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[@MilesChronicles]

🔥🌈🪐OKAY DUDES, EVERY FRIDAY.. 2PM PST .. Q AND A.. YOU HAVE QUESTIONS? LEAVE THEM HERE -WE WILL FIGURE OUT THE ANSWER! 🔥☘🦇 I said TOO MANY WORDS today, but somehow this is the shortest video of the month??

[@KennyBye]

sometimes i can’t discern between what I want for myself and what OTHER people want for me. how do i tell the difference cuz sometimes i don’t k n o w. help

[@minarow4038]

how do I deal with people at my school forgetting my pronouns?

[@blaymilk7444]

how do I deal with people being blatantly transphobic to my face 😢

[@lizzie5361]

How do I handle someone breaking up with me bc of the fact I came out as genderfluid? is it bad i kinda regret coming out?

[@pb-y1116]

How can I be happy when so many people want to hate on what I do?

[@ptowzapotato4157]

I love that miles' channel has now just become free trans therapy

[@MilesChronicles]

OMGGGG

[@pinkforguys]

fr

[@theyoutubeidiot6203]

@@MilesChronicles watching your videos has helped me more than any of my multitude of therapists in the past😂

[@kingcharizardakaCX]

Seriously so true, laying in bed rn listening to these affirmations

[@bellamy1472]

My “baby” advice would be to take the time to consider how I feel about myself. I got so wrapped up in helping everyone else through life that for a long time I didn’t even think about how I felt as a person. We all need to let ourselves be alone sometimes to learn who we are

[@zongi700]

That's so true and very relatable in the way that i was just so busy all the time for so long that i literally didn't have time to examine my identity beyond a certain level. Taking time to look into one's identity is good, and remember that you have all the time you need, don't rush yourself.❤

[@CarbonSpire]

This video came out 18s ago and my phone alerted me. It clearly knows what I want! Love you, Miles!

[@MilesChronicles]

MUAHAHHA

[@RachelRare]

I’m so happy Miles is back, my mental health started to dip again recently and miles was my rock in youth and is yet again showing up in a time where I need support! 6 or 7 years of loving your work, and I’m still a Stan

[@אורחזז]

Not me actually reading "Stan" as Satan 😂😂

[@theon6716]

I’ve also been watching for at least 6 years and he’s been a rock for me too! In a way it feels like I’ve grown up with him :)

[@KenzeeRosebud]

Has it really been that long oh my goodness

[@Nonethelessersoul]

Agreed! I grew up watching Miles and figuring out myself and I really appreciate how insightful he is and puts the feelings I’ve been having to words. He’s so well spoken and truly inspiring!

[@cassidybrewer]

I’m a 30 year old mom and Ive been watching you for 5-6 years now. I am so proud of you for how far you’ve come and how good your advice is ❤️ you’re out here saving lives bb

[@syd_OwO]

Miles you have always been and probably always be my queer affirmation! Almost everything you say I really think about and will try to keep it in mind as I navigate my life! :)

[@lincymoonen228]

Same it is amazing. Truly self care to watch his videos

[@Supergraph1cultram0dern]

MILES. I watched ur Jesse / Arlo interview today and was so glad I was reintroduced to u after a few years. Ur so well spoken and I loved hearing what u had to say. this notification just made my day

[@MilesChronicles]

THIS IS SO NICE!!! Thank you so much!!

[@KennyBye]

these videos always feel like a weekly hangout with my cool older brother and it’s so awesome

[@bluealex6370]

I love how I had two commercials before this video and the first was like "support the gays" and the one right after it was just like "conversion therapy discount"

[@rubyredfort2843]

The two genders

[@versa3447]

Hi Miles 👋🏾, I’m on a long trip for summer vacation rn and before we left we weren’t able to pick up anymore T so the amount I have now probably won’t last me. Your videos calm me down because they made me realize that being on testosterone doesn’t define me as a guy. Anytime I panic abt it I put on your videos to calm me down. I just want to thank you for redefining what being trans is to me on a deeper level, and for everything else you do, thank you soooo much and hope you have a great rest of your day!

[@selenacatanzano1605]

My advice to my "baby" self would be what other people call "normal" may not be for you and that's ok. it's ok to be different. it's ok to not understand your feelings right away because you're still growing and experiencing things. you'll be ok.

[@yourlocalferret846]

The way I like to phrase is that no one is the same. Everyone is unique, special and different, and THAT is what makes you normal. Some people will say you aren't normal, but to me, being normal is being you. Therefor being you makes you normal.

[@oatmilkzombie]

4:20 I feel you on that, getting surgery or dressing how you want to dress not for other people but for yourself and I would hope to be able to get to that place someday myself. I am a relatively gender non-conforming trans woman at the moment, I have long hair, but I wear like punk shirts and sweat pants and part of that is safety and because I live with my parents but another part is I like that clothing. Ideally I'd be your stereotypical e-girl but I can't do that yet

[@pinkforguys]

i bet you look awesome!

[@Tadpole_Plyrr2]

Bro you sound like my ex

[@oatmilkzombie]

@@pinkforguys personally I don't think I do but I think part of that is from me hating myself and another part is dysphoria

[@NateChaos]

I came out as trans two years ago.. it got ignored hardcore and I said, well, guess I'm not trans then? Okay. So then I became more and more miserable and finally 4 months ago I came out again and told them fuck you I'm me and I won't let you tell me otherwise! I am now on my path to testosterone and top surgery. Your video got me all emotional and I love ya, bud. 🖤🥲

[@cactussoup1343]

My advice as a trans man who's been out for 3 years and started t a month ago. Trust your gut, stop questioning yourself, obviously yes trying to figure out your identity especially your gender comes with a LOT of doubt but actively reminding yourself. "Hey, if I'm wrong I'm wrong, that's just one awkward conversation." I do think before you start physically transitioning you should be sure of yourself. I hold very little if any doubt about my gender now and it took me 2ish years to get here. So because I was sure and I was ready a year ago I decided with my parents permission that yes starting testosterone at 14 was right for me. And I know it's right for me. When you get past the stage of questioning yourself of living in that constant state of imposter syndrome your life will be so much better, so please try not to doubt yourself no matter what your valid cis trans anything in-between your identity is ultimately YOUR identity and anyone else's opinion or judgement or doubt should NOT be taken into consideration when figuring out what is right for you. Ps: people who think they're faking being trans usually aren't faking being trans lmao

[@Angryand5ft4]

*doubting I can't edit my comment lmao

[@briannacabral2472]

​@Angryand5ft4 what if the opposite happens? And you have such incessant doubts about medical transition that it makes you feel like you must be cis since medical interventions don't feel suitable for you. But what if there are people in your life telling you that you can't be cis if you once thought you could be trans and if you don't transition it must be due to lack of social support etc when in actuality it's just not in our best interest? This does happen.

[@bindernbowtie]

even now, 5 years into my transition, I watch your videos and feel seen. I know I have people in my life you love me and want to understand but they don't. you understand more than anyone. your love, your good vibes, your advice, your stories they just make me feel so much less alone and like there are actually people like me who I don't have to explain things to and really see me for me and understand what I've been through. Thank you for being that for so many people. I hope I get to meet you in person some day.

[@culthero666]

I spent 30 years wearing a coat every time I went out so I could hide. Even in 30⁰c summer weather. When covid hit I said fuck it and bought myself a binder for the first time at 45. I love it I finally feel like me. I do plan to have top surgery in the future but I'm in the process of losing weight gained from decades of anti depressants and anti psychotics. Down 60lbs so far. Once I hit my goal I'm going to treat myself with something I wanted since I was 10 (yes early puberty, I literally should have been on puberty blockers, puberty at 10 is hell for anyone let alone a trans kid). Oh and I just got your book yesterday! Loving it. I really wish transphobes understood what it meant to be trans and that it's far more complex than they can imagine and just how hard it is to go through life with gender dysphoria.

[@levimora3025]

Be who you were born as. How can you think you need to surgically alter your body to be something you aren't? Sweden and Finland have banned these procedures(keep in mind they were for doing these procedures prior to banning it) because it does not lead to being positive for the individual over time.

[@imarrywhales]

You're not going to hell. There's no such thing other than the hell that we put ourselves in. You're totally smart and capable. I believe in you. I love you. I believe in Buddhism. It's the belief that you have to know yourself to get to nirvana. And the only punishment is that if you don't transcend this life this time then you have to come back through reincarnation and do it again. Until you can finally reach nirvana "heaven". As long as you try your best and act as a good person in this life then you won't go to hell. Trust me, you're a great person Miles! You totally are. God loves everybody not just straight people.

[@justalilevan2306]

I’m about to be 21 and some advice that I would have loved to tell baby me is that things happen for a reason and eventually everything will work out. Though you still haven’t medically transitioned yet, know that you will find people who love and support you through everything that you do. You need to take time for yourself and you don’t always have to sacrifice your own happiness for the happiness of others. You’re still figuring stuff out and that’s okay. You got this and I’m so proud of how strong you are. I know you want to give up sometimes, but you need to push through because one day all your effort will be worth it and you will be happy

[@usfilms8828]

I got my first short haircut ever last week after being out for 3 years and I’m so glad I finally did it. It’s so weird I don’t think as much it’s so nice I think so much and now it’s one less thing to worry about

[@NeuroArrow]

You make life seem so easy and straightforward, wish i could live like that

[@ahhh4117]

It kinda hurts to watch when u can't have it, I really feel that

[@rinpaisys]

Nah, your sense of humor is amazing lmao.

[@sweeetjuicetv]

i literally listen to boys will be boys so much shxjshd its on my everyday playlist bc its a BANGER

[@calico582]

I listen to it every time I do a T shot. It’s just perfect to build up the courage to do it

[@StarrDarlingg]

Miles was like my queer awakening hes helped me figure out who I am since I’ve been in 4th grade and now I’m a highschool freshman and here it is again him helping me because I’m trans masc and use he/they pronouns but I love big goth eyeliner and but not always wearing skirts or dresses but today I bought a skirt that I thought was really cute but I was unsure because I want to present masc and I still love femme clothing too but his whole thing about knowing who you are and not needing others approval is my sign to strut into school with that skirt

[@ronanvaldr2305]

My first tattoo is “better luck next time” obviously it’s a saying besides your song but that tattoo and your song helped me come out, so thank you. You mean so much to me and you’ve helped me so much ❤️

[@PlutosAsleep]

as a borderline, (BPD/ Borderline Personality Disorder) they moving out answer really resonated with me. I love you miles, i grew up with you, my first video was when you dyed your leg hair purple

[@sarahkate717]

Bro , Miles, it is crazy how good you are at this

[@calebhammocks4952]

Hi Miles. Great video as always :) I broke my commenting silence on your last video and since then I’ve attended and spoke at 2 trans anti-conversion therapy protests. My first 2 protests ever as well. They went pretty well I’d say except both of my speeches got interrupted by rude transphobes 😤. I’m really glad you’re posting videos again as they do help a lot 😊🏳️‍⚧️

[@MilesChronicles]

[@axellordofchaos]

Hi Miles! Thank u so so so much for the part about being careful who u choose to be around after leaving a situation. It def made me think about some things cause it’s almost one year since I moved out. I started watching u a few months ago and ur vibes r immaculately cool and ur videos give me a lot of hope and happiness. Just another punk rock kid saying thank u so much for being u, ur a huge inspo for me! : ) 🖤

[@jaspx-2964]

okay this is nice the whole thing about your conversation with tha that cis man and all you said a) about doing what you want b) about not being fulfilled c) about the right people not finding you until you are genuinely yourself they are most or less the exact same things i wrote to my parents in an email following tons of clashes and arguments about my looks and the clothes. feel so seen rn ❤️

[@tyluhbaybay]

i come back to this channel at least a couples times every year since youve started just to see how ur doing ur doing to well!!! im so proud of you!!

[@chelseangum700]

Ok dude I haven’t seen vids from your channel in a hot minute, but I am recently coming out more publicly about my identity. And literalllllly minutes before I got a push notification to this video, my dad was going off about peoples genitals to me when I casually corrected him when he deadnamed a celebrity. I dropped the argument before it really became one, and went to my room and sulked and that’s when the notif came through and it was the exact reminder I needed. Literally thank you so much even if it meant my phone was listening to my parents yelling about peoples body parts and attempting to erase my identity without knowing they were doing so lol. The laughter is what I needed thank you thank you.

[@padda_seun]

Bro I've come so far in my journey as a trans guy and you've been a big part of that 💙 2 months on T and going strong

[@olliemcilhagga6172]

also the other day my mom told me "i support you now but i'm so glad you weren't born a boy! i'm not a boy mom🤪" it hurt in the moment but after 🥰crying to my therapist🥰 i just now am internally like UM KRISTIN. 😺I HATE TO BREAK IT TO YOU BUT YOU'VE BEEN A BOY MOM THIS WHOLE TIME💅anyway

[@jackofall267]

advice to my baby self would definitely be to watch out for yourself and take care of yourself. dont let other people's emotions dictate how you live your life, leave them if you need to. and if you can't, try talking, try working things out. it's easy to get defensive and angry but it's so much better to try and keep yourself calm, even though it'd very very hard

[@duke6726]

You are courageous, insightful, honest,cute beyond words and funny as hell. Your a light (flame) in the damn darkness...Good Work.

[@ar_t_lo]

OMG the non-binary part made me think about something that constantly happens to a friend of mine: he's ftm, but he loves wearing make up and nail polish and "feminine" clothes. Which I think is AMAZING. but however he constantly get comments like "Oh, so you're not really a guy then?" Or "Did you change your mind?" Which, I mean, wtf??

[@christopherquinn9136]

I would tell my younger self to just do it. Say what I needed to say, stand up for myself, dress how I wanted to, etc. If I had been vocal and confident in myself, I think it would have been easier to find support at a younger age.

[@Piercethebenx]

Chaos being normal is so true I also realized that people I chose were just like the people I didn’t want in my life and it’s hard to avoid that

[@FlotsamCarnage]

Miles tysm for the affirmations at the end I rly needed that today!! Also dropping some Tru facts with the befriending people who are exactly like your toxic family uuuugh. I too have bamboozled myself many times that way

[@mimisuu.o]

Here’s my (more like Miles’) advice to my little baby self (for me around, like, 2 years ago, maybe even up to a month ago): 8:26 - the rest of the question’s answer Thanks btw, Miles!! I’ve been watching your videos for nearly 2 years now and you’ve been a HUGE part of “the discovery stage” in my evolution. Thanks, Miles 🌈

[@jayrpep2524]

Miles needs to go on Ashley Gavin’s podcast or the two of them need to collab in some way, very different people but their humor, energy, and education with a variety of experiences would be iconic

[@Fruityflootloops]

About finding people who don’t need you to change or do anything to receive their love: That doesn’t mean you may not need to alter things to be a healthier person or behave in a way that is healthier for the relationship. It does mean, though, that as you are you are fully loved by that person, flaws and all. There may be times you love someone or are loved by someone that you have to go seperate ways because someone is struggling to act in a way that is healthy for the other or boundaries are not being respected, but you can still love each other. So do search for those who love you as you are and don’t try and change YOU, but if someone is asking to set boundaries or something like that, that is not an attempt to change you. Just thought that was important advice and it’s something I learned recently. ❤️

[@_gremlinboy]

Boys will be boys has remained in one of my primary playlists since it was released, a few thousand of those plays are me. A banger

[@ryot_ryot]

I get so many hate comments so, I am glad you can help me get a better perspective.

[@bladeglow]

advice to my baby self is that if you shield yourself from the bad feelings you'll end up feeling nothing and experiencing nothing good either. and thats not worthy it. feel the pain and feel the good things strongly

[@cyrecebrown776]

I have and always will love you when I first found you years and years ago you brought so much to light for me 😂♥️🖤♥️

[@UnNormalSoup]

Really glad you exist! thank you for being yourself!

[@collidewurmom]

I LOVE YOU MILES YOUVE HELPED ME SO MUCH IN MIFE BEEN WATCHUNG FOR YEARS IM SO GLAD YOURE POSTING AGAIN

[@MilesChronicles]

AHHHHH THANK YOU SO MUCH

[@collidewurmom]

@@MilesChronicles NO THANK YOU FOR HELPUNG ME FIND MYSELF

[@cottoncandy4494]

To answer the question: I would tell myself that it's okay for you to be fluid. Just because one day you feel masc and the next you feel fem doesn't mean you're genderfluid, you're still non-binary, just changing expression

[@montythepenguin409]

i’m not that old rn, but i recon that if i could talk to myself around 5 years ago, i would say that you shouldn’t make friends based on what you think society wants. go out there and spend time with the people who you actually want to spend time with so that you can be yourself to the fullest extent. honestly i’m still trying to figure out how to be myself today after hiding it for so long. and if i never hid, i think that i would have been happier both back then and now.

[@cLaY-dt9oz]

MILES! MAKE MORE MUSIC AND POST IT TO SPOTIFY!!! NOW!!

[@penny-lizbeth09]

I wished I had found your channel sooner! I love this! Keep up the good work! ❤

[@Nikrowe1]

Miles is gender envy that I know is achievable and it’s the best thing. Most comforting guy out there

[@froggyhope]

every since you started this series Friday is my favorite day of the week

[@movieyouser]

A advice I would give to "baby" me is to slow down and stay calm. Not to let people control my life just because they're cis and don't understand. And just to take my time. But also to tell my therapist about the trans part, cause pushing it back won't bring anything except for bugging future me.

[@nolawonlysoup]

If I could give advice to baby me it would be don’t come out at the cavetown concert, come out to Ethan sooner he will offer support, hide your tumblr from your mom better, and get the binder package before mom does

[@nathaniels314]

“this is something i learned in highschool: i wasn’t happy” that was so funny for no reason 😭

[@fizzlewizard404]

so glad to see you posting again :D

[@Julia99lol]

I'm getting top surgery in October and I'm so scared about regretting it or doing it for outside validation, but I just realised that my friend who are the ones supporting me already see me as non binary, and the people who don't, will probably never see me as anything other than my birth gender so I'm not doing it for anyone other than myself

[@redacted7872]

Bro the question “I’m 18, been a fan since I was 12, and moving out soon” was just so 1:1 of my life that I momentarily thought I asked the question and forgot I asked it.

[@ahomefordreams]

i would probably tell baby me that no state of being is forever. i spent so long trying to be so many different things with the pressure that they would be forever when actually not everything lasts forever and you should just do whatever you enjoy and will make your life happier, even if for a short while

[@dee99ess]

Love you, Miles 🖤🤍

[@Idk-pv7du]

Miles can’t do serious talks 💀💀 Him laughing 24/7 😂

[@uniqueunderstatment6361]

My advice for my "baby" self would be that it's not okay if these people are treating you this way and it's not normal that they're treating you that way. It would be to speak up and that there is nothing wrong with how I am that I'm the way I am because I want to be and that's okay.

[@AlienLife007]

I love you, Miles! I have a question, in what episode of Goosebumps was your favorite to film in? You are absolutely amazing; I can't wait to hear from you! ❤

[@jannamontejano1034]

My advice to baby me would be, don't try to please everyone because it's just not possible, take your time and do what you really want to do because in the end the only person you can really be responsible for is yourself so do what you are comfortable with and follow the path that is for you

[@LukeErwinLIVE]

I love this new video series :) tbh this has helped me a lot! TYSM!!!

[@zakbrand7354]

Love you miles. You make my day 1000/0 better after watching one of your videos. Your the king

[@a.k.painter8281]

Brother every video you post is a gift

[@Idontwanttobehereanymore]

I am literally watching this hours before going to my firts pride!!!

[@sygilloux-v2]

Boys Will Be Boys is a fuckin BOP bro, you did that! xD

[@Finn-xu1ku]

I'm so excited for this

[@LilTypoManns24601]

My advice would be this: just because your big sister, who was at the time taller than you and knew how to count to 100 and who now is going to law school, is scared of butterflies doesn't mean you also have to be scared of them. They don't bite, they aren't venomous, they just bumble around. It's ok, you can let go, they're just butterflies dude...

[@becklong5111]

Honestly, I feel like I could use some advice from my baby self at the moment. Little me was relentlessly myself, he gave no f*cks and took no bs from anybody but somewhere along the way to today I think I let myself shamed into caring about what other people think. Still trying to be brave enough to be myself every day, but I think he’d be proud of me regardless

[@istoleyourbees]

2:53 I legitimately said the exact same thing in time with you here and then did a _Mickey Mouse laugh_ in reaction to it

[@narniasheep]

Miles is my trans father who will be there for me as a queer teen who is living thru life.

[@grey8288]

Dude though, one of the top worst things as someone who now passes as an FTM white man, I don't have to be as afraid of transphobes but they have no fear of me. Now I'm just vibing with the bros and then suddenly the bros are transphobic around me cus they just don't know. And then I know that they aren't people I want to be around, but it still is hard to find a crew and then suddenly find that said crew is shit.

[@zabecartowsky4724]

I love your humor!

[@catienoble3191]

My advice for "baby me" would be this: if you're pushing and kicking a certain label away from you by refusing to question if it applies to you, that's a sign that you should question it/try it out. I knew I was attracted to women for a few years before realizing I am a lesbian, but I kicked the label of "lesbian" away from me because I insisted that I was attracted to men, like that was a fact I could not question because I already knew the answer. I did not, in fact, know the answer. The reason I refused to admit that, or even question whether, I was gay was just internalized homo- and lesbophobia.

[@marshmallowweekly8575]

I'm a emo autistic non binary person who loves anime and litterly i was told by one of my exs before we broke up that you can't be emo and love anime while your non binary, its so messed up. How dumb is that to say

[@larf_13]

Literally 🐌🐀 THEM. THEY ARE LOVERS!!! 🐌🖤🐀

[@unstableratdog4179]

Can we just talk about miles’ eyes tho???? They’re sooooo nice

[@constant_change72]

SERVING DR. MILES!!!!!YAAAAASSSSS

[@jeandunham1363]

I'm nonbinary and want top surgery but more in the sense of a breast reduction so I can wear a binder

[@olliemcilhagga6172]

Omg I almost forgot - my favorite bit of advice I like to give to myself and other people (bc let's be honest, advice is something that we have to remind ourselves of sometimes) is that terminology and finding words to describe your identity /can/ be for you if you'd like, but it's not a requirement to be LGBT. You can just be yourself and the words can come about when and if they need to. I'm "technically" nonbinary transmasc pansexual, but I just have for a long time embraced the word "queer" and "fluid". My most "gender" moments don't come when I get called a MAN or BOY, it comes when people look at me and get so confused bc they can't assign me a gender - there's not a word for it, but it's okay because I just get to be me regardless

[@griffinhawk_]

i can completely relate with this. im just trans because I'm sbeing seen as the other gender I am - and I'm just attracted to everyone, and I don't feel the need to label it. i just use the word queer or just the normal pride flag - because I'm just non cishet and that's just it. i don't have to be a big fancy thing, I just wanna wear my pride flag and go on w my day

[@Affenganove12]

Miles u inspire me sm

[@nightime3242]

'Pack it up skittle squad' 😭😭😭😭

[@SelenaHernandez]

I 100% agree with your view on hate comments 1- they are just so funny to me

[@ananyathosar7984]

Miles got so buff omg

[@thedespairsies]

I LOVE HIS LAUGH LMAOOOO

[@divrodricks2525]

the way he says "today" like ramalauw

[@annspirit24]

We are the children of god and he loves all of us❤ we are endless life .

[@kaikazze]

I love boys will be boys and listen to it soooo often so I would love more music , but obviously you do you 🦄

[@jaxthealien6329]

Bro this video is so validating as a trans guy wtf

[@mikaelj05]

omg a miles vid on my birthday ?? hell yea

[@blaymilk7444]

happy birthday!!

[@ahhh4117]

Baby advice: Being asexual and/or more feminine doesn't negate what feels right or who u are

[@TheyAreEli]

The advice I’d give myself it to do what you want with your hair. For so long I was afraid to cut it short or color it because I thought people would stare, I’m not saying people don’t stare now but my advice is to not care and do it anyway. My hair is so gender affirming now and it’s my favorite thing when I look in the mirror.

[@istoleyourbees]

My ice cream stick just fully slid out of the ice cream as I tried to pick it up just now as I’m watching this video, everyone plz say rip my butterkist popcorn ice cream

[@fru1tpunk965]

so exciteddd for this