Why You Shouldn't Hug Her! | Apostolic Dating Boundaries 101

[@inspiretolaugh8555]

Also, when a single man chooses not to hug a single woman, vise versa, it shows they have respect for each other.

[@venomgamer2003]

you can comit adultery without touching them. Jesus says if you gaze upon a woman with lust in your heart you have committed adultary

[@Neven-e7t]

We must learn to control our spirit and mind, staying resolute in the Holy Ghost shall help you to overcome such things

[@Irishherbs]

I think you need to look up the definition of adultery.Adultery is voluntary sexual intercourse between a married person and someone other than their lawful spouse.

[@lisagilbert8497]

First and foremost hugs are not sexual. It’s sad and disgusting that people are being subjected to complete denial of human contact while also conditioned to believe that anyone of the opposite sex serves one purpose and that is to be used as an object for your sexual gratification. Even worse is this leads to young people getting married so they have someone that they can use for that purpose alone . You are a human and humans need human contact. Stop viewing other humans as a means of sexual gratification and start viewing them like they have value . Lack of human contact leads to mental illness and depression. It’s healthy to have boundaries but this is too far . You are condemning single people to a life of desperation and loneliness because they might have an emotional experience which is also human nature. You’re hurting women, you’re hurting men and yourself

[@Jonmarcus-i7f]

Your stupid wordlyness women

[@crystalwilliams5528]

I love you!!! I love that you are teaching young apostolic’s the right way to live. God is truly using you. Keep it up! This is coming from a parent that completely agree’s, from all the videos and IG and FB post that I have seen, with you.

[@alisahall2098]

I can totally relate. At my college I had a guy friend who always wanted to hug me when we met, I didn't think anything of it, but soon it was just too much. So, I stated just shaking his hand and i worked lol. Nice video!

[@gamecrusher2024]

Your walking back-and-forth is making me Dizzy. LOL!

[@erikdavidson4914]

I am a Baptist. In my upbringing, my sisters in Christ taught me how to conduct myself around young women. This is fellow believers preparing you how to conduct yourself before your future spouse, their immediate and church family.

[@Hnnhjoy88]

I agree with a "full on hug" is not something that people of the opposite sex should do. SIDE HUGS! lol

[@maybellesanchez581]

Wait do you know in the Spanish pentacostal church we greet each other with a hug and kiss or just a hug no matter what sex

[@ManofValor_]

That was a really good video brotha aviol! your a very wise young man Im 22 myself.. and as young male the TRUTH is that it does get difficult.. even with having the Holy Ghost! the flesh is still there.. I truly believe that it will be worth it when someone waits for married. And then.. that's when you can put your hands around your (WIFE) hips as many times as you would like too.. bcs that'll be your women!! In your marriage bed won't be undefiled. God ordained it! Until the meantime, we just have to be patience give it time fellas...and ladies also! It'll be worth the wait🖒 and don't forget you're not waiting on the Lord he's waiting on you! He's trying to develop you some more into the man/woman that he wants you to become! Fellas, your going to have to put that pretty lady of yours that you have your eyes on in a house oneday.. when she says I DO! you're going to have to step up an be the provider how that look your rushing everything you'll get married but still living at your parents house? So just look at it like this. God is probably trying to establish you now to get you right financially and more than likely spiritually also! And to love him first before you try to love a woman.. your wife. And ladies, the Lord is probably trying to teach and establish you on becoming the best wife you can be for your future husband! Be patience in do season young ppl🖒

[@mrs.jayallison4792]

Amen

[@ghjuiihhj3434]

Amen

[@girlinthesouth850]

I totally agree with this and I'm not even currently going to church. I think it's wise to do this in and out of church.

[@TheKingsDaughter3]

Thank you brother, I needed this..!

[@C4X2705]

Me too

[@xen1083]

Is it bad to hug a guy but not thinking of the person with lust? What if I see the person as a big brother would that ok?

[@destinysmith9706]

Eli Castro I thought about that as well! I think we have to think with wisdom. As females, we may not feel lust but we do not know the feelings of the other person. I have a friend who I see as a brother but it still doesn’t seem appropriate as we are of the opposite sex and I myself, am single. And we must abstain from the very presence of evil and the scripture says for a man not to touch a woman. I would approach it with caution and prayer.

[@XxSuperSuspiciousxX]

Uhhhhh I hugged my boyfriend once. I’m such a sinner 😂 but my hormones don’t rage; sure they get mad sometimes but they just stop talking to each other lol

[@MelB868]

There’s nothing wrong with hugging your boyfriend my boyfriend and I known each other since December 2019 we hug all the time when we first see each other then a hug bye we are going bowling Saturday we saw each other last Friday sometimes it’s every other weekend when we see each other

[@MelB868]

Sometimes my boyfriend pets my hair and I’m thinking sometimes I’m not a pet but sometimes I like it it’s weird

[@crazyoguyo6127]

God bless you! Definitely you are helping all young hearts that love Jesus. A small correction its Ist corinthians 7 1 (Man not to touch a woman) not 7 11

[@AiydnnCantu]

Bro when did Lyoto Machida learn English??

[@joshuabigdog7009]

Where is the balance?? I can only imagine the unneccesssry struggles this guy has.

[@HeidiHofmeister-wj9sd]

Any illinois pentecostal church suggestions?

[@MelB868]

My boyfriend and I hug all the time.

[@deyaneiramillan2632]

God bless you brother 🙌🙏

[@DestineyForever]

I love your ministry

[@Abbyonice]

While I completely respect the standards you have for yourself and I think that's awesome! I don't exactly agree and I promise I'm not saying you're wrong because if God gives you a conviction then you need to stick to that, however, I think the scripture you used is about the intent. For example, my pastor hugs everybody! Women, men, married, unmarried, and the people in our church hug each other because to us it's a greeting. The principal at my school hugs the students and teachers also because it's a greeting or a good bye. (We side hug). If we're to use that scripture to say that hugging is something that is wrong because a man shouldn't touch a woman then you shouldn't shake hands either. And I'm not criticizing what you said, I'm being for real. You see, a lot of the letters to the churches were principles, not rule books. The church of Corinth was struggling with fornication so Paul told them it wasn't good to touch a woman, but that does not mean if two people hug each other that they have sexual desires in mind. I promise you when I hug my pastor or Principal there are NO sexual thoughts whatsoever. When I hug a guy friend there are NO sexual thoughts whatsoever because it's a greeting and it's in a setting with other people. If I were alone with a guy (which I hope would never happen) then no I wouldn't greet them with a hug because things that shouldn't happen can happen when you're alone, but you get what I'm saying right? The act of hugging someone is not what leads to sexual thoughts, it's the state of your heart. Especially when it's a side hug and it's not more than a second and your intention is to be friendly and show the person you care about them not *I want to go press my body against this person*.

[@Yapa238]

Hey @Vessels! I understand what you’re saying. It’s impossible for me to address every idea that the Yapa238 vids could generate so I just kinda vibe with whatever I feel to let out/say. I say that because within this video I thought I clearly stated the possibilities of sexual thought occurring when two embrace. Now I say “possibilities” giving room for the sincere occasions where a guy and girl do hug and nothing happens or no thought are stirred. I truly believe that happens and have been in situations myself where I’ve hugged someone and everything was fine on both ends! I guess the theme of this video (which again, I thought I stated clearly but I do understand that the vids are pretty fast and it could be difficult to catch) is to suggest to error on the side of caution rather than anything else. Again, I do believe there are instances where two can embrace without anything “kicking off” buuuuuuuut according to the suggested teaching of the Apostle it wouldn’t be the bestest of things for that to be... Kinda get what I’m saying?

[@Abbyonice]

Yeah I understand :) And you may have stated yourself clearly, but it seemed to me like you were saying it's wrong. Sorry for my misunderstanding.

[@gamecrusher2024]

Shaking Hands, only touches the Hand, but when we Hug, we touch each other's Chest. That is the difference.

[@usuariodesconocido566]

My phone is on 7% 😱

[@MelB868]

Then change it

[@Jonmarcus-i7f]

Me my oneness Apostolic girlfriend dont hug

[@alexa7337]

Does anyone have any recommendations for a good Apost. Pent. church in Georgia?

[@sherimapaola8235]

If you speak spanish, my church organizatiom has churches all over the country, we have one called IPUL Georgia. Its pentecostal

[@TheMJGChannel]

So let’s say you were to fall into those lusts and sin... will God forgive you for it or will you miss heaven for it? (A question I’ve had for a long time)

[@Yapa238]

All sin is sin and God gives us forgiveness for our sins when we truly repent and ask for His forgiveness. After you sin (whether lust or other sins like that) you’re not heaven ready. BUT, if you repent and turn away from the sin, God will forgive you 1,000%

[@worldwide1064]

What about a side hug

[@marynellaniscal5623]

hope all christian men would act like that

[@McNuggek]

👏🏾

[@rhyleemae8858]

Is it a sin though when you are Apostolic to hug your boyfriend

[@Yapa238]

It’s not sin, though the Bible does say, “Now concerning the things whereof ye wrote unto me: It is good for a man not to touch a woman.” 1 Corinthians 7:1. But lusting after him and hugging him because of the lust you feel, that leads to sin. And that sin leads to death... “Then when lust hath conceived, it bringeth forth sin: and sin, when it is finished, bringeth forth death.” James 1:15 The main issue is a lust issue and steering clear of possibly falling into lust. The Bible say, “Flee also youthful lusts:” 2 Timothy 2:22 When we see the possibility of us lust ahead, that’s when we need to flee, and if hugging him could cause him or you to begin to lust, it’s best to steer clear (“flee”) youthful lust. Make sense? Let me know! Hope this helps!

[@rhyleemae8858]

@@Yapa238 yes it does thank you so much and your awesome!!!👍

[@Yapa238]

All glory to our Jesus my friend! 😊🙏🏼

[@anonymous-en5uq]

Yapa238 so true. Because of human nature, body parts coming together can start a firestorm that you can't put out. So all that are listening, better to be safe than sorry. Remember, "flesh does not have, a brain; it's depending on yours to make the right decisions" so do the right thing. Selah!

[@MelB868]

It means sexually a hug is not it 🤦‍♀️

[@lotruthve6402]

The walking is so distracting

[@westoftherockies]

i got news for you dude, all you have to do is one sin to be infinitely guilty before God, it doesn't take a sexual sin, sin is sin, period, you're either forgiven or you're not, there is no such thing as a born again believer going to hell, everyone sins every single day, whether they are "married or not"...marriage isn't a ring or piece of paper either, no scripture for that, its a spiritual union, and the reason believers are exhorted to "have one partner" is its just good common sense not to sleep around, it has nothing to do with a believer going to hell, "flee fornication" lol thats in corinthians, they were sleeping with each others wives and just overall living very wild and carnaly, it wasn't really meant to condemn them, just to not make christ look bad, they had parties at church, they weren't acting mature at all, they were called babes in christ so context is important, but sin is sin, it doesn't matter if its sex or simply being a busybody, one sin sends an unforgiven person to hell, it doesn't matter what the sin is, and even thinking of a lustful thought is fornication and you do that constantly. all you have to do is think it.

[@TommyStrategic]

alizarin What Paul was actually saying in 1 Corinthians 7 is that, while all sin is sin, different sins have different consequences. If I’m a busybody and then repent, the Lord forgives me, but I may still have to deal with problems I caused while meddling in others’ affairs. Similarly, if I commit fornication and sincerely repent, the Lord forgives, but I may have set off a chain of events with my behavior. While both are sin, committing fornication affects the physical body in a way being a busybody doesn’t, and can lead to very different results, socially and biologically. Even in the Old Testament, men who were moved by the Holy Ghost gave special warnings against sexual sin (Proverbs 5, 6, & 7).

[@Zach-TTVfire2017]

What about a side hug