Your FEAR MIND and narcissistic relationships

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[@user-ye4tx2bj6s]

Being with my ex narc for the past 8 yrs. made me observe this very pattern. I think they wanted to feel very important in a way that is disturbing. Instead of building trust with their intimate partners, they destroy the trust that they built with you (in that case lying when they tried to put you in their pedestal). Once they have a committed partner, they can’t stand being loved authentically by one person. Instead they go on and prey on other women that is susceptible to their love bombing. My ex narc was a compulsive pursuer in a relationship. He would go back and forth to the women he were involved before or try to meet women in complicated situation so that going public isn’t an option while having you as their main supply. In the end they destroy the very person that loved them. They are like toddlers testing your love for them. Showing and telling them you love them isn’t enough, they will cheat on your face to make you feel inadequate even if you are more than they deserve. They want to test your love for them so they keep hurting you and when you have enough of their abuse, you leave. Then they tell you, ‘you never loved me because you abandon me’. Well in fact it’s their actions and narcissistic behavior that made you leave or in other cases they discard you and will give silly reasons of the discard. Mine would use, ‘she’s crazy’, ‘she’s a nega-star’, ‘she insults me’, ‘she cheated on me’ et al. So with this pattern of infidelities and emotional abuse (who knows what else) it’s better to walk away. I did walk away and is now rebuilding my life with our daughter. We are struggling financially because I’m not earning enough to provide for my daughter but now we get to laugh and bring with us sunshine every day. No lies, no abuse and no fake love. We only live once, forgive yourself and move forward but never forget the lesson that narc abuse taught you. That is to respect yourself to walk away from what’s hurting and destroying you. That you deserve a life of solitude, happiness and love. Hugs*** :) Additionally I got to know about my narc husband bad ways when I reach out to a private detective [e-mail] for help he did a perfect work for me I can see everything he’s doing on his device.

[@NarcSurvivor]

If they can’t get you to validate their false self, they want you to fear them.

[@jodycasey6936]

Yes! I was having this problem! Now I’m working on getting out!

[@An-mei]

​@@jodycasey6936Wishing you well.

[@DreamcloudDesignsLampwork]

BE ME!!!!! I TRIED. I CAN'T. DECIDED I'D RATHER BE ME INSTEAD. PREFER. I'M NOT YOU!!! 😂 I LOVE MYSELF ❤️😍

[@DreamcloudDesignsLampwork]

YOU...

[@tammyhollis1519]

And THEY accuse YOU of "trying to change THEM" as they mirror EVERYTHING you do. I started feeling like he was banging my head into the wall every day. It was crazy!

[@NRJIID]

I have learned this in my recovery from narcissistic abuse; the worst decisions I made were those I made in fear. Healing is a constant. Thank you, Dr. Ramani. I listen to you daily.

[@ayla4844]

Did you find a recovery from narcissistic abuse? I've been looking for one.

[@CP-pe9ul]

So very true ....You learn to gaslight yourself !

[@NRJIID]

@ayla4844 The emotional trauma of the tapes playing constantly in my head when he wasn't even around was crazy-making. And taking my peace. I learned that our breath is a natural healer that goes everywhere we go. Taking one long, slow, deep breath in whenever I was triggered was my healing start. Over time, with a LOT of practice, I learned to head off those tapes. I started intentionally labeling my triggers as they arose, saying, "That is my mind being fearful, or angry, or regretful, hateful, or whatever emotion applied to that trigger. Recognizing the emotion behind the trigger and instantly naming it is my practice. I taught my nervous system how to recognize and respond to my triggers - instead of taking that emotional deep dive into reacting to their trauma. With that practice, my triggers happen less and less. Dr. Ramani helps me understand the hows and whys of narcissistic abuse. I appreciate her so much. Breathe.

[@ayla4844]

​@@NRJIID thank you. That is helpful.

[@sushmayen]

We should remove fear and replace it with peace. We should not fear being left alone if we don't please them. If they abandon us its a blessing in disguise.

[@mday3821]

This came at the perfect time. I'm afraid to be around people. I'm afraid to talk to people. I'm afraid of making decisions. I was never like this.

[@pinkmeadows]

This sums up my childhood and now adulthood currently. I was diagnosed with anxiety very young. I never truly felt loved and supported.

[@SherryWilson-dk7bo]

God bless you, I hope you heal and I pray for good things for you 🙏 ❤

[@pinkmeadows]

@@SherryWilson-dk7bo thx u❤️ may u heal and prosper as well.🙂

[@sharonfuszard8861]

This video has given me a great deal to think about. One of the most painful legacies of narcissistic abuse, is living in a perpetual, paralyzing state of fear even when the narcissist is no longer physically present. We are afraid to trust our own judgement when making even the most trivial of decisions. We are trained to view the narcissist as omnipotent, when the truth is they are not. Healing requires that we retrain our nervous systems to recognize the lies we have unwittingly bought into.

[@briejoana.6736]

And we still keep healing. I read of your progress here. Well done warrior 🏆🏆🏆 We have a life too 🧬🧬🧬🧠🧠🧠and we take back all we deserve including our laughter and spontaneity. This video gave me also a lot to think.

[@sharonfuszard8861]

@@briejoana.6736 Thank you. Sending my very best wishes to you in your healing journey.

[@briejoana.6736]

@@sharonfuszard8861 Thank you for your kind wishes. They are coming true 💐

[@wellinever1558]

very true

[@_TheIlluminator_]

Having this fear in narcissistic relationships keeps us trapped in this cycle of doubt and disappointment, which mirrors the emptiness of seeking validation without real purpose.

[@Star_Light_4]

I’ve overcome the fear of leaving, now to overcome the smear campaign and parental alienation I’m sure I will experience with my children. The fear is what they will be told when I leave and the years it will take for them to see the manipulations that were done to them.

[@briejoana.6736]

Leaving will empower you. You will realize that a lot of your phenomenal skills are still there to your service! Sure our children need more time to realize but rest assured they do realize eventually. Because now you are not there to keep absorbing the worst behavior....our denial is over! We can untangle ourselves and our adult children realize it too. I cheer you on 💪🏼

[@autumngryffinnheart6374]

Thank you 😊. I was frozen with fear - the anticipation of criticism. The biggest critics end up frozen themselves - failure to launch. Living a full life of experiences is taking a chance. I am back, baby!

[@mariehughey5390]

Coming to terms with our own internal fears is big. It affects a lot of everything we do. It affects every relationship. Experiment with small projects. Art, adventure, DIY, anything to gain confidence in your own abilities and strategies. You can learn from the smallest of efforts.

[@anikalee9012]

I have severe anxiety attacks. I was so severe I couldn't live. It took me five years to come back to normal. I have been living in hell my entire life

[@user-jh4kx4cl6n]

So sad.

[@demigaines5644]

Thank You for Sharing This I Stayed In Survival Mode For Yrs With A Malignant Narcissist He Knew I Have Anxiety And Abandonment Issues. He Would Dominate Me Until I Served Him Once He Accomplished Getting What He Wanted Out of Me He Immediately Discarded Me. So The Fear I Had Was Satisfying Him So He Wouldn’t Discard Me Or Abandon Me. The Harder I Tried He Used This Against Me As Leverage To Continue Using Me Discarding Me .Narcissistic Abuse Is Very Brutal.

[@costelloandlizzievolk2233]

I would move so freely thru the world. I used to move this way until I experienced more narcissistic abuse. Taking fear glasses off and seeing the truth of who they are and that it’s not ok and not my fault. Slowly taking myself back despite them and the narrative they try to force on me for their benefit. Not allowing it. Thank you Dr Ramani ❤

[@QQuandary]

@DoctorRamani - Thank you. You answered my question from yesterday. I have been so scared because I didn't realize how much damage a narcissist can do to other relationships in my life. I thought I had a good relationship with my mom. I then confided with her about being emotionally abused by my wife, the narcissist. I was in shock when my mom took my wife's side. Apparently, my wife was giving misinformation about me to everyone I knew. I'm still repairing the damage that she caused.

[@soniahathaway1]

I am so sorry you experienced this, so painful. I have experienced the same with my mother, and an X partner. Jealous pathetic people they are. 🤗

[@QQuandary]

@@soniahathaway1 Thank you.

[@Greenwings701]

If you've tolerated "friends" who relentlessly one-up, compete, sneer, etc., the mixed fear/looking forward to interacting with them is real. Sounds paranoid until it's unwittingly tested or until you (we) wake up to what's happening. Hard to acknowledge but you don't miss it.

[@LValley-kz3yc]

Thank you Dr Ramani. So many times they sell the fear. "This is the best your ever going to have it." "You can't make it out there without me." It's a cage they trap you into believing.

[@l.5832]

Both my narc Mom and my narc husband would tell me "You will fall flat on your face without me". I left them both and I did not fall flat on my face.

[@LValley-kz3yc]

​@@l.5832when you get out you can blossom.

[@teresadvorak6145]

Yep, they control us by fear, if we let them 😮

[@teresadvorak6145]

Yep, they control us by fear, if we let them 😮❤❤❤

[@ginkgo2021]

A constant fear I had in the few years before being discarded was the fear of leaving my dog alone with the vulnerable narcissist. He had an empathy deficiency for me as well as our dog. She was injured under his watch one day; he didn't even realize she was injured, or pretended perhaps that she wasn't. The dog had to have extensive surgery to repair the injury she suffered while she was under his care. Throughout my relationship with the narcissist, I could not figure out how he consistantly failed to see potential for danger for our various pets throughout our relationship. Now I know, he simply was incapable of recognizing or more likely didn't really care if the pet was in a dangerous situation. Protect your pets as well as yourself would be my advice. When I was discarded, I was shocked to see how he treated our dog. He treated her just like me. She was an innocent. He was cruel.

[@wellinever1558]

What a good warning to us thank you. I had to wrench my child from my ex husband but that dame childhas now turned into a narcissist. I can just weep. I am filled with so much emotion and doubt and guilt of what i subjected my child to. What a mess is all i can say. These videos are so helpful as i would not find this type of expert in South Africa plus i dont have tge means for therapy. This is the most helpful way to make an impact on hundreds of thousands of people. Thank you Dr. Romani.

[@fragrenscat9468]

i love this video. i am privileged to have had a long spell in life where i was free of the fear mind before i got involved with a pwNPD.who brought up all the childhood fear again.. im away from them and slowly remembering the way out of this awful place but its shocking that you can be thrown back so far when its a huge part of childhood... all the programmes are still there and its like i have to retrace the steps back to peace.

[@CS-iv8tk]

This fear had left me in a empty fog

[@jodycasey6936]

I am cautious because I am nervous to meet another narcissist. Thank you for this installment. I really enjoyed your live yesterday, thank you so much!

[@kristin_NZ]

once you learn their patterns and tactics it's far easier to spot them and avoid in advance.

[@l.5832]

And you WILL. They are everywhere. The thing is to always have an exit plan. Getting a new job you think you will love? Take it! But keep your resume updated and look for signs in the workplace that things may be changing. Developing a new friendship? That's great! Go for it but take it slow. Trust is earned. If they are worthy, they will respect boundaries. Drop them if there are signs of toxicity.

[@elspethfougere9683]

Believing I can, is so so hard after repeated and ongoing exposure to toxic narc types.. as I heal it's slowly just coming back by itself, little moments that I through the fear of insight and intuition and gut instinct and kindness that just feels right to myself.. which used to be a constant goodwill on how i lived my life, my inner conscience.. Which got ripped to shreds by a toxic boss and workplace, and with a covert narc partner at home. I felt so stupid for not being able to hold onto my inner strength, I could see some of what was going on but couldn't figure out the rest, but I was in constant fear. That's the red flag for me now. Gradually teasing apart the strands of fear from true gut instinct and claiming that power back again. Thank you so much Dr Ramani. I hate to think where I would be in life without the support of these videos over the last three years. I so so appreciate you!

[@user-rb8fs3cv8k]

You sound just like me

[@An-mei]

It is shifting #1 Fear #2 Financial/career ability at this age/Trust that I could make it.

[@NovaPrincess]

What a timely video, Dr. Ramani. Thank you! We definitely live in a culture where women are taught to be fearful of males, and I am adamant that my fearlessness and bravery is why I was able to defend against, avoid, or get justice in the face of gendered violence from males.

[@wallaceleewl9189]

Congrats.

[@Zen-xn8gk]

Thank you so much for helping me to try and unpack this 20+ year trauma. There is still a lot that I don't understand but I am committed to my healing! Looking forward to your retreat in November ❤ Stay blessed!

[@larisal.9923]

Thank your so much 🙏 Fear is the fuel of the narcissistic relationship.

[@CharDaLuX]

Dr. Ramani, I appreciate, and thank you. 32- year's deep. I understand my predicament, and your words of wisdom and understanding are helping me cope to continue in my family.

[@jinisanjay5529]

Thank you for this session. I am slowly learning how to make it in the world on my own. I am slowly learning to believe that I am enough.

[@lila26780]

Thank you so much. This explains so much about my emotional patterns , including my avoidant dismissive personality style.

[@lesabrydson2526]

Dr. Ramani, thank you for you words of wisdom. Healing is a journey. Persevering in Prayers Psalms 1-150🙏😇🇯🇲👑🙌

[@teresadvorak6145]

We are also given authority to cast out demons & Heal others. 🙏❤❤❤

[@Myopia2047]

Such wonderful insights on fear aftermath of narcissistic abuse n relationships, so so helpful. Thank you for highlighting to be curious about the origin of fear n exploring life with curiosity to heal.

[@rachelq0077]

I was outgoing & adventurous, I traveled to Europe by myself. Then the marriage to the malignant covert narcissist, I became afraid of everything, even going to the Supermarket. I was panicked frequently, would constantly check to see if the doors were locked, not understanding that the husband was the monster already in my house, & I was locked inside with the monster.

[@Gem-lo2ey]

This is my sister-in-law….she attacks me and rages at me. I believe she is jealous and wants to break up my marriage to her brother, her favorite patsy! I am doing my best to avoid her. She listens to all your tapes and believes she is qualified to diagnose her daughter! I worry because she becomes very aggressive, simply put, she is nuts!

[@bingoandtoto]

The fear is the core in the relationship with Narc.

[@user-mh6ix3zr8c]

This hit so hard for me

[@poemsjones4184]

Thank you for your devoted work; I purchased the book and audiobook. It has been helpful in my recovery.

[@mapleleaf902]

Thank you for the education so I can start to heal and get a foothold to get my life back.

[@angelamorrissey690]

Wow. This was a huge ahh haa moment for me. Thank you

[@angelamorrissey690]

As I sit here and realize how many missed opportunities to this fear...

[@Ray-el8gl]

U speak with so much compassion. Not to be too spiritual but this is your calling. Guiding the wounded.

[@bodalakshmiprasanna5429]

Dr Ramani thank you ❤

[@user-rb8fs3cv8k]

Dr.Ramsni, I want to say thank you to you. I'm not well,and I feel like nobody would believe me if I said everything, and its too much for anybodys time,and people see me as a person "playing victim hood " if I appear together in the brain, or " crazy" if they see the affects. I'm judged negatively no matter what and so much truth Is exact opposite of what is said ,I don't see the way

[@PenninkJacob]

So awesome, thank you so much!!!👍❤❤❤

[@yolondagoode9656]

Thank you Dr R....much needed

[@lovehappiness3911]

This was spot on. Thank you Dr. Ramanii

[@coreyrenik6419]

Thank you Dr. This video is amazing

[@daniellesomerfield8799]

I have no fear, the fear is in their mind, they were suspicious of me. Love is the fruit of The Spirit, which I have and they don't. There is no fear in love, but perfect love casts out fear, because fear is by suspicion, but he who fears is not grown up in love. 1 John 4:18 Aramaic

[@MelW669]

He knew I had abandonment issues and he abandoned me. Best thing he ever did! Not only did I realize it wasn’t going to bring me down, I’m finally to the point in my growth where I see that my strength will eject these people straight out of my life and for that, I am grateful.

[@cherrybacon3319]

In hindsight, when I met my last Narc I was still 'transitioning' from another Narc after I left them. The fear of being left alone (after previously feeling alone with the other) was insurmountable and made worse by the cycles of abuse (recognised after becoming educated) even more so from this particular person. 🍒

[@sharicoburn5475]

That was exactly my experience only I had three narcissists in a row in 9 years. And those were after a 22-year marriage to an alcoholic avoidant possibly covert narcissist. Now after 2 years of being single I've been able to heal and really learn how to avoid this in the future.

[@user-qv9nw1dq2f]

Absolutely true. Let’s take the fear glasses off and put on another pair. Start with curiosity and slowly move away from fear. Thank you so much dr Ramani ❤ for sharing your wisdom and invaluable support.

[@CookieMonster-hm8hx]

I NEVER comment on youtube, but your urging me to take off 'fear glasses' and put a new set on is compelling. Watching this nicely 'dimmed' upload and comparing it to the upload on NOT REACTING arouses great interest in the subject matter.

[@marshajay4965]

Thank you, Dr.Ramani. My Favorite video. Let's get out there the world needs to see us❤

[@michaelphipps2490]

Especially pertinent advice. Thank you!

[@moniquejackson7741]

Brilliant. Living in and working from the Fear Mind ruins lives.

[@rossanderson5243]

I fear myself. It’s like oh no I’ve gone down the wrong path and seek to fix it. But they have a fixed mindset that goes down the same path over and over.

[@nothingspecial598]

This video connects directly to my journey in healing from chronic pain. Some of it is neuroplastic, and the fear fuels it further. Sometimes I feel like my symptoms are like my mother's rages, unpredictable and terrifying

[@carolynjaynes9094]

My fear was mostly about them stalking, harassing, and seeking revenge after leaving them for their emotional abuse.

[@Non-Artificial-Intelligence]

Wonderful! I have already started passing into all of what you advised here and it is so freeing! All of this is an intentionally learned - and maintained- set of skills. As I reinforce them daily, THESE are becoming the "training" that I go back to under the old stresses around the narcissist that I am married to but cannot leave because I am the sole breadwinner in my household. HOORAY!

[@user-eu7rr6uw1p]

You are the sole breadwinner. You can leave. You can start a new life without the narcissist. Stop thinking you are trapped that is in your head. When you are ready you can get away. God did not put you here on this earth to be abused. He wants you to live joyfully. Only you can change your situation. I care about you! You are worthy of love. Your narcissist will not change. They never do because they don’t care about you. Please take care of yourself. ❤

[@sharicoburn5475]

​@@user-eu7rr6uw1pI agree 100%

[@sharicoburn5475]

Can you explain why you can't leave because you're the breadwinner

[@Non-Artificial-Intelligence]

@@sharicoburn5475 What I wrote is really self-explanatory. It means that my wife is a homemaker that earns no monetary income, so I hold the career that supplies all of the financial income for my family. I cannot leave because first of all, I made a marriage covenant with her that I will not break. And, if I did break that vow, in this situation she would not be able to support herself with the type of employment she would be able to find. I would never knowingly force her into a life of hardship and possible poverty. So, I learn about dealing with narcissism and endure the never-ending problems, and set boundaries so that I can still support her, our homes and lifestyle out of my love for her and my family.

[@annakrajan]

Too late. I'm 54. I felt fear all my life. My parents were cold and toxic, and my husband is a narc, and I realize it now. I don't know who I am, I don't know what to do. Sometimes I want to die.

[@plarsen2654]

began a pet portrait in color pencil

[@bravothedog485]

The job of getting out of fear with the narcissistic relationship with my mother in law( I can't move out, I had to bear her bulshit for 3years) .. .. It has been soooo easy with explanation of dr. Ramani, and i am a free soul now. I am so grateful to you drm Ramani. You saved my life

[@lynnienorris5776]

Took Forever... But " Going No Contact " has saved me Ya see this leads to NO FIGHTING... Learned the hard way BUT THERE IS NO DEFEATING A NARC IN A FIGHT ...NEVER

[@Yoplait1277]

Oh my goodness.. i really needed to hear this! After 10 yrs of leaving my narc family....eye opener. All her videos are all so amazing thank you!!!

[@shellysawchuk1190]

10 years out still living with the fear

[@user-in2dr6op5h]

I'm sorry to hear that. You will overcome it, I'm sure of it!

[@katydid594]

I’m so fried from a lifetime of continuous abuse that I cannot imagine what I would do if I weren’t afraid.

[@RamachandranS20]

Amazing doctor. Exactly w.hat I'm going through for the last 17 yrs. A college friend narcissist insulted me, and slandered. Something that I've not yet recovered from, mainly because of (a fake) fear. It was on and off until covid, but after that despite being more successful at work, affects my life a lot till today.

[@erinward2983]

This is the absolute truth. Absolute.

[@l.5832]

I already had graduated from one post secondary program and won an award. After a few years I thought I'd like to try something totally different. I paid for it with my own money. After one semester I realised I did NOT like the program at all, I was not learning anything, about 30% of the class had already dropped out so I informed my husband I hated it and was quitting the program. He flew in to a rage and threatened to DIVORCE me. He felt I was a quitter and a failure, plus he had banked on my the fairly high wages I would earn had I completed the program. He did not care I hated it and was unhappy. I quit the program anyway and a few years later I divorced him.

[@meggtokyodelicious]

Batman and agency should be watching this video. It's going to help the criminal mentality

[@aldelgado9343]

I dont hang around narcisistic people, i can almost detect them, what i do i gray rock everybody and go silent to weed them out, and 9 out 10 times they show themselves, its not fun doing this, but for me its the only way to get them to show themselves.

[@tsukigalleta]

I'm keeping this one in a drawer. Thank you, doctor!

[@sujammaz]

i'm currently more inclined to work on realising that my fear is not a sign of incompetence or self-centeredness. that's how my narcissistic mother would frame every little sign of self care i'd exhibit. so what i had to learn first and foremost was that standing up for myself doesn't necessarily mean playing the tough chick who can just take the abuse. it means not letting anyone shame me for being sensitive anymore. not least of all because the world desperately needs more sensitive people (to survive).

[@fabiobarbieri2213]

Excellent!! Thanks a lot!!

[@Thedisgardedoptimist]

Something I've been thinking about... Instinct (gut) vs Fear based issues... Thanks Dr.R...☮️

[@Pepper427]

Thank you for today's session. Definitely things to think about. Fear..My biggest Fear is the smear campaign and its affects on family, framily and friends. Judgement. I've got to get in a place of resolution.

[@carolinethomas6562]

The malignant narcissist's relentless smear campaign is frightening, it's true. It's hard to stay detached from it when you know it's happening.

[@user-rh9uk7wk3l]

Things got so dangerous until I left and stalking afterwards. I was afraid of all the time. I tell people I wouldn’t feel safe on a deserted island. I do fear staying one place for too long. I try to tamper my fear but it often leads to some reckless decisions. I know that doesn’t work. The upside of fearlessness is I have been having so much fun adventures. Travel. The overwhelming need to explore. How would I be? I will never know.

[@shabanamussart609]

you are saying so true, i am not healed yet

[@synneazaro]

The last few years I have gone no contact with friends and family members. They were all around me. I am slowly getting back into the world, but find it so hard because it seems like everyone turns out to have narcissistic traits if not personalities… but I can’t isolate forever… and my work requires me to be collaborative ❤ would love your take on this. Love your profound paradigm shifting work in mental health ❤

[@loriw1189]

Fear...i lived in my house for 6 months... knowing i was leaving... To stay away from the narcissist

[@Ozy-te1rr]

So true

[@kriswinters4225]

Can there be a video soon that references some of the Anxiety Scenes in the Inside Out sequel? There are several that were very meanginful for me to see because it gives an actual picture of what it is like (in my experience at least) to be stuck in FREEZE from not knowing anymore how to please the narcissist. In the movie it's the protagonist's negative self-perceptions they are stuck against (paralyzed what to do in facing them), but for me every negative self-perception I have was first shouted in my face over and over again by my narc parents.

[@makitty_makeupxo]

This is amazing!!

[@antonyliberopoulos933]

Thank you Doctor Ramani.

[@thetruth9652]

Out of the madness I birthed a book. THE FOG by Wanda J Shelton. The Fog meaning Fear Obligation Guilt!!!

[@FelnoxTheFlame]

Thank you for putting up. It really hit home for me

[@user-HellcatHemi]

I was raised in a sadistically abusive family fueled by crime, addiction, neglect & trauma, pushed onto a NPD abuser @ jst 13 & the abuse I suffered from them all, numerous mental health issue's has me vibrating w Anxiety as my fight or flight is ALWAYS ON, hypervigilant on a whole other level & in 46 yrs I've only had thar 1 relationship for I'm so fckd up that I'm incapable of any kind of relationship & have been burned so many time's that I'd live off grid, all alone for the rest of my life & I need serious therapy b4 I think about a serious relationship romantic especially tho any kind for I am nothing except fear, worry, cautious & it blows for it's been my ENTIRE LIFE of sadistic abuse & that's nothing to 😂😂 at for sure.

[@JustNath2024]

Wow, powerful❣ Thnx again dearest dr.Ramani🍀 💫🕊🐛💝🙏🏼💝🦋🕊💫

[@bluemoony102]

8:14 Thank You Dr Ramani 🙏🏼

[@katybrown985]

This is so timely. Thank you 🙏

[@craigstarjackson3026]

Thank you Doctor!!

[@TheShadyGarden333]

My answer to the narc will be. Humm when I get a chance I will consider your request. Thanks Ramani ❤

[@TheLove1Makes]

Good lesson thanks

[@user-rb8fs3cv8k]

Thank you Dr. Ramani

[@user-rb8fs3cv8k]

I need to watch your video again ,trying to get over fear into hope

[@lorinichols1847]

It seems like some of this might come up in a subsequent (healthy) relationship, causing problems seemingly out of the blue. When I eventually began to complain that my most basic needs were still not getting met in the relationship (mainly affection), my narc-surviving ex seemed to wig out on me and the relationship and sort of devolve to a less capable person who lost the relationship skills she seemed to have. I was relieved to be out of it, but it all made no sense to me....

[@paigehallcrystalmessenger5358]

Thanks so much ❤

[@Dethian666]

It's more than that.. what about the filth going behind people's back and manipulating and abusing loved ones trauma bonding persons that almost had a relationship from innocence

[@IamTheAWD]

Thank you

[@helenesjoli]

I have many many many questions about narcissistic can someone please help me with this please?

[@ginkgo2021]

although i can't help but wish you the best, let me suggest that if you do seek a therapist, interview them first to see if they have experience with narcissism. I didn't do that. Everything I described to my therapist she, dismissed. I described the passive aggressive behaviour and the rages. But she said everyone has narcissistic traits. Maybe that's true, but not everyone is a narcissist. After weekly sessions for four months, I fired her when she suggested that my discard could have been prevented if I had been more intimint! I think she set back my recovery by a good year or so.

[@sarahwyatt2092]

WE WOULD LOVE INFO ON STEPPARENTS WHO HAVE A PARTNER WHO COPARENTS WITH A NARCISSISTIC AND ARE UNAWARE AND UNWILLING TO ADMIT IT + THE CHILD HAS OPPOSITIONAL DEFIANT SYMPTOMS EMERGING!

[@csfiskus610]

Relationships shouldn't feel like walking on a landmine or through maze where you are always lost. Let's stop normalizing such relationships

[@robinantonio8870]

My narcissistic mother made me the family scapegoat, punished me for defending myself, and told me for my entire life every thing I was looking forward to, hoping for, or making the best of a bad situation, would fail horribly or be awful. No matter how much I told her how it made me wish I was dead and that there was no point in even trying. Of course this kept me her captive. I hate and despise that woman fir ruining my life. I didn't learn what she was until it was too late.

[@user-eu7rr6uw1p]

This was my childhood also. I just tried to please my mother and then stay out of her way. I was never good enough. I was always the selfish one. I am the oldest child in a big family. I didn’t understand what gaslighting was for so long. It was absolutely devastating when I realized what it is and how it had controlled my life and relationships. I am healing my inner child now that I am so much more aware. I have gone no contact with my tormentors. Mean people suck!