Why You Should NEVER ❌ Wear Designer To Work *MY STORY*

[@Handbagholic]

Do you ever take your designer items to work? What was your experience? I'd love to know in the comments below! Join me on Instagram to get involved in future videos like this 👉 instagram.com/handbag_holic/

[@chanelschannel4705]

Exactly.

[@CosmicCutieCrafts]

The BEST and my favorite line to use when people question you, just say it was a birthday or Christmas gift from your family and friends. Nobody usually questions that answer.

[@ChiaraAliesh]

I acutally always took designer bags to work even as an intern and found that most people don't even realize how expensive those bags are or even that they are designer bags and those who did loved them and made compliments (worked in a bank and then as a lawyer)

[@Keep-on-ok]

I’m retired. I wear my bags wherever I choose.

[@LeaEspinoza12345]

@@ChiaraAlieshI’m an attorney as well. No one even bats an eye at my luxury bags lol. That’s why you have to buy luxury bags for yourself and not for others. The average person doesn’t know half the luxury bags we do and even if they recognize the brand, they don’t exactly appreciate how expensive the bags are. The only bag I’ve seen people actually notice and gasp at is my Birkin. And it’s only because it’s gotten so much fame in the past few years on social media and whatnot

[@theclassycode2861]

I would never, ever purchase a fake bag or say my bag was fake just to appease someone. They will have to just be mad and trigger through whatever trauma that has them feeling a way about what I do with MY money. My first “luxury” hand bag was a Coach duffle bag that I purchased almost 20 years ago after I graduated from University. It cost me 150 U.S. dollars and I saved for months for that bag. My next bag was a LV Neverfull and ,again, I saved for months until I was able to purchase it. Since then, I have been blessed to be able to afford other luxury purchases. I am proud of my purchases and wear them whenever and wherever I want. It is the most tackiest thing EVER to ask someone how much their bag costs or if their bag is fake! It’s my money. Mind your business.

[@KD-hr3iq]

All of this! Agreed!

[@orianthi_elys]

Yes!

[@miterca]

Yes!!

[@crystaldelvalle7246]

Completely agree!!! I am nicknamed BB at work (boujee b!txh). Isn’t that great. I regularly get asked, “oh, they’re/that’s new?!”, “oh, how much did that cost, we know it’s real” and when they notice something but don’t know the brand I get “so what brand is that today!?” I don’t understand why anyone feels it’s okay to ask someone about what they do with their money.

[@AnnaCN78456]

Lol

[@anastasias.3289]

I asked my boyfriend once if he thinks it’s ridiculous to spend a lot of money on designer bags and he was like “well, you’re asking someone who has four motorcycles.” My mind was blown! Everyone has something that they enjoy and are okay with spending money on, and that’s perfectly okay.

[@exchelsea]

Right? Some people just feel like they are so cool to judge everyone’s preferences. These people are usually super selfish and arrogant… I mean you have something you like or enjoy, so do I!

[@Empressranda]

I love his response so much. Like wow. My BIL judges the heck out of me and I know he thinks I’m some snob for liking my bags, meanwhile he’s got toys of his own ranging in the $ thousands cost.

[@SophiaLMitchell]

You're so right.

[@stephanienewington2629]

My partner is into photography, which is *not* a cheap hobby by any stretch, so he doesn't bat an eye when I treat myself to a pair of earrings or a nice necklace. As long as we aren't dipping in to the rent/grocery/vet bill funds, we spend and save our own money how we like 👍

[@tuttuttut7758]

As long as you don’t get into debt over it, do as you please with your own money.

[@Karenmariepombagira]

Looking good makes enemies. Even if you wear cheap stuff that looks good people get envious. They get envious of style and body shape. It would be cheap stuff but people thought it was designer. They even get upset if you wear makeup. Some folks are just jealous.

[@inyoureyes25]

Well said!!

[@lkofie6670]

Honest and true, you are speaking the story of my life within the workplace from one office/department to the next. Even among in-laws you would think they'd feel proud to have a SIL/DIL keeping herself up for just being in the family's name, the name of their brother/son. But instead, particularly if they (SIL) don't have it (well and even if they obtain it), you get all sorts of insinuations of spending up their brother's/son's money, insinuations of taking extreme measures to still be fit (they implied that I don't eat/have an eating disorder) because I wear the same clothing size from the time I said "I do" and other types of unpleasant comments made between them about me (they have a nickname for me of which they think I don't know what it means or that they'referencing me). They've made judgmental comments as if I'm not deserving or shouldn't have it. They forget or don't realize that MY HUSBAND who happens to be their son/brother met me and dated me living a stylish and physically fit way...I use to work retail for a popular department store back then for goodness sakes. They were open and friendly when they wanted to use me for my discount and then later it's as if they don't know me...I'm not invited on shopping trips or outings with them. I only hear from them if or when they need/want something. I've since remain cordial yet indifferent with them. As far as a social circle go (if you can even call it that anymore...), oh I get the praise but the eyes don't match the smile or there's the backhanded compliment. My "friends" who were actually my bridesmaids have since shown themselves I'm afraid, and has excluded me from their functions shortly after I got married...some comments had to do with looks and style along with other lies and comments made referencing me and my husband's union. Who ever had bridesmaids asking the bride on the day of her wedding if I think the groom is going to show up merely because he was a little delayed arriving to the church? Followed by whispers and stifled laughter. But well that was a looonnnng time ago...about 21 years ago to be exact and my husband and I are still going strong. It's such a shame that their shift in demeanor was based on their own insecurities over the most superficial reasons and pretty much others decided to join the bandwagon. After the hurt and confusion lifted I've also stopped caring years ago once I realized I'd outgrown them and knew I wasn't going to change how I carried myself cordially with people or stylishly on the count of any of them anyway...co-workers, in-laws, or peers.

[@icefan]

Is this a female thing? I don’t think my guy friends care what I wear- in fact, we give each other high fives when we’re wearing the same, or similar things.

[@lkofie6670]

@@icefan Lol...it most likely is. I've never heard male coworkers talk about another male colleague's wardrobe at the workplace.

[@melodiechartier5173]

it's not about jealousy!

[@Antoinettescloset]

You know what's annoying? A man can have cars, many cars. High end cars, wear suits, wear expensive watches. No eyes are batted. If a woman were to do the same or even not, but if she were to wear her handbags, nice jewelry, wear make up etc etc. She's being funded by her spouse or she's questioned on why she has those things or how much they cost. UGH!

[@Antoinettescloset]

@@KT-kc4wz 😠 you go girl!

[@SindyStylzFashion]

That is so true. It’s disgusting and annoying all in one. It really is.

[@hebbie831]

I never thought about this but great point.

[@andreaescalante3396]

In what kind of place do you work? Where I work, two of my bosses (a man and a woman) take to the office their high end car (my male boss) and her luxury bags (my female boss) and no eyes are batted. Same for some of my female colleagues. Nobody criticises nobody for those things... I don't know. Maybe I'm the weirdo working in a cool work enviroment...

[@vannaeldwijk7075]

It all depends where you work

[@jillbaker988]

Hi - I am 61 & retired and have always loved handbags. My Mom died in the pandemic and left me a very small inheritance payment. We used to talk about bags all the time (not luxury) just cheap & cheerful. I bought a vintage Speedy 30 and a brand new Neonoe from Selfridges so I could take my Mom’s memory with me everywhere with my inheritance. I have had so many comments and negative responses to doing this. My younger sister actually said “you’re not spending a thousand pounds of Mom’s money on a bag”… why not? She would love it. I will keep it forever, I will treasure it (& the Speedy!) Unfortunately in life people will ram what they think is “right” down your throat. As you said Steph, ‘passive aggressive’. We all chose to spend what we have on what we love. If we don’t, what’s the point? Love your videos. Thanks for listening.

[@Tristin57]

That's so beautiful. Carry your LV in your mother's honor! I absolutely Love this. And like you said I'm sure she would too 😇

[@asq4867]

I think that is a wonderful idea. After my grandmother died I bought myself a Cartier watch with some inheritance, and think of her every time I wear it.

[@sunburn1013]

So sorry to hear about your mother’s passing. May she rest in peace. I think you should wear your purchases with pride and love and simply ‘side-eye’ your younger sister. It’s your money now, your precious memories of your mum and therefore your rules are the only ones that apply.

[@tarreemhacaruso2687]

I’m that mom Jill and I’d love it. Either treat yourself or invest it would be my only request ❤️

[@robind2727]

Almost the same here. I lost both my parents within 1 yr 9 mos of each other. Mom in 2020 and Dad 6 mos ago. It has been a rough two years. I chose to buy myself a Balenciaga City bag that I use everyday. I feel the same as you do. I carry it with love.

[@sunburn1013]

Buy and wear what you love. Life is too short and time is too precious to waste on worrying about what others think about your handbag choices.

[@SteffieDee46]

I agree. Wearing my bags gives me joy! I wear a different one to work everyday. I don’t wear them to please others. I could care less what others think.

[@imdeniece]

True.. You do what you want its your life.

[@ScarletQue]

Yup

[@BronzeHoneyBee]

THIS! ❤️

[@angelkayx]

This. I was raised to never ever let anyone know all of the nice things that I’ve worked really hard to save up for. I don’t come from a rich family at all and I saved up for two whole years to buy my first used Louis Vuitton bag. When I got it, I was so paranoid and afraid and I felt undeserving of the bag. Like I was parading around with something that I didn’t properly represent. I ended up selling that bag off and carrying a cute little Amazon branded bag for a while but then I’ve come across another used LV piece that caught my eye after many years and I’m going to save up for it. I realize and acknowledge that it is a “luxury” to have these items but being someone who’s worked to get something that I love, I want others to be able to enjoy what they love without feeling the prejudice and resentment of others. Life is truly too short to judge what people want to spend money on or wear or eat when we should all celebrate each other.

[@dustyshaller4428]

Such an interesting topic. Funny, a lot of these types of comments come from people who regularly buy Starbucks, go out to lunch every day, and get bi-weekly manicures, etc. That can add up to hundreds of dollars a month. I do the opposite and save for a beautiful luxury bag.

[@danipulido2888]

Same!

[@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult]

Ikr we spend money according to what is more important for us

[@JoJoLux]

Me too! Modest car, modest house, modest holidays, modest jewellery. Walk instead of taxis, do my own nails etc….

[@RationallyMe]

Exactly! I always drive a paid for car, so while they're paying exurbitant car paymensts, I use my money to enjoy life.

[@tiffanymoore6763]

I agree! I used to have lots of coworkers who would spend a lot on everything you just mentioned. Meanwhile I would sit by the lake at the park eating my packed lunch from home for free, taught myself to do my own manicure/ pedicures at home. Every time I walked in with a new designer bag they would judge me because they couldn’t understand how I was so disciplined with how I saved my money instead of spending it on a lot of unimportant time me things just do I could buy luxury items guilt free.

[@eliseg0001]

Oh gosh this makes me feel so lucky to be in a corporate environment (financial firm) where even the interns/lowest level employees are well compensated. My whole team bring their Louis Vuitton bags to the office and we love to talk about them and are very open on price without ill-intent

[@themango9644]

i love that

[@lisafalzetta9116]

Same here! Corporate office, and we all bring our good bags every day.

[@emmawatsonfanzone]

I work in the care industry (care assistant in a nursing home) and I bought my first ever designer handbag back before lockdown in 2020. It was a Micheal Kors Ginny crossover bag and it cost me quite a bit of money and when I told my work colleagues all I got was as “why waste you’re money on a bag at that price?” “Primark do similar bags for £8!” “You’re daft!”. Excuse me?? I worked my arse off doing loads of OT and I deserved to treat myself.

[@sunburn1013]

Absolutely right you deserve it- even more so since the pandemic. Caring work is hard physical, mental and emotional work. Buying yourself a beautiful bag that you work damn hard for should be applauded.

[@minniex622]

Primark bags are useless! Why to spend 8€ on a useless bag instead to save that 8€ and get a real luxury item bag👜💕 Enjoy your Michael Kors purchase!♥️♥️♥️👜

[@lkofie6670]

@@sunburn1013 Exactly...and she did mention working alot of overtime (as I can only imagine during the lockdown period) so WHY NOT? NOT that it's anyone's business anyway.

[@betsysanders4524]

When someone asks about my bag, cost etc. I often say that “I’m not sure, it was a gift from my sister & her kids. She loves that designer.” It is often the truth but it is also an easy way to deflect.

[@meanddrizzylaughedatthat438]

Yup! I use this excuse every single time. “It was a gift from my best friend. She always gifts me nice gifts” and just immediately change the topic.

[@lkofie6670]

AGREED...or I'd say "Oh boy, it's been a while since I got this one. I don't even remember." I like dated and vintage stuff anyway so for particularly LV, the bag would've been long patinad by then, so it really does look like "it's been a while" lol.

[@kimle848]

I would say it was from a friend who barely used it but now wanted something else. Or it’s from pre- loved market. That may give some of them the pleasure of thinking “eww, I would rather buy a new cheap bag than an used designer one”. I have no problem with that.

[@ericacosta987]

I couldn’t care less, Neverfull, Givenchy Antigona, YSL tote, deal with your jealousy!! Fact is, we all get paid almost the same salaries, so WHY shouldn’t I buy something with my money??!! People have too many issues where it doesn’t concern them… so I never really got bothered with it

[@chanelschannel4705]

Exactly.

[@iamisis-diariodeumapensado6383]

Accurate, some prefer to spend in clubs, cigars or whatever that make them happy why should we follow the pack if its not our vibe?🤷🏽‍♀️

[@chanelschannel4705]

@@iamisis-diariodeumapensado6383 exactly

[@SONYARenee]

Well said. I’ve been purchasing luxury bags for awhile and have been giving some as gifts. A so-called friend wouldd always say “it cost too much”, or ‘its a waste of money”. Since she’s gotten a better job , a husband with a better job. She purchased her first LV bag so I wonder if its still a waste of money . Females Black women are envious of other Black women and it’s sad. I’m going to wear mine and continue to purchase for myself and my three yrs old.

[@pamela5250]

@@iamisis-diariodeumapensado6383 right! I don’t go out to bars and do t have any other vices so what different does it make that I “waste” my money differently than they do.

[@Rachel57567]

So what exactly am I supposed to do with my neverfulls and on the go and speedy bags? They’re work bags. What’s the point of spending all that money on a bag (or anything) for that matter, if you’re only going to wear it for a few hours occasionally on some weekend? I know this is a highly debated topic, but I cannot understand why. Besides, pretty much everyone in bigger cities wears designer bags, especially to corporate jobs. Maybe not Chanel or Hermes, but certainly Mulberry, Burberry, the LV bags with a lower price point, Gucci are all very common to see. And why would colleagues assume that it means you’re paid more than them? You could have inherited the money, your partner could be rich, you could have bought them second hand or inherited the bags themselves. People will always find something to be jealous of in others. Life is too short to start changing your lifestyle and not doing what makes you happy to appease these insecure types. Sorry not sorry. I wear my designer bags to work, it’s the best part of my day and I have no intention of stopping.

[@SteffieDee46]

I agree totally! I wear a different designer bag every week to work. Sometimes a different one each day. I don’t hide my bags from the public. That’s ridiculous.

[@miterca]

EXACTLY!!!! I honestly cannot imagine spending all that money and not being able to wear them to work...how do you even justify the purchase? Like I said I really feel it's a problem with self. You don't want to come off a certain way, but why are you so worried about it? Now you really gonna let someone dictate what you can wear to work when they have no business!

[@nadinevanderpoorten7416]

They say it out of jealousy, yet people have no problem going in debt for a new Iphone, an expensive vacation etc, with credit cards.

[@DaniefromCanada]

💯

[@divine2297]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@RationallyMe]

I started out reading finance magazines when I was a teenager; then I graduated to financial independence blogs; I'm now a FI podcast gal. I preface my statement with this to make the point that I am VERY careful with my money. I am called the Fashionista at work, and I'm not sure how to feel about it. What I hate is people assuming that I'm superficial because I care about my appearance. What they don't know is that I ALWAYS drive a paid for car and most of my items are luxury consignment. So, the money they spend every month on a car payment, I can afford to spend on enjoying my life. When people ask intrusive questions about anything, my response is always, "Wow, I'm surprised you feel comfortable asking someone that". It works every time.

[@springfauna1465]

Not to mention that it's bad manners. People always give themselves away by how they act around money.

[@EbonyRivers1]

Ha!! Clever clapback! That shuts it down really quickly.

[@lkofie6670]

Yes...I LIKE that approach. Maybe I can even lie and say "Wow...that's the first time I've ever been asked that question."...I've also been dubbed "Fashionista," "Very stylish" "shopaholic"...nevermind that my wardrobe is a lifetime of items that has accumulated a little over TWO DECADES, and thankfully I been able to work hard to maintain my figure and clothing size so that I can still wear them. I also humor consignment boutiques AND local thrift stores being that my style dictates I shop at those places to get the pieces I would prefer to wear. Naaaah...that would just be too real for them so they'd rather stick with the notion that I spend my paycheck on clothes and shoes and my husband is frustrated with my purchases.

[@vanillaicecream4162]

I wear mine all the time to work when I feel like it. I spend most of my life working so if I don't enjoy it then, when will I get to enjoy them? I'm too old to care what others may think. I worked hard and that is my choice for enjoyment. Great video!!

[@ladyfrance3]

Exactly ! I do the same 🤗

[@SteffieDee46]

I agree totally and I do the same!

[@vaniagones]

Same here!

[@tarreemhacaruso2687]

❤️❤️❤️EXACTLY

[@pameladainton4861]

Absolutely 😊

[@antoa5825]

My supervisors were always the ones who made comments on my bags, which was so insulting. When LV first re-launched the Damier Ebene print very few people had it or knew what it was. My higher ups figured it out and made the same comments as stated in the video, like "you don't need a raise, you'll just spend it on handbags." It was plain jealousy because they were very stingy and would buy their clothes or bags at discount stores (no judgement), but because they deprived themselves they thought no one else deserved nice things.

[@bumblebee4280]

I would tell them exactly that to their faces. If I've already lost a raise because of their jealousy they deserve to know what I think about them.

[@imalrockme]

A friend of a friend of mine actually had a hard time at work - works at a textile factory - when she started showing to work in a BMW, a used one but nice one, gifted from her parents in law who previously owned it. The hard time didn't come from her colleagues, they all got along. It came from her employers, like bullying. Your story reminded me also of Karen Britchick's "What everyone is wearing in summer in NY", where a really fashionable guy said he chose to buy his super exclusive LV bag, precisely because it had such a fun and outrageous pattern that everyone just assumed it was fake! Sometimes, it's the best thing to do :)

[@melodiechartier5173]

it's not about jealousy, some people really think it's dumb to spend that much money on a bag, that's their opinion. Doesn't make them jealous even though it's not their businesses.

[@chanellover2143]

@@melodiechartier5173 it’s usually ugly women who resent other women spending on themselves. Can’t imagine an ugly woman not being jealous of a pretty or well put together woman.

[@jessicacereceres2404]

Yes this is so well said…..like if i like nice things theres nothing wrong with that….how i spend my money is none of anyone’s business.

[@magdalenac5811]

I work in highly paid job. My boss drives Maserati, my colleague has like 10 houses for rent from her income from this job so nothing can bother them :-) Payrises are managed through a fixed table of ratings and ratings are decided in calibration meetings for all associates of a given level. In previous job my colleagues made snarky comments about my husband being sugar daddy but I couldn't care less (I wish he was lol).

[@katemiller7874]

Love this

[@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult]

Do you work in finance?

[@magdalenac5811]

@@AmandaVieiraMamaesouCult Tech (but I'm not IT person). Used to work in Finance and whilst ratings/promotions process was the same, reactions of colleagues to luxury varied (from sugar daddy comments to whatever, couldn't care less).

[@nikkir5115]

Are you a recruiter in tech or still in finance?

[@lkofie6670]

Yes...I work for the government so everyone gets a raise during their annual anniversary and cost of living raise...some make more than others which is based on when they started/seniority so our pay and/or raises are evaluated and at times based on unionized contractual agreements. Anyhow, because we are government employees, our salaries are made public. So anyone who's curious enough can go online and see a colleagues salary...I had this former coworker who would make remarks about why she choose not to "dress up" for work anymore (compared to me) look up my salary for reasons that I insinuate as getting an idea on how I dress the way I do. I've gotten plenty of questions on what my husband does for a living to the stereotypical assumption or questions about how he feels about me "spending so much money on shoes". Every work place in the private sector was the same questions too...over and over.

[@karenl.5117]

I live in Hong Kong and many coworkers carried Hermes bags in my past workplace and I even purchased a Preloved Hermes bag because trying to fit in and feel in the same group too as my coworkers. Cultural differences is a really thing

[@Handbagholic]

Thanks for sharing Karen, it really does make a huge difference. It's so interesting to hear these stories and how it differs

[@evalmiki2011]

Agree. My workplace had many women in the sales and marketing group wearing designer bags and shoes.

[@Rwissam1987]

Asians are more obsessed with luxury handbags than others, they are known for that! Lol

[@fascinationmama]

yes more supportive in hk

[@Omagatsuhi]

@@fascinationmama they are used to seeing those brands around. Hermes, Prada, Chanel, Dior etc. HK has thousands of multimillionaires, squashed into a tiny city. Like Singapore. Japan and China - also have a lot carrying those brands in their mega cities like Tokyo and Shanghai.

[@thelinetteedit1879]

100% agree with the “read the room” approach. I personally don’t wear anything super recognizable to work because I’m afraid it could indirectly affect my raises and promotions. I’ve clocked that our VP carries Kate Spade, and some of the managers/directors wear lux totes and shoes, but coworkers at my level don’t, so I also don’t, but I’m sure it would be ok if I did. If I were to, I’d probs just consistently bring the same bag in so people didn’t know how many I actually have 😅

[@ms_cartographer]

I bring my kate spades to work, but the logo is really small on them, and it's all men in my department. They can't tell the difference between a kate spade and a Walmart bag.

[@Marissa_tm]

I was always taught no, no, no! You don’t want to “look” better than your boss/manager/supervisor or give anyone a reason to not promote you. “Oh, she brings LV every day. She’s doing alright. She doesn’t need a promotion.”

[@bumblebee4280]

😥 So weekends are the only time you can be your most representative self? I'd have to quit that job and find one where the boss easily dresses better than me.

[@anastasias.3289]

My bf thinks the same way! He doesn’t drive his Mercedes to work because he thinks his boss might think he doesn’t need raises 😂

[@lkofie6670]

Which is quite sad and unprofessional for anyone over you at any title level to base your raise on anything other than job performance.

[@lkofie6670]

@@bumblebee4280 OR, the boss would need to get over it OR start to dress just as well as I do.

[@sofyab.6264]

No one gives you a promotion because you need it but because they need you. So no issue with the bag 😊

[@dionnelouden9481]

If I buy it, whether it is a bag, clothes, car, jewelry, or whatever it is, I am carrying it, wearing it, driving it anywhere and everywhere I want. I very literally do not care what anyone else’s opinion is. We spend waaaayyyy too much time worrying about what other folks have to say. I say rocks your bags proudly!

[@ScarletQue]

Totally

[@rosan727]

Exactly! I don’t give a damn what anyone thinks! If I bought it I’m wearing it

[@ednagarcia123]

“Handbags to Hell” my supervisors and coworkers have made my workplace so toxic and hostile all because I carried my LV’s that I had years before working there. I have been bullied and my handbags vandalized. If you don’t work with people who are financially stable and emotionally stable; mature, ethical, moral, etc. Do not take designer handbags to work. Especially LV. Complete ignorance/jealousy really exists. First time in my life I have had to witness such horrible human behavior from women who are insecure to the level of hate over a handbag!

[@ginyu2969]

Yikes even touching your bag?? People are vile.

[@JennaNeal]

That’s so sad. I hope you can get out of there. Sounds toxic.

[@jeanmariehicks]

You should sue them for vandalizing your purses , that’s unacceptable.

[@ednagarcia123]

@@jeanmariehicks I considered it, but decided to have LV repair/restore and I transferred. Transferring was the best solution. I have no doubt Karma will take care of their sorry souls. If this had not happened to me I would have stayed there, so it was a blessing in disguise. It was Gods way of letting me know to “get out”.

[@ednagarcia123]

@@JennaNeal I did! Thank you

[@andreacoppolecchia4452]

I’ve had a few different experiences with this. I worked in a place where many of my colleagues were into designer bags and we would talk about them often and bring in our bags to show each other (in a fun way) and even shop together. I notice in my current workplace that not too many people carry designer items so I keep it limited to contemporary brands or designer bags that are understated.

[@katemiller7874]

Maybe it’s an age thing I couldn’t care less what they say or think. I love to tell them how much it costs. It’s great. The look on their face is priceless. I am unapologetic.

[@SteffieDee46]

I feel the same.

[@patriciaquintela899]

Even if you lose money or even if you never sell a bag, I know so many people that spend thousands in hobbies that I do not give any value to and I still manage to be supportive. Unfortunately if the hobby is luxury seems to revolt people to the point of being nasty😒. I can only say that luxury seems to be often targeted by jealousy.

[@claudiakalkbrenner4148]

Amazing topic! I got so so many comments on my luxury bags that I can’t even fit them all in here… One that stayed with me was a colleague asking me if it was fake or real and how much it was? And another colleague coming straight to my rescue and saying, “she doesn’t do fake! It was pretty much the same as your phone and she can always resell it and get the money back, unlike your phone, that is worth half of the money now, right?!” I was just speechless and so proud of my colleague for defending me 😊💖

[@nghibluu]

Wow you have such an amazing colleague right there 👏👏👏

[@CosmicCutieCrafts]

The BEST and my favorite line to use when people question you, just say it was a birthday or Christmas gift from your family and friends. Nobody usually questions that answer.

[@nadinevanderpoorten7416]

I would not wear luxury to work, because people are easily jealous, they think u buy your luxury with your job's income, they might ruin your job oppertunity out of jealousy, instead of asking you how you are able to afford it.

[@Handbagholic]

Exactly!

[@sallyseng123]

How else would one afford it if not buying it with your income? Yes I bought it with my income and yess I’m wearing it to work!

[@Rachel57567]

Why would they assume that? You could have inherited the money, your partner could be rich, you could have bought the bags pre loved or inherited the bags themselves. I have so many colleagues who are more junior than I am but they carry much nicer bags. I know for a fact it’s because one of them has rich and generous parents and they other has a wealthy partner. Do your male colleagues hide their expensive watches? Do any of your colleagues or you for that matter feel that you shouldn’t talk about your exciting holiday because it was expensive and people will get jealous? How’s a bag any different? And where are people supposed to wear luxury to then? A family outing for three hours every other weekend? You might as well not buy the stuff, what a waste.

[@ladyfrance3]

@@Rachel57567 exactly ! I wear designer bags or accessories everywhere ! Including job’s place. If people are jealous or not happy, well that’s none of my business 🤷‍♀️

[@m.h.t1286]

@@sallyseng123 I share your sentiment. I wear mine to work too! (especially designer jewellery…). My employers & colleagues know I work very hard! As long as I buy them with my earned income & not stealing from anyone, no shame or hiding whatsoever!

[@CarlosG96]

I recently started working a law firm and I notice a lot of head turn when I brought in my Chanel la boy bag. Mind you it was the gunmetal black new medium size. And my manager kept on asking me about it and I was genuine about my respond. But the conversation lead to me talking about my other luxury bags, and I notice how her face change and how disinterested she was in conversation. Within the next couple of days ppl were being really quiet around me. It was weird and it’s still is. I stop wearing my bags. I might now get myself a Givenchy bag.

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

I’m surprised because law firms usually don’t look down or question luxury bags, shoes, watches, etc Banking, real eatate, law firms, tech companies are usually a safe space for those of us who enjoy wearing luxury accessories

[@jules5199]

I work in a chemistry lab which is largely men. Most of my colleagues wouldn’t recognise luxury

[@Misu.A]

That’s the best

[@82medical]

Same here but I'm a physicist 😂

[@isateasane]

Same! Im in software development with only male colleagues and they just dont care 😆

[@ladyfrance3]

@@isateasane the same here lol 😆

[@jules5199]

Shout out to STEM handbag collectors

[@prettytalia143]

Years ago when I brought a designer bag to work (LV) at a job where I made peanuts (entry-level), my own manager came up to me and said, “we must be paying you too much,” and I quickly replied, “I can assure you that’s not the case.” He never made another comment on my designer goods again. Now that I’m in upper management and work in San Francisco, I wear a lot of designer items (bags, shoes, jewelry) with no issue since it’s so common there.

[@Mommyingthis]

My husband has a very nice car. VERY nice car. When he would bring it to work, the bosses would give him a hard time. Despite hard work and deserving it, promotions would lag or wouldn’t come when it should have. They would say he didn’t seem like he needed the money although works his a$$ off and deserved certain promotions because he had a nice car…

[@vanillaicecream4162]

Sorry about your husband's situation. I agree with Steph that promotions should be based purely on work productivity. What someone decides to do with their hard earn money is their business.

[@perthfanny3017]

Just curious, which car is it?

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

Some of these managers have too much control especially when it’s a public company and not a small business… I started driving a brand new cadillac suv (leased by my ex bf) and you would have thought I was driving a bentley or rolls royce… There was sooooo many jealous comments and side eyeing and btw, I never got big promotions only the standard 3 percent every year even though my work deserved the highest amount (which was 10 percent for that specific company)

[@crystalriley9671]

This story hits home on so many levels. One of my co-workers just purchased a new Burberry trench coat, and she was so excited to show it off. The office has a shared closet, and it came up missing at the end of the day. She was devastated because she dropped $1500 on a coat that she wore for like 2 hours. After that incident, I went to work wearing designer items and fine jewelry and lied and said it is all fake. purchased from China. One of my friends knew my bag was real and asked me how much I really paid, I said" no comment" and it is fake( wink, wink)

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

Someone stole a coworker’s coat in 2022????!! There’s no security or surveillance cameras??? WTF!!! I would have went to upper management and filed a claim. That’s ridiculous

[@annhans3535]

Someone did that to husband.

[@bumblebee4280]

I hate thieves with all my heart.

[@XOAliciaMarie]

Oh my goodness! Your friend I feel for her!

[@jewelnabq01]

That's a good idea but so sad you have to resort to lying to protect your hard earned items. I feel for your coworker and especially knowing you work among a thief. Argh.

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

So sad but true… one of the many reasons I hated working in corporate America. And it’s always jealous women (usually older than you and sorry to say this but white) Now I’m a flight attendant and you don’t work with the same crew all the time so there’s no jealousy or promotion to worry about. Most of us are like “yes girl” “beautiful bag” and often tell each other about hidden gems in other countries. There’s always someone telling you where to get the replicas in china or where to get a good consignment authentic bag in paris or rome

[@lkofie6670]

I've gotten scrutiny and limited/occasional praise from women colleagues at work of various age ranges and ethnic/racial backgrounds...didn't matter. As long as I was not dressing for work the way that "everyone else" came to the workplace which was a casual/relaxed dress code as I would always be business casual and professional including designer gear, I got noticed for my style and it always came with some form of scrutiny from someone without fail.

[@melodiechartier5173]

it's not about jealousy, some people really think it's dumb to spend that much money on a bag, that's their opinion. Doesn't make them jealous even though it's not their businesses.

[@lkofie6670]

@@melodiechartier5173 Yes...that's true. I don't think it's anything wrong with that. Everyone has their point of view and opinions on one thing or the other particularly in this case when it comes to wardrobe being bought and used for style versus basic use and necessity. I wouldn't be open to spending "X" amount of dollars on a particular item of clothing or accessory myself. It's just, I don't understand why people become self-righteous to the degree of spewing their personal views on someone, seemingly with the intent of being prideful, shaming them, making them feel guilty, or well...in some situations the person feels insecure about how another person presents herself stylishly compared to her. See, just because YOU (not you personally) aren't into wearing makeup and "dressing" for work because you think it's a waste of time and money doesn't mean the other person should downplay their preference to fit yours. PERSONALLY, I'm a to each his/her own type of person...what I will or won't do isn't for everyone and vice versa. But I don't agree with people feeling so compelled to impose their self-righteous point of view on the next person or display their insecurities out on someone because they are styled well and/or make an effort while they either don't have the wherewithal or means to do the same within their capabilities or even try.

[@tayloredbeautyedit]

I worked at a small, 10-person company pre-pandemic and would wear my luxury bags to work. Despite making an entry-level salary (I didn't even qualify to be salaried) and being young, I had a couple bags that I had saved up for since I didn't have many expenses. In addition to nosy comments from judging female coworkers, I also had the boss' brother say "Wow, he must really be into you" after seeing my YSL bag. I did not have a boyfriend, nor would that comment have been appropriate regardless, and he was clearly making misogynistic assumptions. I had bought the bag myself using the too-little money his brother paid me for essentially running a department on my own. Luckily I quit several months later and now make twice as much freelancing. He still makes IG Stories joking about how his wife begs him for luxury items that he'll never buy for her.

[@ericacosta987]

Essentially, a loser 😂😂

[@sunburn1013]

Love this! Wear your bags with pride.

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

Thankfully you got away from that toxic work environment… one of the many reasons why I never decided to work for a small family run business

[@tarshafisher4627]

I love when I see anyone with high end merchandise. It’s inspiring. I never thought anyone would care about me having designer bags. As it tuned out, I get negative comments from relatives and passive aggressive attitudes from co-workers/supervisor. It’s a sad world when you work hard for everything, and then have to walk on eggshells with how you present yourself in it.

[@lkofie6670]

Yeah...I get it...it happened/happens to me and STILL continue mo matter where I go to work.I get the negative side remarks and passive aggressive behavior towards me from my SILS. My conclusion is, I never asked any one of them for money to buy the wardrobe I have now so, they have no choice but to embrace it because I'M not changing my style to suit the insecurities or power tripping ways of anyone, workplace or homefront.

[@roseg1333]

“We pay you too much” is why I won’t bring my bags to work. I had do workers that would pick apart my outfits and say I shouldn’t buy anything expensive and the most expensive thing I wore were hunter boots. I can’t believe the audacity of how they think they can tell me what to do with the money I earned 😤 boils my blood.

[@bumblebee4280]

I can't trust myself not to tell people when they look grubby. I think the work culture is different in my country. People look up to well groomed people and shower them with compliments. Also it will be easier to negotiate a better salary in your best clothes, especially when starting a new job.

[@roseg1333]

@@bumblebee4280 nice clothes yes but luxury items is not well dressed it’s luxury . What country are you from?

[@tiffanymoore6763]

I am definitely that person who is judged constantly for choosing luxury items and it’s always by people who are low key envious they don’t have it. People who actually don’t care what you have would never try to compare how you spend your money vs. how they spend theirs. Some folks just need to grow up and realize “we are not the same!” I have a co- worker who spends hundreds a week on flavored coffee drinks, hobby lobby, lunch out everyday, stuff for her pets and I have ZERO of those interests or expenses.. But when I save that same money she spends every week to buy larger designer items, she always has something to say. My response when she says she would never spend her money on luxury things my response is always “well you can’t do it because it takes more discipline to save for something special than spending constantly on a lot of little things every day!”

[@ScarletQue]

Good for you 😂

[@divine2297]

She’s just jealous

[@indoraya7941]

True!

[@alifern5015]

I used my YSL black shopping tote as my work bag for years which was perfect as was very inconspicuous especially if the YSL charm was hidden (which sometimes I did on purpose).

[@ingriddavis5707]

I work in a civil engineering environment, so nobody notice my bags other that a few females (most of them Admi) but they are always nice, and the comments are very sweet (have in mind a take my Birkin and Kelly to work) However, I use to work for an small company before, and I got a electric car when they were brand new and quite expensive. My salary was not enough to afford this car, and I actually my husband paid for it. Once a senior director make a comment about my car (like we paid you too much or your husband is rich), my answer was like… “Yes, I married smart! Also so he did. He knows in a couple years I’ll be making more that him” Part of my answer hint him I was going to leave the company 😂😂😂

[@clara102glen8]

It is a good discussion point - my own view is that it depends on your seniority and/or the environment. When i worked for a local UK company, i would wear all my desiger bags mainly Chanel - the response was extremely negative including from the owners of the company who often made remarks such as 'we are paying you too much' When i moved to another UK local company i decided to stick to an expensive but not recognisable laptop bag but somehow they knew it was expensive. Again i would receive the 'X says we are paying you too much.' At this point i had a healthy property portfolio, shares and other investments acquired BEFORE i joined the company. Now i am back working in the City and i wear all my bags - Constance 24, Kelly 25, Kelly 28 and that is simply because it is a French Company based in the City of London where many of the women have beautiful designer bags. My suggestion is to use your female intuition - you will know if it is appropriate..............

[@jackiezubiri1490]

So I am a 53 year old who got started with the luxury bags at 49? I believe when my husband bought me my first bag ever!! An LV Montaigne. I was instantly in love and since then have been acquiring bags mostly on my own a couple others from my hubby. To use these bags outside of work or only on your two days off would be ridiculous!! Bags make me happy and I wear them to work. Co workers know me for loving bags. Do they think I’m crazy? Probably but those who know me know I love them! Btw I am a clerk at Costco and I wouldn’t change a thing. Wear what you have and don’t care what people think of you. If they know who you are then it shouldn’t be a problem. Everyone take care and be happy in this messed up world.

[@contentwithcandace]

It depends on where you work. I carry my designer bags just like I carry my contemporary bags. I have no issues. Sometimes I get complements. Sometimes I don’t.

[@millymoolemos]

As an independent consultant I think now its the opposite. The quiet luxury makes people feel subconsciously that I am "worth" their investment

[@Manananggal-oe8gs]

Especially in real estate

[@kami_k7]

I was given a veryyyy small raise the year my coworkers found out I drove a luxury car. I did my best to hide it but the year they found out I received so many comments including “budget is tight and you clearly don’t need the money” 😐. I work my butt off but just happen to like nice things 🤷🏻‍♀️ I never take luxury handbags in due to the same reason. People unfortunately get jealous. I couldn’t believe they reduced my annual raise that year. I received a small fraction of what everyone else received

[@Handbagholic]

This makes me so angry for you Kami! That's completely NOT okay of your work place. Sending you love

[@orianthi_elys]

Wow that's shocking! I'm sorry to hear that.

[@contentwithcandace]

That is cruel. So sorry to hear that, Kami. I would be applying for other jobs so I could resign from this one.

[@JP-kl1mj]

That is total BS! Shame on them.

[@Wildunfiltered]

A client once commented to me that this must be where their fees are going! You have to be very careful with perception. Many clients however see luxury as a sign of success so they want business advice and strategy from me. I have had many judgey comments from colleagues - they often spend just as much as me on other things such as drinking and meals out but this isn’t judged by others in same way. I see it as just a matter of priority. Why can’t people let others be?

[@chanelschannel4705]

I’m not going to tip toe around insecure people who are lost

[@katie9173]

So glad you made this video, Steph! I’m interviewing right now for a new job in NYC and am wondering about this. I think the most I’d carry to work would be a Longchamp. They hold a ton and are durable, not flashy but still a great and respected brand. I bring my flashier bags into the city all the time and there are tons of people with designer bags and clothes so I don’t worry about it then. But it’s like you said, it really depends on the individuals situation. My mom would never bring a high end designer bag to work. She carried a modest, understated black leather Coach bag. However her coworkers carried Gouyard, Prada, Givenchy, etc daily. So if everyone else is doing it, why not? Have you made a best work bag video before? If not, would love to see one! Especially with understated and secure bags. Security is really important to me when walking around NYC and taking the subway. Thanks again for a great video!

[@Handbagholic]

Thanks for sharing! Yes I have if you go to my Chanel and search best work bags I share some of my favourites 🙌

[@Bella-yb6gg]

I do not support buying fakes, however, I dont buy the (I dont know where my moneys going) response at all because none of us know where our money goes for most items we buy! My reason for not buying fakes is quality and being loyal to a brand and thats the answer i like to hear.

[@kins1332]

Yes, ummm...I have attempted to take my designer handbags to work. I have stopped as I'm always questioned and criticized about it and even judged. I stopped taking my handbags to work. I was tired of defending and explaining myself and being called out. 🙄 Thank you for sharing your thoughts and experiences on this topic.

[@totallytony]

When working in retail I bought myself a Mini Convertible and my boss’s made a point of saying they were clearly paying me too much. It was a very toxic thing workplace

[@ScarletQue]

Did you tell him that you are just better at decision making about life choices? And you know how to enjoy life? Thats why you bought a mini convertible. Live your life.

[@lovelysentiments]

I stick to mostly mid tier brands for work. In the past I've taken my longchamp le pliage to work, great bag very functional and carries a lot!

[@gillsargisson8863]

I wouldn’t take mine to work as I keep mine for lunches/dinners and days out etc. It makes my blood boil as well Steph if people make nasty comments. If you earn your own money then you have a right to spend it on WHATEVER you want! And believe me, if I had the money I would always be in Chanel or Dior 🤣🤣🤣 instead of just the occasional piece once in a while. However, on the other side of the coin, I don’t begrudge people buying fake designer bags, as there are a lot of people who just quite simply cannot afford even one genuine Chanel due to the ridiculous hike in prices, but would dearly love that designer look, just as long as they don’t try and sell it on as genuine. ❤️💙💚

[@annabiggs2534]

I’m sorry if I don’t wear my designer bags to work what’s the point in owning them? I’m not paying all that money out to have them sit unused on a shelf. I don’t care if people are jealous, I can spend my money how I like. Most people ask me about them and it sparks conversation. If they don’t like it, then they can mind their own business. I use my Chanel GST, LV Speedy 30, LV Neo Noe, multiple PRADA bags etc all the time. The only time I’ve ever been asked if I was carrying a fake was outside of work when I was doing a course. I said of course not, I’d rather but a beautiful well made leather bag then waste money on a fake!

[@sunburn1013]

I love your attitude. I too, think luxury is there to be enjoyed, experienced and properly used.

[@lalaland8185]

I definitely prefer not to draw attention in any way at work other than through my work. I currently rotate between celine and givenchy totes for work. They cost more than some LV bags, but the monogram I feel attracts a lot of attention and best to avoid.

[@KidCracken]

I don't have luxury bags, but I'll wear designer clothes whenever I feel like it.. I go walking my dog in Balenciaga if that's what I want lool. And I really don't care what people think and I'll make that perfectly clear to anyone who comments. I don't have a lot of money, but I try to spend most of what I can on what I love (nice clothes and cheap travels) and it's funny how some people don't understand how I can afford it, while they spend more every month on going out drinking or other random joys..

[@SteffieDee46]

Amen!

[@caligirlone6513]

I once had a bad family event luxury bag experience. So I coincidentally showed up with the same luxury bag as my sister in law, she immediately pointed it out before even greeting us and soon after that her husband asked if his wife could see my bag. Awkwardly, I handed it to him across the dining table in front of the whole family. He does a public physical side by side comparison of my purse with his wife’s purse and then promptly gives it back to me. My bag never made it to his wife who “wanted to see it.” Not really knowing what to make of what happened, my husband and I just laughed about it all the way home regarding how his adult brother can be such a petty high school girl about certain things. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[@tredjesongen]

Good grief! That is small minded borderline something..whatever. It's like having a dog,a true test of character indeed. Keep those gatherings at a minimum ,I say. The competitive of us are just..toxic. And life is short.

[@evalmiki2011]

😮 Unbelievably petty! I would rock that bag over and over at the family events.

[@ebonyspears-fisher9719]

When I was in office, the men would tease me like "do you have a different purse for everyday of the week?" But I never cared. I have it, I worked hard for it, I'm responsible with my money and it's my CHOICE🤪😜😛

[@urbeautifil641]

This was a very good & informative video! Never seen anyone address the topic! Thanks!

[@reutgadmish1835]

I do wear some of my bags to work and I hear a lot of " I would never spend that much money on a bag" or if I say that I think about asking for a raise they say "you are buying luxury bags, why do you need a raise, it's not like you need the money" and I explain that I save for a long time for each item that I have and I don't care, to each their own and I choose to spend on bags instead of coffee or lunch out and it doesn't come instead of bills or saving for a house so it's my choice to use my money how I see fit and I don't care what others say, I don't need to justify my spending to anyone because I earned it in hard work so I stopped carrying

[@AleishaChristine]

The husband one totally got me! 😡 I got a new car a few years ago, I turned up to a clients house in it, and she said “oh is this your husbands car?” No it bloody isn’t! 🤣

[@orianthi_elys]

I've had the "you've got more money than sense" from family alot, but at work I don't really have any issues as i work in a small office with afew ladies who also love luxury.

[@erinnadia0409]

I take my LV bag to my job everyday. I work in a small family run business and no one has ever made me feel bad about it or judged me. The worst thing that ever happened was a co worker expressing how ugly she thinks monogram is and will never understand how I can love it so much 😂 but that's okay because we all have different styles. Oh and sometimes I take a non luxury tote bag and when I first brought it to work a co worker said "oh that's ugly! Where is your 'fancy' bag" 😂🤣 so luxury lovers can't win.

[@monicachristine3711]

I’m a teacher, and I take my Neverfull to work. I didn’t at first because I didn’t want it to attract attention. After a while I justified that it could be a great work bag and I bought the bag to use it. My coworkers also have LV, so I didn’t feel weird about it. However, after a year of taking it to work I think I may switch it up.

[@needtoknowjewelry]

If a stranger in public asks if it’s real I think my go to would to say no because that person may be a spotter or someone who may try to steal from you.

[@ravensjewel-3886]

I work in tech. I wear what I want to work and no one cares. Everyone is paid well at my company and the only comment I’ve had was about how their kids take all their money so they have no pretty bags 😂

[@ovomaximus165]

I wear whatever the hell I want to wear whenever I want to wear it. People need to mind their own F#$cking business. Outside of work you could have your own side business or something. So if they assume anything then then that's their problem not yours........people will love or hate you no matter what you do. So do what you want!!

[@Handbagholic]

You’re very right! ❤️

[@LisaRobinson0725]

There's an old wise saying, do not outshine your boss. And wise people will dress nicely for work but appropriate as befitting their position in the workplace to avoid being perceived as pretentious. One's work title and/or job title doesn't indicate one's social/economic status since many people may have an additional stream of income and particularly married co-workers. However, there is that unspoken rule to not outshine your boss in an attempt to sidestep envy as people can be quite competitive and even petty. Small-mindedness and low self-esteem often create tension that ultimately festers contentious behavior so play your cards right and dress well while being mindful to keep your financial status neutral. But usually, fashion neutrality (economic ambiguity) doesn't apply to executive staff. Importantly, workplace dress attire should be appropriate, conservative, clean, and functional without sacrificing too much of one's personal style. So, in the workplace, there are numerous quality designer brands out there that fit well in most workplace environments. The result is aesthetically pleasing, and won't break one's bank account. A few of my favorite designer brands that are manufactured exceptionally well and have an excellent longstanding reputation are Coach, Dooney & Burke, and Rag & Bone.

[@makeupnmedicine]

I think it depends on the type of work you do and what the environment is like. I work at a hospital and would never take high end bags to work. I would definitely be judged. Although I know a lot of ppl around me have very expensive hobbies, cars etc.

[@Handbagholic]

Yes it does seem like some other certain luxury items are judged differently, or less. Thanks for sharing and your hard work in a hospital

[@sandranorman5469]

. One thing I did buy is a Lexus SUV and within 2 days everyone in the hospital knew that I had bought a luxury car. Everyone I worked with was happy for me.

[@TwittyTalks]

Love this topic! I have so many stories about this that I may need to film a video on it as well! I agree with you on only taking understated items, if at all.

[@sarataylor6420]

I don’t have any bags in the ysl Givenchy etc range but I do have 1 Aspinal of London (lottie large bag), 1 Marc Jacob’s tote bag leather forest green, 1 Lauren Ralph Lauren khaki croc print leather - I would only take my aspinal of London lottie (Chanel flap like wo copying) as it’s quiet discreet & my log Lauren bag, that’s it I draw the line there.

[@lunarsoul1717]

These comments of people were... 👀 hilarious to say the least! Well done to everyone that put people in there place. We live in a free world and we can do whatever we want. Another amazing topic Steph 🙌 👏

[@freakyfriday3059]

I live in Japan now. Designer bags are accepted everywhere if you are lucky enough to be able to afford it. YEARS ago, I was driving an Audi and used a $20 backpack (it was so cute)everyday. Was told by several people to upgrade my bag. My first luxury bag was Loewe.

[@sherisgf7005]

I'm from Singapore, and here women also try to upgrade their bags to designer as much as they can afford it. Its much more acceptable here in Asia, in general. I would say even, expected, to upgrade your bag when you can. For men too- I have male colleagues with Prada laptop bags if they're the stylish type or, if fashion is not their thing, they usually upgrade their cars.

[@MC-qj7sn]

@@sherisgf7005 i'm from Manila and generally it is acceptable here as well. whether bags are designer on non-designer, it is okay and no one really minds for as long as it does not look tattered or has a massive hole in it. where i currently work, everyone is supportive and looks forward to what one buys whenever the company gives us good bonus - a car, a watch, a nice bag, a good vacation, etc. we also help each other in making decisions on expensive purchases!

[@sherisgf7005]

@@MC-qj7sn That happens to me too at my workplace! Everytime a bonus is announced, we're discussing what we might want to get.

[@calvinklien4946]

Loewe makes for a great workbag too, because outside of Europe most people dont know of the brand even though it is one of the biggest uber luxury designer bags coming out of Spain

[@vannaeldwijk7075]

@@calvinklien4946 it is exquisite and original.

[@dlpz2063]

Your comment about the toxic work environment is spotted on. In my previous job I was being judged by management for a Michael Kors bought in the outlet(£120). In my new workplace, the boss wife (also partner in the company) compliments my style and she loves my collection of handbags and shoes(including Louboutin,Jimmy Choo and Gucci). She would never say “I think you are being paid too much”.

[@suzannetaylor6285]

I work in an actuarial firm.. everyone wears designer and is the reason I purchased as well. They are smart, buy quality that lasts instead of wasting money on throw away pieces.

[@ricardodanielasinas4253]

Hi there! Actually here in my country (Philippines) a contemporary brands like Coach, KS, ans Mk are considered luxury. When people would ask me if what I carry is real I reply and claim that it's fake (even though is not) just to avoid drama. Gossip and envy is the worst thing you can ever expirience. Hahaha

[@ladytye826]

I bought my Louis Vuitton Trevi handbag to work and I will admit that it caused a undertone stir. My manager (who is a DUFF) was real jealous and had issues. She snatch it out and wear it; I looked at her crazy and she placed it down. Later down the line, she stopped me from working overtime and blackballed me. I hated the fact that I worked hard for my belongings and assets. For someone who makes six figures should know how to manage money to buy at three designer handbags a year. My mom always told me that it’s not about what you make, it is about how you make it. I end up quitting because I could not deal with the cattiness and passive aggressiveness from my boss and her little minions (DUFF crew). I still wear my designer handbags, shoes and clothes and accessories. After my niece’s passing, I really became carefree about other’s opinion about me. I want to enjoy life and enjoy my success.

[@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade]

Sounds like we worked at the same company in the same department😁😁😁 one of the DUFFs use to watch me so carefully, one day she said “oh your bag has gold hardware but your earrings are silver”😐 Like wtf??!!! I never care that much about what someone else is wearing… the passive aggressive comments were endless from that crew… they were so jealous they couldn’t even hide it😂

[@ladytye826]

@@SheIsFearfullyWonderfullyMade those individuals need a life! If you would have defended yourself verbally then she would have played victim. Also, at least yours was not a manager. At one point, I woke up everyday having the mindset that this is gonna be my last day at this government job

[@melissac.5948]

I experienced that kind of remark in more than one workplace quite often, even though I usually carried Longchamp, Lancaster and Coach. I did realize that those remarks indicated that I was not well-liked there. I’m just one of those introverted, hard-working and polite people who tends to be unpopular… and that’s ok. Replying to those remarks would have me trying to channel my inner Dalai Lama, though.

[@Handbagholic]

So sorry you’ve experienced this Melissa! I can totally relate to the hard-working introvert. No judging here ❤️

[@elisabethherrnhofer1097]

Hello Steph😃, I go to work with my designer items, very happy and don’t care. I like to enjoy what I have and just wear it 😊

[@anjankas_world3165]

I take all my designer items to work. I got some comments in the past like, „You must earn a lot of money to be able to afford these.“ „Does your husband pay for your luxury goods?“ I always reacted by asking the following questions: „Do you travel or go on vacation regularly?“ „Do you smoke?“ „Do you go out for dinner regularly?“ „Do you go clubbing at the weekend?“ Usually the answer to 2 or 3 of those questions was yes. So I said, „See? I don‘t do any of these things. So what is the difference between you spending your money on travelling etc. and me spending my money on luxury goods? Not that I need to justify myself.“ That gave them something to think about. And today my colleagues compliment me for my good taste and some of them are even following me on Instagram 😀.

[@idylledoll]

I have a work bag from “Away” and love it so much and it doubles as a travel bag! I would never dream of wearing any of my designer bags into work (unless it’s not obvious) especially after hearing a story my boss as the time told me that she thinks designer bags are ridiculous to spend your money on…obviously I have different sentiments but, you don’t wanna give people a reason to create preconceptions about you that could make things harder for you in the work place. Just remember this, you are always taking a risk wearing a flashy obvious designer bag but you can NEVER go wrong with NOT wearing it. It’s not gonna kill you being understated at work!

[@ameliae6245]

Loved this! Each point is very well articulated. Thank you for sharing 😊

[@Handbagholic]

Glad you enjoyed it Amelia! I think lots of people can relate

[@rachellg137]

Omg! I’m so glad you did this video!! This is new for me… I am Now on my 3rd designer bag and working on buying my fourth… yes… working towards it! I don’t make a lot of money, and I do buy pre loved. I have begun to receive rude comments- more like- “you should be aware of equality”… it’s wild to me!! Hello! They can work and save, and spend- just like I do if they want!! I don’t care what they spend their money on, so they shouldn’t care about what I spend mine on! Ugh! So frustrating

[@민아-f5r]

I used to start my first job wearing my chanel medium flap to work which my dad gifted me as a 18th birthday present from london. And there is a colleague same age as me is getting pissed for no reason and started to spread malicious words to my bosses and the whole of office that i have tons of chanels at home when i only have 2. she didn’t even ask how many i have btw. Throughout the day, she kept looking at my bag and commented that she would never “waste” that much money to purchase a luxury handbag. She even tried to get me fired by talking badly about me to the bosses. She also commented on my dressing (i wore dresses and heels because of the business industry we are in) and told me that i don’t have to wear heels all the time and put on so much makeup which all i did was just foundation, eyebrows pencil and eyeliner. Now she is wearing heels all the time and putting makeup to work and is splurging on kate spade bags. Sometimes i just wonder to myself, why do woman hate other woman so much when unprovoked. It just blows my mind.. Btw, she commented to my other colleague who recently got engaged and was asked to show her diamond ring to us. And guess what, that woman commented infront of everyone including the bosses that she doesn’t like diamond rings because it’s ugly and that she prefers gem rings. I just can’t.

[@Handbagholic]

Some people just want to be awful to others, clearly, she’s very insecure. When ever someone acts like this , it’s good to remember it’s always due to their circumstances and nothing really to do with you.

[@민아-f5r]

@@Handbagholic thanks for the reply. I will keep that in mind!

[@JP-kl1mj]

Many years ago when I bought my 1st luxury car, someone at my job poured soda all over it . Then proceeded to shove the 2 liter bottle in the wheel well. Now I have a Commuter car. I am a train conductor. I climb up and down engines and dirty trains so I don't bring any hand bags to work but I do have a nice wallet hidden in my pocket.

[@DaniefromCanada]

What a great video! This is the first time I've been recommended your channel which is weird because I watch so many lux topic KZbinrs. Love this topic as it's all about setting boundaries.

[@Handbagholic]

So glad you found me Danie! Very interesting KZbin hasn’t suggested me to you, what other channel do you usually watch if you don’t mind me asking?

[@erinnadia0409]

This didn't happen at work but a family member asked me why I owned luxury bags and if someone was buying it for me, implying I had a sugar daddy or something. It was pretty embarrassing being asked this at Christmas lunch. I just told them I save up and buy it myself because it makes me happy and it's a reward for saving 😅

[@Christina-bs6sw]

It's funny how people will comment me wearing a £1000 Louis Vuitton bag as being rich, but not the fact that we spend that amount monthly on childcare or rent etc.

[@darkryooo]

I do. Either people love my bags and compliment me, or they just don’t care or bat an eye. My boss wears designer, and I have also noticed an influx of people coming to my place of employment with their designer as well. For reference, I work in finance, but at a call center.

[@jezibelldehurt4722]

That's true never wear high end luxury bags to work ect. because you will always have jealous coworker, family and friends. I should know my family envy's how my husband buys me luxury handbags. I just ignore them.

[@MsJelly1]

I get the “oh is that a new bag?” 😒 or “why so many bags?”. I’ve always loved handbags and shoes since I was a young child and now that I’m older and I can afford it! Oh man! 🤣

[@brandnyuday]

I'm lucky my big boss enjoys designer stuff. She's clad in designer head to toe even on Sports Day (we work in a high school). She appreciates people who dresses up.

[@faithchrissybeauty]

In my 20 year career, I have never heard any of these comments personally or about another individual so I cannot relate to the hate. Why does anyone feel the need to justify their choices? Just don’t engage in the negative conversation. It is really that simple.

[@SteffieDee46]

Agreed.

[@MicahBrock81]

I see what you’re saying about people being jealous and envious of those of us who have designer luxury items. As I’m sure most of us feel, I don’t buy ANYTHING just because I want someone to feel jealous or because I want to show off. I buy these things because I love the brands, the history, the heritage. I get the comment occasionally OH IT MUST BE NICE! I’ve started responding yes! It is nice! I love my bags. Or shoes. Whatever. I work hard for my money. I can choose to spend it however I want. I have never been one to care what others think. I also don’t spend my time worrying about what others are doing or spending their money on. Life is short. People need to do what makes them happy. As long as it’s not hurting anyone else, do what you want and enjoy.

[@danielle2661]

I carry an LV zippy wallet I've had for years (thrilled with the quality of this workhorse item), a YSL card case, and a LV small agenda I carry every day. I work in a professional, legal environment and I have no problem carrying those or using those items if I go out to lunch with a colleague, etc. However, I usually carry those designer items in more understated bags. I love carrying my Longchamp Le Pliage to work (just a solid, heritage brand tote). I have all leather totes from the brand Cuyana (also very pleased with their quality over the years, but all leather, large totes get heavy when you start shoving files in there). I tend to keep my actual designer bags-an LV, a Chanel, a few YSL's-for the evenings and weekends. I've never been asked about any of my designer items specifically, but I have had people say, "oh I like that bag," etc and this is on the "normal" totes/leather totes. I get more comments on my jewelry and shoes, actually! I have a larger engagement ring and I do have some regular fine jewelry (diamond) pieces I wear regularly like diamond studs, a rolex, etc. But I also wear some costume jewelry (I have 2 CZ tennis bracelets in gold and silver that I bought to test the size, length and metal color for when I do eventually invest in one in the future) and I actually love both of those so much I continue to wear them proudly! People often think they are real and I am quick to let them know they aren't, but don't they look awesome! I feel like it does make people feel better for some reason. Like they know my ring is real and my watch is real, so I think they assume everything I wear is real and letting them know that I also rock some costume jewelry makes it less intimidating somehow.

[@karozagorus]

flex it gal, you got the best items ever that are good quality, do it

[@judithja2157]

Me and my husband work hard together in our own company and we both proud of each other. Our first dream tesla and awesome house with everything we want. Second dream tesla roadster for the second dream we have to expand our business somewhere in Paris. And my husband ask me what I want. I said maybe one bag from HERMES, he said of course darling you deserve, yes you can have it. I don’t buy luxury bags if I can’t afford 😉 I go to work with my expensive/luxury bags. I use my expensive/luxury bags when I want.

[@latigresseNYC]

UGH!!! I've dealt with resentment over my luxury items, mostly from other women and an occasional man. I used to have a Rolex years ago (one of the more plain models) and one guy asked "is that a real Rolex." I just looked him dead in the eye and said "Yeah." And that was the end of that. I've also had comments about my Hermès scarves and other accessories. And this has happened to me working in the legal profession and in banking -- two fields which tend to be highly paid. I don't know why people think these things are any of their business in the first place. Some people simply cannot handle that somebody else has something that seems so unobtainable to them. They simply cannot. Bottom line: It's my money, I earned it honestly and through hard work, I can do what I want with it. I'm not abusing kids or pushing drugs. If someone ever asked me how much something cost, I would simply ignore them or tell them they're being rude, because such a question IS rude. It hasn't been all bad, though, I've had other colleagues who also love and appreciate luxury and we've exchanged compliments and had some interesting discussions.

[@lkofie6670]

Lol...oh yes the "dressing up" or wearing designer clothes/handbags to work debate. My husband frequently told me both in a joking manner and a degree of seriousness, that the way I dress for work would cause me to lose a raise. What's strange is, although it didn't cost me a raise, I did attract attention from colleagues AND the office administrator despite HER position in more than one workplaces. Colleagues (especially fellow female co-workers) would draw their own conclusions indeed regarding what my husband did for a living, comment about me spending my paycheck on clothes and shoes, downplaying any designer bags I took to work (the real or fake question), and quetions like "What does your husband think about you having so many pairs of shoes?" and asking the size of my closet. On a side note, it is truly odd to me how and why fellow adults ask other working adults if their handbag is real or fake. Otherwise, I continue to wear what I like to the workplace because style is fun for me and I spend most of my time at work anyway so where else am I going to where my wardrobe to?

[@LarchiDuchesse]

In workplaces it’s best to always fly under the radar and blend in. Envy / jealousy can be very powerful amongst jealous Hyenas and never dissapoints in the work place. Remember colleagues are not your friends .