Young Women Are Obsessed With Validation on Social Media

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[@MaestroMephisto]

It’s not about “love me for who I am”, it’s more like “validate me because I’m pretty” and “love me for how I look”. These young women spend so much time worrying about getting “likes” that they cannot actually socialize in every day life.

[@joeshmoe8952]

If you meet a woman who does not have a social media obsession or does not like social media, she’s a keeper.

[@astrahcat1212]

1 find a family woman 2 she must be underprivileged in SOME WAY 3 she must live in the country or be isolated from “friends” to a degree 4 she must not have gone to university

[@tenelleharris5696]

I hate social media so bad I never seen so many people Men and Woman who are attention seekers !! And at home struggling financially ‼️

[@user-rx7uh9mg4f]

@@astrahcat1212 Only an insanely insecure man that wants to be a tyrant has those requirements especially the last two. Lol good luck with that!

[@KARANVANIYA]

False.. I am the evidence of that.. Even without social media, she made a victim of everything she could imagine.. Social media is only fuelling the actual underlying tendencies..

[@um52]

🙏

[@MaliOsage]

The need for validation gives birth to narcissism. We’re literally watching society breakdown with every hashtag or trend 🤦🏾‍♂️

[@frankiesmom8478]

I’ve never been into social media, I’m 40 years old. Ppl have gotten so vain it’s such a turn off from participating. I see some ppl bragging about a new car, vacation or their body. No thanks to fake friends online

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

It's definitely everything to the younger generation

[@luthandob9587]

Porn, drugs and social media addiction don't differ in any way🤞

[@basthe90sman97]

All of those provide cheap dopamine, which makes people less motivated to achieve real accomplishments in real life.

[@LabRat6619]

People wanna feel good and our immediate environs don't provide happiness.

[@GamborHibor]

alcohol also

[@Punicia]

Social media is what causes porn addiction and vice versa they’re two peas of the same pod

[@kristiandimnik7727]

Tik tok is the new drug....

[@manuelalonsodominguezvazqu2145]

Is not only women, but men as well. Many of those guys funding those pages think they're getting back some kind of attention. Basing your self-esteem on others is the perfect recipe for failure.

[@damianholmes3049]

We understand “it’s not only women.” It just happens to be the topic of this one video and it’s necessary to address it this way in order to give substance and context within a limited amount of time.

[@mellowyellow7518]

Damn shame too, especially for young black women. Hard to get interested in a girl if she constantly on social media talking about how you not communicating enough when she hardly responds and when she does, it's unenthusiastic and uninteresting. I'd take an ok looking girl with no social media over a baddie with an addiction to validation anyday

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you for sharing

[@noble604]

It’s funny to me to see these young girls working with all the SM makeup, being rude to customers like “I really don’t belong here in this minimal wage job here ... talking about welcome to Wendy’s can I take your order yawn>>.. . 🙄🙄🙄 because, In my mind, you are *so far* beneath me and I am an IG sensation and I can’t wait to get away from you and get to my real calling, will that be all..first window please”

[@ichoosemysanity6467]

Straight up I was 20 something by the time I got Instagram and stuff.

[@user-rs2ue1cz6m]

ESPECIALLY for black women. I think you’re exaggerating.

[@mightygod8295]

@@kym1988 do you know him? I don’t think so

[@jaxx-inspiregrowcreate2862]

RED FLAG ALERT. Once I sense her self-worth is highly dependent on her insta profile. "Take care, all the best." Onto the next

[@TFrankIV]

That’s facts bro

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Love this

[@franciswargirai3593]

Facts bro.

[@Ms.AshleyHoney]

I’m glad I don’t own any social media pages💯💯

[@serenitylondon8657]

Social media breaks up many relationship. I am self confident, have a well paid job, nice apartment, nice car and single because ain't trying to have no women live with me who are a social media freak.. Once you make yourself happy you won't need to have a women in your corner...

[@hollymiller2904]

I haven’t had social media in about 5 years ! Always such a turn on when I find a man that doesn’t have social media.

[@jimmylopez8430]

I don’t have any lol

[@markieschofieldjr9076]

Here I am boo

[@serenitylondon8657]

BB hollar at me. No social media 😆

[@---qu9uf]

Or they do have but they ain’t posting or they ain’t vain.

[@basthe90sman97]

I heard a celebrity in my country who tries to stop using social media for a while. He stated that he becomes closer with his friends. When he misses them, he made calls to meet up with them instead of viewing their profiles on social media.

[@CJ-sp8dd]

Personally, I think everyone is obsessed with validation on social media. Whether you are a man, woman, entrepreneur, content creator, celebrity, etc., we all seek that validation. Just the amount of likes alone on a photo can boost happiness, create depression, or ultimately force someone to spend way too much time on a platform searching for what will make them popular. This is dangerous, especially because of how many users are on these platforms while their brains' are still developing.

[@jfkst1]

I deliberately avoid all identifiable forms of social media. No way it creates healthy mental health patterns.

[@noble604]

The thing that gets me is we don’t get that being addicted to SM isn’t just “something to do.” The effects of this are neurological/ physiological. It literally rewires your brain. Like, it literally shows up on your imaging scans that your brain is different like if you were on drugs or an alcoholic. It changes you, do we understand this? So- if they’re rewiring their own brains, aren’t they already wiring their kids’ brains too? We haven’t been here before. We don’t have the past 3.. 4 generations to see what happened to a life spent on SM. We don’t know the future generational effects of having a brain wired like this. This is some sci-fi craziness you’re watching unfold in front of your eyes... real time. This is literally insanity in the making.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thanks Hoop

[@CJ-sp8dd]

@@jfkst1 I don't think it does either.

[@CJ-sp8dd]

@Lucas lanky I see your point, but I know there are a lot that do seek that validation.

[@bdubz_det]

When you meet a women, before going on any dates ask to exchange instagrams.. you’ll learn a lot in just a few seconds.

[@vincentius15]

Facts bro, I had this girl with high interest in me and once she saw my IG it was over, I didn't have any photos posted at that time.

[@bdubz_det]

@@vincentius15 damn... I really meant for us to see what their lifestyle is all about. Guess you played yourself lol.

[@andreamagyar7776]

Damn, what if the woman have no social media account at all? How do you imagine to know all about her?

[@tjandcj123]

I don’t have an Instagram and the guy thought I was boring...lol. He wanted to go out to clubs together, i told him clubs are not my thing, but if he really wanted to go I would go...we eventually stopped talking. The best thing is to find someone with the same values as yourself or it will not work long term.

[@user-bu9ne7ef3q]

@@vincentius15 she wants to see the car and resources

[@ggangpae4520]

It's not just young women. The younger generation or anyone with low self esteem is obsessed with social media validation (men and women)

[@YooAPbruh]

Exactly my ex is hella beautifull and she cant stop posting her pictures and those cheesy texts below them. She has serious issues w validation. The worst thing is that she understands that , but allows men to write her on dms call at nights and other stuff while we were in relationship.

[@victorclark796]

I don’t have Instagram and when I had it I never posted don’t label everyone in my generation

[@MP-ut6eb]

@@victorclark796 +1

[@ADballa28]

Live by validation; die by criticism.

[@basthe90sman97]

best comment 🥇

[@Punicia]

Exactly, hence the rate of teen suicides. You can’t live a life under constant approval from strangers. Historically, we’ve aimed to honor our families and our work. Let too many people in and you will crumble.

[@generalwillwelsh7926]

the NUMBER ONE issue is FATHERS IN THE HOME. Fathers need to teach men how to be men and not be simps which is basically just bitched men. and women need fathers to teach them what a good man supposed to be but with all together almost half the population being raised by single mothers who are also mostly young women who have kids in their late teens to early twenties. how so we expect a normal and mature society when its being raised by teenage girls.

[@generalwillwelsh7926]

@Tshilady Tshilady my point was “teenage” girls if youre in your 20s and have a good man thats the perfect age to have kids. my mom had me when she was 17, thats what i mean when i say young

[@VegasX900]

The fathers are simps

[@redronin1619]

Honestly for the last couple of years I've been contemplating a lot about social media and how it's changed the way we see the world. At first it started off great because people could share moments in their lives and ask for people's thoughts or advice on something happening. But now i just believe it's doing more harm than good. People have become way to over opinionated expressing their views or thoughts unto others who a majority of the time don't really ask for it. People are quick to attack one another if they have different beliefs or views. How this has affected intersexual dynamics has been more detrimental. Women and men are being given unrealistic expectations about how relationships should be or work because they see celebrities or "influencers" setting some sort of bar that is not even real. I think it's also made things so much easier on women who choose to flaunt their bodies to make money. In turn they start believing they are deserving of the lavish lifestyle and believe they should always be treated to all the finer things in life. As long as men continue to give attention and validation there will be no end in sight. I myself am guilty of doing this prior but little by little I have been able pull away from doing these kind of things eventually really truly not giving any free attention. Rare is the woman on social media who doesn't need to post half naked pictures of herself in order to gain attention. I commented this on another video but women don't even want validation from men, unless you are in the top percent, instead want it more from women. The downside to this is that it is affecting younger girls and boys. Personally, I believe parents have a responsibility of whether or not they should let their kids be on social media but I also believe its the companies that provide these platforms responsibility to monitor this a whole lot more closely. I honestly can't open the search in my IG without seeing a majority of half naked women who are "models" and "influencers". That's what kids these days are exposed to. Those are my thoughts. But I believe it's time that things need to change and go in better direction.

[@dontereynolds9720]

AMEN BROTHER!!

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you for sharing

[@scryz]

so true bro

[@TheeKingP]

Alll facts G!

[@godsgirl7201]

I think they should take away the like button

[@f.m.8999]

Not caring about people's lives online nor posting to get validation from online "friends" gave me such a sense of freedom. I don't hate social media, it's just that I don't really care, sorry! Edit: it took me YEARS to break this addiction, so if anybody here is trying to do the same keep in mind that it is okay to fail and return to old habits, just remember the end goal!

[@sheloves3663]

Same. It took me a year of being on it to realize how toxic/messy it can be. I plan to spend the rest of the year away from it to be more present for the holidays and recharge. It’s nice to not feel chained to a digital device/algorithm all day ☺️

[@alexanderking2212]

Same here. Such a weight off my shoulders

[@rufdymond]

Social Media is nothing of the sort, what it actually is, is Social Engineering - the algorithms probably know more about you than you know about yourself. They are able to feed you exactly the content YOU LIKE and CRAVE so that you remain hooked. As someone who worked in software development for over 25 years I've found the rise of the Social Media and the the power and influence it has over individuals and the wider society both sad and alarming. I'm glad you were able to break the habit, good for you, hopefully you're happier as a result. Personally, apart from KZbin I've never cared for it myself, but even here on KZbin I can see the algorithms trying to feed me the content it THINKS I want to watch. Its widely reported that many people who work for these companies in silicon valley actually ban their own kids from using social media...that should tell you everything you need to know.

[@basthe90sman97]

congrats! I hope your life gets better from now on!

[@devonv2455]

The young woman’s thirst for attention today is at an all-time high, and they will go to greater and greater lengths to get it. It’s pretty bad. The Hypergamy is out of control... I haven’t had a personal IG (started one for my biz last year) And I’m glad 😁

[@basthe90sman97]

Social media boosts hypergamy to the moon 🚀🌕

[@benshearts5655]

I agree with all of this. It’s a collapse of civilization happening. It really is. Men aren’t much better. All they do is scroll and look at dudes lifting to work on their bodies. Getting the perfect physique that you see is not only unrealistic for the large majority but it’s also unnecessary. Both men and women are looking for these superficial things to make themselves happy. We have a bunch of fragile, awkward people. It’s scary, these are our future workers

[@Punicia]

It all starts with broken households… 1st world countries love to brag but the poorest countries have the strongest family units.

[@MommaKong7]

Way before social media, music 🎶 was telling women and young girls we needed to look a certain way to be considered beautiful. The rappers and tv 📺 been the problem. This isn't a new issue guys‼️

[@vperez6086]

Yes‼️🗣

[@MommaKong7]

@BruiseLeeRoy yes it is sad

[@tigerpawromero6173]

But back in the music days, you had to be 18 to buy a rappers album. Now 8 year olds have all the social media and even adult sites at the palm of their hand. ✋

[@Ummkelechi]

I agree but I think social media is so much more of an influence these days! Everyone is on there and wanting attention.

[@S5_Sportback]

Social media is a new issue. Now, instead of only hearing it, you also see it.

[@TheGamingg33k]

My cousin started using tiktok and instagram at around 12-13? She seems hella sad always. Like you can see it in her face when she gets few likes on instagram, she deletes that pic and just feels bad about it. Its so strange. I stopped using all social media at 25 and felt the horrible effects. This poor girl will start feeling it at even younger age. Horrible shit.

[@scarvello]

Young? Nah it’s even more sad seeing these older women do it trying to keep up with others it’s heartbreaking almost like damn people have become so lost these days. To also see we lack powerful leaders with great mindsets.

[@KeyisGodsdaughter]

Yeah that’s true. Social media has people so far from reality and I know this first hand because of the industry my partner works in. These girls will do anything to enhance their looks, they will definitely sell their souls for the right price and I had to check a couple because they “think” having a bad attitude is a good thing. The crazy thing is a lot of them live in poverty to get these expensive items, they have children, etc. $300- $500 wigs and weaves but they have zero food in the fridge. It’s crazy/sad at the same time.

[@anon837]

The young ones are getting poor advice and little to no guidance. The Book of Titus, chapter 2 verse 3 - 5, clearly explains that the older women should teach the younger ones how to be good women.

[@dabobthorton6169]

The problem is, there aren't many good women. They don't guide each other only destroy each other

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Good chapter

[@daryldixon3685]

There are A lot of videos on how to be a good man! Your on one right now...

[@ray5549]

I asked one girl if she’s worried about her onlyfans scaring away the right guy, her response was “right guy wouldn’t be insecure about an onlyfans page” personally I feel like that’s not a valid rebuttal

[@redphoenixmk3388]

It really isn't. Truth be told if the guy was "ok" with this indiscretion she would likely try to get away with other things until BAM he's in an open relationship. I'm starting to notice women using the word "insecure" more and more to try to shame men into accepting their negative behaviors. So many women don't understand that just because an idea is accepted doesn't mean it is right (morally). I wouldn't be surprised if mental gymnastics actually becomes a sport in a few years.

[@ray5549]

@@redphoenixmk3388 HIT THE NAIL RIGHT ON THE HEAD, you’re right woman are using the word “insecure” more and more because they no their actions are wrong but don’t have a valid ground to stand on. “Don’t be insecure he’s just a friend” then boom they end up fucking

[@redphoenixmk3388]

@@ray5549 Lol exactly. 2021 is going to be interesting

[@reynavillarreal3407]

Yeah she's a fool 🤦🏻‍♀️

[@frankiesmom8478]

I don’t understand why ppl put a bunch of pictures smoking, drinking or provocative poses... I wonder if employers are looking at that when you are applying for a job

[@jashirapeterson1470]

Lol they think they celebrities ,they don't understand the average person can't post all that nonsense ,it will follow them

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

They don't be thinking

[@sloegrind]

Everybody isn’t concerned about a job.

[@jashirapeterson1470]

@@sloegrind true

[@officiallydreama4412]

I had a business professor tell everyone in class clean up your social media because businesses do look you up and look through it as apart of the hiring process.

[@CocoFranklin]

If guys stop giving online validation........

[@MommaKong7]

The sexy pictures get more attention. Social media can be toxic. Great conversation guys👌

[@anthonyacquah-ghann8667]

COACH GREG ADAMS, had a great video title, earlier this 2020 - "Attention is her drug, Social Media is her dealer". This title rings true, for a lot of these females on Instagram, and other media platforms 😁

[@t.j.8568]

As a parent you can't let your young child get on social media

[@GotGood77]

I love yall podcast. I just found yall the other day and I'm hooked with the maturity of ur topics and you are both entertaining and have great perspectives. The male voice is absent nowadays so it's amazing to see yall young men makin a impact. Ignore the bitter ladies that get offended. Conviction cuts!

[@reynavillarreal3407]

👏👏

[@Martin1407100]

So many women have inflated egos because of social media, it's so sad to see the downfall of society and men chill with all the validation. Love is a two way street, stop simping, start pimping. Great video, keep it up guys

[@ReginaLynae]

I feel for the younger generation!They are programming woman to believe our value is based off how open we are about our sexuality.When really the more you display is just more attention you get but attention should never cost you your integrity.That’s why I’m conscious of what I post 1 because I am a woman of God 2 I hope to be a good role model another option for girls to look up to

[@MP-ut6eb]

Well said!

[@basthe90sman97]

Social media also bring confusion. Some women show off their bodies, but they still don't want to be objectified even after they've objectified themselves.

[@reynavillarreal3407]

Good for you 👏👏👏

[@JoeGuapo]

Do a segment on how fathers of the future should go about raising women of this generation who are going to need validation based on their surroundings with social media.

[@GabeTheGreat]

Boys without daughters should not be teaching men with daughters how to raise their daughter. They're good in their lane

[@vperez6086]

That would be an interesting topic to cover. Like, What now?

[@romello4913]

Lawd knows I need that smh

[@JoeGuapo]

@@GabeTheGreat u do have a point.. I’m just tryna see how I can avoid my daughter from exposing herself or feeling some way when dudes don’t look at her a certain way.. kids now a days if u haven’t noticed hear other kids tell them how they dont have enough followers so they’re not “cool” enough.. we need to learn how to set our kids mindset for the ignorance that other kids follow with this up coming generation

[@GabeTheGreat]

@@JoeGuapo I'm no expert but I make it a point to tell my daughters how beautiful they are everyday. I know it won't show for a while but those hugs and kisses and positive affirmations from their father will go a long way. It's just like when you meet a girl and you can tell she had a good father in her life she carries herself differently. All studies show that the Father is by far the most important relationship in a young girls life. That and friends. I've accepted that once my girls hit about 11-14, their friend's opinion of them is going to be the most important thing to them so I plan to be on top of who they hangout with growing up. Other than, eventually my daughters will be their own women someday and make their own decisions. So I'm just trying to invest as much time and energy into them now before I release them to you niggas lol Strong Fathers Strong Daughters is great book to read too

[@Christian80806]

You know how men can fix that???? Stop liking or looking 😂😂😂

[@smtruly]

YES ! All they talk about is blaming women for “over sexualizing themselves” , but all they do is liking those exact sexy pictures etc

[@K3didit]

exactly

[@jabbaweezy]

women "do it for themselves" right?

[@Zulfiqar32]

Social media is for women as porn is for men. The lowest common denominator for women is attention and validation and the lowest common denominator for men is access to endless visual treats. It's great we have self help channels and outlets for men, but we need the same for women as well.

[@morndew272]

There are outlets for women too, they just gotta search it. I watch loads of them

[@Zulfiqar32]

@@morndew272 thank you for pointing that out. I wasn't aware.

[@poeticeclipse]

Some young women become obsessed with validation on Instagram, yes. Men can't complain about this when they themselves engage in the behavior that's coming into their lap. Don't chase the women who are out for validation from the start. Don't give energy to it. Search for those who aren't posting for validation. I feel the same way when women say, "Women are objectified" but then only post photos of themselves and how gorgeous they are with no depth. Cannot have it both ways.

[@k.c.9650]

It isn't only young women. I see way too many older women who are constantly seeking validation via social media. It's a pathetic way to go through a so-called life and merits zero sympathy from any of us.

[@randyservin775]

Little do they know this is only going to ruin their reputation in the long term image being 40 and being known as that one girl lmao

[@TFrankIV]

facts man nothing ever goes away I see so many people doing stuff now and I just think “how are they going to feel with they see that in a few years”

[@randyservin775]

@@TFrankIV Is the easy way out, bro. It's sad, but little do they know that reputation matters in life, and you must protect it at all cost Law 5 from 48 laws of power

[@bobjones1992]

@@randyservin775 bro if you see a girl being a hoe 4 years ago you gonna see them and be like “Aint that the hoe” reputation dont leave you no matter how long its been

[@randyservin775]

@@bobjones1992 I wish them nothing but the best, but things like that won't matter in the next ten years.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

They don't think ahead

[@Ruzif]

Women look for validation on social media alot. I'm 29 years old.never used online dating or something.

[@mmbower1]

Cool comment

[@StephyWephie]

This is such a good topic.

[@supertiger1979]

This is how I found out my girlfriend that said she was so innocent looking only for love, was an MFC cam girl🤦They say they want honesty and loyalty...then you find their Insta with over 700 posts and vids!🤷WTF! Okay babe...then they wonder why we hit and quit😜Not wifey material!🙉

[@oneelrockwell79]

Glad I stumbled on this video.

[@freshsteph9210]

Those shirts are dope!!!

[@bettermanchannel770]

Yes, the denise of honorable identities, is social media validation

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Yep

[@hnc1500]

Great video guys. I totally agree. When I meet a girl I like, I can’t wait to see her social media. It can tell me a lot about how confident she is within herself. Characteristics I find most attractive are- showing their beauty and body shape with class and style. But not in a seductive way 👌 I see a strong correlation with girls that post sexy imagery and having relationship issues. I’m always saying to my female friends- what’s more important, attention or respect? And tell them that posting sexy pictures might bring them thousands more likes, but will Deter the really quality men that are looking for a levelheaded girl. But the social media validation seeking is just a byproduct of deeper issues. Even if they stop the social media validation addiction, the problem is still there. I think some form of therapy is the real answer. And to be fair, men are the same. Certain men can also seek validation through social media. They could use seductive or other ways of getting attention or increasing perceived status online. Insecurity has no gender.

[@thabangkhatide2041]

You put this ever so well.

[@itsmadisonhughes]

Well said.

[@kellarenna]

I, like every other woman on social media, have felt the temptation to posting risqué photos. But then I look at girls profiles who do it and im disgusted by the comments. The random men commenting nasty things. I cant for the life of me understand why women want that. Even when I'm feeling fine and take a cute pic in a swimsuit I eventually will delete because I don't like getting dms/comments from men

[@zacstephens8106]

I've been guilty of doing it and I think it's all based on the feeling of being wanted. I've noticed girls that post anything for the validation but do not care for a meaningful convo at all. Then the girls that have way less likes and meaningful pics posted are the most caring and convo driven girls.

[@kellarenna]

@@zacstephens8106 exactly 💯

[@zacstephens8106]

@@kellarenna very poorly explained but I guess you got the point. That's what I've always experienced for the most part

[@kellarenna]

@@zacstephens8106 it's true tho. Most of those girls are just as shallow as they look

[@Christians9955]

I noticed one girl i follow, she has like 2.5k followers and when she post photos of not her she likes 30 likes then when she post a pic with more skin she gets like 300+ likes. Shows whos her followers are.

[@BetterWorld0]

And they chase that high , that dopamine rush and they feel the need to post some skin every post. Pitiful smh

[@wynn2927]

I think men need to just focus on themselves an stop worrying about what women are showing/doing

[@massimoranieri4491]

👍👏👏👏

[@trp443]

Straight facts!!

[@andregarcia210]

Amazing video

[@MyLife-sq9ll]

I don't blame these young women. If I was a baddie, I would use Instagram to my advantage. The attention/ validation you get from Instagram translates into money and sponsorship. Also, if a child is using Instagram, it's the parents fault.

[@TheRoommatesPodcast]

Thank you for sharing

[@massurname7940]

Tell that to the police who will come knocking down your door as soon as you deliver a little slap to your kids for dicipline

[@MyLife-sq9ll]

@@massurname7940 A child doesn't made a smart phone. Parents can get their kids flip phones from the early 2000s.

[@MyLife-sq9ll]

@Living Woman Ministries Money isn't everything? Money runs the world. Money gives you opportunities. I rather be an IG model than a homeless person .

[@OnyxStudios720p]

@@MyLife-sq9ll As if being homeless is the only other option you have outside of being a social media hoe. Learn a skill and capitalize off of it and invest your money for rainy days and you will never have to worry about being "homeless". Some of these women act like they have no other route to success outside of being an IG model or selling their body to the world because it's how they are conditioned from a very young age. Let's be honest they just want to take the path of least resistance and don't mind sacrificing their integrity and long-term self image in process for some quick short-lived money. That's not the example we should be setting as a society for our children. We need more intelligent, able-minded, and comprehensive people in this world to better the future of humanity and that is dwindling with each generation that has been touched by the cancer of this influencer era. It's almost like a game of high-school for grown ass adults who have yet to find their true meaningful purpose in life.

[@annast.7683]

That resignates with me a lot. Since I'm in my teens the pressure has been there. That fake validation unfortunately matters and makes you feel liked.

[@luthandob9587]

A fuckin conversation I always have with myself!😭🤞🤞

[@evalebedinsky3830]

I think women today are told two things in their lives 1) looks don’t matter, that’s not where your value lies and 2) the only thing that matters about you is your physical beauty, and the only thing that men value in you is your beauty. Men are being hypocrites when they say “I don’t like when women use their looks to feel validated “ and “I want a baddie with typical sexualized figures.” It’s a double bind that most women find themselves trying to reconcile

[@isabellalora6533]

Same

[@ninapeterson275]

@BruiseLeeRoy But most of those girls aren’t looking for relationships. They want fun times, money, clout etc

[@keniasharpe1610]

Self esteem Thas all I gotta say 🥳

[@AyyeBC]

If a chick has more than 2k followers I don’t even do it, this is why they seek validation from people on the internet because nobody likes them in real life, their personalities are 🗑, you gotta meet women in real life that way you don’t get filters and angels, plus you get a idea of her personality

[@carlosmoreno3162]

You guys inspire me to start a podcast. Im just soooo scared of judgement. 😔

[@foxwildcard130]

There are dislikes and negative comments on all their videos, especially about the hosts being childish, but they still put out content and their subs keep going up. As long as you love what you do then you’ll be fine

[@Robertsailz]

Its me knocking at the door 🤣🤣

[@MansaHere]

Chris a fool “likes it twice” 🤣

[@hollingsworthjuan]

So true.

[@qspeaksfacts2003]

You can say this is a double Standard in society , with terms of social media what i see you can be a young man on social media with a actual purpose, actual skill, intelligence and struggle to get to 200 followers, but a woman can hit almost 5k in less than a week. Then again them doggone simps smh

[@qspeaksfacts2003]

@nahkxxx you should check out my KZbin channel i did a video on this

[@calisteffenhagen291]

What do you expect? Every other guest on your show, every other discussion is about how badly men want to be with Instagram baddies. then you say we're obsessed with the validation? Make up your mind.

[@Blissedx]

Lol men never know what they want 🤣

[@calisteffenhagen291]

@@Blissedx I hate them all low key

[@nickco4706]

We know what we want but we just can't get it Hypergamy is King

[@karenmassey8354]

Seriously though.

[@tjandcj123]

They want the Instagram model who is also wife material...straight delusional.

[@josephdvid6]

In the next few months I will be conducting a study to see the effects of looking at images in media, particularly of thin attractive white models, on people’s immediate biases, which includes people’s implicit racial and weight biases. This study can be used for a strong argument against chronic social media and pornography usage. It can also be used to make an argument for why chronic social media or pornography can cause relationship dissatisfaction. When I conduct this study I will need more male participants. If anyone would like to contribute to this research and be a participant or learn more about it reply to this comment, it would be extremely helpful.

[@dunnigold]

Here is your responsibilty men TAKE IT, YES HERE TAKE TAKE. We have more to share if this one is finished

[@BlessedTalents]

Instagram detoxing right now.....💯💯😔💪🏽

[@connor12912]

Facts.

[@2kTeacher]

Its not just young women. Older married ones too. I know a woman who craves the attention. She literally told me she will not allow her family to follow her on Twitter. Why? Well take a wild guess. No she doesn't post nudes or anything. But she's a different person on social media than at home. Craves it. And she's not alone. Alot of them are like that

[@morenabonita8834]

I appreciate you two gentlemen covering this topic. I am 43 and I continue to be blown away how normalized this mindset is. It’s really sad that this is “goals” for women. I’ve posted comments encouraging women to explore other ways to get the attention they want. Which starts with self love. Oh boy it’s crazy how I turn out to be a hater. Lol sheesh.

[@ninapeterson275]

It’s not attention it’s money and clout. The thing is they’ve got to draw attention to get those things.

[@morenabonita8834]

@@ninapeterson275 thank you for your feedback

[@playerhater948]

Simps make the game easy

[@pauljones8610]

All true

[@bumpyroad7239]

Its the guys who give em the go ahead! I see the comments! Women can win without even talking to losers..

[@Jdog305Cubanito]

Social media really got all these chicks delusional as hell with it now a days eh 😐

[@Jdog305Cubanito]

@Phoenix Phillips bro right smh 🤦🏾‍♂️ chicks legit be thinking 💭 they self made Hollywood natural born stars like naaa shorty relax 😹💀

[@jrt2792]

That's a women's mindset right there. They NEED attention and validation in order to survive.

[@playerhater948]

Yessir

[@fgcpeak9591]

@@jrt2792 very underrated fact

[@goldenxkenny]

Honestly... you ain’t telling no lies. But the validation is coming from before social media. Social media just makes it easier. Pre social media in high school I still wanted the validation from my peers. You want to be the one people admire and notice. In high school I change my hair and I got a lot of validation in person from girls and guys. Now all I gotta do is post a selfie at the right time and get the comments and I can look back at them when I’m down. It is very very very addicting HIGHLY. And very dangerous to rely on those kind of things for validation.

[@YoLightnings]

@Phoenix Phillips your very real to admit that. I gotta give you props

[@fgcpeak9591]

We men... created this....

[@Dance1617]

Y'all don't know how important nthis video is for young women.

[@sunflower1m.545]

Love that 👕 Leveling Up

[@Zhello79]

I haven't been on social media like Instagram in years. Yet some people I know catch feelings for a comment or two and some being harassed. The irony of it all some people out there won't even contact you if you don't go on social media anymore which is crazy.

[@RC-fe9py]

Young females get their validation through selfies. Young males get theirs through video games. None of them ever seem to grow up.

[@TheGamingg33k]

Young males do not get validation from video games WTF. Im 25 year old dude, back in high school we get validation from status or in other words popularity, how many chicks you banged etc. I have never heard till now a guy try to get validation from his achievements in a video game. Because dudes know in the end video games achievements wont be getting you a job, a house, that hot chick, and status. Very few and I mean like the top 0.5% who get into pro video gaming can get chicks because not of their talents but their status.

[@RC-fe9py]

@@TheGamingg33k you've never heard of MGTOW then.

[@TheGamingg33k]

@@RC-fe9py Was an active participant in MGTOW subreddit. Left reddit just few months ago because im purging anything distracting. MGTOW never ever bragged about video games. They tell your to make yourself better by ignoring women and focusing on your passions. Sure some dudes passions are video games but the MAJORITY play casually and focus on other careers. Yes you might see couple of pics of "gaming setups" but thats not majority. Im not even sure you are a man now cause you are so disinformed.

[@ichoosemysanity6467]

I swipe left on dating apps when they have instagram and Snapchat accounts. I lose ALL interest REALLY fast!

[@fgcpeak9591]

Same.... And I've been telling people this for so long they don't get it.

[@johnames6430]

3:08 yeah someone caused all this! It's by design. Please if any of you have NOT seen the documentary "The Social Dilemma" watch it (it's on Netflix and trailer is on youtube). They have the guys from FB on there talking about how they screwed up. How social media is damaging...especially to young girls.

[@natalieengelbert7370]

The root of this is good parenting. If it's there, a young woman is highly less likely to seek validation through social media.

[@ambehak4744]

I agree with you somewhat but also disagree. I wasted 7/8 years of my life with a toxic narcissist. We are both from the same South Asian community where we have conservative views due to our Islamic beliefs. However, I knew the relationship would end slowly and gradually they day she told me she was on Instagram. Anyway, this girl had a personality disorder. A mask she wore for her parents and brothers, another one for her sisters and friends and another different one for me which she claimed she was not like other girls. I know of plenty of females from good households with both sets of parents but they'll be living a whole different life online for others.

[@etoilenouveau]

What do they mean when they say 'Section'?

[@peterdeafy187]

Yes this is so true fr u c women all da tyme trying 2 get attention fr everyone just 1 feel fulfilled fr

[@wenilynpastolero]

me being a lady without instagram😅🤗

[@maiarawills3237]

High five, sis 💪🏽

[@jchidi]

This entire video is counterintuitive. Every DM, every double tap, every heart eyed comment, is you perpetuating the trash these young women are producing. Don't like it? Don't sponsor it.

[@dionnaburton5999]

This is perplexing. Especially after the Hafis evaluation. I guess you understand that sex sells so you encourage more stimulating social media. Alternatively, this is a part of the reason ppl don’t mind objectifying themselves to create relationships. Similarly to sex, some women prefer to be more explicit in hopes of receiving love (validation). It’s crazy how men objectify their women on social media for validation as well.

[@vennidico]

My 9 year old stepsister heavy on the tik tok and allat, what can I push on her that’s healthy and can combat all that

[@BuddaGheeski]

Nothing really if she doesn't respect you, let her be a kid

[@emptyroomd9567]

Instead of buying my little three year old an iPhone I got her a Nintendo switch to play Mario

[@misspiscesdreamz]

Some guys like the ig models and the half naked pics so thats why girls flock to that behavior just like the interviewer stated.

[@TheBlackGeo]

Tik tok made it even worse

[@K3didit]

literally

[@mirzaalam9844]

The grossest thing about me rn is how I come to this channel to listen to Hafeez or Kevin talk down to women. I can't stop doing it, it feels soo good.

[@Hejdo8]

Well, it’s good that you recognize it in yourself for starters. Do you think it might be internalized misogyny?

[@Hejdo8]

Because I’ve kind of noticed that shi in myself too, and so I try to avoid these type of videos on tiktok, youtube and on any other social media platform to not feed this way of thinking and try to learn out of it. But everytime I open instagram, I see this specific girl who always posts herself on there, always selfies of her face (tbh she pretty), and it’s so obvious that she is super self obsessed maybe even in an unhealthy way and stares at her own face 24/7,(She has over 450 posts on ig, all of them of her face) and seeing that always kind of irritates me and thus I end up on videos like these to try to understand this phenomenon, but I know it might also be somekind on internalized misogyny in me causing the irritation of seeing her selfies.

[@thatboyneedssomemilkholemd819]

No need to be ashamed. Women talk down on men in their videos as well

[@KaiisEgo]

Stop letting the Internet raise your children. I’m only 17 and I can see that. My kids won’t have full access til they at least 12. Especially with 8 year olds walking around with the latest IPhone

[@moshefabrikant1]

5:00 מעניין

[@ChicInspector]

Are there any other type of women besides Instagram baddies that exist?!?? because it seems like there isn't...according to this podcast

[@jashirapeterson1470]

Honestly

[@smeekle2000]

You'd be surprised. Also women aged 18-24 are the most social media driven AND the most desired because of their youth.

[@TheCinderellaPrincess]

"Years of conditioning from you" that hit it right there. Another thing is the blatant colorism in the US that impacts young black girls confidence especially when it comes to boy's interests.

[@soakedlemons9990]

As a child, these girls were good and non-toxic, but when they hit puberty they can't handle the beauty of their body, therefore they lose it further when they become adult and thus a nice child's life is ruined till adulthood by social media.

[@MommaKong7]

I still don't know what only fans is. I keep hearing about it. I just know it's bad. Definitely conditioning.

[@Skrhcj]

Basically a website where you post nude pics and videos and people that subscribe have to pay to buy them .

[@joannasmith2670]

It’s porn

[@MommaKong7]

@@joannasmith2670 dang lol

[@sweetpoptart9486]

Both men and women are addicted to social media for validation. You always seem to put blame and negativity onto women but never any negative thing towards men. Men buy only fans , like pictures of those women online, men are addicted to porn etc. Men are usually the one who pushes women to those type of situation ( i mean men are the one who owns those platform, the movie industry and music industry). Even if you say that this video is about women only, I see that this whole channel is always about putting negative light on women but never talks truthfully on how men are not angels and blameless. It just sounds like those mgtow channels in the end.

[@smeekle2000]

Jesus saves.

[@MilanSmore]

Young men too lol