Wolf of Wall Street EX-WIFE: How To Take Your POWER BACK & Stand UP For Yourself

@carmenlux1775 3 ай бұрын

It’s not your fault, but it’s your Responsibility to “save” yourself, “fix” your life, create a better one -it’s on you and no one else.

@Laura-ve7wo 3 ай бұрын

Despite the pain yes I agree

@eunice6694 3 ай бұрын

Great advice

@micheleaustin794 3 ай бұрын

I agree now but at the time I was only doing what I knew at the time... being brought up Mormon and being subservient and doing what I was told...till I couldn't take it any longer. Teach your children life lessons to succeed in life.. especially the girls/ women. It's.... NOT okay!!!

@cece3917 3 ай бұрын

So true💯

@brendacrawford343 3 ай бұрын

Yeah Tyler Perry was the same way with me

@yzma6142 3 ай бұрын

I literally hate lovebombers now, I’m repelled by them. I love her comments about boundaries as well.

@victoriavitoroulis3273 3 ай бұрын

Just think that’s the ONLY way they get their foot in the door .. love yourself first and then the lovebombing won’t stick

@yzma6142 3 ай бұрын

@@victoriavitoroulis3273 facts!

@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l 3 ай бұрын

@@krystalMtn Same. Never take them back with their fake apologies months later because the can't find supply.

@monkeybearmax 3 ай бұрын

They are the obvious ones

@tensevo 3 ай бұрын

what is love bombing?

@MsRapture10 3 ай бұрын

I have the “nice guy”. The “consistent guy.” The “stable guy.” He’s incredibly even keeled and I just discovered several months ago that he’s an extremely unassuming covert narcissist so there is almost virtually no one set of behaviors that is overtly identifiable unless you know the depth of what NPD is. Being “nice” was his way of diverting attention from his sneaky behaviors and because that’s how I perceived him, I overlooked all the red flags. The entire world needs an education on this disorder because it’s MUCH more prevalent than statistics suggest

@jenster29 3 ай бұрын

Yeah same situation. Only my closest friends believe me.

@Joyce-uw3rv 3 ай бұрын

I'm sorry! Yes, I saw similar behaviors, too. He would turn things around on me. Truth is until you are 100% honest with yourself & their behavior is going to be a rollercoaster. ❤

@user-sk2vo9qy6s 3 ай бұрын

💯 percent AGREE!!!

@christinahickman9497 3 ай бұрын

I'm in the exact same situation. Been married 29 years to a man like this. It's so confusing because on the surface everything looks so good.

@MsRapture10 3 ай бұрын

@@christinahickman9497 Mine has been 15 years so I sympathize. This has been a startling revelation for me to uncover because he’s not outwardly abusive but the emotional component was always missing amongst many other things I dismissed as ‘quirky’. The financial aspect is the only reason I’m still here. Once I learned about NPD, I deep dove and it’s given me the mindset to see it’s all a sad game and they are the ones who need us and not the reverse. I’ve taken the upper hand. No one would ever believe he is this person. Sometimes I still don’t believe it myself and I’m living it. I hope you find the strength to leave because we are all worthy of REAL love❤️

@GodsChildTM 3 ай бұрын

My prayers are with all of us who have endured this abuse. Our stories are all so close... ❤God bless everyone❤

@TejubescDM 3 ай бұрын

Whenever I see "dating channels" forcing us to attract "powerful, high value men" and selling their courses, I am like: " keep them, nobody wants them anyway". 🥴 Cluster b men are magnetic and know how to gain power and manipulate everyone, but that's not someone I am willing to spend life with. "Real love doesn't seduce, it respects" - women are encouraged to date men who lovebomb, relentlessly pursue us. Healthy men take time to get to know you, don't do extreme things and respect boundaries. Fairy tales aren't real life!

@angelapapp758 3 ай бұрын

Well said !!!😊

@LaPinturaBella 3 ай бұрын

Best breakdown I've ever heard.

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

Cluster B's are intensely extreme lnitial overinflated infatuation that turns to deflated self esteem

@yafah.988 3 ай бұрын

Any Hollywood romantic movie will portray romance with a love bomber and a gentle lady! I wonder why they want us to get it wrong?

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

It's no secret Hollyweird has been peddling misogynistic movies since the beginning. It's so refreshing to see more and more Successful Independent films gaining momentum which also advocate and support women. The paradigm is shifting slowly but surely. 😎🙏🏼❣️

@npkrn6764 3 ай бұрын

At around 26 minutes in the video, she discusses leaving. She discusses threatening to leave. But NEVER do that. She's correct that during the time you're set on leaving - keep it to yourself. Many people threaten to leave in a last ditch attempt to get them to wake up and change their behavior. But by that point, you know and I know that will never happen. If a person whom you truly loved gets you to that point, you already know it's not love, and you need to get out of there. I'd invite people to watch the movie from the 90s titled "Sleeping with the Enemy" with Julia Robert's. Watch how she never, ever voices her decision to leave... she quietly plans her escape and does it. That's exactly how to play it - for your safety. Granted, they don't have children together and her way of leaving (the situation) is very dramatic, but it worked. At least in the beginning but I won't give spoilers.

@RRS78999 3 ай бұрын

This is SOOOOOOO good!!! Same happened to me at age 22 and 20+ years of hellish marriage ended last year when a counselor helped me understand and I am finally free from a wolf in sheep's clothing 🙌 THANK GOD ALMIGHTY!!!

@lifeisall488 3 ай бұрын

How mad was it ? How did he treat you if you don't mind me asking?

@saturdayschild8535 3 ай бұрын

Thank God indeed. Twenty-one and 25 years of a torturous marriage. Words never matched the actions, but family laid on the guilt every time I tried to leave. These types are emotionally destructive and leave so much cognitive dissonance in their targets.

@Heir2Wellness... 3 ай бұрын

So great to hear... thank you so much for sharing

@victoriavitoroulis3273 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Dr. For making it clear , that the nice guy is part of the manipulation when they see your getting fed up .. but it’s still the nasty person as when their mean .

@Heir2Wellness... 3 ай бұрын

Wow.!!!! Yes, this was SsOOOO EXTREMELY ENLIGHTENING AND POWERFULLY TRANSFORMATIVE FOR TO HEAR.... AND THAT accepting that he can hurt me no more, ive given up fighting these legions of demons for any sort of change... i accept i must be the change and becoming fully focused on that.... what a world of work i must get isolated away from him to do

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

They are threatened of losing CTRL over you They love having Power over you It was never about loving you 💔

@nicholalumpkin6221 3 ай бұрын

Wolf of Wallstreet is one of my FAVORITE Leonardo movies, but to hear the other side of the reality is such a release and I have so much appreciation for her. I've been in a narcissistic toxic relationship, and most people only saw the good not the horror. Thank you Nadine, for speaking for us woman who's side you don't always see.

@ivanramirez8145 2 ай бұрын

She also like to steal another woman husband, and then cry about it 🎉

@deb.m.7458 3 ай бұрын

Cinderella doesn’t always meet her Prince. Important to take your time and foster self love / acceptance. Lisa, thank you for all that you do ❤ It’s not about finding a partner, it’s about finding yourself. I am stronger because of what I’m learning from your guests.

@mayasalgado2595 3 ай бұрын

Ohhh pathological lover, I had to rewind that. Good one. Sadly in some cultures, like mine, the narcissist is created. The males are raised to be with a woman who can treat em’ like mom does. He gets served hand and foot. Allowed to be dominant and entitled. But when the males are in a relationship and don’t receive that motherly role, they get emotionally or physically abusive. I’ve escaped 2 narcissists, a malignant and a covert, they didn’t know I had older brothers that behaved like them, narcissistic. I had to go!!!! No hard feelings, just not having a man that can’t differentiate his lady from his mother. I’d rather be single. I’ve given myself the best life, marching to the beat of my own heart in the name of Jesus. Not allowing my boundaries to be crossed. Thank you for this video Lisa. 🙏♥️🫶 Many blessings .♥️

@malgorzatawojtys9846 3 ай бұрын

Sounds like you are talking about italian culture... 😂 But seriously, congratulations on setting yourself free 🎉

@myththelegend1036 3 ай бұрын

Meanwhile, Women want a Man to treat them like how their daddy did, but will strip away his masculinity and self-esteem. You'll cheat on him repeatedly and find million of excuses, always make it his fault. You'll, sexually, psychologically, mentally, and Spiritually abuse a good Man. I don't know what culture you are apart of, where Men get to be Men,but it sounds like a dream come true in comparison to what is going on in America, because the suicide rate in Men is 4 times higher than women and teenagers, and hearing you complain about Men being treated like Men, and I mean with respect, makes me realize that western women are the cause for this suicide rate in Men according to the statistical evidence...

@mayasalgado2595 3 ай бұрын

@@malgorzatawojtys9846 Love it! lol 😂 thank you sweetness 🙏

@Sarah-nx1vl 3 ай бұрын

Perfectly articulated. Well done for escaping, have a beautiful future.

@SoulBeauty1111 3 ай бұрын

Whoa. 😯 I have a Son & as a single mother I drive myself crazy sometimes wondering about is he emotionally intelligent enough? Am I hard enough on him? I make him cook twice a week because I want him to have that life skill before he goes off to college. I have him watch Tony Gaskins videos from time to time. He reads non-fiction books on emotional intelligence, leadership, finance, self-help… but I do make his plate on occasion. Not waiting and serving hand and foot, but sometimes I 2nd guess and ask myself: “Am I doing this right?” It’s hard…to balance not doing too much to the point of enabling, but doing enough so that a Son feels loved & supported. I am a praying mother as well. I cover him w/ prayer as best I can, but the reality is that sometimes they are going to be who they are going to be no matter how hard we try to pour the right things into them. I pray that he gets everything he needs now so that he doesn’t have to search for it or heal it later. 🙏🏽

@thedigiovannis23 3 ай бұрын

Great interview. Makes me realize all the times I was lovebombed before wising up and meeting my amazing husband.

@HavenHair-ks9yk 3 ай бұрын

So many women have experienced this in some way.. what causes these pathological lovers ? - bad parenting

@saturdayschild8535 3 ай бұрын

Cultural conditioning. There are areas of the world where the vast majority of men are pathological manipulators that start with love bombing. A lot of those places attract tourists to their beautiful beaches. It’s not always the parenting…alone. Culture plays a bigger role.

@anastasiawalter2390 3 ай бұрын

According to research, it’s learned behavior from our culture.

@daintyAmplify 3 ай бұрын

I knew one with a mother that still does his laundry at 38. A father with extreme traditional boy favouritism who made him out to be a golden child. He ended up with Peterpan syndrome, cocaine addict, god complex.

@jenster29 3 ай бұрын

@@anastasiawalter2390its happening worldwide so its in all cultures It's also been shown to be happening to both men and women.

@2Sugarbears Ай бұрын

@@anastasiawalter2390 Absolutely. Culture.

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

The Serenity Prayer comes to mind when having to breathe through adversity 🙏🏼❤

@evenoelle6321 3 ай бұрын

A guy I was with Had a warrant out I told him he better run bc I'll call the police At that time he wouldn't let me in my car bc he was in the driver's seat I said " get out of my car or I call the police" I was trying to go see my kids on my birthday It did work & luckily didn't cause any issues later on. Always listen to that gut feeling💜 There are ways of getting out, went through it twice Never ever tell them you are leaving bc then that gives them power & planning! Much prayers & courage for those who think they are stuck with that person 🌹💜🙏🏻💜🌹

@meeperbird 3 ай бұрын

Good for you ! but how did you know about the warrant?

@evenoelle6321 3 ай бұрын

@@meeperbird was with him almost 6yrs & He talked out loud about it He also had an addiction that made him talkative Also he wanted all the curtains shut bc he knew they would be looking for him He got a warrant bc he missed a court date from something else that happened between us

@sheldonnazwicker8322 3 ай бұрын

So important to understand the grooming aspect- we are taught to think of men as our "protectors" which sets us up from a very young age to be quite groom-able

@cindynimmo 3 ай бұрын

Sometimes their words do match their actions. Sometimes they tell you calmly and firmly what they intend and gaslight any protest about it.

@dianeortiz4803 3 ай бұрын

I was married to a man like this for 14 years when he started calling me that C word that’s when the lightbulb went off and I knew I was being abused the whole marriage , it starts off subtle Then it escalates to be very dangerous

@radmilasvensson4428 3 ай бұрын

You mean C as Crazy ? Thats a trigger for sure

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@alib1255 3 ай бұрын

Thank you ladies! This episode really cut to my core. I have rebuilt my life after experiencing a similar relationship. I just kept working towards a few simple goals and self care. I stayed determined no matter how hard it got. As a single parent, I put my kid first and focused on raising a quality person, even when I felt like I was falling apart. My kid saw me rebuild and move on, and has recently told me I’m her inspiration for resiliency.

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤ It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@lisabowman877 3 ай бұрын

I am her! Even after we split he says you know I wasn’t trying to hurt you. Like I was exaggerating what happened! I was like no, we will never get back together. He never accepted responsibility for his actions.

@ivanramirez8145 2 ай бұрын

Was your ex also married, because this woman was after a married man, remember that the husband was married and she didnt stop her self

@zanakaysag3839 3 ай бұрын

I had a man who was chasing me for years tell me one time that he was a nice guy and I shouldn’t be scared of him. I’m so glad I didn’t fall for it

@MsRocker961 3 ай бұрын

I think if any man says that you shouldn’t be scared of him . Definitely be scared of him !!!

@jadehalliday6636 3 күн бұрын

It's virtue signaling. A true nice guy wouldn't have the need to say something like that. I'm glad you didn't fall for it 👏🏻👏🏻

@rettogo7 3 ай бұрын

Hope is the Hook! So freaking true.

@TheSahand68 3 ай бұрын

This woman, Wolf's wife reinvented herself, her lifestory is so impressive, a movie should be made about her life.

@dianaschramer5065 3 ай бұрын

The key to my healing that I always have to remember is to never again abandon myself, no matter what. Dr. M, you are an inspiration. "Surthriver," indeed! And thank you, Lisa, for this episode.

@TheSahand68 3 ай бұрын

This Wolf's wife did her homework perfectly, she, not only learned from her unfortunate life experience, she carefully analysed everything what, and why it happened. Admirable!🎉

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

TY 4 sharing that women can be happy, healthy, sane, stable and find a loving committed supportive spouse after narcissistic involvement 😎 Surthriving on the other side is the reality 💞 not an illusion

@staceystrukel1917 3 ай бұрын

This was a great interview! Once I stood up I watched him go almost manic. After 19 years together and I have never seen him act like that. It was scary and confusing and I didn’t understand what was happening. Thank god he left willingly and me and my kids are safe but it was crazy. Narcissist’s all do the same thing. I would have done things differently if I had known what I was dealing with.

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy omes. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE. He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@NorbertoULopez 3 ай бұрын

She should have said, "I don't date married men." Not, "Isn't he married?" She also disrespected his wife's boundaries by talking with him. She did not respect herself, her parents, his wife nor him.

@EveningTV 3 ай бұрын

Something that really adds to the damage done to a person and the length of time it takes is if her family is narcissistic and already scapegoats you. My ex was a diagnosed sociopath and he weaponized my narcissistic family against me and it was devastating to me and our two children. My eldest son didn't even survive it.

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@MyLifeAsAMum 3 ай бұрын

32:51 it's not him its the drugs.. I remember being told, If you just did this or this or that, we wouldn't have anything to argue about. I also remember leaving in January of 2023 ready to create a life i loved, for reasons we got talking (we have 3 kids I have 2 step kids) but he was busy working we didn't have time, but then there were time and I agreed with boundaries to try again, we got bk together Aug 2023 moved into a house I did ALL THE THINGS and Im glad I came bk for one reason, I can move on and no there is NOTHING I can do to make things better, nothing. but im sad and hurt and I've wasted a year of our lives, maybe its not a waste bc I learnt something... ? I feel so seen and heard and understood. Wish the book and an audiobook.

@ginag1290 3 ай бұрын

No it's him. My husband is on drugs but when he goes to his girlfriends house he is always helping her with yard work and cooking and her kids and hebis on drugs.

@MyLifeAsAMum 3 ай бұрын

@@ginag1290 Hi Ginag, firstly I’m so sorry.. that must be really hard. And I wasn’t saying it’s not him it’s the drugs, it was me referencing the video… ☺️

@jenster29 3 ай бұрын

@@ginag1290 so he's manipulating her now... its just her turn

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@monkeybearmax 3 ай бұрын

Npd and addictions go hand in hand but its them

@fridastwin 3 ай бұрын

What an amazing guest to share with us! This was an excellent episode. Thank you both.

@user-sk2vo9qy6s 3 ай бұрын

Then you overcorrect after the lovebomber and get a man who never buys you flowers and the only date is "Netflix and chill."

@moniqueteal7153 3 ай бұрын

🙌💯‼️. ... so much truth being spoken here ... unless you've been THERE you just really have no idea of the Trauma Bond the cognitive dissonance ... having to have the strength to make a SAFE PLAN to leave/escape the relationship with little or no support ... it is survival mode at its scariest and best 🙌💝🙌

@Regina.Clarke 3 ай бұрын

This is such an amazing interview! She took her power back and then some! ❤ I too had to learn these lessons.

@SoulBeauty1111 3 ай бұрын

Yesss, this was good!!!

@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers 3 ай бұрын

🦋 It’s sooooo hard to become the strong confident woman again that I once was. I started a yt channel when our relationship ended because _he…_ told me it was a dumb idea when we were together. I want to prove him wrong and myself right. Our break up is turning out to be *an amazing motivator.* But at least a few times a day I hear his voice (or my own) saying to give up, it’ll never work, who do I think I am etc. Anyone else going thru this too?

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@alequintana1208 3 ай бұрын

Ugh I’m so glad they were talking about the reactive part of it. I have been there and you literally open your eyes to what the reality of the situation is. You start thinking you’re the toxic one which to some extent maybe you are but the thing is you are awake to it and don’t want to be like that. So it all comes down to why don’t we just leave this relationship instead and prioritize and love ourselves rather than trying to fix and make something work that’s not meant to work because instead it’s bringing out a worse version of ourselves.

@walidmariam9333 3 ай бұрын

I met a guy in a dating app we talked on the Phone he talked bad about his ex and very good about Him. Than i asked him questions about inner healing and therapy he suddenly got aggressive really mean i blocked him . He was no lovebomber.

@ajmosutra7667 3 ай бұрын

Her confidence is amazing

@EliteTech24 3 ай бұрын

Yeah her mask is amazing, seems so real!

@ajmosutra7667 3 ай бұрын

@@EliteTech24 i dont understand your comment

@EliteTech24 3 ай бұрын

@@ajmosutra7667 people mask who they truly are on T.V. and social media. Her confidence is probably a script. Nothing on social media is 100% true. At the end of the day it’s about the views for them. She probably at home with the same dude that she crying on the couch about.

@EliteTech24 3 ай бұрын

At the end of the day it’s entertainment, and nothing is real in entertainment!

@tanyaflanders2196 3 ай бұрын

This is so informative! Listen up ladies! ❤

@northernfox6420 3 ай бұрын

She seems just lovely and can easily see why she would appear so appealing to a predator like a narc. She's been able to keep her empathy. Wow, good for her.

@ginag1290 3 ай бұрын

What helped me to leave was #1 God❤, and #2 I started to look at myself in the 3rd person. I told myself if I had a daughter and she was being treated the way my husband treats me, lying cheating, rage fits, destroyed our home multiple times, say degrading things to me financially abused me and the kids. He would take home $5,000. A month after taxes and the kids and I coud barely make rent and put food on the table . Would I want her to stay with this abuse .The answer was No!!!❤

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people than there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, respect, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤🙏 It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (or the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Regardless, ALWAYS TRUST your gut/intuition. It is the voice of God leading you to safety. Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom about dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things/people), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.❤🙏

@zanakaysag3839 3 ай бұрын

Hmm I’m 15 minutes in and what I thought was wrong in my last relationship is being confirmed as such in this video . Thankfully I had the strength to walk away. Thank you for this video

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@galaxyqueen8835 3 ай бұрын

This is an amazing video! Something similar happened to me when I was in my 20’s. I also had the same thoughts about a married man. I was controlled.

@tracysnipes2144 3 ай бұрын

This is interesting. I have to say that she is telling her story and she still talks about him so is not like she is not giving him space in her head because she is but in a different way. I was devastated and broken in my toxic marriage. He didn’t respect my boundaries, he disrespected me by DM in ex affairs partners social media, never claim our marriage, never acknowledged his adultery cheating betrayal or disrespect. How can you be sorry but keep in contact as friends with ex affair partners behind my back? And actively looking for new ones and on date apps ? Never understood if you was not happy or valued in our marriage leave. Let me go and move on. Smeared my name to his friends and affair partners and family as I wasted 3 decades of my life with someone that never was married to me. I was in a marriage by myself as he was claiming single status.

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤ It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@SS-wg7nh 3 ай бұрын

Wow. This is SO eye-opening. “Pathological lover” perfect phrase to describe my ex. Thank you 🙏

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people than there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, respect, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤🙏 It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (or the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Regardless, ALWAYS TRUST your gut/intuition. It is the voice of God leading you to safety. Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom about dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things/people), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.❤🙏

@joannasal4798 3 ай бұрын

I would say two years 1 year not enough...one year goes way to fast when you're broken. 1 for feeling and 1 for making a beautiful strong you. Think of butterflies 🦋

@northofyou33 3 ай бұрын

The problem for me is, how do I know if he's just an insecure guy who can't make up his mind because we're both faced with some very big, life-changing decisions, or if he is really manipulating me? I am also a person who sees the best in everyone, and I just don't know sometimes.

@margiestephens7281 3 ай бұрын

Exactly! I suffer from that “unknowing” as well. Good question. Personally, the word “insecure” doesn’t ring well from the start. Right? What makes him “feel” insecure? Now, THATS a red flag, dont you think ??

@malgorzatawojtys9846 3 ай бұрын

It is not your job to know that. Your job is to know how his behaviour is affecting you and if it destroying your health then you should protect yourself and leave. See the difference? You are not his therapist and you should not be, that is not your place.

@yzma6142 3 ай бұрын

@@malgorzatawojtys9846This is great advice!! It doesn’t matter what their motives are, what matters is how it affects you.

@catcat9582 3 ай бұрын

You take it very slooooow. Observe. Take notes. Listen to how you feel around them. Keep boundaries. See how they react to ur boundaries. Keep ur friends and family the 1st priority. That's wht I wish I did. Couldn't tell if he was just nervous or manipulative or both

@elipotter369 3 ай бұрын

When someone is insecure,.they may misuse you via manipulation. Manipulation is bad,.dishonest, hurtful and disrespectful. It took me years and even decades to see how much I was abused by this. Insecure people don't need to use such unhealthy and damaging to others ways of making with their own feelings.

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

When he's suddenly being nice after being nasty 😬 prepare for a sudden fall from his good graces 🤯

@HeartSpaceMee 3 ай бұрын

Just want to point out about the idea of imbalance of power bit. While its true that as Nadine said 'just the fact that you love them already creates an imbalance of power' then went on to say 'he made all the money' and so on. Well, just because someone makes the money and is a bread winner, does not make them the powerful person and in turn does not make the home-maker any less then in a relationship. When a woman buys into that way of thinking, you automatically assign that role to yourself and you unknowingly consign any perceived power over to them. The truth is that your value and worth has much more leverage than you realize. Without you, the bread winner has no baked bread to eat, no home to come home to, and no warm bed to sleep in. And anyone who doesn't acknowledge, validate, and honor the value you add to their life by being their life partner, does not need to be your partner. You get to choose who is and who is not part of your life.

@avalonzukowski7571 3 ай бұрын

So many aspects of this is like a spotlight and recognition of what I have been through.

@yaninacabrera131 3 ай бұрын

This was me 2 years ago. Getting out and walking out was the best decision I ever made in my life for myself and for my son. I always said my son will not be that. If you are going through this, you are stronger than you think. You got this 💪🏽

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@emmasprout 3 ай бұрын

I have never been bought - materialism does absolutely nothing for me. Birthdays and even Christmas’s a are a no go aswell. Someone who shows caring genuine caring attributes and is real - like the lady said you have a intuition that shouts at you otherwise

@blackwingdlt 3 ай бұрын

Thank you Nadine Macaluso for the amazing advice! I may not be a woman, but as a guy, you're advice is exactly what I needed!

@laureldell7377 3 ай бұрын

I had someone buy me things constantly. I told him I don't like it bc gifts become weapons. They did, lol Love bombing.

@belindaschafer1593 3 ай бұрын

When you say youre going to leave never ever do it alone by yourself. Have someone who can witness and protect you.

@sarayusarayu832 3 ай бұрын

At 43:00 Thank you for asking what it meant to “surrender” 🙏 This is a powerful woman. Thank you for this discussion!

@casperinsight3524 3 ай бұрын

Hope is the hook 👀

@deirdreshaw2761 3 ай бұрын

Thank you, Lisa, and Nadine for the empowerment lesson!

@pangaea90 3 ай бұрын

I have let my narcissist know that he has to leave or I will move away from him...he has began to box his things and made plans to move in with his daughter in CA. Thank the Lord. I am going to celebrate when he is completely gone...and change my lock.

@livefromtheground7274 3 ай бұрын

Wrong!! Move away from HIM! And fast or he will fein illness or some shyt to injure you more …. NOW GIT!

@user-hj5ji8sm1o 3 ай бұрын

Yup they never follow through. He will be back if you don't move.

@MsRocker961 3 ай бұрын

If you do stay and he gets out . Have your entire place checked for microphones and being bugged . My Ex Narcissist was and is a real sicko ! He not only had the house bugged but hacked my computer and cell phone . Stay safe out there ladies

@jenster29 3 ай бұрын

Let him go and you move too. He won't be able to reach you when he needs someone to manipulate agai and he WILL contact you again You need to be untraceable

@victoriaofthewattsfamily1198 3 ай бұрын

Surrendering becomes easy peasy with practice. You just consciously choose to give all your attention to something that makes you feel good and feed into that.

@Mila-uw5sz 3 ай бұрын

SHE IS SO WELL SPOKEN, BEAUTIFUL INSIDE AND OUT, LOVE LISTENING TO HER 👍🏼

@psoneill813 3 ай бұрын

I walked out if the cinema when I watched "The Wolf of Wallstreet". It litterally made me feel ill.

@northernfox6420 3 ай бұрын

Ooof! 37:00 When you get traumatized in a relationship, a lot of time you want to avoid life. The number one response to trauma is avoidance. Yikes, I feel she's talking directly to me.

@jessicaJs9130 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for having her on your show.

@beasaroseco5840 3 ай бұрын

Do they allow you to have boundaries? That part.

@Belluser-we1uc5cb2l 3 ай бұрын

I will stay single, love yourself and keep your peace❤

@Hyleenf36 3 ай бұрын

This was my life thank you for doing this video it describes what I went through. Still in recovery. Thank you from Cape Town South Africa

@taniavarela1286 3 ай бұрын

Your channel is so inspiring! Keep it coming!

@HollyMurphy3 2 ай бұрын

Anyone who is charming and charismatic is a red flag. Someone people are drawn to, not just because of their looks. So pretty much all celebrities. Very successful men, etc.

@Heir2Wellness... 3 ай бұрын

This is my current relational trauma... hearing enlightening terminology for my experiences i've never heard before... the worst of all being the Cognitive dissonance... the confusion just as im ready to try to stands back up.. And help out is truly needed... im struggling to strategize my winning pathway out and ability to leave the manipulative conveniences he sparingly provides just enough to influence my defeated complacency for life.... Please help me, someone... anyone... if u can...

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people than there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, respect, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you!❤🙏 It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (or the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Regardless, ALWAYS TRUST your gut/intuition. It is the voice of God leading you to safety. Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom about dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things/people), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.❤🙏

@deirdreshaw2761 3 ай бұрын

It's not your fault. It's what happened to you, it doesn't define you as a victim. Only you can do that. Don't give the abuser the power to define who you are! YOU define who you are!!! Be a survivor, thriver, or thrivivor! I also coach people who are stuck, was lone, or lost. You are none of the above because you have the power to change it.

@catherinedao1592 3 ай бұрын

Very smart intelligent ladies. Yes, very true, let the past gone, focus on yourself and being happy

@user-mh7ne9pf1s 3 ай бұрын

this is GOLD!!!!!

@danim8524 2 ай бұрын

Thank you for this. It’s light in the darkness. You feel crazy to feel the way you feel and act as you do when you’re in these situations. ❤

@feelingfinance 3 ай бұрын

Was literally discussing this last night. Good video thank you!

@annjohnson8437 3 ай бұрын

Thank you for posting these extremely helpful conversations! I found them really enlightening! ❤

@1CrackedActress 3 ай бұрын

I'm so glad I watched this one this morning. What a bright, gorgeous, & intelligent woman. I really appreciate the genuine honesty with which Nadine speaks & shares. No platitudes or BS over the top cheer leading. Real stuff, connected to a survivor, which allows us to see ourselves & to become more informed. One objection I have is the the term "reactive abuse". I considered it for a couple of years after my own volatile relationship ended, but ultimately, I agree it is reactive, but I don't agree it's abuse (even though it might involve emotional or physical violence. As someone who (might) start dating in the later spring, I will use this vid to help me not make similar choices to those I've made in the past. Lucky are those who are her clients

@-gordon3817 3 ай бұрын

I am sorry for what you went through. Sadly, what you experienced is very common as there're many more toxic/unhealthy people there're healthy ones. And it doesn't matter the race, religion, age, profession, or financial background of the person. Sometimes, they're relatives, friends, religious leaders, etc. Regardless of who it is, always remember that you are WORTHY of love, you are enough, & you have a Heavenly Father, Jesus, who will never leave you or betray you! It is important that you pray when you have dreams & visions & intuition that are not for your good (and the good of others). They can be demonic attacks from Satan to harm you or a loved. Praying in your dream is a way for God to protect you as well. Even as we're sleeping (for Christians), God puts a hedge of protection over us! Psalm 91 is one of the best & most powerful scriptures to read & memorize. It talks about, "God covering us with His feathers & protecting us from harm. So even if 10,000 fall on our right side, they will not come near us." Read the Bible as it is God's word & He will lead you to scriptures that will give you wisdom on dealing with everything in life. If you are not a Christian, I pray that you'll get to know Jesus. He ALONE can bring you SALVATION, forgiveness of your sins, & protection from ALL harm. Jesus loves you & died on the cross, so that you & I would have eternal life with him. Ephesians 6:10-18 also talks about us not wrestling with flesh and blood, but principalities, rulers, & powers of this dark world (demonic things), so put on the full armor of God. Stay close to Jesus, everyone, He ALONE is your REFUGE! He will also give us the wisdom/discernment whether through praying, reading the Bible, educational books/videos like this, & other healthy resources. They will will help us to protect ourselves, maintain healthy relationships, faith, hope, & peace, & goodness! In Christ, from the U.S.A.🙏

@valeriejerome7926 3 ай бұрын

Wisdom Thank you Hope

@TheSahand68 3 ай бұрын

I think that the movie didn't do her justice, she was not portrayed fairly, this woman is a top class act.

@karina438 3 ай бұрын

The FACT that he was married should have been her first clue 🕵️‍♀️ 🤣🤣🤣

@elipotter369 3 ай бұрын

And the way the woman persisted so hard and realising it was all for a set up...

@annaritson2820 3 ай бұрын

I absolutely loved this episode. Thank you Dr Nae for such clarity, that was so real. 🙏🏻 Also Lisa, I have now written sticky notes of your remark at 58mins saying "Everything you do is a future memory" I frickin LOVE that. 💖

@KaarinaKimdaly 3 ай бұрын

What you say is their practical in a nutshell modus operandi. Thank you!

@thejamandberries1252 3 ай бұрын

Wonderful idea to have this woman speak about her experience because his character was so glorified God bless you both ❤🙏🏾

@sylviahunter-sr4is 3 ай бұрын

What an awesome episode.

@rosabarquero-sanchez1651 3 ай бұрын

I love your videos!❤

@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers 3 ай бұрын

1:06:26 I’ve heard a psychologist and life coach say to try remaining single for the amount of time you were with that abusive person (within reason). But beyond staying single for a couple of years, that might be overkill. How long did some of you intentionally stay single with the _closed for business_ sign up after a break up, in order to not fall back into unhealthy patterns?

@galaxyqueen8835 3 ай бұрын

I would say anywhere between 2-5years is sufficient. But it’s usually the universe that will connect you with someone who will be of help in your life at the right moment.

@TurtleTimeVoiceOvers 3 ай бұрын

@@galaxyqueen8835 I agree. Also, women have less time biologically speaking to put things on hold for years at a time. Specifically between 25-35 years of age.

@katnez Ай бұрын

God bless her and thanks for sharing this information! We’ve probably all at one time been in her shoes. I know I have.

@jvincy32 3 ай бұрын

Love this❤❤ I just restarted therapy 😊

@ritaanderson819 3 ай бұрын

Thank you so much for sharing your story and your work Dr Nae, so incredibly inspiring 💛💛💛💛💛 also you’re so pretty 💛💛💛💛😊

@K3chocolate 3 ай бұрын

Loved this ❤❤❤

@2Sugarbears Ай бұрын

An amazing walk through my past.

@alwaysgrowing7273 3 ай бұрын

“Hope is a hook”

@jacinta8642 2 ай бұрын

O M G, THANK U, My life for the past 18yrs . 😮

@TaiMistyqueFan 3 ай бұрын

Omg thank you so much for this. I feel so seen. I didn’t even have words for how I was feeling and this helped me so much. Now I feel like I can actually get help, even if it’s just showing this video…this is my story. God bless you both so much❤️

@annetcell-ly4571 3 ай бұрын

Money keeps women in place ( especially when they have children) and so does the lack of money. Which one are you?

@juliagetty-gordon2500 3 ай бұрын

Thank you

@felinalee1497 3 ай бұрын

After 6 years of hell, i fight back it's funny

@carolinevdvlies6969 3 ай бұрын

She’s talking about ‘pathological lover’ as a specific type thats different from a Narcissists but what she describes can all be derived to the Dark Triad personality I ve learnt from dr Ramani’s Chanel

@jenster29 3 ай бұрын

True but not all dark triads are narcs, her ex was probably a mix of all 3

@rhighan4357 3 ай бұрын

learned

@user-lt2go2no7v 3 ай бұрын

I can relate to everything you said here. I had no idea what was happening to me. I thought “wow this person really loves me!” Now I know it was love bombing. No one ever warned me about that, I believed everyone was good and wanted the same things!

@juliagetty-gordon2500 3 ай бұрын

I am tired of having to dim my light, and sugar coat and validate what i dont agree with, why should we have to bow down and aquiess ..i see the merit in avoiding a potential rage storm, but im tired and resentful for having to compromise who i am in order to keep the peace and watch them continually have disrespect towards me. I cant ne false and play games....better to just go no contact

@juliagetty-gordon2500 3 ай бұрын

( for Lisa's second guest)