Hurt Bae: Don't Let Men Leave You Emotionally Bankrupt!

[@ashleynicole9423]

He broke that girl all the way down so badly she no longer had the self esteem or confidence to leave! Women don't realize the longer you stay with the dirty dog, the more damage that is being done to your spirit. You have to get out right away at the first sign of dishonesty. It doesn't help that he's an obvious narcissist anyway and she was probably always left feeling so confused and questioning herself. Smh I hate that guy.

[@Centimilli]

hate is a heavy word....

[@Luna-si5dh]

​@@Centimilli HAAATE him

[@MagneticAesthetic888]

Rip Ayesha, you were such a beautiful, radiant, and intelligent soul, that will be missed with an impact that will forever be felt ❤️🥺

[@nietzschesmuse]

Has Ayesha passed away? What was the cause of her death please?

[@ezrasnell443]

@@nietzschesmuse She passed away on July 2nd. She suffered a fatal anaphylactic reaction from an unknown food allergen. You can read about it on Zora Medium in an article dedicated to her called “Rest In Power: Ayesha K. Faines”

[@Nunu-xm3ux]

Eeeèweeweweee

[@darkgoddesstantra9999]

Just found out today that she passed...so sad!😭😭😭

[@No1DanganronpaFan]

A friend referred me to Ayesha's KZbin channel just yesterday. I have been listening to her posts every opportunity I get, I resonate with what she's sharing and I love her energy, her in-depth information and knowledge. Today, suddenly I tune into this cast and the first comment I see is "RIP Ayesha" Oh Lord!💔💔💔 May her Soul Rest in Peace. I am so heartbroken 💔💔💔and so sad 😭😭😭😭

[@mscardioqueen]

I don't buy into men telling me that I'm beautiful snd sexy. When he tels me that I usually roll my eyes or give a blank stare.or give a curt Thanks". When see/hear my reaction they ask why. I tell them they are not the first man to say that to me and it doesn't mean much when I know that my beauty or sexiness is not going to keep you in the relationship. That's why I dismiss those compliments.

[@ametrineambrosia4929]

THIS 😭

[@whitneycaldwell5527]

At least you get them….

[@wolfemme430]

Wow! That’s interesting. Reminds me of the teaching of Salkis Re

[@simonjerrems3738]

I don't get is why he asks her why she didn't leave- when he was cheating her. It seems like a real cop out to ask someone why they didn't leave you. Her intuition was telling her that maybe he was doing the wrong thing by her- yet he has the audacity to ask her why she didn't act on her feelings? He is being weak and trying to shift accountability. Sorry, but his question is a continual form of abuse.

[@mimilocke5650]

Yep! Abusers always put blame on victims even society too

[@11eve]

No, it is not. He would respect her more if she left. Men's currency is respect. It is not love, emotions, and other things women would like to believe. If you don't have respect for yourself, he will not give it to you. So he was subconsciously pointing towards what was the major issue between them. He was a scum. But the weak one between them was her, for allowing to be treated that way and clinging on. These are all lessons to be learned.

[@simonjerrems3738]

@@11eve There's too many assumptions in your position. For example 'Men's currency is respect'...umm, sorry, I'd have to call bullshit on that. Respect isn't something that belongs solely to men, nor can it be assumed as being more their 'currency'. It's definitely a cop-out to say 'why did you take my disrespect, because if you had enough respect for yourself you would have left me?' If he had enough respect for her or himself, he would not have disrespected her in the first place. She didn't disrespect him for taking his shit. 'He was subconsciously pointing towards...' assumption, with not much basis but even if it did- it's irrelevant. A person's abuse/disrespect ISN'T the equivalent of the lack of self respect that a victim might have who takes that abuse. It's pretty rich for him (the abuser) to ask his victim 'oh but why didn't you just leave?'. It's not his place to ask that. You must be confused 'men's currency is respect'. Currency is how respectfully you treat others- period. When you abuse someone you don't get to say afterward- oh, 'but why did you take it, have some respect for yourself'- gross. Standing-by what I said here 2 years ago 100%.

[@11eve]

@@simonjerrems3738 I agree with the part "A person's abuse/disrespect ISN'T the equivalent of the lack of self respect that a victim might have who takes that abuse", that is true the 1st time it happens. If the abuse continues and you allow it, it clearly shows that you have some wounds to work on in yourself, because you value the other person more, than your own integrity. It is not that complicated. It is why people allow to be mistreated by others... because they are hoping to get something. People like to hide behind BUTs, "but I LOVE you, why do you treat me this way". That is not love. That is neediness, lack of self love and lack of integrity. Just because I love you and want you to love me, you are surely not forced to be in love with me, right? So let's suppose you are immature and unable to kindly let me go, and instead you start using me and at the same time cheat on me, I think I should be aware enough to not cling on to you and realize, that this "LOVE" is onesided and I should have enough self respect to leave and not drag this out by going through your phone and spying on you, that makes all involved lose respect. As painful as it is to admit it, she should have left and he is honest in telling her, where she made the mistake.

[@11eve]

@@beab8738 Beautifully said. I wish more women would take their power back in a gentle and intelligent way, without constantly blaming and looking for approval. Power to you sweet soul.

[@OMGitsShrimp]

Even though she has passed, I still remain subscribed to her channel for all the value she's given. I can't even imagine the positive impact she could've brought to the world if she were still here. But still grateful for what she left behind, because its definitely helping lots of people like me out there. RIP Ayesha.

[@DaughterOfGod247]

it’s so sad that she passed away. This video found me…today I had several mental breakdowns dealing with narcissistic bf. I’ve cried and he feels nothing. I am emotionally depleted I know I should leave but I’m afraid, but this is slowly killing my soul. The spiritual world is indeed real

[@DaughterOfGod247]

Yes, unfornately i just discovered her. I feel she had so much more to give and was so young. Very beautiful and talented woman

[@samusicaworld]

It is truly a process. The best thing that I did in a relationship was start doing things that made me happy motivated and stimulated. Like got a new job, worked out and brought clothes went out. I made myself so busy with these things that once I did spend time with the person it made it easier not to want them and slip away. Trust me you’ll want him less and less and he’ll start to notice and get cold likely but keep on doing you until you’re done with him. I hope that helps!

[@samusicaworld]

also this woman is a genius! I love her videos and she surely gets you in the right mind set to date

[@nicolesnotebook]

"Vulnerability is walking in your truth the whole way." I love this statement. It's so true. Sometimes there's this fear that our truth is too much--that it won't be received well, or, like you said, we'll be rejected. But true vulnerability and freedom is being okay with speaking your truth aloud no matter who's there to listen and regardless of that person's response. Thank you, Ayesha.

[@southernbelle4070]

I don't understand why she would want to still talk to that guy after that. When a guy breaks up with me, conversation ends that day. YOu will not get the emotionally benefit to talk to me afterwards. YOu only get to wonder what you missed out on.

[@a.m.a4390]

There could be multiple reasons why she still talked to him after the fact. I was like her because unfortunately I was raised by my family to be an absolute doormat. I couldn’t speak up for myself at all if I had a concern because I was told to shut up or ignored, had to constantly clean up after people like I was a maid, screamed at for no reason. In my opinion how your raised effects all areas of your life. If your parents raised you to stand up for yourself it will show when people try to take advantage of you. If they don’t however then your more likely to be a pushover and let people take advantage. There is a possibly that she could have been raised in a decent household, but looking at how he was talking to her I don’t think so.

[@tkking188]

Ayesha has died (July 2021) WOW so sad 😳😪😪

[@malkiabenzy]

My Goddess! I love this woman!

[@sabadaga1]

I've subscribed to your channel after seeing you on the grapevine. You're very intelligent, keep doing this type of videos.

[@WomenLovePower]

Thank you! I so appreciate you, and there's definitely more to come, soon!

[@lovem9234]

Rip 🙏🏻

[@nietzschesmuse]

He came across like an avoidant ( avoidant in emotional attachment theory is when a child have an emotionally cold mother the child did not bond with the mother because she was not emotionally present to the baby. ) And avoidantes dont bond emotionally. If a man refuses to have a deeper conversation chances are he is a player or an avoidant which allows him to be pathologically manipulative like a psychopath he is emotionally off disconnected and cold in human interactions. That perfect face black girl in the video looked so sad I just wanted to give her a hug.

[@WomenLovePower]

Yes, he definitely was. I'm familiar with the attachment theory and we discuss it quite a bit in several of the Women Love Power courses.

[@tinasarafinas4962]

Great video! I found you on the grapevine and after hearing you speak I had to subscribe to your personal channel. Love the topics you discuss 😊

[@WomenLovePower]

Thank you!

[@Charmwitit614]

Me too 🤗🤗 she is so dope 🙂🙂

[@tkking188]

Yes... It's so sad that she has just passed away😳😪😪🙏

[@justingumbs4813]

Right on Sis!!! You bring up valid points!

[@WomenLovePower]

Thank you @justin Gumbs! I try, lol!

[@abonds93]

Man I would never give a man that much power to hurt me that's crazy

[@hamdiabdalla9058]

Can you do a video on the books that impacted the most? Kinda like a list for the year that young black women should want to read. I'm an avid reader but i haven't read alot from black authors, specifically black female authors. Unfortunately I live in the swedish outback so there's very little available...

[@WomenLovePower]

Hamdi Abdalla interesting! That would be a great topic! Let me think about this list. Thanks!

[@tinasarafinas4962]

Hamdi Abdalla what a great idea! I also live in Sweden so I agree that it is hard to find books on the topic of femininity and power by black authors

[@malkiabenzy]

Yes! I would love for her to do a video on sources to build an education on the Orishas

[@girlpowerbutmakeitblack2655]

Yes 👏🏾👏🏾

[@MissC310]

You word things so beautifully, it physically shows ❤

[@lovebliss8351]

Haven't checked in for a while. N also I closed my Instagram page I had you on n many others. I needed to hear this. Look even on a spiritual path you can loose yourself to a man n just hope he feels the same way you do. Am now in a situation where I fell for someone on the same religious path but after two months I see that I must pull away. He just revealed to me he has a wife n children. No wonder he avoided answering me early into the relationship. He also asked me much about myself n tried to guide me careerwise which could help his career. Hm. He behaved like a yes n no man. Confusing. Am slowly healing off him. I do get weak sometimes n tease him with sexy stuff but it has not worked. It is one of those love energy that suddenly sweeps you off your feet out of nowhere n throw you into blindness. So since it is long distance it makes life easier too. Hm. Thank you.🌹

[@spectraamunari9059]

We’ve all been in some version of this situation and it is always an opportunity for growth and a billet dodged.

[@melodyal3357]

This is amazing. There is so much truth in your words. Thank you so much. I definitely find myself and my love story in this🙏💕

[@damilolabisugasoyoye6844]

RIP Ayesha x

[@bluemoon6399]

When tou talk abt being ou vulnerable self I think we can call it our "inner child" (our deepest insecurities, fears, etc...).

[@annobrien8942]

She is so beautiful and she doesn't know it. Such a sweet sensitive soul. Leonard can ..... fill in the nasty blank.

[@courtnesingleton6273]

This lady is so smart!!!

[@janethonestly4896]

Wow, I am so inspired, so levelled up from watching your videos

[@StelmariaonE7]

I'm so happy I found your channel

[@ThoseNigerianTwins]

Miss you

[@kharikhy-ree2242]

I'm about to send this video to all my friends. So many gems. You have language to things I couldn't say.

[@WomenLovePower]

Khari Cook thank you for stopping by with a kid comment and for sharing this with friends! Reading this really put a smile on my face!!

[@Sunshine-hb3pl]

I come back to these videos every few months!

[@wangechimuthii]

Love you on grapevine TV.....this video UST made me subscribe to your channel

[@WomenLovePower]

wangechi muthii thank you so much for the subscribe!!! 😊

[@kaleidojess]

That guy was so cold hearted. How does a person do that to someone ? That woman was way too kind, yet unkind to herself..

[@SuperExtrovert]

Gone too soon 🥺

[@bitcoinsarah6651]

I love your empowering content gosh damnit. Janet. You help me remember I’m a beast still. And imma dust these shoulders off!

[@BA-lo6ro]

So many gems in this video! It really made me think about choices I've made in relationships. Thank you! Xx

[@mslisha100]

I just found your page through Leah Bayaka's FB page. Thank you so much for sharing so much wonderful information! I'm at work watching every video! LOL

[@WomenLovePower]

Thanks for your kind words! I am glad you've enjoyed watching!

[@yudollia]

NO! why do i find out she has passed just as I stumble upon her brilliant videos :(

[@OneaeBlack]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Why wouldn't she leave, because she was lied to and her feelings were real, even if his weren't there, that's girl power.

[@shadeenah8791]

Please do a video for part 2.

[@kaleidojess]

She really is beautiful, and dealt with it really well even if she cried. I’m starting to think men are just built different. I probably could never give anyone my heart except for my family. That video is exactly why. It’s not appreciated.

[@inasyal6311]

i was cheated on for the first time in my marrige at 37

[@maycoleman7348]

Beautifully put!

[@spirituallynak3d]

Gratitude 🖤💜✨

[@user-yk9sk7pg6v]

Good work with this one.

[@patriciapacquette4444]

This was great!

[@nappyscribe1987]

You’re good!

[@HatshepsutEconomics]

Great video.

[@OneaeBlack]

❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤❤ Makes more sense if one knows the deep dark secret of every man out there, that truly they fear and are scared of the divine feminine power, even though it was mother earth power that made every man, simple stuff.

[@diamondgoddess5914]

Do u have a book?

[@ordinaryextraordinarybrotha]

My women show up on dates not to do like they usually show up on dates to get free food wow the man is wining and dining room half of the times he's been sleeping with someone else taking on nowhere turn on these days to try to move in to get some tells you the way you drop her off and some other dude is coming over to Bone her soon as you leave that's the reality that most men have to deal with I don't think that's ever happened to me I think I've been quite lucky but you go on dates to be like okay I believe you someone like you you probably do have a good heart inside of you but there are a lot of women who have a dark heart for real for real

[@Shalondria]

I miss you.

[@1kennylo]

You mean to tell me this isn’t Lori Harvey

[@itismybirthrighttolivewell4979]

O ooo

[@ordinaryextraordinarybrotha]

I can tell you most women that I dealt with were willing to give me their body but they sure as hell weren't willing to give me their heart or anything close to it they're actually quite cold and indifferent men also suffer being mistreated but I'm happy to be married but the point being is I understand what you're saying but there are a few good men out there that wasn't right by women part of the problem is most of the time women don't want those men anyway

[@mrpurplerain7476]

I'm not going 2 let a Woman hurt me Because if she Cheats on me I'm gone she can't get another chance I'll forgive that's it

[@kimberlyh5202]

They were actors I thought

[@WomenLovePower]

It was real as far as I know

[@firefish69]

Oh, I just watched a video about sociopaths. Than I saw this guy