Your natural hair is your secret weapon

[@neo.matela]

I binge watched most videos on your channel, took my knotless braids out, did a twist out and LIVED free!! Your perspective has been me for many years but I didn’t know how to be confident in it! Thank you Mare, you changed a lot about me for the good❤️🙌🏽

[@healwithmare]

This comment!!! This literally made my day. Sooo proud of you sis! Stand confidently in who you are. You have the authority to be beautiful because you ARE 😍💗. So happy for your growth 🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@neo.matela]

❤️

[@jasminscarbrough2596]

The Afro is not on a pedestal because we haven’t put it on a pedestal. When we as black people decide something is in then that’s what it is. You notice in the 70s even white people were wearing afros.it’s happening slowly but surely

[@healwithmare]

I completely agree! Imagine if Black women decided to embrace their hair on a massive scale? Literally, it’s up to US. We set trends but a lot of us are fixated by wigs and under a literal spell. Things are getting better but the lace fronts are still ruling the streets 😬

[@angelaharrison569]

Great point!

[@healwithmare]

@@Daydreamerr13lol literally 😅. We are all over the place and social media isn’t helping one bit

[@4blikeme165]

You made a great point how other unique features (blue eyes, green eyes, blonde hair) are put on a pedestal but our Afros are also unique and shouldn’t get treated any less than! Thanks always for your one of a kind perspective. Please keep being you. A breath of fresh air!

[@healwithmare]

Thank you sis! Our afro is EXTREMELY unique yet we have been fooled to hide it. That screams demonic to me. Appreciate you ❤

[@MJ_Solo]

I came down here to say this! That is a brilliant take, and I’ve never thought of it that way before, and I will always think of it this way. Very impressed with the thought processes ❤

[@healwithmare]

@@MJ_SoloGlad you gained something from this video 🙏🏾💗😊

[@keyahninaylor4974]

Facts

[@healwithmare]

My God given hair has also been my secret weapon against spiritual attacks from the enemy. I am finally getting closer to my purpose & it feels SO good ❤. I missed yall! More videos coming. We are back on schedule 🙌🏾

[@joelleweir9535]

9:32 I secretly think it's girl code/black girl code to complement women especially when they're on dates or in social settings to big them up.🎉🎉😊 it comes back 10 fold

[@healwithmare]

I LOVE giving other women compliments. If I see something beautiful about someone, I will let them know immediately. Sometimes I would hesitate because I didn’t want to seem strange but I still got it out ❤❤❤

[@A_Wilson]

I definitely think natural hair compliments us much better than relaxers, and especially wigs. I’m telling you, when we have a shift in our mind about how lovely our hair is, it will flourish because we start to care for it like we actually care about it. It’s amazing! You are looking beautiful Sis! 🥰💕💜

[@healwithmare]

Yesss! Our hair is beautiful and it's our job to nourish and embrace it 💖. Thank you so much for the compliment. Ever since I started loving my hair I have felt everything about my life begin to truly get better. God bless you 🙏🏾

[@Naturallyrose86]

Am just staring at your gorgeous hair! I can see the growth and it’s beautiful. You look so great

[@healwithmare]

I’m so glad you like my hair! It’s taken a lot of work to get here! 🙌🏾💖

[@Lightangel75]

I had boxbraids the past month. Today I went to school with my natural hair(same lenght as yours).I got STARED a lot, by everybody in my class, females and males. At the end I got compliments from teachers and a guy in my class literally stopped at the door after the bell rang, just to tell me that they look good on me..😩💗Like helloo???Natural hair is always the winner(or clips that match it). Is where the pretty privilege start.❤

[@healwithmare]

Yessss!! So glad you went to school rocking your natural hair proudly! Enjoy your pretty privilege love. Happy for you 💗💗💗💖💖💖

[@Lightangel75]

As we should❤🎉​@@healwithmare

[@4blikeme165]

OH MY YOU LOOK STUNNING 🤩. Your fro is flourishing!!!!! You weren’t gone for long but your absence was felt 😭🙌🏾💗

[@healwithmare]

You will forever be appreciated 🥹. Thank you💖💖

[@Ki-Yemaya]

People will say Miami has this different set of beauty standards, and maybe they do. But I went to Miami all natural and got so many compliments. By men and women. More than in my own city. When they say you have to have a certain complexion, a certain hair texture, a certain body type ,,,, I determined that was a lie lol. And I did believe the hype before I went.

[@healwithmare]

You go girl! I am so glad that you were able to experience that! It’s amazing to see how much beauty is out there when we are not trying to fit into boxes. Miami is a place I cannot wait to visit with my God-given hair 💖🙌🏾

[@sundaysareforreading]

I absolutely love your videos!!! I am Ethiopian and I live in the Midwest. My hair texture is very coarse & kinky and I’ve been rocking a mini fro for the past 2 months. These videos have been helping me fall in love with my Afro textured hair again especially when we are living in the land of lace fronts rn😂

[@healwithmare]

The land of lace fronts is a scary place 😂. I used to be part of that culture and I am not looking back! As an Ethiopian, do you find that your course & kinky texture is not embraced? I haven’t met an Ethiopian yet who doesn’t have a looser hair texture. I am so happy to hear you are rocking your mini fro with pride. As you should ❤❤❤

[@sundaysareforreading]

I feel like it’s very rare to have tight coarse hair as an Ethiopian (literally all my 30 + cousins have very loose textured hair). Even in the media when I used to live there all the women on TV had loose bouncy curls. It’s super weird like hellooooo we exist too 😂

[@healwithmare]

@@sundaysareforreadingwow thank you for pointing that out. You stand out because of your differences. I hope you continue to embrace and love your hair. God made you beautifully! ❤

[@Integratelove26]

Secret weapon. Something told me to style my hair differently and it feels like the “others” feel inferior to how I can do this to my hair & rock it so proudly!! I love being a black woman 💗💗💋🤎🤎

[@healwithmare]

Girl! I love being a Black woman too. I have truly been getting better with age. My skin is so supple and hair so shiny ✨. I also noticed that some Black women will say things to me like “natural hair looks good on YOU, but I could never”. It’s such a sad sentiment and demonstrates a lack of confidence in them.

[@kaylabean3693]

I know everyone has said it BUT imma say it too😅your hair my gosh🥹🥹🥹it’s so so so beautiful!! Like I keep just looking at it, like yasss, and you, my gosh, you are so beautiful☺️💖💖💖

[@healwithmare]

Hey Kayla 🙋🏾‍♀️. Thank you so much. I rewatched this video and can definitely see that my fro is entering its flourishing era and I love that for her 🥹💗. Thank you for the compliments, I feel so beautiful with my God-given hair. More beautiful than ever before. God is so good 🙏🏾

[@kaylabean3693]

@@healwithmare ☺️you’re welcome and I love to see it💖💖💖💖

[@healwithmare]

@@kaylabean3693💗💖

[@1love847]

I love your confidence and your message. I also receive 99% love from kids, teens, men and women black and white. It's so rare it's really appreciated.

[@healwithmare]

Yesss! My daughter loves my hair. When I worked at a school, students were also fond of and curious about my hair. I get compliments from all races and attract all types of people. It’s pretty cool! Our hair is truly our pretty privilege 💗

[@suikiemiyazaki5503]

Your videos are always refreshing and empowering! Your hair is beautiful btw❤ God bless you for spreading the word of the lord as well and teaching not only those who were brainwashed natural hair isn’t good enough but also teaching little black girls to love their crown! I seriously wish I had someone like you growing up.

[@healwithmare]

So glad that you are part of this community. I feel as though God has been calling me to make this type of content for so long but natural hair content never appealed to me. I truly believe that this is part of my purpose on earth. I am more than happy to inspire and encourage others ❤❤

[@favouro6344]

Our afro is pedestalized. Thats why society tries to keep us in low standards. They dont want us to realize our beauty 😍

[@healwithmare]

You are absolutely right. Our afro just isn’t pedestalized by us and that is a sad reality. We are gorgeous but imagine if we realized that on a massive scale. We are being controlled by the devil. I am so grateful I have been set free by the grace of God. Praise Jesus 🙏🏾💗

[@raya7]

True...everyone is in awe of the Afro and it makes our beauty stand out. It is a style with which the European Beauty Standard can't compete...which is why some schools/work places have restrictive policies...

[@healwithmare]

@@raya7 Yess! We have to definitely be aware of this. I have learned that I can no longer play small in order to make others comfortable. This is the only life I get to live and I want to fully experience loving all parts of me. Thank you for your insightful comments 💗💗

[@joyceg7859]

Nooooo you dont realize your own beauty that’s why y’all fight to wear Peruvian hair and never get a natural textured wig !

[@joyceg7859]

Nooooo you dont realize your own beauty that’s why y’all fight to wear Peruvian hair and never get a natural textured wig !

[@kathywalker9546]

Honestly your absolutely gorgeous! Your skin and smile is so radiant. Really glad I came across your video. I’m a 4C natural and I have fallen in love with my hair.

[@healwithmare]

This comment is so sweet. Thank you for lifting me up with such kind words. Glad you’re here. Congratulations to you for remembering how beautiful your 4C hair truly is 🥹😍🙏🏾🙌🏾🎉

[@WilliamsPinch]

You’re one of the RARE content creator whose videos I don’t speed up to 1.5x, so you probably do speak fast 😂❤

[@healwithmare]

Lol yeah my talking speed has always been considered fast but I truly can’t help it. I am trying to do better 😅

[@michelleej]

That’s funny! She does speak faster than most, but I still speed it up to 2x. 😂

[@ms.rivera7898]

Haha, same for me. I usually have videos at 1.25 speed or on 1.5. But hers I have to have on regular speed. 😄

[@healwithmare]

I am adding timestamps to this video as we speak. For those who are short on time, the video starts at 4:34 ❤

[@Dagai18]

You and your hair are thriving. Just as God intended. God bless 🙏🏿

[@healwithmare]

Thank you for the beautiful message. ❤️

[@kenyathdeleon2044]

I'm loving your hair Mare it's so beautiful and you are glowing ✨️ so nice

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much! I finally feel like I have found my stride with my hair care routine 💗🙌🏾

[@kenyathdeleon2044]

@@healwithmare can you do a wash day video and styling your hair?

[@healwithmare]

@@kenyathdeleon2044 yes I can. I definitely need to update you all on my new routine ❤

[@gratefullandblessed0135]

Your hair is growing too!!

[@healwithmare]

And it was literally breaking off for months so I was shocked to see the length retention. God is good ❤

[@LittleMissSunshine721]

This past August, I went to a wedding and bought a wig because I thought it would fit the occasion better. I was HOT and uncomfortable. That thing didn’t last past that night. I’m going to continue along with my journey. You’re absolutely right about everything single thing you said in this video. Our hair IS the special occasion! Everyday!

[@healwithmare]

The wigs are sooo uncomfortable. I remember wearing wigs to special occasions and instantly regretting it 😭. Now I don’t have that problem anymore and it’s so freeing. This journey is truly a beautiful thing. Thank you for your comment and continued support 💗💗

[@marsham8902]

Your hair and length are beautiful

[@healwithmare]

Thank you ☺️

[@Keepingupwithnayy]

I see the hair growth girl!! Yay cheers 🥂

[@healwithmare]

Yes I was looking at my older videos from 4 months ago and there is definitely length retention happening. I adore this current length ❤

[@itsnellyalba]

Yes! Beautiful. Love you girl ❤

[@healwithmare]

Thank you, Nelly. I love you too 💗💗💗

[@adamadoumbouya418]

In love with your hair

[@healwithmare]

Thank you. I am so glad I started embracing my hair when I did ❤

[@juanitak4724]

10:01 Are you kidding me ?!?! Do you know how beautiful you look?💕 Came from your more recent videos. My boyfriend literally had to lovingly convince me to stop wearing extensions back to back and to wear my natural hair for longer periods, even if it’s just a 1-2 week period. Thank you so much for your channel, may the Lord continue to bless your channel and give your channel exponential growth❤️ I’m also so sorry for the passing of your mother, she raised a brave and beautiful human being❤️

[@healwithmare]

I am so happy to hear that your boyfriend encouraged you to embrace you natural hair. I am glad you have been enjoying your time here on my channel. Thank you for the blessings and the condolences 💐. You are appreciated ❤

[@twillawalton6901]

Can you do a video going over your hair routine?

[@healwithmare]

Hey love! I am soo overdue on updating my wash day routine video. I have a “week in my hair” video scheduled to drop on my channel in November. Stay tuned 💗

[@yerushalom87]

YAH made no mistakes ❤️🌹❤ Authenticity is best. ✨

[@healwithmare]

Yes you are absolutely right. Authenticity is key 🔑

[@Jazz954]

You are gorgeous ❤ I love your channel very uplifting !! Keep going sis

[@healwithmare]

Thank you, Jazz. You’re appreciated 💖

[@SaharaKnows]

Helps to have a nice body.

[@healwithmare]

Working out and being in shape are definitely important to me 💗

[@DelicateRedRose]

Can you pls do a video about wearing your natural hair straight? Heat trained or straight natural. I'd like to hear your thoughts ❤

[@healwithmare]

This is definitely a topic I am planning to cover. I definitely have thoughts on that topic lol. Thanks! ☺️

[@AssetsbyAdri]

Appreciate the content sis !!❤

[@healwithmare]

Glad to hear it 😃💗

[@adamadoumbouya418]

Love your content !!!❤️

[@healwithmare]

So glad you’ve been enjoying it ❤❤❤

[@tirzahemmanuel7944]

Heyyy sisssssssss... Been a while I watched your videos, and your hair is growiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiiing. Congrats!!!

[@healwithmare]

Heyyy!! Thank you!! I definitely see the growth too 🙌🏾🙌🏾🙌🏾

[@tirzahemmanuel7944]

@healwithmare You're welcome.

[@Realness111]

Beautiful.

[@healwithmare]

Thank you! ❤

[@adamadoumbouya418]

Thank you for speaking slowly😍😍

[@healwithmare]

I’m really trying soo hard to slow down 🥹. You’re welcome 💗

[@michelleej]

You can control the speed of videos on KZbin. Click the gear icon. I watch most videos at 2x (including Mare’s). 😂

[@Tephiffany]

​@@michelleejthis the comment and I posted a similar one...they can just use the setting to slow it down, simple solution!

[@callmechichi1711]

You, your hair, & your daughter’s hair are so beautiful 🤩. Love that for y’all. I’m glad that your daughter can grow up to embrace her natural hair because her mom does.

[@healwithmare]

Thank you so much. I’m grateful that God blessed me with a little girl. He surely knew what He was doing. Being her mom has pushed me to be the best version of myself 🙏🏾🤗

[@shex7873]

Your hair looks gorgeous sweetheart.

[@healwithmare]

Thank you. I appreciate that ☺️💕

[@raya7]

👏🏾👏🏾👏🏾.... You did a great job on trying to slow down BTW

[@healwithmare]

Thank you! ☺️ I am really trying. I’ll keep getting better 💗

[@Tephiffany]

​@@healwithmarerespectful Mare, any and all persons watching can slow the video down. It's a feature in settings

[@healwithmare]

@@Tephiffany Thank you for mentioning that feature. I forgot all about that!

[@naosdl]

first video i’ve watched and i love, i love the realness and i feel like i relate to you so much. 🫶🏽 had to subscribe 💕

[@healwithmare]

Heyyy. Thank you so much. Welcome to the community 💗💗💗

[@StephanieAma]

Lovee this video ❤❤❤❤

[@healwithmare]

Thank you, Stephanie 💗💗

[@yakalamelanin1355]

Respect!!!🎉🎉🎉❤❤❤This is the Real Truth but let these females wear dead hair . I love my hair ❤❤❤❤

[@healwithmare]

Wearing anyone else’s hair but your own just doesn’t sit right with my spirit any longer. I’m happy to hear you love your hair sis 🎉🙏🏾💗

[@quayporter4526]

Mere, bless you!

[@healwithmare]

Bless you too 💗🥹🙏🏾

[@Keepingupwithnayy]

💗💗💗

[@healwithmare]

💖💖💖

[@keyahninaylor4974]

❤❤❤❤

[@healwithmare]

💖💖💖💖

[@siantelove]

Do you think you'll do patreon? I wanna sign up!

[@healwithmare]

I currently have an account created but I need to create some exclusive content for it. I’m brainstorming 🧠. Stay tuned because it’s in the works. Thanks for your support 🙏🏾💖

[@bloodprincessssss]

You’re just gorgeous!! Your hair is so thick!!

[@healwithmare]

Thank you soo much! My hair has been doing its thing lately 🙌🏾💖

[@yerushalom87]

🌴

[@healwithmare]

💖💖💖

[@Itsjustnhor]

Mare in my language means honey🍯 and it’s suits you so much luv you🥹

[@healwithmare]

That is so sweet. Literally! What language is that?

[@Itsjustnhor]

@ Amharic, Ethiopia

[@saltoftheearth8533]

Wow l did not think you spoke fast at all on any of your videos…. So maybe l also speak fast LOL! New Jersey!

[@healwithmare]

Lol, I’m an East Coast girl too. I’m from Rhode Island and I am used to talking and walking fast. I cant help it 😅

[@catlady3024]

They can slow down the KZbin video in the settings

[@healwithmare]

Someone pointed that out to me. I am used to speeding up videos, not slowing them down

[@KYLAMENEFEE-i9h]

Can you please do a hair tutorial?

[@healwithmare]

Hey! I’m hoping to do more hair tutorials in the new year, God willing 🙏🏾💗

[@deeann7777U]

Thank for slowing down a bit. It's easier to follow you.

[@healwithmare]

Hey Deeann! You’re welcome. I am still working on it. The more I practice slowing down, the better I will get ❤

[@joyceg7859]

Do you comb your hair out everyday ?

[@healwithmare]

I’m on day 2 of this style and I have not combed my hair yet.

[@Lightangel75]

Wearing our non-textured looking hair, means we're telling them that they are more beautiful, pretty and better than us. We're literally letting them walkon our head. And scream insicurity especially when you are surroundend by non-black people in the work field or at school.

[@healwithmare]

You are absolutely right. People see the way we hide our hair. They may not verbally say anything to us, but they are definitely looking at us in pity. I don’t need that type of energy. I am PROUD of how God created me. It’s a blessing to look the way we do 💗🙏🏾

[@divinelycherubic]

Loving the passion on these topics. The name of the Most High is Yahuah though, not Jehovah. 😊

[@healwithmare]

Thank you. I’m speaking the name of Jehovah Jireh in this video. The lord, my provider. God bless you and Jesus loves you 🙏🏾

[@divinelycherubic]

​@@healwithmarethe name Jehovah is a mistransliteration. So are bringing his name to nothingness by speaking that transliterated error name. Take it to him in prayer.

[@healwithmare]

@@divinelycherubic 🙏🏾

[@Tephiffany]

Speaking of being yourself Mare 0:48 speak as you will...there is a feature to slow down and/or speed up (most ppl use it often) in the settings Anyone with a concern can use it as often as needed Girl do you! 🤎

[@healwithmare]

Thank you for your encouragement. I always want to implement feedback when I receive it, especially if it helps people in need. It doesn’t cause me any stress to slow down for those who aren’t native English speakers. They are the ones who have advocated for it and I hope it makes my speech more clear to them. I agree with you though about being myself 💗

[@Tephiffany]

@@healwithmare you're welcome!