woah, slow down. THIS is NOT self care.

[@magdalenafinke]

selfcare has become a marketing hook for overconsumption

[@itzerinn2489]

literally had to get off tiktok and reconnect with the real world because it's truly insane

[@Ivy-xh2qo]

THISSSS

[@Twistytheshark]

​@itzerinn2489 the real self care 😂

[@paige1778]

not only is it over board on “self care” it’s INSANE overconsumption 😭

[@IntegrityMeansAll]

These chics are literally pathologically insane. The whole generation is so manipulated by the cosmetic industry in a concerning way. I’m not on toci toci btw ;)

[@rachul09]

Yeah

[@vvitch-mist20]

People forget self care includes things you don't like doing. IE telling yourself no

[@maddie3520]

@@vvitch-mist20girl the way you just opened my eyes is insane 😂 I never thought about how self care is also not allowing yourself to over spoil yourself to the point of doing more harm then good. Thank you so much 😂❤❤

[@vvitch-mist20]

@maddie3520 I'm glad it helped! Too much of anything isn't good. It's all about balance. Please share this wisdom around to help others lol.

[@starboispacehippie]

Self care can be as simple as sleeping in on weekends, cooking a nutritious meal, sitting in the sun with a cup of tea, taking a walk.

[@LissetteCarillo]

Th❤

[@Rachel-zf2wm]

Self care is feeling a little too much like self hate atp…

[@Daydreamerr13]

No lol

[@sabrinadavis6832]

Yes! Doing the most to try to like as perfect as possible

[@effullgent]

yess!! especially when they talk about doing 10 diff things to not stink when just the first one would have done it

[@vivian5259]

tbh

[@krishaunafisher]

Literally got a PT now and my self care was starting to tackle my PCOS lol. Walking more, lifting weights, making better food!!!! Literally taking care of yourself is self care

[@gaslight.gatekeep.girlboss6476]

so real! I feel the best when I truly take care of my insulin resistence. Focusing on your health feels more productive than just focusing on your appearance, which may never be "perfect enough" for the insane beauty standards in social media

[@buxbledxdii7646]

pt?

[@notmydidea]

@@buxbledxdii7646 physio therapy, i assume

[@datsesstella2375]

To me I think self care is whatever you make it. It’s personal to you, your budget, your wants & needs

[@julie-zmb]

I love thisss

[@HulaMask]

I agree! When I’m home doing self-care for hours, I’m not out shopping. I’m not out drinking. I’m not over consuming media. I’m just existing in my home taking care of myself so while it may seem like overconsumption, I think sometimes it’s actually under consumption in a lot of other areas. You go to the bar you gotta spend money to get there. You gotta pay for drinks. You gotta safely get home. You gotta take time to get ready and go out and you need clothes for that. Self-care, I’m naked with several bottles of lotion.

[@biancaboswell6501]

Selfcare for me now is just resting. We’re so overstimulated with instant gratification by social media and fast pace life.

[@chan-oe5fv]

The blush, the lip combo, the braids !!!!!

[@hannafromatlanta]

You ate with this video! I think sometimes people forget that self-care could also just be rest like doing nothing and just existing so thank you for this video 💗

[@kiaratheexplorer4]

Yes 💛

[@Dina-c5p]

Love all of ur tips but I especially agree with making ur space cozy bc for years my room felt cold and uninviting bc I never bothered to decorate and treated it lkke a storage room that I sleep in, but add in a carpet and some fairy lights and bam, legit enjoy every moment in here now!!

[@livingdollgyaru]

I need to get on the self care of DISCIPLINE

[@madelinekouassi9884]

Me too ! The hardest to get and the one that matters most tbh !!!!

[@Paige-m6c]

This was so refreshing to see someone not telling you what selfcare has to be, and making it more manageable for everyday.

[@misssherlock2991]

For me, taking care of myself is taking care of my health, going to the doctors on time, keeping track of my vaccination calendar, taking care of my teeth and gums, dressing according to the weather, saving money for a rainy day, but definitely not a new branded jar

[@Greater756]

People confuse self maintenance with self care.

[@gilayahmcintosh8766]

De-influencing us from lies but giving us practical truths. Bless you 👏🏽

[@ElDaCreatrix]

Yes I love how practical and actionable your advice is. Self care isn’t meant to be inaccessible. Self care is simply practices That acknowledge and comfort you. One of my favorite mindless activities is writing although it mean seem counterproductive I can write til my hand fall off and often times it’s free-flowing.

[@AdamIshak01]

Bro my black girlies are killing it. Bossgirl, NK, Keshia, Chomia. Call me McDonald’s cause I’m loving it! ❤

[@zee-zee]

4:09 im CRYING youre so real for that

[@jacquelinephiri431]

I realised I'm more at peace and happy since I deleted TikTok. That app will make you feel inadequate. I started feeling like I needed to get this and that each time I scrolled.

[@virikameni]

It’s been a year since I discovered your channel, I’m so glad I did! I feel like you’re the only creator I completely trust with beauty/skincare recommendations or anything really! Alsoooo, Congrats on 100k!!!

[@GetElevatedWithMe]

This is the first time I have come across your channel and you are so wise. Thank you for your teachings. And I got so excited seeing your Ulta haul! I’ve been watching KZbin beauty since the beginning and you’re giving haul 2011 ❤ love a genuine girly!

[@dapu571]

the gift thing is such a beautiful way of looking at preparation. like, its not "ugh i have to do this now, if not tomorrow i wont", but "i bet this will make me happy tomorrow if i get it done now!"

[@sonialouisa3637]

The maintaining yourself is so real. I had to learn that I can literally wax my own legs at home for like 7 bucks. (Only thing I will NEVER do myself is brazilian😭) but you can paint your own nails, ect. For sooo much cheaper and you invest your time in YOU

[@violarrrsf]

I buy a multipack of press ons, spend my time putting them on properly, paint them and they last two weeks. It turns £70 a month into £6.

[@NovaMeteora]

"You want a man to take care of you so bad but you can't take of yourself" girl no you right. You're so right and I DID need to hear that. 😤

[@alissamaharaj791]

What’s crazy to me too is that self care is like this separate thing from everyday life like “I’m having a self care day” like no aren’t these just life skills we should be practicing all the time to make life as easy and enjoyable as possible? these are things we should be taught as kids as part of a healthy lifestyle imo

[@MélodieZogo]

ok about all you said but we NEED a makeup routine from you because face card never declinnnneeee in every videos and i need your secrets for a smooth flawless makeup like yours .

[@marinetism]

THISCUZ HER MAKEUP IS SO FLAWLESS GJKADHFAHFAHFJ

[@bb1212-lov]

i hopee to every girl who struggle with body imagine and self-care ; YOU ARE BEAUTIFUL and don't let any tell you otherwise SPECIALLY sm media post :) love you tyy xx~

[@DareenBeat]

the way this video made me get up and so something for myself and write down my goals

[@noface181]

Me n u r really similar. We have a lot of the same habits n self care things. Putting random chunks of money into my high yield savings is always gives me a mood boost

[@Shotbypreshy]

First to comment 🎉❤ Tips on self care ♡ save for ur future self ♡ leave gifts for ur future self ♡ finish one product before buying other one ♡ make ur space cozyy ♡ get a mindless hobby ♡ movement ♡ get ready everyday ♡ maintenance ♡ make independent financial moves ♡ you timeee

[@vvitch-mist20]

I have a penny jar!! I add any pennies to it. It's about half way full. I'm below poverty so anything bigger gets used for bus fare or groceries.

[@chessybur9386]

This is the best video I’ve seen for self care, like you really got IT together! ❤❤❤

[@aiiixaa]

100K CONGRATULATIONS GIRL!! SO PROUD

[@MyelleSunsetPhotography]

Most of its temporary too. Like shaving your face, those chin straps or the jade facelifters even Jessica Alba admitted that your face literally goes back to how it is like few hours later. You do all that work spend all that money for something if you miss even a day of you look like you did before or maybe even worse.

[@bootsmade4walking]

First time watching your channel -- the audio editing is HILARIOUS. Keep doing your thing!

[@InaRPRegel]

One big part of self-care is, for me, psychological hygiene, which includes: healthy boundaries with yourself aswell, also with the digital input you let yourself digest.

[@graceskeate]

This is the first vid of yours I’ve seen and omg I love your vibe! Your gorg also btw

[@aespaversal]

WAS THAT MAKNAE NINGNING!? 💜 and yes ur right i be seeing those Japanese/Korean skincare routines were its there fingers how to slim em how to make em look manga like and im like....GURL....it gets to a certain POINT honey...!!

[@nazzythoughts5096]

You're sooo prettyyy!! ✨

[@emilyrusso3905]

Loved this video and your energy… so glad you popped up in my recommended ❤

[@Blueberrysienna]

The puppy is soo cute!! 🥲🥲

[@krk6216]

Self care is yes my usual only 5 step skincare routine…. But it’s also me getting a night guard because I clench/grind my teeth. Doing the PT exercises my dentist gave me for the TMJ. Spending time with friends and doing my hobbies. The “morning shed” is the last thing on earth that would make me feel happy

[@HulaMask]

The over consumption happens because the products aren’t as effective. For example, there’s this body line at Ulta that’s rather expensive that’s for shaving when you have bumpy skin. They have like lotions shaved gels like a whipped lotion. You need all three of those steps, but you could just get laser hair removal and a salicylic acid body peel. But that’s more expensive. You could get lasers on your face and use tretinoin or if you don’t have that kind of money you do it 10 step routine. You can’t afford PRP in your hair you get red light therapy. It’s kind of like if you want a BBL you and you can’t afford it you get butt pads and you buy supplements to gain weight and you buy butt lifting workout clothes

[@lexvirgilio]

I needed to hear this girl, thank you!!!

[@alessandrajackson3768]

I loved Isabelle Lux’s TikTok about it. She is an anti-aging creator who created a lot of morning shed routines. She said that what it has turned into is the opposite of self-care and that people doing this won’t get a good night sleep (and sleep is the ultimate beauty hack)

[@mikaylajbmartin]

This was a GREAT vid filled with so many gemz ✨

[@CleanGirlInTheMaking]

I definitely like the video, I will say though that self-care will look different for others no matter what. If they want 50+ steps then let them. It's just crazy the amount of people that are judging. Overconsumption it real and it is a problem, but every product has a use. I don't agree with overconsumption when its used to make people feel like they have to use all the products but at the same time if one person wants to use it, who are you just in general terms to stop them....

[@ejc139]

i definitely agree with all of your points. i just wish it was easier for me to shop in person... but everything i want is online, and the clothing stores near me either don't have my size, or they have my size, but it's grandmotherly clothing, and im not comfortable wearing that. 😭

[@Eco_Lps18]

I AGREE ! im trying to get more into this mindset!! Thank you for this ❤

[@nai1136]

First video, and I love you already. (Random, but seeing this 13 days later with 103 videos and 103k subscribers.)

[@Syd7113]

You‘re STUNNING!!!

[@Someone-dq4zt]

Wow this video is so helpful. It's really giving me a mindset shift. I never thought about it as gifts for myself. I've been struggling to get up and this video has made me realize bc I'm trying to get everything done in the morning and it's so stressful and demotivating :))

[@Horse_obsessed]

Well heres my self care I do my skincare, get in cozy pjs or clothes and have a little shop or not. Come home and make a nice meal, hot choclate, lay down or have a bath and watch smth like heartland. Not some 1m routine thingy

[@erinmartinez8360]

I’m so glad someone is addressing this!!

[@itsstisha]

7:04 omg girl plss do a tutorial on your hair soo pretty 😻😻💗

[@bossgirlified]

I have a tut on TikTok @bossgirlified 💞

[@suzsiz]

Its a sickness. If people only could take as much care for their souls as they do their flesh, it would be so much better

[@imanina]

I thought I was crazy for using hand sunscreen

[@meme_zy123]

Whether u do it too much or too less doing what makes u feel good n not tiring is self care.

[@courtney_lol]

couldn’t even focus on the damn video bc my god u are so beautiful 😭

[@witchsbrew111]

Self care is not what most ppl think it is lol… it’s not all baths and shit 😂

[@sweetlydiy326]

Happy 100k 🎉

[@bossgirlified]

🫶🏾🫶🏾🫶🏾 WOOOOO

[@InaRPRegel]

by the way, I looove your hairstyle!!

[@malakazm1290]

Thank you for breaking all those idea!

[@angelicamichelle1143]

I'm watching this while crocheting🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼🫶🏼

[@monika7727]

literally God bless you for de-influencing us 🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏 amen

[@FrancescaSfolcini]

Also the dog was confused 😂

[@nahos1100]

if selfcare makes you dread it or makes you uncomfortable for a long amount of time, that's not selfcare girl 🤐 Its supposed to make you feel good :)

[@avaf02]

Omg you are so so cute, I like you a lot. Your looks and your voice and personality, everything. This is I think the second time I watch one of your videos and I love III it, it's like sitting on your bed and talking to your bestie You got yourself a new sub watching you from Spain jajaja ❤

[@Yongbokie-brownie]

Girlll you are so underrated~

[@aelyza_]

those overnight masks are legit so uncomfortable. i tried it once and i somehow took it off while i was sleeping

[@clueless7454]

I feel like we are back In the 50's , we are going insane with the obsession of being beautiful... like for what? For a men?

[@maaggi]

these new self care routines are just another way to make people feel more insecure. like i'd wake up to see new products being releasrd for things that i didn't even know needed to be "fixed".

[@TemieBeauty]

Where’s the stash link?

[@arynjulieee]

it was so satisfying to like this at 999 and watch it go to 1k

[@as_ataraxia]

Being bored and doing something is better than being bored and doing nothing 🤷‍♀️

[@ghost_lad08]

Thank you

[@effullgent]

i feel like self care is just overconsumption and self hatred wrapped in a bow

[@annaadams7128]

Unrelated but omg you're so pretty

[@sunamitafernandes4047]

Your teeth and smile are so beautiful!

[@Eden.t.d]

merci pour la vidéo elle me permet d'apprendre l'anglais

[@berrybopforever]

What to do when you struggle to get the energy to even shower everyday?

[@FluffyKittenMittens1]

Just do it at the same time every day and get into a routine. I shower every morning when I wake up even if I don't want to and end up feeling 10x better afterward.

[@DalandaWurie-go8ch]

Thanks for the video it was very helpful ❤

[@koalak4672]

It’s called: overconsumption 😭💔

[@nature2t386]

Took notes. Thank you ❤

[@brooklynfyrst5497]

Say it louder for the girls in the back!! 4:09

[@HaahmayanShaalManasseh]

🤣🤣 when you called your dog I hollered - girl all these videos are maddening and a waste of money 💰 10 different products on ya face as a woman I couldn’t think of anything worse 😅

[@Twistytheshark]

Lesson 1: people will do anything for views especially when it comes to "self care". Like urm tf u mean u have a hand routine unless your a hand model girl no 😂

[@sentailraven9159]

I was in Instagram the other day following beauty accounts just for product recs 😅 tell me why this girl uses 5 different body washes in her shower routine…..😟

[@xbaeksky]

those videos are part of the substance

[@lexc-f3w]

i keep hearing you say it goss birlify idk why

[@agirllovetolive4196]

My sellary doesn’t allow me to save for future I pearly buy myself drag stor stuff and taking care of my family home I’m still single and it’s impossible to save unless I get 2 jobs minimum

[@lightdjioke8227]

You are very pretty❤ first thing to be said

[@GinevraPaoli-ur1mh]

but that’s not a bear

[@julia-p1m6q]

The receipt is longer than my life so far

[@newyt3033]

thank you for calling me out

[@HalfwayJac]

You look like a Goddess.

[@pinkapoppy]

i love the idea but DO NOT put your savings in a coin jar! that money will depreciate over time, and if you want to put that money aside the best thing is to put it into savings where you can get interest :)

[@bossgirlified]

I’m pretty sure I mentioned this is this video too but I have multiple different savings accounts including two investments accounts. The coin jar is just somewhere for me to put extra change and cash that I’d rather save than spend 🫶🏾

[@coreyrobinson1900]

🔥🔥🔥😍😍😍

[@Curtis01824]

like you share，like Nordstrom🥰

[@laiscristinny]

you gals dont need 'skincare' at all actually