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[@erinhurlock5521]

The best statement I've ever read is "Tradition is peer pressure from dead people." We're planning our wedding, our way, for us.

[@brandileema5298]

Love this!

[@src4409]

Well... weddings are a tradition.

[@atema5320]

Yes! And family are just humans you can't have sex with. Don't allow yourself to be mistreated or feel entitled to their support.

[@stardustmelody2709]

Traditions can be quite lovely. A wedding dress is a lovely tradition. The first dance, the father/daughter and mother/son dance are nice traditions. Use the ones you like and discard the rest. Planning your wedding your way is the greatest tradition of all. 99% of all couples follow that tradition just like you.

[@oneofeverything9820]

Would you be able to actually post screenshots of these confessions? I would love to enjoy these videos (similar to the one you did for wedding horror stories) but I'm deaf so it would really help if you can add screenshots.

[@ThisIsKassia]

Yes, this is very important!

[@StandBack15]

bump! captions help everyone!

[@medorakea7327]

Yes!! I have auditory processing disorder and I frequently space out during the most important word of the sentence & I'll have to go back & replay it a few times to understand what was said. I wish people just had captions in real life.

[@erinnichols4866]

Captions

[@backpackerinprogress3171]

Confession: I went dress shopping with two of my close friends before going with my mom. I was terrified of body shaming and hating the experience and never told my mom about that first trip without her. It made me so much more confident to deflect or not internalize anything she did or said. Do not regret!

[@VioletEmerald]

Glad to hear it!

[@jessicapires1744]

I was so nervous to have my mom shopping with me for similar reasons. I actually came up with a game plan with my friend to run interference with my mom - just needed to have the honest conversation to have someone have my back and help me feel better.

[@HUNTLOW_LUMITY4EVER]

I’ll probably do this too! Unofficial dress shopping😂

[@kelseystark724]

I used to work in at a bridal salon and I HIGHLY recommend this.

[@drinkerofalltheteas]

A personal confession: We are adding the people we don’t like to the seating chart. (FH’s parents included) Howwwwwever… we are naming the tables instead of numbering them, after National Parks we want to visit. The unpopular table is The Badlands or Death Valley 😂😂😂

[@brickbreck]

Okay, 2 things: 1- ice bear is my nickname from my best friend so that's awesome! 2- I think I want to steal this idea, if that's okay!

[@drinkerofalltheteas]

For sure! One Ice Bear to another 😉

[@randomterri363]

🤣🤣🤣🤣

[@Yaya-gd6to]

So bad ass sassy! ☺️

[@Just_CoJo]

I actually LOVE this. Just my level of petty. lol

[@scan606]

As an introvert, i can't wrap my head around the fact that people are willing to spend fortunes to have a big wedding full of people they don't want to spend the day with or people who won't be in their lives in ten years time. Our wedding is in two weeks, and we had a firm rule for the guest lists : only people that we want to have in our life in fourty years. Since we both have small families and a few close friends, it ended up being 22 adults, five kids. No cousins i don't care about, no friends from work i like but won't go out of my way to see once i leave my job. Just the ones we adore and absolutely can't imagine getting married without. It's gonna be a three-days family reunion in Burgundy countryside, we're gonna go swim in the lake nearby, have an intimate ceremony, good food, good wine. Only joy and love, zero stress !

[@sophian6965]

I'm jealous of this... Can I ask how it went?

[@onefineweasel]

❤❤❤❤❤ 5:24 5:25

[@felixthecat2786]

It's really difficult today to avoid spending a lot of money on weddings. Venues can go for 2500 minimum during peak times and catering can be anywhere between 3000-?? Then there's an open bar, DJ or band (Band is more expensive) and we're not getting into the cake, the dress, limousine, decorations, or invitations. You could just have a backyard party of a picnic in the park, but a lot of times that can get kind of sketchy for neighbors. They might call the police for noise ordinances. I don't know how it got to be like this, but this is how it is.

[@Housewarmin]

Just a tip: can you put the text on screen so we can read along,

[@sarahserenity3872]

I'm watching the vid with the subtitles.

[@simirma3]

You can enable automatic English subs, click on the 3 dots on the upper right corner, then Subtitles and English 🙂

[@annalaing9126]

She took this into the new video!!! Thank you bc honestly I loved that tip!!!

[@Mamaslittleblog]

@ the leaving people off the seating chart… if someone’s not wanted / welcome why send them an invite? Recommend learning to straight up say no and set boundaries so you don’t have to be flaky and petty later on :)

[@randomterri363]

That was definitely an odd one.

[@tatumgross9391]

Maybe they meant people one of their family members invited without permission. That's what I was thinking.

[@src4409]

I'm not inviting any of my 8 siblings except for 1. I'm not close to any of them because we're a blended family and we all live in different states and I'm having a small 50-75 ppl wedding. I'm not spending 45$/ head to cater a wedding for people I haven't talked to in years.

[@honeysmusings8192]

it could also be +1s. we don't have control over who our guests bring as their +1s and sometimes, the people they bring might be those we don't wanna invite in the first place.

[@Juulx1]

It's funny to see how different weddings are in The Netherlands from America. It's so much simpler, smaller and less 'restricted' by rules. Color scheme? Matching bridesmaids dresses? Cutting of the cake, walking in or out moment, tossing of the bouquet? Not happening. It's just a casual, relaxing time with friends and family and celebrating a union.

[@freerunning2Him]

Girl- I found my dress on Facebook market place for 85$, silk taffeta fully lined, with detachable train and bolero including shipping. I shared it with my mom, she said buy it. That was that. I'll get it fitted closer to the date. Then I found a beautiful 1950's swing wedding dress which i shared with my fiance on Facebook market place. When i told him it was my measurements, the next message I got was, "Bought it." I got 2 awesome dresses for under 300$.

[@teresaortiz2027]

YES ... i've been shopping on FB too. wonderful dresses that just need altering and a second chance! I will be doing the same

[@auntybecca9603]

I gave my fiancé minimal tasks to accomplish for the upcoming wedding next month. He needed a suit/tie/shoes etc… finally got that checked off this week. He needed to pick a cake flavor (his aunt is a baker) and he literally just decided tonight, and we picked the venue together because he is an architect so he has building opinions, but everything else is on me and I am a very low-maintenance bride. Literally made my mom angry saying I didn’t it want to make programs for the ceremony because I don’t see the point. I’m Making my own center pieces and favors, still trying to finish sewing my own dress, trying to make sure we have the proper guest count and that the seating chart is right because my fiancé is Portuguese and EVERYONES FIRST NAME IS MARIA! 😂Fingers crossed we have a good time and this this does not all fall apart. But no matter how it goes, I’m marrying this man and he is marrying me and that is what the day is about.

[@allisonferreira9090]

LOLOL everyone’s name IS Maria and for me, they are all great aunts who married in, so now have the same last name too!

[@iwasalllikeomg]

You sound like you have a similar mindset to mine and we had a great time at our wedding last week! I spent my energy and attention on little things that brought us joy and let go of things we didn't find important and our guests enjoyed themselves anyway.

[@vickybentham7124]

We had loads of family pressure about the type of wedding they thought we should have and who we should invite. Thankfully covid meant that we could elope with two witnesses. We've told everyone that we'll do a vow renewal eventually but we won't - from two introverts

[@bustkateers4]

When I chose my official colors I had people asking me “why did you pick gender reveal colors?” My response was that blue and pink are not exclusive to gender reveal parties and that I found a dress I love with these two colors and therefore wanted to do the wedding with these colors.

[@thatsnotmyname1587]

My future mother in law (who is normally an amazing and very reasonable person) is trying to take over my wedding. She's used to being the resident party planner of the family and keeps inserting her opinions into all of our wedding plans/ ideas. She takes the ideas I share with her and then runs them off into a completely different direction from what I originally wanted. She literally has a Pinterest board for MY wedding. I love her so much and know that she's just excited, but I can already tell that one of my regrets will be not setting better boundaries with my in laws.

[@iwasalllikeomg]

Maybe try asking her to take care of a part you don't have any specific wishes on? I let my MIL do whatever she wanted with our florals and in the end she created beautiful church decorations and small centerpieces from just flowers out of her garden. For things that do matter to you, stick to your guns! Find a way to express the way you see it and don't go into discussing it further. "We imagined it more like this" and move on. And keep reminding yourself that she means well ;-)

[@jesss7930]

Ah man!! My mum did the first one - she invited three extra couples (who my fiancé and I have never met). She posited it as if she was asking us to consider inviting them, and I told her that if we had space in our guest list we would consider it. But then for weeks she kept calling me, asking why her friend’s invitations were late! After explaining - on three separate occasions - that we would consider inviting them pending RSVPs from actual guests, I had to tell her I wasn’t going to invite people who wouldn’t know who I was if I wasn’t wearing a wedding dress. We had a full guest list and decided not to pay extra for people we didn’t know. I still can’t believe she did that.

[@lotsoflove90]

Can confirm: dress shopping on your own is great.

[@andreaviljoen8734]

I can relate with the 'taking people off the guest list after sending out Save The Dates'. I felt so horrible having to do it, but we sent them out before Covid hit, and then had to adjust our plans according to regulations. Our guest list went from 140 to 24 guests. We were planning on having a big reception this year in celebration, but after having been married for almost a year, we have learnt that we enjoyed our small, intimate wedding, and we can spend that money on much more important things.

[@iwasalllikeomg]

We didn't really have a budget either, it just felt impossible when at the start you have no idea of how much everything costs. We compared options for every element and went with a balance of cost and quality for each individual thing. But for most things (like venue, photographer, dj) it was about accepting that is just how much it's gonna cost. We had some form of a budget in that our parents gifted us an amount of money for the wedding and in the end, we still have money left over to spend on our house, so I don't think we did too bad.

[@victorialee1239]

I am getting married literally in three days, thought this maybe would stress me out. But oh no! This made me feel so much better! 😂 Thank you for making me laugh! This was amazing!

[@themuffins4]

about to have a 50 person, potluck, backyard, under a tent wedding! Keeping it super, super simple, serving buffet style. I did not want to stress about this day, and if you are on the fence of simple or elaborate... go simple

[@andreadavis1388]

I heard a couple sent a Bill to the people who RSVP and didn’t show. PURE GOLD!

[@visabel92]

As an introvert I’m stoked having a small wedding. 😂😂😂😂

[@Mandyruth628]

Same here!!

[@charlottebuskin4344]

We had an alcohol free wedding and when we were planning the night we said to the venue that we’d expect it to wrap up at about 10/11pm. They assured us that there’s no way people will stay that late without alcohol there…. We still had people dancing and having the time of their lives at 1am 😂 we were the last to leave too

[@krystelledesrosiers4438]

My mother in-law REALLY tested mine and my "future husband's" relationship while we were planning. She really ruined wedding planning for my husband and continued to give us useless information and causing arguments. The wedding day was very awkward with her and avoiding her was a MUST for me. Looking back i wish we could have known how difficult it was going to be, some of our decisions would have been changed to better accommodate the family members that felt outcasted in the planning process. NO NOT LET ANYONE RUIN YOUR PLANNING EXPERIENCE!!!!!!!

[@pitbullmomplans]

We did a micro wedding in 2020 and it was perfect. I regret having our “big” (50 people) sequel wedding this year. My grandfather passed in November and it wasn’t the same without him. He was at our “Covid” wedding and he’s super important to both of us.

[@lili11.11]

I'm in the same mindset as you are when it comes to guest count... society says 50 is a small, or tiny wedding... when me and my fiance are probably expecting 50 MAX

[@pitbullmomplans]

We had 14 people at our little ceremony in 2020. Our parents, one set of grandparents for my husband, two sets of grandparents for me, his sister and aunt, my godfather and my maid of honour. It was perfect. It was on a Wednesday at 11am and we were alone by 1pm. We had a little lunch in our backyard and our dog Holley got to be with us and it was so nice and calm. I look back on that day with so much joy. Smaller is way better!

[@smochey1]

I am a retired event planner. I would love for you to talk about how guests take centerpieces, food everything that isn’t nailed down.

[@edithl3441]

Except the favors 😂 depending on the crowd of course.

[@edithmedina1310]

I’ve seen this from a very young age attending weddings throughout my childhood….and have literally seen GROWN women fight over the centerpieces🤦🏻‍♀️ I never understood why.

[@Sara-vn2kz]

Really? The only thing I ever took was a single rose 🌹

[@brooklynpineiro317]

At my sister's wedding, the couple at the table who had been together longest got to take home the centerpiece which was a small bouquet in a glass vase. My boyfriend (now fiancé) and I won. I was so annoyed bc I had to now worry about getting real flowers, glass and water back home the next day with all my crap lmao

[@allisonmiller3148]

I’ve seen this and also seen where everyone leaves everything alone and takes the favors like they’re supposed to 🤷‍♀️😅 so I really think it depends on the crowd that’s in attendance.

[@ativ55]

Can we just talk about how amazing your face is? Like eyeshadow: beautiful 🤩 eyeliner: perfect ✔️ lipstick: stunning 😍

[@GlitteryCassie]

I'm an event planner (we do quite a few weddings) and one of our couples chose to postpone and do a hybrid event, so they sent out "unsave the dates" to let everyone know they would be attending via zoom

[@PaintingwithChiara]

I loved this video! Getting married in less than 20 days and I’m exhausted! This made me laugh

[@jalynnwilliams6170]

Congratulations! I am getting married in November haha.

[@PaintingwithChiara]

@@jalynnwilliams6170 congratulations to you as well then!! Not too long to go!

[@graciemize646]

Girl, I’m getting married in 30 days and I’m literally regretting every decision that I’ve made besides wanting to marry my fiancé… I am so done.😂

[@PaintingwithChiara]

@@graciemize646 ahahha i’m sure it’s just the stress! Wedding planning is no joke

[@glamfortheculture5583]

Same! Congratulations!

[@felicityjohnson8095]

okay we def need a part 2!! Loved this!! perfect for watching with a cup of tea hehe.

[@melissasalazar1606]

I went to look for a dress with my aunts and it was really intense, they were really excited (first niece to get married) I wasn't really ready to by a dress but they made me choose... It's beautiful but... They bought it for me so I'm really grateful. Later on, I went to just look around for dresses on my own and I found my dream dress, the one that makes me feel unique, and I bought it, and I was by myself, but I was so comfortable and happy, you don't need other people's opinion, you will know when you find the one ❤️

[@attimesava1596]

So what’d you do with the one they bought?

[@michaelab6070]

My fiancé's best friend got engaged a few months before we did so we've been kind of planning around the same time. I have planned everything so far and put down all the money for it (which we agreed to as he is paying for/renovating our house), yet his friend jokes to him about how expensive weddings are and how he's spending $16k on the venue alone while I don't plan on spending more than $10k total. I so want my fiancé to just say "1. Not all weddings are expensive, and 2. I wouldn't know because she's planned and paid for everything!"

[@avidd686]

Is he paying the same amount renovating you house?

[@michaelab6070]

@@avidd686 the cost of the house and its updates have no impact on our wedding, so I'm respecfully going to decline answering that. There are also many other components that determine our financial lives and that is also just between us but overall it is 50/50.

[@sweethomeal7938]

Have you mentioned these thoughts to your hubs-to-be? It's a great way to put your expectations out there, and he can roll with it as he chooses. We want them to be mind readers on so many occasions.....best of luck.😁

[@michaelab6070]

@@sweethomeal7938 he knows, we just keep our money habits to ourselves. I find it more funny than irritating when his friend talks about his spending and just expects my fiancé to agree because he's the man in the relationship because his friend is a little more "traditional" in views. My fiancé on the other hand has no issues with how I spend because he knows I hunt for the best value and use for every dollar.

[@laurawilliamssepsiseducati5642]

My future husband and myself have booked the honeymoon suite for not just the night but the day after as well because we know that we’re gonna be knackered and we want to be able to enjoy the surroundings because the honeymoon suite is so bloody brilliant

[@samantharoth6334]

Eek! Fiancé and I have a mutual friend dating one of my ex best friends. Stay tuned on if they get the hint that the girlfriend is NOT invited. If they go the digital route for RSVPs, gf is not an option to RSVP. We didn’t include plus ones on the invite either! Wish me luck…

[@aliciacoble7854]

DONT add a *plus one* ...tell him honostly how you feel..he can excuse that he's part of the wedding party n SHE can't go!

[@msharko6982]

No one tells you how stressful it is to actually plan wedding until your the one actually doing it. Ever since I was a young girl I had so many wedding dreams I built up into a castle in the sky. But now since it's in 6 months I REALLY wish to keep things for the wedding more simple, reality hit! lol

[@ashtonharkleroad8667]

I’m so excited for my wedding but I wasn’t originally! He will still be in college but his college is 3 hours away and I’m tired of the separation. Everyone kinda gave us major restrictions on what we are allowed to do. We decided even if no one was going to help us that we aren’t doing what other people want anymore and now are getting married in 8 months. What was originally going to be a 400-500 person wedding at a 10,000 venue has happily been downsized to a little over 100 people and it will be held at our church! No one is happy about it but us, I don’t care I just want to be with the man I love and no one has a say in it anymore! 🤗

[@sarahserenity3872]

Yes 100% regret having bridesmaids. I wish we would have had our maid of honor and best man and called it a day.

[@niaonthego3442]

Yes!!!! Me too.

[@brennakschuler]

Confession: My fiancé proposed in a Chinese restaurant parking lot we went and staged photos at botanical garden and no one but his parents knows about him pulling the ring out of the center console of his car 😂😂😂. Love our little secret and the laughs it gives us

[@nevertoolatewithnat]

I cannot stress how important it is to go try on dresses by yourself. Some bridal stores are anal about how many options you try on. And your friends will have so many opinions and want to see what THEY THINK is great. You will lose the opportunity to really take it all in and eyeball your options. I went once with a huge group just to have the experience. Then I went seriously all by myself to pick the real dress and it was so great to just be me and the shop specialist. Plus…I enjoyed the bonus of everyone anticipating my arrival at the church because NO ONE knew what my dress looked like. It’s so much fun to be the surprise.

[@angelinacave6576]

I am early on in my planning, but I'm anticipating my mom making the day about her in the same breathe saying "its all about you" but not actually meaning it.

[@ohmiee_b]

Same here

[@MyTinyLife2000]

I'm getting married in 4 days and it was so good to be reminded that I don't have to expect it to be the best day of my life! Such a simple thing but so important to remember. Your videos and insta have helped me so much through this planning process, thank you so much you lovely human 😘❤️

[@erikaaaaaaaaaaaaaaa]

this was great! my wedding isnt until next month but i already have MANY confessions... i love my friends but not having any bridesmaids was the best decision ever... i also went shopping with my bff for dresses and found 'the one' without my mom there... i told my family that we dont have time for a lot of family pics just because i dont want to waste a lot of time doing them!

[@niaonthego3442]

I wish I didnt have bridesmaids too. They didnt help or ask me about the wedding. They are more excited on what they would wear. 👩‍🍳

[@freeflyt2]

I love the suggestion of having our partner issue requests to vendors via email 💣

[@kiraknechtle7255]

Absolutely my favorite suggestion. I said that about our digital rsvp when FH didn’t have names of wives and wanted to address everyone as Mr and Mrs. He didn’t have addresses either. Ok. You enter their names on the site or I guess they can’t come if they can’t rsvp... He got me wives names of his work friends 3 days before changing jobs so that he could hand them out his last day of work.🤷🏼‍♀️

[@jessicakeskemety22]

My wedding was one of the most stressful days of my life, I didn’t feel like anyone truly made it about me, I’m quite the people pleaser so I smiled and convinced myself I’d be happy if everyone had a good time (which I heard they did!), and never asked my husband for help with things that I wish I had (something I learned about marriage-you have to be VERY open with communication and don’t assume they just know). I UGLY cried the day after, like sobbed, haha. But, our marriage is good so 🤷🏽‍♀️. Love your channel!

[@Abmarp]

I’m going to learn from you

[@jessicakeskemety22]

@@Abmarp makes me so happy to hear, please do!!

[@niaonthego3442]

Aww i feel you!!! Im getting married next month and I want to scream because im mad.

[@jessicakeskemety22]

@@niaonthego3442 please do what makes YOU happy!!! The people that love you will appreciate you! And those that don’t BUH BYE

[@bilistooka_go_boom]

I would LOVE a micro wedding. Unfortunately, I have 70 people on just my dads side that are aunts, uncles, and first cousins. They will all be butt hurt if they don't get an invitation. Better to avoid drama.

[@larissanunes7350]

Currently trying not to go over 120 guests, but my fiancé and my parents know too many people. Struggling to juggle my dream of an intimate wedding and their need for being surrounded by everyone they know ToT

[@bilistooka_go_boom]

@@larissanunes7350 I feel that. 1/3 of the people invited i already know won't show up. And another 1/3 are my family that I wish didn't show up. The remaining 1/3 are his family and our friends.

[@brittanys9706]

This! So I planned it last min ( 4 months before ) for the 4th of july and more then half couldn't come or had plans. Out of 150 ppl invited 60 came.

[@brynna8619]

I feel you on this! My family isn't as big but I'm fully ready to not have extended family at my wedding. Do whatever will make you happiest ❤️

[@elizabethcochran3395]

My bf and I were just discussing this exact problem. But it is actually more of an issue with "friends." We have so many people who are acquaintances that we see often because of mutual friends, so probably think they are our good friends, but aren't really. But yeah they would most likely be offended if we didn't invite them as our mutual friends would be invited.

[@AliceinDisneyWorld1125]

For my BF's sister's wedding, one of her ringbearers didn't show up for the ceremony because his mom was out dress shopping for the wedding and he was "fussy". 🙄 Also, for when my BF and I get married, part of the reason I've decided on black bridesmaid dresses is because his horrible aunt threw massive fit at his sister having black bridesmaids dresses. So screw her, she gets another black bridesmaid dress wedding. 😂

[@largebrownie5861]

The wedding dress shopping crowd spoke to me! I went for my first shopping trip with my two bridesmaids and my mum- I was not planning to choose a dress but just to see the options and if my vision even exists in my price range. I ended up being torn between 3 dresses, which would have been good enough for me to leave it there, sleep on it for a week and go back by myself; but instead I got swayed into choosing one of them then and there. I do like the dress but ever since I have had anxiety whenever I think of the fact that I could have found a better dress or may have gone another direction if not for the opinions of everyone else there. (this happens a lot whenever I shop where I'll be convinced to buy something by someone else saying something looks good on me, and then never wear it again because I don't have the confidence in it). Before I went on that shopping trip I had been talking about going alone, and EVERYONE I ever said that to was like "nooo you don't have to I'll come with you"... bruh, so not the point! In hindsight I would have been too overwhelmed doing that first trip on my own, but I wish I had stuck to my guns and not chosen a dress on that day with other people's opinions around.

[@michaelapenwarden-watson3514]

Something very similar just happened to me this weekend. But I went to a wedding dress sale. I was torn between two dresses and I'm afraid I picked the wrong one. My anxiety has been terrible about it. Hoping it passes sooner than later for both of us ❤

[@catoe06]

I never thought that so many people would do this, but when they found out we were engaged there were so many that asked to be invited…I just always thought you’re not supposed to invite yourself?

[@Saphireaway]

I find that most people who do this have never planned a large gathering or have never been exposed to the costs. I admit I’ve done that once before! But now that I’m paying for a wedding and instantly think of every invite as a +$50, my eyes have been opened lol! I just tell the people that invite themselves, we’ve actually already reached capacity for our venue. They’re pretty strict with guest count and space limit stuff (which is kindaaaaa true because they only provide 150 chairs for the ceremony, even though the reception hall can technically fit well over 500…)

[@juliab516]

my confession is that im nervous about planning my wedding because I no longer speak with anybody in my family. my fiancé’s family is amazing and have always accepted me as a part of their own (this wedding will make it official! :^)) but im struggling with a lot of guilt and embarrassment from having no involvement from my family. i know it’s the right decision to not include them, but with weddings being such a traditionally family-oriented ordeal and all of the traditions and wedding marketing thrown towards me, it really makes me feel lost, especially since most of the helpful material towards dealing with family dynamics during weddings is aimed towards divorced parents, not me, a bride whose entire family will not be there

[@phthaloblue2723]

I feel the exact same way.

[@haenahkim]

I can't personally relate, but remember that you have chosen family too who can be equally as important and influential. At the end of the day, it's your event and your wedding, and anyone with opinions about how "shameful" it is not including certain people can respectfully and professionally go frick themselves. I'm a random stranger on the internet, but I'm proud of you for drawing the line and leaving toxic relationships, and I wish you luck on planning a lovely party with legal benefits. If it helps, you could do a dramatic walking down the aisle solo? Or if your fiance's family doesn't have a daughter maybe even ask their father/grandfather to walk you down? Or a best friend? Or a dog. Or a cat. Or an army of bees escorting ethereal druidic beauty down the aisle to the horror of those around you as they swarm the flowers present. Or maybe a dramatic entrance with bridesmaids in front of you to carry a fan to billow your dress and hair like some kind of magical cosmetic commercial.

[@allisonmiller3148]

I’m sorry you’re having to deal with this. I wish I had made this decision when my husband and I were engaged. Instead, I included my family and they went back and forth with being supportive and telling us they would help us with things to a month out telling us they wouldn’t be involved in anything (they had already committed to paying for the venue and catering, which I insisted they be sure that they would be ok with that before agreeing for them to do that for us) affectively canceling our wedding a month before it was supposed to happen. Since they were the ones to cancel, I told them that they could explain to everyone why the wedding wasn’t taking place any longer. I’m their only daughter, they helped my brother throw a huge wedding, and he’s divorced. I’m still married 10yrs later (we eloped) and have 4 beautiful kids and a home with my husband. It still hurts and we’re having an anniversary party that I’m seriously considering not inviting them to.

[@teresaortiz2027]

i only have my mom, grandma and sister on this planet that are "family." I've lost touch with all cousins, aunts and uncles through the years. unfortunately due to my sister's drug habit and my mom/grandma condoning her actions, they will not be invited to wedding. its too much hurt more than love. I am seeing a therapist to deal with the guilt but its getting easier since i've made the decision in my head and heart. I will have no family, no blood at the wedding ... and its ok. Other than my close friends who know why, everyone will get the "they couldnt make it" response and thats it. You made this choice for a reason, dont forget that.

[@VioletEmerald]

Sending hugs. I'd recommend just embracing non-traditional ideas as much as possible for the wedding and it'll still be so very nice. Hold onto how lucky you feel to have your soon-to-be-spouse's family as you're family and celebrating how nice it is that this will be the day that becomes official!

[@anjanaecapri5515]

I was the one who submitted the one about my MIL crying about the colors. ... it was sage green and dusty rose. Is that really THAT ugly?

[@rebeccasteele9340]

No those are so pretty. My colors are a Dark green and blush pink.

[@caitlinfoster9508]

I was thinking about this one.

[@missrandom6980]

Means her taste is ugly.

[@kaleystiles5549]

I love those colors together ❤

[@vanessar.6085]

Honestly...no. It's like a flower.

[@katelynbuschman6359]

I have type 1 Diabetes. Flower girl was halfway down the aisle and I was getting ready to walk down with my parents when I suddenly felt like I was going to pass out from low blood sugar. So with seconds to spare, I ran to the kitchen, grabbed one of the desert cookies, ate half of it, set the other half on a nearby table, and walked down the aisle. Thankfully my aunt reminded me to check my teeth for chocolate. 😂

[@emilylrt6172]

It's funny to hear about the differences in a traditional/classic wedding in the States vs here in France for example! A wedding here will never end before at least 4/5 in the morning whereas in the states it will rarely go past midnight ! The bride and the groom never do a grand exit or anything like that, small weddings (like less than 50 people) are also not common where I live. So it goes to show that you do you no matter the norms or expectations! It might be something completely normal elsewhere ☺ I also struggle sometimes between what my fiancé and I want and what is expected of us !

[@jendubay3782]

Wow! That sounds like a heck of a party. I’d love to hear more about the differences, like what do you guys do about alcohol? Does the couple pay for it? Is it a cash bar?

[@emilylrt6172]

@@jendubay3782 Yes we pay for alcohol ! Most of the time it's champagne for the cocktail part and wine for dinner. A cash bar is not a thing at all ! Never saw one here 😊

[@kayseacamp]

Went dress shopping with just my MOH and it was the best decision ever. Also didn't have a "budget" for the wedding but had mental caps on each category. Also eloped this past Dec and our "big" day will be on our 1 year this year. So it's kinda taking alot of the "pressure" off of the day.

[@themotivationmermaid6647]

I felt the pain of the in-laws one LOL! Making your fiance email the venue is a GENIUS idea I am going to keep in my pocket!

[@carolynb.9469]

Covid was the perfect excuse for my small wedding as well! Only 26 guests, immediate family and our closest friends, and it was perfect 💕

[@lfanning31]

My MOH dragged me to go try on dresses one Wednesday night and we had a blast. Just the two of us and we had the women at David’s rolling laughing. I ordered a black gown, I’ll bring my bridal party when it comes in to see it.

[@nadiadansani2139]

The one about the surprise wedding at the engagement party made me lol, and was the most shocking to me but I love that energy 😂😂😂😂

[@stephaniem2743]

If it's hard to choose/reject bridesmaids, you could always choose to have none. That's what I did. No hurt feelings, no regrets!

[@monicabarnett9231]

My brother and his wife did that, I was so grateful!

[@TheAjlanda]

My sister napped during dinner at her wedding reception- between the heavy dress, the amount of Bobby pins in her hair and just the overall busyness of the day, she had a terrible headache by 7 pm. Everyone ate dinner and she took a Tylenol and a 30 min nap in the bridal suite. #noregrets

[@jessicapires1744]

Oof the uninviting people after save the dates was the biggest challenge for my wedding (and I'm a planner!) I did handwritten letters to let folks down easy 😬😬😬

[@spiralbuddy]

I loved my wedding, almost 15 years ago. 😊 I woke up saying that the day was going to be perfect, because whatever happened, that’s what I would define as ‘perfect’ ❤.

[@veronicadavis5615]

We need part 2 of this video. I would agree with the guest coount my wedding is in 44 days and if I could do it all over again I may would just have about 80 people to make it more special and get to actually see my guest and not 150 plus people trying to greet me and my fiance

[@SparklesNJazz]

i feel like i’m one of those rare cases who has to have a big wedding because i genuinely want every person on my guest list to be there… i am very very very lucky to have so many amazing friends, family, and future in-laws

[@hannaperez1787]

I bought my dream dress on a whim and didn't tell my mother... I have the bridal place working with me to create a scheme like I found the dress with her there

[@lispine3458]

Totally bought my wedding dress at 17 years old. Bought my ring at 20 years old. 21 years (currently gettin my dress altered) and definitely not dating anyone. 😂

[@kristymedina3611]

Love this video! My husband and I got married 3 weeks ago and I feel like I can relate to about 90% of these! However, I was incredibly exhausted before the wedding day... however, we had been looking forward to this day so much that we and our absolute closes friends all stayed dancing and singing until 4 am. We specifically didn't want a grand exit because we just wanted to have an open end with our friends. Was a ton of fun! We also got married in Germany. I am American, but my husband is German. Also, your videos were a lifesaver when I was trying to figure out my wedding. Thank you so much for your wonderful channel!!

[@nickerpuppets]

I definitely feel about the bridesmaids situation. I am currently getting married in October and I have my two sisters and two close friends as my bridesmaids. I chose them because I wanted to keep it to max 4 plus I wanted to make sure I chose people who I knew would help out and support me when I need it.

[@daydreamhealthbeauty2070]

I’ve got a confession! Lol my mother in law has already been late for the tasting that I planned for our moms because my FH and me went and picked what we wanted by ourselves and moms got upset. Now because I’m anxious she would be late for the actual wedding… I’m not giving her an invitation and I’m telling her the wedding is actually 30 min prior to when it actually starts 🤷🏼‍♀️

[@meredithmorse2072]

Fully did take a nap on my wedding day. I don’t regret it at all.

[@brynna8619]

I'm planning on having some friends with me to find my dress and then inviting my mom and future mother in law to the alteration appointment. Probably going to upset someone but that's what I want

[@lashawnpressley5166]

I so enjoy your videos 🤩. I'm not getting married but I love weddings. I think you should do a comparison video on movie weddings vs real life weddings, I would so 🧡 that 😃

[@leilahkp]

Loved hearing these. Also your makeup looks great! 💄

[@laurenhaacke1107]

Definitely do these as a fun interjection in your video planning! So fun to watch!

[@christineadler713]

I didn't feel exhausted the day of, but the weeks after our honeymoon I was burnt out beyond anything I've ever felt. My husband, bless him, was energized and ready to plan the next big thing and I had to kindly but firmly shut him down until I could recover lol.

[@stacyanthony3982]

I love watching your videos. Your videos are one of the few that I watch the ads because I know it helps you! Thank you for being awesome!

[@maddie7414]

Would LOVE to see more videos like this !!

[@emilyg9184]

You see, coming from a Mexican background, big parties are inevitable because of all the family i have. We're looking at about 120 invited guests, but they're literally immediate families, God parents/families, and first cousins! Plus, it is all family that i definitely talk to and have spent time with me and my partner as a couple because we are only looking to invite family members that spend time with us.

[@kendallrogers9814]

You are so down to earth and your videos have helped me so much. Thank you!

[@btsarmyforever3816]

In most Indian wedding we don't do anything. The mandapam (Wedding venue, like where you get married) takes care of EVERYTHING. You pay and you are free of stress. Most of us don't hire wedding planners either. Nothing to plan lol. In India a lot of them mandapam are wedding specific and only host weddings due to religious reasons, Especially since this is a Hindu concept. The venue gives you quotes on how grand you want the flowers, catering, staff , stand for welcoming guests etc. It's mostly all same but nowadays more and more western concepts are incorporated, in non traditional weddings. Traditional ones are mostly same. We usually don't do a plus one concept in India. We go by the invitations we send. If we invite someone, we invite the whole family of that person's. Whether they come or not is also irrelevant. As such a LOT of food used to go to waste in the past but now there are charity services you call. They take away the food and feed the needy and even give them to orphanages. This way no food is wasted. As for flowers only fresh flowers will be used everywhere since it's religious. So at the end of the day they will wilt. From arranging to cleaning up, the venue is responsible. Traditional venues do not allow outside vendors for anything. They handle it all themselves.

[@clemensiaauxellium2385]

I am also an indian and it is really lucky for the hindu couples as they are stress free. I am roman Catholic and if it is not an arranged marriage everything has to be done by the couple. All my friends who got married did not take a single rupee from parents. We all together did everything. From bookin church for ceremony to finding a venue, planning menu, bookin caterers... worst was buying clothes and gift for both family relatives. Me and my friend, we designed the wedding card and hand decorated those. It was a small wedding but boy it was so stressful but we loved every single bit of it. Even if it is arranged marriage, among Christian in india, both the families split the money and our budget does not go over more than 3 to 4 lakhs from both the sides. I'm not even in a relationship but if i ever get married ,i am not taking a single rupee from my family also everything from venue to food to flowers i have already decided. 🤭 will not be changing that for anyone. The day i am engaged both the families will have to sit and watch my ppt for 2hrs to understand everything from the start till their roles😂

[@aliciacoble7854]

My wedding confession: I married my hubby WITHOUT rings !..we told everyone it was a religious thing...(I actually don't wear jewelry) BYT the truth is I didn't want him to feel bad we couldn't afford rings

[@Saphireaway]

This is actually so sweet. Very witty idea! My fiancé is wearing a 50 cent wooden ring we bought at a souvenir shop while on a mission trip one time. He insists on wearing it to not spend anymore money and I actually really love the novelty and simplicity of it!!

[@nicholedisani6127]

I am OBSESSED with your nail polish

[@saradirksen7711]

I love your videos. Your face is so beautiful and your smile/laughter is so warm. It makes me happy that your face still shows emotion (not perfect botox that can't react and just looks bored all the time) You have great content with a wonderful personality to deliver it.

[@paigepierce4422]

Definitely right in the thick of it right now. Thank you for the comic relief

[@robinruane6255]

We had a great day but I think if we could go back and redo we would just go away and come back married. I tried to keep things small but nice and got criticism at every point and then a couple things I did that I was excited about got taken over and ruined. The people meant well and I kept quiet to be peaceful but they totally ruined something I was really excited about. It made me glad I stuck to my guns on the things I did though.

[@ccroque1]

I am so happy and thankful that my fiancé is being involved and has ideas to suggest when I'm trying to keep things simple and costs low.. But most of his ideas are time consuming and not cheap 😂 We've had a laugh over it. I've given him an A for effort.

[@LaurenGrangerBeauty]

I'm planning a wedding on my own and holy moly this video is so relatable!!!

[@carinarichardson6634]

I was just in the wedding where a bride had a sword and walked it down the aisle in front of her had her maid of honor hold it hold it for the ceremony and walked back down the aisle with it and put it to the side for the rest of the reception then used it to "cut" the cake For picture sake but actually cut it With a real knife after photos. It was cool and a huge talking point of guests

[@cookfamily6141]

Love this!

[@tarakiepke5761]

I need 100 more of these!! FYI, I finally caught up! I started from your first video and I am obssed!

[@jasminfoley9769]

I’ve never really been close with my own sister but my mum won’t accept the fact that I don’t want her in my party. But I really want my future sister-in-law to be a bridesmaid because we get along so well. I feel terrible because it feels like I can’t ask one and not the other

[@Abmarp]

I feel that deeply

[@lovelyisabelle2028]

I ordered my wedding dress on Etsy without showing anyone and/or trying it on ;) ...I just wanted to find something FOR ME without having other peoples opinions

[@erinhurlock5521]

I did the same thing! I absolutely love the dress I found on Etsy. A small part of me wishes I had the dress shopping experience, but I wouldn't have changed a thing.

[@jacjac2010]

I've been married for 12 years and I regret inviting so many people, even though there were less than 100 that showed up. I am very much an introvert and I would have been happy getting marred in my grandma's back yard with 20 people. The option was there but back in my early 20's I was a major people pleaser. You live, you learn, then you dont give a crap. LOL

[@devvandyke1195]

My brother and his wife had a micro wedding about a year ago. It was beautiful ❤️

[@rachaeljohnson9711]

Your expressions make me chuckle 😆

[@aussican]

Loved this 😆👏

[@attimesava1596]

The person who didn’t add people to the seating chart is classic. I don’t think I could do it but in my heart I’d want to

[@elysebishop3925]

Definitley agree with only 1 or a few people with dress shopping. I get overwhelmed with multiple opinions so I only had my mom and maid of honor go with me.

[@power_photography]

This is friggen hilarious. Takes some of the pressure off wedding planning

[@KaitlynJMoran]

OH MY GOSH YOURE AN ENNEAGRAM 3??!! My futuristic side is already looking at planning videos at least half a year in advance so I can be prepared XD

[@nadiadansani2139]

Would love to see a wedding trends from this past year review at the end of the year, and a review of the upcoming trends for next year

[@calkinsfamily2436]

We did take a nap between the ceremony and reception. Our pictures at the church didn't take near as long as I thought. Also the pastor thought I was going to faint so rushed the ceremony a bit. Lol

[@belangerbrooke]

Omg I went off with my MOH and tried on dresses, it was the BEST day haha. Went another day with just grandma and found THE ONE, also amazing day