This is something I struggle with. Since I was a youngin, I was told to smile more or asked why I’m upset, but it’s just my natural face. Once people get to know me, they’re surprised how down to earth and cool I am. At the end of the day, it’s not my job to be likeable, it’s my job to be myself. The right people will gravitate.
@THEOVERTHINKER002 жыл бұрын
same her man, our intimidating appearance makes as unapproachable. i tried to be nicer but it just seems fake and not congruent.
@davesimmons3232 жыл бұрын
This is reall 💯
@kenduejones2 жыл бұрын
Facts 💯💯🎯🎯
@SRK6IX2 жыл бұрын
Took the words out my mouth 😂 My mean mug is something serious but it's just my natural look 💯
@skeelo62192 жыл бұрын
What's up y'all fellow poker faces!
@BrandonTheGreatest2 жыл бұрын
It's a real struggle. It's hard to come off approachable when you grew up with everybody fucking with you and wanting to pick a fight. It changes your energy and character indefinitely.
@TrillBill2 жыл бұрын
Man, tell me about it.
@denzel94552 жыл бұрын
Believe me i see every guy without joking and some women as a potentional "threat" because people always wanna mess with your energy for no reason. - My experience is that when i became friendly or approachable with people for some reason those same people always used that against me in other words they thought they could talk to me in a certain way or touch me or "insult me" at the age of 26 i'm glad that i look like this because it is saving me from a lot of drama.
@lfc4life732 жыл бұрын
@@denzel9455I had the same experience as you bro. When you try be friendly and kind people start crossing boundaries. when your anti social and have a serious aura people don't try you but it also comes with a lot of issues such as people thinking your arrogant or you dont like them. But out of the two id rather people try me less so I'll stick to my antisocial approach. There's no way to please humans damned if you do damned if you don't.
@jackiechun58172 жыл бұрын
Yep, sounds about right.🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🤦🏾♂️🖨️💯🧔🏾♂️
@jackiechun58172 жыл бұрын
@Denzel ikr🖨️💯🧔🏾♂️
@chriseatmon322 жыл бұрын
I remember pulling this woman when I was outside the grocery store. A very pretty young lady walked by and said "smile sometimes!" I replied "I'm always smiling" and cracked a smile. She lit up and told me she loved my dimples, I have a beautiful smile, etc. We had a good conversation, got the number. Shortly after, like 2 other dudes tried to holler at her on the way to her car. She didn't even give them a chance. Lmao.
@kaisersoze83red982 жыл бұрын
People in generally would always say that I looked mean. I remember when I was in the army my 1st Sergeant saw me sitting by myself in the mess hall and said to me “ Man, You don’t like nobody” He was right. 😂. This is something I had to work on because the eyes tell the story of what’s going on inside a person. Plus if you are in the hood it’s not wise to look approachable especially if you have a lighter complexion. Excellent message Unc Rom. ✊🏾
@banderas20002 жыл бұрын
women like to feel safe and comfortable. if she says no you'll back off but when things are going smooth try again later. pay attention to her body language , resistance, rejection, interest. also make it a habit of just smiling at ppl. be friendly to everyone.
@Angelo-z2i2 жыл бұрын
I had been told one by an old woman that "I should smile more, or I will limit my friendships" . I was offended at first, but thinking of it she might have been up to something. It is what it is.
@Wonderwoman79G2 жыл бұрын
I feel she was giving advice and nothing more .Elderly people can be spot on with understanding human nature because of their life experience.
@Angelo-z2i2 жыл бұрын
@@Wonderwoman79G yeah she said she used to have the same problem. Plus many people told me aswell. It doesn't come too natural for me
@beyondcalisthenics2 жыл бұрын
Good attitude, character & charisma will make your life easier.
@shivaronaldo162 жыл бұрын
A friendly,cool guy who stands up for himself is very attractive to the females 🔥
@denzel94552 жыл бұрын
A tall lightskin girl i know told me that she always wanted to talk to me but because of my serious face and size she was "scared" only when i start to speak to her she was surprised how cool and calm i actually was before i knew it she was speaking to me everytime i saw her... It's actually something that's happening to me since a very young age(10) but it is what it is. - The environment i come from made me like that i can't change it anymore and to be fair uncle rom everytime i became friendly and "approachable" to most people that's when they actually tried to do or say something that's inappropriate so i'm actually happy somewhere that people leave me alone because of my serious face and size. - The older i get the more i want people to leave me alone because today they behave normal and a week later they team up and insult you for no reason.
@jackiechun58172 жыл бұрын
This shih is a curse tbh. The whole game is backwards g.🖨️💯🧔🏾♂️
@timhughes3684 Жыл бұрын
Facts bro. I feel that. I’m nice but I’ll never show it
@victorscott79822 жыл бұрын
Make em laugh! Make em comfortable! And you gott’em
@RomWills2 жыл бұрын
💯💯💯
@MrKwatts277 ай бұрын
Spot on Unc. It’s counterintuitive as a man to think that the dad bod is inferior to the ripped body but nothing beats the bedroom body. Thats a muscular looking dad bod. Muscular arms, chest, shoulders, ass, yes ass and legs. Notice I did not say abs. You just need a flat stomach with a little bit of fat. And smile at these women😁
@GoddessYvonne32 жыл бұрын
He was confident and ravenous and handsome...Another man triggered danger the way he looks at me
@sweetbitterness83372 жыл бұрын
A man that shows warmth and is down to earth is very attractive. Personality over looks any time. I’m old fashioned. Be a really gentleman.
@slayerfaze_2 жыл бұрын
That's why it's important to stay on point with your appearance and clean your body and hygiene check yourself out 💯
@coreyoliphant3268 Жыл бұрын
I'm from NYC a child of the 70's from Brooklyn for me it's that NY State of Mind when it comes to social setting. My build and posture I set a tone I'm not to be clowned however I'm very well rounded and sociable but you gotta come with the respect as I give it. But I don't trip when I see an attractive woman like some guys though I will acknowledge her presence with a simple good morning or good evening. I keep myself groomed and nice dressed and handle folks accordingly in meetings. I just keep it simple.
@michaelbanton80572 жыл бұрын
Some dating coaches are not real on what they speak about but rom is the real one ☝️ listening to him you realize he’s straight up real talkng the real facts
@RomWills2 жыл бұрын
🙏🏾🙏🏾🙏🏾
@jeanseguiver2809 Жыл бұрын
I don’t see Ron as a dating coach to be honest. If you just started watching him, like me, you will have that opinion, at first . But to be honest, his approach is more of how to interact with anyone in my opinion. He turns it more towards mentioning women, but in reality it also applies to mostly also interactions with men. Just like women, men recognize Fitness Healthy habits Style Communication form Approachability It’s just we don’t say anything most of the time because it’s all subconsciously done. We just approach and say hey what’s up man, how you doing… and continue talking depending on why the reason you approached
@richa44252 жыл бұрын
That’s right. Got to smile and be charming to the ladies so they feel comfortable around you. How do you handle when many women seem angry and look like they don’t want to be approached?
@sweetbitterness83372 жыл бұрын
I’m a woman and especially when i was younger men never approached me even though i could tell some were interested by them looking at me. I often wondered why they never approached me and i think now it was because I looked unapproachable. Someone said too me ones, why do you look so angry? Even though i wasn’t angry. I am an introvert and a serious person maybe that had something to do with it. And being under a lot of stress doesn’t make you look happy too. Now I’m older i try to be more aware of how i ‘look’. Even though you think a woman doesn’t want to be approached, it might not be the case. She might be shy. People confuse that with arrogance. Maybe men thought i was arrogance, I don’t know. I’m actually a very humble person. Good look!
@banderas2000 Жыл бұрын
@@sweetbitterness8337 simling is very big for women. i mean it's a very attractive trait to men. it's her "calling card" so to speak. some women know this and use it. so when you don't use or have the card. it almost gets looked past. like a step is missing.
@theblkgod12 жыл бұрын
I highly recommend the book Swoon that Unc told us about. The underlying attribute these seducer’s have is that they all like woman. Which played a major success with their interaction with them.
@gcode17912 жыл бұрын
Details please. Author?
@bmwright19912 жыл бұрын
@@gcode1791 the author is Betsy Prioleau and the book is called Swoon; Great Seducers and why women love them.
@gcode17912 жыл бұрын
@@bmwright1991 bless you
@bmwright19912 жыл бұрын
@@gcode1791 i gotchu bro 💪🏽
@theblkgod12 жыл бұрын
@@gcode1791 Swoon by Betsy Prioleau
@garysmith8073 Жыл бұрын
There's truth to what Rom said, and then there are women who JUST DONT KNOW WHAT THEY WANT!!!!!
@spicysausage2853 Жыл бұрын
Women look at me whenever I go dt Chicago, I've felt it like you just know they looking but my mean appearance turns them away, I truly think it's because I'm one of the few people that still wears a mask
@rellconnects46952 жыл бұрын
Being Down to Earth creates an abundance of opportunities
@classic88warrior83 Жыл бұрын
This is a gem this also makes sense on why some woman approach men
@xay63612 жыл бұрын
I saw on a video you said women tell you you look mean. I've heard the same thing. But I have what's referred to as resting b**** face and it's natural for me. Also I grew up getting f***** with and getting in the fights all the time so I'm naturally standoffish cuz I'm always ready for something
@shawnwilliams23812 жыл бұрын
Most women tell me I look serious, but for some reason they still approach me? I guess because it comes off as mysterious idk.. good topic!
@demarcus46642 жыл бұрын
My natural look is serious and I don’t give a fuck. I’m not changing it for women
@shawnwilliams23812 жыл бұрын
@@demarcus4664 FACTS!
@kenduejones2 жыл бұрын
@@demarcus4664 💯
@jackiechun58172 жыл бұрын
They still approach you bc you're about 6ft(from pfp👀), goodlooking (pause...), And slim but jacked/cut. Try being average height, goodlooking, and stocky-buff with broad shoulders and a serious face... your approaches WILL Def get cut down by 90%🤣🤣🤣.
@banderas2000 Жыл бұрын
everyone is different. if your more serious looking be that. if you smile more do that. do what's natural for YOU. it's when you start doing something that is out of YOUR character when things go sideways. a more serious minded person trying to SMILE more when that's not them looks weird. a person who is less serious trying to act serious or mysterious w/e looks out of place. body language tells no lies.
@kwamd.14612 жыл бұрын
This is 💯💯💯💯….connecting with women is key. It is honestly the difference maker between dudes who get women and dudes who don’t
@ProdSketti2 жыл бұрын
Dang, right after I shaved my hair off to a buzzcut 😂😂😂
@supreme60002 жыл бұрын
Once again, Uncle Rom coming through with the truth and a quality outlook. I’ve missed out on opportunities with females because I did not look approachable. First female I got a hint of I missed out on was a baddie. Be presentable and approachable fellas, these two variables will put you or keep you in the game.
@txmie2 жыл бұрын
I recently discovered you through a video you did with Kevin Samuels and ever since then I’ve been learning a lot from you. Thanks!
@busyrand2 жыл бұрын
Welcome... Rom has done some great guest appearances.
@Supremedionn2 жыл бұрын
Thank you Rom. I appreciate you bring the fact that some of us are scared.
@quintonmaldonado83682 жыл бұрын
I posted a few pictures to photofeeler a few years back to get some feedback, women can rate your pictures anonymously and give you a number from 1-10. I got r numbers anywhere from 7-8.5 (didn't show off any bodygame type pictures, my nutrition and workouts are stupid since then but im extremely ectomorphic in general) the women that rated it said I looked unhappy or worried in my photos. I actually thought they were good photos but I did have a lot of anxiety at the time which they could pick up on, which ive much erased since and have better dealings with women across the board now. I also got the "Oh he thinks hes gods gift" type comments from time to time or women think I wouldn't talk to them, which is funny to me because I grew up being treated like an outcast. Women see things other men cant.
@johnnycage83272 жыл бұрын
They thought i looked arrogant on photofeeler lmao.
@dennisrobinson80082 жыл бұрын
@@johnnycage8327 Handsome dudes are getting torn down these days, they are competing with these guys for attention and bringing them down. So your probably good looking to them.
@shink30142 жыл бұрын
thank you rom for the countless gems. keep droppin em!
@captainkt99472 жыл бұрын
Y’all Gotta Feel Rom Baby!!! 💪🏾💪🏾💪🏾
@BeforetheStorm. Жыл бұрын
Amazing video 👍
@Atlstreetpodcast2.02 жыл бұрын
good video
@kennethyoung48922 жыл бұрын
Good content
@goaldenchild90062 жыл бұрын
🔥 Breakdown O.G R.W 👑
@leyland27252 жыл бұрын
Very late to the party.... This kind of make me miss my babymama, she stayed complimenting how much she loved my smile. And it was not only her,, even our landlady once we had a tiff with her and she called the police and said to the police "don't let his smile fool you". I realised I had quite the smile but I don't really remember utilising it with women. Maybe I really should.