I discarded the narcissist I was dealing with 10 days ago. I got tired of the lies . The hot and cold behavior. The inability to have a conversation about anything. The deflection. , gas lighting, triangulation. Etc. My gut instinct tells me she is seeing someone else or multiple people. So I decided to let her go . I will never get the truth from her and I’m not going to be involved in something with someone like that . I blocked her . I’m having a rough day today been thinking about her a lot but I remind myself of what she does and it puts me back on track.
@jillfoley6834 Жыл бұрын
Think of Amber Heard, look what she did to Johny Depp. She literally tried killing him by not giving him his medicine he needed for his withdrawals from hard drugs. They’re not human!!
@shellydavis3688 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong
@donnabowshier2017 Жыл бұрын
My goodness… I swear I just read my life exactly!
@daveh9803 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong. You know the truth. Trust your gut - the flow of energy doesn’t lie.
@warangel4389 Жыл бұрын
Stay strong- you deserve a mutual respect love partner!! Keep the faith.
@NoLimitLegends Жыл бұрын
Been in no contact for 4 months, she unblocked me and started stalking my profile and liking comments… I send her a dm asking her advice on something she’s knowledgeable about, she says “no”. Then blocks me lol. These people grown babies, immature and see emotions as a game. Never again, No Contact forever
@djkatfishbeats Жыл бұрын
Been watching this channel for 24 hrs straight. Been watching like Netflix 🥅🥅🥅
@ging-a-roo2429 Жыл бұрын
Mine won’t ever come back. I made it clear he is not welcome and we are not friends. We have financial issues to work on and he tries to be kind and I stay stone cold, always to the point. These kind of people have no respect, are out for themselves and will stick their foot in any door you open. They do it all just for their ego. No way stay away.
@Yathome00 Жыл бұрын
Anything you say or ask of them means NOTHING! I did the same thing and more and yep, he’s trying to contact me 14 years later and has tried intermittently the entire time. And he’s married!
@tru2608 Жыл бұрын
They will quit trying to comeback. When, they keep getting rejected by u. Never give in, just keep them away from u and out of ur life. U have to dish out Narc Injury after Narc Injury, until they avoid u from fear of hurt, pain, and shame.
@clarknawrocki9718 Жыл бұрын
When you quit talking to them it drives them crazy and they will stalk you
@Xen-AM Жыл бұрын
Yup, happening to me. If you cut them off first a lot of times they will not stop. Some times it becomes an obsession that they feel as though they “need” to conquer you since you didn’t let them control you.
@purple_bliss Жыл бұрын
Damn i have blocked him n kept my account private but i sometimes wonder if he tries to stalk me from afar?
@dianepinkyharman1346 Жыл бұрын
That is exactly right. Who cares if they can't let you go. If yo put them in your rear view mirror it doesn't matter. In a way it is so sad that these people have no life. You on the hand can feel love and compassion for people. The toxic person will never have what you have. They are like a hamster going around and around. That life is poisonous. Remember be the best you can be. I am now educated and will never be with a toxic person again. It took 72 years to answer the question Why? Why do I pick toxic people. I have the answer now.... Family... I am stronger than ever. I have an armor on me. I am proud of all of you who decided your life is Important and you deserve unconditional love.
@szawisl1 Жыл бұрын
Very ironic this was posted today. My narc gone for 7 months. Went no contact and I’m doing exceptionally well. All of a sudden a her boss who is a mutual friend asked me to go see her she is crying and asked me to come and see her . She’s asked him to tell me. I don’t love her or care. !!! After 7 months now I’m missed …… I guess her new supply dried up. Back to good old me. I’m out and staying out Glad this vid went up it keeps my mind right !! Thanks.
@Tommytwostroke Жыл бұрын
There nervy that’s for sure can’t trust them at all they could come back years later , sick individuals.
@edgreen8140 Жыл бұрын
If you humilate or expose them they probably won't come back. They can never rid you from their mind- introject constancy.
@sophiestanza Жыл бұрын
That’s fascinating. What exactly do you mean by mind interject constancy?
@edgreen8140 Жыл бұрын
@@sophiestanza the introjects of you in the narcs mind never goes away. If you change and grow you will still be compared to the unrealistic introject they created of you.
@tonyg5132 Жыл бұрын
@@edgreen8140 Yeah but with time feeling fade so they are less likely to need you , no? And if they are less likely to need you then do they still reach out? I feel like mine is done with me even tho our last text convo was just saying happy bday 2 months ago. I asked her if she wanted to meet again (she has horrible anxiety) and didn’t reply to that but also didn’t leave me on read because she knows that upsets me. She just didn’t want to deal with the fact that being afraid to meet me again makes her look weak so she would rather ghost me . I last saw her 2 years ago but we’ve been texting back and forth on and off. But I just feel like this time she’s probably either seeing someone now or she just finally got tired of me . What do you think?
@edgreen8140 Жыл бұрын
@@tonyg5132 the introject never leaves the narc. Normal people stop looking for their parent affirmation if parents are dead; but the narc always has the introject however devalue or idealized they can't get rid of it. So if your devalued that snapshot of the bad person stays in their head and fights w other images and voices of people.
@tonyg5132 Жыл бұрын
@@edgreen8140 What do you mean at the end fights with other images and voices of people? And you are referring to my devalued snapshot of me?
@Yathome00 Жыл бұрын
I have been unbroken NO CONTACT for 14 years. He is still trying to contact after all that time, I think they do this to keep them in our minds constantly. I had closure with him after I dumped him and I was and am confident in my decision to leave him. They have no boundaries nor social cues. Incredible
@MHLivestreams Жыл бұрын
Like a bad penny, they keep coming back. Seems like I'm safe at present, had no narc interaction for quite some time, so have to be prepared for a potential surprise approach at some point. Keep strong boundaries, everyone. Have a great day.
@michaelturner8420Ай бұрын
The victims pay the price,for the narcs childhood with the weirdo parents they had
@bennycb6256 Жыл бұрын
I really hope she doesn’t come back. Not even in my 50 mile radius. When I went no contact with her, she started dating my colleague who is also a covert narcissist but much more malicious than her. I hope their ‘romance’ will last forever so they will leave normal people alone.
@TimStJohn-xp8rv Жыл бұрын
"I wish you all the luck in the world! I won't bother you anymore. You are not interested in us and I know now you don't love me" I sent this to her after she reached out to get my attention after a month of silence, she would randomly return texts after she initiated contact. Asked to sit together at church etc. I explained to one of my friends on what she is doing. It is like catching a fish and not reeling them in, or they may reel you in right up to the bank and then let out the line again. Never catching the fish but not letting it go either! I blocked her on social media immediately after that text! She doesn't want me but doesn't want to let go either! This has been going on for 4 plus years now! It is a total nightmare. In the beginning she chased me for 6 months. I finally gave in and fell in love with her, from that point on it was a mind f__k game to her! My fault for letting it go on this long! Just as you describe the narcissist. You describe her to a T!
@johnnycorn7225 Жыл бұрын
Tim this has been going on for eight years with me and it's still going on right now I just look at it as comedy when she hits me up. She has to remind me that we are broken up every now and then for 8-years I'm like yeah we sure are take it easy! Then she comes back again to break up again and I'm like that's awesome take it easy. She's in a never-ending loop of needing to convince herself that she's breaking up with me again even though we're not together.
@TimStJohn-xp8rv Жыл бұрын
@@johnnycorn7225 I'm sorry! I know your pain and it seems nothing can take it away! Scarlett Johansson could walk right pass me and I wouldn't even notice. I am fixated on my trauma bond unfortunately1
@johnnycorn7225 Жыл бұрын
@@TimStJohn-xp8rv I'd say at the four-year point I was still well within its grip don't worry when you're at 8 years like me you will really see it for the comedy that it is and it won't hurt at all. You can make a breakthrough realization at anytime, the very second you fully understand it it will all fall in place, and you will be healed and happy. Be strong!!
@TimStJohn-xp8rv Жыл бұрын
@@johnnycorn7225 As soon as I think we are finished it's like she knows I am moving on and she messages me! "Thinking of you" etc! I do love her deeply and it is so difficult to ignore her!
@johnnycorn7225 Жыл бұрын
@@TimStJohn-xp8rv don't worry sooner or later she's going to do something that completely kills all of your feelings for her trust me, they all follow the same playbook. All she wants is the ego-boost she gets when you respond so she can then drop you and feel good about it. Return the favor, steel yourself, and use the pain to elevate yourself until she can't stop chasing YOU, while you respond with"MY effort resources time energy and attention are all valuable if you want any more youll have to earn it" Then be as difficult, uninterested, and inconsistent as she was to you, using the exact same words as she did with you until she bursts into flames from being FORCED to look into the mirror(you) like the vampire she actually is.
@mmcsapat1446 Жыл бұрын
Once he said to me that"you know,I never lose people". Now I understand what he talked about .
@edgreen8140 Жыл бұрын
He never loses ppl in his mind. Because as some authorities say they never interact with ppl. They interact with the mental representation of that person in their mind- introject however distorted. It's insane that they manipulate to get you to act exactly like the introject ( which is very distorted). It's bizarre that they argue with the introjects in their mind. It must be God awful. I have seen narcs attempting to get their parents approval when the parents are dead- not very reality based.
@purple_bliss Жыл бұрын
@@edgreen8140 that parent point seems so scary damn
@kimsanders8262 Жыл бұрын
I heard that too
@angelahart1479 Жыл бұрын
She left me. Just went silent last year. Nothing since.😮
@tipslm7252 Жыл бұрын
My one keeps hoovering me she came over and sat next to me with her back turned against me just ignore her she acts like feckin 10 years old child. 😂
@Guitarsouds Жыл бұрын
The narcissist believes that no one can discover his hidden truth, and when you move away, he comes to you just as his mother came to him and gave him chocolate to return to the same chain of conditional love that he was in, so he comes to you to bring you back because you are only in a stage of fatigue and you need some dopamine, but to be aware of what they are Therefore, this is something that they cannot face, do not accept, and do not know how to deal with it, so they continue to try to convince you through gifts, good manners, concessions, and sacrifices in order for you to return to a source of supply.
@davidemm829 Жыл бұрын
I told her i was not attracted to her at all..that was it, gone
@madhusudansudan7495 Жыл бұрын
I exposed my ex narcissist to her family, they stopped her education,took her mobile back and not allowing her to go outside alone. Will she comeback and will she look for new supply?
@siggismalls6269 Жыл бұрын
My NPD/BPD Ex discarded me multiple times until i started to reject & block her hoovers. She still hoovers me weekly, even after i blocked her and told her to f*ck off.
@Imnotyourdoormat Жыл бұрын
Death with its special song is the only thing I know that stops these hobgoblins in their tracks from ever coming back, because they will until "Amazing Grace how Sweet the Sound. That saved a wretch like me" is sung over their corpse. And it's hammered many of my Jezebels down. Straight down. Now they're gone. Long since gone. But I'm still right here, Grateful to the Almighty for Every Day...above ground.
@johnnycorn7225 Жыл бұрын
I 100% believe they are possessed by a demonic entity because they all have that unique high-pitched humming sound that I pick up on that is a hundred percent accurate. Come on why do you think they all act exactly precisely the same!!??
@irielion3748 Жыл бұрын
It appears you've replaced one illusion for another, very sad.
@mikelaar1054 Жыл бұрын
Yersterday night my ex narcissistic girlfriend called me (04:25).. after 2 months no contact. It’s was a really weird time. I think she don’t got the message? I didn’t call her back because I think she is manipulating me again…
@irielion3748 Жыл бұрын
Why didn't you block here before that?
@mikelaar1054 Жыл бұрын
@@irielion3748 not answering is blocking in my opinion
@roxanne2977 Жыл бұрын
Baiting is such a good term for it, I went fishing with the narc one time and that’s what it’s like for them, coming back is just casting their evil line out there to see who will bite. Females are all just replaceable to them.
@johnnycorn7225 Жыл бұрын
This definitely applies to the other side as well
@johntracey4196 Жыл бұрын
having exactly the same problem with my female narc even though I'm done
@cheezinhoweree Жыл бұрын
Don't worry she's probably got a roster of guys she'll just up and disappear at some point
@steenkristensen6351 Жыл бұрын
Ja Anoushka jeg ved godt de vil have mig tilbage, men sådan spiller mit klaver ikke. Ka du ha en god aften og så får du lige et ❤fra mig af for dinne fantastiske programmer. 😉
@ramzhouran2152 Жыл бұрын
Thanks!
@anoushkamarcin Жыл бұрын
Thank you 😊
@ramzhouran2152 Жыл бұрын
@@anoushkamarcin you're welcome ♥️
@stevenwhelly1196 Жыл бұрын
Anoushka, this is one of your best videos explaining narcissists (in my case, my ex gf covert narc)... this video really helped me. Thank you!! ❤
@matouspullo Жыл бұрын
They will eventually stop. The more relevant question is - do you really want them to?
@PatriotLadyFL Жыл бұрын
Excellent video!
@ufcnutta4203 Жыл бұрын
I so desperately want her to come back... But I know she's poison😢
@anthonywhite721 Жыл бұрын
I am going through the same this. I need to dump her but in my heart I can’t. I need to do it & I am doing it tomorrow. She is playing with my head ever fucking day.
@ufcnutta4203 Жыл бұрын
@@anthonywhite721 Stay strong brother, the heartache will go away in time... Don't stay with an abusive person!
@dianepinkyharman1346 Жыл бұрын
Keep strong. You are worth it.
@NoTyme4Hatred Жыл бұрын
There goes that triangulation
@ufcnutta4203 Жыл бұрын
@@NoTyme4Hatred How do you mean?
@sallydaly5597 Жыл бұрын
Thank you Anushka i am receiving a lot of help from your channel, i have always liked, subscribe and look forward to videos. Thank you so much.
@jasonthornton513 Жыл бұрын
Unless you’re the secondary supply, once they’re done with your, they’re done and won’t come back
@dZeNa. Жыл бұрын
So primary means: I’m his first girlfriend, 6 years + engagement. Once i didn’t know what he is i forgave him 3 years ago. Now discard and he moved out. Please tell me he’s never coming back. Has a new supply, of course before our wedding, shortly after my mom passed away. I called him out & he discarded me.
@jasonthornton513 Жыл бұрын
@@dZeNa. primary means that you are “The Main” supply. Usually yes with someone that you been with for years. Secondary usually under 5 years or something like that. My case a little over a year and I was nothing after that. I wish I could give you an answer because they can go away for a week, a month, a year. The only way you can make it so he doesn’t come back is to block him from everything. Social media, phone number etc
@dZeNa. Жыл бұрын
@@jasonthornton513 thank you very much. I blocked him 3 months since no contact, but I do get really strange calls from unknown nrs, also social media requests (fake-accounts). Hilarious 🤦🏼♀️ 6 years for nothing 🙃 Stay safe!
@johnallwood Жыл бұрын
the best insight i've ever heard
@vibehutcoach.wellbeingandf5772 Жыл бұрын
It's simple just tell them that you have figured them out based on actions over time ,tell them they have a personality disorder and normal empath people do not deal with people or relationships like this and finally send them a vidio on narcissist's,yes I paid dearly but it totally proved to me who she was when the mask then fully came of
@nitesslimboo1560 Жыл бұрын
I told her she had NPD and her response was "yeah,I know" and I am like "what?" Covert narcissist know what they are doing and how things going to end! They intentionally do such mean things! They cannot change their their behaviour! it's like they are born with NPD,no one can change them! At last,they are the reason for their own sadness! I pity them! They can never be happy!
@sheiladay-od2me Жыл бұрын
My girlfriend was involved with a narc, and I really cannot help her.
@brunopannemans5729 Жыл бұрын
Looking forward 😂😂😂 Owboy willl she get her number.... 😂😂😂
@debbiegalica2992 Жыл бұрын
If he comes back (the covert narricist), then it's because he wants to finish me off. I'm on no contact for the 3rd time and it's gotta be my last.
@RosaR-dd6vb Жыл бұрын
Why would my ex narc wish me a happy birthday on the wrong date on purpose?
@dianepinkyharman1346 Жыл бұрын
Your ex probably did that to show you are insignificant. Don't let it bother you. Same old abuse. Go out on your birthday with people who care and support you.
@marycampeau9378 Жыл бұрын
He said he would quit bothering me but I don't trust that
@rayfeen-ls8vq Жыл бұрын
I was in a relationship with this guy for 14 years...8 years later he is still showing up through witchcraft, demonic curses, black magic etc...However I refuse to entertain any of these tactics..I continue to pray and put him and his wickedness in God's hands...😂😅.
@djangopipo5712 Жыл бұрын
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@noturbo Жыл бұрын
she isnt coming back i must have been like 4th on the list or similar
@DJL3VITAT3 Жыл бұрын
I feel like if i couod get dates and actually find someone that is interested in me and doesnt play games i wouldnt care about her. So thats probably toxic and unhealthy on my part. Lonelyness sucks. But hey ive been going to the gym everyday trying to better myself. But i miss her especially on holidays. Its been a 4 year ordeal with many breakups and the longest was 6 months then she came back and i was happy. She has slept with like 3 people in those 4 years everytime we split. Not me lol
@jembeach6902 Жыл бұрын
I was with a Narcissist for 3 years. I didn't even know what it was. I ended up packing up and moving closer to my family. I didn't tell him. I went no contact. He was already with someone and posting it on FB. I blocked everything but my phone. Big mistake. He tried to reach me and I never answered. It was hard but I was proud of myself. The damage this man did to me mentally is unbelievable. I went almost 8 months no contact and a few days ago he sent me a text with a song. The song was something that remains me of my son's death. What a horrible man he is. I waited a day and sent me a text stating he's up to his old games and now I'm the ex he's messaging (we all know they always keep messaging the exes) I told him if he messages me again I will screenshot it and send it to his new gf. He changed his tune and stated it was just a song I told him about. I know he was trying to mess with my mental health again. PLEASE NEVER BREAK NO CONTACT EVER!!! Some how that one or two messages have dropped me back. I thought I was strong and could handle him after 8 months and working with a therapist. I can't stop thinking he thinks he won because I answered him. When I think this I keep telling myself I'm not the same person I was 8 months ago. I have goals and I'm not going to let him get me again. Go no contact and never look back. You can't be nice they always have an evil motive to hurt you.
@Ran_Sim_Pro Жыл бұрын
If you answered his texts, it simply meant that you were a kind person. He was a loser and would be a loser forever. You are victorious if you are away from him. Stay strong, may God bless you!
@palawanczech Жыл бұрын
I have a question, I know it sounds terrible but it's more complicated as you can imagine, I was in a relationship with married nercisist, she always said it's not working but he supporting her financially very well, it's in the Philippines, he want to take her to work in the US, he found out about us and cut all the money and support, now she is quiet for almost a month, do you think she will still keep coming back even after this? Like when she start to be scared about the future and her support? Thank you
@paulpestell6597 Жыл бұрын
They can keep distance as friendly side of the narc is ignored.and like the weather they change into nasty side .now I have no love or respect the job of telling the narc is so much easier to say fuckoff ❤😂 .remember the pain they put u in and low vibration .never agian 😅.self rebuilds are just another level . Stronger now then I was before morphed by the narc and the bastard monkeys .
@norobbery Жыл бұрын
If she is so happy with her quickly found new supply (within 2 weeks) according to social media, why does she still reach out to me every other month nearly 2 years after I left her? Because she was and still is a fake and a liar. Poor new supply evidently hasn't figured it out yet. Bet he'd find it very interesting if I screen shot one of her texts.
@lovelysosweet8386 Жыл бұрын
Not true some narcissist are spoiled and have a too close relationship with their mother! The men! Momma boys!
@shirleychandler2780 Жыл бұрын
Can you please explain where narcissism comes from when the childhood was good. .
@michaelturner8420Ай бұрын
Because they were spoilt rotten,and got everything easy
@NoTyme4Hatred Жыл бұрын
I just want him to leave me alone with my own thought process. He’s always bringing women around me gaslighting me while gossiping and putting these women first. Something tells me he’s not gonna leave me alone to enjoy my youth. He wants to turn everybody against me and i hate life bc of him