Why YOU Should Dress Modestly || Get the attention you deserve!

[@lizzysmira]

I don’t dress “modestly,” but I don’t necessarily dress “immodestly” either. I simply wear what makes ME feel the most comfortable and confident. I wear shorts that you’d probably consider immodest, but I wear them because I like them and not for the purpose of being more sexually appealing. Just because some women choose to show more skin doesn’t mean they are doing it for the sole purpose of looking more enticing.

[@Sam-hg7il]

Could've sworn she said if that's what you like then do you.

[@alina-dt7cn]

Franceska Marco what are you even talking about?

[@babylegs3982]

Franceska Marco she never said it was she just said she likes to wear what she wants and you should have no issue with that, no one else in the society has to care unless it’s hurting them or someone else

[@babylegs3982]

Athanasius Contra Marxism that’s very rude don’t call random people skanks, and people that are so closed minded and sexist shown by your past statement “LOL the definition of solipsistic is woman” like you aren’t a good source of information and you’re kinda acting like a child using insults like that:)

[@amanday3103]

Athanasius Contra Marxism wow, not even trying to hide our blatant sexism, are we?

[@StephanieRivera33]

Apparently “stop seeing this ad” means nothing to KZbin.

[@Lurkerlady]

Right? Like this entire channel has been pushed SO HARD by KZbin on my account, and no matter how many times I say I dont wanna see it KZbin doesnt do crap.

[@abbydurr7175]

FR. i’ve seen her ads so much and i disagree with every single one of them.

[@heidih3048]

Correct

[@ghintz2156]

@@Lurkerlady omg same. It pushed her Disney Opera video on me first. I downvoted it because she frankly doesn't sing operatically all that well, now this video popped up and I'm beyond repulsed.

[@Lurkerlady]

@@ghintz2156 the video I keep seeing is what you need to know to be a good wife. Like wtf, are we suddenly back in the 50s?

[@whateveryouhearditwasntme4109]

Don’t dress just for men, (or women, lesbians exist) dress in clothing that makes YOU happy. If you wanna go to the grocery store in sweats and flip flops, go right ahead. Same thing if you wanna go to the store with a dress and high heel boots. As long as you’re comfortable with what you’re wearing, knock yourself out. (Before people come after me, yes there are exceptions. Like, don’t wear pajamas or a bikini to a job interview, I’m just saying that clothing is a way to express oneself, and women should not be forced to wear unrevealing clothes so men are “able to focus”) edit: corrected an adjective

[@leo-dl6gd]

i completely agree. nobody should dress for anybody. we should all just dress how we want because we feel comfortable in our clothes :)

[@exxiebitch6166]

I agree

[@alexthourot502]

Here we go we are getting somewhere. For most people it is for them selfs and I makes them happy. O MY GOD. I feel like a religious and if u aren’t that is fine to take this out of prospective if u want I don’t care but if u think about it u are hiding god’s creation and in Adam and Eve the showed of their whole body but the apple that they ate was a sin witch is a sin made them aware of it so if u think about it god planned for us all to just walk around naked. Also in the Bible Jesus said if u see her and u doing the naughty ( I don’t know what he exactly said ) gouge your eyes out. There for Jesus doesn’t care he cool with it. So worry about your self this man knows what he is talking about.

[@alexthourot502]

Sorry for all of the grammatical errors

[@emmabaker4316]

Alex Thourot i was raised in a very religious family and you’re right. they say jesus said if a man looks at a woman and thinks of her in a sexual way, basically that’s his problem and if he can’t be respectful he should just gauge his eyes out because women aren’t responsible for their actions. christians like to forget that bit though, don’t they?

[@mahammalik7714]

As a by-choice hijabi, modest clothes do not stop you from being sexualized. If males want to sexualize a woman, they will do it no matter how clothed she is. Rape and assault is always the rapist's fault, never the victim. I dress modestly because it makes me feel good and does somehow draw more respect.

[@Gen_-6012]

👏 thank u

[@vloggermum]

🔥🙌🏼🙌🏼

[@thepink3798]

Yess queen. Thats why i love hijabis more. They know what modest means. Its about boundaries rather than doing it for protection

[@SaiyaraLBS]

@@thepink3798 but the Qur'an literally says it's for protection.

[@jefflarin3774]

@@thepink3798 hijabis in the west* Here in the middle east they are the same if not worse than abby (I am arab and know it)

[@hannac8776]

The female body is not always sexual. The female body is not always sexual. The female body is not always sexual.

[@baileypaxman1240]

THIS !! lmao perpetuation of modesty culture only enforces the idea that women’s body’s are inherently sexual. no thanks!

[@hayden3774]

Female bodies are fetishized.

[@no-cd2lo]

SAY IT LOUDER FOR THE PEOPLE IN THE BACK

[@soyooin]

Thank you. If you feel confident in it wear it.

[@brianamaemelton]

I AM INDIVIDUAL dont think thats what they ment . but ok

[@supermega5000]

“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Is so ignorant and sexist, I can’t even. I know tons of emotional men and emotional women who don’t look at other human beings as objects. Granted there are people who are that way, it has nothing to do with gender. That’s a stereotype.

[@molly_parker_1847]

Thank you for saying this. So true and I hate stereotypes

[@abbyzoetewey538]

Yeah I don’t like how that statement reduces men to animals. They are generally fully developed human beings who have many different sides to them, so are women.

[@Eli-uu2sm]

and this assuming and treating ALL men like they're all hungry criminal beasts that can't control themselves just because of the ones that are. that is not treating them as human. that's not the point of feminism. 🙄 we want equality not more unequality.

[@allisonanne571]

As a general rule, male sexuality is visually driven. That’s simply a fact. I’m not defending this video, but calling that statement an ignorant stereotype is just incorrect.

[@AddBowIfGirl]

Not to mention that all creatures with working eyes are visual creatures and that she literally and immediately directly contradicts herself to claim men aren’t emotional creatures. If simply what they see is making them emotional (and I highly recommend she and males of her mindset look up “emotion”) then actually men _are_ the more emotional beings and being emotional is usually fine but being so emotional that you become dangerous or can’t handle existing next to fellow humans because of their body shapes, then you’re definitely the problem and need to get your emotions in check. Our species was not designed for the males to lose their shit over female bodies. Naked is our most natural state afterall.

[@kinsleygreer]

Everyone has different concepts of “modesty”. I think many Muslims would say you are not modest enough. I guess it’s all your perception.

[@plantpants8950]

Usually these types of conservatives are entirely ignorant to different cultures. They say certain things are a woman’s job and some are a man’s.... a woman’s to be modest and “ladylike” and a man’s to be a breadwinner and dominant. In my culture it’s very different.... it’s just so odd to see her preach the moral goodness of women covering up as if that’s not just her culture’s beliefs and actually a moral statement to something? Women in my grandparents country often wore nothing but “skirts” in English. We don’t go about preaching how they need to cover up or risk being mistreated by male attention... us men simply... don’t harass and objectify life givers??? It’s not hard at all. It’s not the woman’s responsibility when a bad person objectifies her. America is such an odd place

[@laprinciaponder4726]

sippingmychai ya but her point is the opposite of what ur saying basically....... this lady is judging ppl based off what they wear, Nd just like u said u don’t judge her, she shouldn’t judge anybody

[@radheia6598]

Anglo-Saxon In Asia what’s wrong with u

[@usewater6886]

@sippingmychai she's Jewish

[@Smilingkayak]

DAYUM shots fired

[@stpeter1241]

“Ladies, you better treat your bodies with respect and start recognizing reality.” Imagine a man saying something like this...

[@wolfofthewest8019]

Men say things like that all the time. It's completely uncontroversial. This is the root of all sexism: masculine hyperagency and feminine hypoagency. If you suggest that a man will be judged based on how he dresses and presents himself, absolutely no one will bat an eye. Men are always held responsible for how other people treat them. Women, on the other hand, are treated as stupid, brainless children who can't be held responsible for their choices and actions. Which often means women can't be judged for their choices and actions. Thus if you say something like "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slob." to a man, everyone agrees that's fair. But if you say "Of course no one respects you, you dress like an immature slut." to a woman, morons and idiots start screaming how that's sexist against women because how dare you assert that women aren't brainless morons who are incapable of understanding that others judge them based on how they dress.

[@lionmane7686]

Yall would call him a feminist ally. 🙄

[@rayweaver8295]

Yeah it would still be the truth. You'd just whine about it more.

[@stpeter1241]

@@rayweaver8295 Ray Weaver everyone, world authority on how women these days should dress, because in his day they were just more modest and seeing women's skin is just plain indecent.

[@maddiemulligan3996]

This is discriminating against curvy women, calling their body type “slutty”. If I put on the same outfit as a conservative skinny woman It wouldn’t be considered conservative on me.

[@kierafinneke5828]

I'm currently working through trauma from being sexualized at 11 because I had boobs. I didn't wear skin tight clothes, I fit into the conservative religious mold I grew up in. But I was not allowed to participate in a lot of events in the summer or swimming because if I wore comfortable clothing, I was considered "rebellious" and a "bad influence". 🙄 Swim suits were either a two piece, which was never allowed because God forbid a middrift shows, or a one piece where it would fit but cleavage would be out, or it wouldn't fit and my bottom/down there would be exposed because it was too big. From 11. Because boobs. Tbh, the only creepy men who sexualized and groomed me were in churches who were extreme about modesty. I genuinely hope others experiences are much different than mine, because yikes.

[@laprinciaponder4726]

Right like if ur skinny Nd wear the same thing as a thicker person to school- the thicker person is more likely to get in trouble about it Nd it’s rlly annoying

[@scarletclough]

exactly!

[@StephyJayxOxO]

Exactly

[@OMGiSwaggerz]

She lives in her own world where women aren’t sexualices for just existing at ANY age

[@mrshmellofluf]

stop buying ads i’m getting tired of having to click “stop seeing this ad”

[@vanessaxu8001]

Ikr, this is so annoying and sexist

[@emilyclark9395]

Literally! I’ve said I don’t wanna see this like 20 times but I still get them. You’d think the algorithm would pick up that I hate this stuff by now.

[@fatimaaboubakar5233]

Brooo i blocked her! and shes not gone

[@39GalaxyZ]

Fatima Aboubakar omg same im so sick of her

[@kawaiikoibito3268]

Right? Does she not realize she's destroying her KZbin career by doing this? Now she'll never grow

[@Jw12080]

“Why it’s important and why it doesn’t mean looking like GArAbagE”

[@troydaigle1260]

Ma'am you are so right. If you're not selling yourself, then quit advertising it. Respect yourself, dress like a lady.

[@sugahobi1003]

What if we just dressed in what made us comfortable and minded our own ducking business?

[@RealiTeaV]

💯💯💯

[@miaslxyz]

THIS IS IT !!

[@Nikotheleepic]

No

[@stylinzon]

Niko yes :)

[@patrickstar796]

Niko Yes🧚‍♀️🥰✨

[@ROYGBIV-nf3pr]

Please stop advertising I’m almost certainly not the demographic you are looking for.

[@riley.clairee7104]

ROY G. BIV are you a guy lmbo

[@emma_4693]

Chill 💀

[@rosalieleykum6180]

Emma _ no

[@neptune8997]

She’s targeting opposite of who would normally watch her 🤦🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

[@menschlicherroboter6791]

Okay guys I get that you don't agreed with her. I don't. I disagree with everything she says in every video, but you gotta understand that's her way of living. She is Jewish, so I'm assuming she is just doing what is within her faith. She is dressing modestly because that's what's acceptable in her religion. I know many of the things she said in the video are highly disagreeable for you, but just accept that's her. If you don't like her, don't watch her videos. It's not that hard. Just ignore it. Don't comment anything hateful. She's just trying to educate people of what she believes is right, and you will NOT change her views by leaving hate comments or anything. Just stop. She seems like a nice person despite her beliefs, just listen to her and understand her point of view, not that hard. Again, if you don't like it you can leave

[@alyssameier9993]

i could wear a sweatshirt and sweatpants to school and still have boys make comments about, it literally has nothing to do with modesty. there’s just boys that will sexualize anything and everything about me.

[@ssharon_kimm]

YES

[@dahliacerise]

PREACH

[@lamentsoda9101]

This tbh

[@orphanedhanyou]

So? That doesn't mean modesty and what you wear doesn't matter and doesn't result in different results.

[@amarispetty5115]

orphanedhanyou but it doesn’t matter how much skin or how little you show, there will still be men to comment on you.

[@deezed6478]

But why doesn’t society police men’s clothing in the same way? Oh right, because women treat them with respect no matter how they dress. So shouldn’t we teach men to behave instead of control how women dress?

[@lindseylim8821]

“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” They’re human beings goddamn

[@yb4702]

Right? Everytime I hear anyone talk about these things, they regard men like animals who can'y control themselves. Like, no, they're human and they think for themselves, if they can't handle seeing a woman in a dress then they have an issue!!

[@madisonjackson9463]

Right!!! Like that’s actually kinda fucked up that she would even say that 🤦🏽‍♀️

[@jordanbodkin3517]

Okay so I literally hate this video, and a lot of what she said was disgustingly sexist. Buttttt she’s not wrong on that point. From a neurological standpoint men are physically wired differently than females and are in fact typically visually oriented, whereas females tend to come from a more emotional mental standpoint. That’s not sexist that’s just a genuine fact.

[@venus9312]

girl i just like looking pretty, it's not for men lol

[@bulbasour3]

Categorizing genders by one factor separates ideals from human beings so I totally agree

[@pieceofloveb2638]

its not about “attracting the right man” or “respecting other people”. its about respecting yourself. if you feel good being modest then go for it, if you feel good showing off you go for it. respecting yourself is sexy.

[@shirleyseguin7395]

THATS IT ! xxxxxx

[@viv5745]

YESSSS

[@veewolf3325]

What if you walked around naked? Thats extremely disrespectful to the people around you. The way you dress also shows your character, you could make people think your a sl*t, no one wants to be known as that, its not something to be proud of.

[@-ShyBvby-]

Vee wolf Nudist colonies and nude beaches exist. You can walk around naked there buckko

[@AmandaNavarro]

Vee wolf I normally dress like a dude, are you gonna call me a dyke? Because no matter what the answer is, I still won't care. I'm not gonna live me life worried about other people's opinions of me. So if a person wants to show a little skin, let them. They do it for themselves, not for others. Naked and being clothed in a certain fashion are two completely different things, so comparing the two isn't gonna prove a point. But either way, nudists do have their own communities so they don't get charged with indecent exposure by the local Karen and Keith. In case you were wondering...

[@helena_lang]

“wHo Do YoU wAnT tO bE dEsIrAbLe To” myself. literally myself. there’s nothing wrong with liking to look nice.

[@Bebo-b4c]

I dress for the girls and gays and myself ✨😙

[@happilyeverafterhanna]

Same! Put on a full face of makeup almost every day just for me! Makes me happy and helps me improve my makeup skills!😃

[@helena_lang]

Happily Ever After Hanna Me too! I’d much rather look in the mirror and think, “damn, I look good!” than look in the mirror and worry about whether too much of my shoulder is showing.

[@thatjojolesbian]

Myself and other lesbians

[@avaschrag2439]

Detroit Become Walking Dead Is Strange aY rnvme. V

[@atheaoll]

You of all people should know that dressing modestly does not stop people from sexualising you.

[@rayweaver8295]

And you think people would sexualize her the same amount if she didn't dress modestly? Braindead.

[@sandels5805]

Greatly reduces the risk tho

[@atheaoll]

@@sandels5805 So do you think it's a baby's fault for getting sexually assaulted because it was obviously the babysuit that provoked the sexual thoughts? What about muslim women who wear covered top to toe. They get raped all the time. Rapists don't care what you wear. They only care about rape.

[@skmuskanrahaman1690]

​​@@sandels5805that's true but it shouldn't haveto be like this.

[@atheaoll]

@@sandels5805 Instead of blaming clothing, let's blame the person who can't control himself in front of women hm? Would you really blame a baby in a nappy because of sick people that are attracted to kids?

[@Ale-mx9zd]

Ugh, I hate “dress like the woman you are” just because I don’t like crossings my legs 24/7, just because I wanna wear a crop too dosent make me less of a woman, it’s just me being me and being comfortable, I’m a tomboy and I shouldn’t be shamed for “not being ladylike” cause I’ll I’m doing is doing what I like to do

[@brayg07]

No! She doesn’t mean crop tops... she’s talking about girls who are basically half naked! Showing your belly isn’t bad!

[@rivergotthis4032]

This is so true and not even that, girls who dress to girly are called girly girls and girls who dress like a Tom boy are called gross and weird, this video is terrible and is saying that you need to dress to please others and that’s not right and when she said that she wants to be known as a mother and wife, that’s just plain sad

[@tasheve3015]

Braylin Gisele if the way other women dress bothers you then i suggest you stop looking, mind your business, and work on being less judgemental

[@characterdevelopment8504]

Braylin Gisele Honestly the way you dress does not warrant sexual harassment and sexualising of the body. You’re a fool to think it does.

[@garbagedayy2705]

@@brayg07 even if they dress half naked it's anybodys place to judge them and tell them that they're not "a woman"

[@blybee9546]

I don’t like the fact this argument not only degrades women as just “objects” but also degrades men as being carnal/animalistic creatures who can’t possibly control themselves if a woman decides to dress a little too “immodestly”. This is not the case. There are bad people and good people in the world. The solution is not to make things less “tempting” to a bad man (because this solution takes away women’s rights), it is to instead change the education system to teach boys in school to respect a woman and not to see her as just an object, as well as following through with the appropriate repercussions. Your argument places so much on emphasis on the validation from men, as if women need this to be valuable? If all a man can think about at a date is his date’s v-cut shirt, then it is on the man for being unable to look past his own primal urges to realize there is a individual human being before him. Not the woman. You made another point about women of an older age still dressing “immodestly” and asked the question ”At the age 50, would your rather be praised for your body or family?” First of all, why not both? Beauty can be expressed no matter how much clothes you wear! Do you look at a Greek statue and immediately sexualize it, or do you think to yourself “Wow, the artist perfectly captured the natural beauty of that human!”. If you think the former, then is it not your own mind that’s at fault or the sculptor? And why should women no longer dress how they wish at 50? They can love their bodies too! They are still human, no matter what age they turn, and expression doesn’t just vanish once you get into your 30s. I don’t know your story or how you’ve been influenced to think this way, so I’m not going to criticize you personally. However, please don’t try to push damaging messages to impressionable young girls that their bodies are inherently sexual, and they cannot be beautiful if a man looks at them a certain way. Have a good day 😊

[@plantpants8950]

THIS 👏

[@betsyslifka3856]

PERIODT

[@sstrano]

👏👏👏

[@evannam6953]

Well said 👏🏽

[@ryn.999]

Could NOT have been said any better nor more respectfully 😍

[@india9334]

POV: You’re reading the comments while a conservative women lectures you in the background

[@abigailpierre6132]

*Jewish oml.

[@ShelbyRios-gm1ou]

Literally me

[@InktoEcho]

Nah I pause it she’s too annoying

[@themurrrr]

Nah, I hit pause. I’m literally just here to read all the awesome comments (and hit the like button on them)

[@autumnhouston3346]

@@InktoEcho sammee

[@unicornevil6913]

Wow it's so cool that we get to use time travel to give women from the 19th century an opportunity to vlog

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

Women in the 19th century knew how to survive and keep society together in harsher circumstances than you will ever know. Maybe we should listen to them, instead of modern people choking on comfort-induced stupidity.

[@yes1074]

The best comment lmao

[@alexl3658]

I'm dead 😭

[@chrissyswifey]

💀

[@rainbowjello1365]

There’s a lot to unpack here, but I’m just gonna throw the whole suitcase away.

[@stormyalice]

Everything was shit on, to be fair.

[@isabelsellers1533]

strane æons???

[@m.v.l.7547]

My fave response and I think I'll be adding my suitcase to your pile as well. Gonna just go ahead and move right along down the road to somewhere less conform-y.

[@sincerelyablackgirl]

🤣🤣🤣

[@carelessvesper4001]

@@isabelsellers1533 YES

[@giakkuma]

Men can control themselves. We shouldn’t have to worry about their “urges”. That’s bs

[@rachel-yy6mu]

CIA wtf that makes no sense

[@okay6353]

@CIA So you are blaming women for some men being creepy?

[@z.amanda]

@CIA so porn makes a man unstable and horny all the time? 😂 understandable, have a nice day

[@uhohstinky5850]

manda panda yes it does, it ain’t rocket science

[@uhohstinky5850]

They can, but women also don’t make it easy for them to not think that way when she’s basically half naked

[@slappedbylegal]

No matter what I do, I keep getting ads for this. I hope no one is buying that this is the only way to live. Live your life the way you want to.

[@123GieGie]

Its one of the only ads on my recommend page. I have blocked them 5 times and they keep coming back. How much is she paying for these???

[@ariell3770]

I thought I was the only one

[@aleciacustodio2061]

Bro same, I'm like?? What am I looking at that makes someone think I want/need to see?

[@Paid2Help]

The fact that we are ALL getting this as an AD and it only has 600,000 views.. means the majority isn't even clicking on it cause nobody fucking cares about this topic at this point and she's even bringing in views from people discussing her and doesn't even have 1 mil views. Girl talk about something that will help the planet but I don't think she has anything in her mind that actually would do any good.

[@lilianajerine4662]

She's so insecure it's insane

[@einfachhier3858]

„I hope that when I‘m fifty I hope that people will be talking about my accomplishments as a mother and a wife and not my muscle tone“ man, imagine being only remebered in connection with other people that sounds so sad

[@lohi172]

You liar, she also said she wants to be known for HER values. She literally said it in the same breath.

[@edenbuchanan6651]

This woman is talking down to every woman who dresses in a way that makes them feel comfortable that doesn't go along with what she thinks. No thanks.

[@zen_mindset1]

Ho ho ho

[@jessexisting933]

PREACH

[@gpettus9508]

She did say this right near the end: "I understand the pull to dressing immodestly, and I'm not looking down on anyone for it. I'm just offering you an alternative."

[@foreignworks]

she's looking down on men too. we need to have higher expectations of ppl(men and women), not lower expectations.

[@Annie-zr6xy]

“At 50 do you want to be praised for your body...or your family??” Why is my worth contingent on if I marry and have children?

[@hopefallerk9224]

I don't believe that's what her intent was behind that statement. To me, that statement's value was whether or not an older woman would like to be praised for her body or for her accomplishments. It's no secret that this woman is a conservative influencer, so for her, an accomplishment may be that she is able to marry and have children. This may be different for you, but the value of that statement was most definitely not that you worth is contingent on if you marry and have children or not.

[@nuclearwessels2078]

There are many different types of families out there.

[@milly9897]

Hope Fallerk the two Brown women she mentioned have had many accomplishments in their careers. To think that people’s heads are still exploding at that Super Bowl show is laughable. I don’t remember anyone taking out their pitchforks during the regular season when the Cheerleaders wore less than what was displayed at the Halftime show. I’m not judging them either. They are very beautiful entertainers as well. Getting married isn’t an accomplishment by any means. It’s something people decide to do. No one has gotten a participation trophy for getting married....just a certificate and a different tax bracket.

[@saharaasher8959]

Athanasius Contra Marxism As a woman, the greatest and most important thing I can do is not having children. I can contribute a LOT mote to society than that. Any woman who doesn’t have kids doesn’t necessarily have cats, that’s a dumb assumption. Also the people who’ll be at my deathbed are family and friends.

[@liz-pz1ke]

@Athanasius Contra Marxism you do realoze mot everyone thinks like that tho? Many women think their greatest and most important accomplishment is to love a good life WITHOUT children.

[@erinchoi5239]

“the difference between beauty and sexiness,” being beautiful can be sexy, and being sexy can be beautiful....

[@okay4059]

Erin Choi yes

[@oraloliakoko3298]

Yassss

[@marshieen.4182]

yesss

[@selenophile410]

Uh , wtf , that flew over my head

[@nootnoot9606]

Yasssssss

[@pseudolus7963]

The dislikes according to the API stand at 157k.

[@urmother72771]

1. Women aren’t here to satisfy men. 2. Men aren’t sex driven machines

[@Panic816]

Yes

[@h7672]

especially the second one, as a girl who was raised very religious, my mom would constantly say that to me, ever since i was like 12. "all they think about is sex", "they think makeup is sExUaL". basically, if i put extra effort is how i look, i'll look "sexual" to men. 🤢 so glad i never believed her. edit: ok here's an example, when i was 16 i wanted to put on lip gloss that my friend got me as a gift & it had a little pink tint. my mom literally told me i couldn't wear it outside bc men would see it as sexual if i made my lips more colored. i was 16. 16!!!😐

[@narcissus1111]

Naseem R one of my teachers tried telling me that I should not wear makeup and certain clothes because little boys will be distracted ... I laughed in her face why doesn’t she tell little boys to control themselves

[@elizabethespinoza1824]

sirius my teacher kind of told me something like that but it's because i was fighting with this girl because she kept calling me a 'slut' and she told me if i didn't want to be called that to not dress like one and not to be seen with so many guys but i am sorry you had to go through something like that.

[@ikwyr5254]

It’s at 666 likes. I don’t wanna ruin it

[@juliavalverde5486]

7) 1:19 if it’s “distracting” that’s not a woman’s fault.

[@Yourlovelyghost]

@@haileysnider8399 completely agree with you!

[@lydiamaddox9325]

BRUH SHE SAID “IF YOURE AT A PARK WITH FAMILIES AND CHILDREN, YOU DONT WANT TO BE DISTRACTING” LIKE THEY ARE GROWN PEOPLE AND CHILDREN THEY REALLY SHOULD NOT BE LOOKING AND IF THEY DO ELECTRIC CHAIR EXCEPT THE KIDS edit: the electric chair is a joke. i don’t believe in that..... unless you’re a sexual abuser or a human trafficker bc you deserve death if you do that sorry

[@6thdimension729]

the-the chair?

[@seren4020]

LOLOLOL I READ THIS WHEN SHE SAID THAT

[@uwuowo6419]

LMAOAOAOOAOAOW

[@mitskilover_jenna]

"men are visual creatures, not emotional ones" men are human beings goddamn

[@CaptainBones222]

But we still get attracted to women wearing revealing clothing.

[@mitskilover_jenna]

@@CaptainBones222 yeah but you can still control it. You aren't an animal and you have emotions

[@CaptainBones222]

@@mitskilover_jenna You can also control what you wear and if your clothing sexualizes your or not

[@mitskilover_jenna]

@@CaptainBones222 people can wear what they're comfortable with. It's your responsibility to treat them like a human being regardless of what they're wearing

[@mitskilover_jenna]

@@CaptainBones222 again, I'm criticizing her comment because its like she thinks men are animals

[@emilywallace6360]

So she’s really out here saying if woman don’t dress “ modestly” then we’re just asking to be identified as sex object??!

[@scruffy5524]

Yesss mam! I am a gay woman and if I can control myself when women are in tight clothes and a guy can’t.. then there is something more problematic than the clothes she wears

[@faerie111]

i hate that we have to treat men like rabid animals who we can’t tame it’s ridiculous

[@silesiajohnson3090]

Yeah... I am a lady who usually dresses modestly but I do not see myself as better than someone who is more comfortable showing their body. You want to dress modestly do so, you want to flaunt what you got? Do so? Yes there are times where modesty is best church, work, court, etc. but any other time dress however you want. No way is better.

[@Blue_910]

Silesia Johnson This is the way to think 100% 👍🏼

[@jenniepeach6764]

Silesia Johnson this

[@oliviabaer1726]

why is she still paying for ads when literally every single comment is telling her we don’t care and stop paying for ads?

[@riquellemitchell5467]

Her brother is Ben Shapiro I’m sure he pays for them for her

[@jacquelinejanicki]

why are you still watching her videos if the views support her content

[@rachelsolomon9951]

Olivia Baer because all of us commenting triggers the algorithm that this video has high engagement, which means it’s going to push this video on more recommendation lists... and she will find her audience this wa

[@twiylasimone]

not her saying “we shouldn’t make everything about sexiness” but she’s the one making a whole video about it.

[@papaya3642]

ooop! tea

[@idkilikeeggos5261]

It’s the internalized misogyny of this whole video for me 😌✨🧚‍♂️

[@shay8974]

If you view someone as an object, it doesn’t matter how much clothing they put on, you’ll still view them as an object. So maybe the problem lies with you and not with them 🙃

[@CaptainBones222]

No, I very much view a woman in a suit vs a woman in lingerie differently.

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

Tell that to your feminist friends who complain women are being "objectified" whenever they are cast/depicted in revealing clothing.

[@CaptainBones222]

@wheresthelambsauce8273 Nope, they start the issue first when they wear certain clothing. If I dress up as a cop, you will think i'm a cop.

[@rayweaver8295]

So according to this logic a woman wearing extremely revealing clothing out in public is going to be sexualized the same amount if she dresses modestly? Yeah I don't think so.

[@b.k8051]

it's rape culture.. she's justifying rape culture

[@jordanwatson7934]

Here's a thought: stop caring about how people present themselves and let them dress how they want. Perhaps people wear certain clothes because they, idk, like them.

[@shirleyseguin7395]

YESSS !

[@genesis3916]

PREACH INDEED

[@joannaboll2405]

Is she not allowed to share her opinion? She’s not telling people what to do, and even if she was, people are still entitled to make their own decisions.

[@veewolf3325]

Or how about care about the parents and children thats shouldn't be seeing you half naked, guys too

[@AmandaNavarro]

Joanna Boll The title is literally called "Why YOU Should Dress Modestly" She's literally telling people how they need to dress, saying it's wrong for them to dress any other way, and even going as far as saying they look like "trash" if they don't dress the way she likes. I get her point about certain people being idiots who only care for tits and ass, but it's not her decision to make for others. I'm sure anyone who shows a little skin knows exactly what they're signing up for when going out in public, and has the courage to do so anyway despite those risks because that's what THEY like, not what they think others will like. If a person isn't completely naked or making public porn, then I don't see the issue. The way another person dresses isn't my problem to deal with, because to me, I'm the only person that matters. People need to stop focusing on how others live their lives and stay in their own lane. I dress basically as a dude with my oversized t-shirts, jackets and hoodies, and jeans and you don't see me getting peeved when a girl walks by in a crop top and booty shorts. I'll just think to myself how confident she is being in her own skin, not worrying about what those around her might think. And I respect that so much because honestly who gives af what others think? They can shove their opinions up their ass for all I care. This girl's opinion was just not needed, and outright disrespectful. I have absolutely no idea why this is showing up in everyone's recommended, but I'd say a majority of viewers can agree that she just needs to shut her pie hole according the the like/dislike ratio. If she cares so much about what others think of her, she could take the hint and take the video down. Or at least make an apology, because dear lord, she was insulting people left and right throughout this entire video who did not deserve those attacks.

[@postpukepeace5412]

Abby: “Men are visual creatures” Blind Men: Ma’am this is an arby’s

[@arcisvar4863]

@ You say that if you mom get harassed, tf

[@user-dc5kc4gl5p]

l. m. a. o.

[@phantomroyale8208]

homegirl is wilding- i- yikes- it’s the “dressing modestly is feminine” for me

[@paytondecrenza]

its the "more men will think of you as a sex object if you dress like one" for me

[@calli8728]

the fact that her whole channel is filled with stuff like this-

[@marissaperez9141]

Phantom Royale it’s the “ getting treated like a sex object if u dress like one” for meee

[@onehundredgeese]

it’s the judging women on how they dress yet wearing THAT fit for me 😬😬😬

[@angelinen7743]

It’s the marker filled eyebrows for me

[@thatpunygirl___149yes8]

Came here for the comments, did not disappoint.

[@lizscabs]

if i want to dress “immodestly”, it’s most likely not for other people, but because i like how i look

[@Emma-xx8tj]

It’s about how you present yourself in the world because people will judge you based on that. Do you want to present yourself sexually or do you want to try and present yourself with modesty and try to get people to focus on your inner beauty? People do get distracted by immodesty and people do judge you based on it. If you don’t care then that’s cool too. I’m not shaming either way but that’s another way to think about it.

[@elizabethd112]

Or because it's fking 90 degrees outside

[@imbonnie]

Yeah right.

[@steviefischetti6685]

Yes. Life isn’t about caring about what other people think of you

[@aubrey5031]

Exactly, and if I dress modestly is also just because I like the way I look :)

[@coldbird6397]

She’s like if my middle school dress code were a person.

[@kikuoisthebestandnoonecant1915]

*apply cold water to burned area*

[@oathkeeperkeyblade2746]

Omg YES! Ugh 😫 “Make sure the whole in your pants is below the knee girls!”

[@Julian.Staggs]

Yeah those shoulders are getting all the guys hard

[@Cris-ep2sc]

Oh crap parts of your upper back, shoulders, and too much of your legs are showing!!!! The horror...

[@gabeitch5649]

it sounds like she’s a robot being forced to say this and it’s scaring me

[@tessa6538]

Alternative title: *downgrading woman to a Standard that men shouldn’t be held accountable and everything is our fault for 5 minutes and 4 seconds*

[@Dial32]

THIS SO TRUE WHAT ARE THESE ADS

[@littlefurballs]

yes! thank you!

[@deven.ferrer]

YUP!!!!!!!

[@Canev821]

And agiesm

[@bstmeg5237]

Real talk

[@elchapo1049]

Women being overly sexualized is really the fault of men and women tbh. There’s men out their that just act like creeps to be funny and there’s also women that are overly self-conscious or are attention seeking constantly. It’s a two pronged issue.

[@krunoslavkovacec1842]

💯

[@flexibleskedule]

Do you know the word "patriarchy"?

[@amukbir8777]

​​@@flexibleskedulePatriarchy is the state of human society. Without it you wouldnt have food in your table and without it you wouldnt even be able to have sex with whoever you want without getting pregant. It has its downsides for women and men tho. For women it comes oversexualisation. Since you are the natural selectors, males interact with you because of sexual attention. This creates issues(rape,creeps and oversexualisation) For men it comes higher competition for mates,to the point where most of them will either be incompetent and die alone or either have to actively become far better than the mate they want to atract. Also this highly hierarchycal competence comes with more agressive and dangerous actions. So yes, technically they are less apreciatted,more likely to die and less likely to feel wanted. I always hear the "patriarchy" thing but if I am being honest no man or woman created it,its subconsequence of human nature so It cant really be changed. The invisible hierarchy in males is created by women by sexual selection of the "strongest" but it isnt women who created it,its the environment for humans to continute to exist,women MUST be selective thats why that hierarchy exists (it wasnt intentional) The notions of what society is will alwaus be based on and driven by biological motivation. Specially when it comes to surviving. Also dont blame the guys who sexualise you in their minds,a healthy human male with healthy dopamine receptors gets a dopamine rush when he sees naked woman that he finds attractive and most men find most women somewhat attractive. Your body objevtively isnt like the male body,due to sexual dimorphism so you cannot function logically with the same rules if you want efficiency. Patriarchy is not a system,it is the human society's evironment and driven by gender interactions. And no,nowadays in western world this environment is not trying to dominate women. People are fighting an enemy that doesnt exist instead of solving a problem breaking it down logically

[@SophiaHernandez-fp2uu]

Yes it is both the women's responsibility to not dress overly provocative and also the men's responsibility to turn their vision away and not stoop down to that level and feed onto that scream of attention from women

[@ambiencemusic376]

@@SophiaHernandez-fp2uuit’s the women responsibility only before they leave the house they know what there doing they look at themselves and know what being put on display to say men should just not look is foolish I guess men should just walk with their heads down women just hate accountability

[@cassanddrrrraaa]

i was assaulted wearing jeans, a t shirt, & a jacket. it was winter & no skin was showing. the idea behind “the attention you get = what you’re wearing” is so. so. entirely. wrong.

[@phylly9484]

I’m so sorry people who think like that are awful

[@iwouldbechelsea]

I am pretty sure she means in attracting a potential mate/future husband. She isn't suggesting that someone should get assaulted because they wear something in particular. NO ONE SHOULD BE ASSAULTED FOR ANY REASON. EVER. I am so sorry to hear that happened to you. Hope you are doing okay. Love and hugs. God bless

[@lilyoreilly842]

i was wearing a baggy shirt and sweatpants in the summer i agree with your point completely

[@nunwithpipecleaner]

Chelsea Fletcher what if you don’t want to get married?

[@kyesol]

I’m sorry that someone would do such a terrible thing to you and I hope you’re doing okay despite what happened to you.

[@ariellashahal1468]

She’s entitled to her opinion, but like??? After watching her “Don’t Believe All Women” video it’s obvious she’s just appealing to the conservative voters. And she’s paying, to have youtube advertise this. At this point her motives UNDER VALUE anything she may be genuinely trying to say. Its kind of gross.

[@jasmynjohnson4346]

I AM INDIVIDUAL You can’t blame normal individuals for media coverage... it’s not our fault the system is broken.. The only people who wanted him as the nominee are moderate Democrats that line their pockets with cash when the status quo is stabilized. Believe me, this unrest we are seeing will NOT be stopping if Biden is president. The American people are just more focused on the other dumpsterfire right now

[@Chocobear555]

I'm a conservative voter, and I'm not the least bit impressed by her.

[@canudont7244]

Its gross for women to be walking around with everything hanging out.

[@canudont7244]

@@Chocobear555 You're conservative yet you argue against dressing modestly? You're no conservative lol.

[@stephaniemarie9878]

so basically she’d be a victim blamer? If a man can’t control himself that sounds like it’s his fault

[@kashmulaa4112]

definitely his problem😭

[@OcculticRomantic]

It’s not about “controlling himself”. It’s about having respect for others.

[@nscene8166]

man cant control himself? sounds like a personal problem to me 🤧💅

[@pharuhs]

Its SOMETIMES a dual thing, but if she leaves signs saying no, then yeah, it's his fault.

[@Kat-fo9gp]

Definitely a victim blamer!

[@rosafern25]

Dress how you want to be addressed.

[@cecegundrum7577]

A woman’s body isn’t the only thing a woman is good for. Saying women should dress modestly is giving off the impression that women must do things for MEN, when we are the ones who have had to cover up for hundreds of years because of men.

[@cybermoongamer1071]

Maybe that's the impression YOU got from the video because I didn't see it that way. I would suggest to rewatch the video and listen carefully.

[@shae4453]

Vanessa Singh well Sometimes I just wanna be confident and wear whatever the hell I want. That doesn’t mean I don’t deserve respect in public.

[@rinnyokumura1949]

Vanessa Singh or we can teach men not to think the world owes them everything. Women dress for themselves and no one else. She is implying that women dress only for men and attention. Maybe you should do your own research, both of you, on the sexualization of women and realize it’s not a womens issue it’s a mens issue

[@nikank1110]

Dressing Modestly applies to men and women, it you’re not doing for someone else, you’re doing it for yourself to honour your body, and to honour God with how you dress, at least for me

[@cecegundrum7577]

Lolidk Hello exactly

[@liligonzales6534]

girl no ones gonna be talking about you when you’re 50 years old regardless

[@nikilakestani2970]

LMAO

[@Getout634]

Oh my 💀

[@Getout634]

Yall the only people who look good in their 50s are Tom Cruise and Audrey Hepburn.

[@abbstractgirl1922]

I feel like there could've been a better way to say what she wanted to say without basically saying "you're a sex object, but you can mask that with proper clothing". I dress modestly because it works for me, but if I see anybody else walking around in skimpy clothes, I'm gonna mind my own business.

[@honeymustard881]

As you should, thank youu !!

[@honeymustard881]

CIA no

[@rachel-yy6mu]

Oh my goodness yes! Roll with your own style and rock it, but other people like other things!!

[@Brendaglam24]

Ask you should thank you for that

[@Adrastus_]

Abby, I know this is a bit old now but I absolutely agree. It's amazing to see all of the seethe in the comments here

[@Themidwestlitvak]

You can tell how much she's just repeating whatever Conservative-Christian propaganda she's told when you realize this Jewish woman is literally not followed Jewish modesty laws in this video. I can see your collarbone dear...

[@LenaClaire91232]

And she’s showing her hair even though she’s married 😬

[@b.k8051]

Also the fact that an entrepreneurial content-creating Jewish woman is telling the rest of us to stay at home in accordance to traditional Christian values feels insanely ridiculous. This video itself earned her a few thousand dollars in ad revenue lol

[@anavichaliha3958]

All I ask is that KZbin stop showing me this content, I don’t care, you’re not going to tell me what to do.

[@Theimmure]

witttlewholesome I’m assuming you’ve learned by now that blocking doesn’t work. With all this negative attention, it won’t really matter that much.

[@MakeupByJassy]

witttlewholesome I have never clicked on this stuff or anything related and just got it recommended so...

[@lucycubed84]

witttlewholesome this one showed up to me at the top of my home feed as an “ad”. People aren’t getting this content because it’s recommended to them, it’s getting pushed out because she paid for it to be an AD.

[@Bunnyicypop403]

The amount of dislikes on this video is what gives me a little more faith in humanity

[@sanimalcrossing5746]

it just keeps getting better 😌

[@complexunity4533]

Bunnyicypop control yourself on that crazy shake, can’t you see you’re a bully?

[@Bunnyicypop403]

@@complexunity4533 How? The person in this video talks about how women shouldn't dress how they want to dress (except for the whole places with children part, she is right about that), how women who wear more revealing clothes dress like "sex objects" and how men apparently fixate on a woman's sex appeal like they're some sort of sex-driven animals

[@complexunity4533]

Gmail Account right

[@calligraphersnote2481]

As a Christian, dressing modestly in not just about demanding respect to men. Our primary aim is to honor, please, and glorify God including the way we dress.

[@MaryLab2930]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@adeleisnamedafterme]

@@MaryLab2930 got a problem?

[@MaryLab2930]

@@adeleisnamedafterme “dressing modestly is not just about demanding respect to men” babes men deserve NOTHING from women. keep in mind that you can be assaulted no matter what you wear 💕 even if u dress modestly u can still be harassed by a man. maybe instead of telling women to cover up, tell men to keep their eyes and hands to themselves.

[@BlackJester57]

😂😂😂😂😂😭

[@ChickenNugget-zh9bn]

amen

[@ZakSaturdayLover11]

The way she says this but would lose her mind after seeing a Muslim woman's Hijab...

[@Urmom-dm2kf]

Exactly

[@rey-ld1pf]

Exactly

[@vibc-png]

RIGHT lmao

[@nickymarch2914]

You know it 😒

[@alouriia8825]

🙄🙄

[@anniehatley9760]

We dress “immodestly” for the girls and the gays that’s it

[@shaymora7701]

period

[@Negan_653]

Yess❤❤❤

[@emilyjn6147]

Haha YES queen

[@Nothinghereismeallisnot]

PERIODTTT

[@lilyz5945]

That’s it girl 😌

[@jocicollazo3141]

this gives me “she was asking for it” vibes that i really don’t like. NEXT.

[@liahuribe2126]

This whole video was just that but in a more bulshitty way

[@herecomesthesun5851]

100% agree

[@isfpoisson]

Ngl I feel like because victim blaming has become such a taboo (and very rightfully so), we tend go overreact when people are talking about clothes in a different context. She was talking about the attention you get and the impression you leave, not whether or not you are responsible for being sexually harassed.

[@kaitlynwest5597]

Her ads keep popping up and so I wanted to see what she was and she seems like she’s apart of a cult😬

[@cilanthropetunia]

Exactly. Victim shaming is horrible.

[@Defme374]

Respect, some people claim that men will sexualize you no matter what and this can be true, but the difference between dressing modestly and provocatively is the difference between having a do not trespass sign and having a welcome to all sign. Sure, some people will trespass no matter what, but if you say welcome to all then otherwise normal people who would normally not step into your house will trample all over it and feel justified. If you can’t distinguish between the effects of provocative dress and modest dress and you just pretend it’s the same because terrible people exist in the world, then you basically are a child who has no idea what surviving actually looks like. Surviving in a truly dangerous world means reducing risk of terrible stuff, you can’t escape it entirely. If you think men can escape the terrible stuff think again, we are always assessing how to avoid bad things happening to us. The world is dangerous, grow up, and realize that all we can do is our best to reduce our chances of terrible stuff, the rest is chance.

[@superchef_trades4213]

Top comment. Not the basic “my body my confidence” crap. Completely went over their heads, but this is all we (conservative men) are saying

[@cherrychuuu]

“I’m not shaming anyone for not dressing modestly” she says after she shames shakira and j-lo.

[@metallovingmusicnerd6081]

So you haven't seen the super bowl?

[@lilyoreilly842]

@@metallovingmusicnerd6081 they can dress how. they want and at 50 years old it would be amazing to be praised for my fit healthy body that god created for me than to shame other women for being healthy and fit and proud say that with time they won"t look as good, and people do praise them for having a family. people are just looking for an excuse to hate on others

[@metallovingmusicnerd6081]

@@lilyoreilly842 basically saying that stripteases deserve to get praised wow that's sad

[@hihi-ug1fc]

metal loving music nerd everyone deserves praise/respect. hun we live in the 21st century, catch up

[@metallovingmusicnerd6081]

@@hihi-ug1fc I know I was born in the 21 century. I just think it's stupid to praise someone for being healthy and fit at an older age and then exploiting themselves on national television when it should be something all ages can watch with family.

[@duckduckgoose6828]

Her: criticizes literally everybody Her: "And I'm NOT criticizing anyone for it"

[@mikestarkly9226]

Yeah if a hot man comes up to the mall dressed in hardly anything I'd like to see how all the ladies keep it in their pants. Our eyes are there for us to perceive the world around us. What you wear/ don't wear projects to society things about your personality whether you like it or not. Why do you think uniforms are a thing for most professions? Especially serious ones....???Can you imagine a doctor showing up in your room during an emergency dressed as a one-man-band??? TELL ME you wouldn't JUDGE THAT. lol Similar thing on a different level.

[@coridon745]

@@mikestarkly9226 there's a difference between dressing the way you want day to day and wearing something in work because you have to. You have uniforms for hospital spaces because scrubs are designed to be simple, easy to launder, and cheap to replace if damaged or stained irreparably. And masks are there for obvious reasons.

[@characterdevelopment8504]

Mike Starkly I don’t condone ANYBODY sexualising anybody unless there is that level of consent. And uh yeah smart people don’t wear extremely revealing clothes in the work place. You act as if women are saying that they don’t want to be sexualised but they can sexualise others. The lesson here is to teach people to fucking keep it in their pants. Of course there’s certain places were there’s dressing etiquette. People know this. The way you’re talking is acting as if your clothes justify being sexually harassed. When we should teach EVERYBODY. From a young age that consent is needed for those kind of remarks. No form of sexual harassment is okay, so stop trying to justify one form of sexual harassment with sexual harassment. If I decide I want to wear something I feel comfortable enough wearing, whether it is revealing, or completely covering me. I can still get sexually harassed or assaulted. Instead of blaming it on clothing blame it on the education system that failed to teach our students about the importance in consent. If you remark something and the person looks uncomfortable or you two aren’t at that level of flirting whatsoever then don’t do it. It’s so easy. Teach all students to respect each other’s boundaries and consent. If there is no level of consent don’t do it. Especially if somebody tells you to stop or they look uncomfortable.

[@kenthebug]

Mike Starkly 👏👏👏

[@coridon745]

@@characterdevelopment8504 fr fr

[@maehem7211]

"I'm not criticizing anyone" 5 minutes earlier: "Dress modestly, not garishly"

[@ROBERT-fd4kl]

Modesty is important for both women and men. Both genders can be a distraction to the opposite sex if they are immodest.

[@sammyroyer6416]

The root of the problem is that women’s bodies are over sexualized and us showing our bodies have nothing to do with sex

[@tiredslon581]

THIS!

[@rebgiful1]

Disagree - not the root of the problem. We are sexy! It’s Gods gift to us meant to be used with our husbands. It’s just men are wired this way. They see boobs - they think sex. Butt? Thick thighs? Sex. We are giving them what they want FOR FREE

[@rebgiful1]

amira so you’re saying we are teaching our boys to be aroused by a woman’s body? If a man was raised alone on an island and saw a naked woman for first time he wouldn’t be aroused?!?

[@ihateyoukash]

rebgiful1 they can look and think that way all they want. but a mans hormones aren’t linked to the way they treat women. over sexualizing women and treating them as objects for sex isn’t okay.

[@hpieces]

rebgiful1 yea he wouldn’t be because he’s never seen them before

[@user-xe5qb9ps9s]

I don’t think I can “dress in a way that doesn’t sexual use my body” because I’m not sexualizing it other people are.

[@certifiedguobafan]

👏 👏

[@mathildavere8966]

It is possible to sexualise your own body, but you can't know intent just from a person's appearance.

[@sophiemorris8754]

Why are you saying how it’s about yourself, then saying that men are going to be distracted. You’re sexualizing a woman by saying that, saying that women are objects, and that you need to be careful how your body appears. Isn’t that self-contradicting? And why are you downgrading men to “be wired to think about one thing” when a woman dressed a certain way. Why can’t a woman be beautiful in whatever she wears. If a man can only thinks about her curves, that’s his issue, not the woman’s. And you can say “ well if she didn’t dress provocatively, he wouldn’t think that.” Well why is about the man?

[@austin7037]

Sophie Morris her point about men is “if you want to attract a certain kind of man then...”

[@austin7037]

Sophie Morris key word being if.

[@rimaheart4218]

Preach

[@amanday3103]

That’s the kind of thing that perpetuates victim-blaming and rape culture.

[@rubi-pe5vj]

Bruh woman sexualize themselves and then expect others not too. It’s simple if you don’t respect yourself..how do you expect others too

[@MaddieM124]

Everyone in the comment section needs to CALM DOWN. Stop being rude and mean to her and picking at every little thing she does. Seriously.

[@emmygentile7373]

“Do you want your body or your personality to be at the forefront of his mind” Or you can date women

[@blacksheep6855]

Exactly this. The more people talk about men as if they are these monsters with uncontrollable lust, the more I'm just so not interested in even being around them. I'll just be around my friends who don't lose respect for me just because they saw me in swimwear once.

[@rosetta1115]

Exactly I can dress “immodestly” around my girlfriend and she doesn’t care or stare if I don’t want her to

[@jazrodriguez2740]

“Time always wins” Right after shaming J-lo and Shakira for showing off their great bodies at 50.

[@MistieRAWR]

Do you expect them to look the same when they're 80 and long retired from popular culture? The point she's making is that they'll only be remembered for their bodies if you focus on that aspect. Rosa Parks, Susan B Anthony, and Eleanor Roosevelt (to name a few fine females of history) probably had bangin' bodies at some point, but that's not the focus of the impact they left on the world. Those women went down in history for their minds and actions while J Lo will be remembered as the 50 year old with a nice ass dancing at the superbowl and Shakira will be remembered for her hips that don't lie.

[@cutecelgf]

Mistieria whyre you comparing jlo to rosa parks

[@isav5162]

Mistieria yeah they'll definitely be remembered for only their bodies. Not their acting or music. Just their bodies.

[@minminygyg]

Mistieria i HOPE you know you’re comparing women who were diplomats, social reformers, women rights activists, and civil rights pioneers (parks, anthony, roosevelt) to SINGERS and TV PERSONALITIES, who WORK to bring ENTERTAINMENT to you. just... think about it, smart stuff.

[@MistieRAWR]

@@minminygyg My life and other American women's lives have been bettered by the existence of those three women and their accomplishments. What have J Lo and Shakira ever done for women? They can WORK to ENTERTAIN me all they want.

[@ashliexXxriot]

Did she seriously say men are “not emotional creatures” Wow.

[@abigaila7851]

Yeah, this is exactly the opposite of what they teach you in sex ed. Actually, they teach that such a stereotypical line of thought is harmful.

[@maddycameron6091]

I know ,that was a VERY bold statement that can easily be argued

[@dianasworld3015]

Her husband must be a great guy

[@mitchellsmith4690]

It's nice to hear a woman mention men without contempt. I'm sick of toxic feminism...

[@daaaaaaaaaaaareeeeeeeeeeee835]

Literally she is insulting men too, she is implying that men are creatures that can't feel any emotions, that they're sex robots that can't control their urges.

[@mitchellsmith4690]

@@daaaaaaaaaaaareeeeeeeeeeee835 Since I am man, I reserve the right to determine when I am insulted.

[@Momma_Hawley]

“It’s about how men are visual creatures not emotional ones.” This is disgusting. Like honestly I hate people who assume men don’t have emotions. Besides that she criticizes people who dress ‘revealing’ and to be more ‘submissive and disgusted’ in themselves. Mainly women. And honestly who tf cares if you dress modestly. Sure men might stare at you, but most assume it’s normal. Besides that I’m so tired of how women are told to dress more ‘beautifully’ then ‘sexy’ like oh my god w h o c a r e s? And so tired of this ‘lady’ PLEASE stop recommending this ‘woman’

[@aleintrents8790]

Thank you

[@kikuoisthebestandnoonecant1915]

Also thank you.

[@seaturtle5719]

If you care not to attract toxic people, this definitely matters

[@briarwolf0501]

@@seaturtle5719 I dress very modestly according to most people's standards. I've attracted very toxic people, which is funny. Almost like maybe clothes aren't why toxic people target who they think would be vulnerable. Maybe stop victim blaming?

[@earth2abbs]

Katie D Johnson AGDKSFDKFV- EXACTLY

[@junojunebugg]

Did she really just say “dress like a sex object” the level of ignorance in that statement and is appalling

[@moodyspoint7377]

She’s not even being very clear... she could just be crazy. Just how modest is she really referring to? Does she also thunk denim jeans are too tight ? Tank tops are mischievous? Lol she’s probably repressing gay thoughts .. sounds like she’s looking at women as sexy objects 👀

[@Lost_mem0ry]

Time stamp?

[@rachelh3250]

Moodys Point Idk, she’s got the crazy eyes and that’s the main thing I noticed when I started seeing her videos advertised and I’ve literally avoided even clicking on her videos until just now because I just couldn’t believe this was getting positive comments or anything, and I was right to not believe lmao.

[@Zahra-bc6xb]

thats what goes on in a mans mind whether you believe it or not

[@ashleycorona9210]

zahra barez and? They should learn to control themselves

[@cordeliaorourke8211]

bruh if a boy can’t focus on my personality only my body then he belongs to the streets

[@Emmatriaaa]

And that’s on periodt. We date men, not boys. If they like you for your body and nothing else, they ain’t it sis.

[@moodswing_whiskey]

HELL YEAH

[@V3r0n7ca]

PERIODTT

[@pepperbismol2497]

Perioddddd

[@chrysalism7375]

Go off sis PERIODT 💅🏽

[@badartist189]

Thank you for posting this video. The ones who are upset at this video are just 304s

[@amandah1270]

“At 50 years old, do you want to be praised for your body or your family?” girl, why not both?

[@lg316]

She keeps referring to 50 as the magic number where a woman's ONLY worth is husband/children. By the time she's 50, she will see how life will take her smugness down a notch or two.

[@aileenortiz3699]

For my body, i’m not having a family ty 💅🏼

[@mrjones2721]

How about praising people for their contributions to the world? Pretty sure that’s a hell of a lot more Christian than either of her options.

[@alisaperez3716]

If i had a rocking bod at 50 and was still as athletic and good at dancing as JLO people better be talking about it cuz it's a DANG BIG ACCOMPLISHMENT

[@_hector__]

You cant have both, idiot Youve been fed all these lies that you can have EVERYTHING and its sad

[@jennifermena2034]

The whole “women should do -this - so men don’t do -this-” thing is stupid. I feel like it’s harder to follow that than to just teach men at a young age how to behave...

[@mikestarkly9226]

Yeah if a hot man comes up to the mall dressed in hardly anything I'd like to see how all the ladies keep it in their pants. Our eyes are there for us to perceive the world around us. What you wear/ don't wear projects to society things about your personality whether you like it or not. Why do you think uniforms are a thing for most professions? Especially serious ones....???Can you imagine a doctor showing up in your room during an emergency dressed as a one-man-band??? TELL ME you wouldn't JUDGE THAT. lol Similar thing on a different level.

[@theirishwizzard1]

@@mikestarkly9226 i think anyone would understand with a braincell that dressing for work/clubbing/hanging out/date/visiting family...... Etc is different dumbass.

[@characterdevelopment8504]

Mike Starkly I don’t condone ANYBODY sexualising anybody unless there is that level of consent. And uh yeah smart people don’t wear extremely revealing clothes in the work place. You act as if women are saying that they don’t want to be sexualised but they can sexualise others. The lesson here is to teach people to fucking keep it in their pants. Of course there’s certain places were there’s dressing etiquette. People know this. The way you’re talking is acting as if your clothes justify being sexually harassed. When we should teach EVERYBODY. From a young age that consent is needed for those kind of remarks. No form of sexual harassment is okay, so stop trying to justify one form of sexual harassment with sexual harassment. If I decide I want to wear something I feel comfortable enough wearing, whether it is revealing, or completely covering me. I can still get sexually harassed or assaulted. Instead of blaming it on clothing blame it on the education system that failed to teach our students about the importance in consent. If you remark something and the person looks uncomfortable or you two aren’t at that level of flirting whatsoever then don’t do it. It’s so easy. Teach all students to respect each other’s boundaries and consent. If there is no level of consent don’t do it. Especially if somebody tells you to stop or they look uncomfortable.

[@Pink_pr1ncess]

lem_ahn He’s a Men’s Rights activist probably, I bet if a woman complains about period cramps he would go “MEN HAVE PERIODS TOO!!!”

[@asteroidartistry9297]

@@mikestarkly9226 Guys walk around without shirts or with low hanging bottoms, or with those tank tops where the under arms are cut all the way down, like, huh?? They don't usually get harassed or cat called, and that's literally what youre saying lmao. Also, not shit a doctor would be in a ✨uniform✨ because they're ✨required to✨, and dressing professionally in the work place is also a given, so idk what you were trying to prove with that

[@smokeycloud58]

new drinking game: take a shot whenever Abby’s eyebrow raises up

[@lucylokovic5800]

Lol you trying to kill us?

[@aline8576]

Cloudy Tempt well that’s one way to get alcohol poisoning...

[@ellaemery1518]

not tryna die

[@autumnjewel3527]

I’ve been playing for 46 seconds and I’m f-ed up

[@minawaaak]

plot twist: she doesn’t actually have eyebrows

[@almams8613]

Women listen, if a man is sexually attracted to you that's HIS responsibility not yours, if your exposure comes off to somebody as inappropriate that's THEIR responsibility. Your responsibility is to allow yourself to feel beautiful (whether modestly or not), your responsibility is to love yourself no matter what, and you responsibility is to understand your body is beautiful !

[@Dennis-nc3vw]

Right because people can choose what turns them on. Unless they are gay. Then you jump up and down screaming that their homosexuality is not a choice.

[@Gen_-6012]

@@Dennis-nc3vw bro. If you are turned on by a woman whereing a tank top. That’s kinda weird ngl

[@fernandocamara6507]

Yes ofcourse, all the responsability is on men ( sarcasm )

[@almams8613]

K, I'm just a teen who tried to spread some love, I see I failed miserably 💀💀💀

[@CaptainBones222]

@@Gen_-6012 Um, no it's pretty reasonable. It outlines their body more.

[@brooke9188]

“Men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” Stop. Don’t throw all of them into a category. And, as a dancer of 15 years, “dancing in leotards,” has been the norm since the beginning.

[@delorislee5290]

Men are emotional. That’s so weird that she made that false statement.

[@phreephorm7964]

This video somehow managed to be misogynistic and misandrist all at once.

[@Deltoiddelsa]

👏👏👏👏👏

[@chrognos]

Same(the dancing part)!

[@TehMomo_]

like...I've heard men say this...and like...do they realize that they are insulting themselves...

[@ayanna3238]

can y’all stop buying this woman’s ads i’m tired of seeing them

[@indyewilliams7825]

RIGHT

[@kiersashera4280]

Fucking same

[@jaiking6279]

Omg KZbin has been pushing this crap on me forever.

[@scarycherry3392]

Same! I hate her toxic videos

[@a.ariana.a]

ikr these types of ads that piss me off are the only ones i get

[@ritechoa4048]

I was raped while wearing a sweatshirt and plain jeans (no rips and not very tight). I’m SIXTEEN and he’s TWENTY. Is that my fault for not being modest? He told me I was being “a tease” and was “asking for it”. NOTHING upsets me more than being called a tease. I also don’t wear revealing clothes (it’s totally okay if others do) because I’m not confident.

[@misssmisssymaria]

Ritechoa I hope you understand that it wasn’t your fault. None! ❤️ Even if a woman is being a tease, it doesn’t entitle men to brutalize women.

[@kaneshabarnes8930]

I’m sorry you went through that. It wasn’t your fault.

[@XRemARx]

Im so sorry and I hope youre getting the help and support you deserve. Do not let what he did change your perspective of who you are and your worth. Its not your fault

[@ritechoa4048]

Kanesha Barnes you’re so sweet, thank you for the kind words💛

[@ritechoa4048]

XRemARx I’m working towards it, thank you for your kind words☺️

[@ThatstaticGTI.]

Y’all need more women like this it’s hard to even rest left y’all anymore fr

[@miel2354]

You can respect your body without dressing “modestly” I dress like this because I’m comfortable with how I look and I love looking in the mirror and going damn that’s me I look goooodddd

[@allisonvanderwall4598]

You dropped this 👑

[@amycruzcuevas6426]

We love confidence in this household

[@anhadsidhu3283]

queen!

[@christina1109]

she really said “women are responsible for keeping men from seeing them as objects”

[@RielleAdaig]

girl 💀💀

[@earthlightlady5599]

She’s a whole mess

[@overlyover5253]

Hannah Telvanni or they could just learn how to do it themselves cause this isn’t kindergarten and no we’re not easing anybody into anything

[@kimrucker4622]

Hannah Telvanni nah i’m going to dress however i want. i shouldn’t need to have to teach men how to control themselves so i can wear what i want.

[@dayze4049]

For their own good lol kinda makes sense

[@melaniew5780]

Why would you assume that all men are sex chasing emotionless animals-

[@baddiewithaflattie4738]

men are not! BOYS are 😌

[@тоска-р1о]

Yeah, she saying men arent emotional creatures or whatever, all I can think of is what the fuck is wrong with her lol. Idk if she's ever had a chat with a guy or well, if she knows how emotions work. Really sucks too cause how men are told to repress their emotions and saying shit like that only makes it worst or just really shows the stigma of an emotional man. Really is fucked.

[@ameliajohnson3900]

They’re not, she never said that.

[@pandaconstruction1193]

She's not.

[@flamebluesun]

00:49 “men are visual creatures, not emotional ones.” ??? she clearly thinks of men as animals and women as people who have to provide for them. neither of which are appropriate.

[@ichhassemeinleben5102]

You may need to know this, men aren't stupid dogs. They're humans who don't always have a super small attention span. Women don't need to dress for others. They can dress how they want. Just because they dress a way, doesn't mean anything.

[@rey_nemaattori]

Try and show up at a job interview in your pyjama's and see how it goes.

[@angiesworld8038]

She never said men were dogs where are you getting that from??!

[@brianfinnegan9700]

how naive can a person be?

[@rommelthedesertfox3089]

Actually it does mean something

[@brianfinnegan9700]

I think u need a course in evolutionary psychology, there are evolutionary reasons for why men and women do certain things such as dress a certain way for example, these reasons are not always conscious

[@lovely-bm2by]

Or you can just leave people alone and let them wear whatever they want..

[@Gracetheface333]

agreed

[@brandyp.9602]

While I disagree with a lot of what she is saying, she isn't walking up to people policing their clothing. She has a right to post a video about this, just as other people have the right to post about how to dress.

[@dolliedearestt]

@@brandyp.9602 well, duh. Stoe didnt say she couldnt. They just disagreed with her points because they're dumb

[@davvan125]

Remember that is was you who decided to watch this video. You CHOSE to listen.

[@lovely-bm2by]

Davvan But she decided to talk about it. I’m not telling her to not think that way and not speak her own thoughts. She shared her opinion and so did I. If she wants to talk about dressing modestly than that’s ok but of course there are people like me who won’t always agree

[@renasaw5702]

Well, If a man can’t focus because your legs are showing or your clothes are revealing, he’s not worth it and it’s his problem. period

[@isabelallen1265]

She’s literally saying that you’re not respectable if you don’t dress “modestly”

[@caedmonv55]

Which is rape culture and one of the ways men devalue and take advantage of women. Wow.

[@pretty_d00med]

She's saying it's easier for people to not reapext you if you don't dress modestly

[@kissesandcake]

Well...she’s not wrong.

[@stephaniepennington716]

Lacey Martin she is actually very wrong, the way someone dresses do not give up their autonomy. Women’s bodies should be respected regardless of the clothing they are in. And if a man only respects my wishes to not be raped because I am dressing modestly than that is not a man I want in my life. How about if we stop constantly victim blaming and actually hold men who rape women accountable for their actions.

[@kissesandcake]

stephanie pennington YOU are actually very wrong. You are assuming she’s victim blaming and suggesting women are giving up their autonomy by dressing immodestly. Had you listened to the entire video, you would have known she not only addressed this but admonished those who do. Whether you like it or not, you will not be taken seriously dressed like a stripper. Just like men wearing thongs to a business meeting would not be taken seriously.

[@HellHoundTSO]

I love how these comments are not even harsh. They are just like "nah, no thanks"

[@joemullarkey5719]

I didn’t even care about this channel until I saw some of the like to dislike ratios and how glorious the comment sections are.

[@jasmyntea_]

This gives me “if you wear a crop top, you are literally asking for it/you are literally making yourself an object.”

[@dolphinman9896]

Don't even bother replying to the guy above, He's a troll.

[@jasmyntea_]

dolphin man lol I did not even see him 😌 tbh I don’t take criticism I won’t take advice from so I don’t even care to acknowledge him ✨

[@camryn9629]

She’s saying that men not being able to see you as anything other than a sex object is YOUR fault for what you wear. Just no.

[@jaidenw.5013]

this comment right here is why i love women(as friends)

[@sophiatroanska1432]

I don't think she's saying it's your fault. I think she's just being realistic. Men see female bodies as objects due to evolutionary traits. You can pretend it's not true or use this knowledge to your advantage.

[@damia.5974]

Sophia Troanska that is exactly what she’s saying. “being realistic” idm what you’re wearing, bad things will still happen.

[@camryn9629]

Sophia Troanska Yep! I agree, all of that is true, except the woman in the video is saying essentially that it’s your fault they think like that due to what you wear. Does that clear things up? If not, let me know :)

[@veeunfiltered]

Sophia Troanska what you’re saying is “boys will be boys” and that it’s not an Evolutionary trait, it is a learned behavior due to centuries of oppression against women. Just cause SOME ‘men’ objectify your body doesn’t mean ALL men do. Just like not all women are blindly helping this men objectify women like the creator of this video is.

[@crystalnewsom4801]

“For your body, or for your family” WHAT THE

[@honeymustard881]

Right 💀

[@maluc8561]

I just KNOW she’s a church camp counselor