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[@prettynpetty8342]

Forcing black people to explain ALL of their trauma PUBLICLY is becoming a trend that really irks me. Especially in white spaces. Like this really bothers me. It happened to Garcelle on RHBH and now Will has to PUBLICLY talk about his trauma in order for people to see him as a person??? This isn't vulnerability. It's coercion. Will is allowed to feel angry about this.

[@faithsrealtalk2292]

Never thought of it like that. Thank you

[@nataliehenderson8657]

Pathetic and sad

[@Yooooveeeee]

Will wasn't forced..Black ppl can say no.

[@youwomanyou]

I agree I think it’s centered around the refusal to see Black people as victims and just only as transgressors. Trauma porn is necessary to assess if we can be “the perfect victim.” And this is not to absolve Will of what he did, but to speak on the refusal to allow Black people to be complex. Instead we are subjugated to a binary of good and evil.

[@voxomnes9537]

@@Yooooveeeee You have no idea what coercion is or how it works.

[@featherplucker]

As a licensed therapist, it makes sense that Will was in trauma mode. Having that thought process of feeling like he must protect women because he couldn’t protect his mom is real. Things from our childhood transfer over into adulthood

[@WoahhTeamJacob]

Yep!

[@869ofuncertainty]

I wish he'd focused on that in the apology. Or maybe had access to someone who could help him realize this.

[@Kelema86]

@@869ofuncertainty I’m actually glad he didn’t mention that in the apology. Even if I think there might be some truth to it I think most people would just get annoyed and think he is trying to make excuses and play the victim. I think his best recourse is to just apologize and condemn his own behavior. Explaining why he did it or the trauma he has that drove him to do it is not something most people want to hear about.

[@dkt4377]

Flag on the play... Will Smith was asked several years ago about getting professional counseling to help his marriage. His response was something along the lines of "proffesional couples therapy is cheating ... the ppl in the relationship should talk to one another." He clearly has unresolved traumas that need to be addressed by a professional. He cannot scoff at the treatment, yet hide behind the illness as an excuse for his actions.

[@msmiami212]

I'm passionate about his one, grab a drink! 😅 *The 'dark side of Will' cynical exposes are actually pretty concerning* when what we're seeing is a person desperately trying and failing on the journey of self-actualisation, like most of us in life. I do not buy that the likeability and charm is a crafted facade for celebrity... true genuineness can be felt and there are too many nobodies like Will with nothing to gain. His complexes are definitely from inadequacy and masculinity/machismo **in marriage**, something he witnessed negatively in his dad causing trauma. But these feelings are obviously exacerbated by his particular environment and chosen partner. An environment where his self-destructive agreeableness to compromise from traditional values to open marriage leads to a public reckoning led by his wife, flaring up core trauma - known by his wife. An environment where the needless extra scrutiny the talk show brings cannot be objected to even as harmful to Will's reputation and mental health it can be. It's about an environment where such deference is encouraged, it is feminist after all... yet resented because it doesn't represent the dominance and masculinity the partner craves. I won't speak on Tupac. *This slap wasn't about alopecia or Jada being disrespected.* It was about... STILL feeling the need to prove his adequacy as a husband, Twenty years in, because an undercurrent is present that means it's not a safe space to heal, despite all their combined years of extensive therapy. We are all talking about the effect of Jada because that's the common denominator. Will is one of those cautionary tales of men who married the wrong partner and doubled down, because he couldn't bear to go down the road of divorce a second time. Bad marriage for life. Divorce and breaking up his first family is his *actual central trauma* and he's spoken on the anguish of personal failure and public humiliation it brought. So when Kim says it's on him to face his issues, I'm not sure you know it's Jada, or the level we're dealing with here. Stepping away from another marriage (esp. with him seeing it as family breaking failure) is the final beast, the one he can never confront.

[@DiaryofaBasicBW]

All these people put here saying that Jada has emasculated Will, when it's the men in this industry that want him to be toxic towards his wife who are actually the ones trying to stomp all over his manhood.

[@dkt4377]

Will Smith committed assault. All this other talk is beside the point.

[@DSN430]

I'm reading his book (it's actually really fun, would make a great limited series) and this must really be hurting him. Like it hits on all of his childhood and early adulthood traumas: fear of disappointing people, shame of not protecting the women in his life, loss of the spotlight/love of fans and attention, being perceived as a coward. If he let himself feel that shame it would eat him alive.

[@Kelema86]

I have his book but haven’t started reading it yet. I look forward to getting into it.

[@JeanG645]

I'm about to buy it!

[@AriesGirl7719]

His book was one of the best autobiographies I have ever read. I listened to it on Audible and he reads it himself. You get all the nuances, feelings, and appropriate emotions. I laughed and cried while listening.

[@jswreviews]

It was a great book! I made a review on it on my channel. Some of the things discussed in the book made this whole situation appear predictable

[@sweetsadi27]

Please let viewers know that the Will Smith clip was sped up for video and he wasn't rushing thru questions and answered them more thoughtfully, sincerely and careful.

[@idk-man125]

It was just really crazy to see how so many people twisted the situation just to look for a reason to hate on Jada. Like ima be real with you, I’m not her biggest fan and I don’t like what she did with the whole August Alsina situation, BUT I’m able to look at this incident objectively and know that she: 1) didnt deserve that joke from Chris, and if it offended her then it offended her - end of story. 2) Will is a grown ass man that has a mind of his own, he choose to get up on that stage and do that 3) Will ain’t demanding for no public apology from Jada and doesn’t NEED her to ‘defend him’ from the Internet trolls. Just because you’re confused about how their relationship functions, doesn’t mean they gotta continue to explain it to the public 4) if Will wanted to divorce Jada for whatever reason, he absolutely could in a heartbeat and be completely fine, have all his money and move on with whomever. He’s CHOOSING to stay with Jada and no video compilation will change that. If this had happened to literally anybody else, people would’ve said that the husband did what he had to do (aka if Tom Hanks defended Rita Wilson in a similar manner or Jay-Z defended Beyoncé similarly)

[@eelnetflix5196]

Yes this!!! Absolutelyyyy, I agree 10000%

[@ashlouw5350]

I fully agree with you...Thats exactly how I viewed things. Love or Hate Jada but this was Will's, 50yrs old actions not his wife, doesn't matter what type of relationship they have but he felt the need to do what he did to defend her.

[@emfarah3758]

I saw grown men fight in bars over their women for less than Will Smith's situation. When it comes to blk men they can't be men and need to be punished for defending themselves or their wife.

[@lilacdreams5966]

yes! i felt like I was crazy and the only one thinking this. They are blaming a woman for a grown mans actions. They both have issues but that wasn't right

[@grlkat]

@F. Aduke Femi-Babalola Lol not Jay, Solange would be the one to watch out for.

[@liteflightify]

There’s definitely a lot of insecurities and traumas around Will. From watching the abuse his mother went through, to the questionable way he raised his kids and the seemingly “complicated” relationship they have with him, to the complications of his marriage, to the potential qu-eer dimensions him and Jada have and how it’s effected his ego and masculine pride (something us black folks don’t like talking about when we discuss their marriage), to the dichotomy of wanting to desperately be “the nice guy” but also be seen as macho and tough. There’s a lot going on. It is quite something that so much of it has cracked through the same year he won an Oscar, something he’s been clearly trying to get for almost twenty years. Now, no one even remembers that he actually won. It’s clear that so much of his life has been driven by traumas, fragile masculine and need for validation.

[@pb.j.1753]

I have some compassion for his history but this kind of violence at that celebratory setting in front of the world and in a room with all your peers that root for you - that’s some deranged arrogance that is inexcusable. I will always be disgusted by him.

[@jenesishunter9674]

Who gives a shitttt. Just like Beyonce with Kelis..... get paid DUST. Ya'lls opinions don't give them checks. 🤨

[@3bowwow22]

@@pb.j.1753 so when kid rock and tommy le got Into a fight out at award ceremony it was OK just when nigga get into fights

[@lacheinc]

I agree BUT we need to stop holding a microscope up to Will and allow him to be in that space without the harshness. Why is he judged for having these traumas and not living up tot he expectations? This says more about the bullshit "black community" than it does about Will...smh

[@lacheinc]

@@pb.j.1753 And he will never even know you to give a fuck. Im CERTAIN that if we had a jumbo tron with all of your failures, we would be disguisted with you too. The fact that you inadvertently place yourself above him by being "disguisted" by one misdeed, shows that you too are self centered. I guess it takes one to know one.

[@hellosarah_]

This is the danger of constantly needing to be validated but the spaces that will smith are in are catalyst for the reemergence of those traumas. I hope he’s ok.

[@aubreyjames8795]

That’s exactly right. The dynamic between the working masses and celebrities trying to walk on egg shells to placate them is ridiculous. Everyone has a breaking point, and it may be caught on tv for a select few.

[@Ladylovebug26]

Y’all in here speaking all intelligently and stuff! Talm bout catalysts, placating and reemergence!Gone head witcha bad selves!!!❤️😃

[@NIKO-gr7vc]

@@Ladylovebug26 right, bc i’m taking notes 🤣

[@Kharyne]

Yes!!!! Exactly

[@veeceey1073]

The way people blamed Jada was maddening to me. I repeatedly saw her get called out of her name, and blamed for Will’s actions. The amount of comments I saw stating Jada gave Will a “look” that made him react way he did. Misogynoir is wild bc Jada was the only innocent person in that whole situation and she got dragged non stop for days.

[@dkt4377]

Well Bob Brown was blamed for Whitney's drug abuse and other issues... nobody claimed that him being blamed was a form of misandry.

[@Blahgirl283]

I don’t think less of Will because of that moment. Was it disappointing and unfortunate for Chris? Yeah. But, we aren’t perfect. Will isn’t either but he’s forced himself to try to be for decades because of trauma. And anyone who struggles with perfectionism and control and shame- you know- it breaks eventually. Once in a blue moon, but it breaks- Because we aren’t perfect and what a terrible burden to carry. I hope he is able to forgive himself and that Chris and him can make amends one day.

[@ddot9566]

I do think less of Will. If I walked up at my job and slapped a co-worker across the face in front of everyone, I'd be fired and rightfully so. What he did was assault. I struggle with perfectionism and I recognize the need for accountability. Saying he isn't perfect does nothing to help him get the help he needs. Thinking less of him doesn't equate to wishing him ill though. He is not well and hasn't been for years. I think time away from the public is good for him. He needs to find himself apart from seeking the approval of others. I wish him well and hope we see him come back even stronger than before. He deserves that while also being held accountable for his actions.

[@idk-man125]

We are getting treated SO good with all of these recent uploads!! I’m loving the thumbnails, the topics, and your takes🤩🤩💕

[@joeyjose727]

Maybe I’m too sensitive but I think it’s weird that people feel the need to justify laughing about Jada’s hair because she’s rich and can afford to fix the issue somehow Money or not, most humans are very attached to their appearance with hair. So when something happens to your hair, it can feel really intense. It’s so visible to everyone, so maybe people feel like they can say whatever they want about it Jada does not have to laugh at that joke. You do not need to make think piece tweets on why it’s actually good to laugh at her hair because she’s rich

[@lilygirllisa]

Let's be real comparison to GI Jane was because she was bald he made it in front of an all white audience because that's what he does mocks black people and their culture in front of white people for money. If you don't believe me he even asked his fellow comic to call him the n-word

[@VintageToilet]

@Adrian oh shut up lmao, the joke wasn’t “you look like this other beautiful woman” the joke is that “you’re bald”. that’s like saying if you compare a woman to Fiona from Shrek they shouldn’t be upset because she’s pretty (for an ogre) .

[@elijahishere]

@Adrian are you trying to say that because GI Jane is pretty that the joke was meant to make Jada...feel good? Because it wasn't. Just because it wasn't intended to hurt, in your opinion, doesn't mean much of anything. Intentions don't matter as much as how the action makes the recipient feel. The whole point of this video is that it wasn't just about the joke. There was an amalgamation of traumas that led to that moment. It's not as simple as "if you can't handle the joke, go home."

[@enyonamagbemadzo8684]

@Adrian she has alopecia and has publicly talked about her insecurities regarding her disease/hair. Grow up and gain some compassion/empathy.

[@Emmany97]

@@enyonamagbemadzo8684 if someone calling you bald makes you feel bad, stay home and never go out. She's not the only bald person in the world. Alopecia is not a chronic disease. Stop being sensitive.

[@Nikki-ks6wi]

Great points Kim! My views 1. I think Chris could have made a better joke 2. We don’t know their relationship behind closed doors, which is how it should have been settled 3. I don’t think he needs to keep apologizing especially for other actors doing far worse

[@synesthesia.aesthetic]

This

[@rainstorm571]

I mean he hasn’t kept apologizing

[@_NoHandle_]

Isn't this the only time he's apologized? Well, apologized to Chris Rock.

[@Chaka_Davis]

DV survivor here: I did not see this slap as a big deal and I really hated how Karens mobilized White tears and DV to cement a narrative of shame around Will and to paint him as a threat. Also, all of this after Alec Baldwin accidentally murdered someone (after repeatedly being told to stop playing with the prop). Not only that, but Chris Rock joining in on the narrative and profiting off this weird sort of anti-Blackness is beyond disappointing. The whole situation was a bunch of people with less name recognition and shorter resumes than Will and Jada gratifying themselves on their downfall. It's weird

[@dkt4377]

Chris had an impressive resume long before this incident... even if he didn't, he is well within his right to respond how he pleases. Alec Baldwin's actions were an accident. Will's attack was deliberate. Will Smith traumatized and humiliated Chris. Will is getting the appropriate amount of heat for his actions.

[@Deekerry]

Dv survivor here too, you didn't see a slap as a big deal? After 2 years in therapy I'm able to recognise that any level of violence is violence and I think it's quite scary that you have become desensitised to violence and I wish you the best in any future relationships because its quite easy to get into 'oh it was only a slap, no big deal'. Someone putting hands on you to deliberately and Intentionally harm you is a big deal that is your body and no one should lay a finger on anyone regardless if it's a push or a punch. And I do say deliberately because a person knows what there capable of regardless of trauma or C-PTSD. My ex had PTSD and used his violence towards me but took no responsibility and used this as an excuse. Tbh we all have some trauma and it is how you choose to deal with it, will had a good amount of time whilst getting up and heading over to the stage to ground himself and use soothing techniques and to make a choice and he chose violence it takes once second to make a split decision

[@XxMercuriiXx]

What part was anti-black ?

[@dkt4377]

@@shizzlecrystal5964 We can always play the whataboutism game of pointing at another situation. We are talking about this situation... where one person assaulted someone else and felt so comfortable/entitled that he calmly returned to his seat.

[@dkt4377]

@@shizzlecrystal5964 it's a public post... I elected to post a reply and I don't require nobody's permission to do so. It doesn't matter if you were speaking to me or not.

[@MISSMADISONMEDIA]

I like that he apologized to Chris’s mom

[@kikibara1]

The intense Jada hatred that came out of this deeply irked me… how are people gonna blame her for a grown mans actions? Its just misogynoir in my eyes. The past few years shes been so badly talked about as if people REALLY know anything about them

[@dkt4377]

When you openly talk about your marriage in a public forum, Red Table talk, you should be prepared for the public scrutiny that follows.

[@LinguistAmbie]

Jada didn’t deserve that humiliating “ball headed joke” told on an oscar stage. And the gaslighting she received is gross 🤮 Will shouldn’t have hit him but I really hope he doesn’t speak on this again. We need to dead this nonsense. 🙄

[@Calandr28]

There wasn't a bald headed joke made. "GI Jane I can't wait to see it." Stop acting like Chris compared her to Gollum.

[@siako8112]

@@Calandr28 ma’am go away.

[@enyonamagbemadzo8684]

@@Calandr28 Pick Me she has alopecia and has publicly talked about her insecurities regarding her hair loss, the joke was uncalled for. Grow up and gain some compassion/empathy.

[@Calandr28]

@@siako8112 You go away and come back when you can explain exactly when Chris talked about Jada's alopecia?

[@Calandr28]

@@enyonamagbemadzo8684 Just because Jada has talked about having alopecia doesn't mean everyone knew. You speak of compassion and empathy. Where's your compassion and empathy for the person that was actually assaulted over a joke Will laughed at? Now be a dear and please comment where Chris called Jada ball headed and talked about her alopecia?

[@nene8120]

Loved this, I also witnessed the domestic violence between my parents and it affects all aspects of my life to this day.

[@WoahhTeamJacob]

May i ask in what ways?

[@grapesyrop]

@@WoahhTeamJacob also interested to know

[@imaraoctavia]

Y’all acting like slapping someone is the worse thing someone can do. Some of you all need to check who you’re supporting, because y’all definitely support woman and child abusers. How y’all support jeffree star and James Charles, but Will Smith slapping a man who offended his wife is the hill that you all want to die on 🙃

[@SapphicSis]

people are still supporting Kodak Black, Chris Brown, R. Kelly, 6ix9ine, Justin Bieber after saying the N-word, Wendy Williams who literally ruins peoples careers… all of these people have done much worse than slap someone for defending their wife yet for some reason Will has to be held to a higher standard? Everybody has things they go through and every human makes mistakes yet for some reason people still support Bill Cosby and R. Kelly & Will is just so bad?! get the fudge out of here

[@Kincaid2576]

Doubtful that this audience supports either of those names. I knew the first only because of some past negative reporting on how he addressed black women, I had to Google the second.

[@imaraoctavia]

@@Kincaid2576 I’m not necessarily talking about people here, but people in general. I do get how my comment makes it sound like that

[@Jaimelikegem]

@da midwif not really. A lot of ppl in Hollywood are abusers, thieves, racists etc. Andy Cohen gets to run bravo and have all these a list celebrities connected to him, but hes an obvious racist. Shakira ain't paying her taxes. None of the Kardashians are either (fake church) and they are massive scammers (credit card company scam, on top of thievery from brandys mom and co and now stealing that black womans trademark for KKW SKIN or whatever). Let's not even get into all the child molesters and ppl silent about them in Hollywood and still going to their parties. A slap isn't the most egregious thing but ppl are really acting like it is lol

[@zaboomafooba]

This. I'm thinking of people like Roman Polanski and Woody Allen, men both charged with sexual assault of a minor... Polanski was charged with assault of a 13 year old girl, plead guilty in 1977, and STILL won an Oscar after that in 2002. It was only decades later, in 2018, that Polanski was expelled from academy membership... The amount of shock and vitriol I've seen about "the slap" is absurd and out of proportion when considering how the "Academy" has handled (ignored) child sex abuse. But a person getting slapped is what does it and gets more people up in arms? Nah.

[@libbybooth4651]

This is a brilliant apology here. He really took the time so that the people watching were those who wanted to hear from him, not while all the media was buzzing over it. What has broken my heart through this video is how much this man is sorry. We all know why he feels the need to make things so right I hope he is okay.

[@BolanleJenny]

I honestly kinda bad for him. I do not in any way condone what he has done but he really seems to almost have lost his sense of self because of what has happened. It was bad and deserves some consquences but he seems to have tied up so much of his value into how people see him. I can only hope that he can work through this with therapy and the people around him that care about him so he can be better for himself.

[@NikNik-zr1zx]

Regardless of the reason why? If someone walked up to Will Smith and smacked Will, would he not press charges?

[@KeishaCharmaine]

I was watching the Oscars live from Queens. I definitely saw the slap. The just took the audio off. It gave very much skit. It took me a while to take this thing seriously lol but I hope all parties heal from this 🙏🏾

[@greenbyrd3665]

I did too. It was definitely shown live on the east coast.

[@neptunie5171]

This reminds me when I first heard about this situation, I truly thought this was a skit/a joke due to the fact it was Chris Rock and Will Smith involved. It took awhile for me to realize this was an actual serious situation since it was so out there.

[@Epinaj]

East coast definitely saw it!

[@KeishaCharmaine]

@@neptunie5171 exactly, two funny guys doing funny sh*t. It was funny to me at least, I was hollering, rolling I tell you 😂😂😂 I didn’t believe it until LAPD said they were investigating.

[@HerReelReview]

I am so similar to Will. So many people judge but so many of us are like this but don't have the platform or the audience's eyes on us like he does. He's talked about his trauma. His gotten therapy for his trauma. But trauma doesn't really go away. Even with therapy you just learn how to manage it, work through it, and how to recognize your triggers.

[@KAMROXX2K11]

Yup. The trauma never goes away and you are never fully healed. Which is okay once you learn effective coping skills. However coping skills do not equate to perfection. I relate to him as well. I have had similar impulsive actions in my past. My achievements somewhat dilute those parts of me. However, I know my good and bad sides.

[@WordWoman111]

Same. Managing.

[@Deekerry]

I agree to a certain extent, it doesn't go away, you learn to manage it and minimise the triggers. But I feel there is a difference here, will has a better standing point, he HAS the money to be in therapy each week, he HAS the ability to have a private therapist that he can call up when feeling triggered and go through these grounding techniques, the body, mind, only need 30 days to form a habit so imagine all the access he's had for years to train his brain. I've had therapy for 2 years but it had to end due to the amount of money it cost but I would definitely still be attending my sessions if I could but I don't have the luxury like celebrities do, and yes I get trauma is universal and celebrities are only human just like us, but what I am saying is that he clearly didn't use all his access and opportunity to help himself, lots of time has gone into the many movies, and music he does where he puts alot of effort it and he has to work hard for his role if he had put the same effort into his trauma work there would have been a different outcome and now he's inflicted harm upon someone else.

[@dkt4377]

He cannot use his trauma as an excuse to visit trauma on other people. Will Smith is being held accountable for assaulting someone in a very public manner.

[@janaemiller1554]

4, 3, I’m 2 fucking busy! Kim is getting these videos OUT and we love that👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@Crzyangelgirl]

It does feel like Will had lost himself in this apology video. And maybe that’s ok. Change, growth and elevating is good. I hope he gets to the part where he realizes he’s human too and flawed just like everyone and thus shouldn’t be crucified either. That no matter how many apologies he makes, the people who haven’t forgiven him won’t. And may he live his life peacefully and however he wants. Wishing him the best (and rooting for will’s villain origin story which is just him finally not caring if no one else loves him but himself ☺️)

[@Crzyangelgirl]

And I hope he forgives himself. I feel like HE hasn’t forgiven himself so how can anyone else eh?

[@teebelles921]

Beautifully said

[@MrsYoung0925]

I hate how Will has made this one mistake at what seems like a hard time in his life and he is being dragged so HARD for this. There have been consequences from this action. This just goes to show that black people cannot make a single mistake without all of their life's work being discredited in one moment.

[@rainstorm571]

Don’t make this a race thing, since Will will be fine since he is a black man, other have been given far worse punishments for far longer

[@AriesGirl7719]

@@rainstorm571 It is ALWAYS a race thing. He has been punished and continues to be punished. You seem ignorant.

[@ladybluelotus]

Agreed!

[@dkt4377]

Will's actions were unprecedented in the nearly 100yrs history of the Oscars, no one has ever walked on stage, mid ceremony, assaulted someone because he didn't like something they said, then calmly returned to their seat. The response is epic because of his actions.

[@susanthrift7056]

He's an adult and he did the wrong thing, stop making excuses for him!

[@jgbs8710]

my thoughts exactly, the way so many people on the black side of the internet have been (to this day, over two years later) making excuses left and right because of nostalgia value tied to Will Smith is actually repulsive

[@kaydenevideo]

“I am deeply committed to putting light and love and joy into the world.” It occurred to me that maybe the message could be “I am deeply committed to putting light and love and joy into myself.” He seems concerned with people liking/trusting/admiring him. I know we the public and his peers and his career might all feel so important, and getting a positive message across to all of us might seem like a high priority for someone like him. But I don’t think the public opinion of him should matter as much or more than his own opinion of himself. I can’t imagine trying to unpack my trauma, take accountability for myself and heal, while also trying to appeal to the public all at the same time. It seems almost like making messages to the public might become counter intuitive and distracting, or even distressing. Because that’s a lot more outside voices to have to hear and then try to appease. Personal growth and healing isn’t something he owes any of us.

[@iamLoje]

So well said. People pleasing can be very hard to break. I can only imagine the magnitude of it on his level.

[@ddot9566]

Yes! I love this take. You are so right. I don't feel he's ever going to come out of this ok if he can't let go of his need to make people happy. We don't have to be friends again. He just needs to be secure in himself. That's what his true fans should want.

[@PrettyPrincess9609]

I really don’t like how people are so quick to blame Jada when it was Will that slapped Chris. Jada didn’t make Will do anything. Yes, Will was wrong for slapping for Chris but blaming Jada was not ok.

[@GoldenHunni]

I share a the same birthday with Will, and I feel sooooo bad for him because I know how he feels. Just watching this clip of him almost brought me to tears. I hope he sees this as the opportunity to truly do some deep healing. Wishing him the best.

[@MichelleNgome]

Hey Twin ✌🏿

[@SapphicSis]

hey twins!!!!

[@yupthatsme5257]

now wtf the birthday got to do wit it..

[@Kharyne]

Sucks he feels he owes people anything!

[@NotSandraBullock]

Will became a black man that night. No longer race-less America’s Sweetheart. He expensed a lot of good will and social capital he built up for decades within that industry. I understand that video was a PR effort to test the waters since he’s a business and is responsible for so many people’s livelihood after all. I just hope he can truly heal from his trauma. He seemed like a unhinged, uncontainable egomaniac (obsessed with box office success and his & his family’s image) to me for many years leading up to the slap. I hope he finds balance.

[@drtash21]

Good luck with a wife like Jada. She keeps publicly humiliating him in her interviews.

[@coursecorrection4105]

Some people don’t seem to be able to give any empathy for imperfect & objectionable behavior. He messed up. He’s not a person that has seemingly crossed boundaries publicly repeatedly. Let him and Chris to move on however they choose. The rest of the people need to remember they are human and may need grace themselves during the course of their lives. We’ve all needed to say sorry at one point and to make amends to someone.

[@laylahahmad6468]

Isn’t processing trauma a never ending thing or not even that effective? I look at Oprah and she always talks about how to heal and all that with all the self help experts she had on her show for over 30 years and she still struggles with weight. It’s crazy

[@sabr4174]

I think these roasting jokes at awards shows go a little far sometimes, but what Will did was something else. And not even so much the slap but the yelling afterward. But either way both men will be fine. Rock sold out tours and Smith’s Apple movie is going forward. The ones I feel bad for are the actors, directors, and crew that got their limelight stolen by this mess. Many of them won their first Oscar during that ceremony and it was totally overshadowed. Hopefully Will gets the help he really needs because he doesn’t look that happy and hasn’t for a bit.

[@RayneBow8]

Ditto, well said👍🏾

[@cv8499]

Yes, I felt bad for Questlove. That was clearly a big moment for him, and nobody was in the frame of mind to pay attention to him right then.

[@a.h.2667]

People immediately forgot about the film he won the Oscar for. Seems like all that hard work as well as the spotlight on the cast and the Williams family was diminished in one moment.

[@conniechoward]

You can tell he is in pain in this video. His voice says it all. Chris is also in pain from the attack. It’s all around a bad situation.

[@TheYasmineFlower]

I find the dimension of the backlash really telling. Will Smith slaps a guy (who honestly deserved to at least be called an asshole), apologizes for it and clearly feels bad for everything that happened. But people are still talking about him as some sort of terrible person? There's plenty people in Hollywood, especially men, who have a history of physically abusing people, and they get nowhere near that level of hate. Couldn't possibly have anything to do with their skin colour...

[@AriesGirl7719]

Say that again!!

[@dkt4377]

Name one other Hollywood type who walked on the Oscar stage, assaulted someone, and calmly returned to their seat? That's why he is being treated differently.

[@bdott1538]

@@dkt4377 because he’s Black. Unless they’re disciplining all of the violent actors and rapists…this is just high key tone policing bc they’re mad at WHERE he slapped someone…not the fact THAT he slapped someone.

[@dkt4377]

@@bdott1538 I'm sure you care about rape, murder, assault, and all manner of other unjustly used forms of violence, but you would be even more incensed about those incidents if they occurred in your house... correct? Where things happen matter too.

[@bdott1538]

@@dkt4377 being more upset has nothing to do with the justice I’d expect. I’d want the same if it happened to someone else where I couldn’t see it.

[@Kelema86]

I don’t feel bad for Chris. He has proven for years that he doesn’t like black women. We are the butt of far too many of his jokes and his jokes read as mostly disdainful and downright meanspirited to me. I just wish Will hadn’t gone and tarnished his own brand by slapping Chris. But do I actually feel bad for Chris for getting slapped? No.

[@drtash21]

Will's only (albeit a HUGE one!!) mistake was slapping Chris AT the Oscars. If he'd beat him up off-camera, he'd still be eligible to go to the Oscars and would probably still be eligible for nominations. Ppl have done worse things off-camera and still kept their Oscars. They're just smart enough to NOT do it at the biggest night in Hollywood.

[@dkt4377]

Chris has made jokes about every disparate group... does his jokes of those other groups prove he doesn't like them too? I don't understand this notion that it's okay to hit ppl if they say something you don't like.

[@Kelema86]

@@dkt4377 I can tell you’re a Chris apologist so I won’t waste too much time on you. I will just say that Chris jokes in a way about black women that he def does not joke about black men. When he jokes about black men he is sure to specify a very specific type of black men that he doesn’t identify with. Whereas with black women it’s just black women in general.

[@dkt4377]

@@Kelema86 He's made jokes about blk men... period. How can he make a joke about women that he identifies with. Your rationale is he made jokes about blk women so he must hate them, but he's made jokes about everybody. Your position boils down to "he said something I don't like so he deserves to get hit" that logic is not valid.

[@dkt4377]

@@Kelema86 btw... I'm not a Chris apologist. I don't apologize for the victimized. I would hold this position had the roles been reversed and Will was the person who was assaulted.

[@locsoluv94]

In case you didn't know, Chris Rock did an entire documentary about black women's hair and how important it is to us. He has absolutely no excuse to make fun of Jada's baldness like that, and he wouldn't have made that joke if she was white. And he hasn't apologized to Jada, but instead Jada is being punished. What Will did was a poor decision, but I do not see Chris Rock as a victim here.

[@AJ-zz2kw]

Maybe you are just not that great of a comedian if all your jokes are making fun of things people cannot control...Race, Gender, Diseases..etc. But sure it could just be because people are too "sensitive" now.. -_-

[@_NoHandle_]

We don't know that Chris Rock knew Jada had alopecia, lots of people didn't know. Especially considering how some women are bald or near-bald as a personal or fashion choice.

[@locsoluv94]

@@_NoHandle_ Even if he didn't know if Jada has alopecia, he still made a joke about a black woman's hair while knowing damn well how sensitive we are about our hair.

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

I agree - but also we need to talk about violence in general. The fact that people don’t understand the nuance behind Chris Rock going off script just to talk shit about Jada in front of the Academy is wild. Like it wasn’t even planned. He got slapped for an off handed joke that was mean spirited and was clearly personal bc Chris has done it before. You don’t get to cross people’s boundaries and then make yourself a victim. Chris tried to embarrass Will on the biggest night of his career and Will then embarrassed himself. Either way Chris instigated it

[@brokenpofu]

@@ninagrace-lee8323 This! I feel it was definitely personal because the year that Jada called for the boycott of the Oscars he came for her then. I definitely think there's some water under that bridge and that tied into why he got slapped. I think Will just knows it's better to fall on his sword and leave well enough alone because he's upset the white folks.

[@LuluAthil]

Amy Schumer saying that she's still so traumatized annoyed me to such a great degree 🤦🏾‍♀️ I can't even articulate why coherently. That said, you've made wonderful points! I've been waiting to watch this video for what seems like forever and I wasn't disappointed. Thank you for not adding to the voices bashing him over the head for not being a "perfect negro" 🙄 because I think there's a lot of pressure on him too, to be a squeaky clean black man who made it out of Philly in one peace and made a name and reputation for himself. I hope he heals from this in healthy ways and learns that he still has value as a person and an actor, despite his painful past and his less than savory choices. Edit: what you said about white people being invested in his persona probably explains the Amy Schumer thing. And yes, comedians are hellbent on trying to defend their "right" to continue to say the indefensible with no consequences under the guise of "it's a joke", and always at great personal/psychological cost to the subjects of said "jokes".

[@kgoofy3297]

Sorry for the creepy late comment but the reason it doesn’t sit right for me is that it doesn’t have a goddamn thing to do with her. So many people, almost all white, were talking about being traumatized in the immediate aftermath and maybe some of them were you can’t account for the structure of every brain in the world, but that’s for them to handle in private. What happened was a completely lateral aggression in terms of power dynamics, there is no DV angle or greater implication here. One guy slapped another guy. Amy Schumer was being childish and nonsensical.

[@GarnetBabyGurl]

I personally dgaf much about celebrities and their personal lives ( unless someone getting exposed 👀) especially the Smiths but it def was weird that people blamed Jada like she got a battery in this mans back…like wtf. Is Jada toxic ? Yes. Is Will too enabling/soft when it comes to red flags? Possibly. But her having complete mind control ? Doubt it.

[@missfontella183]

I don't care what nobody say. Will had already told Chris to not speak on Jada. He ignored and Will overreacted. Classic cookout behavior

[@tameracalloway6068]

that’s the thing this all boils down to. It happened AT the Oscar’s. If it happened on a yacht or something a lil get together this would be old news

[@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913]

Thank you Kim for feeding us, even tho I know you’ve been preferring putting stuff behind a paywall (rightfully so!) as soon as I get this masters degree and a good/real job I’ll be able to pay for content 😭👏🏾

[@DMMA0726]

While so many people decried how he should've been charged (ironically the same people chanting BLM and police brutality), I immediately saw the same level of empathy from everyone who experienced something similar: being the bullied kid who got fed up, snapped, and suddenly got called crazy/scary/etc. Emotional trauma is real. Still pissed this overtook all news about Ukraine and everything else that was going on the in the world, as well as the comments towards Jada. Kinda helped me remember why I don't like most human beings. We're seeing so many black men confronting emotional trauma and pain publicly. Will, Kendrick, Denzel Curry....the vulnerability put forth is incredible and admirable for a community that has not given grace for men's emotional health since colonialism. I hope he heals and thrives.

[@josephinebournes8212]

Most black folks don't care about the Ukraine.

[@lstarsabb]

Thank you, Kim, for being the few that try to say Jada should have stopped him. And then to have Vivica grown ass try to blame her but crying for Will who did the slap I was livid. I agree that Will shouldn't lose his career of this, but I'm tired of people trying to put the blame on Jada so they feel better about not canceling Will. I would respect people more if they just said they aren't canceling Will because he is a black goat. It's the hypocrisy for me Will let Jada take the fall for sleeping with August knowing full well he had his side pieces so he could play the good guy that forgave his wife, but Jada gets blame for her husband reacting to her reaction to bad joke and she's not good wife?

[@msmiami212]

Girl what? Who let Jada take the fall??? August out of nowhere exposed her. Jada decided she had to take control of the narrative on HER show and brought Will on to publicly take the heat too. He had to tell the world he was doing stuff too so he wouldn't look like the husband that was taken advantage of. It's widely estimated he didn't. As for the slap, people aren't trying to get the nuance of what a lifetime of sticking with the wrong wife will do to a fragile person.

[@Joycelyn]

I’m loving the consistent uploads!

[@taiharaway1937]

I loved what you said about creating a particular persona based on one's own insecurities. I've never really thought about it in this way.

[@wrldprincess]

Loving all the content Kim!

[@februaryschild0216]

I hate how people try to justify Will's behavior by saying that Chris insulted Jada. Sorry, Chris made a bad joke at an actor's expense-which was his job for the night. If his name was Seinfeld, that never would have happened. At 50 years old, Will should know how to negotiate the world's slings and arrows. He's not that kid from the 90's. Also, we teach our children that when they cause harm they should apologize without excuses. But, Will's trauma? Stop. Imagine it was you who was slapped. Would you want to hear about someone's trauma?

[@thulani2677]

Kim! Girl! It's 02:19am in South Africa and your thoughtful content has me up and gagging! Loveee it! Keep killing it!

[@happygucci5094]

F@#k I want to give him a hug . Really. The hate and blame Jada has got for her husband is nuts. Why do we find it ok to hate black women? The comments "Jada is for the streets!" have been OVERWHELMING. I see Jada as wounded as much as Will-she hides it behind her therapizing language and "super together" persona.

[@ddot9566]

Everyone has trauma and wounds, some worse than others. That is no excuse for bad behavior. Jada is definitely for the streets. One can say that and still sympathize for her or recognize the issues that have brought her to where she is now. We don't get to choose our trauma but we can choose how to handle it. Having sex with your children's friends is not the way to handle it and we should rightfully acknowledge that. The heat Jada got before the slap was based on her choices. I do agree with you that people blaming her for her grown husband's choice are way out of line. He's accountable for himself just as much as she is.

[@synesthesia.aesthetic]

"Fraternal order of comedians", that was a much needed chuckle, thanks. Sending love and healing to everyone involved or affected by it that day, except Amy Schumer.

[@MS-wh7ec]

I really enjoyed your take on this! I get so tired of seeing the lack of empathy a lot of people have for will smith. It wasn’t okay etc etc but we’ve all fucked up and he’s worked so hard it’s just so tragic to see him self destruct in such a public way. I really believe he can come back from this, I hope he keeps trying and gets the help he deserves.

[@MS-wh7ec]

@da midwif good for u buddy

[@AriesGirl7719]

@da midwif And???

[@channiballecter]

I'm happy for Will Smith because he no longer has to torture himself trying to be the most likable guy. He can be a whole, flawed person now. The slap freed him. He just doesn't know it yet.

[@ddot9566]

That's a horrible way to frame public assault. Assaulting people doesn't free you. Confronting your trauma and removing the mask you have created for yourself does that. The slap hasn't brought anything good into Will's life nor should we frame violence in that way. It's the actions that he takes after this that can free him. For his sake, I hope he does put in the work. I really like Will and want to see him succeed, but let's not romanticize violence as just having "flaws" or being a "whole person". We don't want that normalized in any part of society.

[@channiballecter]

@@ddot9566 This is American. Violence is normal.

[@ddot9566]

@@channiballecter I don't understand your point. What does the current prevalence of violence in America have to do with your statement that the slap "freed" Will Smith? Violence tends to have the opposite effect on most people's lives.

[@channiballecter]

My response was to this statement, "We don't want that normalized in any part of society." I never stated that it had anything to do with the slap freeing Will Smith. Based off your comments, I gather you're a non-voilence type of person. I believe that sometimes violence is justified. Some people are Martins and some are Malcolms. I'm a Malcolm.

[@ddot9566]

@@channiballecter My point was that we should not normalize violence as just part of being a whole person with flaws. Violence is a choice. Flaws are nothing more than defects. We don't want to encourage people to relish in their defectiveness or brokenness. I do lean toward non-violence. I've never been violent with anyone because nobody's ever gotten violent with me. Put your hands on me and all bets are off. Some people are Martins and some are Malcolms. I'm a Michelle. When they go low, we go high.

[@NIO623]

I always liked Will Smith since the Fresh Prince days. I hope he bounces back.

[@willybeama1]

He ruined Janet Hubert’s career. Literally ruined.

[@MoniqueD305]

Ima be honest, still to this day I don’t see the big deal. Lol. Okay you slapped somebody on live tv. Looks terrible, but I thought after 2 weeks everyone would have moved on and forgotten about it. I don’t understand why it’s been such a conversation piece for this long. I don’t really understand the level of shock everyone has.

[@ninagrace-lee8323]

Literally. Black rappers used to kill each other over gang shit. Will was never that guy even though he was in some of those circles - he’s had a pretty clean record. For people to castigate him like this over a minor incident (and trust, we’ve seen worse at award shows) is wild. Like, truly wild

[@frydiavolo]

honestly i feel like everyone is doing the most. this is being dragged out.

[@dkt4377]

The response to Will's actions are epic because his inexcusable actions are unprecedented. Because in the 100yrs history of the Oscars, no one has ever walked on stage, mid ceremony, assaulted someone else and then calmly returned to their seat.

[@dkt4377]

@@ninagrace-lee8323 but have you ever seen this type of situation at the Oscars... no.

[@jusletursoulglobaby]

the "good" black guy has been dethroned. GOOD. he has an opportunity now that he did not have before. If he is committed to doing the work so HE is actually OKAY... he can emerge as his healthy authentic self and this is ultimately what he should want. I hate that he had to do this apology. Chris is fine. he is making money off the slap that i doubt he would have made before. This is an issue between two black men that needs to be handled outside of Hollywood. Problem is, Chris has the ear and sympathy of white Hollywood that idk if he would want to relinquish. He legit relevant again. Idk. I hate seeing Will like this. necessary growth. I just hope he stands firm on whatever work he is doing to comes out a real one. We need that. Not the representation.

[@biomistflorist658]

I fully believe Chris Rock is not accepting the apology even now to spite Will and Jaida. Like hes going "I may not beat you in a fight but I am going to affect your coin!" Petty. Cuz without Chris accepting the apology, white Hollywood will use that for YEARS to blackball him. Also I do believe it affects his brand and that really hurts him.

[@eelnetflix5196]

I honestly would believe that lol, additionally the amount of horrid comments toward Jada and their formerly (?) open relationship being brought up again when the slap happened to support Chris Rock is so disheartening and disappointing

[@GrecianWarlock]

What an interesting take. I disagree but I find this fascinating.

[@biomistflorist658]

@@GrecianWarlock oh what do you disagree with? would like to hear why, because it is the only reason why after all this time and no doubt pressure from Black Hollywood to accept the apology. You know Will wants more than that too, like a hobo tour of friendship and love and acceptance on top of that.

[@mimimirie]

I totally see your point though I personally have a different take. I think white Hollywood will look at Will with a tarnished view regardless of Chris' acceptance of an apology or not. They'll center their own feeling toward Will before thinking on how it affects another black man. Also, Chris has deep trauma himself and looked very much in trauma-response mode on stage that night. I wouldn't be surprised if he needs to accept an apology on his own time. I can't imagine the wounds that this opened up for both men.

[@Kelema86]

His brand is for sure ruined and white Hollywood is never forgiving him.

[@taylorlove7768]

It’s crazy because all I kept thinking was Demi Moore was so bad ass in that movie and Jada Pinkett-Smith doing a remake would be genius. I never thought for a second that her hair was meant as a bad thing.

[@madgds]

Chris should be apologizing too.

[@annoyedbyyourface]

Tbh, if I was Will, I wouldn't have apologized for shit. Not a single thing. It happened. Chris will be fine. Will's career will be fine. Hollywood is known for looking over physical violence so everyone immediately in this "slap" will be fine if they keep playing The Game. So yeah, I wouldn't have apologized for a damn thing. Would've pulled a Nene Leaks and been like "I said what I said!" 😂😂😂 *Side-note:* This is coming from someone who isn't like Will aka someone who cares about what others think. I've never cared about what others think of me when it comes to how I see myself. I can definitely understand why this whole thing affected Will though because as you (Kim) stated, Will has spent decades crafting an image that is now shattered to many of his (white) fans.

[@Kelema86]

I’m not so sure Will’s career will be fine. Not in mainstream Hollywood. They will never let him live this down.

[@idk-man125]

@@Kelema86 yeah but like he could retire right now and be alright. He’d still be a millionaire, has won 4 Grammys, now an Oscar in a lead role, and the star of what was one of the most iconic sitecome shows on television. Legacy wise - he’d be absolutely fine ending his career right now.

[@idk-man125]

COMPLETELY AGREE. I’m so petty I would’ve cussed Chris out in the acceptance speech😂😂😂 Will is truly a better man because he has really apologized to everyone and anyone in every single format that he could. This is WAY more than any Celeb has ever done

[@Kelema86]

@@idk-man125 I’m sure he will be ok financially. But it might still be very painful for him to have to retire from his craft and what he loves to do and to have to live with his reputation being tarnished for the rest of his life.

[@idk-man125]

@@Kelema86 he’s been in about 50 movies and shows and has been working for almost 35 years. Yeah it might be difficult to not get the same roles as he once did because of this, but ima be honest, he’ll be fine. His reputation isn’t as ‘tarnished’ as people are making it seem. I’m sure he’ll still be involved in ongoing projects (like Bel-Air) and he’s still gonna be invited to places because a lot of celebs still like him and are friends with him. Yeah it won’t be the same, but he’ll be absolutely fine. It’s not like he’s gonna locked up like Harvey Weinstein or forced to FULLY retire. The man just won’t get as many leading roles as he may like.

[@lillybilly9954]

I didn’t feel like he deserved the backlash even though I understood it. I don’t not want to see him self destruct.

[@Angiebee.]

This is just so sad

[@chamab.6800]

I wonder how or if he talked to Jaden about it. Jaden was behind him 100% so I wonder if he had to sit with him and explain whatever it is he had to explain.

[@WoahhTeamJacob]

Come through content queen! You’ve been on a roll

[@brunaamanda4083]

"Not everyone is happy as Will Smith, not everyone wants to rap about flowers" - Eminem, 2000.

[@NaritaZaraki]

For anyone who hasn't seen it, F.D Signifier's video on Will is a great deep dive and discussion of all of the nuances of this moment. Highly recommend. kzbin.info/www/bejne/e6W7gYd9oNp9f6M

[@BellesView]

Yes I loved it.

[@PossibleBat]

I don’t care about either Will or Chris. The Academy, the Oscar’s organization is at fault here. Yes, it’s live, but the correct approach is to remove Will from the event. Apologize for his absence when receiving the Oscar and try to sweep it under the rug, so Chris and Will can talk in PRIVATE. And then the academy can make a choice. They handled this horribly, as Will said, he made a mistake, he is human as well as Chris. The organization should be prepared. They aren’t a single person, but a collective of people that handle everything. Security, the first thing you learn is you gotta dissipate the fight and separate the people involved. Chris had to continue to host, but they could take a 5min break FOR SURE. Very badly handled, people make mistakes, organizations shouldn’t.

[@TheJustinGreen]

Waaaait this is massive Deja Vu unless I SWEAR you did a video like this before what the heck lol!

[@thatssoabz3006]

I think with Will being uninvited has more to do with the fact that it took place at the ceremony, I think if it was somewhere else the Oscars has less of a liability

[@BlendedBarbieDoll]

Oh I definitely saw the slap live. My husband and I were like that was super awkward. Never thought it was a joke

[@TheSReaction]

I didn’t think less of Will and still don’t think anything less of him. He did what he did and he is suffering the consequences of those actions. However, people are really making this worse than what it was! I’d like for the Academy to really step back and think about how they still supported and allowed Roman Polanski to win awards even after he was found to have r*ped a young girl (in the 70s). Will slaps someone and they can’t let it go. Will going through this must really be affecting him in a serious way. But they don’t seem to care about that.

[@kurls123]

I stopped liking Will Smith when I heard some of his "motivational speeches" and thought it was to close to new age-y bs. Then, I read his family gave money to scientology schools.

[@BoyGrenade]

Please. Let us not forget that Jada herself is a trigger for will after the introduction of her unorthodox relationship style when will solely wanted a traditional relationship style, to having it come to light that she was in love or had deeper feelings for august and the social ridicule he received. Then trying to lie about his feelings to preserve the relationship he longs for. Jada is a trigger

[@kidawesomeness123]

Yeahhh a lot of people here may not agree but getting someone to be in a open relationship by dangling a ultimatum doesnt seem healthy. I have extreme doubts jada was thinking being open would be good for will too, even if will did have his share of hook ups

[@Nyfiness]

I think jada is a trigger for yall. This whole incident is on him alone he is grown

[@msmiami212]

This is the nuance a lot are missing. Obviously she doesn't deserve comments about her condition (Chris' writers obviously didn't know), but without a certain marital environment that we can all see, he wouldn't have blown up from feeling inadequate as a "protective" husband. Whats worse is after compromise and then getting exposed he's made to answer to the public, because of his wife, flaring up these traumas she knows about. The talk show cannot be objected to even as harmful to Will's reputation and mental health as it is. His deference is encouraged cause it supports her dreams, yet its resented because it doesn't represent the dominance she's chasing in other men and since Tupac. Who wouldn't feel worthless and try to overcompensate under those conditions??? The slap is still feeling the need to prove his adequacy as a husband, Twenty years in, despite all his therapy. He married wrong unfortunately. She's no safe space to be around.

[@Unique-Star_000]

Will has been hooking up with multiple women during their marriage. Will is sneaky with his cheating. Why blame only Jada?😒

[@Lenae23]

Jada is not his trigger. Damn he literally explained it and yall still want to point fingers at her.

[@lmshanyfelt]

People keep their jobs all the time while being problematic outside of the workplace, but get canned if they pull that same crap at work. This is why he is banned from the Oscars while others are not. Is that right? Maybe not. But the comparison is not apples to apples.

[@MadiBendy]

It’s not my place to discuss their family dynamics or will’s history with violence as a child but I think he should really invest in a good therapist… my mental health is very important to me and I think it will really help him move forward from this situation.

[@kellyfinacle]

I'm loving your rapid content that doesn't take as much time and research to make. We just want your take girl, your angle always makes us go hmmmm. Keep up the great work

[@mikedriven]

Come on consistency!!! Thank you Kim! Something to listen to while I work’

[@Shalondria]

I was so hard on him. But after that apology, I feel so bad for him. But then patriarchy so…self preservation. It’s complicated.

[@Shalondria]

He should really just say F us and keep going to therapy. Dr. Ramani perhaps. In any case, he’s got to do the work. Having superficial things tied to your core values and also wrapped up in your childhood traumas is a recipe for disaster.

[@messer12]

No one should slap people…idk…I’ve been slapped…I never was that offended. I have a hard time thinking Chris was. Why do people have to make more of this then there was. Like I think the media was more then victim, so maybe the media has to think about why they cared so much to talk about it. My sister and I have slapped each other… in anger… but it was like about growing up…idk why were people so scandalized

[@mikedriven]

I watched it live. We (USA) saw the slap. I was in shock.

[@shanonb8921]

THATS NOT TRUE, THE OSCARS TELEVISED THE SLAP, I WAS WATCHING THE OSCARS AND SAW THE SLAP MYSELF

[@sierrathediva]

I really enjoy your content and perspective ❤️

[@nenej12]

He didn’t make a joke about her being bald!

[@sandsiren4840]

I am loving this uploading schedule! We’re getting fed on both accounts 😭❤️

[@kayanclarke5216]

I just want to hug this entire fam. I know it’s your job to be out here but I think it’s a blessing you’re not going to the Academy Awards. Y’all need a break from the Hollywood bs and take some time to lay low and work on yourselves as a family.

[@nadiaruiz1769]

You keep blowing my mind with your insights on topics of popular culture issues. Love from Argentina, girl you nailed it

[@Kristyn00]

Did Will make the right choice NO. But was what Chris did excusable. NO. In my opinion they both contributed to that moment.

[@dkt4377]

Chris joke is debatable. Some people think it was out of pocket and some think it was a run of the mill joke. Either way it was just a joke. Will's assault was inexcusable. Is the new rule "if you say something I don't like, I can hit you?"

[@danielmclellan7762]

I... will listen to her talk about anything

[@mc-ge2bt]

I am open to anyone else's opinion on this but I take physical violence very seriously - - especially when its unprovoked as what Will did. I think the argument that everyone needs to let up and forgive him is off. No one other than Chris Rock needs to forgive him. What we all do have the right to do is judge him for doing what he chose to do. Offer grace and forgiveness to those in our actual lives or people that made poor decisions when they were young and/or not thinking clear but Will Smith can and will be judged. That is what happens when you transfer your own person issue within your marriage to physically attacking someone on live television.

[@teebelles921]

I equate physical violence as equal to verbal violence. For someone to touch my face that’s the ultimate disrespect but then to someone else causing hurt to their loved one is the most disrespectful thing. It’s a matter of perspective. I would have slapped Chris but definitely off camera and then leak the info to the blogs. 😂

[@AriesGirl7719]

You’re just judgmental and not willing to give grace to people you don’t know. Maybe it’s based on your OWN experiences and Will slapping Chris was based on Will’s OWN experiences. How many times must he apologize for a one-off mistake to satisfy you? The answer is he can’t apologize enough to satisfy you because even after an almost perfect 30+ years in the business, people like you hold him to an unreasonable sense of perfectionism. Ask yourself why you feel the need to do that? Maybe it’s about you more than it’s about Will…

[@mc-ge2bt]

@@AriesGirl7719 I am judgemental and make no apologies for that. We are all judgemental should be. It’s up to me to decide who and where grace is applied. On that I don’t disagree with anyone else’s opposing opinion or forgiveness. It’s their right as this is mine. I also don’t believe this had anything to do with Chris and everything to do with Will and his marriage/self image so ultimately his apology was disingenuous.

[@mc-ge2bt]

@da midwif agreed. I’m West Indian and to my culture touching someone’s face is the ultimate offense and like many others, I was raised with issues of violence that is the basis of my zero violence stance. Anyone else is welcome to their opinion, this is mine.

[@AriesGirl7719]

@@mc-ge2bt Being judgmental is not something you should be proud of. It is actually a negative personality trait. And as you stated “you believe” these things, but you actually have no idea why Will did what he did. You are using your own history to cast your own OPINION on the situation. Instead of judging, maybe try giving grace to a situation that you only saw the tail end of. And, your history is also making you see his apology as disingenuous. You do not know Will, Chris, or Jada and you do not know anything about their inner feelings and thoughts. It must be hard to be so perfect that you can’t forgive people for things they have done, even after they apologize repeatedly. No need to respond. You are not the kind of person I want to have a conversation with. Good day. ✌🏼

[@LilethioMamo]

I don’t know if you have seen Bojack Horseman but I always thought Mr. Peanutbutter was based on Will Smith.

[@lexi9230]

Why they can’t make their own Oscar’s? Begging to be at another table when you can build your own.

[@ah_libra]

This is a bit of an aside, but I really didn't appreciate how a lot of people were blaming Laverne Cox, and using her little joke as a justification to attack her and spew their transphobia. Laverne is one person, and that was one (possibly unnecessary) joke. But they act as though social media in general hadn't been ripping into Will and Jada relentlessly for years before that evening. Furthermore, Laverne is not responsible for Hollywood's hypocritical blacklisting and hysteria and character assassination; they literally still turn a blind eye to child molesters while going into a frenzy to cancel Will Smith. 🙄

[@karthikadevi6161]

LOVE THE UPLOADS ❤️❤️

[@blessingmaraizu6165]

You are so wise!

[@ms.z461]

My thing is, Will Smith is heavily therapized. He speaks in therapy language. He has been working on himself, his marriage, his family dynamics and his ego for atleast a decade now. That's what he told us on red table talk. How is he still getting triggered to the level of slapping another adult in 2022? Any therapist have an answer? Shouldn't he have an airtight coping mechanisms after a decade of various forms of therapies?

[@sarab3417]

It sounds like he snapped.

[@1stdaughter]

@@sarab3417 Laughed first and then snapped. Okay.

[@changelater01]

because unfortunately even the most talented therapist cannot "fix" everyone's trauma, probably not even most people's. there was another comment above that said something similar-you can try to learn triggers and coping mechanisms, but ultimately it's still there-u can't unbake a cake so to speak. Coming from a person who's been in therapy over half my life of many different forms with many different therapists.

[@Kelema86]

Therapy will not make you perfect. It might help you to cope BETTER with things MOST of the time but you could still have lapses and snap if you are pushed far enough.

[@Nooooooooooooooooooooo7913]

Some people spend years in therapy and the only thing they take from it is that “therapy language” you described unfortunately. Not everyone is honest with their therapists or themselves.

[@Redd91ful]

💀everyone in the comments are writing essays omg

[@TaureanBaby]

Lol

[@indiran3975]

Kim is putting in the work now, damn... maybe I need to get on aderrall too. Great work Kim!