Save Yourself Black Man - Kevin Samuels Started this Conversation (Episode 45)

[@chace96]

I love this interview. Ladies and gentlemen if lack of accountability was a person. Here it is front and center.

[@PrinceInawRakah]

What points did she make that you disagree with ?

[@kampalamanuel4263]

Truth 👏🏾

[@sjp1969]

@@PrinceInawRakah for me it’s the fact that she contradicted every “point” she made.

[@countvan7406]

It's the accountability part that gets them every time. They've gotten away for decades saying it's all black men's fault. Now when you show them the fallacy of that argument they can't handle it. They twist themselves into a pretzel trying to hold on to that argument.

[@thechubbypuertorican917]

@@PrinceInawRakah all of them!

[@vincetheboxingdude08]

"Alot of black men don't know who they are" - says the woman with fake hair, fake nails, fake eye lashes, drawn in eyebrows, ext. That's some of the strongest projection I've ever seen.

[@Pikkon-17]

Can't make this up

[@beulahepperson6736]

Why won't you admit you don't know who you are? It can be a scary space but Son it is worth stepping into. You need to know whose image you are made in. Your divine purpose, the calling, and gifting on your life. It is a life long discovery. And if you are a Black American decendant of African enslaved ancestors, your whole identity has been purposefully taken, disrupted, and hidden. We as a people have had more time enslaved than free.We were striped of name, religion, culture, dignity, rights and even the full status of human was denied our ancestors. We were brain washed, endoctrinated, experimented on. We were taught to worship a White Jesus and then we were let free. When did we take the time, effort, and commitment to heal, to even know we need to heal? We just hit the ground running in our mostly bare feet. And that was true to our ancestors who watched jaguars ran and we also ran in jungles, savannas, along side rivers, and mountains. We ran into freedom as systematic racism continued to rape our people. Yet you men chose to have this discussion to wonder why this poor sister is so messed up when you don't even know you don't know who you are. Wake up brothers. Mama says it is time to get up. Much love and wisdom to those of us who desire to receive.

[@hipking23]

@@Pikkon-17 🥁

[@kalonb5101]

Facts

[@VisionsADM]

Beulah, are you working on a PhD here? Your responses are really lengthy for a scenario in which it’s clear the “knowing who you are” is on a much more surface level than what you decided to write about. Great spin though. To write THAT much and not really address the fake accessories or projection is impressive in a weird kinda way…

[@jerrelldyoung]

Ugh, I dated a woman just like this and I thank God EVERY. SINGLE. DAY that I didn't get her pregnant and I walked away

[@lsowner10]

I found one just like her 22 years ago while stationed in Guam. She was also Navy but a single mom of a daughter. She legit talked just like this and I couldn’t understand what her issues was. I walked away two month later thanking god she annoyed me enough to not want to lay with her!

[@gadgettrill]

Thanking God on behalf of all men who were able to dodge her type

[@deadsetanime7102]

Nah, don't thank God for that. He likely didn't approve of you smashing her in the 1st place. Now if you were to throw rocks at her..... well,... that might get his approval indeed.

[@gadgettrill]

@@deadsetanime7102 frfr lol

[@rubee497]

Me too big dawg wooooweeee 🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️🤦🏾‍♂️

[@PickleDRick]

You can't be a Queen without a king! But a King can be a King without a Queen.

[@dafloatinbar4072]

They will not accept that the senior women in their lives have taught them wrong or shown them wrong. LMAO When she said I' listen well.'

[@oneill590]

She is the perfect example of: The hardware is fine… but the software needs a lot of work

[@lseven9924]

Spot on!

[@TheDrew718]

1000%. She is always performing. ..putting on a show. Too much. They say “ Music calms the savage beast”. God has given women the ability to make “music” with the way they move, touch, speak. But this woman carries a hammer.

[@TheAdamSmasherMultiverse]

Bars 👌🏾

[@davidmanning7715]

Right on

[@davidmanning7715]

Right on bro! Modern day female all day!

[@mr.crenshaw]

When she said “a lot of men say that I have masculine energy”, I literally shouted NO SH*T!😂

[@pooman3138]

saw that before she said a word

[@heruapocalypse2021]

Yeah pretty much

[@Seancarter2010]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@ogpirons]

💀

[@madblackmasculinist1374]

Was waiting for him to be like, "you do".

[@mikec6207]

She was too quick to defend every point, again proving: black women don’t listen

[@BlvckAdam]

Bro! I just want to say how impressed I am with the way you keep your composure in the face of complete cognitive dissonance and obstinance. I would have walked away from this conversation immediately. But it's a conversation that needs to be had. Thank you for your service!

[@wnttalk]

✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@user-nd8is6ey4t]

I know this is old, but spot on comment!! She is immature, but very opinionated.

[@quan_webbslinger]

You feel me, you feel me, you feel me, you feel me...

[@tobymo32]

Kudos to this man for his ability to remain professional, even when interviewing complete idiots.

[@4jradio]

Exactly

[@faheemfaquir1024]

I don't think she's an idiot at all. I think she is an example of what we have allowed our women to become.

[@1apocalyps]

@@faheemfaquir1024 she’s obnoxious.

[@chad8323]

No she is very intelligent. Just can't see the lack of accountability within herself. They amount of times she agreed with him, then contradicted that is astounding.

[@slickhen192]

@@chad8323 you literally just described someone who lacks intelligence

[@SoSuave3]

LOL, this whole conversation could have been wrapped up in 30 seconds. She could have just said "I'm gonna excuse all females of responsibility and accountability and blame Men for everything wrong. This is all she said in a nutshell.

[@jamel0901]

You said that right!

[@beulahepperson6736]

It's a man's world and one of the greatest of man's mantras is, "The buck stops here." Own up dude! Now, let's LOL. I'm saying this knowing that it takes two and it is not just on the man, but Honey it seems like you needed a splash of water on your face. Maybe her lack of accountability is your opportunity to demonstrate your account-ABILITY to minister to her where she is weak. If you are a student of the bible study Ephesians 5:25-33 to learn how to help a woman practice accountability. If you are not a bible student keep wrestling aimlessly with this age old problem.

[@Bxconnect]

@@beulahepperson6736 quiet down troll.

[@JuiceIVStat]

@@beulahepperson6736 there’s no reason for a man to actively teach women how to be responsible adults. The government recognizes them as adults. If they want to see the outcomes they want, that’s up to them. If you truly want men to do what you proposed, reinstate men’s power through policy. That goes for all women too, but we already know the answer which is why men choose their answer.

[@infinitymfg5397]

@@beulahepperson6736 This is stupid.

[@illiel2879]

She does not know she's masculine or understand male masculinity, but she's saying "You Feel Me" in almost every sentence. Go figure!!!!

[@koldworld3272]

this comment should be highlight of the day

[@JayNappyTV]

And bro this bro that

[@MarvAuthor]

She is one of the 8 out of 10 women that are not wife material. She doesn't have a clue and that's disturbing

[@mak.lee_pnw5098]

@@JayNappyTV if she calls your bro, 🚩🚩🚩

[@9chilidog]

Niggah is rubbing her hands like Birdman

[@ronraheen7687]

I wasn't sure why this video triggered me initially. It dawned on me a few hours later. This conversation is just so indicative of what I've experienced. Rather than acknowledge mistakes and accept reality, she wants to tell you why (or justify why she’s going to continue the same behavior), she wants to give you an example of when the behavior would make sense (hence constantly bringing up F-boys and broke men) and she wants to explain why she is the exception to whatever is being discussed. It causes the conversation to go round and round in circles and ultimately goes nowhere. I would have respected her more if she simply said “look, I’ve only dated broke guys and F boys and I’m probably not going to stop. When you date those guys, being in your masculine is just what you have to do because they aren’t worth much.” At least that would have been an honest and genuine conversation. Instead, the conversation was about her avoiding accountability and justifying poor decisions.

[@marsmith1907]

But therein lies the paradox. These types of women actually become feminine and submit to pookies and F-boys. So if she said that's all she had dated in the past, it wouldn't justify her hyper-masculine traits, today. I've noticed that this talking point is used by the pookie opposition, aka "nerdy" black men. You can't say that black women aren't submissive because pookie made them submit in their youth. Straight-laced black men are some of the biggest enablers of this boss bitch behavior as well. But what's the common denominator???

[@vaughnjalesa]

Coming from a woman, I definitely agree with you. I related to some of the things she has said but would have also liked to hear her be more accountable for her actions and be real with him and herself, the real problem is she doesn't see it as a problem unfortunately. One thing I can say is we are who we attract.

[@kuunami]

Women like her have heard from childhood through various forms of social messaging that nothing involving male/female relationships can possibly be a woman's fault. By the time they reach adulthood telling them otherwise is like trying to tell them that Star Wars and Harry Potter is real.

[@umiiruka07]

And another thing: pushing someone is NOT the same as INSPIRING someone. Inspiration is not invasive, it's inviting. It's like a smile/a good mood-- it's infectious and organic.

[@carloscoleman5634]

Thank you for the example of why black men go SYSBM.

[@tvfvrix]

What is sysbm?

[@carloscoleman5634]

@@tvfvrix Save Yourself Black Man. Save yourself from the nonsense of western black women and choose a woman from a culture that respects men, respects gender roles, and respects family. Whether she be from here or abroad.

[@reginaldmagee3586]

Self-awareness is not in her orbit.

[@mellamobrittney]

What I'm failing to understand is why black men and women are so against one another? You've got black men, in one corner, pointing the finger at black women-as a collective group-for the misbehavior of a certain few black women. Then, you've got black women in another corner doing the same thing against black men. When will this nonsense end? Just like I would never dismiss ALL black men, because not ALL black men are the "good for nothing thugs" that society portays you all to be, not ALL black women deserve to be dismissed, because not all of us are the argumentative, masculine, bullheaded, irresponsible people that we're painted as being. It really puts a woman like me in a difficult spot. Although I get approached more oftentimes than not by non-black men, I-personally-have no desire to be with a non-black man. It's not a matter of prejudice; it's that a non-black person will simply never be able to put themselves in the metaphorical shoes of a black person. I've spent the better part of my life having mostly white friends, and having to water myself down as to not offend *them.* Having to tread lightly in conversations about racism as to not hurt *their* feelings. I don't have the energy to be that person in an intimate relationship. So, with more and more black men adhering to this SYSBM mentality, it's leaving the black women-who desire to be helpmate to a black man-high and dry. Our oppressors have done an impressive job in pitting us against one another.

[@brokemillionaire6874]

@@carloscoleman5634 This HERE should be posted in every chat room in every channel like this one here

[@JoeBlowThaLovaman]

The irony of this conversation is astounding. At the very beginning she stated how men don't say what they want, but every step of the way instead of listening she had a rebuttal for darn near everything you said. The problem is not how men aren't speaking, the problem is that women like her don't wanna listen.

[@faheemfaquir1024]

The bigger picture is that women like her suffer from the fear of being unsafe unprotected by men who are not capable. Maslow's hierarchy of needs foundation is physical needs food shelter but next is safety. Women are made to be protected by men and our men are not as capable of protecting them and providing for them in many instances. They are a mirror of the men that they do not want but they are also more accepted in society jobs etc

[@JoeBlowThaLovaman]

@@faheemfaquir1024 I definitely agree with that!!!

[@JuiceIVStat]

@@faheemfaquir1024 Maslow’s hierarchy of needs isn’t an issue for women in this society when it comes to the lower rungs. You can’t take welfare and social benefits and still complain about not having what they provide. What’s interesting is that other groups of women can make it work, but it’s just impossible for black women. It’s also interesting that black men marry more and there’s less of them compared to black women. Where black women mess up at is that their worldview is different from black men’s. If you really want to get into Maslow’s hierarchy of needs, black women stall out at “love and belonging” and “esteem”. That’s something that black men can’t fix because black women do not find those 2 needs from black men.

[@hashbrown4278]

@@faheemfaquir1024 the men she surrounds herself with maybe. But the men that are capable of protecting her are avoiding her at all costs simply from the attitude.

[@Ben-Ken]

@@faheemfaquir1024 the man that are capable of providing for and protecting her are BORING to her. She doesn't want the lawyer or engineer that can move her to a safer area and give her great medical benefits. She wants a "creative" that probably has neck tattoos and a 0.001% chance of making it big.

[@almunnerlyn6030]

Any woman who tries to have any excuse for being masculine for any reason should definitely be left alone 🤔 ! No excuses never !

[@tinmanslickgreasy999]

Preach! Leave them alone!

[@jjohnson6382]

Now you said it.

[@LukaDonesnitch]

Periodt

[@kayelbee3798]

What black women need to do is stop trying to deal with black men who don’t know how to be masculine so they can be feminine.

[@ayeshabright3960]

Sorry I'm here late... what's so bad about being masculine? I don't see why that is consistently painted as such an awful thing for a woman.

[@simmyautomatik4436]

This is a tough watch, her mindset is dangerous.

[@AdotWilll]

I’m a new subscriber. This is much needed dialogue and I appreciate the effort to mend the Black man and the Black woman’s relationship with one another. We should make a real effort to listen to understand instead of listen to respond.

[@jerunamooutdoors]

What dialogue? All she did was make excuses about her situations not being her fault and how Black men need to do better. She was a lost cause.

[@jubei187]

Women cannot choose their own mates. And she is the perfect example of why

[@yaohshalom]

facts, the FATHER is SUPPOSED to be the one who makes a educated and wise decision FOR her.

[@kayc7442]

A woman can only choose what she attracts. It is up to the parents to teach their daughters about life, relationships and sex. Many simply go into the dating world ignorant with no tools and are simply winging it.

[@bigtank6465]

@@yaohshalom Precisely.. There was a very good reason why it was custom for a daughter to bring her prospective husband home to meet her father. Only a man can size up another man. And in some muslim countries, arranged marriages prevents confusion and is used to merge 2 families together.

[@yaohshalom]

@@bigtank6465 mr tank, the sad this is our people are Hebrew and those customs in Muslim religions, come from OUR people. I’m 21yo and I study our people and languages . I will make sure my household is how the most high made it to be.

[@meowco69]

That is why some daughters were left to take care of the parents and not to be with a partner

[@JustGio1111]

“We are damaged from other Men” THANK YOU!!! Proved our point. They get ran through by the Pookie and RayRays then come to decent Men expecting even more while giving less because they’re hurt or broken from them. Guys, PLEASE LEAVE. It’s not worth it man.

[@MrMm0p3]

Women make the product that is a Pookie & RayRay - they set the standards for: how he should move, how he should talk, how he should dress - it’s only common sense for market to be flooded with this product because it has shown to have high level of success.

[@feywinterfox9630]

@@MrMm0p3 sadly I have to agree with this, I remember a saying an old man said to me (that I have to clean up), but it went something along the lines of, “If BW suddenly stated that from now on they would only get with astronauts, by tomorrow BM would be floating around in space!”, I agree they both demand and create such men, ignore anything close to a decent BM because that is “boring”, then we they have had their fun or been ran through, now all the sudden all BM ain’t nothing and it’s all of our faults that “our BW can’t find love” pffft…not that it mattered, most of these BW wouldn’t know what to do with it if they had it!

[@Seancarter2010]

Avoid these type of women like they are the plague

[@kreativeforce532]

@@feywinterfox9630 they think the boring guys are soft and emotionally manipulatable via guilt. As they are finding out that we are not and its pissing them off.

[@feywinterfox9630]

@@kreativeforce532 👏👏👏💯

[@gadgettrill]

If any man sees this woman or anything remotely close to being like her..run, run, then run even faster and don't look back

[@AquaMarineFBVA]

man that last part of the convo is where WE REALLY NEED TO GO. I am a creative and there is a real tension with the me I wanna be and the me I have to be to be successful in the world. we need more blueprints for men like me too.

[@doubleooadam]

I just want a clear, cogent argument from the women. This man is a saint dealing with all this deflection and lack of accountability.

[@U4ia28]

When dude said women are bad listeners and she said “wow I can only speak for myself” I was hoping dude would say “you’re a bad listener too” tho know why he didn’t. The problem is that when women “listen” they don’t listen to understand and have honest dialogue, they listen to respond with their feelings and opinions irrespective of whatever facts or evidence presented that invalidates their position. Which more often than not involves disingenuousness, lies, gaslighting and extreme cognitive dissonance. This woman is a prime example of this. The most important thing she said that’s easy to miss is “his money is going to be our money eventually, so I gotta help make sure he get there.” This is everything.

[@suave_d]

Fellas, leave women like this alone. Her mind is not ready, and until modern women can accept even 10% accountability for anything, SYSBM will continue to operate in full effect.

[@untilipeak]

Girl is a walking red flag🚩🚩🚩

[@joelhenry5489]

We have a real epidemic of narcissism in our community. it makes sense because narcissism is a coping mechanism for abusive and oppressive situations. But unfortunately it creates people with very low internal resources for anything outside self-preservation and interest. That's how you get women like this who literally do not have the capacity for accountability. This is not just behavior, this is pathology.

[@wnttalk]

Comprehensive breakdown bro🙏🏿

[@kreativeforce532]

BINGO!!!!!! From the hand clasping mannerisms to the jerky movements its all mask for mental issues.

[@roguepill]

Brilliantly put.

[@mrmitchell4089]

She is not a woman

[@marsmith1907]

No, no, no! You just rationalized and justified ill-behavior based on the DSM. Meanwhile, their are women who are not oppressed, nor abused, who behave in this manner. What's your cause for these women?

[@BlaccBoii]

this is the average black woman this can’t be the same black women that black men are supposed to protect & build with 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@PerfectGiddimani]

Shame insults guilt and the need to be right accountability is like kryptonite.

[@DJKadilac]

This channel deserves a lot more traction! This brother is SURGICAL with his debate and arguments! 💯

[@wnttalk]

Thank you brother 🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@IS_THAT_BIG_A]

I agree! I didn’t know people was out here doing this work at this level.

[@SummersOnTheRun]

This is insane yo..Continue to level up, get your passports and Save Yourself Black Man

[@mishel6548]

😅🤣

[@jjohnson6382]

Go to South Africa and get your Women there they mostly Submissive, Traditional, and Very Nice and Sweet I'm telling you don't have to worry about nothing besides for American ways just don't go up to them talking about shorty and things of that sort.

[@thisblackmansperspective4453]

@@rosenidejean-pierre5246 bw was never on the Frontline 🤨 where do y'all get that from. Also hurry up and divest, we don't have to worship to get a non black women.

[@Dee--Jay]

No matter what my dude here threw at her..... She always found a way to place the blame immediately on the guy. Every single time

[@thetherapeuticcoacht.7260]

This interview shows that there’s a need for women of wisdom to teach and encourage young women like this. Some people talk a lot in order not to feel and to create a barrier.

[@Me-MeechieProjectLive]

Highlight Kevin Samuels name 💯 Thank You Kevin Samuels

[@chucklinwizzy]

Another high-level illustration of cognitive dissonance. Great interview! Her energy is so off-putting.

[@MrMduchesne23]

I thought it was just me...she has a frantic unfocused energy that just plows through logic and has zero time to self-reflect .

[@mrmitchell4089]

So true. I would hear her speak three words and act like she never existed

[@Coffeendonuts]

She’s gross. Built like a linebacker with an attitude to match

[@guidedtechgenius8815]

@@MrMduchesne23 AKA a lot of black women now days unfortunately. It's because of how high she holds herself in her mind, whenever she answers a question about black women she's defending herself instead of answering the question & none of her answers are really based in anything sounds like just her personal experiences dealing with the Joe shmoes she's dated.

[@rbaraka1]

I love when he said "Women are terrible listeners," and she simply kept trying to talk over him with no self reflection. She was painful to listen to. Great channel, the interviewer tried his best but she learned absolutely nothing.

[@truthseekingfreethinker5214]

"black women, we love our black men" That love they talking about is the love that kills, not builds.

[@KIKYOUTUBE]

It's all about respect. Respect is the glue that keeps relationships together - not love or lust.

[@djb9526]

This was a good person to have this conversation with

[@imperator8657]

"I told him what to do but he didn't do it so that's why I had to go." You as a man need to follow her and let her lead you!!! This is hilarious!

[@MrMduchesne23]

I'm a black man in a wheelchair. I don't date overweight women, I don't date single moms. I've never gone past the 1st date with the few black women I've met. They've always cut it short. "Nope, not desperate enough to date a cripple", "Nope, you don't make enough money for me". The money comment was the last black woman I met. I was making 45k at a job I was doing while at school. Within 6 months, I was promoted to management, and my wage went up an additional 20k a year. Now I make enough....however I've been dating this white woman, a grocery store clerk...who didn't care I was disabled, didn't care I made 45k a year, she just enjoyed my company, my companionship, and Richard. Black women, well most women, need to stop waiting at the finish line and find a good man whose doing the work to get ahead. Even if you think you can identify a 1% man, or the mindset of men in the 1%. Get real, you can't see past height, disability, or swag. My position goes up to 120k a year, and I just purchased an investment property that will add an additional 10k a year in income. In 5-10 years, I'll be one of those 1% men those black women were looking for, but they'll never see me again....

[@mewhenilie6848]

U attract what u are , reflection of a black woman is a black man. Deep deep down

[@babsjob8729]

I condemn you for even trying to date. I am 24yo and I knew the mindset of black women in the dating world, so at this age with me being broke I don't even look at them. I have a purpose in life and I'mma be there. If I was you I would save myself from that headache, because in fact you are the one entertaining that.

[@babsjob8729]

@@mewhenilie6848 Can you elaorate please ?

[@jamesdicker2962]

@@babsjob8729 you mean “commend?”

[@mewhenilie6848]

@@babsjob8729 how can we criticize black women on everything if black men are no different no better , aren’t black men the leaders ??? If anything it’s making the community look bad that bw can lead before a bm can

[@wrkflwdre2236]

I know a million women just like her. She has it "figured out" . Almost impossible to have the conversation with her type

[@rayshawncollins2302]

Great Interview, I love how she shares her views with passion and that she actually stops talking and listens. I want to say finances don't equate to submission also, my grandmother was the head nurse in a popular hospital in NYC making 6 figures, and my grandfather was a security guard in the hospital making $40,000. My grandmother loved and respected that man so much, and he cherished her like a precious jewel

[@shoyourightrayrayray3142]

Sir, you just laid thee absolute smackdown and mic drop @ 19:20 timestamp! Salute to you my G👊🏽

[@TalismanSarkozy9814]

This is the type of woman who makes me TIRED

[@vincenzomauricio7090]

She kept on saying she's the wrong black woman to talk to. SHE IS THE PERFECT BLACK WOMAN FOR THIS CONVERSATION. My man dropped countless gems for her and she didn't pick any of them up to put in her pockets

[@majesticnative9693]

Those $10 dollar tights don't have pockets.

[@infiniteblink]

Fam!! U said it PERFECTLY!!! 🤔👌🏿

[@doclew28]

See... This is part of the problem... she is fighting so hard to be right... she isn't SHUTTING UP long enough to actually learn something that is gonna help her get ahead and get the outcomes she may want. Hence... Cam Newton was ABSOLUTELY righ!!!! #GaaatDayum #STFUandLISTEN 😐😐🤦🏽‍♂️🤦🏽‍♂️

[@K-Rob-co5pp]

I'm so glad this conversation and movement has gotten started. Long overdue.

[@user-nd8is6ey4t]

She is reflecting everything that is being said to her.

[@dapdhharris7417]

She's all over the place, it was literally a chore to get through this stream. For one, she has no focus....red flag. And she couldn't answer a simple question without making it a complete diatribe. Which means there was still no accountability on her part.

[@Lantian99]

Her: "The only way to fix the home is the Black man." Me: "But you kicked them OUT of the home! So, make it make sense!" 🤦🏾‍♂🤦🏾‍♂🤦🏾‍♂🤦🏾‍♂

[@kiriende3691]

More than anything I respect and appreciate the way you able to conduct yourself in addressing contentious subject matter while maintaining a calm masculine demeanor.

[@chad8323]

Man I'm studying right now. Idk if it's the fact he knows he has to post the video or what. But it's amazing

[@Pobleetoe]

Yeah bruh is always elegant and intentional with his vocabulary and word choice. The use of words on this level is quite the achievement on top of being very impressive.

[@wnttalk]

🤣Preciate the love brothers🙏🏿🙏🏿

[@ericelder7329]

She is the QUEEN OF DEFLECTION!!!

[@est.inthe80s]

The old adage only women children and dogs are loved unconditionally definitely applies to this conversation

[@davidlouis1298]

This was a hard and combative conversation 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@johnwilliams5267]

Yesssssssss, she hurt my head.

[@tinmanslickgreasy999]

Imagine what it would be like at your house dealing with this.

[@johnboswell916]

Yes

[@rmak2950]

i felt exhausted after this one boy

[@q.maurice]

If confident and wrong was a person... You ask a woman what type a man they want they tell you one thing. Then you try to tell them what those men want, they project Pookie and Ray-Ray behaviors on those men to defend why they won't give/be what that man wants.

[@orb3946]

Let me translate the whole video for you. "it's never my fault". End of story. Gentlemen, please avoid this type. Life will be so much smoother.

[@newnaturalgirl]

Love it!!👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾

[@malachiy13]

Me, my 21 year old son just got our passports and boy, we can't wait to go to Brasil or the Philippines. Save Your Sons Black Men to. Bw are becoming *insufferable.*

[@Type0Beatz]

I’ve noticed over the years that women who always talk about how great they are behind close doors they are miserable like he said false confidence is a real thing

[@infinitymfg5397]

When I was younger I found women that deflect simply frustrating because of their circular logic and the fact that all problems started from someone else; but I wrote this off as the difference between men and women. As I've gotten older I see women that behave this was as emotionally and psychologically abusive. The perpetual deflecting, blame shifting and moving of the goal post are actually gaslighting and there's no way a woman can see a healthy long term relationship while acting this way. I'm convinced that many young women don't want a healthy relationship, they simply want series of shallow wins that last about 3 - 5 years. That's why when you hear from women in their 40s discuss their failed relationships, if they take accountability and show introspection, they often mention that their biggest problem was being difficult, playing games or otherwise antagonizing the man.

[@idomalion6167]

Its a sign of manipulative behaviour.

[@tinmanslickgreasy999]

Very true....! There was a young lady that I really liked back in the day.. we dated and I found her hostility and masculinity was more than I wanted to deal with in my life. At the time I didn't know what the term or name was but it was there and I thought I dont really want to be with a hostile man or a mean bossy MOM! I'm a grown ass man who owns his own company are you kidding me! I like natural feminine women. The thing was... she liked me but her projection and masculinity would just come out and it was a turn off. Later down the road she tried to apologize but it was too little and too late plus I was engaged or already married by that time.... she knew she was doing something wrong and after more unsuccessful relationships with other men she started to see a pattern. Im sure she knows she messed up but I never would rub it in her face. She just couldn't listen and wouldnt hear it when I would tell her I dont appreciate that kind of behavior or attitude. I got tired of it quick. Anyhow im happily married 20+ yrs my ex is still single. I do wish her the best but I have no interest in that type of women. My wife is a strong women, hard working, petite, feminine, caring, loyal and NICE! Kind of a funny story about my ex girlfriend and life after... My wife was out running her 5 miles and when she got back she was like hey! I saw saw D at the park while I was running through there. Really? Yep she was arguing with her boyfriend by the pines! They were loud too they better be careful before someone calls the cops on them.🤣We just cracked up because I knew my ex well enough.🤣 I just shook my head grimacing a smile and reaffirmed my abilities to dodge bullets. I'm so glad I did not go any further with my ex girlfriend who was a single mom with kids, masculine and argumentative. I was dumb for even considering dating her in the first place when I look back at it.🙄

[@gregorygoods2081]

Damn that shallow wins and 3 to 5 hit really hard brother💪🏾

[@regdroid]

Came in on 10... Definitely extraordinary... Dodging accountability like one of the Uncanny X-Men 🦸🏾‍♀️🤸🏾‍♀️🏃🏾‍♀️

[@JovhonteFirstOfHisName]

Im taking Quick Silver dodging

[@KevinTSolomon]

On a Quick Silver something. 😂😂😂😂

[@kreativeforce532]

Aint she a driver on Crazy Taxi?

[@tonyjones1560]

This was Neo dodging machine gun fire…

[@AmpTheProducer]

Bro genuinely wish this woman the best. There are many women who see things from her perspective and I truly hope they can overcome the damage made by arduous upbringing. I want the dichotomy between us to end, but until women like her see life for exactly what it is rather than what she was told it should be, we can't get better.

[@sunkingsanders1598]

Great conversation. Thanks folks.

[@heybestieswithshaypodcast705]

I truly love your selection of women you chose to interview .

[@blankmandastankman]

I just looked up “the need to be right” in the dictionary and this chick popped up trying to tell me what her idea of it meant

[@quentin6233]

I somehow survived this interview and came out this thinking I just listened to a female Damon Dash who seems to think she knows everything about everything and has all the answers before the questions are asked, while also being loud and cutting the interviewer off.

[@tpayne12no]

😂 I thought I was the only person who felt that way about Damon Dash.

[@hiddentruthchannel3121]

You put it precisely!! Omg she was hard to listen to

[@darrellsamuel2726]

The rebuttles: We were raised that way If black men did what they were supposed to do then I would submit Black men not telling women what they want Though I chose a black man I could not accept it is his fault for not getting me to accept him

[@marlowharris4125]

I agree with what Kevin Sanders is talking about. 💯💯

[@Perdont]

When she said we're raised to be alone it was sad and we missed it

[@MichaelThomas-hz3zl]

High level deflection.... HIGH LEVEL... Continue to highlight and educate my brother..

[@wnttalk]

Yessir✊🏿

[@inkydionne9534]

@@wnttalk educate young Brothers on how to get it from the bottom of the economic and social totem pole and not be in the group that is costing the US 50 billion dollars a year because you're unemployed ..that's the big elephant in the room... That maybe you don't have the balls to address.

[@Idontentertainfoolishness]

​@@inkydionne9534 the funny thing is u really think unemployed men are costing the US 50 billion/yr🤣🤣🤣 I challenge u too compare the amount of mens shelters vs women's shelters in the US...

[@dtfasedemi]

Allen Obi, you are the kind of man I hope to be. The level of intellect, maturity and calm you show in your videos and especially in this one is next level. Heard you getting a but frustrated in this convo but kept it cool. This lady is almost impossible to speak to and you kept it going. Salute

[@wnttalk]

Preciate you my brother✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@GameheadTalks]

If it's conditional, it's not love. She doesn't even understand that what she feels about black men , is completely anecdotal. You can't love someone if the way you treat them is dependent on their station in life.

[@csideblue1]

Her arrogance is typical and sickening. Every other sentence was blaming Black men. SYSBM

[@HIWWPI_2024]

I’m only 3:27 into this video and already I feel a headache coming. Im a woman and I can tell you this much already, she for sure isn’t going to hold herself accountable let alone other black women. I bet you every question the interviewer is going to ask her she is going to make sure her answer starts/ends with its the black man’s fault. Lord help our community.

[@illusionist1430]

The lack of accountability and masculine energy was real. At every point she had to promote herself and at the end of the day, she left the dude because she couldn't adequately control him. "I told him to... he didn't do... so I left"

[@Butch3727]

I respect the manosphere. The deeper I dive into it the less confident I am that we can figure this out. This is a prime example of it. I’m not checking for this nor am i investing time or resources into this.

[@jewelsvermin8866]

It's been figured out. We know the why but fixing it seems out of reach.

[@hashbrown4278]

Just seek out the type of women you want and avoid these more modern types of women. They mock traditional women as “pick me” when they want to also want to be picked themselves but are just too undesirable to the men they want. Traditional women will get what they want and these non traditional women will be avoided and they hate it

[@californiablue3828]

She's only listening to respond. Terrible communication skills

[@Bo_Vado]

It’s crazy how she said that she had accepted him. Then immediately said that he had to change

[@isaiahrholt]

I like that she has a reason for what she thinks and I agree with her reasoning about 90 percent

[@123pb]

This has been going on since I was 18 yo. I am 59 yo and hate what black women have become.

[@ThisIsWar_B1_FBA_ADOS]

I’m 48 and this all I’ve ever known black women to be. I question, when were they ever different.

[@TonyGasque]

I'm 54 and I say this is the direction they want to go. They are so much worst now. I don't even try to have a conversation with them no more. Focus on your peace.

[@kingmaafa120]

Tanzania 🇹🇿 for me

[@NESGTorro]

Damn I’m only 24 , it’s definitely not gone change now 🤦🏾‍♂️🤷🏽‍♂️ too far gone

[@kingmaafa120]

If you wanna know THIS SAD TREND STARTED AFTER THE CRACK GENERATION CAME ON THE SCENE..you just seeing the fallout Blk culture became more immersed into BABYLON CULTURE ME2 MOMENT Stockholm syndrome Broke up families Neighborhoods Facts

[@abandon.3897]

Instead of having a general conversation. She took all the points personally which diluted the quality of the conversation.

[@Dasecond88]

The fact that she said “How can I explain this…” at a scenario so ludicrous shows why acknowledging S.I.G.N is so important

[@James_150]

Black American women have a long way to go..Older black women from Africa for instance, drums it in their daughters ears during and after college to get with a man and build a stable family it’s a different story with black American women…Black men in America should explore other black females in other continents and y’all won’t regret it!!! I’m a black African man and an African American woman will be on the bottom of my list and this woman here is one of many reasons

[@hithhiker]

There is a difference between listening to respond and to listening to understand and then respond. It is very nuanced and takes time to learn if you do that or not. Most people listen to respond.

[@damianbarnes2717]

I’m sorry I usually watch the entire video from start to finish but I just couldn’t this time. The lack of accountability this woman has for own choices. An not taking any responsibility for her actions is remarkable in this woman. I literally made it to 4:56 in the video an said that’s enough. You’ve heard all these excuses before you all ready know we’re this is going. Don’t waste any more time watch the next episode.

[@imretiredtruestory2867]

I'm not going to convince a woman of any color to be with me. My problem is getting rid of women, not getting them.

[@quentin6233]

Just a few minutes in and I'm mentally exhausted. She is loud, argumentative and masculine AF. She's cute too but I'll pass.

[@sivaddavis2518]

Exactly

[@Ghostjam1]

Bruh

[@Turshin]

I think she is like most women, you actually have to be in the mix with them to know the real woman. I hear what she saying but, I'm getting strong cap vibes.

[@kaimobley5324]

Her: if y'all was as confident as we were we'd be on another planet Me: CONFIDENT!? CONFIDENT! (N) PLEASE!! Confidence isn't going to fix your immaturities. Confidence isn't going to fix your trauma. Confidence isn't going to give you a different perspective. Confidence isn't going to tell you the Truth 24/7 365 about a situation. Confidence isn't going to stop you from lying to yourself. Confidence isn't going to tell you the Raw Dirty Truth about yourself that your more then likely aren't comfortable with. Confidence isn't going to hold you accountable. Confidence isn't going to fix a situation you F'd Up ROYALLY. Confidence isn't a Excuse. Confidence isn't a Reset Button. Confidence isn't Reality. Ma'am WHAT ARE YOU TALKIN BOUT!

[@Lover-ur4te]

I think she meant boastful

[@bobbybigfellow8516]

Her: no no I'm agreeing with you. Up IS the exact same as down! Right!

[@Turshin]

Basically saying if you get finessed, it's your fault

[@theaverageman1982]

Facts on Facts. The "Confidence" narrative is killing relationships.

[@colinyesutor2600]

We are in this mess because of a lot of confident fools.

[@nashambenyisrael7689]

Sharazard ali goes in!, love that women when she open her mouth instead of insulting men..

[@Dontellnobodi]

Sad world. This is what we have to choose from

[@ifareaged]

I think the main issue is the way we communicate: women can easily dismiss a man's factual statement with their feelings when a man can never dare to dismiss women's feelings for facts

[@cedricrobinson374]

💪🏿 statement

[@tonyhelm9395]

She said in the beginning we have to deal with broken men but its our mothers and you who break us.

[@kiriende3691]

You're doing a great job of modeling how to keep your head for a lot of Black men.

[@wnttalk]

That the ministry my brother✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@VisionsADM]

@@wnttalk I’m glad to see you in these comments man. I really wondered if you would stroll through to see the reactions after doing that interview. Salute to you my G. Most guys would not have been able to hold it together. The ministry is real.💯

[@wnttalk]

@@VisionsADM The ministry is real my brother✊🏿✊🏿✊🏿

[@mrdeveraux5891]

Accountability Is Kryptonite To Black Women!

[@jasperhankerson3114]

Yes indeed

[@Layziethug5]

I love how women work to shame men instead of fixing themselves to be more desirable. A lot of women just expect an outcome without discussing their expectations because most people (especially black people) have no idea what a healthy relationship looks like. She also lacks the ability to recognize that her actions directly influence the results she gets. She refuses to be submissive and when confronted she says men just didn’t “step up”. Ma’am, why would I step up for a woman in process? Why waste my time?

[@tinmanslickgreasy999]

This had to be the most frustrating interview for him to do. But it also really showed what men should avoid Thank-you for your service!👍

[@divinestrength1774]

All of these interviews are pure fucking GOLD! I be dying when his questions make them pause and actually think of a response, instead of just mouthing off some prerecorded automation of responses that corral in the minds in majority of black women!!! This shit is so thought provoking which is so important, because it separates the individual from the cult and forces them to actually think for themselves!!! Pure gold bro!! ✊🏾💯💪🏾

[@blackyodaprime]

Just completely disconnected from reality. A great listener who heard and understood absolutely nothing being said to her.😄

[@brnzetyger]

This is an example of the type of BW I DON"T ever want to be with. There are good ones out there to be sure. However, the ones who use the default excuse of "this is how we were raised" are not worth the headache. I've known a few men who gave women like her a chance and they all paid the price for it. Most men desire peace and she and those like her would give anything but that. I haven't given up on BW but I made the decision a long time ago to steer clear of the ones who are broken like her.

[@olusegunakintunde6297]

This is like teaching robotics to a squirrel. Masculine, tangential, semi inane stream of consciousness conversation. She's masculine. And thus, can't see where she fits in the topic.

[@diallo6197]

I love when bro mention Kevin Samuels that the smile slowly diminishes from most of the women's faces. Now I know exactly what to say when I feel like pissing a woman off. Kevin's spirit is still working it's magic.

[@pablorages1241]

Confidence ... when you have no substance ...is DELUSION !