Women Who Choose Childfree Lifestyles EXPOSE the Truth

Are you childfree? Tell me what made you make this choice.

[@ChrissyNichole]

Just because you can... doesn't mean you should. 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@roosaas]

Exactly. There’s millions of abandoned, abused and neglected children in this world. Plenty of people should’ve used protection, they’re not equipped to be parents. I’ve seen it way too many times myself.

[@TheEclecticEmpath]

Amen. I wouldn't wish me as a mother.

[@EricaMCross]

​@TheEclecticEmpath Same here. I would be the worst parent. I work 60 hours a week and I cannot afford another human.🤷🏽‍♀️I don't even date, to avoid the opportunity.😂

[@TheEclecticEmpath]

@EricaMCross I hope you are finding time for happiness in yourself.

[@jazzyj6640]

I don’t want children and won’t have them to please anyone.

[@luticiasmall817]

Me either I'm 40 years old with no children my choice but I'm a grandma of two my boyfriend passed last year n his daughter had a lil boy n his stepdaughter had a lil girl n I have a lot of nieces and nephews my child barring days r over n I want a hysterectomy

[@TheEclecticEmpath]

Same. ❤

[@TheEclecticEmpath]

​@luticiasmall817 you are beautiful to love the children as your own grandchildren ❤❤❤

[@jasminejeanine2239]

I don't want kids and was very clear about it from eight on. Unfortunately, my parents first refused to let me take birth control then forced me to give birth. Yay for Christianity. No I hadn't even wanted to sleep with the boy. I'm autistic. My parents went hands off early on. The only time they touched me was while beating me. No, I don't like most touch nor feel comfortable so much as letting someone within arm's reach. . My mind is simply too aware of people when they get close. I can't think when people are close. No while my reaction to the suggestion of s*x has long been more similar to wild animals then most girls. Simply put, I fled like my hair was on fire. No, mention the topic and you'd send me into a full blown fight or flight reaction. However, apparently I also fawn while trapped just like most female mammals. While it'd been easy to say no originally, over time the pressure started to get to me. No, like clockwork, about eight months in, I'd find myself wanting desperately to get the guy to stop touching me but not knowing how to do it. Like most girls, I'd made the tactical error of letting him closer over time to keep him happy. No, while I'd known I needed to act fast, I simply couldn't think straight. Turns out all you have to do to end up f*cked was hesitate too long. No, I'd only woken up after the guy was inside me. It hadn't been until I'd finally escaped that I'd remembered that I had a mouth, wasn't scared of the man and didn't want anyone who'd get pissed if I said no anyways. No, I'd been so confused as a teenager. One second, I'd been sleeping with him to 'preserve the relationship,' or at least that's how I'd originally explained it to myself, and the next second I hadn't wanted to so much as be in the same zip code as the man ever again. No, while I might not have known what'd happened, my body absolutely knew what'd occurred. The guy might as well been a serial killer given how my body reacted from that point on. No, there's a reason both Christianity and society at large want us so disconnected from our emotions. If I'd been more keyed into myself instead of others, I'd have never dated these men. No, the moral of the story is simple. While I've long been so keyed into emotions of others that I can tell the instant someone get pissy on the other side of the house and am so empathetic I nearly put myself into a early grave.

[@Saranda4787]

It's like hating someone for enjoying a piece of cake while you yourself are on a diet.

[@el_vlog1]

Also when you are happy in your job and life generally.. people will come and complain about YOUR life.. like see you should do this do that instead of being satisfied with what you have .. like let me live . It's not my fault that you don't know how to live .

[@YC72]

I’m in my 50s, happily married, and child free by choice. This is why I got to retire in my 40s.

[@lss74]

Not having kids was 100% the BEST decision .... for me. I love being single and FREE 🎉🎉🎉❤

[@N3V3rSettle]

I'm tired of people using the Bible in this discussion. The Bible says a lot of things that people don't do. Stop using the Bible only when it's convenient for you🙄

[@miyagriffin9673]

And people love to misquote the Bible to fit their own narratives which is why I refuse to follow religion.

[@clandestinelheiaa]

​@@miyagriffin9673 you follow God, not the people in it

[@ChocolateBabe_]

Because it’s all BULL SH. When ppl ESPECIALLY realize that religion is a TOOL used by other TOOLS to CONTROL you the we can throw it in the trash can and EVOLVE

[@byleemalox2265]

And that part was written when the earth consisted of less than 20 people, not overpopulated, polluted and the price of land sky-high

[@5Demona5]

When people use the Bible to try and convince me to have kids, I hit em with: The Bible also says how to sell your children into slavery for 6-7 years. When are you gonna enslave your kids? You have to, it says so in the Bible.

[@035Taylor-n5d]

Who wants kids or husband when you can have freedom, space, peace. Why would anyone want the burden to be a mother/ wife

[@clandestinelheiaa]

Naah if that's your reason you don't want to have kids then you need to introspect more. Seems too superficial for a reason

[@galaxylucia1898]

Exactly!! This is a perfect reason not to have kids or be burdened with a husband who 9.5/10 is probably going to leave all child rearing and domestic duties to you alone.😡

[@ms.rivera7898]

Preach! 🗣️

[@JAM661]

Well you sort of did what the women in the video did in not understanding that no one should be judging your choice to have children or not.

[@JAM661]

​@@clandestinelheiaathere is nothing wrong for her reason. Women do not own anyone anything if they can take care of themselves. But people should just be supported of other people choices. Some people just do not like kids and do not want them. To me that is better then someone having kids because society says they should and they do not care for the kids or worse is abusive. Some people do not have the temperment ect. There are plenty of ways to help society. One is helping kids who adult were not being responsible raising their children. There is almost 400,000 kids in foster care in this country. Some women also physically can have children.

[@girlhh3908]

Exactly motherhood is not for everyone. We should be supportive and not judgemental to those that don't want kids and those that do. Be kind. 😊

[@Eric-ej3oy]

I cant bc im a Christian.

[@bjbalva]

@@Eric-ej3oyI’m Christian and I agree with this. It’s not for everyone. Children are a blessing and should be treated with respect. If not then don’t engage in the practice of bringing kids into the world to hurt them. And yes I’m pro- life.

[@clandestinelheiaa]

​@@Eric-ej3oy well that's that but you can't have many children without a back up plan

[@sageauthor31]

@@Eric-ej3oyyou can’t not be judgmental because your Christian?

[@035Taylor-n5d]

@@Eric-ej3oy you can you just choose to

[@misteverett9589]

I decided to not have kids ever as a teen. In college, I had many jobs working with children. This only solidified my decision not to have them.

[@lizzydreamer6940]

Oh my gosh, I've never heard someone explain my thoughts on having children as clearly as the guy in the very beginning. It's always bothered me that we see this pattern when it comes to kids and their parents: the parents give up their dreams or push them aside for the sake of the kids, then push the kids to fulfill their dreams for them. The kids resent their parents, have kids of their own, and so the cycle continues. Leaving behind a trail of unfulfilled dreams and goals, kids resenting their parents, parents resenting their kids, etc. It just seems broken and useless to me. Like sure, if you always knew you wanted kids then fine. But if you were reluctant and then pushed into it by family, friends or society, and it changes your life completely, thereby making you bitter and resentful... then what's the point? 🤷‍♀️ And this is ESPECIALLY true if you are a woman. Men have achieved their dreams despite having kids, because usually their wife is in the background giving up HER dreams just so the guy has the time and energy to pursue his. Think of presidents, authors, actors, musicians, scientists... And yeah, women have done it and are capable of pursuing dreams and goals even with kids, but... it makes it so much harder. It's just not a gamble I'm willing to make.

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

Well said! You said everything I was about to reply, lol. I love seeing people enjoy being parents. It is beautiful when they do not see it as a byproduct of love because hint to those in the back that do not understand sex ed, trust me there are those, lol. Yes, there is birth control, but many women have become pregnant due to their body rejecting the birth control, partner manipulating birth control or them not even caring about preventing certain bodily reactions to sex.

[@gstrathmore194]

Yes. If the highest purpose to human life is just reproduction then we're literally no better than bacteria.

[@Xeyne098]

Women's dreams is to have children. It being hard means it is worth it.

[@elisarodriguez9859]

That is a GREAT suggestion for women who are on the fence about motherhood, nanny or just babysitting. Or get a dog first. It's a life long commitment not to be made because you want to be like a tik tok influencer who makes one min videos of motherhood. I was raised by a single mom and it was hard just us. I am 47 and never regretted one bit never marrying or having kids!

[@Freya1412]

No don't get a dog to test yourself or see if you can handle the commitment and responsibility. Please don't get a dog or any other pet as a test for yourself. Get a pet fully ready, capable and willing to take it on a long term commitment and responsibility. You don't get a pet as a test for yourself. What awful advice.

[@justinarazo8857]

I grew up with a single mom and a brother with ADHD/Autism in the 80’s/90’s. I had to grow up fast and help her with him. My patience for kids is thin. I’ve been with my husband almost 15 years and he wanted kids in the beginning but time passed, technology advanced, and these kids are rude, barely talk, have no social skills, and the parents-my age- don’t give AF. I got my tubes tied and we just live comfortably investing in farmland.

[@Sara-x6t3s]

He will be chasing one of those rude girls soon... 🤣

[@squamoza]

No one really cares about your life story. It's better when you share an authentic opinion rather than your life story

[@txspacemom765]

I remember being asked in some silly leadership class for orientation at work, what my legacy would be. They knew I had a young son at the time and everything from there out was attached to me being a mom, my son, this weird I could not be autonomous and have a legacy just as me, a human. It was weirdly attached to having a child. That is how it's sold in society still.

[@beaulieuc8910]

you even name yourself with a nickname with mom, you have no identity

[@Chrisia-Queens]

Just being childfree, i feel like I'm successful and accomplished. I'm the only one in my family and friends that decided to live her life on her terms. I feel so special 😂😂😂😂😂. I'm different, stubborn and unique: it feels great. How did i achieve to create my own path in life? How did i resist the urge of temptation and following the crowd??? Wooooww what an accomplishment 🎉🎉🎉🎉🎉😂😂😂😂Happy New Year Fam

[@ms.rivera7898]

Congrats to us who are different and Childfree! 👏🏾

[@Noregrets281]

I think you’re being sarcastic

[@beaulieuc8910]

yes, I am the only woman in my family chose to be childfree, I don't have much contact with any of the parent relatives, I don't related to their values and hobbies

[@ms.rivera7898]

@@beaulieuc8910 I understand that feeling. Luckily I do have a friend that does not have any children yet, although she is not technically “Childfree” (we are late 30’s). It’s nice to have someone to relate to, that doesn’t have children.

[@5Demona5]

2:23 Single, childfree and GORGEOUS! Keep enjoying your life, it looks good on you!!!

[@JujaJuJuJu]

This might be a beauty filter. Look at her arms.

[@Eric-ej3oy]

By not bringing a child here you can be saving someone from a world full of troubles, Trumps, Kamalas, Diddies and fools like me. 😆😆

[@JustineDillard]

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣 *virtual high five* Yes! 🤣🤣

[@amandawalton8044]

Most people don’t have the aptitude or ability to do great things in life, so yes creating and nurturing another human life is the greatest thing most people can hope to accomplish

[@TinkaParker81]

And the kid can still become a slacker, abuser or murderer regardless of upbringing. What's your point?

[@amandawalton8044]

@ What’s your point? What will be your life’s legacy?

[@sageauthor31]

Adding to an already overpopulated world and setting up an innocent life for a failing world, economy, and environment doesn’t feel super successful, no matter how loving and nurturing you are, you can’t protect your kid from that.

[@CN33449]

This man gets it. 4B and childfree. In my 40s love my freedom and choice. I'm so glad I don't get questioned anymore about kids lol. But there are different judgements regardless. I've never wanted marriage kids but that's me.

[@1983maya]

A woman can be a sports legend, she can be a rockstar, she can be a scientist, she can be an astronaut, she could even be headlining the next Christopher Nolan movie. But what society cares about is when is she getting married and when is she having children?!?!? Moral of the story: F*ck society. Be the rockstar, astronaut, sports legend, deep sea diver, investment introvert, actor, gardener, you tuber, CEO whatever else you want to be in your life. Children are Not the start and end of everything.

[@JAM661]

Well I am in my 60's and never married or had children. I have no real regrets. Today on average it cost $350,000 to raise on child to the age of 18 years old. Well if I had to pay for 3 kids I would have no retirement. I also never met a man I wanted to spend a week with let alone a lifetime with. Not everyone wants, needs or should have children. Also you can enjoy children with out having them yourself. For example one thing is really needed is foster kids and older children getting adopted to families. But no one talks about the health risk and the complication from having children either. We must assume every women will have a great pregnancy where she is glowing and the kid pops out and life is great. Well that is not how it aways works out. Also having kids is not a retirement plan.

[@valeriephillips5889]

Everybody does not want children. It’s a choice. I’m single and no children by choice, I’m happy, have freedom and have peace. The apostle Paul said it s not a sin to remain single, it’s a gift. but if you marry, marry only in the lord, those that marry will have tribulation in the flesh.

[@beaulieuc8910]

what on earth are you taking about, there is no god, think for yourself

[@pastelmoon9118]

the truth is it is defined by society it is suppose to be your highest accomplishments and purpose... because it benefit 1-2% of the population literally everyone else but NOT YOU!

[@kaylabean3693]

If I wanted to have kids, even with the cons, I’d do it! But honestly I don’t, life is hard enough🤷🏽‍♀️

[@wandah9468]

Have the children, but dont put them on the public dole. My taxes are high enough as it is.

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

The public dole will not replace parents, but if it can help in some way why not? At the end of the day these same kids will be pouring into the same taxes.

[@teoleno4019]

@Lemonredsqueezy We don't know how many of them will end up being contributing members of society. Or end up living with their mothers, draining their resources up in adulthood. The economy is only getting worse, not better.

[@Angaloth19]

@@Lemonredsqueezyno, statistically they’ll also have kids they can’t afford and the welfare will continue for generations

[@sageauthor31]

Tell me you don’t know how taxes work without telling me you don’t know how taxes work

[@HerrAndreasSkog]

There has always been people who are happy to not have kids. Society should focus on enabling people who want kids to have as many they want and ensuring a good future for them.

[@beaulieuc8910]

no

[@HerrAndreasSkog]

@beaulieuc8910 Yes. Someone has to take care of you when you are old. Life is worth living and the World is worth being born into.

[@lolahernandez6871]

No kids Peaceful life Happy marriage Love my dog Just do you ❤❤

[@beaulieuc8910]

love my plants, no vets bills

[@Ashleycookies106]

I feel like I would have kids but with the absolutely right person. like the person and me would have to be together for a LONG time and like I know they're my soulmate/forever person. Otherwise I won't have children with someone who is on my maybe list or idk list. It would have be for certain and him and me are married. After marriage for sure. If I dont find the right person then no I won't have children ever.

[@amayaamaya11]

I have a daughter and want more children. She is my greatest accomplishment without a doubt. I don't care if prople scoff at this and think I don't have a fulfilling life. I wouldn't change my life for anything and I wouldn't want to be without children. However, children are not for everyone. If you know you truly don't want any, don't have them. Don't let anyone convince and tell you otherwise. Everybody's lives are different.

[@Tiffanysmith339]

Children is not for everyone like me

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

I agree, but I think it is too much pressure to put on a person as a representative of the type of parent you are. Children are born with their own personality, and they mess up like the next person. We have seen 4 or so kids born in the same house and are completely different.

[@amayaamaya11]

​@@LemonredsqueezyI don't understand what you mean by your comment. If you're implying I put too much pressure on my daughter to be "perfect" or something similar, that is far from the truth. She is 2 years old, happy and thriving. She has her own personality, likes and dislikes. She succeeds and she fails. She falls and picks herself back up. I'm there to support her no matter what and always will be. I didn't have her to live vicariously through her. I had her knowing full well she'll be her own person.

[@onceuponanexploration6048]

Exactly. I am not antinatalist and can see that for some people it is the center of their life. I just don't want to and see the world as a hostile toxic place.

[@Eric-ej3oy]

We are a species that want our cake and eat it too. For example, ppl want money but dont want to work for it 😆😆. They want kids but dont want to take care of them 🙁. They want thier money and want to spend it too 🤑. They want a lot of things but not what comes with them😞😒🤔. But what most ppl perhaps dont seriously consider when having a child is how they may come out. Many parents who child comes out deformed or with some other type of disability, impairment are burdened by them. And what if your child with a disability told you that they would want to be euthanized as a result of it. Would you do it or let them suffer the consequences of your selfish actions if they cant get the care they need or impose something unwanted on them that you wouldn't want for yourself? Euthanasia is against the law in most parts of the world. Handicap, disabled and sickly ppl (even if they are ok living with thier conditions) as well as healthy ppl should all be pushing for euthanasia practices esp if you are affliated with the church or believe in god or are a Christian or believe in humane treatment. But the church is the main advocates against euthanasia 🤔. I guess god isnt a loving and caring god. If he is, he's not in us. Bc all should know based on common sense agreement what a happy life should look like. If you dont know you definitely shouldn't be having kids who often end up depressed in life and suicidal.

[@frenlyneybur7544]

It also puts women in a box. Not all women are the same. We arent all maternal enough to be mothers, let alone GOOD mothers

[@suniljoseph5888]

😎Lifes purpose to me is live the moment right atleast a 40-100% scale, or do the good you can and reap what you have done for, simple yet complex😅😂

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

@@suniljoseph5888 Well being child free does not mean being selfish or lazy. Even though I know people will be. That to has consequences. But giving to community. 9 out of 10 times the community will give back to you!!

[@canzanpan]

I wonder why people don't mind their own business. I work with different people,backgrounds, and etc. I've met some very happy child free women and I've met very sad child free women. Both sides have its pros and cons and it's up to the individual what works for them. I don't judge them but, respect everyone's life decisions. I have children BUT, I've always known I would be a mother. I dreamt of my children when I was a little girl. So, it's different for me. One of the sad things I hear from an elderly child free woman is. She worries that when she transition. Who is to know it? She has no out side family left and didn't have any children and when her pup baby transitioned. It sent her into thinking. Who would know she was gone in her home. That makes me sad for her as a person. Heart to heart. Now, this does not excuse that just by having children they will or will not be there for u.. I just hope everyone has SOMEONE by their side regardless. Lol I love seeing all the happy women living their best life. N I hope that's a trend in itself. Fulfill your dreams and your life purpose whatever u deem it be. Be glorious!

[@vanessac1965]

I would rather die alone after a peaceful life than die with another person I put through watching me die

[@MargotRenoir]

I’m 23 and I have a 56 year old friend who is childfree, never married, and whose dog died of old age. She also broke up with her boyfriend and been feeling lonely recently. She wishes to have some intimate support and care especially since she started menopause which has been difficult for her. I have a 72 year old friend who is fit, happy, healthy , doesn’t want a man and is happy with her life so you’re right in saying that there are pros and cons to each choice

[@canzanpan]

Thank you for sharing. I agree with your comment as well

[@CakeslyMcShakesly]

All the ppl who are offended i assume are bad parents that should not have had kids themselves 🎉

[@AmiWhiteWolf]

I don’t want to actually birth kids cause the thought scares me but adoption seems like a better option. I’m 33 and want to enjoy my life. I never understood people who are engaged after 2-3 years of dating and have kids then about 7-10 they are divorced. It seems everything went to fast.

[@coralduke2106]

I'm so glad I have my children my mum had 6 with relationships that didn't work out. But as an adult I can call any of my brothers and they come through even if there all busy atleast 1 shows up. Same for my aunt and cousins. I clean some housing some ladies who had no children are so lonley now they're old. One in a home I visit her cause she doesn't have children to visit her. Have jesus first then find a good partner if can't have children adopt x

[@skullcandy9641]

Having children is zero sum Game ..thin line between parenting and emotional abuse To make them good adukts you must do some sort kf sbuse😢... fact To spoil them you must be loving and give unconditional love

[@kimfm2713]

My 30 year marriage to my best friend, family, children...are without a doubt my greatest joy, achievement & fulfillment in my life. My hubby feels the same way. To each his own but for me my life would be very empty without our children. I wouldn't trade them for any amount of money!

[@TheEclecticEmpath]

I am happy my husband and I are heading towards 50 with our cats. TO EACH THEIR OWN ❤

[@Caterfree10]

Okay cool, my greatest achievement is completing an ARR relic in FFXIV.

[@TheEclecticEmpath]

@Caterfree10 I'm old and jealous. FFX was as far as I've tried! Man, I loved VIII....

[@Caterfree10]

@@TheEclecticEmpath hell yeah, another great FF tbh! X was my first but I don’t think there’s been one I actively hated lol. XIV is pretty damn great and comes with a massive free trial with a main story quest that can be mostly completed solo with Duty Support now, so I definitely recommend as a FF connoisseur. I singled out the A Realm Reborn relic bc the steps to finish are very tedious and time consuming even in comparison to other endgame relics. Still, I wanted one of each expac’s and I’m almost there. /o/

[@102483989]

Ok I don’t agree with the first guy he’s pretty extreme. For some who have children it’s an incredible experience and nothing compares to it. I think of my relationship with my mom or my grandmama and grandpapa and nothing compares to it, these relationships are the most cherished important parts of my life….. I don’t have children of my own I never had the opportunity to be with someone but there are a lot of aspects to life and not everyone will have children, God has a plan for everyone and it’s all important !! God uses everything including the person who doesn’t have children they has immense value and purpose to God!! Silly people who think they can make judgment of other peoples lives as if they know more than God!

[@shawnnahewett4870]

People confuse procreation (a biological function) with PURPOSE (a meaning to your life and intended direction). If you want kids, that's great. I support that. I love it for you. But don't tell me my life doesn't have purpose without kids of my own. Joan of Arc, Edgar Allen Poe, Mother Theresa (and many others) did not have children.... meaningless lives? Mmmm... not buying that.

[@EOrtiz-mr3tv]

Child free people are traumatized and or broke. Why would anyone want knowingly traumatized people to be parents? Why would anyone want people with no money to struggle raising children? Creating a family takes mindfulness and lots of cash in the West.

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

I think traumatized is the key word here. Whether the person is broke or rich they should not be planning for kids.

[@amayaamaya11]

I was traumatised as a child, got help and moved on. I was adamant my children would have a good home, both parents, no trauma... I have a daughter and want more kids. Just because someone is traumatized it doesn't mean they should't have kids. But you must get past that and not pass it on to them.

[@jazzyj6640]

You might be right. I was traumatized in HS by seeing all my peers get pregnant as teenagers and the baby mama/baby daddy drama. Yeah… I don’t want that life nor do I like being restricted. Having children will totally restrict my life and I know I will hate it! So I will not bring a child into this world that I already don’t want.

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

@@amayaamaya11 It is a major gamble to. Hey we all have the right to do what we want because we do not have a community holding us accountable for making that gamble so, yeahhhh to individuality. This is one of the cons of it, where people do not take sound advice, especially when it is about adding to the earth.

[@amayaamaya11]

​@@Lemonredsqueezy I disagree. People shouldn't turn away from parenthood simply because of their trauma. If they don't want them, then by all means, don't have them. But if you desire children, trauma shouldn't be the reason to not have them. Assuming one gets proper help and wants to overcome their trauma of course. I thought about being childless for years, but thankfully I changed my mind, because I know I would regret my decision. This doesn't mean everyone is the same, it means you should think about it long and hard before you reach any decision - having or not having children.

[@bjbalva]

Nothing wrong with being child free. But there is no need to demonize child bearing. Regardless of whether you chose to have them I think having a terrible spouse is the true parasitic relationship. Not children. Is not having, but raising children. With that being said, I find that people with the greatest number of kids (5 and 6) are mostly neglectful parents. It’s rare to see a family with like 5 kids where the parents love and take care of the children.

[@tarablue4472]

This channel is about removing the stigma of childfree, not demonizing child bearing. Good lord no, we need people like you to continue to propagate the species, thank-you🙂. It takes two is raise a family and having a supportive, loving and competent, responsible spouse is key to raising a family successfully. Not everyone is going to be that kind of spouse or find that kind of spouse. Many, many mothers end up going at it alone because they ended up with a man child who creates more work and stress for them. I seen where my life was going and I decided to remain single and childless. But I give gratitude to those who can have thriving families.

[@sageauthor31]

Maybe having children deserves to be demonized, because all we ever see is how great it is. We so often are t showed the horrific things that can happen during pregnancy and labour, we aren’t told how expensive it is to take care of children, we aren’t taught to think about how cruel it is to bring children into this world knowing full well that the environment might be uninhabitable when they’re older and that they are extremely likely to struggle on their hands and knees just to make financial ends meet.

[@tarablue4472]

@@sageauthor31 "we aren’t told how expensive it is to take care of children" Only people living under a rock would think like this. Parents complain all the time how expensive, especially day care, it is to raise children, you're denying this to suite a narrative. The environment may be bad and getting worse but I'm sure glad to be born🙂.

[@sageauthor31]

@ untrue, we think about how expensive it would be to raise a child in our own ideal scenario, but we don’t think about doing it on a single income if our partner leaves, we don’t think about what we would do if we had twins or triplets, we don’t think about what we would do if our child had profound special needs, we don’t factor in exorbitant hospital bills in the US if our child is born extremely premature, we don’t account for food costs if our kids can only eat specialty formula, etc, etc, etc. People don’t plan for those scenarios and they end up in poverty, in debt, losing custody of their child, because we don’t see all the possibilities, we only see happy families that glorify parenthood and having children.

[@pruddymantsha2933]

I’m 35 n I don’t want to have kids ❤

[@beaulieuc8910]

great

[@shawandamaffett127]

Why not have kids have to able looks for me. Do really think I care about your rejection. Why would I want dust.

[@celestechoto3033]

Watched this video to find out what the "truth" is . I will never get those 8 mins of my life back

[@Cuore-nw1yo]

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[@sarahlantto8913]

I cam made Belgium waffles and EAT them in my home WITH my kids. And i am a tired, harried, marriage feels like its falling apart mom of four kids, and i cant change things, it would be unkind and actually TERRIBLE if i wished it differently....who would i NOT want? I love the fact that God gave me my children to guide on HIS path the best i know how...find a GOOD path to follow. Seek God, dont just take my word for it. Figure it out for yourself...i dare you.

[@beaulieuc8910]

god did not give you kids, your partner did. there is no god

[@Blahmeme]

If you’re naturally high in trait narcissism you are not going to want a family. Love equates sacrifice if you’re unwilling to sacrifice do not get married do not have children.

[@rachelmdiamond]

Okay!

[@maam-yj8ph]

Plenty of narcissists have families though?

[@Blahmeme]

@ yes, and they abuse the families. Therefore, they should have chosen no family. You have proven my point. Selfish people are best single and childless.

[@1983maya]

Maybe there are some people who started out as the sacrificing types. Then after years of being a doormat in the family, they woke up one day, found the love of their life (a partner or a puppy or a passion i.e lifelong pursuit ) and they lived happily ever after. Even without kids. Especially without kids. If forever meant 2 or 5 years everyone would have kids. After all it is only a 2 year commitment. But forever = till death do us part. Once a thief always a thief. Once a parent always a parent. Some are wise to understand and realize this and stay away from parenthood. Good Parents are awesome at what they do and doing it consistently but, parenting isn't for everyone.

[@Blahmeme]

@@1983maya yes, I agree selfish people should stick to their pets and not parent a human. Doormats are people pleasers for selfish gain and have zero boundaries. Sacrificial love does not have any doormat superficial qualities.

[@coralduke2106]

Also the older lady when she gets to 60 70 she will need more help. When you get older and put in a home relying on strangers to love you or care for you. It's no joke i see it all the time you have children don't it right when your old they will look after you

[@TinkaParker81]

Your children are not your caretakers. That's absurd to think that way.

[@coralduke2106]

So if you have parents and they raised you and now they need you. You wouldn't help them? Maybe you are to selfish for children then. My mum wants to go into a someone day i said no we will look after her when the time comes its called love

[@sageauthor31]

Majority of the people in residential facilities when they are older have children lmao, this logic is missing the logic part

[@coralduke2106]

Not really. How you raise your children will determine your relationships with them when their older. One day your body will fail you with age. Once an adult twice a child what will be the result of your life. Would you regret not having children one day? Being sure now. One day you may have regrets which is what I see regulary

[@beaulieuc8910]

having kids for people to help you is selfish

[@marilynyoh7951]

Virus

[@arokiabharat1351]

Yes the greatest thing is life is to have children, else work hard to build business and technologies for other people's children.

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

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[@sktgfk9229]

Follow that guys afvice to your own peril. If all you did in life is rsise a tamily you have achieved something priceless

[@rachelmdiamond]

What’s perilous about not raising a family?

[@Zanie234]

What peril ? Will childless people be taken to the back of a building and lined up against the wall ? What peril ?

[@Sara-x6t3s]

Yes life IS similar to a virus, ALL LIFE pursues LIFE. As human beings that is our purpose. Denying that truth will only hurt the person themselves, so let them figure it out on their own. Especially those who are just straight up lucky, wealthy, no health issues, the people wbo are literally given everything. Ugh so sick of these entitled spoiled brats.

[@samsam-ko3fp]

The purpose of having children is to glorify our creator and to raise your children to be a better version of yourself. That’s harder and more rewarding than any job you could ever have. If you don’t think you have anything to offer then I guess you shouldn’t have children but also be a positive influence on the children in your family/life.

[@Lemonredsqueezy]

If this was true then there would be no free will and children should not have any trauma. But because we have free will and most children have trauma, it is not true. Unless that is part of glorifying children to the creator?

[@amayaamaya11]

I agree with you that this is the hardest and most rewarding job. However, I also think that not everyone is meant to have children. If they don't want them, then they shouldn't have them. And we also shouldn't pressure them into having them.

[@Egh0127]

The Bible says that being single is good. Not everyone is supposed to have kids. God gave purpose and value to childless people, like His disciples. Period.

[@AVibeCalledYes]

Blah blah blah. Get someone else to do it 🤷🏾‍♀️

[@JC-wy8ff]

@@Egh0127AMEN

[@werock9]

He may be a gay man tho

[@rachelmdiamond]

Gay people have kids

[@dreameva1400]

so? he's still works with people who are divorcing....

[@MysteryExodus]

And what exactly does Mr Lawyer think the most important thing is ? A career ? Over a family ? ? That’s sad .

[@belias360]

It's not. Almost anyone can have a child. But not everyone can have a successful career or create or provide something to benefit the world at large. There are plenty of things one can do to be successful, and having kids is at the bottom of the list.

[@teoleno4019]

Ever heard of Nicola Tesla?! He is the very reason why you are on the internet right now and writing this nonsense. And guess what- he had no kids! Your brats have higher chance of growing up to be criminals than acomplishing anything substantial. 😒

[@Saranda4787]

Looks like we've found a parent here who regrets their choice.

[@subspacescout9951]

Mystery, THE most important thing is to become fulfilled as a Sovereign Being first before you even begin to consider passing on your epigenetic shadow to your offspring. In other words, work on yourself first, alone, then decide if you want to have kids. For instance, start w the question, ¿Why do I want to have kids? IF you decide to go down that rabbit hole, you’ll find out it’s for security reasons & bc you were told to instead of LOVE. PS If you find yourself getting miffed by this in any way, you might not have considered that having children is a choice not mandatory. Best of luck out there.

[@5Demona5]

The most important thing in someone's life is what THEY choose. Maybe to you pushing out babies is the most important and fulfilling part of your life. That's cool, but you do you. Don't try to force your lifestyle onto others. Cause I'm pretty sure you'd hate it if anyone tried to convince you to leave your family and start anew on your own to experience the joys of being childfree. Live and let live

[@jesuschristlives2724]

God said to multiply, so yes, it's the greatest honor a married heterosexual couple can have.

[@shortmashins4031]

Theres 8 billion people and counting. We wont run out of humans for awhile 😂😂

[@pear1ycur1y83]

Ehh it's an honor but marriage and children is not for everyone 👀 you should read the Bible a little better.

[@aurora_skye]

Not everyone is Christian.

[@5Demona5]

The Bible also says how to enslave your children How long did you sell em into slavery? You should, you have to, the bible says so Don't go against the word of your own God cause it doesn't fit your standards

[@MphoModjadji-b9f]

I'm Christian.No the greatest thing according to the Bible is not having children but serving the Lord​ with all of your heart@aurora_skye

[@mikedonigan6665]

The Bible says to be fruitful and multiply!

[@Saranda4787]

You mean the book that was written thousands of years ago? Times aren't like that anymore. Pull your head out of your a**.

[@subspacescout9951]

Mike, ¿Have you ever heard of The Council of Nicaea?

[@N3V3rSettle]

@@mikedonigan6665 The Bible says a lot of things and for some reason people only tend to reference the Bible when it is convenient for them. I wonder if these same peoole follow everything else the Bible says to do and not do?

[@5Demona5]

The Bible says how to sell your kids to slavery For how long did you enslave your children? Your should! THE BIBLE SAYS SO!

[@ms.rivera7898]

Be fruitful and multiply actually means to bring more followers to Christ.