Young Bae Faces Her Abusive Dad For The First Time | Black Ink Crew

Bae finally faces her father years after fleeing Korea and tries to get answers for why he treated her and her family so violently, leading to an emotional blow out. If you or someone you know has experienced domestic violence, help is available. Head to gethelp.vh1.com for more resources.
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[@badgirlsclub1688]

Jordy Lunkhead Verrill u got receipts??

[@ekenyi]

such a poor excuse for a dad.

[@gigigonzalez8569]

You guys should be ashamed for even allowing this to take place for views or whatever it is you do this is way personal

[@gigigonzalez8569]

@Dionta Williams if not then go read what others viewers think, would you put something so private on national TV for views likes or money it is what it is shameful

[@luphillips587]

If you’ve never been abused physically and sexually by your father 😭😭😭😭😭😭😭dammmm it’s so painful

[@belu325]

She can’t even look at him in the eyes. So sorry for her

[@angeldoemer8263]

it is a thing in many Asian..and Native Americans...we can not look at a man till he acknowledges us.

[@avasweetman1437]

moonlight right💔

[@challxn]

The “say you’re sorry” broke my heart

[@ElenaNaumovaa]

fr

[@daintyndead7238]

Same.

[@kwoneunbie_0780]

ikr he supposed to know better. Its sad that she had to say what she wanna hear

[@hm6134]

I cried during that part and the rest of the screaming. You can hear all the agony she had held inside for all those years and she finally reached the breaking point . I’m proud of her for finally being able to find the strength to stand up for herself and those he hurt as well .

[@catelisa6903]

I was crying with her 🥺

[@sksksksksksk8802]

she's screaming for all the times she couldn't. it's good to let it out.

[@luciobandz]

Trust me i know that feeling

[@feelsoalive1]

Definitely 😤

[@teanatorres6830]

So trueee

[@politelyunstable4678]

You don't know stop using her trauma for likes you mosnster

[@kushqueen9752]

Michael O'neill actually it can help to finally one day stand in front of the person who abused you and hurt you and scream at them and tell them everything they never would let you say and this is coming from my own personal experience

[@Preppyvidzxoxo]

The fact that her father can just sit down and smile whilst she’s screaming in pain tells us everything. He doesn’t regret it, not even a little bit

[@Absofrickinlutely]

I agree, he shows no remorse!

[@dozenbuzzard2662]

I agree, but i also think he partly disassociated with him and the actions he did. not saying this as an excuse for the Terrible things he did, but his realiy is being challanged

[@xuyzn9197]

@the cool nice guy🎩 do you want that much attention? lol

[@Rachel-ty2wq]

@the cool nice guy🎩 wow edgelords are still a thing? Who knew

[@Anna_587]

@the cool nice guy🎩 you are sick in the head idk If you are mentally ill or your momma left when you were young but you need help ❤️

[@aestheticgirl2439]

He still didn’t even say he was sorry just making excuses for the things he did to them like it didn’t happen

[@nonbeliever510]

He said what he was told to say in the script. This show is fake and so is Young's backstory.

[@user-ii6xi4ex5p]

Non Believer if what happened to youngbae was fake give her an oscar

[@ehei1024]

@@nonbeliever510 hmm, you're name checks out so pls leave the yt ground if you gon to spread false info idiot

[@raditutu]

@@nonbeliever510 why you in every comment section saying things fake💀 it dont matter if you believe it or not, if you dont know for f*cking sure keep it to your self💀 damn

[@hannahrozenberg3411]

Z pOtAtO Because he’s a narcissist. He refuses to take the blame. My dad is the same way. And I can never do what she’s doing cause the only reason I’d talk to him like this would be time blame him and not accepting him back in my life. So it doesn’t work for me.

[@halalilac4181]

she looks badass but you can tell as he walked in she couldn’t even look at him, that is just sad, making excuses is stupid, you can tell she was actually hurt when she was crying ;(

[@marryhtoo3500]

Ik he was abusive but he couldn’t even talk about her.

[@rose_is_the_bestuwu9739]

@Apex stop that's really serious

[@rose_is_the_bestuwu9739]

@Apex shes screaming because all the pain she had in her she had to scream for what he had done

[@shahidasolaiman]

@Apex it aint funny at all not trying to be rude

[@Hi-um1xn]

Apex that’s not even funny stfu

[@jennellalleyne101]

all she wanted was an apology. that should never be hard , most definitely when she could’ve done so much more.💔

[@Zeni2468]

Its easy to say sorry, the problem is that he has to mean it. 1 real apology is always better than a 100 fake ones.

[@todoroki6910]

That’s what abusers do they always make excuses and never apologise

[@darmish7629]

More than that. like a real apology not a fake one

[@emmi8632]

Yeah exactly

[@411Urstruly]

But what does an apology do at this point..? Not saying she is wrong but she would have still yelled at him for saying it anyways and the comments would have agreed.

[@booooostaaaaa-h5j]

4:16 the translation is wrong. she didn't say fever. she said bleeding downwards from stomach. those two words sound similar but thats what she said. he kicked her intestines so hard that it bled out

[@noreallyimfine.]

damn. that’s fvcked

[@ZeyTheGamer09]

We need this comment to get popular so people can know

[@booooostaaaaa-h5j]

@@ZeyTheGamer09 Lmao I didnt know people are still watching this video, thank god I wrote this comment

[@teakettlebynatalie]

@@booooostaaaaa-h5j yea, thank you for clarifying

[@kimchigirlsophie]

EXACTLY. she did not deserve this.

[@mayaakore]

ugh,he is so manipulative acting like he didn’t mean it and asking if she still hates him and feeling bad for himself. Disgusting.

[@mbolt9245]

Hehe ItzMaya he only asks if she still hates him bc he wants her to say no so he doesn’t realize his own guilt

[@fkatwigsisthequeenofenglan4748]

my dad is the same. liar. I can't tell him or call him out because of his ego. he blames me for everything and doesn't want to listen. it's exhausting

[@PeriwinkleB]

Indeed he’s narcissistic. They can’t stand having to apologize, even if they know that they’re wrong

[@glitchygamer905]

Callista Chan No it’s just how asian culture is. They call physical, mental , and emotional abuse “Discipline” . All because he gave her a home and food doesn’t mean she has to like him. She has a right to hate him for putting her through that for years.

[@estrella3891]

fka twigs is the queen of england omg my dad is the same

[@sugacube3239]

It’s sad that people actually go through this, no matter the age. Someone’s being abused right now, and when she broke down crying, I nearly did too. 🥺🥺

[@shenise1294]

Had me crying... Could truly feel her hurt

[@LeNoir2411]

at first i was kinda a lil bit judgemental.. it was kinda over dramatic at first probably because i realized it's some kind of reality show.. I've never watch this show.. but when she started screaming asking why..i couldn't hold back my tears..part or probably most part of her clearly still getting stuck in the past.. because yeah.. every people who have been in that situation have one major question in their head.. why,what was the reason..

[@lilbohbeat5785]

I still have tears on my cheeks

[@stephaniecurrie7390]

Survivor here! That was triggering af for me

[@kento4152]

i really feel how she feels and i consider her lucky to be able to put out all her feelings like this and to put it out to everyone on a tv show. its hard to get that chance to let everything out.

[@mattycold4474]

That's the abused little girl coming out of her. I just want to hold her and tell her everything is okay and she's strong. Poor baby.

[@mari-ok6jk]

ik. i dont even know who she is but this came into my recommended and my heart hurts for her. u can hear her pain and im so angry at her father for just smiling and watching. i feel so so bad

[@sheggy3658]

This is abuse I know difference between abuse and discipline cah me & my siblings got beatings and punishments but there a line that the parent can’t cross🧏🏾

[@BMMTVLive]

@@mari-ok6jk i know

[@kaylajohson2333]

Mari Baker same

[@naylaharris6632]

"He fucked Up 3 lives and he got nothing to say“. I FELT THAT 💔

[@YNB003]

I can definitely relate to this. A**holes like him. Abusive parents like him are the worst beings. My sp*rm donor was the worst and I hate him very much that I wish sometimes he suffers like my family and I did.

[@PuppyBIood]

Same.

[@ritujag]

That comment triggered me bc I have 3 sisters and I am Asian too. I felt that and I don’t judge and nobody else should. Abuse is fucking death but a slow kill over the years to your soul. I have to stop crying now and I need a break from the phone. Just hearing that line is emotionally taxing; now imagine living it. Don’t judge us. Empathy.

[@_whyyoumad_]

​@@ritujag i have two sisters but same

[@Tara-db8jg]

I felt for her

[@beautifulorchid5107]

She doesn't even want to look at him ,this was hard to watch.

[@saraderas288]

Hey 👋🏼 I just like like this o

[@corymorrow5329]

Dave Daniels he clearly wont, he was just smirking and she is still emotionally damaged from the pain he put her through, I don’t think those go away, she might heal from it but I wouldn’t say both will necessarily come to terms with what happened to her, it’s hard to overcome that, they for sure won’t come to terms with it together anyway, glad he isn’t in her life now

[@keirinsnow8978]

*”Beating us for smiling”* *”Beating us for crying”* *”And then we cried from the beating, you said you would kill us”*

[@tonybonetb125]

justice Q5 ' fym?

[@inamedmycatagustd9200]

The last one I can relate to but my parents love me

[@whatyouneed6163]

Beating us for smiling? Nah ur parents ain't like u period thats evil

[@leonkuwata5743]

:(

[@kuroothemaniac748]

Keirin Snow I got slapped for not smiling from my grandma 💀 but that dad is more toxic than mine

[@TheMidnightLuna]

When she yells “say you’re sorry” I literally started to cry. She can’t wrap her head around his poor excuses for beating her. All her screams were of trauma. Screams that you can’t faked. I hope she knows how strong she is for even showing up to that meeting with him.

[@taniyajada2755]

I started crying too. Especially when she started sobbing. That made me so fucking sad

[@shaniathompson2003]

Dammm

[@khairunnisa1990feb]

Dasasopiram people who shows their crying emotion is not weak but they are the strongest !

[@Faboostic]

The worse part was that when he was leaving she still didn't want him to leave, she was clearly scared of him leaving forever and never saying sorry, like she was still waiting for him to say it :(

[@beware_the_jester0045]

I also started crying, i actually went through something like this, when i was young i was severely abused, finally it was found out by the time i was fourteen, barely 3 years ago (i was 21) i was able to drive by andstop by the same house where i lived my worst years, i cried a lot, the house now abandoned, held in all the years i spent in a horrible hell of beatings and sexual harassment and starvation, and that day i felt strong enough to stop, and cry all i wanted to...and after, after i fel better, relieved, no longer afraid

[@baldbeardcombo]

Her pain is so RAW. I hope she heals, no one deserves to go through that.

[@divyaa4459]

@Tech some of you really need to stop bringing 'women this' 'men that' into everything. You dont even know if thats a woman. Just talk directly to the person you're replying to. No need to bring generalizations and stereotypes or whatever into everything. Also, how are you so sure its scripted? (im not saying i 100% believe this is real but still, it could be)

[@Natasha-hx7js]

@Tech Take your meds

[@GuidedbyCrows]

The chance to scream the truth at his face helps the healing. She'll feel the relief later.

[@seomi-ui6vo]

@Tech you just doesnt have heart stfu

[@amarra7218]

Poor baby. ); She turned into that same little girl as soon as he walked in.

[@imtired6614]

Amarra not to mention every time she tries to confront him he makes up an excuse. He has not realized his actions and what he has done to his daughter and he needs to get out. As a chinese kid I’ve seen some nasty stuff with parents and children. This guy will not change.

[@taebear]

right i can see it, its so sad

[@claudenea1496]

Amarra she couldn’t even look at him💔

[@auuriii]

Amarra , i saw the tears in her eyes 🥺

[@tobennaekwedike7644]

You could tell that she was getting scared when he walk in

[@dollyfawn]

you can hear the years of pain in her voice,, and the dad doesn’t even show any sympathy but is rather giving excuses. disgusting.

[@imaho4535]

nah you can tell he regrets he's just very embrassed. just like he should be

[@vieraharriell3308]

Ima Ho yea but he still did a bad thing even though he regrets it the pain and the memories will still be there

[@Sweethartsun]

In the abusers head everything they did was right which is why I hate people like that

[@Nora-mg5xk]

joyult you can

[@Nora-mg5xk]

I feel bad for her she shouldn’t have to deal with this

[@chiletheghetto7763]

I don't even know who this woman is and I'm crying real tears for her. This is heartbreaking.

[@christajiajohnson4037]

She’s From Black Ink Crew New York

[@nahumenzanza7022]

I feel her pain 😭😭

[@taiwoajayi7639]

I am literally crying 😢

[@snf2004]

Me tooo I’m really sorry for here

[@NANI-ce8tp]

i was crying the thing she said in korean it hurted but i smilled when she attacked him! get her bae!!

[@lesshlyashhes]

I have never watched this show but saw this pop up on my feed and watched in pure tears. You can immediately understand the amount of trauma she has experienced. Absolutely heartbreaking

[@Msswagtastic09]

Broke my heart

[@Infrunami24]

yes and I completely believe her he is so wrong for that how could you do that to your own children

[@SobrietyandSolace]

Even if her father will not validate her feelings at least we have all seen and heard her truth I hope she reads some of these comments and feels heard, that’s all she wanted was to feel heard

[@angelesbarkus-hough3932]

she is so incredibly strong. she should be so proud of herself.

[@fair7monster763]

Period

[@bananasgutierrez9728]

I know I would be tough to and tell the truth 😉

[@kaylajohson2333]

periodt

[@rickmartin541]

No she is not

[@trash336]

Periodt

[@aakcjebxivyaj3313]

The fact that she was yelling at him and crying but the dad looks like he doesn’t care

[@Glensley]

BROOO HE WAS SMILING TOO

[@destinylassalle1170]

I felt like he didn't care and he lied to her and i feel bad she really wants an apology and he didn't give her that

[@sanaeemobile7561]

Sounds like my mom.

[@anushka1223]

Fr shameless creature 🤮🤢

[@brookeo_o3866]

I think he cared deep down and knew what he did was cruel, bc I can sort of tell by how he was getting emotional by yelling at the camera crew and crying a little. But people like him don’t want to show it. I was never physically abused like her but my dad acts the same. He knows he’s made mistakes but I’ve never heard him apologize and he’s never showed a feeling of sadness. I mean he also genuinely thinks he’s right for how he acts so

[@XOXODANiE]

I recognize the sound of that sobbing. As a child of an abusive parent, those feelings come up like you want to throw up. Anger, confusion, and self-disgust for still seeking love and answers from that parent.

[@orionsoutro1794]

Same, when I cry after my dad throws a tantrum or starts verbally abusing me, I sound exactly like this

[@XOXODANiE]

@@orionsoutro1794 sending you a very big hug because my dad is the same way. I hope that you protect your peace, sis! Here for you❤

[@katherineraquelle1930]

Exactly. I cried the exact same way she did when my narc mother was verbally and emotionally abusing me in private. I cried in public yet no one understood why. I kept all the emotions bottled up inside for it to burst out.

[@XOXODANiE]

@@katherineraquelle1930 it's such an overwhelming and uncontrollable feeling. I don't wish it on anyone! Hope you are in a good and safe space now❤

[@katherineraquelle1930]

@@XOXODANiE I've had multiple public emotional breakdowns mainly in school due to my narc mother's abuse before stepping foot on my campus. I had a fellow classmate and professor think I got in a car accident... It's soul rehab. I have days where I get depressed or traumatized. Its especially hard when some people close to you tell you to "JUST GET OVER IT". This type of abuse is something else. Stays in your subconscious and you never forget it. Thank you love. I have gone no contact with my toxic, abusive family and slowly getting my life together. Everything I lost during my chaotic, insane personal life i am now slowly getting back. I'm also now watching karma unfold on them while I get blessed.

[@aster4205]

The way he shouts "let go of me" to the producers shows his true colors

[@FactStorm]

Exactly, he never even apologized..then showed aggression as if he's the victim. It's sickening!

[@Rish.Houdini]

You could hear a police siren coming for him when he was walking out the cafe

[@cosmicredeemer3109]

@@FactStormThat’s DARVO for you.

[@ajax4801]

How let him go tf

[@kr3atorrr]

@@ajax4801 they werent even touching him he barely got touched

[@bibliasfanta6376]

She's reacting the way she has wanted to react while going through abuse. People with this type of trauma were forced to be silent. And when the bubble bursts, it bursts.

[@explojinn]

Absolutely

[@XercasPathology]

Yes and especially because she was a small child and couldn't do anything all those years to protect herself. Now she's an adult and he can't hurt her anymore it's coming out

[@LunakieCherrie]

That’s what happened to me, it’s disgusting

[@888.veronicaa]

yeah. abusing your abuser should be normalized. it sucks that society sets that standard on men AND women being silent when it comes to being verbally/mentally/sexually/physically abused.

[@LuvCroissant]

@@888.veronicaa The truth is, while our abusers have caused us trauma, its now our duty to ourselves to heal and find peace. You will never get that from the same environments or person that broke you in the first place. I do not want to be hateful, but I shall not become what they did to me. Bless to everyone going through it, I know its difficult, but we all deserve better!!!

[@allthingstrishy]

I hate how he is smiling when she’s telling him the stuff he did to them. He’s evil and he’s proud of hurting them...

[@Tomatoblend44]

Ik I saw him smiling😭 he should be ASHAMED of himself

[@jordyn9407]

yes and no i smile and laugh in the worst situations i cant help it but i trully so feel bad and sorry

[@doomnatic8837]

Thats not completely true tho ppl tend to smile/laugh when there in a situation where they dont know how to react. I remember when I got scolded by a teacher I kept smiling for no reason

[@jordyn9407]

@@doomnatic8837 fr then i get in more trouble

[@doomnatic8837]

@@jordyn9407 wdym

[@Clouhan]

That's NOT a woman being dramatic. That's her lil kid inside her trying to protect her.

[@BMarie774]

No for real. I learned in therapy that myself from the age range of around 7-12 became the “protector”. To this day, sometimes, I still let that little kid come out when I shut off due to ptsd. That kid is still trapped in there, fears and all, because they never for closure…

[@hellochristimbouttasinagain]

This. I just got into therapy recently as a grown adult and lord it hurt me so bad to realize I didn’t get to really enjoy my childhood fully like others. (Not that i went through the same as her but different.) so I understood the crying and irritation she felt.

[@keirabrianaa6195]

She couldn’t even look at him, it’s heartbreaking how parents can mentally & physically abuse their kids and feel no remorse💔

[@erikanorman928]

keira brianaa I think he is hurting he just doesn’t know how to cope

[@hannahlaperche2018]

Erika Norman that’s no excuse to best your family..... there’s nothing that you could’ve gone through to give you excuses to put your hands on your kids...

[@donotSTrAYfromyourdesTINY]

Hannah Laperche that’s true but just because it’s not the right thing to do, doesn’t mean that no one will do it. Some ppl choose the wrong way to cope with things, sadly. I hope she one day finds happiness

[@purplegirl333]

It truly is since I used to have a stepfather who mentally abused me. It's hard becuase you put your trust on the one person who's supposed to love and care for not to hurt you and break your sanity. I now have to deal with depression thanks to my former stepfather. I need to be drinking pills now thanks to him. It really those hurt alot especially seeing her be so brave to confront her abuser. I give her my full respect for that. It gives me a bit of strength and let's me know that I'm not alone in this problem.

[@Elsa-mu5ge]

@@tir_.ed_liah8752 I hope you are safe now? I hope the same for your sister. I think it shows you are a good person that you feel bad for not protecting her. But I do not think it is your fault, or that it is your responsibility for your dad not to abuse her. His actions are out of your control. You are (probably) just a kid, and even if you are grown, you were raised around abuse. How could anyone not understand that you are just trying to keep yourself safe. It is not crazy to want to keep yourself safe. I hope you will be safe from your father and I hope the samen for your sister

[@diqm0nd896]

People keep saying “oh well she didn’t have to scream like that” but she was abused and couldn’t scream or yell at him when she was younger bc she would get beat she was letting all the hatred she had for her dad out

[@MonkeyDLuffy-pq7ii]

Diqm0nd Pearlss right. She has this anger and sadness that here own father gave her. It’s okay to let out and confront her father for it.

[@skittlebaby1919]

Exactly. Ppl that say “but he’s still her father” and “she shouldn’t talk to her father like that” get on my nerves. Just bc he’s her father doesn’t give him the right to beat her like that either. He could be her biological father but he clearly never lived up to being an actual good one, so why should she have to treat him as so? Respect is earned

[@nicedayaintit8023]

There's no comment that says that but ok.

[@diqm0nd896]

loveable jonah there was but okay

[@diqm0nd896]

loveable jonah and i was talking about real life as well not in the comments

[@amnedits4898]

Nah there’s nothing over exaggerated about how she reacted. That’s trauma coming out.

[@leonardodlover3960]

True.

[@KawaiiLuckyGirl]

I felt that. Poor baby. I hope she eventually heals from this.

[@Evergreen.Nulib94]

I can totally understand this. My parents feel like they raised me the best they could but I have to repress so much trauma. When I try to talk about it I cant I just uncontrollably cry. So I just forgive them and move on and try to build a new relationship with them. Because I know its not their fault its how they were brought up and it was stressful raising a weird kid that got bullied in school. No one gives parents a book on how to handle depressed kids. And nobody tells you what to do with your anger issues. You have to accept you have a problem in order to find solutions and my parents just never knew or admitted it themselves. But im okay now.. for the most part.

[@smdcowboy9432]

YUP

[@beabearose2631]

Yes

[@Alicialaucirica]

Every shrill scream was her as a child screaming during the abuse. My heart breaks.

[@iamkuu5210]

When she was screaming, it wasn’t dramatic it was pain. She let out everything she couldn’t back then. I started crying cause she never had someone that was a good father.

[@ivygirl149]

@Aanya SHARMA Hey you! I have been in the same situation! Like when you scared someone gonna get hurt because of him, like you scared when you come back from school only because of him, being scared around him and everything, I know how that feels. I lived in that fear as well, and let me tell you, if you feel like that dont ever think of it as "normal", or you just a "different family". It surely isnt normal and you deserve better.

[@Slayeahlo]

@Aanya SHARMA "i was angry with my real dad for leaving me alone when i was four... " That's not your real dad. I know you mean biological dad, but 'real dad' is too nice to describe your biological father. That ain't no father if he's not being one :/.

[@sessi7518]

Why u stole this comment

[@devilishharuna1486]

My father never paid attention to me and didn't hate me but just didn't care about me. And that's how I got daddy problems

[@iamkuu5210]

i think it’s nice that people are sharing their stories and people are comforting others. this thread of reply’s is nice

[@valeriebanks8877]

She’s so brave , anyone who’s ever been abused or violated are scared to face the person . I am not brave enough to face my abuser , God bless her , she’s so strong . May God help her ! Please father

[@stargaz3r813]

Valerie Banks God*

[@sara-zg5ne]

You don't need to face your abuser love they've hurt you enough

[@miabagley2378]

Don’t worry love, my abuser is still out there after I had to make a statement when I was 6, I am now 16 and nothing was or is being done to stop him, god bless her for standing up to him!

[@hahahefofmw]

Valerie Banks i faced my abuser/assaulter a few months ago, it felt like i was back in a cage with him. The room felt so cold and it felt like this evil entity came in the room.

[@rachelg9873]

Amen.

[@blakney1392]

She is screaming for an entire generation of children abused by their fathers including me. I am screaming with her. This is triggering but I am glad she stood up him. I have not seen mine in years. Also he is showing a nervous laugh, not an actual laugh. Nervous laughing is a reaction of stress.

[@aleezamasood]

Jean Funk as a south asian, we feel we are trapped. our parents always play victim

[@stubyourtoesplease9519]

aleeza ༻ ̈*:·. I’m not asian, but on behalf of us Latino kids that get abused, we stand with you guys.

[@iiomq_nobody1622]

I haven’t seen mine 5 years and I’m very glad about it🙏🏻

[@hi-ls6lt]

aleeza ༻ ̈*:·. As someone who has origins from the Middle East, I feel you. The victim mentality is so overwhelming

[@stubyourtoesplease9519]

Fair_Bear We’re talking on behalf of multiple cultures that brainwash their children into thinking abuse is discipline. We don’t mean to say we have it worse than other ethnicities.

[@pangkoulee7648]

I started FUCKING crying. Like, my inner child cried with her. What's even more fucked up is that after watching this, I might be like ...."Oh, she should just forgive him and let go." And that terrifies me because I don't want to be someone that minimizes people's problems.

[@donotSTrAYfromyourdesTINY]

Same, I cried as well and tbh, it’s normal for you to automatically think “I should forgive this person” because that’s something called sympathy, something that some people (like her father) do not have. But one must analyze those thoughts more deeply and take into consideration the abusee’s situation, like imagine being in their shoes, being tortured for years on end and you meet him and he shows no remorse? It’s easy to feel bad for him as you only know him from this clip. And that’s why you should not feel bad, even if it hurts you

[@sarabernard9475]

forgiveness is for the person to heal not for the abuser so its actually a good thing to forgive but that doesnt mean you should keep contact with the abuser! let him go and forgive and heal yourself but its hard

[@Absofrickinlutely]

@@sarabernard9475well said 🙏

[@dendenne4856]

Forgiveness is for the victim's sake, not the abuser, hate, revenge, anger, prevent you from moving on with your life and focus on the good, forgiveness set yourself free from what was done to you. She will never heal if she waits for apologies and explanation, he will probably never give that to her and she is left with more pain after this meeting. Healing is the best revenge because you didn't let that person break you and poison your mind, This is what an abuser wants, to broke you and make you miserable. This is easier said than done, but once she had grieved that father and everything she expected of him, she will feel better.

[@faeri_]

Forgiveness has so many different levels. I think there’s multiple times of forgiveness and I think it’s beneficial for her to give herself that forgiveness first. Nothing that happened while she was young in regards to him treat her badly was her fault.

[@mariellejunellakindanum7545]

she was screaming to make up all of the times she was kept quiet. she’s such a strong individual fr.

[@heyitsparis]

Marielle Junel Lakindanum soo true 😭❤️

[@madisonmiles830]

That’s what I was saying. My sister was clowning her for screaming so much but she really had mad pent up frustration that she wasn’t able to release way back when

[@halatiny6537]

But why do something so traumatic. I hope she could heal after all this torture.

[@warsamerashid4694]

Respect your fathers

[@elsieeyi]

Warsame Rashid Respect your children too that father deserves NO RESPECT

[@edithgarcia6004]

Her voice sounds strong but when he asks her if she still hates him, she looks like a little girl all over again. This kinda shows how we will always just be children even if we are adults. Some are vulnerable with their parents but she has the courage to face him.

[@kay2koe204]

Ofc she is going to look like a child when he asks her that. She didn’t get the chance to get all of her frustration and anger out on him. If she did when she was younger she would’ve got beaten even worse. Ofc she faced him bc she just wanted to hear him say sorry , but he didn’t he just carried on lying and smiling like he didn’t do anything so obviously she is gonna act like that.

[@edithgarcia6004]

@@kay2koe204 ofc

[@purplegirl333]

@@kay2koe204 i know the feeling of being mentally abused by my former step dad. It was the most horrible years of my life. I grew very self concious and have such low self asteem that i cant bare it no more. It feel horrible for this girl.

[@kay2koe204]

@@purplegirl333 that’s horrible to hear , I hope to you’re doing better now .

[@purplegirl333]

@@kay2koe204 i am thankfully. My mom is finally happy with another man and is a person i can truly call a dad. He found out about what happened to me and has really supported me a lot. I really appreciat he came into our lives.

[@vi0lins]

I don’t know why people are saying that her screaming and crying is “like a child” and “annoying”, obviously y’all haven’t been abused before. please think of how fortunate you are. that you haven’t been mentally trumatised before.

[@flyingfuzzies4908]

A lot of people are saying the inner child in her is coming out, as in that little girl who was abused is coming out. Because of the way her dad is acting she’s being triggered back into that headspace. It’s not to say that she’s acting childish but she’s hurting the way she did before

[@lif3withdezzi257]

my mother was in a abusive relationship but around me he acted like an angel

[@el.c.8858]

@@lif3withdezzi257 many are like that, they pretend and put on this facade when they’re such disgusting individuals. hope both of you are in a safer place and you’re doing better🤍.

[@lif3withdezzi257]

@@el.c.8858 yea uhm they broke up but he came to the house punched my mom in the eye and broke the window

[@Jay-21]

Most people are traumatized in some way

[@Cheongyuen]

She isnt crazy. Her inner child is broken and cannot be healed. She has very right to scream and yell at her father, the amount trauma she has gotten is insane. This world is truly cruel, many children probably go through the same thing.

[@sofia-rp4yz]

she’s still hurting inside and her so called “dad” is trying to make her seem like she’s crazy.

[@SweetLindsey123]

That’s what abusers do, they make it seem like there is something wrong with you and that you are the crazy one, they never admit they are wrong or guilty for causing the pain. Instead they turn it around and say “ something is wrong with you “, “you are crazy”, “you got issues” I don’t like that at all !!

[@damnglo6531]

Yes

[@damnglo6531]

@@SweetLindsey123 oh

[@jasmink3841]

yep, its called reactive abuse

[@toobadtobenice]

I grew up in cfs and eventually had to take a few of my abusers to court. They way her dad walked in before she started confronting him... that is definitely the inner child coming out. That's exactly how I felt when 20 year old me had to face 40 year adults from my childhood. I couldn't look at them, and when I did; my anger and hurt just came out. Unfortunately, this type of trauma you dont completely heal from... you just learn to sit with it.

[@azzysue1858]

I broke down with her when she yelled “say you’re sorry” I can relate to her 100%. Poor baby.

[@cutie511]

I do cry now Because I can understand her... I Just want hear a sorry from my Dad.. My Mom and I did Run away from my Dad too because He did Beat me uo too because I did Always Protect my Mom when He did treat her Like a Slave and abused her mentally... My Dad did also abused me mentally...everyday I woke Up He Said:" I hate you , " and than He did punched me...

[@brielleschaeffer7159]

-Pancake- I hope that you are ok and this is on your dad for not seeing what a good , beautiful person you are I pray for you and your mom I’m really sorry u had to go through this....

[@azzysue1858]

-Pancake- I’m so sorry you went through that I hope that didn’t change how you see men. You’re beautiful no matter what. I hope someday you find inner peace with no anger in your heart. My brother used to really beat me. Him & his friend even raped me. He passed away a day after I asked him why he hated me so much. He replied with “I’ll talk to you about that soon.” 2am hit & he was found shot & dead in his own car.

[@adrieanajosephine6938]

I felt this so deep it hurt me I cried to 🥺

[@smileyface8434]

I tell them to say sorry, but they always deny that they did something wrong and say they’re the bosses and can do whatever they want

[@zahragule]

When she said "Say you're sorry" I wanted to hug her so bad

[@marialondono8086]

I know, It broke my heart I dunno how no one hugged her I woulda hugged her and cried together poor thing😭

[@beomgyu.universe6318]

same. that rlly hurt

[@jadetoysforlife2146]

I love your profile

[@zahragule]

@@jadetoysforlife2146 Ty ^^

[@R...607]

Right!! I felt that one

[@shirleyzimmerman5024]

His smirk… says it all

[@st-mc6ei]

Not everyone deserves a second chance.

[@chrizztopherbang]

I think everyone does. But only when they know how terrible and evil they were and they are truly sorry and they make a change. They can’t go back to their old ways, that’s when I’d give them a second chance because I know it’s possible for them to do that. But him, he is obviously a bad father and if he doesn’t admit that he’s sorry and that he broke his daughters, he better run

[@chrizztopherbang]

i will eat your kids what? Humans are all terrible beings but all of us have good inside. I will not go on believing that when someone does something terrible, they will remain terrible forever. I want to believe that they will make a change. Now I’m not saying if that dad does change, she should straight away forgive him. That would be something close to impossible. But I believe he should try

[@mysseraefim7852]

@@chrizztopherbang i'm abused by my dad, he chocked me and gave me rashes on my arms and spits on me. he slaps my sister countless times. he even threatens to kill my sister, he spits at my mom and sometimes hits her. my mom and dad where fighting outside of our house and the police got involved. he still hasn't changed. he doesn't let my mom leave the house. he chased my mom and fought her infront of his own mom while we were on holiday. he hit me in my his car while picking me up from school. you have to understand that there are people that change their ways, and people that don't change. you can have your opinions, but for me i'm definitely not giving him a second chance.

[@chrizztopherbang]

@@mysseraefim7852 you know what. Looking back to what I said, I feel like so much has changed and I think it’s amazing when people go from bad to good but even then, I completely understand why people won’t give them a second chance and I understand why. I think when I wrote that before, I was thinking on what might be overall better but truth is, it’s a whole lot better to just get away from them. I know if I ever had a father that abused me, I would just want to leave him and never look back, and doing that would be the best option. I’m sorry for what your dad does and I’m sorry for my comment, young me was just learning about how terrible it really is

[@chrizztopherbang]

@@mysseraefim7852 saying this, I do still think people believe second chances but there is nothing wrong with not wanting to give it. There’s nothing wrong with wanting them to leave you be, because I bet it would feel like hell for someone to give their abusive father a second chance and not mean it. So I only believe people deserve second chances but sometimes, in different places

[@tamakisbunny8210]

The most saddest part is that when she started yelling you could hear the pain from when she was little and she couldn’t scream when she was getting abused and the fact that he was telling lies makes it sadder because he knows what she’s saying is true

[@marissasandoval4553]

He was giving a duper’s smile, and smirked, the whole time while his daughter confronted him about the beating. Shame.

[@brawtff]

Marissa sandoval Looks like his resting face to me. I’m literally not justifying what he did I’m just thinking that’s his resting face cause he was doing that since he came in.

[@lisette1976]

seems like his uncomfortable face to me

[@marissasandoval4553]

Lis ! He obviously changed his mood only when he gets defensive. Is what I’m trynna say.

[@marissasandoval4553]

And he’s the uncomfortable one? Yeah. Reason why he’s smirking. There isn’t no way that man is uncomfortable if anything he’s uncomfortable by his daughter being uncomfortable.

[@powpaow]

I believe he's a narcissist. I know this behavior far to well. He turns it around...like we should feel sorey for him because "whatever he will say she won't listen"

[@brixnne]

"Beating us for smiling, beating us for crying..." That really hit me so hard because I always had to hold in my emotions so yk YOUNG BAE HAS EVERY SINGLE RIGHT TO YELL AT HIM. Pour her emotion out because she couldn't before.

[@brixnne]

@leannelynes6780 6:43! :)

[@cloverzgrave]

When she started screaming and crying my heart shattered. She didn’t deserve going through what she did. He’s disgusting and manipulative and a terrible person. She didn’t deserve to be treated so awfully. Nor does anyone else. I just wanna give her a hug and tell her everything’s gonna be okay and i just wanna be there for her. I don’t even know her at all but I just wanna be there for her. Poor baby..I give her all of my love.💜💜💜💜💜

[@user-po3bm9ul9k]

Lieutenant Vel yea i also feel bad for her but hopefully she does get that sense of closure or let’s all of that pain that she held back then :(

[@cloverzgrave]

ッkυяισυѕ.kσσk me too :(

[@Human-lp2oi]

I don’t see any tears, maybe a little wet eyes but no tears...

[@breadsticksgarlic5447]

j mula how u know

[@wormbrainnn]

j mula it was likely they were asked to up play it but I do think this was real.

[@zenzwrld77]

I started crying when she was yelling. You can hear her pain.

[@hiiinnnn222]

Ikr😭😭😭

[@zuleimysilva2053]

Ethiopian-zen same :(

[@zuleimysilva2053]

Sarah D'amelio that’s a laughing emoji idc what anybody says.

[@h_eeelyyyyy6194]

Zuleimy Silva lol big mood

[@ameliacor5982]

Same

[@carolinec4289]

She’s not crazy. She’s hurt and traumatized and a tiny piece of her will probably always be broken

[@lilbertsmom3561]

She needs to work through this with a therapist, I think, or it won't be a tiny piece of her that remains broken.

[@bellacreatesboo6101]

Always and it is disgusting that the father was meant to love and take care of her but no he BEAT her im disgusted it hurts me aswell i can feel her pain and i hate how she went through that

[@lilbertsmom3561]

@Cupcake LOve My father was abusive as well. I'm telling you, the only way to break the cycle is to deal with the anger, work with a counselor, write it out, find a way to stop being angry.

[@ieatlino]

@@lilbertsmom3561 u would know a therapist wouldn’t help if u have been threw this or is going threw.

[@lilbertsmom3561]

@@ieatlino They help as much as you're willing to do the work necessary. If you're not willing, then nothing will help.

[@theneatlist407]

Being a victim of abuse, this is extremely triggering to me because I know how she feels. I know what it’s like to have someone minimize, deny, lie and blame the victim. No one should be put through that abuse and made to relive it by being in contact with the abuser, just like a parent should never lose a child, though it all still happens, and it’s heartbreaking. This is why we can’t look to external sources for healing. We must go within to cultivate our Knowing, and NOBODY can ever touch that.

[@bobross4535]

I hope u do well now wish yall the best

[@FactStorm]

I'm sorry for what you've been thru. Please talk to us here anytime, and thanks for sharing. Take care.

[@kamikavogelsang2579]

He came in with a smirk on his face while she was breaking down

[@youngreap1564]

Narcissist

[@youngreap1564]

It’s called duping delight look it up

[@kamikavogelsang2579]

@@youngreap1564 not even gonna attempt to argue with someone defending an abuser

[@vepm]

@@kamikavogelsang2579 periodt

[@moon3145]

@@youngreap1564 ikr

[@vintage.botanica3390]

"He's not gonna do this to me" "Say you're sorry" My heart hurts so much.

[@Isthatdejean]

less whoreable I almost cried at that part🤧

[@vintage.botanica3390]

@@Isthatdejean I started bawling. Poor ma.

[@powpaow]

He's definitely a narcissist. I know this behavior so well

[@Sarabxssag]

j mula It’s not

[@SarThestarWolf]

@j mula if it was staged why would they go through all this trouble to throw a translator to help translate and have a meeting at a designated place at night Cause the guy could of been working at a job during the day hours and just got off of work because he's not in retirement yet and then they were able to meet at night Her reactions were real His too Because when he lied to her He provoked her to react the way she did Besides staged things don't consider having non stage things making people cry just when someone who has hurt the enters the room and hasn't even sat down yet or spoken Its mostly after they spoke And she was wiping away her tears Also her body language says it all the way she restlessly moves the was shes just tired of it all Tired of the lies

[@akiraandrews5630]

Recently my abusive father tried to hit me as an adult so I kicked him and he was taken aback because it was the first time I retaliated. Everyone thinks I’m crazy in my family now and I’ve been gaslighted in thinking so too; because how can a child hit their own parent? But after watching this video I learned that I wasn’t wrong in shouting, screaming and fighting back. It’s just the trauma. I always end up apologize but he never has.

[@ev9757]

i'm so sorry , my best wishes go out to you , you didn't deserve that

[@aleeyskhale]

Omg you're so strong good job on defending yourself either

[@pafena]

I'm so sorry sweetheart 😞

[@gg-bv5qq]

You did the right thing. You were only defending yourself .. If you hit him its because he ask for it..

[@zlatakashcheeva5309]

Oh god the same thing happened to me, my mother tried to hit me but I just stopped her hand and squeezed it while looking her in the eyes, I never felt so powerful before. It doesn't matter if the person that hurts you is considered your "family", nobody should silently suffer because of your "family"

[@Amiri_Francis]

The father is the literal definition of narcissistic evil. The fact that he’s acting like he did nothing wrong and that his wife and daughters are ungrateful and delusional. Basically he all like “sorry I didn’t had the knowledge needed to be a good person so I decided the best way to raise you is by abusing you” disgusting! I hope Young Bae is okay and will never have to deal with something this traumatizing ever again.

[@TheKawaiiDango]

Why do I get the feeling that if the camera crew was not there, he would have beat her up again

[@farrahby]

Right

[@criss3266]

he was so defensive even when the security guards tried to get close to him, thankfully they were not alone together

[@chlxbear]

He definitely would have if he had a chance. People like him don’t deserve to have children.

[@ellefanning6585]

I mean she’s the one who started being aggressive.

[@ellefanning6585]

@@criss3266 lol she started throwing things and approaching him aggressively yet you’re blaming him?

[@imanileyla8503]

Honestly that screaming was not her being extra or anything like that she needed to get that out...I’m proud of her that she even had the ability to confront him what a strong woman

[@KarenOrtiz-555]

I was thinking the same thing I think screaming it out was much needed. All that pain she has inside, that anger. It breaks my heart. I know she wants to hear that apology.

[@internetgirl_99]

She was screaming for all the times she couldn’t.

[@ccchat8]

Exactly! Her screaming was all her pain, fear, frustration, and anger. I could really feel it. She is so strong to even confront her father like this. I wish her the best.

[@willymarlo7031]

Imani Plant lmfao

[@Dggy8.88]

What lmfao? What’s funny?

[@ppingo8588]

HE WAS SMILING THAT MAKES ME SO MAD, HE REALLT THOUGHT IT WAS “FUNNY”

[@Nora-0.0]

I know that smile. It doesn't mean he thinks it's funny. It means he wants to come for her later. It's an evil smile. It's the camera crew that is stopping him from touching her again.

[@ppingo8588]

@@Nora-0.0 that makes a lot more sense

[@sssbelle]

@Nora C I think it can also often be an unconscious external cover up for deep felt shame, being uncomfortable with vulnerability or being called out. It’s like a cover up of showing true feelings/fear, it’s ‘protection’.

[@giuliavolti4861]

He’s not thinking it’s fun abusive people do that to make fun of you and it’s like a signal to say :if I had a chance I beat you up unfortunately I know because my father was abusive and keep Make fun of me make me crying ecc

[@krrokodile]

@@sssbelle pooiiok I’lli km

[@bluepearl9075]

“SAY YOU’RE SORRY!!!” Actually sent a chill down my back, because that resonates with me completely. Only survivors like us can truly understand the utter despair of knowing that someone is walking around out there, someone who destroyed us, and will never even say sorry.

[@gibbygoober2864]

That is not a woman being dramatic, that’s her inner child screaming when she wasn’t allowed to while she was being abused

[@ANDELLARIA]

Exactly

[@rodanthefiredemon3016]

Who in the world would say the woman was being dramatic? She clearly isn't.

[@chaiyinliew4497]

@@rodanthefiredemon3016 some people still saying that

[@yyg4632]

well hope no one said she was being dramatic

[@TimsNew77]

The violence we adjust to as a child is like taking a vase and breaking it. Eventually we get the pieces in the right places and "fix" it. The cracks in the vase are the memories. Even though we look whole, the cracks are still there. People will compliment you are your beautiful and unique vase, but we only see the cracks because every time we see the crack it triggers a memory of something that happened.

[@Callum-yl6gw]

“I don’t know how to be a good father” why have a child in the first place if your just beating them

[@die8252]

Right? Like if you KNOW that you are not going to be a good father then why you want to be a father in the first place?

[@krissykemp105]

FACT😅😅😅😅😅

[@imclappingurmomscheekstoni2693]

Accident

[@beanhead7632]

I have two responses.... 1) “I don’t know how to be a good father” as in abusive/mean: Then why did you have kids in the first place, when you know you’re just going to beat them up for something little/when it’s not necessary? 2) “I don’t know how to be a good father” as in you still try your best to be a good parent, even though you’re not the best: Don’t give up! Parenting is not something that is easy for everyone. Maybe seek for assistance so you can learn from there! (Btw, I’m on the daughter’s side for this video)

[@youreallysuck2405]

Pretty sure it wasn't planned

[@Toholover]

The fact that he smirks like 5 times when she’s screaming and crying disgusts me

[@missysiss7797]

Leilani culturally I think the smiles are a way to mask what he may be really feeling, remorse, pain, shame....

[@claudispan]

He probably thinks she is crazy but that's what he did to her he did this to all of her family.

[@ghostovancy6006]

He more than likely isn't smiling because he is enjoying it. He is probably smiling for the same reason I do. When faced with confrontation I smile and laugh like its weird but I feel guilty and wanna avoid it so he is smiling not for pleasure but more than likely for the remorse and the confrontation he is facing with his actions.

[@lindseytastic]

IKR! It made me cringe each time! It was just disgusting to see. It's sad some people cannot change.. :(

[@lydiam2114]

it’s an asian thing it’s really hard to explain or understand but my korean parnets do the same in situations like this

[@katanaxoxo]

She has every right to act this way. I feel so bad for her :(

[@augustlaveau]

This hurt so bad. She was truly broken by this man and it’s so frustrating that he won’t just own up and apologize. I know it won’t erase anything but him admitting to ruining three lives will truly help the healing

[@naomimoraleslive]

She isn’t overreacting, the little girl is coming out of her again...

[@marianafran444]

THANK YOU !!!

[@chanelstahl6989]

Yasss

[@cliffkaiburton]

Yep

[@blackpantherdemitrius1790]

5th reply

[@hellayshaanderson900]

How she feel hurt but you wouldn't know because you wasn't in her situation and you don't know how that could have impacted her life she is just simply hurt

[@emilycarr9670]

this girl is not overreacting. she is experiencing the trauma all over again and is being faced by someone who scarred her for years. she's being faced by someone she hates and the fact that it's being recorded just adds to the stress.

[@Maysomyy]

So true and i feel so bad for her!

[@MonsieurZemuya]

Same and I had to stay and blackmailed by abusing parents for 9 fucking months. All that money they pretended they save went to a Local Casino. I know how she feels, it sucks and even as an adult it is even worse. My parents overpower me the same as this Korean lady. Sure, I am not interested in Asian chicks but I totally feel her pain. My mom loves to Body Shame and manipulate me when I am skinny and think Psychiatrists is her Second Jesus Christ. I have had PTSD and Social Anxiety because of my parents professional abusers and Sweet talkers to cops and loves to Bullshit! My Mother is a sexist moron and antisemitic. She pisses me off next to My Father. My sister is so lucky she doesn’t have to face this!

[@bulkyize]

Also he thought he was there to hear her say she was sorry to not talking to him for many years and that she had forgive him... when he faced the truth insted, he tried to avoid it by changing the subject etc...all she wanted was to have him confess and say he is sorry.

[@teoniee]

@@MonsieurZemuya why did u have to add that youre not interested in asian chicks lmao

[@Floppy1932]

@@teoniee it is what it is

[@lli0V3ll]

I cried I'm Asian from vietnam and my dad is exactly like this when I say exactly I mean EXACTLY

[@lli0V3ll]

The fact my dad looks the same and the same age as hers I'm only 12

[@nikkiwilliam3973]

I am so sorry that must have been very hard

[@darcycrain4934]

im so sorry i'm always here to talk if you need to

[@juliaandersson6394]

how are you today girl? is life still rough for you?

[@amaanda6361]

the fact he's just sitting there smiling while his daughter is literally screaming from the top of her lungs after all the years she suffered BECAUSE of him and he acts as if he's never done anything wrong. The way he also handled the security was obvious he is violent, I feel so sorry for her and to see a parent feel nothing for his crying daughter who is completely traumatized from what happened is mind-boggling to me, that is no father that's a monster.

[@GameThrone20774]

I just feel a little traumatised that she and her sister and mother lived years with that guy he seems dangerous an mean And it’s ridiculous he acts like he didn’t do it when you can see the pain he caused

[@sungoldish]

You ain’t meet my daddy yet then

[@teoniee]

@@sungoldish this video isn’t abt your trauma. sorry ig go make a documentary or smth 😒

[@Gorguruga]

But if she acted like a drama queen like that in the house as a kid, she probably needed to be disciplined (non-violent)? I wonder if her tantrums came first and then the father punished her by smacking because he didn't know any other way? It's actually still legal in some American states to punish kids by smacking (even for teachers it's legal to hit naughty kids in some states!). I don't think you should ever hit kids though as it's ineffective form of discipline. The reason I wonder though is that my neighbors kid used to throw very similar tantrums and I could hear her screaming through the walls. She used to do it everyday and then I started to hear the parents get louder and louder trying to stop her from throwing the tantrums. Sometimes it would break out into all out arguments between the mother and father. They initially tried the softly softly approach with the child but it didn't seem to work at all, so it sounded like they eventually lost their tempers and started to scream back at her!

[@alexisfeliciano1642]

@@Gorguruga shut up Already

[@TheKawaiiDango]

Her dad's eyes literally look soulless, like he's some villain in a movie

[@hm6134]

He has no remorse he even smiles at it too seeing her hurt. It’s disgusting how men and women like him have children

[@matthewwmezachang]

na i think he's j asian

[@NormallyImKim]

He gives me bad vibes.

[@gokanproductions]

@@matthewwmezachang :/

[@iamthewolf7277]

called he is asian bro .......bruh lol

[@earth2asia01]

This is why you have to treat your kids better than your parents did you not even worse than them

[@LL-ip5mm]

Lol I have an abusive dad also hate him lol 😂

[@earth2asia01]

@@LL-ip5mm hell I would too

[@JennyyP]

PERIOD

[@cookiesandrainbows3322]

Exactly I will never put my child through what I went through

[@earth2asia01]

@@cookiesandrainbows3322 me either just because I was miserable doesn't mean my kids have to be you would want to give them the world

[@Strawberrybih]

As a grown woman with abusive parents that I haven't seen in a multitude of years, this reaction entirely makes sense and is justified.

[@Sheisneika0976]

You can’t tell this isn’t an act. He intimidates her and his soul is ugly. You can see it when he walked in.

[@kitanacalderon4275]

I was just about to say that. He walked up in there with mad arrogance.

[@goldbridge]

“His soul is ugly” that’s a very bald statement. I don’t think you are capable of reading people’s souls Taylor.

[@cryurheartzout6681]

Adalat q For someone who beat his children and wife his soul is ugly for sure.

[@nonbeliever510]

@@cryurheartzout6681 he didnt do it. Young is lying. Her mom and sister are both ashamed of what she does on this show.

[@nonbeliever510]

@@kitanacalderon4275 he walked up like a person with zero acting experience that was too busy thinking about his lines for the scene. Show is scripted and fake. Multiple takes etc. Back story for Young is fake. So many lies and she keeps digging her hole.

[@kadeyfulton3767]

That’s a little girls voice that’s using her words after years of being abused

[@wikiotic]

I know and it's disgusting that he had the audacity to smirk and deny it

[@75shak]

I legit felt like throwing up at his reaction. And I wanted to hug her so badly.

[@ryana-6762]

@@snjdhzhzdjsjx4408 hit her so badly there were blood stains all over her uniform

[@sapphi31]

@@ryana-6762 LMAO look at your message, perfect.

[@justaclownlivin]

I read this comment and it hit so hard 😣

[@sleepysunflwer2308]

When he walked into the room...you can just tell there's something off about him.

[@enhypenlover12.3]

i know. he walked in and sat down smiling. that didn’t sit with me right.

[@randomperson5382]

ikr *disgusting*

[@Ikacita]

Uhhhh yes

[@pikapsychicxo7386]

It's beyond me why he was smiling about it.

[@lilyxannxo9699]

He seemed smug almost

[@MotherSHYLO]

My dad did the exact same thing. And it was worse because my mom had no money because my dad literally controlled our lives. But if I were to speak to him again. I would definitely vomit.

[@fin1881]

❤❤❤

[@Mia-yx5gf]

My heart goes out to you ❤️ I hope you’re doing okay and things get better for you.

[@cosmicredeemer3109]

Sorry

[@orlanek6015]

To everyone saying this shouldn’t be on tv, maybe bae wanted to do this to show everyone the effects of abuse and to encourage those who have been abused to confront their abuser

[@kevina.4500]

This SHOULD beon TV. This is what you call REALity TV.

[@lil_sevyndoll3131]

Kevin A. So her life is just for likes and views this her her life I don’t think you understood my point she don’t need everyone in her business at all this is something she and her family needs to keep to themselves this man hurt her not us they only need their families right now

[@lalat5899]

Lil_sevyn Doll it’s not about the likes and views. If a tree falls in the forest and no one is there to hear it. Did it really fall? We understand your point but this about awareness. Out of site out of mind

[@lil_sevyndoll3131]

Lala Martin bro wtf listen to what I said bro that point of life bro should be kept between them

[@5014chizuka]

Completely agree w u. This kind of talk should be on the media instead of happy ending scheme story. This is reality to so many people. She needed to tell him that because it’ll give her different perspective of the relationship with her dad. The way she cry shows she still in the pain. Many victims blame themselves as abuser (dad) usually emphasize victim’s emotional reaction negatively. I’m grad I saw this.

[@jellybelly6965]

This man does not care AT ALL. It upsets me so bad that he's smirking at her while she's yelling at him and even when she was calm. He's disgusting.

[@citlalii10]

He was crying, even though he beat her up every single day. He was probably embarrassed.

[@freiasommer1838]

He cares...

[@tamaramonroy1813]

He does care . Believe me he cares . People make mistakes .

[@rhiannontomlinson9350]

@@tamaramonroy1813 yo 😐 mistake? A mistake is something you do that you don't do again. Constant abuse is not a mistake. People realise their mistakes and change - not, in this case, showing up in the victims life 15 years later and not even apologising.

[@anastasiaarmanii]

Jelly Belly !!

[@lauralloyd1316]

‘Do you hate me? Still to this day?’ If she hates you, she has every right. She is still traumatised by your actions and you are lying about them. It is the worst feeling when you express how hurt your were and they act like it never happened.

[@zikii9709]

Gaslighting

[@tracy9492]

@@zikii9709 yes :(

[@mybee123]

This one of the first times I can't watch a video all the way through. I've seen some horrible stuff in my life but this broke me. The way she's screaming i can feel that rage and grief burning inside her chest. My father never hit me but he abandoned me and outright rejected me as his daughter and there are times when all I want is an apology. I wish I could turn back time and heal her. She doesn't deserve to feel that kind of pain. That man is pathetic and sick. Some people should not be allowed to be parents

[@Seraphim7]

Amen

[@mochabearry]

@@Seraphim7 My husband’s parents were highly religious, had 12 children, and abused every single one of them all in gods name. 🤮

[@natemorgan1996]

​@mochabearry oh I'm so sorry to hear about what your husband and his siblings went through, no one deserves that

[@ritsukukukuikuiristu7472]

"I wanted to provide for the family the best I could" THAT'S A DUMB EXCUSE

[@kaylajohson2333]

right wtf

[@neatricebennett4265]

right like what does that have to do with anything

[@muumu0]

@leee3 senpai being not able to give a good environment is no excuse to abuse your family. I can tell you what she has been through is unbearable.

[@muumu0]

@leee3 senpai i don't qualify or disqualify what you've been through but don't use it to say "well you are just weak" this girl literally got beat up every single day and even got a bloody discharge. Am i saying you suffered less than her? No, but the video is about her, and im talking about her. And "real abuse"? Abuse is abuse.

[@sylviapayton6425]

@leee3 senpai no excuse my dad got hurt lost his job he was so angry and depressed from it but he tried to never show us he was that way always told us he was going to make a way no excuse never a excuse

[@Ricardocabreralopez]

You can hear the pain in her screams. She goes back to those moments. Child abuse RUINS people. 🥺

[@ShutDFckOff]

Screaming "We are hurt, we are fucking BROKEN". That hits me to the core.

[@teresadorta8039]

@@ShutDFckOff yes it severe pain

[@astrumandroda9970]

Salsa Papi too true

[@MisterKallo]

Yes, yes, and YES!

[@slvis8205]

Her statements really hit me. I honestly started tearing up.

[@maileya4193]

The thing that hurts me the most is when your abuser invalidates your feelings, deny the fact that they did anything wrong, and fake apologies that show no remorse.

[@Alejaccx]

Or even go to the point of putting the blame on the victim! Its unbelievable!

[@matcha._.000]

and constantly make excuses, like saying that “I never did that” and “I don’t remember when that happened”

[@yyg4632]

thats how they continue it. Who knows, maybe they even make those excuses to themself. It's a very immature state of mind to be in, and unfortunate that other people get brought into it, especially kids.

[@eti6602]

It’s called Narcissism that’s what they do. It’s really fucked up

[@desiiremonroe9134]

@@matcha._.000 or try to convince you that you mind was playing tricks on you or you mind was creative bc you're young

[@AllynHo]

I had a very similar experience too when I was young. My father sexually abused me. I did the same thing as she did, screaming in front of my dad trying to fight for justice but it didn't worked out well because my father is a fake person. Just like her father. My goal now is to be independent, find a job and live by myself away from him and my mum. I belive in next life, God will help us fight for justice and what we what.

[@Idfkuwuw]

I’m so sorry. I hope you can cope with this trauma

[@SarahEve97]

But you are a guy? and you were abused sexually by your father?

[@MC32595]

I hope everything works out for you dude, you’re not alone

[@GetACV]

We're in a similar situation, and I understand your goals. I hope the best for you to achieve them. Sometimes, it feels like you aren't going or moving anywhere, but every day you live, it's a sign you still have strength-the strength to at least try until you get in that content setting in your life. Just as you may have learned, I learned that closure would be nice but it isn't the important part of healing or recovering from what happened. Again, I hope you are able to accelerate up the hill.

[@user-uk3jm1oe8v]

Let's all repent so we can go to Heaven, there there will be no pain or sorrow. Everyone will be your brother and sister living in peace. Let's all turn to Jesus who died for us.

[@Ghosted676]

I‘m impressed she didn’t sucker punched him and broke his nose

[@skittles696]

Id rather she got through to him so he hurt. Emotional abuse leaves much more painful scars

[@TheAddie625]

@@skittles696 that would of been only for the moment he wont be able to experience the years of pain she had to suffer through.

[@ovult]

*sucker*

[@jojosiwa4073]

Sis calm down he’s 73

[@Charlie-yv3ib]

@@jojosiwa4073 yea, and?

[@sanepjin9213]

Why the hell would someone: 1. Dislike this vid 2. Abuse a child 3. Make their own child/ren to fear them 4. Smile and smirk and not care Edit: WOW THANK YOU FOR 3K LIKES!! Also, I understand why they’d dislike this video :(

[@trabzonspor9061]

INFIRES MANNN i disliked the video because i dont like to see that woman hurt and crying

[@reyrey5259]

My mom told me when a parent know they are wrong or guilty they dont apologize because the guilt is already getting them. Guilt and karma will come

[@loressa9182]

Good Life that’s not a reason tho-

[@cupcakecult4828]

@@trabzonspor9061 Then why click on the video in the first place? Did you think that it's all sunshine and rainbows when a woman meets the man who ruined her life?

[@iirose_s6089]

Good Life You don’t need to dislike it?

[@barbthatsitjustbarb5680]

I don't know who she is, what this show is. But this woman is valid her feelings and traumas are real and she deserves the world. It's so sad that her father couldn't even admit to causing her so much pain, and not giving even a simple apology

[@cliffkaiburton]

Right

[@aimforlifenow]

HE NEVER APOLOGIZED!! THATS WHAT SO INFURIATING AFTER EVERYTHING!!

[@simsrock9982]

I can't even blame her for screaming and crying and wanting to talk but not knowing how. I have a family member who is very similar to Young-bae's father. I would scream out at them after they had physically or verbally abused me. My own family thought I was crazy because other then when they acted violent towards me, this family member would seem so calm and mostly agreeable. In the end I wasn't crazy just deeply hurt that they could treat me that way and my fam never did nothing to stop it. The physical abuse doesn't happen anymore but i could be having the best day and the memories come flooding back, it spoils my mood for hours 🥺

[@simsrock9982]

Also despite all that pain she is a baddie 💅💪 I'm glad she's doing so well after that fearful childhood

[@tpswavey4856]

That pfp though 👁👄👁

[@blitzman_83]

The fact that she was kinda like scared to look at him when he first walked in says a whole lot… the amount of damage he’s done can never be fixed

[@antonechias6785]

She’s strong for facing him and even stronger to put it on tv.

[@twicecam5392]

they were going to put it on tv either way

[@chuyistheshiz6811]

Money hungry is the word your looking for...

[@lex2legit]

Yeah.

[@el.c.8858]

Q Lock I agree.

[@marytaite3109]

You shouldn't comment if you don't know the story. The producers helped her find him. He agreed to come on camera. My guess is that he thought he could make himself look better after Young Bae and her mother trashed him, but the truth is that he doesn't realize that whatever his reasons are he still hurt his family.

[@cheyw.893]

When he first walks in she can’t even look him straight in the eye...this man did awful things you can just feel it

[@xibe]

y’all don’t understand how painful it is when ur abuser denies your abuse

[@Abirkaur]

Frrr

[@sukriti5433]

True it's so painful it's worst

[@hi-kt8jj]

i feel for her a lot.

[@jfhgbdskfgb]

Frfr

[@sammyhernandez9976]

@Mastnaer Ceef completely understandable I’m so close to doing the same I can’t handle liars

[@sinahaase9923]

Those wails and shrieks of hers made me cry. I can just feel her pain. I hope she can get to forgiveness for herself’s sake because that pain is just so deep and rooted it’s literally the only thing that heals it. I’m so late to this video so I wonder the outcome of their relationship.

[@laylay-bi9dq]

This is isn’t acting, the way she broke down when he walked through the door I FELT

[@nonbeliever510]

All acting and you bought it. Well done.

[@mercyz2734]

Non Believer ok non believer

[@alayasmith6735]

@@boymeetworlf3433 but still. you can tell whatever happened affected her. she brought it back up for storyline but its still sad

[@strawberrykisses4585]

Non Believer listen, just because it didn’t happen to you. doesn’t mean it didn’t happen to her.

[@MarchPlaymate]

So did i

[@terrierlover]

By the way he walks I can tell he’s abusive She’s so scared she couldn’t look him in the eye

[@ericalevene3125]

I noticed that as well.

[@mooosebabex9438]

@@nolimitarmani Love and light❤️. You're in my prayers❤️❤️❤️x

[@satostia4653]

Andrew Lol I was gonna be sarcastic but you beat me to it

[@jinismyhusbandoinkoink7877]

Westielover is it just me or he was smiling to?

[@smileyface8434]

I can’t wait to see their faces in heaven after I kms

[@meh4677]

The "SAY YOU'RE SORRY" shattered my heart. Unbelievable. she should not have even had to ask for that it should have been the first thing that came out of his mouth.

[@myrealnameismichael]

Yeah, so true...

[@SOPHIAA713]

time stamp?

[@SOPHIAA713]

nvm

[@renjunrhythm]

@@SOPHIAA713 what is the time stamp 😭? sorry for asking

[@SOPHIAA713]

@@renjunrhythm let me find it 😭

[@ashc5734]

She's so incredibly brave for letting such a vulnerable moment of her life be shown to the public. It really does make a difference though. Exposing these vulnerable moments is what really shows the true impacts of this issue. It really hurts to watch and seeing him invalidate all her feelings and trying to justify is actions is so wrong.

[@JohnJYnn]

When he got mad and started to curse and yell at the producers that were trying to calm him down.. seeing that you can tell habits don’t change. He’s still a crazy raging psychopath deep inside him. He’s straight up disgusting.

[@Abby-je6nj]

JohnJYnn exactly my thoughts

[@ani.mariii8915]

Literally I felt like when she got close to him and she was screaming he was going to hit her

[@Halo-pz7pd]

I felt more that he was panicked and afraid

[@bjdaone21_63]

JohnJYnn right and I’m the 1k like 😄

[@lavishclver4738]

Some people have serious mental problems and sadly in their culture those problems don't get addressed. I hope someday they become more accepting and provide services so people with these issues can change for the better.

[@shilove145]

I don’t watch this show or know her, but Jesus I felt every OUNCE of her pain! ANYONE who says anything about her being a brat, dramatic, overreacting etc don’t know what it’s like to have YEARS of trauma & abuse eating away at your very soul. Sometimes you get too full of the trauma, sadness, and hurt that you HAVE to let it out. Not even for any specific reason other than to get it OUT. Poor lady 😞 I hope she finds peace, love & forgiveness - not for him, but for her own mental health.

[@nonbeliever510]

I dont watch this show but I do know her. She is lying and it is all fake for a tv show in order to generate views and make money.

[@kaarthoriz7380]

Non Believer that’s very ignorant of you sir.

[@prod.hyunjin1864]

@@nonbeliever510 please do not say that.

[@nessa8168]

Non Believer who would yell and scream and shout and cry over something big if it was fake? Cause I don’t think a women would scream and shout and cry just so the show can get views and likes, she felt pain and she let out her pain and it’s something you can’t understand.

[@poppy-420]

Non Believer nah that’s not acting so don’t you EVER say say someone’s doing the for attention when you don’t know the previous life fair enough if there was evidence to support you but saying she’s lying about being abused for money is the lowest of the low do not show your face in these comments again because I will prove to you that you are a disgusting person for thinking she’s faking it and that she’s telling the truth that kind of emotions can’t be faked not even by the best actors so I suggest you leave and don’t come back to the comment section for this video

[@bricastellanos7589]

Man that scream tells 1000 stories. That’s right Bae get it out.

[@biancajones850]

kzbin.info/www/bejne/sJm0hXt5htWohpI @gar

[@Yourgirljuewell]

She had me crying with that scream

[@Dee_Nice89]

@@Yourgirljuewell i feel for Bae, she needed answers

[@bricastellanos7589]

Wendy Codner Man I feel her pain I couldn’t even go there I may have not come back

[@breadsrights6824]

Wendy Codner same I felt her pain

[@shosho.0_0]

this poor girl. She went through way too much. Her screaming and throwing things is honestly the only way she can express how she's really feeling. She's reacting normally in these circumstances. She's never gonna recover from what she had to go through as a kid.