He wrote "The author sounds like someone that would snoop through her husbands stuff and probably thinks he will never achieve success" and she was like "THAT'S ME"
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
THERE IT IS, THE SMOKING GUN
@FFKonoko9 ай бұрын
Well, that technically isn't the smoking gun that it's the husband...a random commenter saying that she sounds like that type of person, when she literally did, is an unusually accurate perception, possible too much to be without actually knowing she did...but still isn't 100%. 😅 She IS, so she actually might just sound like that enough for a random person to say that? The smoking gun would be if the person saying that was proved to be her husband.
@kristhomas40399 ай бұрын
@@withcindy would absolutely love to see your reaction to the movie Ninja Assassin
@AnotherHarley9 ай бұрын
@@FFKonoko I don't think she meant smoking gun as in "that's the husband" I think she means smoking gun as in "the wife's behavior and wife calling herself out" or the wife thinking that's the smoking gun
@JordanS-ww4eu5 ай бұрын
@@withcindyI really like you you’re my best friend ❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤
@charlottegillet397110 ай бұрын
"There's no telling what a man who spends that much time on goodreads is capable of" is my new favourite sentence
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
the truest sentence in that whole advice column
@tirarosaurioreads10 ай бұрын
Best sentence I've read for ages LOL
@Rivkah9410 ай бұрын
This line honestly made me think the response is intentionally unhinged and supposed to be entirely sarcastic because I refuse to believe someone wrote that in full seriousness
@omnisexualidiot37508 ай бұрын
Also calling the man a sociopath while giving some of the craziest advice.
@JcBravo86 ай бұрын
This is why I avoid Goodreads for Reddit. Nothing ever bad happens on Reddit.
@giokartsidze782210 ай бұрын
I really gotta say goodreads reviews starting dramas is really interesting
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
so much drama is from peoples book reviews i feel like
@Kas_Styles10 ай бұрын
It is interesting
@paris_251810 ай бұрын
When do you guys think that theres gonna be a book based on good reads drama 💀
@Moocow200310 ай бұрын
@@paris_2518 feel like Yellowface was lowkey an attempt at that
@paris_251810 ай бұрын
@@Moocow2003 not to this extent it aint
@QuicklyLiquid10 ай бұрын
Alternative theory: this is all some kind of book promotion. We are just reading the plot of a book thatll be announced soon, though i dunno why tf the cut would get involved in it
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
that would be interesting! there are already movies with similar plots
@Ceruleansquid-lo3iv10 ай бұрын
If this is some elaborate plot, I think the cut might have gotten in on it for promotion purposes. Like, 1st article, you want something interesting that people will come back too. Five months from now, they're going to be announcing their book and linking back to the advice.
@ohhmangos10 ай бұрын
i'd read that book tbh
@DisWriter10 ай бұрын
I think you might've nailed where we are culturally and I want to run away from this place.
@Yaoijoy2110 ай бұрын
I thought it was an ad to boost her friend's book ngl "oh if you have issues with online bs read this!"
@Kaiheart10 ай бұрын
Honestly, I think the goodreads problem with authors would be solved if authors understood reviews are for readers and they need to stay out of the reviewing space.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
BUT there are legitimate concerns about review bombing!! like with cait corrain
@tomrojigualdo10 ай бұрын
@@withcindytbf I think people don't really trust goodreads that much :( between review bombing and people leaving one-star reviews for very subjective reasons (like them finding a character annoying, or personally disliking the writing style) instead of genuine faults of the book... Yeah, some reviews are worth checking out, but damn is the platform itself awful!
@ohhmangos10 ай бұрын
@trying2write69 Literally. I saw someone one star a book once for one singular chapter in the entire book because "the main character annoyed me then." Like... you didn't like the MC in ONE chapter so you decided to one star? I find one star reviews to be valid when constructive and pointing out true flaws of the book, but man people have truly lost it.
@Poopie_buttholelickeresquirejr10 ай бұрын
@trying2write69 I wouldn’t say that’s a good reads specific problem, it’s a people problem. Lots of people are just dumb and give bad rating for stupid reasons.
@pithygrapefruit10 ай бұрын
I don’t think it’s only the authors who need to change. Clearly publishing puts weight on Goodreads reviews. That’s why there’s a huge amount of pressure on a book’s reviews. Can’t corrain didn’t the dumbest thing, but everyone else in that group was also watching their Goodreads reviews. Otherwise, how would they have noticed?
@sunnyy_10 ай бұрын
I could swear I read a similar story on Reddit a few months ago... Probably because both the letter and the advice sound like they were AI generated ragebait texts that plague the AITA and similar subreddits.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
AGREEEEEDD they always have the same writing style
@Heather_Duke10 ай бұрын
Oh, there are a TON of book/author related AITA stories. I know one was where this OP got angry that their friend who wrote romance had sold a bunch of books? Like, she said it wasn't "real" writing. There was this case of this teenage boy writing a book and self publishing it, I think. His father or uncle or something gave it a low rating because the book wasn't a genre he liked. There was the guy who wanted to know his girlfriend's fake name that she wrote her erotic stories under. He wanted an apology from her and for her to send him her name so he could find her books. Those are just some examples. I think people write them specifically to get people angry enough to where they fight each other in the comments section. lol.
@PopfulFrost10 ай бұрын
@r_Duke Arguably the whole point of the sub, if we're being real with ourselves with this shit.
@TeaghanYoung10 ай бұрын
Omg I didn’t even think about people using AI to generate AITA stories 💀god I bet there’s 1000’s…i haaaaate AITA content on KZbin. I won’t watch it even if it’s a KZbinr I like, hearing people take the stories at face value is frustrating. There’s truly nothing cringier to me these days than people falling for rage bait
@sopranoshelley10 ай бұрын
@@TeaghanYoung I actually write fake AITA stories for fun. I like to see how unhinged the commenters get.
@frankundercoverdragon628810 ай бұрын
“There’s no telling what a man who spends that much time on goodreads is capable of” gonna start reciting this as a daily affirmation
@cynthiabrown545610 ай бұрын
Definitely one of my favorite parts of the letter right there! LOL. It would be in the movie trailer for sure.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
She was right about that one
@helloserena10 ай бұрын
I'm CONVINCED the author of the article *is* the book author - she has a new book out and has previously written about feeling jealous of her husband who is also a writer. Whether it's legitimate or an elaborate way to get clicks or promote something idk
@Chachixo10 ай бұрын
Now that’s a good plot twist!
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
i could definitely see that
@hockeygrrlmuse10 ай бұрын
Even if the submission WAS real, definitely makes more sense why the writer picked it to respond to and gave... that advice
@wootwoot548610 ай бұрын
Fr, the advice was to KEEP SNOOPING??? 😅
@ering246710 ай бұрын
I’m beginning to think that all of the articles on The Cut are fake.
@synch840810 ай бұрын
Could she be projecting her feeling of superiority towards him by going into a paranoid loop of assuming that he is resentful and jealous because that is how she would feel in his shoes? My vote is on fake too though, and the advice is seriously actionable lmao.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
it could be anything!! it's too vague to really decipher tbh
@Nothereforit17410 ай бұрын
See this is my issue. Women are regularly killed and abused by men to the point in the US we have an internationally noted problem with femicide but if you don’t want to be seen as paranoid, you can’t say anything when you start seeing signs something is off. Then once it’s too late somebody says why didn’t you see all the red flags and run. It’s not new that men abuse, cheat on, stalk, psychologically abuse, harass, and even kill women. So I don’t know that this is true but I know we live under patriarchy and I’d like some balanced acknowledgment of we just don’t know enough before she’s a paranoid woman with a superiority complex. She’s obviously angry so yes she dissed him. I might diss someone too if I thought they were taking out some personal failures on me and my career launch. Men have superiority complex built in and it’s all over the book community but it’s not called out as much as it’s agreed with even by women. I would even venture to wonder what he has done and said to make her this nervous about him and what about those reviews put her in the mind of his writing, as a writer, I imagine she knows how to tell when something is at least likely written by the same person even if they use multiple accounts. If men can kill women with HIV on purpose, this isn’t the oddest thing I can conceive of. And if it is just someone worrying too much, I still think it’s a sign something is off in that relationship that trust and security aren’t a norm. They might need counseling. Who knows
@justcallmeteacup471110 ай бұрын
The amount of times she said she was achieving things her husband could never dream of like damn that's how you really feel about him lmao 👀👀 Also agree this sounds fake especially once we got to the advice
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
LOL LIKE GIRL tell us how u REALLY feel
@Nothereforit17410 ай бұрын
If she thinks it’s him already she sent it in a state of anger, and also we don’t have to never have a mean thought about loved ones. She didn’t air his full government name out
@justcallmeteacup471110 ай бұрын
@@Nothereforit174 Idk that feels a bit much for someone who is only 85% sure her husband is the culprit lol. I get being upset but it sounds like a thought she'd already had prior to this whole situation. Assuming this is real. Which it is probably not
@takimi_nada10 ай бұрын
@@Nothereforit174idk i can have a mean thought of like "he's such an asshole" but i could never have a thought of "he'll never have success" that's insane to think
@Kateiswriting10 ай бұрын
@@takimi_nada It's not so much thinking it that's bad: we can all think things we don't mean sometimes and we can't always control our thoughts, especially kneejerk reactions. It's that she chose to make the thought permanent by publishing it in a public advice column.
@vanitasphobe10 ай бұрын
thank you dumb book drama for entertaining me in this time of drought
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
thank u dumb book drama for giving me something to post
@vanitasphobe10 ай бұрын
now that i’ve finished the video - def agree with being team no one and this being fake, but if it WAS real… i think both people have some issues to talk abt with their marriage because the trust is not there 😭
@lasaves320710 ай бұрын
😂
@laurakuhlmann162610 ай бұрын
Imagine if the poster turned out to be actually Cait Corrin. What a twisty plot twist :)
@Pablo360able9 ай бұрын
dead internet theory part 2: all obscure goodreads drama is actually cait corrain sockpuppets
@clowncxnt10 ай бұрын
the pain shopping is so absolutely real, and has this girly jumping to conclusions while also putting her husband down in the process...girl...✋️
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
team no one!!
@PopfulFrost10 ай бұрын
The sad thing is that this all sounds entirely in-character for a certain genre of white woman author (you know the kind I mean).
@TerrificGiggles10 ай бұрын
How can someone stay married with someone they distrust so much? Like, whether the letter is real or not and if the husband did or didn't write the reviews, if you're really that suspicious of him, just divorce already, cause something aint right with your relationship 😭
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
divorce babes, divorce
@Lily_B202210 ай бұрын
Guess who has also written 3 books… the person who wrote the article. I call shenanigans. 😆
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
the writing style between both the writer and person who wrote the article read the same to me too
@AndyyWithAY10 ай бұрын
Even if it's fake, it was juicy AF. Imagine your own husband being ops 🤯
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
it would be juicier if we had more details!!
@mfuentes496110 ай бұрын
There’s so much drama/gossip that’s been happening on Good Reads to the point that someone could probably write a book series just from all of the drama that happens there and never run out of material to write about lol.
@ohhmangos10 ай бұрын
"The Good Reads Saga: What Readers Want Authors To Know" coming this fall
@trianenopenottrian910810 ай бұрын
I don't know if it's real or fake but as someone with experience in having an emotionally abusive relationship the LAST people to know were people that knew both me and my ex because in a weird way that makes it "Real" and then there's no taking it back either you have to leave or feel judged for staying which logically isn't what happens but in situations like that it feels like it. So that's why someone would likely tell strangers on the internet because it's a void. No one cares past a click.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Good point!
@that_sWRite10 ай бұрын
Yeah, i have the same experience. Coming into this video and seeing the shame heaped on the writer of the letter for being “unhinged” even tho it’s admitted that no one knows if it’s true, when i’m aware that this is exactly the sort of thing my ex would have done, makes it so much more obvious why women keep quiet about our abuse. Because even other women will call us unhinged and lay the blame at our feet, even if they believe the story is true.
@aesinam9 ай бұрын
If you're in an abusive relationship and you expect sympathy from the Internet then you're doomed because the trolls alone will depress you. Expecting faceless people to be on your side is not advisable. @@that_sWRite
@beeaggro25935 ай бұрын
@@that_sWRite tbf, at the same time...this is absolutely fucking unhinged behavior.
@ChadButt3 ай бұрын
Yeah. Though this is like 99% chance fake, going to an anonymous source on the internet is probably the safer, more realistic move. if you're already to the point of thinking your husband is conspiring against you to take down your literary career, your also probably to the point of not trusting all the other people around you, especially anyone who has a relationship to your husband, cause, y'know, they might be in cahoots with him... or whatever. still really dumb story but that part makes sense.
@katiec.93610 ай бұрын
This is why people should use Storygraph. You never hear stories like this and Cait Corrain on there lol
@ShampooedSquirrel10 ай бұрын
Greetings fellow StoryGraph enjoyer! Was recommended it by a librarian friend and have loved it compared to GR. Is fun to see other people enjoy it.
@louc.673510 ай бұрын
Careful, if the authors start browsing storygraph, we will never know peace.
@kaylamoran352810 ай бұрын
YES it's 100× better
@plotbunnies10 ай бұрын
Omg, thank you so much. I found this site and it is a hundred times better than GR
@dragontears10 ай бұрын
Yes, StoryGraph is so superior. But also fingers crossed Goodreads doesn't go away so StoryGraph stays safe 😭
@perho10 ай бұрын
Dang it, Cindy! I'm supposed to be reading about my government's public education strategy...how dare you upload some delicious goodreads gossip 30 mins before my shift is over? Also, thank you goodreads for keeping us fed?
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
goodreads truly putting in the werk for us
@JutaLovelace8 ай бұрын
I was with you on the weird wording like "my beloved", but then I remembered a woman I briefly interacted with online unironically called her boyfriend "paramour" and the kids at the local school started to say "mirth" instead of fun 💀
@nafissamills1510 ай бұрын
Tea to drink with my lunch 😆 (also loving the hair!)
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
whatcha eating for lunch?
@nafissamills1510 ай бұрын
@@withcindy Buldak ramen 🍜 😋
@CassieTranthesuperfitbabe10 ай бұрын
YUMMMM! I’m having roasted miso barbecue broccoli and brussels sprouts 😍
@what625010 ай бұрын
@@nafissamills15 yummm what flavor?
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Wow y'all are eating so well. I skipped lunch and ate hot Cheetos
@iphisnextdoor10 ай бұрын
You know how sometimes people send themselves an anonymous question so they can give the answer the want to hear? That’s what listening to the reply from the cut sounded like? No idea if that’s easily disprovable, but at least if I saw that exchange on tumblr, that’s what I’d think it was. Justifying the unhinged reply in my mind, because I don’t want to believe that’s honestly given advice
@animeotaku30710 ай бұрын
The person giving the advice here is a lot like the people on Reddit who immediately jump to telling someone to divorce their spouse at the smallest problem instead of exploring other avenues. And the couple, if they really exist, both seem so terrible that they deserve each other.
@annabelleslator644110 ай бұрын
That ad intro was so smooth 😎
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
😎 😎 😎
@tiachu10 ай бұрын
HAHAH THE AD TRANSITION IS GENUINELY SO GOOD ima watch thru the whole thing to support, go cindy !!!
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Ty for appreciating the segue
@steffymuze9 ай бұрын
That was slick, as a FF-button hovering type, I approve 😊
@sillygo0oser10 ай бұрын
No I don’t think this is real, I swear I’ve seen a reddit post that was very similar to this, just instead of writers, her husband had been harassing her with emails and what not, it was a long time ago
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
the way all AITA posts have the same writing lol
@AntiKristTeddyBear10 ай бұрын
1. I think it might be worthwhile to revisit The Cut periodically and give us your take because they've really been doing SOMETHING over there with the articles they've been putting out (but then some of their IG captions are brilliant so the range appears to be quite wide). I just read the one about the pregnant woman who divorced at 20 weeks. 2. You look fantastic Cindy so I hope you're feeling it these days. Your ending was too on point so im excited to get back into actual books soon and im excited to add more to my list.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
aw thank you!! i have been feeling much better compared to last year!!
@iiii49810 ай бұрын
The hair, the kuromi, the art in the background, the tea✨
@crispyein86017 ай бұрын
"Sleeping with the Enemy" is CRAZYY
@Heather_Duke10 ай бұрын
I like what the advice giver to this fictional story compares the bad reviews from the maybe husband to. I mean, I'd be more upset if someone I loved and trusted hurt by dog than I would be at getting sh*tty reviews, but that's just me.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
lol yeah that comparison was very random
@Nothereforit17410 ай бұрын
I mean if my dream career finally launched and my partner was on a mission to take me down via stirring up a targeted hate campaign that actually got my reviews tanked after it was doing well....that’s hitting at my purpose in life and trying to destroy me on some level, You have to actually hate me to do that and be so hellbent you don’t let up and use multiple accounts to make it a whole thing. The dog is important but I’d assume they resent me at that point and how can I trust them again?
@ohhmangos10 ай бұрын
that comparison was like... wild. I'd be hurt if my partner didn't support my dream for sure-- but that's a hurt I can get over through time and probably leaving said partner. But hurting my DOG?! A living, breathing, creature that did *literally nothing* to deserve pain? I'd go insane. Like genuinely I would get the police involved for animal cruelty because nobody touches my dog.
@Heather_Duke10 ай бұрын
@@ohhmangos No, but exactly. I'd be hurt if my partner didn't support my dream, like you said. But I have two dogs that I love. They're family. If someone purposefully hurt my dogs, I'd be devastated and would probably feel guilty that I trusted this person. I'd be making sure the police knew of their crimes and they were punished.
@YourLadyNyx10 ай бұрын
Cindy is the definition of balanced thinking. I swear no matter the topic i feel like i could agree with her on at least one aspect of the topic. Its so refreshing and its always what makes me come back to watch another video.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
aw thank you!! i try to be rational-ish lol
@julesvonlipwig520910 ай бұрын
This is like, Anatomy of a Fall from SHEIN. “Poisoning your dog”, too? Someone definitely got inspired lmao.
@tramasrarasoddplots10 ай бұрын
You look so young in this video that I thought the algorithm was recommending an old video. You grew younger
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
omg really? is it the hairstyle or color?
@shoujitenken10 ай бұрын
Wow. That advice really is unhinged... it sounds like the responder needs 5 times as much therapy as the writer... 💀 (Side note! If you get time, I think you might like The Invisible Library series by Genevieve Cogman. It follows Irene, a very capable book thief who steals unique books from multiple worlds, aided by her *ahem* very attractive *ahem* understudy, Kai. If you enjoy badass women who are witty, adventurous and genre-savvy, please consider giving the first book a go!)
@wolfwatch973110 ай бұрын
this is all assuming the initial letter is real, because its very possible that it isn't: WHY does she suspect her husband? as you mentioned, i expected the letter to expand at least a little bit on what he's done to cast suspicion on him, things he's said or ways his behavior has change, because "my husband is a constant figure of support in my writing career" to "i think my husband is leaving hordes of negative reviews on burner accounts" is a huge leap to make. but there's no explanation of her suspicions. when the letter-writer brought up that she's snooped in his computer before and that obviously made him upset, i then expected her to expand on why she was doing so in the first place and what that resulted in; does he actually have a history of duplicitous behavior or was your earlier invasion of privacy completely unfounded? because if your earlier invasion of privacy was ultimately for nothing and your current suspicions have no basis, it kinda sounds like you have major trust issues and you need to actually TALK to your husband and probably also a therapist about what's causing this seemingly unfounded but also seemingly constant belief that your husband is out to get you, like... assuming the letter isn't real: the cut should take these things into account next time they want to concoct a fake story like this :-/ more details might make it more realistic
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
exactly!! the structure of this letter is so off because it jumps from point A to B so quickly and a total 180
@oatmilg10 ай бұрын
always so pumped to see a juicy new book drama video from you!! also just want to say i agree with the other comments about lovingggg your hair these days! i feel like you'd look sick with a full on wolf cut
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Yay! Thank you! I am growing it out for a wolf cut :3 the problem is i never style my hair tho and i feel like that cut demands styling T_T
@dumbysoup901110 ай бұрын
I feel like my mind has convinced myself that you were a natural blonde 😭 I love this look so much
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Should I grow out my hair to be all black?!
@cryforhelp727010 ай бұрын
As someone whose been wearing glasses since I was a toddler... Dude, this is a sponsor i actually wanna buy from, damn.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Idk why more glasses companies don't do this???
@PokhrajRoy.10 ай бұрын
Cindy breaking down drama is awesome. Great job 👏🏽
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
here to report!!
@_marimopeace10 ай бұрын
3:21 -> 4:03 will never stop being thankful for cindy's ability to make us cackle! 😂 respectfully asking Pair Eyewear to pls give cindy the bread she deserves for giving this product such dramatic gay asian auntie flair!! can't imagine a more iconic chaotic bookworm to help a glasses brand get their bag 😎💅
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
yes us bookworms NEED glasses so we can keep reading!!
@Emislay9 ай бұрын
I really appreciate the ad break. I was ready to jump forward at least a minute but it was way shorter than expected which I appreciate a whole lot!
@steffymuze9 ай бұрын
Fr! I said that somewhere above too
@Arabea1710 ай бұрын
I genuinely love that the position of the artwork on your wall changes every time. I'm always like, ooooh what do I get to see today in the book drama gallery
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
hahaha one day i will have a proper gallery wall
@hundike10 ай бұрын
this is unrelated to the video (which is always fun and i havent heard of this one yet lol...) but just wanted to say congratulations for getting an agent for your book!!! as a long time follower its awesome to see, wishing you much luck on the rest of your writing journey :]
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
thank u so much!!
@wormonastring569 ай бұрын
0:51 SHE TRIED TO SAY IT WAS HER TISM???? tFFFF
@qrqdx10 ай бұрын
This letter seems inspired by the plot of Anatomy of a Fall; I agree with everyone else who doesn’t feel that it’s a true story.
@Heidi200310 ай бұрын
This is the comment I was looking for
@sillygo0oser10 ай бұрын
Never been this early to a video before. Commenting for engagement 😤
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
welcome!!
@SanaKhatri10 ай бұрын
I absolutely LOVE your videos, but this time 'round, the 1st thing my eyes landed on was the Kuromi plushie behind you 🥹 I'm practically OBSESSED with Kuromi, and it sucks that I can't find anything themed after it here in India, but I went completely 😍 when I saw that plushie. I know it's totally random, but eh, I love what I love 😂✌🏼
@Shamazya9 ай бұрын
The MOMENT you clicked the sunglasses on I thought it was the intro to the ad and then for a sec it seemed like it wasn't then you brought it back around. Well played, did not disappoint!
@compassionandhumility10 ай бұрын
13:20~ I agree with everything you've said in the video and, while it's still weird, I interpreted this sentence as her husband tried and never managed to achieve her level of accolades instead of him being unable to ever achieve it.
@hasanwallah70159 ай бұрын
Cindy your content got me through some tough times coming out of the pandemic my thank you may mean little to nothing but it is str8 from the heart THANK YOU FOR WHAT YOU DO
@grmgt10 ай бұрын
Well that's what i call a super healthy (and likely fake oops) relationship, just full of intrigue and treachery lol
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
at least give us details for the treachery!!
@StarlightReader10 ай бұрын
Love your hair! And oh how i appreciate the book tea vids from you!😅
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Yay, thank you! still growing it out!
@jolakristin28110 ай бұрын
Dare I say I am excited for new drama because I love your videos about them :D Was sad last night I didnt had a new one to watch
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
i gotchu boo
@emiliavachon10 ай бұрын
the ad transition was so smooth i thought you’d switched glasses and done some flawless editing
@JackDespero10 ай бұрын
Also, I do not know whether in the US it is also illegal, but at least in my country, spying on your partner's computer without their permission is illegal. It is an abusing and controlling behaviour. If you can no longer trust your partner, just leave/divorce them. Trust is the most fundamental block of a healthy relationship. If you are a point in which you "need" to check your partner's devices without their permission, just leave: If you were right, you are going to leave anyway, and if you are wrong, you aren't deserving of the trust that you have just betrayed.
@boo24245 ай бұрын
Okay but why are you locking up your devices? Something to hide perhaps? Seriously suspicious when you won’t hand over your phone to your partner
@lianxie558210 ай бұрын
Cindy looks low-key majestic in her new longer hair ✨
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
☺️💖 ty
@hannahjohnson307310 ай бұрын
thank you Cindy. you are a hero. I was woozy and silly and needed to eat soup and now I'm watching you and eating soup. you are so funny and good. now I have the strength to sabotage my spouse
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
what kinda soup is it
@hannahjohnson307310 ай бұрын
@@withcindy char siu pork ramen! there's still a lot left
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
@@hannahjohnson3073 omg that sounds SOOOO GOOOODD
@Kris.K61010 ай бұрын
As someone who has pretty much every issue that Cait has been using as excuses, shockingly enough none of my side effects have ever been racism😭 An honestly WILD attempt at a defense
@RaeCharm7 ай бұрын
Reading this felt like reading the premise of a story on Hooked. Like, it felt like low quality fiction in bad adverts or like a writing exercise that a fanfiction author on Tumblr would use to practice.
@mzaman153210 ай бұрын
is it me or Cindy becoming more and more glowing and beautiful!! cant focus on the tea because cindy is too beautiful
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Wow, thank you! 😭
@Misterbandanahead10 ай бұрын
This came up in my feed while in a bookstore. Must be a sign
@Nyanbinaryneferpitou10 ай бұрын
Love the kuromi plushie, it’s so cute
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
ty it was a gift!!
@t_billyb710 ай бұрын
Yasssss give us the drama Cindy 🍿I love your hair this way❤
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
thank u!! should i keep my hair black u think??
@swiftfated10 ай бұрын
Even if it is fake, this is a really nice video either way! The advice to find validation and pride from inside yourself instead of from other people is so good to hear, no matter the context.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
glad i can at least provide some help!!
@starkin4e10 ай бұрын
the transition to the ad was smooth af
@chaerryplum10 ай бұрын
another reason i look forward to being alive is that i get to watch cindy’s videos about book drama i had no idea about
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
It's what I'm here for
@corvidgreen533210 ай бұрын
i got a goodreads because of this channel and i get vaguely worried every time i write a bad review for something. and then i remember that all the books i'm reviewing badly were written 15+ years ago and are mostly by writers who should know better and i decide i'm fine.
@carriewhiteflower9 ай бұрын
I used to work at a bank and people definitely withdraw their life savings, put it in a shoebox, book, etc and mail it to strangers. Not only rich people either. I didn’t read the article about the shoebox but that’s what immediately came to mind when I heard about it.
@auggiemain10 ай бұрын
Your hair looks so good! It's always looked good, but it's cool to see a new style.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Thank you!! should i stick to it :0
@auggiemain10 ай бұрын
@withcindy If you did I don't think anyone would complain haha it looks really nice :)
@KerriB10 ай бұрын
I don't even read my reviews, but this is just one more reason to stay single 😂
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
TRUUUU divorce babes divorce
@shay49410 ай бұрын
I gotta say your advice was pretty solid, I feel like women we are encourage to snoop and have evidence to back our reasoning. But why is that? It's because you may been gaslighted in past and you need that proof.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
so truuuuuu
@summernova285410 ай бұрын
Another banger video from Cindy, as always!! 💪
@anopinionatedlaymanappears90529 ай бұрын
"If i hadn't verified that this story is real, I wouldn't believe it." Lol how did you verify it!
@balletbookworm9 ай бұрын
A+ boss move segue into the promo, I love it, no notes. Yeah, the advice column letter response was WILD (I mean, I kind of am not surprised given some of Emily Gould's recent writing...). And YUP, if you are the writer who thinks one's spouse is undermining, you'd definitely be telling your group chat. Maybe your literary agent? Because if one got a couple of awards, etc., one probably has an agent. The initial Dear Emily letter feels so wordsmithed.
@lockmonster0510 ай бұрын
There was a Reddit post awhile ago about a father review bombing his teen son's book on AITH.
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
huh.....
@chacharealsmoove10 ай бұрын
ALSO THE KUROMI PLUSHIE IS SO CUTE
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
I got it as a gift!! 🎁
@DisWriter10 ай бұрын
The therapist/writer* (that always comments late) I think you said everything I would as a professional, Cindy! *If this is real*: Being a writer puts anyone in a vulnerable place. But, once things have reached this point & you don't trust your partner you need to step away and talk your partner and get some help if you can't. No matter what the other details are. Usually people who've gotten to this point have a hard time doing so. *I can see wanting to snoop If and only if* her partner is a gaslighting narcissist & has made her feel like she was delusional when she was rightfully suspicious in other things. But, if that's the case and she thinks he's capable of this and she can't communicate with him it's probably time to leave or set other boundaries. *But, I think you're right and this isn't real, and I also really appreciate you talking about the other article and wealth.*
@tessarhude215510 ай бұрын
I love the drama videos ❤❤❤
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
glad u enjoy em!!
@macestarlet10 ай бұрын
That advice columnist was so over the top with her "advice" like- How is it professional to tell someone to *not* hire a PI because destroying the trust your relationship is built on is easier and cheaper?? Anyway i was suspending my disbelief through the letter but the response was actually what made me think it was fake- obviously they were playing it up and overexxagerating Also *oof* imagine casually saying that your husband will never be as successful as you, thats gotta hurt, what happened to mutual support?? I have more faith in my writer bestie's *future* yet to be written book than this lady has in her husband
@BanFamilyVlogging9 ай бұрын
Well said. If this even happened, the issue runs a lot deeper than just bad reviews. But regardless, the toxicity in all of this - including the practice of consuming abusive behavior for entertainment - is why I try to stay away from this kind of stuff. I don’t want to help make articles like that profitable. That being said, I also believe that having healthy, constructive conversations about this is really important. That’s how we prevent more situations like this.
@kiwi-ce9ho10 ай бұрын
cindy u are my savior w these videos during my work days. the earth is healing and i can get my tasks done bc of you thank u!!
@marykateandnoashley10 ай бұрын
15:58 NEED to take this to heart, especially in the age of constant angry mobs and terminally online virtue signalling and hate. ❤️
@jenniferkim924710 ай бұрын
just a daily reminder of how I love your channel and rewatched videos on your channel these last couple of days. I don't usually comment but sometimes im like I should comment to support XD
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Awww that's so sweet 🥺 thank u! Glad u can still enjoy them for a rewatch
@MystearicaClaws8 ай бұрын
Well that response went from 0-100 real quick 😬
@nashitad882210 ай бұрын
omg thank you for making my day so much better with ur vid😭😭
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
No problem 😊
@xRaiofSunshine9 ай бұрын
3:15 didn’t even finish the video yet and I already think they need a divorce. Assuming it’s even real.
@aquila87310 ай бұрын
The lead into the ad was so smooth
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
dramatically putting on sunglasses always makes things seem smooth
@meem353810 ай бұрын
Agree with all the comments about your hair-- it looks so good! An all-black era would suit you so much
@moi131010 ай бұрын
I agree that sending it to a newspaper(?) especially when it's more about advise is pretty sus in itself. Like I feel like most people go on their anonymous account in some random forum to vent if anything, and we are past the age where we share stuff with newspapers. I feel like they most of the times makes up stuff they want us to read/know about anyways. Would be interesting to have a deeper analysis of Emily Gould. Just scrolling through her wikipedia page sets up some red flags.
@Unhappytimeaper10 ай бұрын
If anything from the moment I heard it it sounds like those people who will do those "story time get ready with me" but then describe the plot of a book without putting that these are book reviews/promotions in the video just in the caption or relying on other people to already know their brand.
@juyeomis10 ай бұрын
your hair is so cool thank you for the fun drama video
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
thank u bb
@miuespacial678010 ай бұрын
That actually makes me think of the plot of Anatomy of a Fall
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
Is that movie good? I haven't seen it yet!
@miuespacial678010 ай бұрын
@@withcindy it's really good! And has book/writer drama accompanying a very nuance portrait of a complicated marriage. It has very juicy dramatic moments I think you would enjoy.
@SlowBurnReader10 ай бұрын
I am actually excited to see what your next TBR list will be Cindy! But still enjoy a little sip of tea now and again haha, you make it so damn entertaining
@amynye721810 ай бұрын
I'm excited for the video on your most anticipated books of 2024 ☺️
@samiai890510 ай бұрын
I was flip flopping this whole time on the authenticity of the ask bc of all the shit I’ve seen on AITA on Reddit but you definitely make really good points And if it is… I kinda want to see the mess
@Muted_Marcus10 ай бұрын
Some people want to watch chaos unfold or even take part in making it worse. I think that includes the advice columnist. 🤭
@withcindy10 ай бұрын
so true!! enabler!!
@dianesky49989 ай бұрын
OMG loving the new hair Cindy 😍 absolutely gorgeous 😍