Workplace Sexual Assault: Tamara Holder’s Story | The Scarlet Letter Reports | Refinery29

Tamara Holder was a regular commentator on Fox News before being assaulted by a company executive. She settled with Fox, but was left without work, as her contract wasn’t renewed after she reported her assault. Now, she's picked up her law practice again and continues to fight for other women who have experienced harassment and assault.
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[@tamramock9125]

Such a strong woman, its ridiculous how women are expected to endure such horrific toxic behavior. Proud of her for speaking out and helping others

[@MTknitter22]

@Tamra Mock, yes and one of worst is how FEMALE colleagues stick with the men & bosses too. Just like all those women at NBC Today, oh my they ALL KNEW and never said a word!!

[@madisheppard9190]

I was r**ped multiple times by my 2 coworkers. Called the police and not one arrest was made, wasn’t even put in the books. My attackers got me evicted and got me fired. I just turned 19. That was last year actually. Thank you for making this. Our voices must be heard.

[@justg1226]

The fact that mens very existence depends on women. Mothers carrying them, nurturing them, raising them, and at the end of it, some men have little to no respect for women is disheartening. What are these men learning and from who are they learning that this is okay?

[@charleneong]

I think it's because they have very set ideas of the roles a woman should occupy. mothers, sisters and saints are beyond reproach. (especially because you have a deeply ingrained relationship with them from a formative age.) but when a woman in a professional role becomes loud and assertive, it falls out of the traditional spheres they are expected to occupy: that of the nurturer and caring provider. if you have not been conditioned to respect females as fellow human beings who have the right to occupy the same spheres and roles as you, with the same right to a voice, then subconsciously you might become offended when a female person shatters your image of what an ideal woman should be. of course there are other factors like normalisation of rape culture etc, and what sort of behaviour the boys and men around you are modelling.

[@morganlee5774]

@@charleneong exactly the famous madonna-wh*** complex introduced (first written) by Freud, did he knew how common this is? I dont think so But basically women deal this this since always. We could see this in the middle ages where self educated women linked to ocultism or nature smart where burned to prove a point .

[@yoshigirlrocker]

I would just like to say, I’m glad to know her story. As someone who went through trauma, I also went into reset mode. I tried ignoring what happened and said to myself, you will act as if nothing happened and move on with your life. I broke down the very next day and reported it. Not everyone is like me. There are people like Tamara who don’t speak up until a year or more after because they prioritize being able to work and depend on themselves. After accepting what happened to me, reporting it and going on leave- it took me two months to recover enough to go back to work. There will be people who judge her choices, and I hope they never experience what she did to learn why. The most important advice I can impart on anyone who’s reading this- if you or someone you know is going through something similar, please take therapy. Wow, without therapy I would’ve taken much longer to ‘recover’ from what I did. There are free resources around you. Look for them. I personally live in a big city. Look for free resources anywhere you can. I understand if you don’t report it, but keep this in mind. If you don’t report it, know that you’re helping someone along the way. Like Tamara said, it doesn’t get easier. It will take a lot of emotional effort and add strain following up with police. But at least report and you can always close the case later. The fact that you made a report, stays on file and helps a potential victim in the future. Please please PLEASE make sure the report the officer initially writes is correct and have them read it back, even if it’s uncomfortable. Correcting a report is almost impossible. Best wishes and peaceful days ahead to anyone who has read this. You’re valid and worth it. No matter what your own mind or what others tell you. You matter.

[@Seeker0fTruth]

Thank you. Thank you for posting this. Sending you strength and love for whatever lies ahead… You’re an inspiration. Thank you again for taking the time to share your wisdom.

[@fleebag6926]

Tamara, thank you for speaking up. I am sorry you had to loose out on your dreams of television career, standing up for yourself should never cost you🥺 You are brave and deserve better, I hope nothing but the best comes your way🧡

[@ivy3723]

The scary thing for me is, when she was describing what he did, my exes use to do that to me all the time out of nowhere, I thought it was just what men did - not meaning to be offensive - now I realise how absolutely not normal and disgusting it is.

[@vc7442]

Hope you’re healing from that because that behavior should not happen to anyone

[@jackelinelopez3920]

Such shame! FOX 👎👎👎👎 NEVER LET YOUR VOICE BE SILENCED!!

[@Fabdanc]

I love that Amanda Knox is doing this series.

[@1luckyarmywife461]

There are always more people supporting women like this than attacking. We need to love and support them louder than the haters.

[@betsybabf748]

What we need to change is the public reaction to assault accusations. Yes women should speak up, but many in the public have the mentality they have to 'pick a side' and attack the other side, rather than have basic critical thinking skills and knowing it is normal and the truth to just not know what happened. Then she can take her claim to a criminal or civil courtroom, where she should have her voice in safety and free from further harassment. Yes, we still need proof and a person's right to defend themselves if we want all of us and our families to have fair rights in the US. Those who think we should automatically condemn are how we get innocent people sitting in a jail cell for years with no voice, so let's not be Italy. Encourage speaking up, encourage people to have rational thinking and knowledge to hold judgment, rather than attacking either side wanting to be 'part of the story'. Let's have all parties involved speak and share and prove their experience. It can't go all let's just believe, or let's not believe and just attack, the victim or the alleged, which hurts everyone, including ourselves and our children.

[@xxamythest503xx]

Theses stories should be going viral, and it's sad that people are not listening to her story,

[@jessicac2945]

Absolutely loving this series!

[@PrettyinGreenn]

Rupert Murdoch ruins everything. He even ruined myspace

[@angelicatrino2498]

Aren't we glad there is internet now and u tube? A young girl watching this will realize that being treated this way is not normal and ok.

[@deegassaway6854]

Agreed. I often have appreciation for these forums. They aren't perfect but because they exist, 🌍 is a more informed place to live in. Information is the first step to obtaining Truth. And Truth sets ppl free. ♥️

[@yeranishunor]

I'm proud of her for speaking up ❤

[@adixon1120]

Does Tamara Holder still represent sexual predators with her law practice? She represented a convicted sexual predator in a case I was a victim of during 2009. She represented him and tried to get a pardon and say he was wrongly convicted. Her story with Fox News is important but I think it should at least be disclosed that she defends or at least defended sexual predators in her law practice.

[@heatherwarren4206]

I started watching these a few days ago. I found the Shady episodes 1st & fell in love with her. I was disappointed at 1st, when i realized that Shady wasn’t it & there are other versions (i know, nuts! Right? To find out theres even more & b disappointed???) . I don’t know all the names yet, but the more i watch from Amanda & Mi & Grace (i think) & everyone else, i cannot get enough!! Each one of these host have something different that sucks me in. It is so cool to see the light spark in their eyes by the end of the episode because they feel the “human” in the other person & situation (if that makes sense?) Thanks for sharing some really good stuff from every color of the rainbow. Sorry for being so judgy at 1st, i am working on it;). Thank you

[@CC-rm1cc]

I was here

[@d_ken]

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[@d_ken]

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[@d_ken]

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[@benjaminotto5711]

i think i might have come across this name on interview where she spoke about how the financial market is being affected by the Covid 19, how can one reach her? i really learnt a lot from her.

[@d_ken]

look her up on the internet and leave her a message she's quite popular for her service she was recently featured on Bloomberg

[@d_ken]

Her name is

[@miss0petersburg]

Amanda, stop piggy back riding on these victims…. This isn’t what happened with you, YOU ARE NOT the victim girl 🙄

[@junemarieweaver974]

She is relating and advocating so other women feel less alone which is a beautiful thing.

[@miss0petersburg]

@@junemarieweaver974 SHE’S TRYING TO USE THESE WOMEN TO DIG HERSELF OUT OF THE HOLE SHE DUG FOR HERSELF! Y’all are so easy to influence its funny. How easy you guys forget that she gets to live out her life when her victim had no such chance! She compares herself to the actual victims 🤢

[@imnaila3512]

omg i feel bad…

[@shyeahright]

I would like these a lot more if her opening didn’t consist of, “I’m Amanda Knox, and this is how I’m going to make this video about me…” 🙄

[@MTknitter22]

Nope, she was explaining why SHE was there. Nothing wrong with that.

[@wandalabuschagne7707]

God knows the truth thats all that matters. His explaining come one day in front of the Most High. What could be more frightening than that?!

[@shreyalove715]

yea GREAT move going their without a mask

[@amyswisher5468]

aw poor little baby would'nt give it up

[@holisticmaya]

What??

[@imnaila3512]

huh?? what??

[@shreyalove715]

to be fair she shouldnt have worked at fox news so...

[@sjcme-5322]

Ah bugger off. Her choice of workplace has no bearing on the experience she lived through.

[@holisticmaya]

this is like saying that a woman who got raped should not have worn a sexy outfit. Please realize what you're saying is absolutely insane.

[@imnaila3512]

wtf

[@MTknitter22]

yeah and look what Matt Lauer at NBC was up to?? Its not just FNC. All those women got tons of money, they should be helping other women (AND MEN) who need help doing the same if abused.

[@Seeker0fTruth]

Really? Why? Because Fox openly invites women to work for them while disclosing that they [Fox] have a hostile and abusive workplace? Are you insinuating, “She knew what she was getting in to…”???? Not rhetorical. I’m asking you sincerely.