Would Japanese parents approve their kids marrying a foreigner?

[@takashiifromjapan]

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[@mitko930119]

Takashi-san, おはようございます! Just wanted to let you know I have completed my first month on Preply learning Japanese. It is so helpful that you get you own private tutor, so thank you for pushing me in the right direction.

[@zebari8516]

My brother, I told you many times to provide automatic translation for all countries, including Arabic, and not all people understand Japanese and English translation, and I wrote you this response through translation because I do not understand English.

[@Gotrek-sk8rq]

My wife, son and I are interested in moving out of America, where would you send me for more information on immigration/integration into Japanese society? Thank you!

[@Ceridwyn82]

Hey, why is your KZbin channel so awesome, but your Facebook page, so crappy? You’re like two completely different people… Your Facebook stuff is awful. I’m only mentioning this because I’m not sure whether or not it’s really you or not and if you’re aware that someone is posting as you, and they’re posting really crappy things. You seem like a really cool guy and all your videos here… So I was really surprised that your Facebook page was so bad.

[@AB-ki7xv]

おい、お前が日本人男性は浮気をする。日本では浮気が一般的だとか吹聴してるって聞いたんだけどほんとか？誰かどの動画か分かる？もし本当だったら明確な差別、絶対許さない。

[@dukeriver2375]

Finally, ask parents questions. Always want to see more older generations’ opinions and point of view. It would be rare and important in the future.

[@rexican26]

Yes!!! ❤

[@Just-a-Seagull]

AGREEEEDD!!!

[@hamdiraze9442]

But it’s kinda super one-sided, would be cool to hear some negative stuff too so you can prepare for it. Otherwise, you might head to Japan with this super positive mindset and then get disappointed really quickly if something doesn’t go as they said.

[@itzonlypeter]

@hamdiraze9442 if you had ask a generation ago you had a high chance of seeing it. Since many parts of asia wanted to homogeneous. I feel like as time goes on most parts of the world would slowly become more understanding of each other hopefully.

[@michaelm.1947]

Just a few things about older generations' opinions through my experience living in Japan. I've found the older folks to be some of the most open, surprisingly. Especially surprising considering that they're often old enough to have lived through WWII, yet are still open to being friendly with foreigners (especially Americans). The group I've found to be most intolerant is the late 40s-50s people. I haven't been able to come up with a theory as to why that's been my experience, but it is what it is. Younger folks are generally fairly open as well. Small children, having no filters and not much of a reason to dislike foreigners, are about the same level of acceptance as the older folks. YMMV for sure. Just sharing what I've felt after 20+ years in Japan.

[@justalexism]

“Unlike anime we dont speak with subtitles in real life” 😂😂

[@cryptoronindude]

That was funny 😅

[@LewisColmenares]

True. That’s only in movies. Besides I never believe what I see on tv or in the movies or anime anyway

[@あ-j2n]

君達も映画の時みたいに字幕付きで話してくれないよね

[@rider482]

Then why I can see it? XD

[@KazemaruSan]

i laughed my ahh up ngl

[@TheKane001]

I just proposed to my girlfriend recently, so the timing of this video couldn't be more appropriate for me. We broke the news to her parents this weekend just gone. Her father's only condition was that I beat him in a Judo match. My flight back to Europe is next week...We had a good run, Mina. Update: After some intervention from the mother (smart women) we've opted for a doubles table tennis match instead. Mina & I vs mother & father. Her argument was that how we work as a team will always trump any individual strength we possess. I've just bought a 1 month subscription to the local ping pong facilities.

[@diablog.9339]

😂

[@yomulv]

you gotta win bro😭😭 do it for her!

[@redwojak5182]

Depressing, how dare you bother her and her family while being this weak?

[@feniraken]

DO IT!!!

[@stubbisNO]

you know what you gotta do man

[@Frogmama-zi1li]

I’m British but 29 years ago when I married my Japanese husband his parents were against it on the grounds that it would make his life more difficult. My mother-in-law gave me a hard time until she passed away two years ago. I have enjoyed my life in Japan and I have no regrets.

[@デハン]

😶

[@BookNerd4Music]

29 years and she still didnt.... ugh.... sorry to hear that. however I'm glad you've enjoyed you life in Japan.

[@spartanwarrior1]

against all odds.

[@Kameかめ-e]

Question: did you already know how to speak Japanese when you met and if so how much do you know? Were you fluent or just had a decent vocab if that makes sense.

[@viridia1526]

Im asian, i hate MILs that make it hard for DILs the same way i hate FILs that make it hard for SILs

[@佐野まみず]

i'm from Japan. i don't think conservative people take an interview. so that can be one of the reasons why there are a lot of people who is for international marriage in this video

[@EckieM8]

Would you say that there are more people against marrying a foreigner than fine with it?

[@w1z4rd9]

@@EckieM8 Millennials? Likely cool. When it comes to boomers I'd say it is 50/50 Though when you speak the language well, know the culture/mannerism and have a steady income then even the Japanese really won't say any trouble.

[@GirthofBirth]

That’s what I was thinking too, I can’t imagine that it’s really smiled upon. There’s also a lot of people (in this video) pushing for more immigration, which can be bad if it is not accompanied by assimilation.

[@sanam878]

​@@w1z4rd9I've seen younger people being more conservative than the older ones.

[@w1z4rd9]

@@sanam878 Personally I'd say GenZ is rather random in the spectrum. Many factors will decide. One example would be the access to Internet and the rising of the Conservative notion, especially the hate on foreign crime and aid on foreign low-class I can easily imagine that would be the case.

[@fm0363]

The park lady with her "Japanese people don't use straight way of speaking" is on point, take all they say with a grain of salt

[@StarlingKnight]

It's more about saying things indirectly with overtly polite euphemistic phrases etc. than actually lying

[@まし-x2g]

As a Japanese, I would like to tell the reality(honne).Judging from the national data and my actual experience, please consider that the performers this time are quite a small number. I don't think they use tatemae(建前). As a premise, as of 2024, 17% of the Japanese population owns a passport. In Korea, it's 40%, and in Taiwan, it's 60%. In other words, 100 million Japanese people will not leave the island.Please keep this in mind. The current international marriage rate for Japanese women is 0.98%(non east Asian husband is 0.15%)and Japanese men are 3.3% (non east Asian wife is 1.2%)and the overall rate is 2.2%. In other words, 99.02% of Japanese women and 96.7% of Japanese men are married to Japanese people. This makes sense given that more males are born than females.This is far too low compared to other countries. (For example Germany 11〜12％　USA 12.4%)From the 1990s to the early 2000s, the overall peak was 6%, and it has continued to decline to this day. South Korea in the same East Asia is a well-known conservative country with 9.1% of the total, but it may be more friendly to foreigners. I think that once it peaks, it will start to decrease, just like in Japan. Also, although it is not well known, japanese people in their late 40s to early 60s have a better impression of foreigners than other generations. Therefore, the people who appeared in this video are very biased and may cause discomfort to everyone abroad. I'm really sorry as a Japanese️ ごめんなさい🙏🙇‍♂️

[@granzedora]

​@@まし-x2g hmm, that's interesting.. 🤔 because after highschool I plan to move to Japan once I study online, but it's just as you say, some Japanese people may cause discomfort to people abroad. And I'm a bit worried about this issue. ありがとうございます 🙇

[@まし-x2g]

@@granzedora 返信ありがとうございます。露骨な差別(暴力や乗車拒否など)に遭うことは限りなくないと思います。

[@granzedora]

@@まし-x2g I see.

[@Kitsuni16]

Shows importance of knowing the language

[@qinyima5693]

True, I feel so glad sometimes that I learned Eng so I can enjoy wider range of contents not only online also in irl

[@Sanctifier]

It honestly does!

[@suede__]

I think it shows more the importance of being able to communicate well.

[@LewisColmenares]

Agreed. That’s going to be me in the future marrying a beautiful Japanese woman when I live in Japan and studying over there.

[@SomethingBizzare60]

@@LewisColmenaresfetishizing

[@ellenkoga6887]

Open minded, thoughtful and respectful people. This is what I encountered in my visit to Japan, that and such kindness. My husband was japanese but his parents came from Hawaii and moved to US. So he was American Japanese, but I learned a bit about the culture and now I will try the language! Thank you

[@monkemods6472]

もっと上手に成ったらこれを読んでね、頑張れ！

[@bobbywhite5319]

Use Anki and immersion. Hammer out the Core2k deck to get a foundation. There’s plenty of resources. Just don’t rely too much on textbooks. Those won’t make you fluent

[@John3.36]

Honne and Tatemae

[@ellenkoga6887]

Yes, there is that to some extent. A couple of them were very well traveled, though which may have an impact.

[@muuttohaukka0320]

@@John3.36🤦🏻‍♂️

[@Aviaterz]

3:28. This actually works haha. I ended up in an Irish Pub in Shibuya back in 2018 and had very nice conversation via Google Translate with a Japanese man while we both drank a few pints. It was one for the memory books.

[@superidol238]

did u see sukuna?

[@kantoboi9699]

Kid​@@superidol238

[@TheRealJesvs]

@@superidol238seriously? Cringe

[@sonia_nya]

The two men you asked to introduce themselves in English had wonderful pronunciation. It shocked me, but then I realized they both said they've spoken to English speakers before and one had the Son-in-law so learning from the source instead of the typical Japanese-English education really does make a difference. Likewise, I learned much more Japanese going out and interacting with Japanese people rather than studying alone. What a nice video this was to watch

[@hauptmann25]

In my limited experience in japan the elderly on average really speak more and better english as they're more likely to have traveled abroad more, especially for work.

[@__Aurora__]

As a Swede currently staying in Japan due to work, I would say that the gentleman talking about Japan being a very special country is absolutely right. But I like it a lot. There are so many similarities between the Nordic people and the Japanese people that I never even imagined. Japan is the country where I don’t feel awkward being a Scandinavian introvert. Wonderful country, wonderful people, wonderful culture based on mutual respect. 日本が好き 🇸🇪❤️🇯🇵

[@kohtayasuda1984]

Not over-reacting, being a little shy and keeping a subtle distance, not making overly-fake expressions or appealing to others, etc.

[@__Aurora__]

@@kohtayasuda1984 Exactly. Not really a problem if you come from Scandinavia. On the contrary, quite similar behaviour.

[@agentorange1291]

I also see similarities between Japanese and Swiss people.

[@freakyalien5449]

💯 true. I’m Swedish too, and always feel totally at ease when I’m in Japan. There’s something about their respect for privacy and the expected politeness in most situations that makes me fell happy and safe with the Japanese people. I do my best to appreciate their culture and ways of life. It’s different and precious in many ways yet somehow similar to some customs here in Scandinavia.

[@heckincat1406]

Swede here! I'm currently applying for a two week language program next year, how's life over there in reality? :D

[@mmeibos]

I am from the Netherlands, a pretty multi-cultural place, and I can't stress enough how much of a problem a language barrier is. These people are very honest for saying that there is no issue dating a foreigner as long as they speak the language.

[@HiHi-tc9rc]

Same here in Germany, some people don’t even speak German in school. my classmates were a perfect example, they never spoke German it was either Arabic,Turkish,Vietnamese and at one point we had an American that didn’t even bother trying to learn the language

[@dutchhondarebel]

Yeah, its insane that an equal view in most Western (European/North America) countries would be considered racist.

[@taiwandxt6493]

​@@dutchhondarebel Well, the viewpoint overall is rooted in racism. Assimilationism in general has a racist past and was often forced. It's the idea of, "My culture and way of life is superior to yours and therefore in order for me to accept you, you have to adopt my way of life." This was the sentiment toward colonial subjects but that also extended toward immigrants. And, at least here in the west due to contemporary multiculturalism, it is something that we are much more mindful of than in Japan.

[@AlyxGlide]

immigrants either assimilate or invade. projecting your culture onto where you immigrate is invasion & that does not exist as assimilation, assimilated culture is to be invited by the people of the nation & not the other way around, which is hostile & again invading another country instead of assimilating for peace. & national problems are more natural citizen responsibilities not naturalized responsibilities. the naturalized responsibility is to assimilate & find joy in how & where we live.

[@erenjinchuriki]

Really? How so? I’d have thought the Dutch and foreigners would both be fluent enough in English as a second language. (This is an actual question, not picking a fight)

[@mimimindy3177]

I don't know how to put it, but it was a very cute interview. I could really feel the same "gentleness" (or kindness ?) that japanese people had when I lived in Japan, I miss it a lot

[@Slouworker]

It's all fake

[@sews1523]

@@Slouworker could you be a bit more specific? interested in your perspective

[@realnagisafan01]

@@Slouworker "its all fake!!!" we get it, you learned all your information of japan off of overblown stereotypes

[@Johnnythefirst]

@@Slouworker If being polite and considerate is what you call fake, I could do with a bit more fakeness in my own country.

[@rhondabudge7710]

This video actually made me tear up. Everyone is so open minded and sincere. I am currently living in Kobe Japan and have been living here for one year. I have met the most kind, happy, respectful people here. I am learning Japanese and try to use it often. I can see the excitement in their faces when they realize I can speak a little Japanese. And of course, I get equally excited if they can speak English as well. It has been the most amazing experience to live here and enjoy everything about Japan. Thank you for this video! I felt like they were all talking to me and telling me how happy they are that I live in Japan as a foreigner.

[@beastvicious8672]

Would it make you happy when japanese are a minority in their own country? Becouse that's what's gonna happen if they continue like this. Look at any country in Europe, letting people in has been a disaster.

[@huldu]

You don't get the sensation that they've cherry picked certain people for this video and removed others that might not have agreed with the message? It was something that hit me early on in the video. It makes sense when you looked at the sponsor and that it was segwayed into the topic. It's reality vs what people believe that doesn't add up to me. I personally would have loved to have travelled to a place like Japan and marry someone local or even certain countries in Africa but I know heart that it wouldn't have been easy and I'm not talking about the language barrier per say. A language is something you can always learn, to change what people think about you however is very different and next to impossible depending how they look at you as a foreigner. When I worked as a nurse in Ghana during the early 00's I was treated like an object by many men, not sure how else to put it but a notch on their stick if I can say that. It was not pleasant to be objectified like that, of course not all men are like that. People might look at you as something "exotic" and that's about it. I should note that I'm from middle-east.

[@Johnnythefirst]

@@huldu I'm currently travelling through japan for a couple of weeks. I did some duolinge so I can say the basic courtesies in Japanese, and I've had not a single bad experience with a Japanese person since I'm here. On the street, everyone just leaves you be, but as soon as there's a need for contact, everyone is extremely friendly and polite. This said, obviously there will be many people that don't like the amount of foreigners coming in, but as said I did not experience it.

[@huldu]

@@Johnnythefirst I think this is true for pretty much anywhere in the world, especially if you're a foreigner. People in general won't have a problem with you until you start making problems or people have had bad experiences with people like you in the past. At the end of the day we're all humans, despite different shades.

[@Necro263-pp9gr]

From what I gather from this video and other sources, moving to live in Japan is a big commitment, more so than other countries. Those who choose to take on the challenge seem to integrate well, since they would be the ones to research and learn about Japan and Japanese. Great video! Great perspectives!

[@fshonuff]

This was so wholesome. They all seemed like such kind people. 🥺❤️

[@christina_1313]

Yeah - when Nobu said he lived in Brazil for a while and learned how to enjoy live more from them I was so happy for him ^-^

[@Jordan-inJapan]

I’m a Canadian in Japan who’s been married to a Japanese woman for more than 20 years. When she first announced to her parents we were dating (which is basically the same as announcing engagement here) her parents were admittedly pretty surprised. But not against! And it didn’t take them long to come around, and I’ve enjoyed a great relationship with them since. (This is a good thing, considering we ended up building a house in a plot of land next to theirs!)

[@Lennyxx]

that's really sweet

[@KPopEtSuteki]

I’m married to a Japanese man and his parents didn’t care at all. We didn’t have to prep them before announcing our relationship or before announcing that we were getting married. It was simple as my husband saying “I’m dating someone from America” and his mom and dad were planning a day for us to all meet (I was there when he told his parents over the phone). They treated me with nothing but respect and kindness, even though my Japanese speaking ability isn’t the best. I can understand Japanese very well, but speaking is still hard for me. When we announce that we were getting married, they congratulated us, got us a cake and took us out to dinner. I’m very grateful because they don’t see me as different even though I’m not Japanese. I’m just a person who loves their son.

[@rany6542]

5:39 I bursted into laughter here. If people want to live in the country and have meaningful relationship, I don't think learning their language is too much an ask.

[@Plexplay]

Yeah, and it stops being funny when I think about my country Germany and how it's exactly the opposite here and everything is going down. I would never step a foot into Japan without speaking decent Japanese as a tourist because of surface level politeness and respect. Living there is of course even more different. I want the people to feel and see my good will and deep respect to integrate and adapt. Foreigners from the middle east just swarm here and don't even bother integrating, it's unreal.

[@Omid.125]

​@@Plexplay which middle eastern people have you mostly seen like this? I am just curious which country the majority came from

[@Plexplay]

@@Omid.125 Syria, Turkey, Afghanistan. Since the big political change in 2015 by Merkel, there have been enourmous amounts of unintegrated immegrants here

[@BandenTCY]

I’m moving to Japan with a student visa next year to enroll in a Japanese language school. After I graduate with N1 I’m gonna start a company and business there franchising Malaysian goods into Japan and obtain PR I love Japan more than anything else💪💪

[@Chiisanabatta]

がんばって！!

[@Waryfuls]

Goodluck!

[@Youdontwantnonebyatch]

Bro I don’t think us Japanese people want a bunch Malaysian Muslim shizz

[@Pruflas-Watts]

Japan loves Japan more than anything else too. They look down on the rest of Asia. You'll find out when you reach N1 capabilities.

[@20fsj-63shoker]

Love the goal mindedness. All the best!

[@avocadoarms358]

For some reason, I have a feeling these people don’t answer truthfully, if you know Japanese culture they keep there opinions and concerns close to there chest, Takeshi being Japanese they may open up more but idk if these Japanese folk realised how many people are seeing what they’re saying

[@AKRex]

Most likely they knew that this will be posted online, otherwise Takashi-san could get into trouble for posting it without their permission. This would subsequently lead to your first point - knowing that so many people will watch this (including other Japanese, possibly family, friends, work-related etc) they will likely try to come up with answers that won't complicate their relationships with other people.

[@Hashiriya714]

There's where the Japanese tatemae and Japanese honne comes into play.

[@big_dedus]

agree

[@ARKSAAXX-ys9gz]

Isn't that the same in every country? Westerners tend not to speak their mind, especially when it comes to race.

[@synecdoche6]

@@ARKSAAXX-ys9gz no, it's not the same in every country. what does westerner means to you? usa, canada, uk, germany, netherlands and the scandinavian countries?

[@udoschaefer3472]

The Okinawan man is such a mood. I strive to be like him when I grow old. Everybody thinking about their message and giving a formal answer and he is telling us to enjoy life.

[@JonBonCat]

That was a smooth segue for your ad. Flawless transition.

[@adem6371]

How lovely are Nobu and the gentleman who has traveled to 30 countries?! Very warm and astute/ analytic- I enjoyed their perspectives most.

[@Dutch1954]

My father and mother in law did, it was understood and traditional for me to ask them for permission to marry their daughter, which I did and they gave their approval. I see nothing wrong with that. They only asked me one question and that was would I one day in the future live in Japan, they were in the U.S. on a temporary stay of 5 years at the time. It took many years until my wife and I working together to make that happen. We are in Japan each year for part of the year, and the rest of the year in the U.S. For us, there are advantages benefits in both countries. I can understand and respect Japanese parents concerns and opposed to such a marriage.

[@Roaming725]

How'd you do that!? It is our goal to split time between the two countries one day, but it seems so difficult.

[@Dutch1954]

@@Roaming725 As I said, it took many years of working and planning. I worked in the International Shipping industry, West Coast of the U.S. and that eventually allowed me a lot of time off. My wife retired early and I retired ahead of a lot of my co-workers, so we had time to get established in Japan, with the help of extended family. I retired from a very good job that I was terrified to give up, to be honest, it was that secure and lucrative. But it took years of working at that and the focus my wife and I had from the very beginning to make it happen. A lot of people want to do this, we've met people who tried and couldn't for one reason or another. You need to have the drive and the will to do it. Hey, I've screwed up all kinds of things in the past, but not our shared dream and goal. Good Luck.

[@kiume_]

such positive vibes from all these lovely people! I wish Nobu san had a KZbin channel or sth, I'd love to get to know him more as he's such a pleasant person to listen to

[@Babysteps1000]

I love you Nobu!!!!! Big hugs from FL! Obrigado!!!

[@thomasalbrecht5914]

I rather liked the attitude of the people you interviewed! Open-minded, relaxed, but not naive.

[@jaz093]

They seem a bit naive. Don't think low skilled migrants are going to fix Japan's economic problems.

[@thomasalbrecht5914]

@@jaz093 what rubbish are you on about? Japan is in a demographic situation where any kind of immigration can help the economy. And with the kind of language (and foreign language skills) they have, only rather bright people will be brave enough to go to Japan anyhow. Without immigration, Japan’s economy is toast.

[@keeolangovender2529]

​@@jaz093Ofc a handful of low skilled migrants won't, however with a lot of migrants coming in from various countries to work in Japan, and Japan having very specific residency and job requirements, it would boost their economy, especially because the yen is weak compared to a lot of foreign currencies.

[@Chiisanabatta]

Althouh I'm already 35, I'm going to Kyoto next year to study Japanese for three months, and to check if I like it and can adapt well there, in which case I'll probably be back to study japanese for a couple years afterwards

[@RyanHolben]

Good luck! You'll have an amazing time.

[@amphibious3381]

Californian born but currently reside in Osaka with my wife, our convos are 95% Japanese 🇯🇵 🇺🇸

[@mattburrito]

im from california i love all women in general no matter the nation/country or continent their from even here in usa or north America, if only we can be a single earth country 🌐✊🏻✊🏼✊🏽✊🏾✊🏿 ☮️

[@amysscentsandsongs]

Takashi-san, I love your interviews. Always respectful, asking the hard questions, and using a gentle humor. You are bringing the world closer together. I love Japan and lived there 45 years ago, in rural Miura near Yokosuka. I have so many beautiful memories of Japanese people who were not familiar with foreigners, but who were so kind and welcoming to us.

[@therealdrecu]

Great interview Taskashi, really takes me back last week when i was still in Japan, if you just try to speak little of japanese people really open up and even reveal they know basic english :'D

[@3210vca]

Takashii is at his best when he interviews elderly Japanese and by far it's the most interesting and entertaining...I think I would like to maryy Takashii-san. Lol!!!!

[@spiphieboi7079]

the guy in the floral hat seems really fun to talk to. well all of them do but i don’t know the language

[@mohamedeffat54]

I feel like takashii is paid by the government to convince more people to come to japan 😂 If that's actually the case then that's great for him 😁

[@xXxUrbanNinjaxXx]

Facts, it’s feel like propaganda at this point lol

[@quwokka-e5l]

Most of what I experienced, in other countries, is that once you know the language or show that you genuinely try to learn, nobody cares about your ethnicity anymore.

[@odalysalvarez305]

My husband & I are very excited to visit Japan in a couple of years. I tell him we must learn the language first. Plus, we watch so much anime, it would be helpful too. But I feel we wouldn't want to leave Japan once we're there. I think it is crucial that tourists & foreigners who plan to live there respect & maintain Japanese culture & their lifestyle so that it never changes.

[@jarrettwright3703]

your videos are very interesting and thought provoking. You have a great career as a video journalist ahead of you if this is what you desire

[@senortapia8892]

That's exactly what fascinates me about Japan! They have their culture.. their language and are very proud of it and foreigners should accept and respect that! I think it's good that people value the fact that when you come to Japan you can speak Japanese (at least a little). In my opinion that makes it easier to get along and in particular it makes it easier to master the cultural customs/differences...“The limits of my language mean the limits of my world.” ― Ludwig Wittgenstein

[@FSVR54]

every country has a culture lol

[@Pyrodagoat]

​@@FSVR54fr

[@andreas25693]

every country has a culture lol x2

[@senortapia8892]

@@FSVR54 Yes, that's true of course, but there are countries that are proud of their culture and want to preserve it (see Japan) and then there are countries where that's not the case (see my home country Germany for example)

[@FSVR54]

@@senortapia8892 You are correct about that. Sweden/France is another example

[@292Artemis]

I didn't expect this video to be this wholesome! 🤩 The lady with the shirt in red and black is such a sweetheart. And the man who lived in Canada..very open-hearted. Lovely interview partners you had there!!

[@H_Jones]

What a sweet woman 3:51 , honestly all of their responses were refreshing. I do think that the follow up question should have been whether it matters where that foreigner came from, I suspect the responses may have changed.

[@davidbrink3328]

It’s weird when you get honest answers and not a bold face lie, you almost become speechless

[@capncanada22]

I visited Japan a few weeks ago and had a very lovely time. I was so impressed with how orderly people could be in the train stations even when it was so filled with people! I had a nice moment where a man instructed me that I was eating my dry soba noodles incorrectly, he barely knew English but with a smile instructed me where the broth was. Another man gave me a smile and thumbs up from across the room after 😊

[@Daniel_Ben_Avraham]

Good old man in 8:45 made me proud of being brazilian

[@spectralspectra2282]

I wasn't expecting so many people to not only be open, but openly inviting foreigners to come to Japan, that's awesome

[@ben-taobeneton3945]

I noticed something while watching all these Japanese people who went abroad. They feel and look different. I can tell immediately that they have broadened their horizons andve seen the wider world beyond thlensse of only seeing and living in Japanese society. It's so great to see that. It's a form of development and openness. 🙏

[@tsdfghjkl]

Traditional Japanese women are more beautiful than westernized Japanese women tho

[@ben-taobeneton3945]

@@tsdfghjkl I never mentioned nor I intended to talk about Japanese Women. I'm speaking in general.

[@SomeguyonyoutubeV2]

​@@tsdfghjkl ok

[@by-vs5dm]

@@tsdfghjkl Traditional women look attractive regardless of race. However, traditional women are more likely to date men of the same race. Because it's traditional lol. Find a traditional woman of your race. That's the quickest way.

[@ADeeSHUPA]

​@@by-vs5dm 笑 笑 حَى حَى

[@Reker-w5v]

The fun thing that they express such words only on camera. irl you'd feel distanced from them a lot, because it's rare to accept people outside from Japan

[@benevolent1695]

A video with bosses in Japan who employee foreigners would be interesting.

[@ehp764]

Nice people, clear thinkings. Good to see this.

[@fafadk]

"We don't speak with subtitles in real life" made me laugh harder than it should have 🤣

[@haldol4all]

Thanks for making this video. Love hearing from older generations opinion. I'm surprised that they're way more open minded than I expected.

[@tme2912]

Japanese poeple are really lovely people. I love my Japanese mother and daugther in law ! ( I am married for 30 years now )

[@SuperCoolSunglasses]

Their answers made me so happy

[@nermket4849]

0:25 what she's really saying: I would be mad because the foreigner would eat all the rice

[@malindarayallen]

My favorite video on this channel but far. These elders have to most interesting things to say! Thank you for interviewing then!

[@もちもち-q1k]

この間Takashiさんの動画を観たという外国人の友達に「日本の男性って浮気するのが当たり前なんでしょ？」って言われて😂しかも違う人から何回か、、 だからTakashiさんを日本ヘイト系クリエイターだと勘違いしてましたが違うんですね😂

[@user.hsaaki]

浮気が当たり前です、とか広めてる動画見た事あるな……結局は視聴数稼げるからだよね。 まじ迷惑だわ

[@crunchycookie6712]

@@user.hsaaki I am American. I have only watched videos on Japan, so I thought cheating was more common in Japan. Is it not true? I don’t want to be confused. Thank you (^ ^)

[@user.hsaaki]

@@crunchycookie6712 Don't worry about it. Everyone makes mistakes or has their own biases. It makes me happy to have someone like you who understands. Thank you(^o^)

[@crunchycookie6712]

@@user.hsaaki I’m able to understand now thanks to you (^ ^) I’m glad it was just videos. I hope foreigners like me can learn the truth about Japan（＾∇＾） The internet is confusing lol!

[@hammurabii.3173]

@@user.hsaaki So how much truth is there to the notion that cheating is somewhat of a tolerated concept in Japan? Is it just a certain kind of community that gets frowned upon by the rest of Japanese society? Or is it more like the US and Europe where it is generally frowned upon but some people still do it, in some social circles even quite regularly?

[@riot768]

For me as a foreigner I appreciate Japan because of how much they hold on to their morals and culture, it is beautiful and respectful.

[@ghosy998]

"foreigners are good as long as they speak the language, respect the culture and dont break the law. Its more accepted in cities than in rural areas." Sounds similar to European countries in the past and look what happened. Lets hope Japan wont end the same way.

[@ricardos.santos6714]

💯👌

[@_5ive6]

Well if Japan doesn't accept foreigners it will keep declining as it currently is, clearly immigration is important for a country to thrive.

[@jaz093]

​@@_5ive6Not going to fund pensions and improve economy with low skilled migrants. Japan is making a mistake. Even if the birth rates don't improve at least they can enjoy the lower rents and house prices. Only high skills will improve economy

[@WarioGoat]

@@_5ive6Japan has 130 million people in land the size of California 😂. They will be fine and don’t need to import immigrants. Their population is expected to decline to 80 million and then stabilize at that level. Sure their economy will shrink in the short term but I think they would rather have that then importing the third world or anyone else for that matter. They don’t need to follow western ideals.

[@hammurabii.3173]

Well what happened?

[@michellechristinemacutay3681]

this is so far your best interview! i love listening to the insights of elderly people. there’s so much to learn from them. ❤

[@melodygeeks3917]

As I person that use be living in Japan, having a relationship with a Japanese and meet dozens of foreigners married to Japanese, DEAR TAKESHI is all the way around my friend, I would never recommend a non asian to marry a Japanese, korean or chinese, not because asian are bad people, not at all, actually great people, but is for MANY other reasons, and I say non asians because I feel that many asians countries share similar values and perhaps more chances to built a decent relationship than a non asian with a totally different culture an values. I use to live in kyoto and work in a important Japanese videogame company and I meet at work more than 15 foreigners married with Japanese, also many more outside work. Every friday after work we use to go to isakaya to eat and drink socially, after a while I noticed few patterns that I will share. Every friday all the foreigners of the company after work went straight to the restaurant around 5pm and normally waited to our japanese friends up to 3 extra hours until they decided to leave the company, normally they all stay longer there to show "loyalty" to the boss (thats a silly long story but a great topic for you TAKASHI talk about) anyway when we finally all together we start to have great time indeed and often a bit tipsy :) but after a while I start noticing few patterns like for example every one started complaining about something, super bizarre. Often all the Japanese coworkers complaint about their lives and especially their jobs even things like why we have to work extra hours with no reason. on the other hand the foregners started complaining often about their japanese partners, Im not a person who likes to complain my stuff to others but it was very interesting for me to see how all the other foreigners had very similar complaints like: my japanese spend to much money in make up :) my japanese wife spent to much time everyday in make up :) my japanese wife always wants to see tv while eating :) my japanese wife looks very different without make up :) my japanese wife is an antisocial my japanese wife never wants to leaves home my japanese husband is a workaholic my japanese partner cares to much about money my japanese husband dont pay enought attention to our kids my japanese wife is a good mum but a terrible wife my japanese partner stop having sexual desire since we had kids she or he dont want to have sex she or he never hug me she or he never say I love you She or he dont know how to have quality time after work she or he never propose good plans apart form work This is just very few examples and trust me the list was WAAYYY longer but I thing you will get the point. I was in a short relationship for a couple of years with no kids but after a couple of years coming to this parties (never with my partner because she was a highschool teacher ALWAYS marking exams) after a couple of years I started to get a bit panic how all my foreigner coworkers complaints about their japanese partners actually started happening to me little by little. I really thanks this after-work parties because I stop thinking like a kid who likes anime an wants a Japanese partner and really this parties gave me a different perspective about me, my career goals as a videogame music composer an more importantly my FAMILY GOALS. I did work a couple more years for this "important videogame company" in Japan and eventually I meet this amazing Colombian girl that encourage me to quick my "dream Job" We came to Australia, married and made our own music business here and I can tell you with absolutely no doubt thats the best decision of my life by really far and I forever thanks my wife for that. Japanese people are really really awesome people the best friends I can have, my favorite country to visit ( I go almost every year) even my favourite food too but I feel there is to many social problems in Japan and those problems are little by little making Japanese people forget the most important things in life like family. Now dear TAKASHI perhaps here you can have few video topics about japanese society that not many people wants to talk about really thank you for the video Big hug!!

[@freddycely9580]

Wow I got many of those complaints too, that's scary

[@samuelevans3726]

I love japanese culture in general but I truly think having a Japanese wife or asian wife is overrated especially amount the japanese anime lovers or us nerds. Choosing a partner is probably the most important decision in life, don't make your choice because you like anime. I totally agree with your comment of there is more chances finding a better match if both are asians, I know many asian with non asian couples and many of those ended up in divorce especially if they live in Asia. I currently study in Japan, been here only 1.5 years and already feel that I got most of the complaints you mention, super accurate.

[@長谷川静也-w9j]

In Western countries, slaves do the heavy labor. In Asia, the average person does the work of a slave. For people with a certain level of status in the West, there are probably many disadvantages to moving to Asia. However, with security getting worse around the world, attention is turning to Japan.

[@IzzySalami]

A lot of your examples of complaints are worldwide regardless of ethnicity. The foreigners you know just all have a common denominator of having a Japanese spouse, so it seems like they’re complaining about the Japanese way of life.

[@melodygeeks3917]

@@IzzySalami thanks for the reply. I agree with what you are saying but trust me been living so many years in other countries apart from Japan and been in many "afterwork" ""parties"" and I can tell you that in Japan all these complaints are well known to be "Ichiban sekai de" :) Also I could see the dynamics of many couples in Japan, friends, coworkers, friends here in Australia(Japanese friends here trying to change those points too) myself etc. Even many Japanese friends told me about this points dozens of times so trust me I'm not exaggerating, Trust me I been short. I will say it again, if you are not asian, think twice.

[@Colki12]

Really lovely video. All of them are so down to earth. And for people planing to visit Japan: take her advice to heart and don't be to direct and overbearing.

[@Hashiriya714]

When being interviewed on TV / Social Media, there's the Japanese tatemae answer or response and then there's the Japanese honne answer / response.

[@FrankBrennosTheGreatest]

True. That being said, as one of the interviewee said, they're all from Tokyo and therefore are probably more open to foreigners. I'd love to know what rural Japanese people think.

[@user-qm7jw]

I'm not Japanese, but if I were to be interviewed like this, I would be polite and give opinions that would not be controversial. People like to use the word “tatemae” and make it a uniquely Japanese thing, but non-Japanese do it too.

[@DevinDT99]

⁠@@FrankBrennosTheGreatestI used to live in rural Toyama prefecture. Most people (even old people) were super friendly and wanted to get to know me, and at worst I just encountered benign ignorance. My in-laws were happy when I proposed to their daughter and they treat me like family and make me feel very welcome! That being said, I think some foreign groups are unfortunately treated worse than others, generally speaking :(

[@awesomecoolepicawesome]

This was a great video! These people all seemed very wise

[@angellodelgado277]

It gives an interesting perspective on how their true unfiltered views are towards foreigners visiting, living, and even dating/marrying in the country and how open they are to the idea of it. Yet again another great video with great interviews!

[@mah199517]

This was wonderful, Takashi. Extremely proud of you.

[@justus.justus]

Would be nice to know the views of the Japanese on Pachinko, to know about racism, if it existed/exists as portrayed or it's not real like the series

[@eh4947]

This is one of my favourite videos you have done! It is so enlightening to hear the perspective of older Japanese, they are very welcoming to foreigners and have more modern perspective than I thought. It's so warming to hear. Of course, people who accept being interviewed would have more modern ideology, but as someone who is moving to Japan soon (4th trip) I am very relieved and happy to hear these opinions :)

[@vbhaisahab]

Should have asked which race/ nationality. Don’t think they want their kids married to a non white foreigner :)

[@michealrosen]

They don't want them married to any foreigners, they say all this for the camera to seem nice and polite, but Japanese believe in pure blood, they're very racist when you remove the veil

[@HellJumper99]

Agreed. Ask them if it's okay if it's someone from SEA.

[@MiaMizuno]

1:02 Ok, after 20 years of dreaming, it's time to finally reach N3 level and move to Japan ❤

[@firulaiscaninez]

It's not an utopia and it's not like in anime, thank you.

[@MiaMizuno]

@firulaiscaninez yeah, but with 2 kids, Full time job + 20 hours of care work a week, you fall dead into your bed, so......

[@MiaMizuno]

@@firulaiscaninez also, my kids will not attend japanese school. German schools are more humane

[@Rain2H0]

As a foreigner, it’s great to see it be more acceptable (not fully but to a certain extent) but what makes me afraid is that, due to mass migration, that will not only bring other beautiful cultures, but also there are chances of Japan not being as beautiful as what made me fall in love with in first place. When it also comes to etiquettes, I.e. escalators, I have seen that etiquette in Europe a lot, and in South America rarely as well, but never in USA. Where I’m from in US is HCOL, and it’s just not good.

[@roondoger]

This was the most wholesome video I've seen in a long time. I find it so interesting and refreshing to hear an honest opinion from people across the world. It's truly a beautiful thing when you can sit back and realise that in the end we are all human. Earned that subscribtion and will be checking out your other stuff :D

[@a_cat1234]

glad the guy at 1:59 knows and has realized one bad apple doesn’t speak for all, kudos to him, I personally haven’t seen any “misbehaving foreigner”, but that also might be because I went to Tochigo, but I can say it’s definitely worth moving there if the right conditions are met

[@Waldgeist721]

We all know what japan is gonna look like if they give up

[@k94pp]

I like these elderly people. I used to call people from Japan on skype to practice my Japanese back in the day when you could filter users from country. And elderly people were always sooo friendly and nice to talk to.

[@Justohfun-sama]

3:55 welcome

[@lscho058]

Beautiful people you have interviewed ❤

[@wick174]

My cousin (mexican) lives in the countryside of Japan with his GF (japanese), and her parents told her to move out when they found out. Long story short, they cut ties with their own daughter because they were against their relationship. They've been going out for about a decade now. He still hopes that one day they can get along. Also, I've been watching you from the beginning of your channel, and I'm so happy for you!

[@alexb8926]

Does your cuz have an ig? Thanks

[@saphyrionelendilion7166]

This is such a nice video, and I am positively surprised by their answers.

[@RodolphosTechchannel]

Im from brazil, here there are many japaneses descendants, in my city especially. In fact brazil has the largest population of Japanese descendants outside japan, over 2 million. We even got the emperor of Japan back when he was a prince came to my city to visit and open a few monuments.

[@cryptoronindude]

I thought that was Peru but great to hear. A Japanese- Brazilian woman is the DREAM! ❤

[@VictorWard1155]

isnt Brazil extremely dangerous? There plenty of documentaries that talk about the crime there. Also many japanese descendants have left brazil and returned to japan according to a japan immigration statistic

[@RodolphosTechchannel]

@@Makiv-hj5xh have you watched the whole video? Seems like you didn’t. One of the Japanese elders said his vision of live changed after he lived in Brazil for 5 years

[@RodolphosTechchannel]

@@Makiv-hj5xh go away hater

[@EliteAaron]

​@@Makiv-hj5xhI thought it was interesting

[@linds9276]

I found everyone to be very welcoming and friendly when I was in Japan. Anywhere you travel, I think people will open up to you a little bit more if you open up to them and their culture first by learning the language. You don't have to be totally fluent before you travel, but you should know the basics and know how to be polite. It takes effort but it's totally worth it.

[@Ayelet.M]

I think it depends on who you let in (ehmm…Europe and the US, you’re done). If you bring people who respect the local culture and customs that’s great. But if only people who know only to rely on kindness of others, take advantage of it and try to impose their own culture and religion, it’s a way to end your own society.

[@rosanamalvao]

Its a pleasure too see how Brazil changed his life, you're always welcome

[@nico5179]

Foreigners who are intent on learning the language and adapting to its culture and laws then yes its a good thing. But foreigners who go there just to establish their little culture and behaving in a way that is not in harmony with Japanese customs must be deported immediately.

[@nico5179]

@ if foreigners don’t want to adapt and behave in a decent manner respecting the people and culture of the country they are migrating to then YES, they should be deported! Got a problem with that?

[@Victoria-dh9vb]

I know that there are many people who feel differently, and I can't blame them since there have been a lot disruptive and disrespectful behavior from foreigners recently, but it makes me so happy seeing such positivity and kindness from the older generation. It's really sweet how you can tell how much they love their kids from how they speak about them. I love to see people that just want their kids to be happy, and don't care what that looks like as long as it doesn't harm anyone.

[@mummymoomoomummymoomoo8443]

It’s nice to see the elders are becoming more open to foreigners and interracial relationships. My son would like to visit Japan one day and it feels me with more confidence that people will be open to him being there as a black/white mixed race person. I’d hate for him to not be welcomed just because of his ethnicity.

[@eipmowrq]

in japan, all races other than japanese are treated as gaijin（外人）. it doesn't matter if you are black, caucasian, asian, etc.

[@Waldgeist721]

@@eipmowrqgood, may it be like that forever to ensure bio diversity

[@Erikapierre1]

Black and white is not an ethnicity and they are talking about interNATIONAL

[@PurpleDoritos666]

@@eipmowrq Yeah but wh i te foreigners are treated the best

[@Leonighto]

Shows the understanding we already know of the japanese, good Video and I feel like this is important for many to know. Communication is ✨Key✨

[@RalphIvanDelaTonga]

Interesting stuff

[@arturbabajev7936]

10:34 this is exactly the kind of energy I love to see from people, such a wonderful person, you can just tell ))

[@Sacrypheyes]

"unlike in anime, we japanese don't speak with subtitles in real life". that totally cracked me up xD

[@christopherharris6005]

Awesome video as always Takashii.

[@wonderxxo]

I already expect most of them to say no ☹️

[@AmritGrewal31]

You used the sad-face emoji as if you’re about to marry a Japanese. Are you?

[@djoetma]

Most won't care. Also there is a thing called societal bias where people answer in a way society would approve.

[@Blazetheuser]

How come its always people wanting to be accepted by Japanese people? I never see videos like these in countries like Spain, Poland, Germany, etc. It seems like all the foreigners want to date japanese people is because they only see them as "anime people"

[@h2knad]

theyre old, they dont care about the future lol they only care about money, which foreigners tend to have a lot

[@geometrist_]

I liked the guy with the blue jacket and flowered cap. He seemed like a whole vibe. Hell all these old timers are legit!🔥 Also the sign behind Takashi said "Hot Staff". Damn I wanna go there haha

[@HunKorean]

well... keep in mind they are on camera. people filter themselves when they know they are being filmed/watched I went to University in Korean (in Korean) (classes taught in Korean) and we had an elective class on *the Diaspora of Koreans* showing Koreans of Latin america and Goryo-saram and all I'll never forget the words of a Korean student who honestly gave his opinion..... seeing a mixed Hispanic woman call herself a Korean. he said he felt cringey.. watching her say that... and he said Quote: ' just because your father is Korean..that does NOT make you Korean' :end Quote. seriously.

[@Waldgeist721]

Based

[@ZX-fx4tl]

Omg😢

[@somerandomuser5155]

For real

[@zachariascain6181]

​@@Waldgeist721Based Deez nuts.

[@theboredprogrammer1114]

My mother in law is from Hyogo but her warmth surpassed language barrier and nationality. I speak Japanese but not fluently but whenever I visit her, man, I wish she,'s really my mom. I love our moments when she teaches me to cook Japanese dishes or even doing se cleanup. I'm from the Philippines.

[@xXAlmdudlerXx]

To the people of Japan: Just be very selective on who you let into your beautiful country. Take a look at Europe and see who you should not let in unless highly qualified.

[@davidbrink3328]

It’s not exclusive to Europe either just look at the States

[@xXAlmdudlerXx]

@@davidbrink3328 The states don’t really have a problem with Islamism and criminals right? It’s mostly South Americans trying to make a living.

[@h2knad]

too late, the japanese government is accepting everyone, the city of kawaguchi has been occupied by the kurds

[@mikloridden8276]

Idk man, the Europeans I met abroad in Korea have been rude a holes. Everyone is moving somewhere.

[@xXAlmdudlerXx]

@@mikloridden8276 Yeah. Dont let the a holes in

[@Laamanaama89]

I loved the vibe of gentlemen with flowers on his cap😊

[@AA_ANIMATIONS]

I've seen a few Japanese and Chinese women get married in my country it's quite cool, I didn't know much about their views in Japan but I guess I do now💯

[@jak3hd]

Great video. Its good to see people being so accepting despite what other videos will say.

[@MEN101]

No!

[@covaciumarius]

I just love how open and nice japanese people are. I'm romanian living in UK.and I have always.appreciated Japan.

[@MaNu-tv2cn]

It depends on which ethnicity (not nationality), it sounds like they are conditionned to say it is okay if this is a western man/woman but never with other asian or black ppl

[@ytmB4HyU4kUq]

Exactly. A large majority of Japan feels as you've described.