“After disowning my parents and fighting them all my life, they died in my house” -Charly Boy

You’ve never seen Charly Boy this vulnerable before.
He left Nigeria because of rebellion against his parents - his father was a famous legal scholar, and he felt stifled. He needed to breathe.
He grew up amongst gay and trans people, and that what influenced his entire style - and his rebellion against the norm.
When he returned to Nigeria with his American wife, he was rejected, including by his parents. So he disowned his parents and went to the village for seven years because he was broke, and couldn’t even sustain his family.
The battle with his father lasted many years, as he struggled to make a name for himself, until it thawed into a beautiful relationship, one that ended with his parents dying in his own house.
In between, multiple heartbreaks - he almost married the effervescent Tina Onwudiwe, who he lost to death, taking custody of her ashes. He watched the Charly Boy Show die, and hosted the popular Zoom Time for TWELVE years without a kobo in corporate sponsorships.
We talk about his fights with Deji Adeyanju and his daughter; as well as his love affair with his wife and the world.
This was a soft, somber, subdued Charly Boy reflecting on a life of many highs and many lows, many risks and many victories.
You’ll find yourself inspired.
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[@duchessngy8454]

This is a 74 year old man. Has really maintained his looks

[@webbymonk5228]

He looks amazing! I love him for that.

[@ibaileibaomo7660]

Of course, he'll look good for his age because he no carry women matter for his head. He's always putting his own welfare first.

[@UchechukwuVivianOyitabu]

He even survived prostate cancer

[@mhizplease2685]

​@@UchechukwuVivianOyitabuHE IS BLESS🙏🏾

[@AlexandraNya-nn8zy]

He has a spirit of youth,that's why his flesh complied.As a man thinketh so he is....

[@Aminabrenly]

Is he actually 74yrs ? He looks so young as in 50

[@IKECHUKWUONYEJI-i5n]

His father the great Barr Chukwudifu Oputa SAN,JSC was a truly great man. One of the finest lawyer and Supreme court Justice Nigeria has ever seen. May his soul RIP

[@calinwa16]

Haaa😮, that's crazy. As a law student, it is really shocking.

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

​@@calinwa16just curious, why is that crazy?

[@swtchile9114]

Sometimes, the child parents feel is the worst ends up being the one that would take care of them at old age...same thing happened to me.

[@ginaokereke1078]

🎉😊😢🎉😢🎉🎉🎉😊❤❤❤🎉❤❤🎉❤❤❤❤🎉❤❤❤❤❤😮❤❤❤🎉😢❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤🎉❤😮❤🎉❤❤❤❤😮😮❤❤❤❤❤😢😮❤❤🎉❤❤❤🎉❤🎉❤❤🎉❤🎉❤🎉❤❤❤🎉❤❤❤🎉🎉😮😊❤❤❤😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😊🎉😊😊😊😊😊😊😊😢😊😊

[@faithadegor8364]

I have always prayed not to give birth to a child I can’t father. ACHIEVE MORE

[@Chikodinakaa]

He talks so calmly 🫶🏽🤗❤️‍🔥

[@zothilendlovu1556]

It's hard to hate him

[@egereevelyntoritseju1925]

Exactly!

[@LILYOFNIGERIA]

I remember Charly Boy's house at Gbagada. I LOVED looking at it as we drove past to visit family around there. Nobody can make me hate him. Who remembers when all the okada riders rode with him for an issue some time ago? Area Papa!! He has ALWAYS been a catalyst. Can you imagine Justice Oputa not introducing himself as he then was, but, as Charly Boy's father instead? Massive W for him. Keep going!💪🏽 If you're reading this Charly Boy here are your flowers while you're still alive to see and enjoy them sir.

[@leony8996]

Such a beautiful story… I love how he ended it “I am Charlie Boyy father’s”.

[@tdad8683]

This man go soon reach 80, and he doesn't apoear old. How does he do it? Wow

[@worldPotefeeler2074]

No meat has entered his stomach for over 40 years now and still counting

[@JustinClark-r4z]

can you sleep in a coffin?

[@webbymonk5228]

​@@JustinClark-r4zDoes he do that?

[@truth_defender4572]

If you turn vegetarian and drop all types of meat from your diet,you'll look way younger as you age

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

I also asked the question just 4 minutea ago in the comment section

[@AfricanUSA-th9ov]

He Got That Look From Boy George 👦 In The 70s,80s Gays Were Still Inside The CLOSET IN USA 🇺🇸 Maybe Bisexuality Tendency.

[@viviiku2327]

I really admire you Area Fada. I love your strength to move against all odds. I'm at odds with my teenage daughter sometimes but I really really envy her ability to stake her claim in this world. I'm actually really proud of how strong she is to stand up for herself.

[@millieconsultancy]

I hope you texted that to her and let her know❤

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

Yes, please do what the above commenter stated in his reply to your comment. Because she needs the approval and acknowlegement of her parents to succeed the more in this cruel word.

[@nemnem002]

Charlie is soft spoken and it’s beautiful.

[@b2bee949]

Everybody has different personalities and we need to respect it. Thanks for sharing Area Father. 🙏

[@Abbycare-g4j]

Thank you!

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

Indeed

[@SugarWahala]

Charley boy & Derenle are both proof that when you do you the world will adjust Everybody will be okay in the end

[@basiliauzoahia7197]

I didn't hear when his mum passed. Chukwudifu Oputa God bless his soul. Gentleman and a pure Catholic.

[@NkataTV]

Oh! I remember the day Tyna Onwudiwe passed like it was yesterday. Her passing was one that hit me even when I was young cause I loved her style.

[@chimwike1]

Rebellous kids are actually trying to free themselves from micromanagement of their parents and find their own path in life. That is personal fulfilment, not fulfilling another person's dreams.

[@apoloniuskemahs9394]

Wow, beautiful stories. God rest mama Tyna's soul. An amazing songstress she was. To our area Fada, De'eme sir.

[@TORIMONGER]

Beautiful soul. Wonderful interview. His battle is the kind faced by many creatives in our society.

[@casmirifeanyi7788]

Yea indeed

[@Unique2023-]

I remember when uncle Charly gave a signed copy of his book "My private part" to my mother, I ended up reading it more than 10x.💕

[@tdad8683]

Yeah....😂😂 That title was quite controversial when it was released in the late 2000s.

[@Unique2023-]

@@tdad8683 😂😂 and the front book picture cover.

[@tdad8683]

@Unique2023- .......🤣🤣.....so true!.... in fact, he was once quoted as asking an important dignitary back then , "CAN I SHOW YOU MY PRIVATE PART?" while referring to the book.

[@favooured1]

No matter what you do, do not raise your voice at your parents and don't disrespect them. At the end of the day, they're still your parents and you came into this world through them. Well done Charly Boy! This should be a lesson for others!

[@ZinebSourmaho]

Charly Boy isi okpukpu. Dede watching from Barcelona Spain

[@prince2baba406]

Any Successful Man, there's a good woman behind it❤❤

[@mhizplease2685]

🌍🇧🇧🙏🏾Blessings From BEAUTIFUL ISLAND OF BARBADOS 🇧🇧 🙏🏾 Blessings Charly. You Are BLESS FOR LIFE🙏🏾WHY! You Made PEACE With Your Parents And Made Them COMFORTABLE In They Last Day On Earth❤🙏🏾🤗 Stay Bless 🙏🏾 Stay Safe 🙏🏾

[@emekaaustin]

This is a wonderful insight. I loved Justice J.C Oputa, and I will always love Charly Boy

[@bakhitango263]

He has a soothing voice

[@JustinClark-r4z]

This guy and drug kinpin, Bola thief Tinubu, na mate, but see how this guy take dey young and spoke fluently, unlike one man who called himself president, talking as if he is on high drug, yes he takes, he is an addict and i have my proof with pictures of him sneefing, i come in peace

[@somzie]

Heard about this from an American blog. Kindly share a link to the pic

[@lolasobande8663]

Obama greyed after 8 years shouldering d responsibility of USA. BRF aged after 8 years in FGN bearing d burden of Nigerian roads. BAT successfully piloted Lagos state under a hostile FGN. He has forged many incredible political mergers, he has been on nationwide campaign trails for years. CB has piloted only his affairs. He's an armchair political activist. Your comparison is unfair. Affairs of state wears people out. Take a look at Cameron, Blair, Bush before and after pics. Uneasy lies d head that wears d crown.

[@kaluudeh6703]

Charley, thanks for sharing.... Chude, more of this.... Well done

[@chichilove8699]

It was really an interesting story. Good to know that he flipped around and he also took care of his parents in their old age. Weldone sir

[@zeenatasmai486]

Charlie is well spoken

[@EmpressAisha]

Thanks for sharing your story the legendary Charlie Boy. I grew up in Anthony Village and used to come to Gbagada area just to see your house 🥰

[@adaobinkemjika6035]

Same here. With the bike on the veranda

[@IfedinmaAmechi]

me too 🎉😁

[@jummyshowconcepts1205]

Me too oooo

[@idongesitjoshua7172]

Its not good to judge people. Thats the lesson i learnt from this whole Charlie Boy and his father's stories i heard from when i was a child.

[@afolabiadedayo6558]

There is no other Charly Boy on the planet... People like him like a comet come once in a blue moon!!!

[@kelechukwuanozyk7605]

Where are Charlie brothers and sisters? I have not seen any

[@Aji_angeleyes.]

I love how the story ended with his father. A father son relationship can be very tumultuous.

[@AbbaIM-x6v]

Sociology students can use this interview as a case study. Trust me a lot of deductions and lessons learnt will come out of it. Thanks Crude!

[@elimukwadada]

He's look is similar to Boy George 🎉🎉

[@idongesitjoshua7172]

Lol @ born to go the other way

[@chukwuralillian6206]

Soft spoken eloquent area father 🎉

[@Adebayobamidelealfredmoses]

Whao ! Dis is so interesting, inspiring, educating, lovely & funny Baba Charlie ❤️🥰😘😍🎉

[@barrymascot8179]

Nah, Papa. Na your father disowned you no be you disappointed them. But all the same i love it that you chased your dreams.

[@AfricanUSA-th9ov]

It Can Go Both Ways. Don't Change His Words.

[@SarahAdamu-k7z]

Ok you where there

[@barrymascot8179]

@AfricanUSA-th9ov no it doesn't. I expected him to say it how it is.. they're not the same thing.

[@barrymascot8179]

@SarahAdamu-k7z perhaps, you're the only one who doesn't know the story. FYI, we come from the same place in Imo state.

[@junelast5955]

Do you know his story more than him?

[@ucheofia752]

Area Fada! A renegade indeed!

[@olayinkasonaike2027]

I wish him Jesus.

[@UmarbilkisMedia]

Nonsense

[@TEEFAB]

Its always interesting listening to uncle Charles speak. As you looked after your parents in their vulnerable moments, may your children also do the same for you, sir. 😇🙏

[@faithfully921]

Wow I enjoyed every bit of this chart 👌😍Area father I salute you 💋

[@RyandeGenius]

So so inspiring to watch. Papa teaching us parenting without haven it as a topic. Thanks for this Chude ❤!

[@limitlessstudiotv6389]

LIFE. 74 years old man still looking fresh ❤

[@BlessingEbeye-qj4go]

❤

[@PharezKamsi]

Time is always revealer… if only most of us learn to appreciate things earlier enough rather than, waiting for later.

[@patienceasemota8664]

Charly BOY, still looking. Good Guys

[@sekatimangena2671]

Soft spoken..... Is it Ley-gos or Laa-gos...

[@DrLEMICHAELS]

I hope tjose who wrong life can learn from this. That it was all a dangerous error

[@stephenbrowneda9126]

Robinson Amy Hall Karen Miller Brenda

[@PASTORSGISTWITHLADYP4050]

One love sir❤

[@michaeludeze8470]

Interviewer is good. He let the guest talk. Charlie Boy has gay mannerisms, though. I guess, he acquired it from hanging around trans groups.

[@stockstock6805]

Are you saying he's suspect?🤔😂

[@chieduegwim8728]

well, nice podcast Chude. However, children and adults alike must realize that whatsoever you sow, so also shall you reap. Parenting is a very tough job. many times you must exhibit tough love towards a child for that child to become responsible in life, but on the flip side as well, as a child when you over trouble your parents, your own children will trouble you in the future! its called law of sowing and reaping. Some of us who have very stubborn children, its because somewhere in the distant past the parent was as stubborn if not worse.

[@uzooji1678]

Story

[@Honelemon-rd1ue]

Chude what’s up with you promoting gay men lately?

[@traceryibo853]

He’s one of them obviously

[@TheNyakaat]

Charlie Boy is not gay though.

[@traceryibo853]

@@TheNyakaat he’s definitely tried it

[@missy.j4523]

U don’t have to watch 🙄

[@Honelemon-rd1ue]

@@missy.j4523 I know🙄, that’s why I discontinued watching.

[@victornafwa2471]

He looks gay😢😢

[@yvettekinchking8838]

I love his shoes 😊

[@AlexandraNya-nn8zy]

Makeup must not be only fir women,men can wear makeup too and still be men ,nobody's stopping them..

[@marynwachukwu7729]

Waoh 😊!!! Great message for parents...😊

[@potopreghaebiegberi]

This man !!!😂❤

[@favourmartins3185]

Nawa

[@Imama23456]

I usually hear parents disowning their kids, not the other way round..😂😂😂

[@okwaoshen7607]

Very funny the way he said it😂😂😂😂😂😂

[@BTS-Sommy]

Respect

[@popopopopo111]

Wow! I thought it was the other way round. Hmm!

[@I_am_mickypepper]

If Charley Boy was a cross dresser in the 70s and he was tolerated what then is wrong with us in 21st century?

[@KimFert]

Did u mean what's wrong with cross dressing?

[@I_am_mickypepper]

@@KimFert exactly! What's wrong with what ever or how ever anyone has chosen to behave?

[@Ammarbel91]

Cross dressing is not wrong in Nigeria but the act sodomizing that is frowned upon. He is not gay

[@pheobejacques8449]

What a lovely story

[@CHRISTOPHEROKEREAFOR]

I love Charly Boy !

[@worldfeb3132]

Area 💪

[@chinyerelovethajibola4312]

Charly Boy my guy🎉😊

[@joycenwosu2128]

❤❤❤❤

[@Okeezy-v7g]

Charly Boy gives Culture Club

[@Abbycare-g4j]

Generation differs from generation. My prayer for my son is to be the best of what God wants him too. Africans are far too rooted in customs and traditions that dosent serve upcoming generations anymore.

[@blessedokosun2072]

Exactly, like Boy George!

[@keepingupwithirene]

Back then she was called African oyibo she was very beautiful

[@christianapatrick4938]

❤❤❤

[@ekaetefujah]

❤❤❤

[@zee3peo]

Charley Boy was a hero of sorts to me. His presence in my Lagos then was a shot in the arm for me. His music was a mixture of quality and finery unlike any other back then. His fashion style was a beautiful revolution to me. The mystery that courted him especially in a conservative time in Nigeria at the time, piqued my interest. I was in the fashion world back then and my perspectives blended with his. I wasn't aware of his struggles until watching this interview. This man is an outlier and I respect his presence of Self, his ability to speak his truth and the way he lives unapologetically. I hail his gift to his generation and the next.

[@Abbycare-g4j]

Charly boy you are a legend!!!

[@adaobiokoro6366]

His father was more than just a legal scholar. Justice Chukwudifu Oputa was the Law in every sense of the word! 😅 He was an eminent jurist, an upright Justice of the Supreme Court of Nigeria, whose judgments shaped the Nigerian Legal System tremendously.

[@irenenjeri8720]

So profound

[@adoraransom476]

God no go give me man pikin wey go try dt rvbbish.. Vice versa

[@mobychima1087]

Why are you so full of hate and ignorance? You will never become famous and rich like Hon. Justice and his son Charly boy until you die. Envy and hatred towards Gods own creation will keep you from rising and shinning. In this life with your kind of attitude, forget blessings, try another life time because your fate in this one is sealed.

[@Landofpeace]

Never say never , life teaches in way u have no idea. Be careful. That’s all

[@chidera2551]

You’ll be shocked

[@adoraransom476]

@@chidera2551 shock as in how? My lineage no dey sheepish....

[@swtchile9114]

​@@adoraransom476 do you know any of Charly's boy brothers or sisters.? He still the only one you can recall his father by after his death.

[@Annabeldoorumun]

Are you sure you didn’t kill them? Confess! I can imagine you fighting them all your life because no responsible parent I believe would be proud of a son like you. Area father indeed!

[@Abbycare-g4j]

Hmmn. God help you. Your mind is evil, see the thoughts that emancipated from your mind

[@uchechiecheonwu2352]

Take a rest ma'am

[@Mary-pl2em]

I think you need help

[@adannaonyema4776]

You deliberately typed this? You just chose to be dumb on purpose? Smh

[@olubukolashobowale6891]

You are evil

[@calinwa16]

11:12 words of a formidable lawyer.