is really good at finding anything negative 😂

@evensteven8958 2 ай бұрын

I love you, you are a saint for making this video

@adamwall7852 8 ай бұрын

This kind of advice can only be found on this channel…it’s so niche but in the perfect way for all of us! Thank you for the great lessons and videos!

@AndrewBarrMusic 8 ай бұрын

Thank you! Glad it’s reaching the right audience haha

@SYD.0_o 8 ай бұрын

for me, i struggle with the vulnerability of sharing lyrics with people. the lyrics i write are extremely personal and often a little intense and im afraid people will judge it as being too dramatic and stuff. it certainly does help to approach sharing it from a different perspective though.

@DarkoP9.13 2 ай бұрын

Kitchen analogy was spot on. When we witness the process we know all the flaws, and that messes up our minds/judgement. We no longer hear objectively in that case.👍

@GoranBackmanMusic 8 ай бұрын

Oh my godness I'm not alone. I'm 30+ finished tracks down and I *just* started releasing my music mainly for the reasons you talk about. Thank you.

@AndrewBarrMusic 8 ай бұрын

Thank you! You’re never alone here, friend

@Prevader 7 ай бұрын

Brilliant advice.! I compose and sing. I used to think "How will other people react / judge " my music? IT DOESNT METTER! I like it so its good for me. If you think its wrong / off key/ weak / amature - who cares? I Like it thats why i do it! and there´s ürobably others out there who think the same about me and my music. Thank you very much for this video. even if its just to get the "singers" etc out ther to get the courage and post what they think is good. IT IT GOOD!

@tigerlily896 6 ай бұрын

Needed to hear this so bad. And now I need to rewire my brain to assume positive intent. Thanks for the video, I really enjoyed it!

@hpuredatalover 9 ай бұрын

This channel is such a treasure. Every new upload tackles an issue I've been struggling with for years.

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! I’m glad I could help

@MusicManAndrew 5 ай бұрын

Thank you so much dude, this isn’t only helping my music production but my mental health as well

@actuallyasriel 8 ай бұрын

Another thing with me, is that I *had* people, in another life and another craft, make really honest criticisms, that I echoed -- with *bad intentions.* Fixing those problems wouldn't have improved their opinion of me. I can definitively prove with no effort that those people were trying to hurt me and nothing more. But I tried so hard to galvanize myself from it, focus on "proving them wrong", and it turned into perfectionism, and it destroyed me. There's a line I wish I'd heard at the time and I wish I remembered the source: "If you wouldn't go to them for advice, don't take their criticism."

@AndrewBarrMusic 8 ай бұрын

That’s great advice

@lilithjesus7718 3 ай бұрын

Thank you. Solid wisdom. Really insightful about the definition of cringing being me imagining someone else hearing it and them not liking it. A game changer.

@VampyressVA 9 ай бұрын

Great point... I always have the cringe with my music and audios, art and videos. That's why.

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

Glad you enjoyed it!

@mr.owatson9150 3 ай бұрын

You are the therapist we aspiring artists need!

@lesainte2101 4 ай бұрын

Wow, this is just great life advice in general, extrapolated to all things. Spectacular relationship advice.

@bbyboitommy 5 ай бұрын

You’ve got some really good insights and advice man. This helped me a lot.

@AndrewBarrMusic 5 ай бұрын

I’m glad it did! Thanks for watching

@akzentprod 9 ай бұрын

I’d like to add to your last point because I’ve recently dealt with pretty bad rejection after assuming good of someone else for the music. You have to be willing to assume good, but have discernment of comments or feedback that comes back from the person/people. Just as you defined it, not everything is for everyone. If you’re going to assume good things out of people you expect to get feedback from, and get a negative response, proactively change your target demographic and accept notes that actually help you. If that person/people’s opinion “actually” mattered (it maybe really doesn’t in hindsight) and it didn’t go well, yet others have enjoyed it, narrow down the traits of those who can appreciate the art more to share a better experience to those that are willing to experience it if sharing music is a primary goal of yours. Also be willing to accept the purpose of your own music. If you want to make electronic binaural dubstep, then be willing to accept that it most likely won’t be a top 100 billboard…but you lose nothing in giving it your best shot if that’s what you are choosing to pursue. In the end, if you are succeeding by your own definition and purpose of why you make music, no one can take that away from you, but they can very well talk around it. Nice video.

@siciliostudios 9 ай бұрын

Thanks Andrew, great advise and we’ll said. It’s hard, I’m on my 3rd Spotify release and I have several here on KZbin. A family member just found them lol, of course they were supportive but I still cringe. Appreciate the encouragement! I’m going to keep going! Now I find the pain of not creating is greater than the pain of cringe 😮 subscribed!

@AndrewBarrMusic 9 ай бұрын

Thank you! And yes. The pain of not creating is the biggest pain for me. I’d rather create something I think is awesome 🤘 glad you’re here, friend!

@LilLingLing6789 16 күн бұрын

Omg the penny has just dropped by George I think she's got it.... Because I have songs I think yes I did so well with that... And I'll listen again and be like I want to do another solo like that or wow that part really worked with that part.... I know noone can be awful to me about it because it's sweep picking and arpegios are awesome (when used very sparingly)