How to Share Your Thoughts and Feelings

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Intimacy occurs in marriage when we safely share our thoughts and feelings with each other. Whether you lack closeness or if you want to go to the next level, intimacy can return in a matter of days.

[@Joe-ri3nf]

As a man that has now realized his faults this video was a kick in the a$$ I needed to be more open with my wife. Thank you sooo much!

[@cartelrider9375]

My wife recently asked me to leave home. It has completely devastated me. I have not been away from her this long in 24years. I have been watching these videos and reading Marriage on the Rock, and pastor evens has really opened my eyes to where I failed. I’m praying my wife does not want a divorce so that I can show her I know where I failed and I will work hard to never let her feel unloved because on my sarcastic tongue.

[@VeronicaRenaeMUA]

I could cry right now. I am experiencing a lot of these issues that Pastor Jimmy has shared. I felt this was a message I needed to hear.

[@Aris-Darling]

Good relationship advice. I particularly like the summary of the different gender’s needs - Men’s needs: 1. Honor and Respect 2. Sex 3. Friendship with his wife 4. Domestic Support Women’s needs: 1. Security 2. Non-sexual Affection 3. Open and Honest Communication 4. Leadership from her husband

[@jenn151337]

Wow I cant imagine being called goofy by my own kids! It's a miracle that marriage was saved, so happy for them

[@togodbetheglory3353]

I would give so much to be called goofy rather than many other demeaning names

[@bonniebrown6960]

I know it's bad enough to have your husband be disrespectful towards you , but then when the kids don't respect you either.... that really hurts . I know because I go through it with my husband and my daughter and son that are grown now . They weren't like that when they were growing up, but for some reason they have changed now that they're with their spouses . I don't understand why either ? All I know is it hurts my feelings . I pray about this all of the time . I tell them all to stop talking to me like that . Especially the kids . I'll tell them ... I'm your mother and you ought to be ashamed talking to me that way. I've loved you your whole lives and look how you treat me . I don't appreciate that...!!

[@togodbetheglory3353]

@@bonniebrown6960 my kids are young and that is my greatest fear! I will be praying for you

[@jenn151337]

@@togodbetheglory3353 I'm so sorry that you're being called horrible names. You do not deserve to be treated that way and you should absolutely not put up with it. You need to stand up for yourself and you should consider leaving the relationship.

[@togodbetheglory3353]

@@jenn151337 and when you stand up for yourself is when you get beat...only God can change him...even though sometimes prayers feel like empty words

[@mthokozisidlomo2369]

It's pretty amazing hey. Wives want honesty and openness at all costs. Husbands don't care if their wives are lying, just say something nice. So through confusion, Wives speak to their Husbands honestly and openly, to the detriment of the man. Husbands speak nice words even if they aren't completely true, to the detriment of the lady. We perish for a lack of knowledge

[@victorgachahimaina7516]

Oh my, never seen it that way

[@angelmason23]

You can catch more flies with honey. It's not about lying and saying nice words vs. honesty and openness. The object is to speak to the heart of your spouse

[@dawndavis9491]

The Bible tells us to speak the truth in love. Jimmy Evans is a profound teacher of God's Word. He is saying wives should honor and respect their husbands and husbands should cherish and protect their wives. He says this echoing Paul in Ephes 4 & 5. God created married couples for ministry to each other (serving heart) and the world around us (vision & mission minded).

[@christianone6611]

My hubby is emotionally and verbally abusive and I am kind and tender as his wife. So your theory doesn't apply to genders only.

[@essillius]

That brought me to tears when you said "because you dont care" because ive been going over in my head so much my recent relationship and thats the conclusion i came to.... he just... didnt... care... q.q

[@annapainter1732]

essillius me too! My thoughts exactly!

[@dianasasina9328]

I have learned, in my disfunctional, abusive marriage of 46 years, is to stay in Protect Mode at ALL times, NEVER share a thought, feeling, idea as I Would Be WRONG.... This is how he is, this is what he does and this Is ALL He Knows...He has been taught by the best of the Very Best how to tear down and DESTROY someone's Self Esteem and Self Worth, his own family, who did it to him first...

[@bekkahboodles]

Diana Sasina I'm so sorry😰 are you sure it's good to stay in such an abusive relationship?

[@dianasasina9328]

@@bekkahboodles Of Course It's NOT GOOD TO STAY... It's called the Cycle of Abuse... And I'm In It...The way to Stop It Is To Leave... It takes an average of 7 times to leave before they leave for good... I have PTSD caused by Long Term Verbal, Mental, Emotional, Psychological, Sexual and Physical Abuse... Am I Missing Something??? I'm not a Stupid Person...I'm An Abused Person Who Can't Get Out... I stay In Protect Mode At All Times...I don't Engage... I don't Trust... I don't Expect it would be different... Should I Stay? Of Course Not.... I'll Leave When I Die...

[@izzymom2745]

@@dianasasina9328 I am praying for you and your husband ♥️

[@acagl667]

This really hit the nail on the head with my relationship.

[@julalainelagat8939]

A spouse should be the caring, safest person to share with and listen with over other people.

[@kimberleewinters7434]

I wish I would've heard these sermons when I was married. I Love all these

[@phoebehindanmpama]

You are always a great blessing. I really enjoy your approach and perspective.

[@jennifercarr4759]

Love this. Great material to show you how to ma me your marriage better.

[@babybunnies]

Men need from woman: honor, sex, friendship with wife and domestic support. Woman need from men: security, non-sexual affection and communication, open and honest communication, leadership Quality Physical Intimacy: Sacrifice, trust, and safe atmosphere with trust are important in the relationship Emotional Stress Fighting Reasons relationships are hurt: Stress from works, sex, money, children, house work. The emotion of saying "I don't care" plays a role with these issues. You fall in love with someone for two reasons: You admire something in the other person and you like the way they make you feel.

[@princesswarrior2601]

My feelings might not be right but they are real - so true. Sometimes you express how you feel ( right or wrong) cause your hoping to find truth by talking about them. But you can’t talk about your feelings if you don’t feel safe to do so

[@julalainelagat8939]

Life is better when I care... I am super blessed when I have a man who would say that he takes care of me. 💛💛💛

[@emediongekong3225]

Thank you for this broadcast

[@marynelson1213]

Thank you for a great video. I’m going to share this with my Husband.

[@angelachun3314]

Prayers for my marriage. GOD ONLY KNOWS September 19, 2018

[@ashleegardner6819]

Amazing!! I need this guys opinion on my relationship if theres any saving what we have.

[@SteveandShayTv]

Wonderful

[@hoiliswu6070]

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[@blakemarshall1996]

Wonderful! ;)

[@jeremybates4938]

That's cool because it's true

[@cybertrongaming4007]

Amazing video and God bless you :)

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[@viktoriavak4117]

Thank you ❤❤❤

[@d-swank7599]

Amen

[@dorcaswambui5643]

How do you speak to a partner who doesn't care and doesn't believe in listening to marriage talks?

[@JoyofTheLord77]

Prayers prayers prayers that's the only way. God opens a door

[@jenniperkins4260]

dee wambui I feel yah! PRAY FOR HIM

[@randolphcarty5846]

Pray & let God get THEM.

[@erikons777]

Wasn't really what I was looking for, but still good

[@XOMarriage]

Thanks for tuning in!

[@jennifercarr4759]

Do you publish or write books about this stuff?? If so please give me some information on how to go about it. Thank you

[@SimplySydneyWhite]

Jennifer Carr did you watch the whole video? They do advertise his books and dvds in this video. Check it out.

[@bonniebrown6960]

I would love for my husband to listen to this with me , but he won't . I have even shared these videos with him and he won't watch them . We go to church, but he still won't listen . We will be married for 31 years Feb. 17 2020 . It's been tough and it breaks my heart .

[@peterpiper7617]

My wife won’t speak to me, 24 years of marriage and she reckons she needs to go find “happiness”. That’s what in-laws do, her sister is far and away as unchristian as one can get!

[@jasminetoti1041]

Is it true that your spouse doesn't always think of you all the time?? Because I heard Jimmy say that once 🤔😢

[@tretre4u72]

Wow!! I clearly am with the wrong man!!

[@seanskeete1905]

Pastor you are brilliant and insightful. I have listened to you listen and learning from you for some time. My only criticism is the gender stereotypes that are pervasive in many of your sermons/lessons. Men and women do not fall into the genalizations you often articlute. Please take a more dynamic approach. You say things like,' men need sex, wome need keqdeeship'. Also, I will add perhaps much of your gender stereotypes are based on your your generations outlook.. please upgrade your approach and expand your outlook.. it compromises the power of you messages. To be honest some of your messages have a slight sexist under tone in terms of how you see women's role in the family. Please upgrade. Much love and respect.

[@EricNewcomb]

Something that I see missing in this discussion, is grooming on both sides. Dress up the package

[@likeathiefinthenight1333]

People that encourage these money "gifts" especially when they get these gifts a plenty elsewhere are iffy, these things should be free if you truly want to help marriages

[@kellibodony1077]

How else do they support themselves and their ministry?

[@bygraceonly182]

Pay the laborers.

[@joyed7181]

His mask is thick.

[@mattlove9066]

A MAN SHOULD NEVER SHARE HIS FEELINGS WITH HIS WIFE AS THE HEAD AS MEN NATURALLY DON'T HAVE EMOTIONS

[@christianone6611]

That's honestly the strangest comment I've ever read. Men have emotions no matter what their role in life is and to share truth, kindness, and hearts in intimate convetsation, sharing feelings is vital for the connection of both people. Where in the world did you get your idea from?

[@mattlove9066]

@@christianone6611 NO BECAUSE WE ARE CALLED TO BE THE LEADERS AND IF WE ACT ON EMOTIONS, WHETHER GOOD OR BAD WE CAN'T OPERATE FROM LOGIC, AND A MAN SHOULD NEVER EVER SHARE NEGATIVE EMOTIONS WITH HIS SPOUSE OR GF BECAUSE WOMEN ARE WEAK IN EMOTIONS AND THE WEAKER VESSEL AND CAN'T HANDLE IT

[@christianone6611]

@@mattlove9066 Acting on emotions is not the same thing as FEELING emotions. I love it when my husband shares his feelings with me, he's my best friend. I mean, I hope your theory is working for you but it is beyond and outside of biblical teachings. Nowhere does it say that men should never share feelings with women. Many Jewish tradition tend to hold women up almost on a pedestal where they are just ADORED...and treated so lovingly. Feelings are shared often.

[@mattlove9066]

@@christianone6611 THAT'S DEMONIC TO PUT WOMEN ON A PETASTOOL BECAUSE WOMEN ARE THE WEAKER VESSEL AND SHOULD BE LEAD AND CORRECTED BUT NEVER COMFORMED TO, A WOMAM SHOULD ALWAYS COME INTO A MAN'S WORLD NOT VISA VERSA, AND YOU ARE JUST GOING BY THE MODERN-DAY LIBERAL FEMINIST LEFTIST GARBAGE, DO YOU SUPPORT ABORTION TOO???

[@mattlove9066]

@Sheila Sure no partners is a homosexual term for one, two, did you miss that part in the Bible where it says husband is head over wife, not partner