You Stopped Wanting to Have Sex with Me

[@jb12thatshouldbeme]

Shan crying at the end is so me! Without pregnancy hormones.

[@shanboody]

laying down is the LEAST comfortable I am and that includes bedtime. I get critiqued a lot on Instagram for not "resting" enough during pregnancy but resting is when I feel the worst

[@allamericanrevert7755]

@@shanboody i wish you would have done a workout video while pregnant! I would have loveddddd that. I love the clips on Instagram.

[@bludelight]

Me too.

[@shaffony09matabane45]

It's the honest candid conversations they were having for me🙌😭

[@genuinegenius.]

TELL ME IF AM I RIGHT ✅ OR WRONG ❌ kzbin.info/www/bejne/j4XVgp6dq7p_i6s

[@unanni1883]

I love that you’re real, you’re not afraid to show us the truth with your relationships the good and bad and i genuinely appreciate you showing us that YOU’RE HUMAN!! Love you Shan, peace be with you always💛

[@shanboody]

Ayshaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa pulling on my heart strings with this loveliness thank you

[@nayjavu]

I couldn't have these personal convos in front of the world but I'm so sad that I cant even talk to my man in private about anything without regretting starting the conversation. I hope to find someone that has respect and desire enough for me and the relationship to want to have conversations.

[@botlhaleklassen4091]

Same 😥

[@lilith7706]

I feel ya, same here...

[@SheDIDthatWJ]

Damn... I was thinking the same thing. But thats why I broke up with mines a couple days ago. I couldn’t deal with the lack of communication skills (with both of us) and toxic behavior. Try to make it work but don’t let a relationship work you y’all. I can’t wait till I can find this in someone too. ❤️

[@DianaGarcia-lb9dl]

If you are afraid of these type of conversations or ignore them, you are in a war within yourself. Dont let fear and assumptions of their reactions take over. Yes it's easier said then done. If you cant talk about this, take smaller steps with easier type topics.

[@gypsierose3611]

Same

[@ipsilonia]

most people talk about their fears of "hurting the baby" during sex (and tv and films perpetuate this as a worry all guys have) but jared shared other things-- the fact that he has limited positions to work with, the fact that there isn't as much lead-up/tension built, the fact that the reason they have sex is less about pleasure and more about inducing labor. i've never heard a guy verbalize those frustrations before, even though i know they think about it during their partner's pregnancy. i really appreciated this honestly.

[@starlight5123]

LOLLLL not the zoom into Shan’s faceee 🤣

[@shanboody]

lol I had Jared re-export it to add the classical music at the bottom followed by the Jordan face, it needed a lil levity to start oxo glad ppl appreciate

[@woodlanejolivette]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@starlight5123]

@@shanboody thats was a perfect touch I cracked up. It was a sweet video I appreciate you guys making yourselves vulnerable in this way It teaches people what open communication looks like which isn’t something you see everyday. It’s nice to know a relationship like this is possible. Sorry, youre uncomfy I can only imagine. On the bright side as I psychology major you’ve really peaked my interest in being a sex therapist/ marriage counselor.

[@TheBlkWtch]

I was Ctfu!! 😂😂

[@vanusaneto]

when Shan said "I'm uncomfortable" made me want to cry. Pregnancy is rough, oh man. Women are something else, godly bodies for real. Imagine the women that didn't want to be a parent but still are due to family pressure, and go through this. The resentment they must feel of their kids. I don't care if my family is openly disappointed at me, I will not have kids yo. It's not for me. But Shan e Jared, y'all going to gift the world with such a thoughtful human being! Thank god. It all starts with good people raising with good intentions in their hearts, and that's y'all. All the strength to you Shan♥️♥️♥️

[@Ashley-qx4my]

Yes. Sadly society want women to feel punished for being pregnant in the first place. It's not even about the babies lives and its obvious.

[@ItsMissMckayla]

I feel you I would of cried !! Also pp is hard it’s not easy a lot of woman don’t want to hop back into sex your emotional , not really knowing who you are and I remember at 6 weeks I was still in pain !!!! Bu she doesn’t understand till she’s in it !! Also everyone pp experience is different I wish her the best ❤️

[@ItsMissMckayla]

@@Ashley-qx4my wow 🤩 that’s how I felt 🙈🙈🙈

[@GirlDo3]

I agree, but resenting your kids is fucked. They didn't chose to be born and by making them feel guilty about it will give them trauma.

[@vanusaneto]

@@GirlDo3 yes. It's heartbreaking

[@Indivinethyme]

If you can't handle transparency and honesty... Don't bother watching. Love you both❤️

[@SAlina-se9xq]

Not about that. They're always transparent. He was showcasing a level of insensitivity this time around.

[@Indivinethyme]

@@SAlina-se9xq that's an interesting take. How so?

[@SAlina-se9xq]

@@Indivinethyme His body language. She's trying to connect and he's stone. His responses to her are cold. Not much reassurance. The only one truly vulnerable, honest and sensitive is Shannon. There's a way to "keep it real" with your partner while being mindful of their feelings.

[@Indivinethyme]

@@SAlina-se9xq Did we watch the same video? Goes to show how things can be perceived differently depending on the lens it's being viewed through. Personally, I have a big appreciation for these types of conversations and the way it transpired. It's difficult to see his responses as a gift in the moment especially if the ego is being bruised. You can tell that was never his intention. His intention is to be true to himself first and that's vulnerability in its self especially in today's world, and I respect that. I also respect Shan for acknowledging that it does hurt so they both can handle it together as partners so they can both grow from it. #JustADifferentPerspective

[@SAlina-se9xq]

@@Indivinethyme We sure did. Respectfully that's your take. This is mine.

[@andra_]

Shan, you’re incredibly brave for putting this out there, while pregnant and experiencing it. I admire this a lot! I’ve been watching for years and I know that Shan, you’ve always been hesitant when it comes to wanting kids. I think I would have a hard time grappling with finally deciding to have kids and then having my partner pull away at a time that is already incredibly scary for me. I would struggle with this and it would take me a lot of healing to feel safe again with my partner. I totally respect your ability to be there for Jared in his honesty and would hope that I would find an ounce of similar bravery

[@shanboody]

Andra!!!!!!!!!!! This is why

[@JaseLiasTheEsthieBestie]

I totally agree with you. I so appreciate them for being open and both being super transparent about the topic. I understand that for some people it is very difficult. I think what’s hard to watch in the video is the fact that that’s something she was fearful of and I’m sure they had had convos about it but it’s happening and from these past few videos you can see that the love is definitely there but Jared just doesn’t look interested or look at her with desire as she does him and I know that has to be so hurtful and difficult for her. I would be so incredibly hurt by this if my husband was reacting this way. It totally can make you feel insecure, especially if you’re desiring and finding your pleasure from elsewhere. That’s the selfish part for me that I just can’t agree with. Shan is such a beautiful woman alone, but pregnancy is just such a beautiful thing and I know that she just wants to be cherished and still desired. Hopefully they will be able to compromise and both feel fulfilled in healthy ways before baby comes so they’re not still battling these same issues postnatal. Thank you again for allowing us in on this hard, but real conversation.

[@pipperlue]

Most people would have been extremely hurt to the point where they couldn’t listen anymore after some of these comments he made. This inspired me to not take things so personally

[@NayasNook]

their communication skills are beautiful

[@trishaforrest6735]

That’s true but he is so honest and nothing is wrong with that

[@EnjoyOverEverything]

I see a lot of folks commenting that I’m insensitive for being “too honest” I hope that you all understand that honesty is something Shan and I foster. We have built a relationship on honesty. I’m grateful that you have taken the time to watch this and give your thoughts. Transparency about our feelings is not new and these types of convos are not new. We understand our comfort level with these types of conversation are not normal but we put them out there so people can hopefully feel inspired or feel comforted that they are not the only ones with these feelings. Also that video in the beginning was from a podcast I have lol shameless plug Here’s the link kzbin.info/www/bejne/rZDGooKJnp6ohZI It’s at the end, the bio has the time codes

[@shanboody]

my king! Can I also shameless plug to say I'm executive producing this podcast and am SO SO PROUD of the work being done there. Just the tip of the iceburg of what we have planned to do with Shared Entertainment. If people haven't checked out Enjoy the Podcast yet they needs to! Also I am currently casting for a new podcast project I am working on so please hit up my IG for more info oxo.

[@hellotaco]

I find your honesty inspiring. I have been subscribed to Shan for about 3 or 4 years and I absolutely adore and admire the type of love and understanding you two have fostered. My biggest takeaway from your videos together is that you both fully love each other for WHO YOU TRULY ARE, not for what you expect the other person to be for you. That is rare. That is fucking inspiring. Thank you both for your vulnerability. Also congrats on your baby girl- she is so lucky to have you both as parents.

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Jared, Shannon is a very strong person and you will never find another who will be able to take that much honesty from you. I'm saying all of this to say that you better stick with this one dude. I know you guys are open but I'm telling you, don't get distracted because most people couldn't handle THAT much candour from you.

[@cathobeckers8505]

I think honesty is some of the greatest signs of respect. And also, I might not have these conversations on KZbin, but that doesn´t mean that you guys shouldn´t. I think it´s great that you are. You set your boundaries together.

[@msz9523]

Your honestly in all of this is to be treasured like the rarest of gifts! Honestly, a big proportion of my love and respect for my partner stems from the fact that he is able and willing to be honest and open and vulnerable even when the message isn't pleasant or isn't going to go down well. I've said it a million times and I will say it again: I'd rather be semi-happy in the truth than blissfully happy in a lie.

[@valencia23ish]

I have to say Shannon is gorgeous at every angle even though she's uncomfortable. I understand the feeling of people looking at you through a different lense when you're pregnant. I'm glad you talked about the importance of intention in another video. Something to definitely keep in mind when you decide what type of mother you desire to be. Can't wait to see you evolve, not that you have to change as a person, but becoming a mother is undoubtedly an evolution. 🥰

[@ajones21606]

Oh HELL no he's too honest for me chile. I would be crying all damn day.

[@janer99]

THISS

[@iPlatano07]

You can't have a real relationship then

[@sue346]

When you grow as a person you learn to value honesty in such a way that you stop taking this honesty personally & actually value the input as individuals seeking mutual happiness... That's my take ❤️🙌

[@CiCiMoya]

@@sue346 totally agree!

[@kima_95]

I try to pursue this kind of honesty in relationships, despite being a very sensitive and unfortunately take-everything-personal type of person. Thankfully I've learned to seperate personal truths from offense taken through depression/misinterpretation, but when I tell you I be wiping away tears during these conversations...! I be lowkey ready to bawl. But that's okay, getting hurt and disappointed is just a part of being social creatures. Being able to express and emote our truths is a form of trust and need in itself. I would rather be able to talk forreal and get hurt for that temporary moment than to not know how my partner feels and where their head is at when they try to explain why they think they feel the way they do. Just gotta struggle through and detach from making it about you in the present moment since ultimately it's for the greater good of understanding we all carry fault, are able to hurt others without our knowledge and feel hurt before understanding why, or just naturally experience unwelcome change day to day. In my opinion its talk now or lash out later. But let me stop rambling like I'm not a whole crybaby. Have a good one, your comment had me rolling.✌🏽

[@simplecrazylilac]

I love your relationship, man. I felt like a whale whilst I was pregnant, I had basically no support and struggled alot physically and mentally, all I wanted was to feel like my partner cared and was by my side through it but I couldn't even get him to willingly touch my belly. It is clear as day how much you care about eachother, the vulnerability and patience you both have for one another is beautiful to watch. Love to you both, and lemme tell you, you have so many more fun and eye opening experiences to come with parenthood! Xx

[@camilaarias5539]

💙💙💙

[@moeezS]

For a relationship built on sexual chemistry, I can imagine how much of a loss it must feel for that drive to be lowered but I think other aspects of intimacy and relationships can be strengthened. Thank you both for the honest conversation, and keep being open with your feelings with each other.

[@aishahassan7667]

I’ve been told so many times never to say anything hurtful to a pregnant women cause they will remember it for life 😭😭 mans was tooo brutally honest but ig that’s how they roll in their relationship

[@mugalhina3007]

1Main Ek ladke se pyar karti thi par usne Mere Sath bahut galat Kiya bahut wazifa Kiya Maine amal bhi Kiya Fir Bhi Kuchh Asar Nahin hua fir Baba Ji Ne Vashikaran Karke usko Wapas Mere boyfriend Ko Milays aur mera Nikah Ho Gaya Chaho to to aap bhi Sampark kar sakte ho WhatsApp[phone]

[@shanboody]

Thank you for being here!!! Just wanna write out the names of the audibooks I am recommending this month: "I Hear You" by Michael Sorensen (this is less than 3 hours and honestly JAM PACKED with healthy communication gems) + as always my audiobook read by me is yours for free when you use the link in the info box "The Game of Desire" by Shan Boodram (this is all about how to use pscyhology + your personal magic to make intimacy your superpower)

[@faithrogers4787]

I don’t think Jared is meaning to be selfish. I think he’s being honest, and that’s important! However... that doesn’t mean Shan won’t feel upset and unwanted, and that’s okay. As a woman, I think it’s especially common for men to view women as the one who doesn’t want sex as much, but even if that was the case, when we do, we want it badly, and it seems for me personally if I don’t have it, the pressure and frustration just continues to build up, but when I do get what I need, I could be good for a couple days depending on how I feel. I’ve never been pregnant, but I can imagine still needing that same kind of desire from my partner, and how depleting it would feel not to have it.

[@faithrogers4787]

And honestly, I don’t understand how Shan could tolerate being the one to always initiate sex. I want a man who’s going to come up behind me and kiss me on my neck, and tell me how badly he wants me, haaha!

[@TheNiloticEmpress]

They are in an open relationship...so maybe his needs are being met elsewhere..

[@faithrogers4787]

@@TheNiloticEmpress Hmmmm... 🧐

[@jmeiahburke5388]

These REAL conversations! I’m here for it!!

[@Iamdanigilbert]

This was such a safe space. Open and honest communication, no judgment just understanding one another. Thank you for showing this. Sometimes you need to see it to know it’s achievable.

[@hellokikky]

'There can only be one crazy person in the room' you have not met my family lol

[@CamilaSaurus]

Lol!

[@Paulr1k]

Would you look at that another dysfunctional female claiming to be crazy

[@cre8gnr8nrg]

Or mine. Funny thing is when my sister thinks she's the only 'normal one' LOL Not even close but LOL Got to love family dynamics. I avoid family get togethers because one on one it's good but a house full of NUTZ is CRAZY. LOL

[@daughterofyah6209]

Right! Especially the old heads because they don’t believe in therapy. Child those reunion hit different 🤣🤣

[@iannafrare2196]

I had the sameee thought

[@ajohonly3721]

My husband didn’t like pregnancy sex also it works well I also don’t like sex during pregnancy.

[@t-bagbagwell1327]

Win win situation.

[@gigiajavon122]

I love the question you asked about whether he will battle viewing mother you vs woman you. Yes this is valid. We sometimes need a shift from parenting to sexual. Building boundaries with your child(ren) helps

[@WildSeed111]

Please say more about building boundaries with you children! I’m curious

[@ErinThePsychicWitch]

@@WildSeed111 it’s the same as building boundaries wherever in your life.

[@b1000-t1s]

@@WildSeed111 she probably means not letting them sleep in the bed everyday, not letting them enter the room without knocking

[@ShakirahHill]

I thought that was a great question too! I hope she'll unpack that down the road as they find their stride in parenting together.

[@maymayrays]

This is so hard. My husband was *SO* into pregnant sex and it was awesome because sensation was super heightened for me. Those were amazing days. Now, with two kids, and work and life as bananas as it is right now, I’m Jared in bed, avoiding sex like it’s my job... it sucks 😕

[@sweeetisme]

Yes! I had the best sex while pregnant, that's what I was doing when I went into labor at 37 weeks lol.

[@maymayrays]

@@sweeetisme 🤣 Oh man... one of my kids was 4 weeks early, the other was 6 weeks early 🤔🤔🤔

[@rses916]

tell me what is his zodiac sign? I bet he has some Cap Gemini or Aries in there .

[@dajag50]

@@rses916 He's a Libra and she's and Aries.

[@rses916]

@@dajag50 Thanks I was asking Joru tho I didnt mention her name my bad. But yeah I know their signs 😚

[@erin-clareboulet3211]

when shan started crying bc she’s uncomfortable is so relatable to every woman whos ever been pregnant omg

[@Takatukata]

I hope your husband finds access to the feeling that sex is not only about adventure but more so making love, feeling deeply connected and intimate with the the one you love! I'd be really hurt if my man would say such things while avoiding sex with me tbh!

[@estephaniezapata4714]

You read my mind 👏🏽👏🏽

[@elenaK0023]

They are deeply in love and into each other. They love having sex with each other. This comment is super not in place. You miss the main point.

[@cchicaloo]

If a man cant feel connected during sex with a pregnant women because it feels like a weird threesome, why should the man feels ashamed? Why does the prego woman opinion matters more? Why cant she accept that it is a uncomfortable and different situation for him? If it's about respecting boundaries, why does a mans honesty get so much hate?

[@nashaelindseth8526]

Same...

[@Takatukata]

I get if men feel uncomfortable being physically so close to their unborn in a sexual way! But he complained about the limit of positions during pregnancy and the lack of adventure. To me it sounds as if he´s into rough sex and only that way! Wait till the baby is born and other things than hardcore sex have priority...

[@rodanechristie2458]

“Want a cookie”...love the fact that they have these uncomfortable convos in a healthy manner which I believe can help us younger individuals be more comfortable having similar conversations

[@taylareilly4247]

I’m so amazed at how vulnerable you’re able to be with each other and to be so open online. I always love your videos but this one was extra intimate. I really appreciate you guys doing videos like this. Hope you start feeling better soon Shan and happy anniversary to both of you 💕💕💕

[@ro143cky]

When a man tells a woman they dont desire them...that sucks.

[@aishastover6981]

@Marina Guajardo exactly.. and when you’re so secure in your relationship you are able to communicate and nothing comes across as bad as it sounds... if that makes sense

[@tgirl8955]

Yes, He didn’t say he doesn’t desire her..he said he misses the creativity and spontaneity of what they’re used to. He sounds very supportive and fulfilling of her needs considering the circumstances

[@nathaliasimone_]

@@aishastover6981 Yesss yess 😁👐🏾👐🏾👏🏾👏🏾🙌🏾

[@DiamondOkoh]

I want to have a relationship where he can say that and we can work through it. That’s an incredibly powerful relationship

[@trishaforrest6735]

@@DiamondOkoh exactly

[@deliavela8377]

I feel like we need to ask why our partner feels like their sex drive to us is lower when we’re pregnant. I think some men have a genuine fear that they might hurt the baby, I don’t think it’s always because we’re not sexy. Again, that’s a good convo to have.

[@shajeahar7374]

He said for him it was weird because it’s like the baby is there with them due to the baby moving and stuff. That’s understandable.

[@monyparis89]

The open and honesty in this entire video and your conversation. Wow just wow.

[@bambilove1897]

Jared, ily. BUT you’re being hella insensitive to Shans feelings rn. I love your honesty so damn much and that y’all have the capacity to have this convo but I FEEL and see the hurt in shans eyes and demeanor. And I cannot stay silent about it. I’ve never been pregnant but I’m very empathic and intuitive and Shan, you’re suppressing your vulnerable emotions on this one and I feel like I’m experiencing you pushing them away while watching this... ❤️ and I couldn’t not say anything cause it’s digging at me real bad. I watched the last vid when Jared said this and I almost cried LMAO I’m so glad you guys addressed this cause lowkey could not look at him the same way..... lol 💙

[@bambilove1897]

You seem very scared

[@wingbat]

This 🙏🏼 I noticed this too.. Made me feel for her so much. And questioning Jared's maturity a little.. and his depth a little.. But it's okay. Hope they come out of this on top

[@omphilemoerane2569]

Fae S yeah I sense a little immaturity from him as well. Like how do you get this old and not know that not everything needs to be said?😯

[@wingbat]

@@omphilemoerane2569 I think it's great he says things honestly, I just hope behind the scenes he showers her a little extra in whatever kind of love she needs as well.

[@MayaParris]

In other comments she said theyve had this convo before so they’re just going over what they talked about.

[@court9311]

The end of the video is beautiful you could’ve cut it out but you didn’t thanks

[@jb12thatshouldbeme]

I love this “in the bed” angle!!!

[@antoinettekminor]

I’m extremely interested to see their perspectives after the baby is here.

[@makaylacree2965]

Same!

[@MJ-vb7un]

Me three

[@leogoddess3863]

SHAN! I'm 7 months pregnant with TWINS and my husband won't touch me...we fool around a lot, but he says he's scared to make me go in to early labor. Yet the Dr said it's fine 🤔...boy bye! I'm annoyed 😒

[@queenbella1654]

😂😂😂

[@MissInkredable]

Literally I would just cry all the time ugghhhh

[@arisalaycemason]

Sex has always made me go into pre-term labor... The only reasoning I have been given is that I have a short cervix.

[@t-bagbagwell1327]

You are annoyed but the dude has a fear of hurting you or as you stated. No matter what the doctor said, he seems worried. Hopefully he wasn’t the same before pregnancy. But as a man I would be extra careful during pregnancy.

[@trishaforrest6735]

@@t-bagbagwell1327 honestly these people are so damn stupid that’s all am a say

[@andreao8535]

'Look, she's moving, she's in the shower with us' .... .... Girl, why? Never say that in the middle of the action... EVER 🤣

[@Mrsqueen876]

Lmaoooo

[@amandaclbn8324]

lmaooo we praise her for being real all the time but she needs to understand that there is such a thing as too real lol

[@iPlatano07]

@Black Politics TV how does that help during sex?

[@PhoenieFroe313]

I said that and it killed the mood too lol :(

[@Allybaba55]

😂😂 I

[@minkiemonkey9]

the HONESTY. the COMMUNICATION. I live, breathe, and sneeze for this. ICONIC

[@TriinaG]

He's definitely over thinking and I think its normal. He's thinking baby, hurting Shan and hurting the baby...I love the open convo about this topic because I've never thought about how the non pregnant partner would feel. Inspires me to be more open (like this) with my partner🥺. Not easy though! The end of the video kind of broke my heart a bit. To see how uncomfortable she was but that's raw footage right there. Sending you both love and light💙🙏🏾

[@Usernameblankslate]

Wow, I love this conversation. This is a very honest and important conversation that I wish more people had.

[@ABRASILERA17]

It’s disappointing that he’s still in such need of spiritual and sexual understanding and enlightenment. She has to really be so grounded and in her self love to guide him the way she consistently does

[@lFrenzied]

I found this comment really interesting and I'm curious - bwould you elaborate on what you mean by spiritual and sexual understanding and enlightenment?

[@moodybassist]

I love seeing this conversation being had _LOVE IT_

[@Tast30fCha0s]

I love Jared’s honesty because it feels like he’s genuinely sharing where he is with pure intent. It shows how much trust he has with you and the relationship and I think that is beautiful.

[@DubCityTv]

I love how honest you two can be with each other without letting emotions take over. I hope to get to this point. Great conversation you two.

[@glorioseumuhoza7295]

You’ve hugely impacted my perception of relationships in the most positive way. I’ve learned to become comfortable bringing this radical honesty into all of my relationships, not just romantic, and it’s created an environment of just pure acceptance and clear communication. Even when it’s not clear though, there’s always room for a conversation and that really helps in times of discord. Thank you so so much, and thank you for being vulnerable. You lead by example 🥺

[@PassionatteGaines]

"...a push and pull between wanting to kiss and wanting to survive. And, it's a very hard decision to make in the moment." - Shan B. I know that was a serious description and explanation to help some understand, but I could not help but laugh at that. 🤟🏽 peace and prosperity

[@Jasmineshante3]

Shan how do you not take everything so personal, I would be balling my eyes out like you don’t want me! I honestly aspire to have convos like this with out feeling unwanted .

[@jemimahmiracle7687]

I really admire how honest and raw your relationship is. I really aspire to have Shan’s mentality especially when reacting to honesty. I realized that often we women ask for our partners to be honest with us but when they are, we end up reacting negatively which makes them close up. They are either afraid to hurt us or anger us. Not saying this is everyone but it’s definitely a stigma and we see it in movies and tv shows. Even something as small as the dad saying “kids don’t tell ur mother”. Like it just makes me ask: do we really desire honesty from our partners? And yeah even if I am hurt by what they say I can’t bash them or make them feel bad because that is how they feel and if I truly desire something raw and honest or want to fix a certain problem in the relationship, that won’t work if they are to scared to actually be honest with me. Random thoughts

[@relvoself]

Wow! This is the realest channel I have seen on KZbin. Most of the things women are shamed for, you talk about boldly. Your partner is very mature. God bless you two!

[@sigh9913]

Ouch, when he said no to her question, “did you get hurt when I got hurt?” T-T I would’ve cried.

[@TriinaG]

I love it. His answer is honest. His answer wasn't said to hurt her. Having this conversationis one of the many reasons why their relationship is so strong. I think if she was to cry about his answer it may deter him from being honest in the future which could then lead to communication issues.

[@Lila17_]

Isabella B thats what Im saying , when you love someone you don’t even wanna hurt their feelings. Hurting their feelings hurts yours. Their relationship ain’t strong enough..

[@Lila17_]

beyone queen yea you can tell the relationship is only driven by lust and not love.

[@liz5473]

Men are from Mars..honestly. So apathetic

[@Lila17_]

li z not all, people just love choosing the wrong ones lmao. There’s some great men out there tho.

[@ashleyb4984]

I am seriously in awe of the vulnerability and honesty you have with one another, I can’t even imagine having this level of communication with someone. It is absolutely beautiful. An interesting video would be you discussing if you both were always great communicators, if it was a skill you had to work on, and if you are able to communicate this directly with anyone or just with specific people you feel safe with?

[@csungrad10]

The communication, love, & vulnerability between you two is beautiful.

[@toomuchEva]

It’s so beautiful to see you two talk about this intimate issue in such a healthy, honest and authentic way!

[@Missthatgirl634]

Hard conversation. You both made me realize I am so not able to handle this type of conversation. I would have been pissed, crying, cursing, threatening to break up, find a way to cut him w my words and he would be on the couch for dayzzzzzz...poor Ego. No wonder my ass is single..lol..being with me ain't easy...oh well love your channel. Congratulations!

[@iridessaessence5870]

For me PP sex was the issue. I didn’t even have any delivery complications 😩 i’m 3 months PP . We ad sex all the way up until the 39th week and my son came two days early. My SO thought i was sexy but i couldn’t figure out why i didn’t feel sexy. Just wanted to partially share my experience

[@rufusperry6168]

I really really love the openness and honesty between you guys! Don’t ever change that dynamic!!

[@bobdole991]

Sex is more so spiritual as opposed to physical.

[@anisasiddeeq9127]

I love how you are so open and honest, it reminds me of how human we all are and I love how you all are normalizing this 💙

[@bludelight]

I love seeing you two listen to each other as much as you speak to each other. Thank you for the vulnerability as well as the confidence that you give us.

[@vivianacastillo7484]

Thank you for modeling a healthy conversation on a hard topic in a relationship. Many of us never had the opportunity to learn and practice this.

[@Esmedvb]

I really admire your vulnerability and sincerity talking about this type of subjects. I love love love your content and find it really interesting ❤️

[@sevendagod777]

Poor shan😔 it's almost over mama.

[@abajah2804]

So sweet how sensitive topics are not ignored but addressed each step of your pregnancy marriage it's beautiful. I love you guys so much! Continue to be safe and open with each other. I wish many more blessings content views and true fans 🥂 (none alcoholic drinks) 😊😁😍😍😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘😘

[@makdahaile3704]

"Did you get hurt that I got hurt?" "No"

[@emilyrawding6680]

It is so brave of you both to have this conversation and share it. I am sure so many people connect with this. I’ve said this before and I’ll say it again: you have a gift Shan of making people feel seen and heard. So often when people with a platform make content it’s like they are mining their own trauma and their own pain for an audience and it can feel gratuitous. You have a way of sharing so much that is so personal in a way that never feels like a cash grab. It always feels like your main purpose is not self serving but to educate others. You have a better grasp of yourself and your relationships than the majority of other people and I think that has a lot to do with it. You are so reflective, it’s contagious. I’m a psychologist and around 6 years younger than you and I deeply respect and admire you for your work and for the type of woman you are. I hope you have a safe and peaceful delivery of your daughter ❤️ You are loved!

[@lindseyfedroboren1062]

First video I saw of yours (& since have gone back & watched many). I was fascinated with how open and honest ya'll are, very mature and nonjudgmental. And Shan: what confidence you must have to not be crushed or made insecure by this particular issue (tho, no wonder, you are def. one of the most gorgeous women I've ever seen). But thank you both for showing what a truly good relationship can look like & that it is possible!!!

[@aishastover6981]

I’m SO excited for you. I just have birth about 4 months ago and it is the best feeling ever. That was literally the best day of my life. This video gave me such good vibes, the amount of love and communication you guys have. I could feel the love!! You guys have one of the most beautiful relationships I’ve ever seen. That baby is SO incredibly blessed!

[@Piecesoftheshadow]

I think when sex is taken out of the relationship (be it temporarily or permanently) you become more focused on all the other reasons the person your with is amazing to you and all the reasons you love them and you start to find those things almost as attractive as the sexual stuff. I'm not a very sexual person, so my focus hones in on the other parts of my partner that I find sexy as a person or physically.

[@peacefoo97]

Okay the end is everything. The rawness of that was beautiful! Something many youtubers would’ve taken out. I appreciate you sharing that moment with us and hope you have a wonderful birth and recovery period!

[@sharanichole]

My husband isnt into pregnant sex either. Well, after I get to about 8 months hes just like No I'd rather wait. Lol ( 3 Kids later) he feels like the baby can feel him, or hes hurting them🤦🏾‍♀️😭

[@zoemrubata2484]

That's so funny and also considerate of him😂💕

[@sharanichole]

@@zoemrubata2484 😂 I guess. But in the moment not so much😉

[@cchicaloo]

@Petty Ceddy She has to respect your feelings, if you feel disgusted by the idea of having sex with a women who is pregnant cause it feels like your're having a threesome, then dont let her opinion rush you into a uncomfortable situation.

[@NadivahRox]

When he lists what sex means to him it's all about adventure and exploring but not being intimate with his partner or reaffirming their connection? Sis... Also "Did you get hurt that I was hurt?" "No." WTF??? Just...wow.

[@destinynashay8158]

My exact thoughts i don't wanna get in they relationship but it was a lil like...damn

[@meyou2236]

I hope your body has a chance to heal 💯%, before you start back after having your baby. More than 6 weeks is fine, because it takes time for your body, schedule, and hormones to adjust. You don't want to ruin yourself just for sex, and your relationship should not be based on sex. Don't forget the love you have for one another is also strong and mutual.

[@ciaraclement5436]

I'm so happy that you guys have been so open about this topic. When I was pregnant my husband once I got a belly stopped wanting to have sex and it was like pulling teeth to get him to have sex . I just felt so rejected and ugly. I felt like it sort of ruined the end of my pregnancy. He always told me how beautiful I was still and was a perfect gentleman but the fact that he wasn't sexually attracted to me at that time really just made me feel like shit. I hope the baby comes for you both soon. Being pregnant at the end is so uncomfortable and it does really make you cry like that. It made me sad to see you sad shan! Hopefully they can do a membrane sweep for you that put me into labor the very same day

[@emanipettiford868]

Shan I think Jared wants to talk more about spirituality and faith sometimes than sex because the part where he mentioned that so much of your relationship is based on sex. Plus I feel like being spiritually aligned will help your comfort level with your pregnancy! I hope this helps and is encouraging! Do you have a doula?

[@cherefatima]

THE GLOW ✨ Yall gone be incredible parents!

[@marshedaewulomi1358]

I appreciate y’all’s transparency. It is difficult, but is so helpful. A lot of us aren’t offered different frameworks to pull from.

[@kevotldyaso5202]

Thats why you don't get with someone if love isn't the center of your relationship. Seems like you may need to change your priority. Sexual intimacy is best when its not the centered around sex. I enjoy listening to you guys point of view. But sex for me has been so much better when my relationship is centered on Love true love.

[@TheShecorena]

Soooo true. When i was pregnant with my man, he was all over me because we loved eachother so much.

[@dennishaedwards4017]

yupppppppppp the nbovelty wears out eventually and then what?

[@lucdemanmukenge6562]

@beyone queen not really, he said that the pregnant sex doesn't change how he views his wife. He loves her for other things than just the sex, he is just voicing how it doesn't excite him. To him sex is an adventure and the fact that she is pregnant limits the things they can do. Why do you think he just views her as an object?

[@estarr]

I'm really looking forward to seeing their after baby convos. Everyone expects it goes back to normal after 6 weeks and it doesn't! And those 6 weeks bring so much frustration with a wailing baby. Looking forward to the honesty. Well wishes for a healthy baby 💞

[@themandinkafamily]

I appreciate the open and honesty between u two as a couple on KZbin. Makes it more genuine

[@madelinedorothy3046]

As someone who is not in a relationship or pregnant I love watching such a healthy dialogue. I find this really inspirational and gives me the fuzzies. I aspire to be in a relationship just like this

[@dennishaedwards4017]

i would be scared to be with someone like Jared. what happens when 5 yrs down the line you've run out of new positions to try do you then look for a new partner to get the same adventure thrill with?

[@aurielove9177]

Things change you either grow together or you grow apart. The communication they have is amazing and to me it sounds like they are continually growing together. They are two different people living life together. Things aren’t always going to be the same. Sex is only one part of a relationship it isn’t everything.

[@trishaforrest6735]

Has he stated before sex won’t change the fact that he loves her

[@ingridmeszaros6375]

Hands down one of the best channels on YT

[@sofiatesic8908]

Thank you guys so being so vulnerable and open! This is such a healthy dynamic and its inspiring to see

[@JakeOkoa]

I'm sure you've been told this many times before but you're having such important conversations. And in turn, motivating others to have these kinds of conversations with their partners. Thank you.

[@moerodriguez3235]

The way you two communicate is SO INSPIRING😍. I have been following your relationship since the beginning! Seeing you all at this point and sharing your growth as parents makes me feel genuine joy! I hope you both forever evolve into the best versions for yourself. I also want to point out how you both STILL value your individuality after 2 years of marriage! You are both such solid individuals within yourselves, ugh just two dope ass human beings doing this journey together! Im soooo excited for your baby girl to get here and to see the mom you become🧡. Truly love yous three💜💕

[@shanboody]

MOE! The fact that you said you love us "three" made me tear up lol. That's so so sweet thank you

[@fff5572]

Really admire how honest you guys were here. My husband and I were in the same boat. At the time I felt so ashamed and hurt but we’ve since talked about it more and I realize it isn’t as personal as I thought it was. Keep having these talks ❤️

[@ForeverTJTigress]

This revealed to me that one of my worst fears is not being listened to and I think some of those who commented are experiencing the same thing. This conversation left me feeling conflicted because I know that if I were having this conversation, I would be absolutely miserable. I wouldn’t feel loved or protected in that space. And that’s because I know how Jared’s perspective would make me feel. That being said, this is Jared and Shan’s relationship where they’re showing radical communication. This sort of communication is valuable to them within the structure of their relationship. It’s okay if this would hurt your feelings. It doesn’t mean that your relationship isn’t healthy. It doesn’t mean that accepting this sort of candor is essential to you being a good partner. But what’s valuable is thinking about the kind of support you need in this conversation. For me I found this: 1. I need someone who’s going to understand that my birth chart is heavy on the Pisces. Meaning I’m sensitive as shit. Don’t have this convo with me in this manner. But also I need to be able to understand that the other person has boundaries and that any sex with I have with them needs to be enthusiastic and consensual. Jared “being a man” and “not be selfish” just to appease Shan is not consensual. We wouldn’t (and shouldn’t) encourage that behavior from anyone else. Let’s not try that here. 2. This would be a time that my partner would need to make me feel loved and appreciated in other ways. If I’m carrying a child (an intense act on its own) that we both made and wanted, I would need my partner to extend themselves a bit more in the romance department to help me feel loved and desired. This isn’t to say Jared isn’t doing any of this. But this is what I realized what I needed and it’s our job as viewers to be a bit more objective when taking in this content.

[@ntrv10]

I am always in awe of the nature of your relationship. This level of communication is unfortunately rare so it’s so refreshing to see it. I hope that one day I can experience open, clear and honest dialogue with someone who really cares the way you both do

[@ayalafam7139]

I can clearly see the hurt in her eyes!!! Those tears are of hurt and yes also being uncomfortable!! I will say its good that he is honest with you instead of cheating as I experienced at 7mths pregnant many years ago. I wish you guys the best!

[@annaali7465]

Cheating should never even be an option tho

[@ayalafam7139]

@@annaali7465 100%

[@itsjusthinde]

I love the maturity and comfort-ability to talk about these type of conversation in this video 😌🥺❤️

[@jaquelinec.acosta5768]

Aww mama I felt like wanting to hug you and tell you everything is going to be alright 😩 sending you much love and blessings. Love from Denmark ❤️

[@joybanks]

We need more videos like that. It's so helpful having these honest conversations. My first thought when I saw the video tag was "why would you post this out in the open", but after watching it, I'm so grateful. The biggest lesson for me was that I should be putting my ego aside and have conversations like that with my partner even if hard. Time to grow up.

[@bambilove1897]

This angle is so beautiful 😍😭❤️🙏🏾

[@ATTSchneid]

What a raw and positive conversation to have and share with your viewers! Thank you. Praying for a safe and beautiful birth, a fast-healing momma and a healthy baby. I pray that the desire that you build over the 6 weeks postpartum allows you to truly go crazy on each other at the end of it.

[@karaniqueskorner]

Sex while pregnant, although uncomfortable when you’re larger, is the best.🥺 my husband wants to do it just as much as ever. We’re also on Baby #6 so.. eh. Lol

[@kimberleypetteway6124]

Lucky lol I felt like a nun. Not sexy n sex deprived. Lol

[@lorensofia7806]

Oh that why yall have so many babies hahahaha! But good for you

[@rainbowpandasays8851]

6 ... 😳

[@veerahanhiniemi]

This conversation is golden. It is so beautiful how you both put your feelings into words. This helped me process what me and my partner went through during my pregnancy. Thank you!

[@mochalatte904]

This happened with me and my hubby, he said he just wanted to care for me and he saw me as innocent and pure while I was pregnant... to be fair he was sooooo sweet while I was pregnant so I really do believe him but I was tryna’ get my swerve on LMAO

[@thatssoblessing]

This is a hard conversation to have but I’m glad y’all had it. The truth hurts but it leaves so much room for growth

[@sweeetisme]

I found that men were extra pervy when I was pregnant, and it was super weird because I expected the opposite. They were trying to date me, and hitting on me constantly. Creepy lol.

[@niablack2200]

The end 😭😭😭 I wish you a safe and swift recovery.. I felt that pain girl

[@Marilynefc]

The beginning is literally the exact same conversation I always have with my husband 😂