WIN Dating. Advice and Red Flags, from Jocko Willink (Underground Clip)

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[@Rojomanzana438]

Jocko when he got rejected in the past : "GOOD..."

[@jzen1455]

It’s just another data point to base future decisions on.

[@FilipinoBodybuilder]

Definitely going to say this when it happens 🤣

[@phazenyc]

Ahahahaha. Top comment

[@jzen1455]

“not a factor”

[@shaundriesse9251]

“Roger that”

[@drSJV]

"People aren't who you want them to be." 🙌💥

[@ivannasha5556]

Trust people to be who they are but see them clearly.

[@sophieblooming8555]

As a data analyst, who’s “actively” dating in a big city jungle, I’d say military maneuvers about collecting data and moving tactically can be applied. I collect data and read flags all the time! Hunting is a good metaphor for this search for mate, as there are definitely predators at all levels. You may not want to be a predator, but definitely you don’t want to be a prey.

[@liyuche2695]

Word

[@hangman5918]

but if I am the prey, don't I get ask out than which is even easier for me?@@liyuche2695

[@s.j.5810]

Facts

[@PoppyJr11]

The bit about only hyper focusing on the good “data points” and ignoring the bad are so simple but so true. When I first watched this almost a year ago, because of where I was at with a potential “partner” it was like a eureka moment for me, and I quickly moved past it.

[@AWD.11]

In Jocko’s wedding vows he definitely explained that he gathered multiple data points

[@yourp787]

It was just a brief

[@Theendman42]

“Okay, so here’s the deal: I found this girl, she was like, a 10 out of 10 in the looks category. After some additional surveillance I collected more data points, it was enough to take one tiny move…ask her out. And after even more data collection, the mission is a Go. Time to tactically slip a wedding band on her finger and utter the words…’I do’…check. Mission accomplished, you’re dismissed.” *priest leaves*

[@brojitsu]

Feel like Jocko conducts a legit After Action Review after having tactically clapped cheeks.

[@asdfasdf6299]

Underrated comment

[@Osprey1994]

Wait we shouldn't do that?

[@lanemyers426]

This is my favorite comment LOL

[@x_Artius_x]

I am laughing so hard right now 😂

[@TheMonteCarlo]

I can't wait to whisper to my gf tonight "your cheeks have been tactically clapped." Tysm bro lmao

[@DemetriPanici]

*"The happiness of your life depends upon the quality of your thoughts: therefore, guard accordingly, and take care that you entertain no notions unsuitable to virtue and reasonable nature." - Marcus Aurelius*

[@OwnedByTheState]

Jocko on getting killed in combat: "No Factor" Jocko on making sure you find the right partner: "Be Careful"

[@LordVodka313]

Earned a like in less than a minute. I made the same mistake. The only thing that saved me was 2 red flags and enough data points to realize we weren’t a good fit. And even then it can be challenging to still let go because of how cute and “nice to you” can put your thinking on hold. I’m glad I listened to my gut

[@philipjohnson3942]

Jocko never went on a date. He met his wife because he proposed after he found more data points

[@jzen1455]

Before Jocko announced his decision of whom he chose to marry-and after assessing numerous data points of 15 potential wives-she immediately proposed to him.

[@philipjohnson3942]

@@jzen1455 but only because she had 30 data points for at least 10 different men

[@machellelokersonvlog1273]

🤣🤣😂

[@machellelokersonvlog1273]

@@jzen1455 🤣🤣🤣

[@koan__23]

Jocko just delivered an SPSS visualization content analysis of his womans' ethnography, with an argument for further teamwork

[@zoorrken]

The only data point some people need is pulse.

[@hankhill3417]

Don’t be attached to the outcome . Remember that she is never yours it’s just your turn. Whoever cares most , loses.

[@joshuadevey881]

As someone who has never been in a relationship, I think it could be a good sign that you feel comfortable looking stupid in front of someone you like. It shows that you are at peace with the fact that you're not infallible and can make mistakes.

[@danielio2961]

Its not looking stupid, its being yourself and not trying to present as something they would think is better. You won’t be able to keep it up all the time and then you’ll look stupid. But being yourself is always the best thing to do, of course work on yourself also. Appear driven

[@willnewcomer2125]

Hahah walk away and don’t look back! Brilliant advice.

[@xKnobknuckle]

Wish I heard this 19 months ago. Better late than never

[@AM-px2oz]

9 years for me. Better late than never.

[@jsf8145]

Try 19 years ago long before KZbin ever existed. Young guys take notes & be grateful to learn from someone else's mistakes, free of charge, without you having to get any deep 3rd degree burn marks.

[@twistedfilms9712]

Yep especially for the military people. A few buddies of mine went in at 18 got married right after divorced in a year

[@juliovillagran4105]

I'm surprised he didn't say anything about entering data points in an excel spreadsheet. Surely an inventory is required to make the correct decision in a romantic liaison.

[@Yetipfote]

9:47 *apply cold water to burnt areas*

[@xerodefects]

I needed this talk a long time ago. They say you learn from your mistakes. I feel like the dumbest smart person or the smartest dumb person.

[@theriddlerUSA]

It's too bad men these days are not more like Jocko. Much respect!! 🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲🇺🇲

[@mscheer2784]

The amount of times I’ve had to rewatch this video

[@bychen5011]

Jocko's daughter: Dad I like this boy at school. Jocko: Have you gathered enough data points yet? He might be a lion.

[@acornsucks2111]

The reality today is you have to prepare for the worst. Its no longer the exception.

[@PeluagaLuciano]

Would love to hear Jocko's opinion on Semen Retention/NoFap.

[@Welterino]

My first and only girlfriend had Borderline Personality Disorder, all I can say is WALK AWAY immediatly! This disorder makes the person distrustful of literally anybody, they are extremely jealous and NEVER think they did anything wrong. It may be bearable if the person is currently doing psychological treatment but because this disorder makes them trust nobody, it's one of the hardest ones to keep in treatment, also it has no cure, it has to be treated for life.

[@tubenachos]

"Lion scat!" I lost it man 🤣💀

[@davidplyler8173]

These two guys are so funny together.

[@georgecostanza2074]

God bless Jocko’s comment sections

[@ooooooooppps]

This is so dope. Need more of this stuff from Jocko.

[@giselesarian8484]

Mee too...desperatly.

[@---zg7ex]

sometimes when we gather more data points until the other side got pissed off and left you

[@VikCalo]

Truth is the path to manhood is long and rocky lol. His analysis is spot on though

[@powertrip1050]

....lovin' all the new-style Chuck Norris type comments. At last, something to laugh about. It's been a while.

[@jonnybingo4062]

Jocko speaks the truth.

[@jacobreynolds3917]

It’s so like jocko to utilize guerrilla warfare tactics in his dating life.

[@Wesson42]

Says the person who met his wife in public as a stranger doing an Ace Ventura impression.

[@SairajRKamath]

Jocko is my favourite CIA interrogator.

[@tampablackwing]

The better it can be, the worse it can be. That's deep bro.

[@capcadoi]

By the way he reacts, Echo seems to be guilty of all mistakes. Hillarious

[@MrCodeman2036]

My EX wanted to take a break two days after Xmas 2022, she married a guy she met 4 days later after the second date and told me it's what God told her to do, and she said God told him the same thing...She has 5 kids one of which is mine and the other 4 are from her two previous marriages before we met...She became a born again virgin a few months before this happened...I clarified, "so after two dates you married this guy?" She again just said yeah, it's God's plan....The only thing I know about the guy is he's 8 years younger than her and works part time and has two kids of his own from a previous relationship, and he doesn't see his kids because he gave his rights away...Buts he's a changed man now because of god...

[@josephbrolly7232]

Get your larynx ripped out and your heart trampled. No don’t do that . Stay outside the cave.. Get out those binos, yes binoculars- stay outside the cave and collect more data points. Absolute jocko gold

[@dee1089]

Wait a minute.. thats Echo! even bigger than before! whaddup my man.

[@ajourneysjournal1346]

Bro the cute and nice to you and running with it is spot on lmao

[@zachquinones]

Love you Jocko. and Echo. This really helped me through a tough time of being in a stalemate with a relationship. She wanted the boyfriend/girlfriend thing early (after a couple months of dating) and I wanted to wait a few more months after we improved on certain issues that were important for us to improve on. Ended up seeing the dark side of her when I didn't "move fast enough". Felt really guilty and regret but after listening to this I feel a lot more at peace that I didn't over-commit too soon. Thank you Jocko and Echo.

[@Brascobadboy]

My ex is dating a sexual offender. Didn’t google or know for 3 weeks. Got hooked. And forgave him.

[@callanc3925]

Never give in to a girl pushing for commitment too fast brother. Any woman worth her weight in salt wouldnt be so desperate to get into a serious relationship. A good woman knows that even if you dont commit you will see that shes a great person eventually, a less than desirable woman knows that most guys will just bang her and leave after not too long. Shes trying to make you invest further asap so youre less likely to leave.

[@d.e.e.j.2416]

Don't push the river, it flows by itself.

[@mathews2088]

So spot on!!!

[@joerangel611]

Thank You, it is clear approach

[@nafemys3082]

Thank god 4 jocko

[@HISHAM931]

Jocko be like “Her data points are making my tactical gears moist”

[@clarkparker4860]

Follow up question: Where can I purchase military grade binoculars?

[@sampyle9445]

I needed/need this. Thank you.

[@seichimatsu395]

"There's Lion scat" "Oh hell yea" lmao

[@ah701]

Bruh that’s Katy Rose on the thumbnail, she’s a Czech PStar

[@joe9739]

Jocko's dating advice: RECON!!!

[@pittmanandsons5355]

Oh look red flags, I’m attracted to battles right, let’s get into this and see where it goes!

[@kylelamoureux6835]

I love how all the comments are just applied Jocko Quotes!

[@ileiawells8406]

This is the best advice ever!!! I will share with my son😂😂😂😂 son…. Scope gather data points read the data and understand red flag 🚩 data points avoid red flags just walk away don’t make a scene walk away without looking back - 😂😂😂

[@Johnzen03]

Just think - the American Psychological Association has deemed traditional masculinity as “harmful” and “oppressive”.

[@Psychoma99]

Are you serious?

[@kungfoochicken08]

Good. Just makes things easier for those who aren't afraid to be masculine.

[@bennymountain1]

It didn't. Don't be so scared of every headline you read.

[@truevinister6278]

Jocko Podcast: Now in Technicolor!

[@Krystianc98]

“With a future” bro echo’s face 😂

[@arfriedman4577]

Thanks for. Serving military.

[@benbauer1509]

Dudes got me reevaluating my past

[@ivocortez2186]

Jocko doesn't have sex, he tactically inserts his unit...

[@chileno39]

subscribed; great timing my lord

[@AppleUploader]

Really wish this would have been uploaded two years from today, when I met my now ex. Not that I would have listened because I'm naive, but it would have helped for sure. Too many red flags, bad data points, the whole 9 yards man

[@Doctor-Stoppage]

I'll get you for this, Jocko Willink! - Jessica the lion

[@MrSeanMDolan]

Jocko “that’s some good rear data points”

[@clarksonreptiles6637]

Great video.

[@EmissaryOfSmeagol]

This thumbnail is absolutely wild

[@shermanoaksstreetball]

Great Analogies

[@MidWestRiverRat]

Thank you

[@bajamatero1452]

Yeah man,it is all about the data points.

[@michaeldeglory777]

I should have listened to this guy's advice 3 years ago.

[@nathanhelmig442]

birds of a feather tend to flock together

[@bryanlapierre1151]

why is there no closed captioning?

[@eugenerider0701]

This is, pretty legit.

[@stefanov_]

For a FIST TIME I enjoy reading people's comments! :D

[@ToiletBaby]

On todays episode of "Advice from 2 Gears of War characters" we talk love

[@davidsjelin1739]

Guy: "Dude she was so fine..." Jocko : "I know, I couldn't believe those data points."

[@MCOGroupNews]

I'm deaddd

[@Menaceblue3]

Data points = 🅱️0️⃣0️⃣🅱️ or 🅰️💲💲

[@user-fk9md2il4d]

Her Data was off the Charts

[@DiegoVargas-hf8up]

I’m fucking loving these

[@yinyang9882]

😂

[@jamescrain3618]

Joko never dated women. He tactically matched himself with quality data options.

[@jzen1455]

After assessing numerous data points of 15 potential mates to propagate the human species with, Jocko made his final decision.

[@joaquimliengme4989]

Ha ha ha good one Mr. Crain

[@thecryptowolf8662]

I'm dead😂

[@thomasnourse7506]

Mrs Willink about to throw down….

[@665foro]

Ajaja

[@ΑντρέαςΣωτηρίου-π8γ]

"I'm not gifted. I'm not smarter than everybody else. I'm not stronger. I just have the ability to stick to a plan and not quit." That is so inspiring.

[@PuerRidcully]

It's a gift though. It's called being driven.

[@edog101]

It's a great way of rearticulating the old adage: success is 1% inspiration and 99% perspiration.

[@avadventuregear]

1:09

[@CJ-my5xb]

“Hey Jocko, How do I get out of the friend zone?” “Fire and maneuver”

[@DoomsdayHustle]

Sometimes the friend zone is completely fubared if you haven’t already initiated the ambush early on. Probably best to break contact and consolidate at the PB

[@jpmonin7429]

Move shoot communicate

[@gregc7579]

Nah bro "speed, surprise and violence of action"

[@CJ-my5xb]

Honestly guys you’re right, nothing gets fixed without a high volume of suppressive fire, or jiu jitsu

[@jameswyman3973]

Best comment

[@MEUZICKK]

So apparently, Jocko raised both his parents. On his own as a single child.

[@smexijebus]

He raised both his parents, on his own as an orphan.

[@ashish_sunny]

Lol

[@newusernamehere4772]

Same lol

[@scylla8247]

The turn tables

[@Smitty_Werbenjagermanjenson]

Both above his head

[@2kvoodoo905]

So if I like a girl I should camp outside her house with binoculars

[@agentsmidt3209]

Better yet, get some spy gadgets, tap her house, put a tracker in her car, hack her phone/laptop/kindle/fitbit/Samsung tv/Amazon echo, and you should be fine.

[@OverLord115]

LMAO Check

[@Qri0]

As long as you gather data points

[@honkyxadonis]

Think that was pretty clear…

[@emberjaxx585]

Uhmmm… I’m worried you guys didn’t fully grasp what he meant. Lmfao 🤣

[@AS-ng5pi]

"People aren't who you want them to be." So true. Never forget this, collect data, analyze and be clear your decision is sound before entering the lion's den.

[@cryptolicious3738]

yeah. the problems can occur when u make excuses for them. like: oh her culture is high drama, give her a pass over n over, instead of: she is showing N.P.D. traits, for example.

[@ayda2876]

yeah did the mistake never again you picture this perfect person in ur mind when in reality u can see all the red flags if you really look but you are too scared to look

[@sukaenacornelius9285]

@@cryptolicious3738 As Iraqi women, I think culture ruins the marriages in America. I see my brothers date American womens when we move here, they just work to hard outside like a man, so they don’t do well inside like a womans from Iraq. Not all womens are same, but culture important. In Iraq we have saying, inside first outside second, and women best inside the heart of man and inside home/family, and man best protecting from the outside and bring provision from outside in. Thats just nature. But American culture has denied that nature. So A woman brightens and shines the light in a mans heart, we are like a shining jewel, and a good wife will shine her light and brighten a mans heart, and the man will be driven to protect and provide for t he Jewel of the family, the wife and mother. This concept very important but unknown in American culture now.

[@OhDannyboy7]

True. I'm here because I was just mauled by a lioness.

[@dahuterschuter]

Yup.

[@Connor.Klassen]

Jocko's hairline isn't receding, it's tactically retreating

[@brendanlemming8270]

Jocko doesn’t get wrinkles, his skin just creates trenches

[@marge3477]

Haha

[@seanandreipico1751]

HAHAHAHALOL

[@yourp787]

COVER AND MOVE

[@NickGines-vk1vk]

Retrograding

[@ConradHauserMD]

My Ex-" You have Commitment Issues!!!!" Me- "No, I have insufficient data points collected to make a thorough Cost-Benefit Analysis to determine if you'll rip my heart out."

[@antoinepaine8097]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@rosajimenez7777]

How long did you date for?

[@rockyyninja9149]

This is brilliant

[@daltonholman753]

Underrated comment 😂😂😂💯

[@thechip2727]

🤣

[@skutterbuster666]

Only Jocko would metaphorically refer to dating as hunting a lion

[@Spartan-Of-Truth]

Underrated comment.

[@TheThriftShopSampler]

If "data point" collection means that dating is equivalent to carrying out reconnaissance missions on a predator that could potentially rip out your larynx over who's paying for dinner, then marriage is equivalent to a protracted civil conflict lasting years if not decades. I think Mr Willink would agree.

[@Shelbymaldita]

Or lioness🙄

[@Spartan-Of-Truth]

@@Shelbymaldita You’re missing the point because you want your feelings validated.... grow up. Lion-lioness, same things.

[@AQUAPHREESH193]

@@Shelbymaldita 😂😂😂😂😂

[@krisreilly8856]

Jocko: "Lion scat." Echo: "Hell yeah."

[@Krideezy]

This is comical yet great advice

[@mentoriii3475]

yep biggest mistake guys make and i was like that as well is when you get to excited, and girls smell that you are desperate and they lose attraction for you, BIG mistake

[@bubblewrapvillain]

@@mentoriii3475 if you are desperate, it means you think they are better than you. The goal is to see yourself as the prize.

[@50shadesofcerakote]

@@mentoriii3475 was talking to this chick for a month, right? the first three weeks I was kinda suspicious of it, walking the boundries. She always seemed super interested, always excited to talk and such, then the last week I started letting my guard down, got just a tiny bit excited, accepting it as a possibility. Then her energy completely changed. I instantly recognized it too. She got distant, didnt wanna talk as much anymore. Knew it was only a matter of time before I got the "Im not looking for anything serious while contradicting myself" message. Ive definitely grown alot cause of how I reacted to that instance versus previous situations. So Im just out here chillin again.

[@mentoriii3475]

@@50shadesofcerakote we all have been there, were lucky we have people like jocko to guide us, these tips are tips our fathers should give us but instead they chose the never talk bad to women, always apologize even if she is wrong

[@pointyfingers]

Jessica?

[@dancole2994]

In a strange way I'm glad I was once living with a girl with several red flags and I had fad flags of my own too, because I've learned a ton from it. I was in denial of my own passive aggression and manipulative behaviour thanks to a defensive ego. I justified her red flags because I was convinced the good qualities were worth consequences. Self-reflection has been key to my personal growth, and earning self-respect demands higher standards both FOR myself and OF myself.

[@dancole2994]

Also, I was willing to be a masochist to be the knight in shining armor when no-one else was. I've learned to follow my head, not my heart; because if you follow your heart, your brain will make excuses, but if you follow your head, your heart will always keep you in check.

[@bandanbrar4241]

I recommend reading "the rational male" by Rollo Tomassi. Although I haven't read it myself there are many things I have learned from Rollo's podcast and from what I know most of what he preaches is writtenis put in book form.

[@NaNa-re3wc]

@@dancole2994 this is exceptionally wise, thank you for sharing!

[@sebastianmasucci221]

Yea fr I read that shit twice

[@ZuluZoro]

It's very admirable how you are objective and fair in your analysis not shy to mention your own shortcomings. It's so true that we should always use these occasions as opportunities for growth.

[@willh1082]

"Jocko dating advice notes" 1.) Stay outside her cave and look for her scat. 2.) Jessica may be great... but acquire more data points. (Refer to point #1)

[@timammann]

lmao

[@snazzyfeathers]

It is very on brand for Jocko to make an analogy to dating based off of a lion in a cave

[@machellelokersonvlog1273]

🤣😂

[@joe3114]

💀

[@user-vc5rp7nf8f]

Guy: "any dating tips" Jocko: "HAVE YOU EVER HAD YOUR LAYRNX SLASHED APART BY A LION, BLOOD DRIPPING FROM ITS MOUTH" Guy: "wut"

[@MNine3]

I was lost during that explanation until the end and suddenly I realized this man just dropped some deep knowledge again.

[@notanomba4598]

at least it's not about bjj this time ^^'

[@plant_leaf]

What I was expecting : "Hey Jocko, how do we woo women ?" "Do Jiu Jitsu"

[@gavinmangum9438]

Was looking for this comment 😂

[@tjdavis56]

Flexibility, hip dexterity, and good technique are very important

[@plant_leaf]

@@tjdavis56 Is it me , or does every position in Jiu Jitsu look like a sex position ?

[@tjdavis56]

@@plant_leaf it's all about versatility.

[@jamescolbert1]

Jiu Jitsu is actually a great place to meet women if you don't mind getting choked out a couple times before the first date...

[@davidwilcox153]

"She was nice to you at that moment." Words every man needs to figure out at some point. ..hopefully much sooner than later!!!

[@xmachine7003]

Yup

[@corncob4627]

I realized I've been trying too hard with a girl at my church. Gotta hang back a bit. Chill out.

[@PaperRaines]

You have no idea how much time and energy is inappropriately invested trying to turn moments into a commitment in the minds of individuals. More men than women, but it's a real human tendency

[@falxnecis]

"Hey are you stalking me?" "Nah, I'm gathering data points"

[@LFA]

Basic Boys : "Can I have your phone number?: Jocko: "Give me your data points and I call you later."

[@travisboothe5670]

I would love to hear Jocko's wife opinion on dating.

[@SaltwaterFisher00]

Ditto

[@Osprey1994]

3

[@jasonchandler6482]

I’ve never seen his wife, but wouldn’t it be funny if she was just a female version of him? Or completely polar opposite? Free spirit hippy type hahaha

[@a55tech]

he told u brah he said he navy she was like "ok" he said he SEAL she was like "I do"

[@mugensamurai]

Jocko's wife: "You know he looked like a dumb guy but as I got to know him better he's actually not."

[@TheRogueRockhound]

Keeping your head clear, while intoxicated by emotions, is a skill that needs to be developed like any other.

[@marge3477]

Impossible!

[@thestu059]

@@marge3477 not if you don't have emotions

[@samuelchuathecool]

@@marge3477 It's possible, just breathe deeply into your belly, acknowledge your emotions, keep them at the back of your head, but also allow space for your judgement and conciousness to shine through. Mindfulness and CBT therapy can help you with this. You CANNOT get rid of the emotions, only accept and move past them. If you attempt to shut them down you will shut down emotions in other parts of your life, and life will start to lose its edge, its beauty, and its meaning.

[@wizarddaddy47]

Lmao throw alcohol in the mix and that's fucking impossible 😂

[@king433hj]

Well said!

[@BULL3TGAM1NG]

"lets stay outside the cave" - Jocko talking about women

[@andreagrazianodibenedetto1464]

underrated comment for sure

[@grantarmbruster6591]

Because Jacko is not thinking the mission is to get into the cave. He knows the mission is to stay alive and find suitable habitation.

[@amrg211]

But I thought the goal was to enter the cave..

[@grantarmbruster6591]

@@amrg211 nope this is why we fail. The goal is to find a safe cave.

[@tahamalik5073]

@@grantarmbruster6591 sheeeet that's deep (no pun)

[@annapayton1630]

OMG, it took a Navy Seal Officer to finally make sense to me. Love the no bullshit approach. Wish found this video sooner, would have saved myself lots of trouble and heartbreak. This is my new gospel on dating effectively. LOVE IT

[@motivation4u]

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