'You're Using Him and Abusing Him'

[@dc3fan]

he deserves better

[@michellejohnson1298]

Sara yes he does and could have done better also.

[@tammyhart6467]

Yes ma’am!!

[@lamecobain8888]

Perioooooodd

[@thecanadianpainter]

Doesn’t everybody

[@stingaify]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/e2i0fJWOl7iEeLs blessings

[@damotoneko1500]

When even the judge is urging a man to divorce his wife, you better divorce.

[@jdogzerosilverblade299]

no thats not bad. when a DIVORCE judge tells you to divorce then divorce. XD

[@stewmeat92]

Especially a female judge

[@Tonnnnia]

Especially a female judge. I love her she is honest and uplifting especially to the women in her court, so when she is basically telling you your woman is trash take heed and do better.

[@belovedtruth3447]

@@Tonnnnia I wonder what's gonna happen to trash like her after she loses such nice person!

[@solipsism.7664]

I'm the 1100th like. Cool.

[@iamtheone3808]

"If you were my son, I would tell you to run." OOOOOOOOHHHHHHHH

[@eyeseer1]

The judge wasn't wrong. Even the women in court didn't respect his girl.

[@larrycalloway1724]

I am the one Amen ✊🏽🤟🏽

[@RealLadi228]

Ouch

[@kizuatogaming3125]

lol i can be ur 1.7k like

[@RealLadi228]

She had a answer for everything...entitled and delusional 🙄

[@roastingpotato]

He looks like a nice,sweet guy,and a little timid. My heart bleeds for him,I hope he got out of there and is living his life better now,because I just hate it when people take advantage of kind persons like him.

[@masteraxe1453]

And that is the reason why guys that are just like him turn into jerks. Never get appreciated for anything and get looked down upon and seen as weak.

[@mesidye]

He looks dumb. Dude doesn’t care for himself at all. He tolerated way too much.

[@terra_the_nightingale135]

mesidye I feel both. I feel that he’s an idiot for being a pushover and at the same time I feel awful for him because he deserves so much better. But either way I hope he’s doing well

[@TJDW]

Just stay single, something so simple to do

[@NegativeZenn]

@@ianerickson2210 Please don’t victim blame or go into any professions similar to this, thank you 💕

[@JeremyScott459]

“Keep ya family out ya business” ma’am the judge isn’t his family

[@Dee29140]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@taylordupree6065]

Yo the fact that she even said that 🤣😂🤣😂🤣

[@56Terrance]

Yeah she’s not the brightest and neither is the audience member clowning

[@aarontippery4176]

Translation..”stay away from anyone that would encourage you to hold me accountable”

[@creator1204]

And the crowd laughed. Imagine if the guy said something like that. The media and news channel would have turned him into the next Hitler

[@rochellebanks6651]

Wow, she does not love him at all. She treats their relationship like a transaction.

[@SimonKnight1023]

so...she’s a woman?

[@phago7867]

@@SimonKnight1023 Some people still think there's a difference 😆

[@SimonKnight1023]

@@phago7867 women are confused because they don’t take accountability. They can’t see their similarities.

[@KartalaBreed]

@@SimonKnight1023 what does this mean? Are you saying that you think all women view their relationships as transactional?

[@SimonKnight1023]

@@KartalaBreed Mostly. Simply loving a woman and being there for her isn’t enough. She’ll always require more tangible displays of sincerity.

[@PhillipBoydIII-hr4hj]

This nigga ain't nothing but a babysitter and a ATM to this trifling chick.

[@manz400]

Phillip Boyd III right

[@Marcus_Thomas_]

But they love to tell you how awesome black women and women in general are. Lol

[@dawnwillingham4432]

@@Marcus_Thomas_ just like you bitches like to say black men aren't predators and pedophiles

[@shaquana12hyatt]

Facts

[@jehovahrohi969]

​@dawnwillingham4432 this the same thing he talks about look at you go, u sounds bitter and even worse than the lady in court sad.

[@cynda1178]

"Keep your family out of our business." Classic abusive behavior.

[@HebiSnake]

Yepppp

[@fi1e3rr0r7]

I _know_ and I think she doesn't deserve him at _all_ .... but I found that hilarious

[@AndrewVaillant]

Would've loved to hear a guy say that shit.

[@jaksaforetic3965]

Yea isolation to control. Clasic narcistic tactic.

[@peter3388]

There is no way a man can say that to the woman. It would be met with all sorts of oh he's controlling and abusive and isolating here.

[@CSGray-nf2hx]

We’ve been sitting here telling women they don’t need no man, we forget to tell men they don’t need no woman. That’s coming from a woman as well. You best believe my nephews are about get a call from Auntie Cee telling them they don’t need girlfriends, just some good friends who’ll tell them when they’re being stupid.

[@NishaLarein]

!!!!

[@Synthwave89]

1000%

[@MuddaAsian]

And then turn those friends who may potentially be girls, to first picks for finding girlfriends.

[@blast2686]

A woman doesnt need a bad man

[@noirwashere]

PERIOD

[@Tonnnnia]

I hope he never changes who he is and just changes who he's with.

[@MuddaAsian]

I hope he changes for the better. The reason why he got into this situation was because he was in love but he was a weak man. Men these days need to understand that the best man you can be is someone who can be dangerous, but has self-control.

[@trvsvp5734]

If that's the case then he will just end up in the same situation but with a different woman.

[@Aaadybaoy]

Exactly

[@RJ12347]

She gave him an std tho

[@ampocalypsew3883]

No he does need to change, he needs to have more respect and love for himself. Not be a pushover or a doormat, he can still be sweet and caring tho

[@MZUNUSUAL]

She make me sick she just a baby making machine she is not a mother , she is one of those women that looking for support not love and they always snatch the good ones and abuse them when they find the good woman to treat them good they treat that good woman bAd.

[@crystlebelle3865]

Exactly.chain reaction.💯🥺

[@queeie718]

So true💯

[@lolalina_]

@Joker Siam she meant that people like her destroy good hearted people.. So many(not all thankfully) turn bad and can't trust other good hearted people anymore and sometimes start changing their behaiver to the point where they start treating others bad Abuse circle

[@sabrinacosta5667]

Abuse circle

[@kimvinson6558]

Ms Unusual, never a truer word spoken.

[@johnnyboy2065]

This is why gentlemen. You should not be a nice guy, but instead be a good man.

[@Carib6855]

Right

[@theoneman2084]

I love this comment. ❤​@@Carib6855

[@catherinegabriel760]

She's NOT the most attractive looking lady. I don't know what he sees in her

[@5822huron]

Catherine Gabriel good head

[@willskywalk]

Simps don't think straight when it comes to single mothers for various reasons

[@sentientbeing9411]

No she looks good that smooth ebony skin is the best. But that attitude and her lack of respect for him and men in general leaves her undesirable.

[@WSeeker]

@Brad Smith define "women in general" you mysogynistic twat.

[@3434game]

Yo, she's in first place for one of the ugliest women I've seen. That has a lot to do with her personality as well.

[@plummy221]

RUUUUNNNN!!!!!!!

[@robertmiller8218]

The most hurtful feeling is when you're in a relationship, and you significant other doesn't appreciate you for the things you do, that hurts a lot

[@juanitacooper9296]

Amen

[@Sunlight-zx2ur]

“If you were my son, I would tell you to run.”

[@shawnmunck7412]

"I'm not talking to her cuz I dont think she can hear me." 😂😂😂 priceless lmao

[@Queen_beulahOfficial]

He's too nice....needs to put his foot down, she's walking all over him.

[@yodamida169]

He will always be walked over by vvomen of all kinds because he is a passive beta male... Even the vvomen judge told him to run away but he still did not understand...the poor.

[@kimjoan212]

This is classic narcissistic abuse ......

[@brojo4877]

She takes advantage of him and you say its a issue with him? He's trying to make her happy and come thru for her in every way he can, and she takin advantage of him but he's the person that need to change. That's crazy..

[@yodamida169]

@@brojo4877 That's unfortunately the bitter reality, you should not be very soft otherwise people will use and abuse you. When it comes to vvomen multiply that by 10, they definitely have no respect or empathy for nice soft man... and they will abuse them to the last cell in their body...

[@brojo4877]

@@yodamida169 true, quite unfortunate but I do understand the fact that women like dominate partners, when I was younger I realized that being super nice wasn't working so I had to add in some attitude and dominance but also be kind hearted ya know and it works here and there.

[@marquishoward3529]

A prime example of being careful who u get involved with. Some people not looking 4 love, they looking 4 help

[@fayisvv3247]

It's fine even if it's for help.but the problem is when they don't even appreciate that help. I mean help can one day evolve to love but this women is insult to human species.

[@kjphantom3445]

@@fayisvv3247 😂😂😂insult to the human species

[@rosebarnes9625]

Fine line between helping and enabling....

[@The1baddman]

Man, I got one word for you.... RUN !!

[@Mario_Fields]

The name of the episode is: Tanisha Armstrong vs. Rotayvous Nevins from Season 16

[@laurenciajoseph6502]

Thank you

[@lakshmivijay3857]

Thanks a lot

[@tatiana-1987]

Thank you

[@Yaya_____]

Thank you 🙏🏿

[@m1m1williams2]

Thank you

[@reginaldgreen6221]

If a woman tell you to run from another woman to save yourself, RUUUNNN!!!!

[@rosebarnes9625]

That's what surprised me.... a woman broke from the herd and called this "thing" out!!! Shhhhhocking!!!

[@mr.dennis5503]

That's Judge Toler in a nutshell. She's ALWAYS on the side of truth!

[@bridgetwilliams5231]

I guarantee if it was just her he would've already been gone. He's probably afraid of what will happen with the children if he's not there. Although they are not his, he has cared for them and grown attached. I feel bad for the children.

[@LShorty]

I love that judge only takes the right side.. No bias.. That's a judge

[@alexforce9]

He have the classical look of a son, who have been told by his mother that "men aint shit" and "be good to girls".

[@jaycesmith7899]

Facts.

[@phantomgamer9264]

Probably raised by a single mother too and wants to be a good guy, but can't find a good girl. I feel deeply bad for him

[@qwan4712]

So u just gon ignore him saying his family tell him the same thing and just blame his mother for rasing a kind hearted brotha🤦🏿

[@troooooper100]

@@qwan4712 lifetime of flawed upbringing means these words are falling on deaf ears... his mom may have been advising him now to leave his wife but that's what she trained him to be like. Really more of a time to reap what they sow.

[@qwan4712]

@@troooooper100 And his father?😂 it's sad that you know nothing about this man up bringing but you're assuming his dad is not in his life 🥴what does that say about black men.🤔🤔

[@makusuwerusan7390]

The best advice my parents has ever given me is to run when I really needed too and I'm glad I listened LOL

[@DesertRunner602]

Damn. This dude is doing everything and she calls it “helping out”, not “raising a family.” This is a rare type of guy. Women need to appreciate men like him.

[@rosebarnes9625]

She has looked at him as weak because he cared for so long she now freely shows open contempt.

[@marquishoward3529]

Most women don’t appreciate dudes like him, they just only use them

[@cryospiral]

This is one of the main reasons I don't believe someone without kids should marry someone who already has kids by somebody else. Edited: 8/25/20 To all you breeders out there, this is for you. In my original unedited comment which you can see above I didn't say there was anything wrong with dating people with children nor did I say all people with children or like that. I wish people would take more time to understand instead of trying to reach for an argument to defend against a statement that I never made. If someone does not want to date someone with children that is their preference, not a judgment. At least if you have all your children with an ex-spouse it looks like you tried to do the right thing instead of having babies all willy-nilly and expecting the next significant other to be a pseudo parent. Not everyone's children are out of wedlock but lots are. So to the people in that group ( especially you have multiple children by multiple people )who find my original post offensive, this is what I say to you; You can't have the morals of an alley cat and still expect to be a golden ticket. With every child you produce with every different partner it creates more and more of a potential mess. But if someone wants you, hey I'm not knocking them or you. Just not for me.

[@jeanette1510]

cryospiral llk

[@lenanash798]

You have a right to believe that but just for the record everyone ain't like that

[@oenrn]

Anyone can have a relationship that doesn't work and be left with kids to support, and shouldn't be judged for that. But when the same person has several children from several different fathers, it's a red flag that she was the problem in those failed relationships.

[@griemypooh1413]

I don't have kids and I avoid single mothers.

[@topazfire974]

cryospiral I totally agree with you I’m in a totally agree with you that woman has got a lot of nerve

[@romanparrish6911]

Raised by a single mother i can bet his mother told him he needs to play daddy to her children and you see where it got him nowhere

[@nichelledavis2202]

Roman Parrish Yep and that's fucked up!

[@jerrynavarro9580]

This is what happens when you play the nice guy role !

[@sentientbeing9411]

The single mommy syndrome never fails...

[@UnfamiliarIntimacy]

sour airhead Please attempt offer an explanation that isn't half assed. I've been waiting to be entertained today.

[@spimentel562]

I'm a single mom and I told my son not to date a single mom. He will always be secondary. I date and I always choose my son.

[@NishaLarein]

"Keep your family out your business" 😭😭😭 why? so you can continue to use him as you please in peace? girl bye!

[@eli__1844]

Idk if it’s just me but I think I can see literal tears in the judges eyes, she’s such a sweet and caring woman even if she is a little harsh with her words. I would die for her.

[@marcuscross8051]

There's something badly wrong when somebody needs to go on TV to be told that they are in a messed up relationship.

[@donjohn281]

If yo whole family tells you and a judge to leave bro, pack ya bags and dip!!

[@thequitefranklyshow1518]

Judge Lynn looks like she was about to cry 😭🤦🏽‍♂️

[@soulrpower3031]

That poor guy, nobody should endure disrespect, abuse, or being taken advantage of by anyone.

[@funmilolaadesina8284]

'Keep your family out your business' lol

[@tishataray]

Funmilola Adesina 😂😂😂😂

[@KPITGangsta]

When it's appropriate.

[@user-zx5xw4yw2e]

True statement but it didn't apply here as that wasnt the issue. Bless her heart.

[@tshiruh5]

😂😂😂🤣🤣

[@PATexas]

Thats a ratchets way of brainwashing. Cause family gonna let him know she aint shit.

[@curtistinemiller1560]

JUDGE LYNN KEEPS IT REAL ..🏃 🏃 ASAP........

[@MrBeautiful2908]

I've been i relationships like this before. My brother. Be smart. Move Forward. Seek God. Seek serenity. Take charge of your destiny! You can do it. Have faith!

[@rosebarnes9625]

And work on bettering yourself!

[@ellandecampbell6279]

She's 1 of those women that want to be treated "like a queen", but isn't willing to treat a guy like a king in return

[@paulgutman3157]

That's a good tease. I want to see the whole episode.

[@tyronehuston1260]

Love that Judge Lynn doesn't play favorites. She's hardheaded entitled and ungrateful. What a Leech.

[@purpletylenol7787]

I love how they explore that really sensitive point and make it explode but its amazing to watch

[@DCBiscuit]

My heart goes out to him, hope he’s doing great.

[@humancattoy7767]

Dude. Get away from that as fast as possible.

[@paradoxdea]

That's real talk! Run for the hills man!

[@ariannemilosavljevic9825]

This is so depressing: there’s the narrative of the black father who isn’t loyal to his family and he’s not part of that and yet his loyalty is costing him dearly

[@nurhayat81]

And unfortunately some black men then only go for non-black women.

[@jessielemon6967]

@@nurhayat81 Because they find other races more attractive.

[@randomhuman97]

@@jessielemon6967 that applies either way

[@jessielemon6967]

@@randomhuman97 Sure

[@jasmineartis5754]

He’s not a father to any of her children so he doesn’t have to stay.

[@antonettestrong1430]

Judge Toler is everything ...

[@williammason475]

Get out and run for the hills, brother!!!!

[@rebels42wynn83]

He seems like a very nice guy. She is just so trifling and unappreciative.

[@Rosedagreen98]

00:54 all the women in the court room were so disappointed and disgusted when she said nothing is free..I shook my head too..my dude Run away

[@rws91942]

RUN !!!!

[@safala]

And here I never thought I’d hate someone in less than a minute.

[@JabokChannel]

See, THIS is why I LOVE Judge Lynn!

[@josyjoseph4243]

Wow... I was thinking the same word before she mentioned "RUN"

[@coldflames3639]

"Mr.... If you were my son, I would tell you to run" LOL!!

[@ernestinespady7863]

Run young man! You're handsome, kind, considerate. Run fast, don't stop. She's no eye candy at all

[@glendanesmith]

Oh wow this a mess!!

[@jack-exzolt9858]

The court may be laughing now, but you could see Judge Lynn's eyes about to tear up as she's waiting on the guy's realization.

[@slimee5549]

Even after the judge told him all that he still looks lost 🤦‍♂️

[@brennathecatlover4360]

Not his fault the female was abusive

[@fractured6702]

The way that woman nods after the judge paints the picture like, "Yez that's whad I waent."

[@Overlord0011]

I've got three words for that guy: Run, bitch, run!

[@dawnbowers9722]

This hurt my heart. 😢

[@lemonadelemon1960]

RUN!

[@TheBobblemin]

This man deserves an award for his efforts. Mad props to you dude.

[@honeyswann]

Remember , if you’re in an abusive relationship and experience either domestic or mental abuse, don’t be scared to get help or run away

[@Arxiuz2]

ive never had to constrain upchuck from hearing a testimony but here we are

[@JST03]

I notice how a lot of ppl assume that just because someone is a woman that they're a good woman or know how to be a girlfriend. Yet with guys, they're always telling them what they need to do or how to be or just coming at them in general, then their relationship ends up like this and they'll find some way to blame him for it.

[@yolondashort3410]

Leave her

[@beanenita9840]

God bless him. May he finds his true love ❤️

[@jablacksheep3351]

He still doesn't see it.

[@PeekaBooo25]

When she grows old alone until she dies, maybe she’ll see the error of her ways. Then again, some people never learn...🤷🏽

[@blue12night2]

He’s not going anywhere. He’s already conditioned for the kids

[@IyaAdelolaOduyemi]

I want to see this full episode

[@53subscribersnovideos35]

"And you got an STD." [Audience laughs]

[@dezfyah]

He looks hypnotized like a spell is on him... he don't know what to say. Come on bruh...run, get out and don't look back.

[@emmasarge4057]

Exactly.

[@kassimrayford7163]

She don't give a damn about him she's using him. Talking about ain't nothing free like he's the trick and she's the call girl

[@animemaster2400]

Sad thing is, depending on the age of her children, how long they were together, and what city they live in (I hope it's not Detroit) a judge would say that legally he's the father by default. Damn the fact that she's getting child support from who knows how many men.

[@marquesekj]

It better not be Detroit lol

[@KatsuKasuu]

if they're not married, he can't be their father. that's illogical and retarded

[@animemaster2400]

@@KatsuKasuu It doesn't matter if they're married or not, she can put whoever's name on the birth certificate and because of that, the man is dad by default.

[@miekaash6831]

@@animemaster2400 but she’s already getting child support from the other fathers, however many there are. Which means their name is on the birth certificate. You can’t just change it lol

[@call2872]

I love the judge for her wisdom.

[@numberone5680]

Yep, being used!

[@CreativeThinking52]

Run and don't look back. 🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️🏃‍♂️

[@Dougie19xx]

I miss Judge Lynn SO MUCH!!!!!

[@moneymusicent100]

I want to see this whole case

[@jojogreaux1788]

That a woman is a gold digger. If I was he I would run so far I know you even look back. Good and bad and women bad and good in man but I don't know where she is that's why you can't train your children I'm from Young and spoil them because when they get in relationships the expect everything from the woman or the man

[@bjosh02]

Poor thing, it's not connecting

[@jordanfender3085]

She’s definitely wrong for all that but that shit was hilarious when she said “keep your family out ya business” 😂😂😂😂😂

[@shaniaferguson4492]

This judge is the most realest one

[@Brandon_737]

"Aint nothin free your honor ". Proceeds to get everything for free.

[@BlackDiamond1967]

I knew this comment was in here somewhere

[@rosebarnes9625]

I guess you completely missed what she was saying.... she was saying she is a ho through and through so she's not sleeping with him for free!! He's gotta pay full premium markup for her worn out "stuff" that she gave away for free to her baby daddies....

[@maximusbaxter6798]

I love this judge shes so wise and true in court. Like these people expect to go in for a legal matter and get straight life lessons dropped on em i love it

[@moses2626]

She got mind control like Debo...

[@ronycamacho7132]

SELFISH!

[@IamSunil017]

Yes run....one word is enough

[@ranchocucamongaca5691]

Where is the full episode?!

[@ha4b635]

I don't recommend dudes walking into ready made families at all.

[@boredomania9245]

She wants to say nothing is free............ She should take her own advice and he definitely needs to run

[@antaresscorpicus692]

My dad told me and my 3 brothers about already made families 3 of us listened 1 didn't.

[@Malhaloc]

That's the kind of woman who gets asked "what do you bring to the table" says "I am the table"

[@Juju_Haitiansdoitbetter]

The way I just screamed 😂😂😂😂

[@cierakitty]

This woman is a user bigtime ! ! Move on sir, and move quickly...… RUN

[@Asia107]

I am so happy she told him the truth. I hope he listened.

[@bearlyalive9669]

“I don't know them and they don't me but we're both saying the same thing.” On. God. THOOOUGH.

[@vgsr7435]

What's the name of this case? I'd like to see the whole thing