Wrong mindsets Women Have | Kingsley Okonkwo

[@KingsleyOkonkwo]

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[@korutaroviolet]

Thank you

[@esnartmambo5188]

Is it free 😅

[@deborahbenjamin310]

6 Wrong Mindsets😩 1. Feeling useless without marriage: Relationship with God and your purpose takes priority. 2. I will change him when we marry - do it before you marry. 3. If I lower the standards, he would love me. 4. Men have to take care of me. 5. Seeing other women as competitors - stop the contest😂 6. Not fully developing other aspects of your life •Develop your hobbies Thanks so much for this sir🙌

[@Lifewithoutborders24]

This shows that I have no wrong mindset. Cos I have been focusing on me since university days.

[@alicehong7809]

Used to have many of these mindsets, but fortunately I learned.

[@malubacheelo3605]

Thanks for writing this down, I appreciate it

[@oyekunleoyeyinka7470]

The moment I see red flags,i take off. And I don't lower my standards & I don't see myself useless because am still single. I am enjoying my single life. When God says it is time,then it is time.

[@opeyemioyewumi5960]

I just love your name combo

[@InspireVation]

If you always see and run, you will never find the right one because there is red flag in everybody including you. The best strategy is to stick around for a short period of time and see if these red flag are things the person is willing to work on. Most times, people don't even know they have red flags until a loved one kindly tells them about it. For a good relationship to be achieved, everybody must work. Nobody is perfect! Think about this.

[@oyekunleoyeyinka7470]

@@InspireVation Yea definitely. Everyone of us have red flags. And because I said d moment I see red flags I take off does not mean I don't stick around for some while. I only made my comment short. It is definitely after some time and I noticed the person is not willing to work on d red flags I would leave. Especially toxic/nassistics behaviors. Thanks!

[@oyekunleoyeyinka7470]

@@opeyemioyewumi5960 You are bearing my brothers name. Oyewumi. Thanks!

[@godslovetv204]

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[@michaeldavid8564]

Bitter truth, everyone in this world will not get married.

[@DKP_2018]

If you do not have the desire to.....

[@tojuirone1997]

U need to calm down till he announces u as his woman... Love dat part

[@naturallygifted2002]

L🤣🤣🤣🤣L I can’t

[@tojuirone1997]

@@naturallygifted2002 lolzzzz. Kk ooo

[@bryanikebobo3352]

I feel women need to hear things like this more

[@pacekitchen]

I think this post was made for me Thank you

[@tojuirone1997]

Is not everybody dat will marry.... So true God bless u sir

[@MAMA-ci1zw]

Point 2. Got my marriage crumbling. I waisted 6 years in years in Marriage but i still thank God. Thank you so much. I want to increase my Standard ooo

[@Lifewithoutborders24]

You did not waste 6 years. You had 6 years of learning and experience to know what not to allow in your next relationship

[@MAMA-ci1zw]

@@Lifewithoutborders24 that's so true and thanks a lot 🙏🙏🙏

[@JourneytoLinPRinP]

We like to fix things, I think you're right, we like project, I said this in my youtube video recently, women love drama, we don't stay with honest men, we don't want men who are nice and honest because they are BORING, we really want drama. but this isnt the right drama for our lives, running after men who are rich and 6ft 7 ft is not the right drama. i used to think, "what will talking about this do" but as much as people are hearing, things are changing in their minds. thank you Pastor K for this episode. our minds need renewing, remending and recharging

[@Beautyonitsown]

Another thing I’ll say is that we should never think we can change people, just as pastor K said. That’s what’s killing a lot of relationships. The red flags are there. Red flags we cannot deal with (because everyone has a red flag). It’s better to be truthful to ourselves and choose what we can deal with. God help us.

[@joshramsey2844]

Why the need for drama?

[@JourneytoLinPRinP]

@@joshramsey2844 some women, a good percentage gravitate towards something they can talk about. Shy guys, they won’t fare, oh he’s too quiet. And BLa bla bla... women gravitate toward the one with experience with tattoo, bad guy, hard guy, I don’t know... I’m just telling you what majority of women gravitate to, they don’t even know they’re doing it sometimes.

[@joshramsey2844]

@@JourneytoLinPRinP being quiet is now a red flag and less preferable to the hard guy.... This your gender is funny... Make everybody dey stay their lane oh

[@JourneytoLinPRinP]

@@joshramsey2844 who do you gravitate towards, nice women, shy women or quiet women or women who are outspoken, dress indecent or talk anyhow with no class. Pls telll me the kind of women you go out with. What are their characters if you do go out with our gender as you put it.

[@yemilaja1523]

Pastor Kingsley! I appreciate you sir. Thank you for mentoring me through your messages. God prosper your ministry and family. Amen.

[@anytaophilie9820]

Number 3 is loud o. Number 5 shows that pastor has done his research well. 🙌

[@MalcanniCB]

We really don't care about the price. And we don't even know which is which. Spot on Sir.

[@beatricechandasampa5759]

Thank you pastor Kingsley! I was blessed with this video and the most thing that has touched me is the 'not developing other aspects of life!' It's really important for a woman, lady or girl to develop other aspects of her life and not just focus on a man... I've really been learning a lot from your videos, all thanks to God who has given you this wisdom you're using and sharing!🙏🙏

[@williamsajayi7716]

Thank you pastor K😍😍😍

[@hajaraaliyu8267]

Words of wisdom thank you so much

[@being_tumelo6380]

Profound wisdom 🙌🏽,Thank you Sir !

[@HOPEREDEFINED001]

God bless you sir for this wonderful message.

[@silvanamounkondila2106]

Thank you so much much Pastor Kingsley and I'm always blessed watching your teachings , I pray that God add more to your knowledge and grants you a very long life .

[@adeolataiwo1022]

I have learnt something unforgettable. Thank you so much

[@tojuirone1997]

God bless u always sir... More wisdom

[@Nisile_116]

Thank you Pastor Sir 🙏. Number 5&6 mmm🤔 Thank you 🙏

[@oyeniyijanet9986]

Thank you for this message sir. I was really blessed

[@OgeDon]

Wow watt sheets message to women , thanks so much pastor.

[@antemelizabeth3873]

God bless you Sir. Your filled with so much wisdom. Just on point 👌👌👌

[@sayaremma8349]

Thank you sir

[@seagreenmedia3909]

Words of healing thank you so much sir, indeed God is here

[@oyekunleoyeyinka7470]

Very helpful. More Wisdom sir

[@tojuirone1997]

Indeed this video wasa blessing.. God bless u sir

[@ritaaikins]

God bless you sir

[@monicadiegboh9339]

I love this sir May God bless you 🙏

[@Dhammilicious]

Thank you so much sir.This is a real eye opener.God bless you!

[@EgbunuAngel]

Thank you sir...

[@lucyngoma2352]

Word, thanks for sharing. God bless you 🙏

[@enugumabel6419]

More grace pastor K

[@chiderakanu5675]

Thank you sir. GOD BLESS YOU

[@trizalukanga8125]

Thank you pastor

[@moremistv5452]

Thank you sir!

[@chichibiz8703]

Thanks so much...God Bless you

[@safi.4537]

Tell the MEN, the Tom, Dick & Harry need to be taught a higher standard. Stop bashing women ,all the behavior is on the women and the men are living wild, no accountability, no standards, no limits. All the teachings is telling women what to not do & what to do. It's TIME to TEACH OUR MEN. They lack knowledge, they don't know there is a King in them.

[@kelebonematlali5019]

Amen

[@victor_jonez]

Errrm, this topic is for women... If you want to see teachings for men scroll through the channel.

[@durbansaladyinaccra2173]

@@victor_jonez She didnt say she is referring to this channel in particular but generally.

[@victor_jonez]

@@durbansaladyinaccra2173 has there not been teachings addressing men? Honestly? I'm not against what she's saying but let's not sound like one sect is a victim and the other is not. Everybody needs adjustment.

[@lawonyinye7056]

@@victor_jonez lol if you are not in self denial, you would know that the african society makes excuses for mens wrong doings and not for women e.g, when a man cheats on his wife, its the devils fault and not his fault and the wife is told to be praying for her husband but when a woman cheats on her husband, its her fault and you deserves to be sent away, nobody will remeber that its the devils fault anymore and nobody will tell the husband to go and pray for her.the reality is that society make excuses for mens mistake.They need to start treating men the way they treat women.

[@sylviablessed4903]

I truly needed this mgs. Bless you sir.

[@ritaekpeyo5439]

Thank you PK. God bless you

[@agochibuzo7005]

They need to hear more

[@simplejerry8700]

Wow thank you sir 🙏

[@oyekunleoyeyinka7470]

Good points sir!

[@ifeomaezeanochikwa6021]

Maintain reasonable standards

[@elishashappinesscampaign1597]

thanks Ps K. It helpful

[@charityjoseph2302]

I need your books

[@sondanjy6694]

Great video 👌

[@safi.4537]

Everyone is speaking to women because they attend the conferences, they buy the books, and they watch the videos. But it is the MEN that need the word, the teachings, the coaching, the conferences. WHO will pull & push our MEN even if they don't make a profit from the books & the conferences. Stop trying to prepare women for marriage. It is the MAN that needs to FIND a wife. Women stop chasing for a man. You are whole w/o or with a man. See about the things of God.

[@distefanolinonoka3567]

This man of God had spoken to us men many times. He also spoke about wrong mindsets that man have recently. I am a single man who have learnt a lot from this man of God.

[@beccab4029]

@Di Stefano Linonoka is correct. Pastor Kingsley in particular has several materials for the men. However, as he's also noted several times, the men sometimes don't seek knowledge because they feel they know a lot. Sometimes, we the women have to listen to the messages targeted at men and share it with the men in our lives. But that does not mean that we should stop learning for ourselves also. As much as there are several teachings for the women, many of us still have the wrong mindsets and make grave mistakes.

[@foodies2374]

👍👍👍❤️💓😍

[@matthewobedue9931]

I disagree with the no1, It's natural for women to be so, and they can't change it, they can't help it, GOD created it to be so, I believe there is something God put inside them to make them feel so , for the sake of reproduction, the bible recorded men that didn't marry, but no woman ever recorded.

[@isiomabamidele7611]

Most of these mindsets are traced to cultural practices and societal norms. You'd discover that some women had very good careers before they got married, only for their husbands to tell them to quit their jobs and take care of the children and home instead. But I really appreciate men who encourage their wives to be better in their careers and in the pursuit of their vision. Great video.

[@Tracytheyoutuber.]

Thank you pastor

[@chinenyeuzomambonu9949]

Thank u sir

[@temi2401]

Now I run from bad boys ooo cause based on experience they never really change. They only tend to pretend for a bit but the truth still always comes out

[@Es_Elle]

My husband must be able to take care of providing because I know the VALUE that I bring to the table. There is incredible value in managing the home and raising godly children. Today's society devalues these things and says you must go and earn a paycheck to be a good wife and let daycare raise your children. The bible says HE who findeth a wife earns God's favor. Ladies, don't settle for less than you are worth. Don't toss your pearls before swine!

[@miriamaikins1745]

"Women compare themselves with the best, men compare themselves with the worst". I love that!

[@joyOsamudiamen]

Thank you Pastor K, you are a great Inspiration to me and my partner.

[@gerrileylucas3318]

Thanks for sharing. This was very informative

[@trudywoody6584]

God bless you🙏 I’m extremely blessed by this video😍

[@graceayo721]

I agree with all he said but I believe the skin regime, hair care should not be done for just to attract a man. We should take care of ourself for ourself, to love what we see in the mirror, for our own mental health, our own physical health and even spiritually (all God made is beautiful). It all connects.

[@gwenlee9562]

The woman still has to fist attract the man. A man does not look at an unattractive woman and say I bet she has a brilliant mind. I agree wholeheartedly in developing other aspects of your life. Men always tell me I am too busy for a relationship. I'm too independent. I do what I do for myself. I don't compete with other women. But I feel that a man must do things for me because he wants to, not because he has to. I would not have a man that did not wish to care for me.

[@milesnolan9188]

Other woman are competition.If they want to keep there man.U said in another video that men can cheat whether they love there wife or not.Thats why woman feel they have to compete Dang I'm glad I don't have ur problems out there .Wow!

[@milesnolan9188]

It's in the Bible not everyone is supposed to be married.Im a 60 year old female .That never was on a date .I m not a pretty person.So I always thought beautiful and attractive woman were to be married .I always thought they were the breeders .We,re not all here to breed.And that's another problem with me .I have very very high standards .I have a strong objection to men and there foolishness .

[@Snqobss547]

Thank you Pastor Kingsley

[@abrahamsani8783]

This is beautiful ❤️

[@doramawrie3741]

If I am not useless without marriage does it mean that I should not desire it nor I will never get married? I am just curious....

[@chukwumagodsfavour3762]

God bless you sir

[@agweibabgg595]

Thanks Sir .God bless your efforts towards humanity .

[@juliaade-williams975]

Women generally love marriage, NOT necessarily to make her complete.

[@queenlovealiyu2249]

Nice

[@nelylinadachukwu6111]

What about being married and not a be to have a child.

[@reetsvideos616]

This is one video I must watch over and over again. Thank you so much Pastor k

[@nokuthulamasuku5860]

I would honestly prefer to hear this from another woman, who knows what it's like to be a woman. Great points, but a man can never understand to the crux what women go through.

[@estherolufemi975]

I don't think it changes the truth in this statement. It doesn't need to come from a woman to be true. It's like saying a male obstetrician can not take a delivery cos he's not a woman and does not know the crux of being pregnant. He might not know the feeling but he has studied hard and well to be able to take the delivery just like the speaker.

[@thelightwecarry]

Yeahhh you are good

[@funmilayoolatunji7361]

Quite insightful. More grace, Sir.

[@tembuckpriciliaanjeck3897]

Wow. Thank you Pastor K. God bless you

[@pelumiakinyanbola3974]

God bless you sir😊

[@kaybyonye]

Obodo Oyinbo TV recommended we listen to this channel...and I'm glad I did.

[@monicadiegboh9339]

God bless you richly sir 🙏

[@mandyug3540]

Am so blessed with your messages!!

[@jacksonstiphler8632]

Pastor your point number 3 on the men's section is why the views are almost double in the women section. "External Influence".

[@chukwuamarachi7858]

Well spoken sir. Thank you so much pastor K

[@aderetiimoleayo6977]

This is powerful

[@chimarnytv]

Thanks a lot Pastor K. ❤️

[@estherkabwe2739]

It is the last mistake that got to me the most. So true.... You need to have a life before you have a life partner Life is not all about attracting and keeping men ladies, we have a lot to live for.

[@vernetteedward3144]

Wow so insightful

[@alicianaka]

Hahahah men don't know which one is expensive and not expensive haha this killed me😜😜

[@pàrfaitfurnishing]

Thank you sir

[@exhortationsbyeva6345]

I am definitely guilty of being too available

[@alphonsinetshibola3494]

I was so blessed by this Pastor Kingsley thank you so much for your leadership, teachings, encouragement and so many more. You're highly appreciated! All the way from South Africa

[@candyphillipchipopa7879]

Thanks for sharing

[@crypticcyril8005]

Delightfully paradoxical how you make reference to the scriptures and losing the point entirely. **If marriage was so important God will have created both genders simultaneously***. I am struggling to make sense of that statement. Are you having a laugh? Eve was created because God felt Man (Adam) needed a companion which supports the institution of marriage and floors your argument (duh). Your premise becomes a false equivalence of the reality of facts especially when your position is grounded in anecdotes.

[@ucheemenike]

What he meant is that we were each created alone. God created the man alone first before He saw the need to create the woman.

[@frasalihelene4132]

He implies it's important but shouldn't be obsessed about

[@crypticcyril8005]

The false narratives that these perfidious *"Relationship Pundits"* peddle have utterly destroyed the marriage institution and distorted the views of women when it comes to marriage, so much so that women have now developed this self-conceited monarchical frame of mind that paints, very little of facts and reality... The premise that women should pay little attention to marriage with the view that they possess a dossier of *"fascinating"* qualities that override marriage and perhaps extend their pursuit for a career even at a later time of their cycle-when evolutionary biology suggests otherwise, is tragic. I am not against career women but they should be able to draw the line. What other thing makes women more attractive for marriage. Listen to **KEVIN SAMUELS.** The basics for Men is that they MUST be CIA= Confident, Intelligent and Assertive. Women must be FBI= Feminine, Beautiful and Inspirational (these qualities are by no means objectifying women but echoes men's reality (75%) as to the qualities they appreciate in the kind of women they so desire). Education of course is a plus but it is not the be-all and end-all. High-value men require a woman who is cooperative, feminine with less masculine energy and the strong, independent nonsensical slogan. There are so many single and unhappy women who are seeking marriage and regretting pursuing a career and putting marriage on the backburner. These whole narratives do not only allow for women to luxuriate in bliss/false reality but also fuels the embers of feminism, a concept that now sharply deviates from its original purpose of inclusivity and equality. It still beats me to this day how men have suddenly been whipped into a frenzy of mental spasm when it has to do with subjects of interests that pertain to women and their femininity. Men are eager to ride women cocktails almost as if ingratiating themselves with women. When you perpetuate such ideology you only end up weaponising women, which is now the major reason for the high increase in the rate of divorce, adultery, battery and even murders. The beauty of a woman is in her ability to exude a more feminine aura. I think you need to key into **KEVIN SAMUELS PODCASTS.** You could learn one or two things from him on how, to be honest with women.

[@nanabei]

Great points. Looking forward to Wrong Mindsets Men Have video!!

[@crypticcyril8005]

KEVIN SAMUELS will give you a dose of reality. Women like the path of least resistance and are drawn to men who shower them with false enconmiums. It is a MYTH. Face the harsh reality or wallow in your comforting illusion.

[@ezehonyinyechi8257]

It's out already

[@joyl3926]

@@crypticcyril8005 If you listen to Kevin Samuels, then your ego is humongous & you're in trouble dear. He's a materialistic, narcissistic little man!

[@crypticcyril8005]

@@joyl3926 *"Little"*, *"Materialistic"* are all relative terminologies and to disabuse your mind of the reality of what has, over the years, transpired between genders (moreso black men and women) is embarrassingly outrageous and preposterous. Your views are based in aprioristic opinions rather than justifiable facts. Focus on the contents of Kevin Samuels' messages and desist from ad hominem attacks and just maybe you might be able to navigate through and/or better articulate, more profoundly, the complexities and structure of this artificially engineered gender" war. Obviously, when one rationalises a situation from a lofty distance and perhaps, a biased position the odds are that there aren't any flicker of hope. I hope this finds you well.

[@joyl3926]

@@crypticcyril8005 My friend stop fooling yourself with nonsensical Big words. My Samuels assessments almost always consists of the following; How old are you? Do you have any children? What's your weight? What's your dress size? Those are his qualities of what makes a high value human. If that's not stupid, I don't know what is.

[@sopuruchima6760]

I must confess,I love all ur talks.keep it up sir

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[@Omolola_Adigun]

Well spoken sir. Thank you very much.