widowers journey, making myself go forward...

walking outside with lots on my mind, too much to share all...Dec. 7th very special date for some of US...

[@philliphinkle2812]

This is my first Christmas since I lost my wife. Still very raw. Last Christmas she was in a memory care facility. I spent the day with her but she wasn’t all there. Dementia sucks. Thanks for this video.

[@claudiahendee6413]

Only when you have lost your spouse the love of your life that had shared everything with you bad and good times you'll be able to understand. He /she has been you rock the person that know the real you. My beautiful husband passed away to LEUKEMIA CANCER 2018 he was 62 he did chemo hoping to beat it he didn't want to leave me. We dreamed of growing old together. We met when he was 17 and I was 16 I was his first girlfriend and he my first too. We got married 1975 he was 19 and I was 18 We were married for 43 wonderful years We were everything to each other. It's been over 4 years and it seems like yesterday I missed him dearly and cry almost every day. But with God's help I try to manage my loneliness. The sweet memories of my sweet husband is all I have and I treasure them for my heart aches since GOD took him home.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Claudia, I am sorry to be late in responding to such a heartfelt expression of your love an marriage. Sharing every thing then losing it all , nearly all, is my story too. Leukemia is not something most people understand it can be long and brutal. I've heard the stories from family and a friend. You know it very well I'm sure. My wife had breast cancer, the kind you don't want. All cancer is not fun to watch destroy , the lives of those we so dearly love. I have seen much. Some seen more. I feel for you Claudia , young sweethearts and all the memories of your 43 years of marriage are all you have left. But you have this. And it is all yours forever it will live in you. I think. The good part will for sure... thank you so much for sharing your story, may God bless ...🙏🕊

[@julial1450]

This video is very helpful for me I am 51 lost husband this year of15 years he was my rock on top of that I am not able to drive now I might have to no freedom when you can't drive please pray for me it been very hard for me to deal with this change he pass on so sudden and unexpected only was 57

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@julial1450 you are are in our prayers my friend. God be near....♥️🕊🙏

[@rickyoung8489]

Totally with you on this Len. I don't see it ever ending nor would I ever want it to. Glad you are posting these videos.

[@kimmillay4725]

Yes Len 2 years for me and I am still grieving. I miss him everyday.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you Kim , we loved them every moment of everyday. And that hasn't stopped. And never will...💕

[@toddwalters794]

I'm a two time widower nobody is going to tell me how to grieve. I get up and step forward everyday! Keep up the good work Len, you're an inspiration.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Sorry this is late getting to you Todd, but God bless you for your encouraging words . Sometimes I need em. Hope you are well...

[@songbird5030]

Hi Len I’m watching this on December 1.2023. And everything you said makes complete sense! Please don’t stop talking about grief, it is so important and our reality! But we have to keep living till the rapture!! Don’t give up!!

[@songbird5030]

Please don’t listen to that man in your group. If he was over it why is he still coming to the grief group? You can feel anything you feel. It’s your journey.

[@C5B-jc1yj]

Hi Len. I just found you recently. I want to tell you my story but each time I just fall apart. My sweet Jenny just lost her battle with brain cancer. I know deep down I will never recover. Listening to you helps me to believe I have friend in this unimaginable pain.

[@johnbriscoe5932]

Your videos have popped up in my feed for awhile now. I really identify with you and many who follow your channel. I said goodbye to my wife of 29 years some 8 years ago. Her death followed my mother's the year before, and my father's a year before that. Everything in my world changed. It was SO hard just to survive. I had taken care of Ann at home for a year while her health kept declining. Taking a year off was possible for me and I don't regret it for a moment. Three months after her passing was a real watershed for me. I put on a good front, but I was a bad mess. I looked around and found a GriefShare group near me and went for 9 months through the same program 3 times, mostly because I needed the support of my new friends, but also because my mind didn't work the same as before. I still love her and miss her. I still think about her every day but now it is more the good memories and more reverential than just sad. Life is much better than it was 8 years ago, and I am glad to be alive. I wasn't sure that I would ever be able to say that again.

[@CaponeCabin]

It's just been a little over 30 days since I lost my husband. It was a massive sudden heart attack, I just went in the house to make him dinner, he was on the porch. In a instant. I understand, we were best friends, Soul mates, we were one.

[@user-oh9fh2oj9e]

I am 83 ..lost my love of 60 years 3 years ago. Suddenly. I'm just now beginning to feel half way human. I. Too, have faith. I know im never alone. Jesus is my constant companion. I pray for help and get it, always. Be patient with yourself. Noone cantell you how to grieve. You must do it your way.

[@retiredred]

Hi Len, thanks for checking in with us! My Popa lasted a little under 2 years without Moma. For him, in his late 80s it never got better. They've been together in heaven since 2007. I miss them but I smile now that they are together forever. You're doing great Len! Your little group is here for ya. Blessings 💜

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Retired Red, thanks for your comment. When my wife's" Popa ", died, I had to go wake her up to tell her. I looked at her sleeping peacefully, with that beautiful smile she slept with. I did not want to wake her. Her world was about to change. Her Popa was very special to her. I stared at her not wanting to bring the hurting that was to come. She is with her papa and mother and unborn baby brother now. She is happy, so am I. But lonely. Hope is alive...🙏🕊

[@retiredred]

I feel for ya there my Popa only knew by a telephone call from my dad until I got to the house. I was at the hospital an hour away. First thing he said was, "is it true?" Broke my already broken heart man that was rough. God knew you and I were strong enough to deliver or confirm that type of news. And regarding length of time to grieve.. mine passed in 2005 and 2007. This is the first Thanksgiving thru their death months (February and March) period I've had with no depression. It could be my upcoming retirement in June keeping my mind busy with training new people etc who knows but I'm glad. They would not me to be unhappy and they're having a blast! 😇 but yes everyone should do what feel right and natural to them. That's definitely not a room I'd want to decorate for someone else. Dark room.. but the light makes its way thru eventually 🙏 Red

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@retiredred thanks Red,,,,,,👍

[@Dandelion0962]

In heaven there is no need for remembrance of faulty past

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@Dandelion0962 so true, Charlene.. Thank you...

[@janiceplace7519]

I'am a Widow of almost 3 yrs. as of Nov.30, 2020 . It was cancer , and only knew 3 week's including Hospice before He passed. We were married 40 yrs' . I seem to be stuck .... I fully get what you saying . Alone most of the time . I pray you will , with God's help move- on but it's so very tough ........ You have described this grief perfectly !! He was my best Friend . Praying for you !!

[@rowanmichel855]

Hi im a widow from New Zealand. My Husband of 39 years had cancer we were told by Specialists 10 days before he passed that he would not ever be coming home. Im by myself too no family. People dont understand grief so i dont bother saying how I really feel when asked "how are you" Len says exactly how i feel. Its hard even after 13 months.❤

[@om4994]

Thanks again Len for your encouragement to keep going. I agree. It is great for me to be part of this little group. Many loving, supportive friends of mine don’t quite “get it” and I’m happy for them that they don’t. This is a safe place to connect with others, to hear their stories…I feel for all of you. My husband has now been gone for just under 4 months. A friend of my husband’s is perplexed that I still cry every day and thought I’d be “over it” by now. He’s not a mean person, he just doesn’t understand. So Len I feel for you having to listen to that fellow say the same sort of thing. I thank the Lord for His compassion that never fails, the comfort He brings. Happy birthday and all God’s best as we keep going!

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

No matter how much some try to help, if they have not traveled into our pain room , they can't tell us what's in it. For them the door is locked. Which is a good thing. Sometimes just talking about our story, to someone who has been on, and still in this journey, can be the help no one else can give. We can help each other walk thru this... the words of each you, help me and many besides. Just knowing your not alone, is the best help you can give to someone who feels the separation intensely beyond measure. I know, very well the feeling, as do many or all of us do. Cry all you have to, until your done. I am, off and on, short or long. I'm not ashamed. May God give you peace O&M, thru the holidays and beyond...🙏🕊🎶

[@valeriek5020]

Losing a loved one is tragic and moving through the stages can be difficult for many. This is life changing and as slow as the process is for some it is not for others. I took a year to go through the stages and learned a lot along the way. I was not married to Jim, but we were together for ten years. I have mentioned that he committed suicide. He left a two page suicide letter for me and each time I opened the letter and read his words, I would either cry or feel so angry at him for what he did. Looking back, I did what I had to do and don’t regret the journey I took to where I am today. Time really does heal all wounds. I think our surroundings which include family, friends and activities assist in the healing process. Feeling alone and sorry for myself became less and I found the balance of knowing my life would continue without Jim and that acceptance finally brought a new beginning. If you don’t have family or friends, the journey to recovery would have to take much more effort, but such a necessary step to live your life or dwell in sadness and our deceased loved ones would not want that to happen.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Valerie, your journey thru grief is a difficult one to understand in many ways. 10 years together is long enough to hurt badly. Love can hurt as much in less time if two become one. That's all it takes. I feel your hurt as you open that letter to read. It's something to hold in hurt, and something to heal in time. You have given all this much thought, your words show it. I'm glad you are living again in a new life. You have a gifted way of expressing your feelings in what you have learned. I had to read your words here several times. Thank you so much. May God bring you peace and solace thru the Christmas holidays....🙏

[@Grace-fp5ts]

Nice to meet you Len. I just happened to stumble upon this video. I know a lot about loss myself. I know that each and every day you will carry them in your heart. I don’t think we’re supposed to forget them. Nor would I want to- they were all a huge part of my life. But our hope is that we will all be together again in God’s Kingdom above. I agree - I don’t know how anyone can get through this life without Jesus by our side. God bless you Len. I’m listening and will keep a prayer tucked away for you and for all those brave souls who live out their term here until we see them again. 🙏

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

What a beautifully written comment. Nice to meet you too Grace. You have loss much, I think. I too have lost nearly everything I ever loved. The greatest of these losses, is the one I loved in the bonds of a marriage commitment. This was meant to hurt more, because God made it that way. I believe. The depth of His love is shown in the deep grief we carry. I didnt feel that way in the beginning. I was very angry. I wonder if in our grieving, He is nearer to us then anytime other time. In brokenness, on my knees, pouring out all my hurts and cares, I've found a peace I can't explain. Could this be His loving, forgiving hand on my shoulder. A Father would be like that. It is my prayer, and I think yours too. That all, would find this peace in our heavenly Father,thru. JESUS CHRIST our Lord. I miss my dear beautiful wife everyday. I cry now and then even though she is in glory, with Jesus, and so many more. I have found a new strength I never new I had. Just thinking about what awaits us is a motivation to do God's will. I have no fear of dying, only of pain,like most, I think. Hope I haven't said to much here, it's early morning and I'm getting ready to go for morning walk. Thanks for🙏s, I'll pray for you too. Bye for now Grace...

[@robertzabick1030]

Thanks again Len. You always encourage me to continue, even though we hurt so bad. I thank Jesus Christ, as do you, for getting me through life, a day at a time.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

One day at a time, moment by moment. It will get easier, and slowly it has. Can't stop hurting, comes and goes. But that's OK, there is a prize waiting for us, when we are finished here. Knowing our future is a gift not all have received. I ask God to help me, the least of the most, to bring a hope into their lives. I thank Jesus for your encouraging words Robert...May God richly bless you...☝️

[@lauralane1760]

Unexpectedly lost my 20 yo only child daughter a few weeks ago. Raised her single. Alone and shattered. It's still raw and I don't see myself ever getting over it. Just learn to pretend to be ok. Someone told me I need to "just stop thinking about yourself" "you should be thankful she didn't suffer". She's not my friend anymore.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

My heart goes out to you. I'm so very sorry for your great loss .🙏 💔🕊

[@lauralane1760]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118 🙏

[@brendaguccigalet.5033]

Merry 🎄 Christmas! Thank you for sharing your life with us, my first Christmas without my Husband, seven months now, all of our 26 Christmas' keep running through my head, I stayed home today, my grandchildren will be home tomorrow, they will bring me some joy.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Merry Christmas to you too. BRENDA. Christmas is a hard one to go thru in grief, for most of us so many memories I have too. Sometimes I wish I could go back thru it all over. But knowing this griefs pain very well puts a stop to that thought. I hope and pray that your Christmas is joyful one with many new, good memories. GOD bless...🎄🕊🙏

[@akfinn5308]

Hi there, Len, it's nice to see that you are out walking. No, people don't really understand until they lose someone special to them, then it sinks in. < We are not here forever.> I too prayed for my Lord to take sweetheart home. He was suffering so and there is life after death, so I will see him again (I say thru my tears). But who says it was easy!? After all those years, how can he not still be with me in so many ways. We (the ones left behind) have to have a goal or plans for "tomorrow". The Scripture says without a vision the people perish. Now Len, I am looking forward to the visions of Toledo Zoo. So, please do it for those of us out here. When you can.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello AKFinn, when the realization came to me, of the good chance of her cancer returning someplace more deadly or painful, I began to see better into God's plan. At least some of it. I can say with a great deal certainty, I'm glad she will never have to expereince the horrible suffering cancer can bring. Don't like being alone, but I will survive, just one day after another. I will go to the zoo, soon. Ok. I want to, need to prepare myself 1st... May God bless ...🙏🕊

[@KayeIsaacs]

Thanks so much for your work, it helps to know that others are going through this

[@myrtlegranger3443]

Happy Birthday Len🎂 it makes me wonder that guy that said, get over it. Why is he attending the group if he’s not grieving? You’re right, everyone is different. It’s been 3 yrs for me & it’s still rough.❤️🙏

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hi Myrtle, the birthday came and went, like all the rest. Only this felt strangely different. Thank you for the birthday wish. It was never my intention to make that public, hard to hide it. Some have a different way to grieve, not the way the book says. The book isn't always right. May our dear Lord give you peace thru the holidays...🙏🕊🎶

[@kathylisa4374]

I’m finding your videos comforting as I am going through my loss. Thank you and i am sending prayers

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you , God bless 🙏🕊

[@brendapowell5559]

Hello , I see this is an older video , but I just found your channel, and it helped , and I do understand what you're going through . Thank you for posting.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

You are certainly welcome my friend. God bless🕊🙏

[@richardellett906]

You are so very right everybody deals with grief in their own way some get over it quick some might not ever get over it. But that one thing that you talk about a lot the whole alone thing so many things that we had done together with our spouses that we enjoyed now when we try them most of the time it just turns painful. But don't ever think people don't appreciate what you're doing on your channel cuz I know for me I definitely do appreciate it!

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

It is good to hear from you Richard. I'm taking the long road, not looking for a shortcut. I'll do my time and no one else's. The healing is coming, Gods got this. There is a reason I don't yet know, for the way my life is heading. I only want to help others in this most painful time in our lives. There are other severe types of pain, but this one is a Trifecta. Body soul and spirit. You can bet that all 3 will be hurt. BUT God will be there to keep us in his hands and not let us go down, to far,if we do. 👍🙏 i just keep trying ....God bless...

[@bobw.991]

Thanks for your videos, they help. I lost my lovely wife in February, Alzheimers took her away after a seven year battle. Forty one years of marriage. Something that really has helped me is finding another for companionship. She is my wife's cousin, who knows grief very intimately. I just thought I would call and ask her if she would like to go for dinner or coffee, and we have been doing that now for a few months. You can't depend on your children or other family or friends to fill the loneliness. I will grieve my wife till my last breath, but finding someone is a major plus to help fill the void.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you Bob for your comment. You have had a long journey and I'm getting to understand more as others comment on their own walk with a spouse with Alzheimers. Not a very pleasant experience to go thru with anyone especially your beloved wife I can only imagine your days after days living but not really living a full life in late stages anyway. You are right on about family and even friends. They don't get it . Friends fade, some do. New friend come along. Like your cousin. I have a cousin , circumstances very similar. Her husband and my wife passed about Same time . We keep intouch we get it. She is very far away. I'm glad you found a good friend. May God bless your friendship...

[@nancyschaefer9748]

My husband,Bill, had Alzheimer’s disease for only one year and between facilities closing it was difficult to get help. I was fortunate that he still knew me and I got to tell him how much I loved him and all the things I wanted to the day before he died. It is one day at a time, some harder than others.

[@hotrodhomefree]

Len, my wife's birthday is Christmas Day. She passed away October 23rd 2021 from pancreatic cancer. We were married 48 years. Our 50th anniversary is coming up, August 31st. I just wish I could fast forward to January. These next few months will be hard. But the hardest thing I have trouble with is going to bed. I put it off every night until after midnight. It's very hard sometimes, but it is getting a little better. I can tell you are hurting a lot. I'm sorry, but probably 50 % of all married people will walk in our shoes....I can tell you are a great person.

[@juliekawuba2093]

I can relate to you. I got widowed 7 years ago. The Lord never leaves us to wallow in misery if we let Him. Be blessed always 🙏 Julie from Uganda

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Julie, thank you for your words of encouragement. I am blessed , to recieve them. GOD be with you and yours...

[@allisontork]

Loss hurts. There are many kinds of loss. So happy you were well married and miss her so, as a sign of your deep union. Men your age can repartner more easily than women… if and when you choose to open in that way. You are a dear soul. God bless.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you so much!

[@virginiadodgen2787]

Len, I have been told our amount of grief is related to our amount of love we shared with our loved one. We were one. Now I am one half. Thank you and God bless you for sharing with us. I agree I don't know how someone gets through this journey without God.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Virginia, yes what you said is so true. I feel like a man with the best part of me, torn apart. I feel as if I walk in circles, instead of a straight line with purpose in mind. She was the the best thing next Jesus. The only thing that could be better is to stand in His presence with her next to me. One day soon maybe. We just don't know when. Thanks for your comment Virginia. God bless. May your Christmas be a joyous one...God 🙏🕊

[@stephm-p2839]

Hi Len, Its nice to walk outside especially with my dog, (it gives me a sense of peace and I can have time to reflect on where I am on this new journey) My husband and I loved our dog ( he was our baby) even though we have children and grandchildren.. it was just us three for years. Anyway the man who said just get over it, ( I for one will never get over losing my husband )he was my everything..my soulmate, my best friend, my lover, my buddy.. you just don't get over that! Its not about getting over it, its about moving forward with the life we were given with Gods guiding hand, day by day, We will always keep them in our hearts and minds till we see them again . Thank you for sharing your journey with us and allowing us to share ours too. Lets us all continue to pray for one another... In Christ, Steph

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Steph, I'm glad you have your dog to talk to. I have cat inside Sandy's her name, and that little cat has kept me going. It was her baby, it still is. I walked this morning, good time to breath, reflect, sing and pray. I can't sing, but God has ear plugs, I think. I want to thank you for your comments, they help me , others, and you too, I believe. .we will take all the time necessary to grieve, even if it takes a very long time. Our love was deeper than a few months or years. We each must be who we are, not somebody else. They were our everything, that you said. I get it Steph. I hope your Christmas is one of new good memories. Those will be yours to share or hold in your healing heart...God bless...🙏🐕

[@leilaniaustria851]

Thank you Len for ur comforting words... it helps me...

[@kennydee8296]

being retired and every day is the same I would go out not realizing it was the weekend and all of the couples holding hands used to destroy me, it’s getting better but it will always bring it home to me - 🌻she is gone and is not coming back 💔

[@dianewilliams5271]

I understand exactly how you feel. I feel some better, but like you say sometimes it is overwhelming. I have a friend that lost her husband 38 years ago. She says you never get over it. I am glad it is not as bad as it was at first. We just have to keep busy and pray that the Lord helps us get through each day.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Amen, great comment Diane. Good days, then not so good days. Nights can go either way. But as time progresses, the hurting does begin to heal. True in my journey. True in most. We won't ever stop loving or missing them. But the trauma of brokenness will heal, mostly...the Lord's on our side, we got this...🙏☝️

[@lizgreco3611]

Thank you for these videos, we are never the same, we just have to learn to live with our grief, the price we pay for true love, I function, but it's with a broken heart, it's a year Christmas day for my husband passing and I cry everyday, I still talk to him everyday, you don't get over it, till we see them again, listen to the song I'll see you again on ytube, says it all

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

You never really left, I'll see you again. Very beautiful words to a very emotionally beautiful song . Thank you for showing me that. I'll remember it again and again. I wish I could take your hurt from you on Christmas Liz, But I cant. You will get thru this, God walks by your side. I'm pretty sure He will carry you if you need it. You'll look back one day and see only one set of foot prints in the sand. He loves us and He needs us. He just needed our spouses sooner. I still cry, every day.🙏🕊

[@debbiestowe1343]

Hey Liz, When Mom passed ( my husband's Mom) I woke up to a song playing in my head. I told my husband about it. The song kept playing over and over. It was " I'll See You Again"! So we decided to play it at her Memorial Service. All of us wrote on river rocks and put at the grave. On the back of my rock, I wrote I'll See You Again" and my sweet, sweet husband got to finally see her and Dad again 10 months ago. I Miss Them So Very Much! Want to wish you Len A Happy Belated Birthday My Sweet Friend, although right now I know nothing is too happy, but NEVER let anyone tell you how or how long to grieve. All of our stories and chapters of our lives are different and unique!!!

[@lizgreco3611]

@@debbiestowe1343 On bad days I play that song , it says everything, I also played it at my husband's memorial mass, I had many people even the priest ask me where I found it, it came into my head like a message from my husband

[@debbiestowe1343]

@@lizgreco3611 This song has a powerful message. It really does touch your heart. Thank God one day we will see them again! That Hope gives us something solid to hold on to.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@debbiestowe1343 👍💧

[@jeanettebranco1910]

Hi Len, so good to listen to you again, it seems like you are talking to me, I don't think you get over it, I have my good days and then really bad days, it has been almost a year for me, since I lost my boyfriend and soulmate, part of me went with him, so I hope we can find peace and maybe move forward., someday. God bless you and peace be with you.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thanks Jeanette, lose of a love a special kind of love , is never going be an easy road , hurt is hurt . Nothing like it. I never new this kind of hurting was possible . You are feeling it pretty good right now, but everyone says time must pass to begin to heal your broken heart. They are right, I believe. I have begun to heal, it still hurts Jeanette, but it is getting a little easier each week or two. Slowly. Hang in there you will be ok...God bless...🙏🕊🎄

[@dorothysharp1158]

Thank you Len everything you say I can relate to. I lost my husband nearly six years ago and I am still grieving. We met when I was 18 and were together for 53 years. I thank God we had so long together but when you lose your soulmate your rock your best friend it’s still never long enough. I am so grateful to have a warm loving and caring family around me but it still doesn’t take away the loneliness and coming home to an empty house is still so hard. Grief is what we pay for having loved but I thank God he blessed us with so many happy years together. My prayers are with you and all the people who are still on this journey may he give us all strength joy and hope for better times ahead🙏.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Dorothy, thank you for your comment. I try to imagine what my life will be years ahead. I can't go that far , it just seems so strange ,to not have this precious woman beside me ,into the years ahead. But I know God is here with me and he knows our pain. I wish I had 53 years instead of 35. I'm very thankful for the time he gave me here. My life was blessed to have her in it. Now like you, I hurt in my loneliness. My hope is in God's promise to see her again, one day soon. Until then I walk slowly thru my grief, living for God's purpose, and with my wife's memories as my comfort. The holiday season is here upon us. I really feel the loneliness now. I can't stop that feeling. I'm glad you have family close by Dorothy. You need each other. I wish I had some. May God bless you and yours...

[@jimjohnson6660]

Hi len. I been going thru this now for 26 months tomorrow Dec 21 th of this year. I have a hard time each and everyday in my life. Thanks for those words tha yo have said a far. Jim

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Jim. Big date for you again . I know how you feel. At least from where I'm at. I don't like being without her. One foot in front of the other. And lots of cry pray. I don't know any other way. Thanks for comment. God bless. You will make it thru again....☝️🙏

[@ehsoule]

Glad I found your channel Len, watching your videos has helped. The hardest part for me is every time I change or close an account or throw something away I feel like what is left of my wife’s life is slowly disappearing. It’s only been a month since she has passed. The brain fog is the worst, and I just try and do what I can when I can because I know there have been and will continue to have days I can’t do anything. I talk to her and god often when I’m at home, I tell her about my day and I constantly pray for strength and that she is in his kingdom and is at peace.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Sorry I missed this comment . You are going thru the same feelings I have had and still get. I have tried to go thru her stuff several times. It is hard to do. I pray for wisdom and guidance for all financial and legal matters because she was the book keeper. I've learned a lot, now I will learn it all. No more us or we. Just me. May God bring peace of mind to you . I trust in GODs mercy and grace , He will help you.

[@sylviacalkins333]

Thank you so much for doing these videos... My hubby of 44 years, just 17 days ago, died... I don't want to cry all the time, yiu have really helped me, hope yiur b-day was wonderful... Thank yiu

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Sylvia, I'm trying to find a word to say, your so very new at this grief journey. I'm so glad I've helped a little, that is worth so much to hear. I want to help. My bday was ok. Thanks. I am still grieving , still cry, but not anything like those first few months, Mostly. .I didn't want to cry either, it hurt to cry, it hurt not to cry. It just hurt ,no matter what I did. Looking back from 10 months now., I realize I had to let it out in the only way it could. Thru my tears. It was. Embarrassing at times, because I could not always control or stop it. It's OK to cry, sometimes after a good cry you will actually feel just a little bit better , I did. . I know what you are going thru. I hope others can text you and just share, it helps, it really does. GOD bless...🙏🕊

[@Kaytha.57]

This video hurts like a knife to my heart. Your such a special man to me. I have been following you for some time. Have a knot in my throat. I know life seems so unfair. That man that said get over it. You tell him he's nuts. I say so... You grief for as long as you have to. We know the pain will subside in its own time. God's will. God's time... Happy Birthday wishes to you dear man. 🎉🎈. God bless. Bye for now

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello 57, thank you for your words are very kind. I know some people have a different journey, depends on the circumstances of the loss they are going thru. I get that. I'm here in grief till I'm not here no more. You said it, Gods will God's time...👍👍🕊🙏

[@fshafly2]

Len - I find comfort in listening to your journey. I am headed into the fourth month since I lost my loving wife of 51yrs to cancer... I'm past the third month and it was not near as rough as the first two months - as you had told me was your experience. Thanks for posting, it's still been rough for me. I'm an introvert who has always been comfortable being alone. But part of my "being" is missing and I know in my heart that the wound will never heal.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you for your comment fshafly2 . The life we now live is going to change in one way or another. Mine has already, I'm an I and me instead of an us and we. Words Taken from another grieving soul here. That hits the spot. I'm alone, and begining to except it. Not looking to change it now. All I can do now is help others like me , or us. All I can do for some is to pray for healing... I hope to do it well...🙏

[@sandrabibler4378]

Thank you Lynn for your videos I have enjoyed it and got encouragement from them. My husband passed away 15 months ago it has been a very hard journey I still cry some I'm going forward but not very fast. Only by God's grace and mercy I'm still standing in my family and my church family they've been great. I started watching this video because I wanted to see from man's point of view what you go through, my husband told me before he got sick I do not want you to go before me I couldn't do it you're so much stronger I said I don't know why you think that but as I've looked at things I don't think he could have made it very good but I'm sure having a hard time too I'm not as strong as he thought I was. We were married 53 years you don't just get over that overnight, as you know as you've been going through this that it is not very easy. May God continue to bless you as you try to help the ones that listen and that are going through this I know everyone that's commented has been through this journey and are doing best they can each day and that's all we can do is take each day as it comes thank you again for your videos I have learned a lot from just listening.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you for your comment. I'm glad to. Hear you have a church family, that is a good thing to have thru this. Some may even be on the road you walk...I tell those who would not get it, that hope is alive, and the loneliness survives, but the love of God thrives. Just a funny way of saying , His grace is sufficient . I can tell you that not all men are bereavement specialist. They keep alot inside, I did at first. The shear weight of pain I was experiencing was off the charts. It literally nearly cost me everything I had. My life included. We depend on our dear beautiful wives to console comfort and care for us. They did so much we now know just how much. I look to heaven and praise God for that wonder ful graceful wife He let me my life with. All the things and trials we went thru were to show what Love really is. I'm understanding it more each day. I'm praying for an extra measure of His strength and peace to follow you thru the holidays and beyond Sandra...🙏🕊☝️

[@tabithawarren8249]

Len, some of us know how you feel. It’s been 11 months ago today. Extremely rough year. I take heart in the fact that my husband is in heaven with his mom and dad. With the Lord we will get through it 🙏🏼❤️🙏🏼. Praise the Lord!

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Tabitha, thank you for commenting. It is good to hear from some one who understands, who gets it , all of it. Rough is one word with many versions. I'm happy to hear of your faith in the Lord's promise of a blessed hope. Home is waiting for us with our loved one and loved ones. Thank you for saying it for me, praise the Lord.!🕊🙏☝️🎄

[@tabithawarren8249]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118 yes Sir. Now we just occupy…

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@tabithawarren8249 amen!!!

[@tabithawarren8249]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118 🙏❤️🙏

[@EnligUlv]

Tomorrow I bury my wife of 37 years; she is 57. After tomorrow when I drop everyone off at the airport, I know it will be quiet for the first time ever, but on Friday I return to work which is my purpose. It’s been three months since I’ve been to work. The commute is long and the work days are much longer. At age 58, there’s no senior prom or comebacks on my horizon. So, I’ll immerse myself in work for the next decade…

[@JayP-kd5rc]

Happy birthday Len. It does look like snow there. I'm sorry about your drone. But you can still have fun with it. It will be 2 years Jan 5, and I am still having a hard time. My husband suffered from depression, and took his life. It was such a shock.............still is. I can't be mad at him as I can imagine how much he was suffering to be able to do that. I can only feel sad for him and wish he had talked to me instead. I will never stop missing him. Thank you Lord, for the 30 years we did have together. We used to go out to look at Christmas lights also. We would make hot chocolate to bring with us. Part of me would like to go see the lights, but the other part of me just wouldn't enjoy it without him. Not the same to go alone. So many things we lose the pleasure in when we lose the partner that we enjoyed it with. That's what made it wonderful and fun. Their company. Thank you for this video Len. God bless.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

You are welcome Jay P. I did get my drone back the cat don't like it very much though. I know what depression is, it's all around us many have some form or another. Different types from bad to worse. I think I have read many books maybe too many on this subject. There was a need for this. When you said looking at Christmas lights it hit me, that is what we would be doing right now. Boy that is another event you lost that you shared together. So many things you lose. Your best friend is hardest. I thank God every day for that wonderful woman he let me share my life with. Oh thank you for the birthday wish I'm no longer a kid I'm an older kid. BYE FOR NOW. THANKS...

[@sherryclingenpeel9304]

Happy happy belated birthday.If you ever want a sidekick 2 the zoo...I'd go with you..never been there..Detroit yes..but I heard Toledo is amazing. I live in Michigan too and also hate coming home 2 a dark empty house..it set off a cry fest tonight. I miss my husband so bad..but I will wear his ring till we are together again. He is my one and only. Please keep doing videos God has sent you to help us all.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Wow, you have an energy in your words Sherry, thanks for the bday wish. They just keep coming. No stopping it. I know what a cry fest is I'm one who could fill a bucket in my first 4 months or so. They come along now and then still. Not as bad as before. This first Christmas alone is not leaving my tears dry for long. It is very hard to think about all the memories of the joy we shared together, without letting go a little here and there. I feel the same. My ring stays on she still wears hers. Sidekick huh. You put a big smile on my face with that comment. Thanks I needed that. Hope I or some one else here can continue to give you comfort in this terrible journey. GOD bless . How was D . ZOO. LIGHTS.

[@heidihamilton1536]

That other guy should go to another group. You have a right to grieve and to go through its process. I feel sick, I know I'm still in shock, im trying to push on, I have a lot to do now and it s up to me what I'm going to do, when and how...

[@Daisy14]

You have my condolences on your wifes passing. I lost my sweet husband of 37yrs. It will be two yrs in March. Be kind to yourself thr your journey of greif.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thanks Nicole , I appreciate your words of condolence. I will record this thought in my mind, I have been hard on myself. To often. Thank you...

[@doloresparker3582]

I just can’t get into the spirit. I know I should as a Christian. I’m struggling through just as we all are. I put a small tabletop tree up with LED lights but just couldn’t look at it. Took it down and put it back in the box.Maybe next year (3 yrs ). I sat a poinsettia on the table. I understand your loneliness and pain. I hope you have family or friends to spend a little time with. Happy Birthday Len, Merry Christmas Happy Birthday Jesus

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello dolores, sometimes I can make it look easy on the outside, but inside that wound is still there, that broken heart is healing, slowly. We all work this out on our own schedule, no time limit. Love never dies. The greater the love the greater the life. Not sure what to do for Christmas, no plans, just letting it go bye. Me and sandy (kitty cat), will exchange gift. I bought her a catnip mouse. Shh... praying for you dolores, peace and joy thru the holidays and beyond...God bless...🕊🙏 thanks for b.day wish...🎶👍

[@maryloufremlin4152]

This is the First Christmas with out my sister I was her caregiver for years and she was a great friend I Miss her a lot ❤️

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hi Marylou. You sister left a big hole to fill. I have lost a sister too. I wasn't a care giver the hospital was. Brain cancer twice. She just gave up. Sat with her when she died. I had my hand on shoulder my dad held her hand. I miss her . To young and happy to die that way. I still don't understand it. I hope you can find some reason to experience joy this Christmas and beyond. Thank you for sharing , it can help others too.God bless...

[@maryloufremlin4152]

You know i actually had physical Pain on my chest the first few week’s horrible feeling My sister Loved the Lord very much she had lupus for over 35 years we went thru a lot together Great and bad times as her health was worse

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@maryloufremlin4152 l have never know any one with lupus. But 35 years with it must have taken a toll both physically and mentally for all who cared for her. I had felt as though I was going to die from griefs excruciating weight upon my whole being. I had never ever felt pain like this before. And now I will never have to go thru it again. I think. Your sister is healthy and very happy now, that is good feeling to comfort your hurting heart. ☝️

[@roberthelton3325]

Yes they say time heals 4 mo and it's like yesterday .Pain lonely and just sad.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Robert, my first 4 or 5 months were not good. Everything was sinking in. I was alone now, completely. I don't ever want to go back there. My only real help was God and prayer. Now I realize that this was all I needed. I couldn't fix the extreme pain. But God helped me thru the hardest parts. Still hurts every day. I've learned to live with it by forcing myself to do the things we both loved. It was hard at first. But the more I do it becomes a little easier bit by bit. They would us to be happy. They are. May God bless...👍☝️

[@sunriseschubert4391]

My beloved mother passed away on October 6 2022 and I'm heartbroken 💔😢. This is the first Christmas without her, and I don't feel any joy or anything good.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

I'm hearing your words, you don't feel anything but empty pain. Nothing matters to you but this big huge ball of pain you are carrying with you. I get it. I will keep you in my prayers . Ok I've been there...

[@user-ro2gf7pf8n]

I feel your sadness in your eyes and your voice. But I can tell you're strong kudos to you.

[@josephbologna2086]

Hey Len Was wondering how you doing it’s Joanne from Jersey it’s December 11. Yeah Christmas is Coming 2023 How time flies I don’t think you been making videos lately but that’s OK As long as you’re doing OK I like to keep in touch once in a while, You helped me in a big way. It’s still a struggle A lonely one, especially Now it gets dark at five. I feel like I’m just existing it’s terrible. It really is. If you ever want to share you could share with me. God bless you and your beautiful wife Cindy I feel like you’re my friends.❤❤

[@tessurtado5474]

Thank you for your words, I loved Christmas but it's not a happy time for me , I'm angry but love God ❤️ Hope you have a Merry Christmas, my texting is awful through tears , my husband was my number 1 then my kiddos God's always my first of course, there is no Go Be Happy Bless you

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

You can be angry, its what we do. Jesus got so angry in the Bible. If He did it then we are allowed. To Err is human. He understands how you feel Tess. You don't have to enjoy the Holidays. I have been on this road a little longer than you, so it is easier for me to try. I'm still praying for you and yours.🙏🕊🎶😸

[@sydneypresley7987]

Hey Len I found you again and watching your videos. I'm alone also but I have children and siblings. I am praying for you everyday. She's looking down on you. It's hard to get over death but some widows and widower must have companionship. You cannot hurry grief. I pray you are able to go to the zoo and enjoy it.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello again Sydney Presley, I'm happy to hear you have children and siblings to share Christmas with. Being alone is not very fun. My faith in God will carry me when I need Him to. I believe. I did go to the zoo,will post video today. I did ok. I think. Thank you so much for your encouraging comments. They mean a lot to me and others to. 🙏👍

[@wendysullivan1909]

Len .lost my man 5 months ago. I was with him 42 yrs. I I know it's hard. Empty house alone. But I push myself to do things every day. And I find myself feeling a little better each day. You should go to the zoo if you enjoyed it . And happy birthday to you. I wish you well.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thanks Wendy. Sorry for the late reply, every word you say rings true . I just do it, sometimes it hurts. Not fun being alone. But God's helping me. 42 years is a lot of memories. We will need them to keep going forward, i think. 🙏🕊🎄Thank you for the birthday wish. Peace to you from God, my prayer...

[@misstbikini]

I feel this its a month tomorrow, im struggling, i am beyond words that describe grief

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

I was where you are. I know very well this hurt. You will get thru this,,,, in time... God sees your broken heart and feels your wounded soul. I can only say to you, that He is there always. I've lost everybody.my wife was the last. God never failed me yet.. Keep telling others about your feelings, it will help you thru this horrible trauma and painful loss. ♥️🙏

[@Dandelion0962]

Common phrase, but valuable if used correctly, especially with your age and these chaotic times; Keep the good worth holding ont2, and leave the rest 4 The Best ❤️🌼🌸💕💕💕🌸🌼❤️

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you for your comment Charlene. I'm keeping the best and leaving the rest.👍🙏

[@jsansing932]

Jesus prepares a place for all of us who love Him. We are all connected. You are never alone, tho you may feel so. Trust Jesus. Open all your windows every morning to let light in. Then, open your Bible. God is good all the time. Love you.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Beautiful words to live by, well said..trust in Jesus ...thank you J Sansing...God bless...

[@RobertJung-bj3fo]

HAPPY EASTER MAN

[@angelapriddy6308]

Hi there Lynn I just found your channel and I've watched a couple of your videos and first I'd like to say I'm so sorry for your loss. I lost my son back in May and it really does hurt. Though I would like to say I want to introduce you to a lady and I think her name is Susan her KZbin channel is called little poet on KZbin and you remind me so much of her I love love her so much and I don't ever comment so if you say my name she won't know who I am because I don't comment on her videos I watch them and love them so I wanted you to tell I wanted to tell you about her because she too lives in Michigan she lost her husband and she's just wonderful so I hope you will go find her little poet on KZbin and watch her she will make you smile so she'll make you laugh she'll make you cry that she's a wonderful woman so again you're in my prayers

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Angela, thank you for the comments. I'm sorry you lost your son, I don't know what that is like. But you grieve, and grieving is something I know very well. I will look at the little poet channel you speak of shortly. My prayer to you and for you is for a blessed and joyful Christmas. Hope is alive...🙏🕊☝️

[@Dandelion0962]

Live 2 Be As 4 the man your wife saw you 4 living 2 Be, the BEST u/U CAN. 4 you, her, many others, and 2 The AllMightY True Commitment Creator ❤️🌼💕💕💕🌼❤️

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thanks for your comment Charlene, GOD bless you...🙏🕊☝️💕

[@Dandelion0962]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118 Thank you ❤️🌼💕🌼❤️

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@Dandelion0962 💌🎄

[@mangisty1007]

That is ignorant of that guy to say that remark. Everyone grieves differently and in their own time.

[@hilkkahirvonen4831]

You made that video on the day my husband passed away 😢😢😢

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

I'm so sorry for your loss, Hikka, I'm here to talk and others too. This is a tremendous trauma to the one left behind. I understand loss very well. I don't know your circumstances but I do grief. Your world is all different now. It will be for sometime. I'm praying for you others also. May God bring you a peace and guidance through this journey you just started. In Jesus name, amen.. 🙏🕊

[@marilynwarick2073]

Everybody is different.it’s what you think.Maybe you thought more deeply about your wife.Coming home is the hardest l find sometimes l forget for the moment that he isn’t there. Time is suppose to heal not for everybody. Marilyn in Canada

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hi Marilyn, I hear you, it's not the same walk for everyone. I have called out "Honey", before I could stop it on several occasions. It is an odd feeling that hits when you do this out of habit. Hope you are doing OK up there...eh,👍🙏🇨🇦

[@tessurtado5474]

Happy birthday new you

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you, where's my gift......... HOPE you are doing OK tonight tess...I know you are hurting... still praying for you, others too, ok....

[@tessurtado5474]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118 Will a virtual hug do And a God-bless you

[@stephenparks864]

My wife been gone a year and a half now devastating life experience lost my best freind and partner she went fast wasn't prepared at all for this at all my family is terrible don't really care whatsoever her family is even worse have no children on my own

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Hello Stephen , best friend and partner in every thing and every way. I wasn't prepared either, no one told me what to expect other than the, " l know how you feel," Line. No they don't and hope they won't. Stephen I will keep you in my prayers, this is lonely journey without a friend who gets it...I get it. Mostly ... 10 months for me, 12/26/22...🙏

[@maryannwhitten5123]

We just have to take life one day at a time. Each person has to grieve in they own way. It is rough road. Take care.

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Thank you Marryann , I agree with everything you said, were all different. Peace to you...👍☝️

[@npenick66]

It will be two weeks tomorrow since my wife passed unexpectedly. Last night my 90 year old father, a retired Viet Nam era Army Colonel, asked me if I was 'over the hump' yet with all this. He didn't mean anything bad by it, it's just the way he is. I tried to explain to him that for most people it will take many years, we had celebrated our 20th anniversary a few months before she passed. Some people are just wired differently or are completely unable to put themselves in someone else's shoes. I didn't point out to him that he has called me almost every day for the last two years, ever since he and his live in girlfriend (also almost 90) broke up, because he was lonely in the empty house and just wants to talk to someone besides his dogs. He wouldn't get it.

[@RobertJung-bj3fo]

So why is he in grief group

[@LovieNagakannie]

😢

[@robertadams7070]

YES IM I LOSS MY WIFE 1 YEAR AND 7 MONTHS AGO IT,S GETS LONLY

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

I sure understand the loneliness Robert. Having an broken empty heart is just not a place to wish for anyone to live. May God bring peace to your new year. 🙏

[@robertadams7070]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118 THANK YOU IT MEANS A LOT KEEP DOING THE VIDEOS I TOO HAVE VERY LITTLE FAMILY LEFT TO TALK TO IF I DIDN,T HAVE CHURCH FAMILY I DON,T KNOW WHAT I WOULD DO THANK YOU AGAIN THE TRIGGERS ARE ROUGH AT TIMES OK SORRY IM TALKING SO MUCH BUT IT HELPS

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@robertadams7070 hello Robert , it's good to talk. I just left a grief support group . Men and women. We are helping each other. New friends. Different backgrounds. You can text me or others here any time ok. GOD bless

[@robertadams7070]

@@cindyandlenpresley...6118

[@robertadams7070]

THANK YOU FOR GETING BACK TO ME MEANS A LOT IM FROM NEW YORK A FRIEND FROM CHURCH STAYS WITH ME HE KEEPS ME COMPANY I NOW LOOK AT YOUR VIDEOS ENJOY EACH ONE ESPECIALLY THE CAR RIDES OK AND REMENBER DON,T GIVE UP OR GIVE IN GOD BLESS YOU

[@janicemcantyre3360]

Happy Birthday a day late Len! 🎈🧁🎁 I understand about people saying you should be over your grief. I have some family members and a few friends that have said that. I just ignor it, and go on they don't understand the pain. My husband was my other half, and feel like part of me missing. I know you and several others on this site feel that too. Your honesty and humor help me and many others from their comments. I know you hurt deeply and understand for sure. I had a leak from my water heater last night what a nightmare, but fixed now. A plumber came out and fixed it this morning. My husband was my rock to lean on for stuff like this, but I have to do now. I continue to pray for you, and the others who are struggling from their comments. We all need each other! Have a good night!🙏🐈🎄

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

Why thank you so much Janice, I appreciate your kind words here. I'm continuing to walk my journey on my road, not someone else's . I'm glad we are not all the same, though are pain is. Hurt is hurt. Glad your leaking water heater was remedied. No fun without hot water. No fun with frozen pipes either. Hope you are doing OK Janice, bye for now...🙏🎄

[@sherryclingenpeel9304]

Hugs 2 u...

[@cindyandlenpresley...6118]

@@sherryclingenpeel9304 back to you.Hugs