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[@PegR38]

Years ago, my aunt introduced me to the Enneagram. She's a very lovely 1. Because I mentioned helping people she figured me to be a 2. I looked into that for a long time and it never really resonated with me. Then I took an online course from Beatrice Chestnut and realized that I'm a social 7, which can be confused as a 2, of course. Now that I've been working on growth through 7, the whole thing makes sense and I can be the much healthier version of my type. Thanks for what you do here, Abbey. Your advice is very helpful and you encourage us, no judgments. You're also very knowledgeable. And I need to add that, as a 7, I really get a kick out of your humor.

[@AbbeyHowe]

this is such a sweet comment.... and I want you to know that an appreciation of humor from a type 7 is a high honor!!! Thank you!!

[@michelehaan3738]

Same for me…the person that introduced me to the enneagram pegged me for a 2 because they mainly know me in a family setting where I’m taking care of my large family…little did they know that I have all these kids because I enjoy “travel buddies”…and social 7 was a perfect fit for me. My 12yo is also a 7 who thinks Abbey’s video are just a hoot. He also loves that his unique personality feels understood when we discuss what we learn about ourselves through these videos…cause sometimes 7’s can feel a little out of place with our running away from boredom and constantly feeling like we “always need more.”

[@rdhaley96]

As someone who's part of the LGBTQ+ community, I wanted to chime in with a little something. Even though I'm a type 9, the core unconscious desire of type 3 was the biggest gut punch for me, but I don't think that necessarily has to do with type. I think almost anyone who's a trauma victim and has been told (directly or indirectly) by their family, community, or society at large that their authentic self is not lovable will desire more than anything to be loved for being themselves. For instance, my dad told me when I was only 14 that if I were ever to come out as gay, I would be disowned. Fortunately when I did come out, that didn't happen, but the imprint of those words hasn't ever truly faded. That combined with growing up in a religious community, constantly being told that homosexuality is a sin and that anything "not of God" needs to be surrendered to him... all of that lead to the feeling that being my authentic self wasn't safe and that if I wanted to be accepted, I couldn't ever fully step into who I am. I think this is true for most people in the LGBTQ+ community, especially those who grow up facing hostility.

[@darkcreatureinadarkroom1617]

I think it's valid to add that everyone manifests a little bit of everything, but it is what's closest to your core being that determines your type. For instance, reflecting about my mother's type (which I know you aren't supposed to do but can you help it? Especially when they are pretty much walking caricatures of their types...), her trauma led her to be highly perfectionist (in the sense of having to do everything perfectly, so think Three rather than One) but she is also a constant ball of stress and anxiety, which I've unsuccessfully nagged her to do something about for years and years. Which one sounds like a trait that can be resolved and which one will always linger even if it can be improved? In her case, even if her trauma were fully resolved I don't think she'll ever let herself go with the flow completely without some semblance of assurance that everything and everyone has been accounted for, and that sounds more like a Six than any other type. But I also see a lot of One in her (pretty sure that's my grandma's type) as well as seeing a lot of Six in me (I grew up with her lol). And for me the biggest gut punches were the Six and the Nine, because I've made peace with the type I recognize myself as (Four), but apparently I'm not at peace with my parents... Anyways, I hope this wasn't inappropriate or anything, not trying to step on you or anything, I just thought I could add something to the discussion.

[@Tiara_Princess7]

My 9, 6, and 3 moving lines is strong with this. Fear of failing and fear of conflict are both pretty high on my fear list. I also just have generalized anxiety and social anxiety. Sometimes I avoid trying things because I fear I may fail at it, and other times I avoid telling people how I think because I don't want conflict to cause a rift in a relationship. I just want people to like me. Edit - My answers 1. Fear: Failure (3) and conflict (9) 2. Desire: Stability (6) and Peace (9) 3. Struggle: Anxiety (6) and Sloth (9) 4. Self Longing: Apparently I strongly relate to 2, 3, and 6 I have previously typed as a 9w1 962 tritype, but I suppose I will never be sure.

[@o0ofatasyo0o]

It's fun to answer these questions with the first thing that pops in your head before Abbey explains the Enneagram answer lol 1) pain 2) money 3) ADHD 4).... money? xD I'm type 4. The enneagram answers made more sense lololol

[@smeef2757]

I had a hard time being completely sure of an answer, until the last question. Type 5 hit hard on the last one. You never fully realize something until someone puts words to it.

[@pisceanskies]

This really confirms I’m a 4 but what’s actually surprising is how much I resonate with type 3’s fear and desires as well… Seems like I have a strong 3 wing! I’ve always thought I’m a 4w5 because I’m very introverted (INFP) and 4w3 are usually described as more extroverted and flamboyant. But those type 3 traits really hit home… Very interesting thing to consider, I need to research it more. Great video, thank you so much Abbey!! 🤍

[@elaineweaver12]

I noticed that 3/4 felt quite similar as well! I’ve definitely resonated with the experience of a 3, but also feel the pull of 4 quite strongly. Hey neighbor! 😁❤️

[@pisceanskies]

@@elaineweaver12 Hey neighbour! 💕 Yeah I’m pretty sure now that I’m 4w5 but I’ve read that it’s perfectly normal to resonate with both wings at different times of your life. Type 3 and 4 are definitely tough to have in a combo tho 😭 Do you know your enneagram tritype?

[@teresagjernes5355]

My answers before Abbey explained 1) hatred 2) connection 3) performance/perfectionism 4) to be wanted/to live in the magic around me I’m a type 2 wing 3 so I feel like this fits. Especially for the first two questions my 2ness shines through. The 3rd question brings out my 3ness 4th question reflects my growth to type 4. This was so fun!

[@ZosiaDabrowski]

Abbey I appreciate YOU regardless of your content! And my own personal anecdote: For about 9 months of last year from diving into the enneagram, I thought I was a 9, and discovering that was a major self-insight catalyst after mistyping as a 4 for months. But then actually end of last year, someone suggested I might be a 2…. And oh everything makes even more sense. The core of my being longs to be wanted and loved, and my shrinking of my true self and fear of conflict was because it may lead to people thinking worse of me or rejecting and abandoning me. Some of those things were said about 9s, which just perpetuated my identification with the sx/so 9. And also the fact that my family is full of women 2s who are highly organised and practical and logistical in the ways they give and do for others, and I could never relate. But I see now the essence of the 2 is relational, regardless of its presentation.

[@writingmelody]

1- losing stability, letting people down, failing 2- stability, competence 😂 and just happiness, I guess 3- anxiety 4- the 6, but literally all of them

[@StephanieJeanne]

Well, this confirms I'm a 4. I like that you got it in 4 questions, too. The simplest test I've taken yet. Thanks, Abbey. 😊

[@Shiri_Yam]

I often see you comment on Frank James's videos, so it's funny seeing you here as well. A fellow personality nerd 😉

[@StephanieJeanne]

@@Shiri_Yam 😅🙌 Yeah, I got pulled in about a year or so ago.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Gah, this makes me so happy, Stephanie!! 🥰

[@StephanieJeanne]

@@AbbeyHowe Yay, I'm glad! 😊

[@randomfornow]

@@Shiri_Yam!lol same!

[@memep.9220]

I relate most to 4, 2 and 3 I'm probably an enneagram 4w3 or 2w3 possibly~ 😌

[@carlune]

This was sooooo helpful! Narrowed it down to 1 or 4, but leaning more towards 1.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Yay!!! so happy to hear it was illuminating for you!!

[@Akigirl2004]

“Your presence matters” - I’m not crying 😭

[@toribarron8937]

I fear being abandoned. So I guess that could be translated as, lack of support and safety. I just want to know I have people in my corner and they won’t leave me. I go back and forth between 4 and 6.

[@Shiri_Yam]

I've been learning about personality types for a while now. (It's been about a year and seven months.) At first I learned about Myers-Briggs, and recently I started getting into The Enneagram as well. I've been thinking that personality systems helped me understand the world, myself and others better, so I enjoyed learning all about them. At the same time, I knew I had to take the information with a grain of salt. I knew from the beginning no personality system could define everything I was or everything other people were. I thought - as long as I'm regarding the information in a healthy manner, there's no harm in extensive learning, so why not learn to my heart's content? However, recently it has been brought to my attention that maybe I've been going about it all wrong. There's this term called confirmation bias, which says one interprets the things they see according to their existing beliefs. So maybe because I believe in the theory of personality types, I see it wherever I look. Maybe I subconsciously put myself and others in boxes. Maybe I behave a certain way only because I know this is how my personality type should be, which means I'm changing my personality, my character. The point is, I don't know wether these personality systems help me see the world, or distort my vision. I don't know wether I should continue learning about them or stop. What can I do about this? How should I regard personality typing systems? I think this is an interesting topic to delve into. For what it's worth, I'm an INFP 9w8.

[@jamiehenderson6387]

Both MBTI and enneagram can help you understand yourself and others and relate to people better. So long as you remember they aren’t ever going to give you the full picture you are good! Dive in and use the information. A personality typing obsessed ENTP 7w8 😂

[@Shiri_Yam]

@@jamiehenderson6387 Thanks! I love seeing fellow personality nerds 😉

[@laynagilbert4450]

Can I join the personality nerds club? I'm INFP and stuck between 9, 6 and 4 although I can relate a lot to what you said :)

[@Shiri_Yam]

@@laynagilbert4450 Yay a new member of the club haha! ;)

[@wannabehuman]

Kept shifting between 4, 5, and 9. But the core desire of 4 hit me in the gut.

[@haleybenefield473]

This really solidified that I am a type 6. No doubt.

[@lorilizdofo]

So what if I resonate as a 4 for the first 2 questions but a 5 for the 2nd 2 questions. Some background: I took a quiz once that put me as a 5w6, and there are certainly things about 5 that deeply resonate with me. I sort of resonate with some of the 6 things, but also some of the 4 things. Usually the way the 5s are portrayed on a surface level is not really me, but I have heard that other INFJ type 5s feel that way. We tend to collect people data more than math or hard science data.

[@monsev.arellano9125]

I identify as a four, but I am also very scared of pain and suffering. I think that's just a human thing but I always hear people saying fours are not scared of pain. I'm also scared of not being as fulfilled or happy as other people seem to be. Speaking of fears, I am also scared of not being a four because then I won't feel special lol

[@Exquisite4play]

What about the Fear of Missing Out (FOMO)?!!! 😀

[@marishaten7399]

Oh my God, Abbey! When I read "Your needs are not a burden" I literally had tears in my eyes. Does that mean I am a type 5? I have, by now, settled on all 9 types one time or another 😂 Thank you so much for this incredible video. It was very informative. Also, I must mention that you are looking totally gorgeous. Whether it's your hair or something else...I don't know 😅

[@abbiepancakeeater52]

if you can't pick, you're probably a 9 or maybe a 6.

[@francesca.pellegrino]

I really like your cardigan, but the red isn't me. I'd totally wear a purple, green, blue, gray or yellow version of it, though! In relation to your video content itself, I always feel like it's not power that I seek. It's okay, I feel indifferent to power. It's control over my destiny that I need.

[@tabithalandon4793]

I'm still confused! I relate to both type 2 and 9 answers! I tested as a type 2 when I took the test about a month ago, but for many months now, I thought I was a 9!

[@margaretjudice8944]

Great video! Lots to think about!

[@chickadeefoot]

Okay, so I've tested as a 1, 4, 6, 9, and 2 in that order. I've never gotten the same result twice. Looking at my answers to these questions I got: 1. 4, totally. 2. 2 and 6 equally (I literally said to be totally loved and supported) 3. 9 with a strong resonance with 4 and 6, related to others but can narrow down to these three. 4. 9 resonated the most, but almost all did, especially 3. Does anyone have ANY idea why it can be so confusing? Any thoughts?

[@catherinetorgerson5111]

I love you regardless of your content 🌺

[@AbbeyHowe]

😭

[@nataliapanic9000]

Really great, thx!

[@MrDamgo-uc6fl]

As a 4, I feel seen. Thank you Abbey, I really enjoy your videos ♥️

[@_linlin_]

Honestly mistyped as every type... But the fear was easy - being a bad person, like I could be in whatever unsupported environment but if my loved ones think I am good everything is fine. Thought I am a 9, but my aggression is much more visible Also shed a tear on type 1 and 5 self awareness, damn

[@emmabloomquist1868]

Yay enneatruth 😁💙 thank you so much, as always! Love, a magnificently stereotypical 4 😘

[@AbbeyHowe]

thank you for watching, Emma!! sending you all the ❤️ and 🦄

[@LunaFreiheit]

Now I am windows frozen blue screen 😂 I have always thought I am an 1. When you asked about the fear my first thought was : fear of failing and it is the type 3 fear 😧 (???) because I associate failure with perfection

[@LunaFreiheit]

I don’t know anymore if I am 1 or 3 🤣

[@CastIronBabe]

Such a terrific video!!!!!!! Very meaningful.

[@cxffaye]

When you read out the first 5 fears I was like “OH SH*T” I can’t decide which one scares me the most though at the moment it seems to be fear of being bad and fear of inadequacy. The failing and ignorance ones are also very important to me. I hate saying stuff and forming opinions without enough information and it drives me crazy. Also, I always want to feel wanted and go out of my way to help to be wanted as well. I really can’t decide 💀

[@Kenzi-q2m]

Well I got an 8, than a 2, than a 9, then a type 9. So I think maybe I would be a type nine, which is what I get when I take online eneagram test. But I always feel like I never truly put how I feel, but when I am taking the test I always put the truth. So I always question myself 😂 (if that makes sense I can’t really explain it) But when you pulled up the quotes, “Your presence matters” really hit me! So thank you so much for this video it was really helpful!!

[@ashlondajacobsgrzyb8048]

Well done 👏🏾👏🏾 enneagram in a condensed version! Love it! congratulations on becoming a coach. Who did you go through for certification?

[@ashleyching7894]

Enneagram integrates and MBTI cognitively transitions!

[@ashleyching7894]

What do you fear the most? What do you avoid? What do you desire the most? What is your greatest struggle? What does your unconscious self long for?

[@janettackett7659]

Great video!! ❤️ I feel like I need to give a shot out to you beautiful book shelf and the color coded books on it! 👏

[@cameronvalentine6207]

Is it possible that if we have one extreme fear within our enneagram that we are totally neglecting another natural human fear of another enneagram? We all should have all of the enneagram fears, so that means if we're focused in on one, why shouldn't there be one that blinds us from legitimate dangers because we are not accessing it like we should. For example, the 3's fear of failing may be causing them endless trouble, but it is also a legitimate fear that is useful in moderation. That is why the 9 grows to the 3. A healthy fear of failure can be motivating. Are there people, though, who care so little about failure that it works in their opposition. The same can be said about desires. What desires might we be neglecting in our life? It is good to have your core desire, but is it possible that our core desire blinds us from other desires? Are there people out there who simply don't want to be wanted like they should? Are there people who have no desire to be competent? Are there people who don't really care whether or not they are secure? It's possible none of this makes any sense. I don't know enneagram very well at all. These ideas may be worth the time of someone who knows more than me though😂

[@AbbeyHowe]

You seem like a deep thinker, Cameron, and you've brought up some really interesting questions! So the cool part of the Enneagram is that while you are your main type, you are connected to two types in the symbol. You don't become those types, but you can take on personality qualities of those two types when you are in growth or stress (or release and stretch). A lot of how we act depends on where we are in our journey (someone going through a divorce is going to be very different from themselves in 5 years after they've happily remarried and just got a promotion), but the root motivations will still be the same. They might not just be as pronounced or defined depending on your growth and stress paths!

[@cameronvalentine6207]

@@AbbeyHowe thank you for clearing things up. If I'm understanding you I think you're saying that in a way your enneagram would suppress you from pursuing the desires of the type you lean towards in growth. We don't become that type, but we can sort of acknowledge those desires and healthy fears.

[@AbbeyHowe]

@@cameronvalentine6207 in health, we would face our fears and do things that scare us, and internalize that our unconscious longing is true (ex: a type 1 stands strong in knowledge that she is enough and leans into the childlike, playful, imperfect side of herself)

[@cameronvalentine6207]

@@AbbeyHowe thank you, you've given me so much to think about! Love your videos btw :)

[@cognitivebias7762]

I got 8, 7,7 & 8, I'm a 7w8.😃

[@paulbernhard7186]

I honestly think that I am mixture of a 4 and 9. Yeah, that's right. I don't believe everyone is just one type. I am a heretic, I know. For me, I am so very 4 that I break out of the 4 box and claim some 9-ness (differentiating myself from the other 4s). At the same time I am so very 9 that I have merged with 4-ness in an inextricable way. I really did go along to get along on the outside for many years and looked like a 9, but deep down I knew was uniquely tragically flawed. Does anyone else resonate? Does wanting to have someone resonate with me in this make me more of a 9? I want to be special AND I am too effete and too courteous to put people out by having them look at my special self. Anyway, I really unconsciously long for my presence to matter and also my unique and beautiful life to matter. I want to be the chosen one but I also just want to sleep for a few months before I take on that responsibility.

[@sourgrapes7482]

Hey Abbey, great video as usual! I'm pretty sure I'm a 4, and I think a better way to describe the core fear would be "insignificance" (or I might be a 9, and this is me confusing the core fear with the unconscious longing of "your presence matters") Based on this test I'm a... mess lol. Core fear of a 2, core desire of a 7, deadly sin of a 5 (and 9), unconscious longing of a 5 or 3 (or 9). Do the core fears/desires change with disintigration or integration? Cause that could be part of it

[@AbbeyHowe]

Hi! Thanks for the comment; all valid questions. As I always say, a test (even one I make) is just a first step to discovering your main Enneagram type. When you resonate with the fears, desires, longings, and sins of other types, that's a signal to you to look more in-depth for 2, 3, 7, 5, and 9. Good thing about this? You know you're not a 1, 4, 6, or 8! I recommend that, from here, you learn about the Interpersonal Coping Styles Triad, the Conflict Coping Styles Triad, and the Relational Styles Triad. This will really help you narrow down what your core type is.

[@KendrixTermina]

i agree that "insignificance" is a much better fit for 4 im a bit mad that someone else thought of it That said I think 9 could also be described better - as "disconnection" more so than conflict.

[@sourgrapes7482]

@@AbbeyHowe Thanks for the advice!

[@lilaeia]

Actually insignificance is the core issue of a 9, and a word that could be used for both 9 and 4 with different nuances. For a 4, the core issue is the need to be special/unique. A need to paint the world with their palette of how they see… their distinct “art”. Make it more beautiful according to their tastes (often literally art, such as music, painting, poetry). Insignificance in the sense of being neither special nor unique is the 4 notion of lacking contribution to making the world a more beautiful place. For a 9, the core issue is “I don’t matter”. As in, existentially. Generically - across the board. It’s not so much a personal uniqueness issue comparing to others, as a gigantic “I don’t have a place or purpose in this world”. That one’s life could vanish in an instant and it wouldn’t matter. Everything would just keep on keeping on. As a 9, the existential insignificance issue is palpable. Every day. In every interaction and every decision or indecision and every action or non-action. My sister is a 4, and whilst significance is a word that might be used to describe her core issue as well, it’s coming from a different place. Her insignificance is not her existence itself, it’s whether she has any influence on the world as she’s painting it her shade of unique. Disconnection is a *behaviour* to protect oneself against conflict as a 9, not a core issue. Insignificance is absolutely the root issue. It underlies everything as a 9. And as someone who seems to have an inner circle of (oddly, all) 9s, I can say that this is the case for all my friends and family member 9s!! 😜 My six closest friends, my partner and my father, all with the same issue of feeling existentially insignificant. I’d say that a distinction between 9s and 4s is their core temperament. 4s have a sort of melancholic broodiness about them. 9s seem to be more optimistic in general. 4s are based in fear, 9s are an anger type. When stressed, they have profoundly different reactions. 4s tend to retreat inwards and brood more, become a bit paranoid and obsessive (over making the right decision for example), and get a little shaky within themself… whereas 9s would initially withdraw/disconnect/numb out unless unable to hide and bury oneself, and then you’d see the anger lash out. And then feel guilty/upset that they were angry lol. Hope this helps a little! 💝😇😘

[@sourgrapes7482]

@@lilaeia ...i think im a 9. darnit

[@nat1XP]

Omg I'm 20 seconds in and I love it. This energy is so nice🥰

[@luandthelion]

So if I long to know I’m not a burden and that my presence matters, and they feel pretty linked together, how do I tell the difference between it for 9 and 5?

[@AbbeyHowe]

Great question! Now you have TWO personality types that you know you identify with. Your next step is to research and learn more about Type 5 (investigator) and Type 9 (peacemaker). After reading a book (or watching some KZbin videos) about your narrowed down types, you will be super equipped to understand your MAIN type! ♥️ hope that helps!

[@Redberryfarm888]

Yup... I have the longings of #1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, and 9... (and I know that is not even possible in the enneagram!)

[@Shiri_Yam]

@@Redberryfarm888 It is possible; many people can relate to more than one personality type. If you feel like you resonate (at least, to some extent) to most/all Enneagram types, your type is likely 9. (The peacemaker) This is because 9s contain qualities of every personality type, or try to resemble each of the types. I hope what I'm saying is correct haha 😅 I'm not super proficient in the Enneagram system, but I feel like I have sufficient knowledge on it. (My resources are youtube videos and articles on the internet) By the way, I'm a Type 9 myself 😊 (INFP 9w8)

[@Redberryfarm888]

@@Shiri_Yam... yes, I test as a 9, 6 and then a 4 or a 2 as a tri type... 9W1... but I hang out at the unhealthy end of 6 too often ( being where a 9 heads under stress, right?!)

[@mwatson4970]

You actually might be like me. 4s long for purpose, and 5s hate feeling like a burden, so these might explain your combo like it did mine (5w4 here).

[@kytheres379]

I relate very much to both 4 and 5, so I’m not sure what type I am

[@joycehelminenmusic1513]

I clicked off the video because i wasn’t ready for all that enthusiasm and changing video locations, what type does that make me? ☠️

[@AbbeyHowe]

👀

[@ubeclub2082]

5?

[@Shayne_T]

Lol, the last one I relate to almost all of them. Interesting.

[@Blue_Mental]

Can you do a video about 'not all type 5s are smart'? I feel like people expect Type 5s to be everyone else's answers. And I don't think all Type 5s have all the answers. - 5w4

[@paulmatson661]

Content Warning: Random hilarious sexiness at 6:04 🤣 Fantastic video, as always, Abbey! You're such a wonderful fount of compassion and insight. 💖

[@MinaAdams15]

You explained all of these so well💙👏🏻

[@leadwithjim]

OK! So, first, I love the way you did this video!! ..... Second... LOL I am 100% a solid type 7

[@KirschSalvator]

Q1. 2 3, 4, 9 Q2. 1, 2, 4, 8 Q3. 1, 2, 4, 6, 7. 9 Q4. 1 2 3 5 8 I think that means I’m a 2?

[@ashleyching7894]

Economist theorized that because of technology, an hour of labor would get more work done and people would need to work less.

[@AbbeyHowe]

Did I say it wrong??

[@samtula5946]

Confused between 2,4 and 6 🤷🏽‍♀️

[@BlainEnoch]

Good video overall but the answers to question #4 require a bit more elaboration.

[@Ruu555]

Wow I guess I’m a five instead of a four but I have some features in common with fours.

[@NIGHTOWLmetalcore]

so I know I'm an 8w7. but for this test, I got 7, 3, 6 & 4. I am confused now 😂

[@pointerdogmarketing2197]

I love your content! :)

[@AbbeyHowe]

Thank you so much!

[@Wulfex]

The problem you brought up in the first part of the video about feeling like all you exist to do is "Work, clean, sleep, repeat" is likely better solved by socialism/communism. Keynes was right, a lot of the jobs we do now could be automated. If that were to happen, how would you make money in a capitalist society to go on living? There is no way. The infection of work life coming into your private life is a disease of capitalism. It's wage theft. Salaries are an ingenious scheme to get the most amount of work out of an employee at a fixed rate. We are not the ones who are broken, the system is broken. Just like we're being blamed for the climate. Anyway, as a 9, I often want to just drop my whole life, give up on everything, and go live in the woods. I feel as though my contributions can easily be replaced and replicated. So the biggest struggle for me in finding that my presence matters is not seeing any impact I make on the world. I get some feed back from coworkers, my partner, etc. but I know other people could fill that place if I were gone. I feel like my presence on the planet has little to no affect. I'm just here. I know it's okay to be here, I know I'm not just taking up space, but I'm not more valuable than any other person in the comment section. I don't think you can remedy that. I totally accept that I'm just another particular buzzing of the universe, and I'm okay with that. There's no purpose to life, it just is. I don't think 9s are cut-out for the 9-5 capitalism grind, we just want to eat, sleep comfortably, and wake up the next day to do it all over again, drifting around like the seed of a dandelion in the wind.

[@AbbeyHowe]

thank you for sharing your perspective, Wulfex. I appreciate bringing your POV as a Type 9 who just wants to go all Henry David Thoreau and get off the grid. these are things I'm going to mull over. ♥️

[@Wulfex]

@@AbbeyHowe Anytime! Always enjoy the videos! The least I can do is drop a comment and a like 😊

[@madittavi2041]

Ok in a way enneagram seem like something I just can’t fit myself into. What do I fear the most? My inner demons and the possibility of seeing myself in the shoes of the monster. What do I desire? To live up to my own expectations. To be productive according to the potential I already have. To make the image I already have about myself the reality. Welp I can’t really answer the 3rd question but we have what we have I guess. All these months I try to find my enneagram my scores at tests are high for 5, 4 and 8 and after some time I figured out that 7w8 would have all the connections to the other types I somehow can relate to. Even so I’m an ENTP, sanguine-choleric and unlikely the others personality systems, enneagram seem unfitting for me -_-

[@jamiehenderson6387]

Your answers seem very 5 to me. I’m ENTP also. I’m 7w8 personally. But the answers you have listed here line up very closely with an INTJ 5 I know (can’t recall his wing). You’ve explained it slightly differently. But it’s in the same vein. Core desire: to be capable and competent. That can mean different things to different people. But I see that clearly in your answer. Core fear: to be incompetent. In your answer to both your fear and desire you laid this one out. Wanting to live up to your potential. Being afraid of your own failings/flaws. Just another perspective.

[@jamiehenderson6387]

Oh. And I actually brought up that INTJ to mention that my husband is an INTJ and a 9w1. Those two are so similar in many ways. And so different in others. I don’t think you have to make your types line up with anything but you.

[@madittavi2041]

@@jamiehenderson6387 that’s the whole problem, I can’t line up any enneagram type with me XD

[@madittavi2041]

@@jamiehenderson6387 enneagram 5 seem unfitting for me cuz I don’t act like a five. I’m not anxious, I’m in my core an extrovert(even if I’m an asocial one), and a very important thing is that I never learn so I can be prepared, I learn cuz it’s entertaining. I’m a very curious person but in a way what seem more like 7.

[@jamiehenderson6387]

@@madittavi2041 you can be a 5 and an extrovert. Also any type can be anxious. I have an anxiety disorder and I’m a 7. But 5 isn’t heavily tied to being anxious like a 6 is. What do you connect with in 7? Your answers here just don’t sound 7 at all so I’m wondering.

[@tixirustotheti3326]

Type 8…. Fear of being hurt….. wing…. 9…..

[@tixirustotheti3326]

Fear of being hurt…… wanting peace…….

[@tixirustotheti3326]

Hm… resentment? No…. I try to see the best in everyone but it is hard to let go of grudges as im still young….

[@tixirustotheti3326]

Lmao my negative- wanting power and control

[@tixirustotheti3326]

“Its okay to be vulnerable”…. To me being vulnerable is like being free…. Is like

[@tixirustotheti3326]

Yeah….

[@pointerdogmarketing2197]

Do you do 1-on-1 coaching?

[@AbbeyHowe]

I do not, but I do offer group coaching for companies and teams about the Enneagram and leadership :)

[@pointerdogmarketing2197]

@@AbbeyHowe I think I know a small business that could use that...and also the school I teach at, maybe--iron out some conflicts.

[@tommy5512]

fear of beeing weak being ina romantic relation and traveling and living a happy life in another good countru with achieving my goals thinking to deeply and a lot and wanting and needs of power and showing it to my self and she long for the goods times in the past and success and good times

[@jasonstone8222]

Fear most= vaginas, got chewed up and spit out by a couple them toothless monsters..........desire most.......boat and a dog a home and garden/ mini farm. ......biggest struggle......smoking........long for. .........have my money work for me instead vice versa so I can travel and play more.

[@iamenough6958]

👀

[@davidbwoo]

Good video. Just a minor thing, in case you use Evagrius in other talks: it’s pronounced “eh-VĂ-gree-us.” Feel free to delete this if you want.

[@AbbeyHowe]

THANK YOU! I had no idea as I've never heard anybody else say his name. Didn't know how to say "avarice" either until someone in the comments corrected me 😂