Your Non Action Is Killing Him Inside

[@barbaradewitt8817]

I’m really sick of immature men who don’t realize a person’s worth until they leave. Get it together guys and stop wasting everyone’s time, evolve into something responsible.

[@MindfulAttraction2.0]

Don't get mad at me. I didn't make men

[@barbie_princess_]

@@MindfulAttraction2.0 then who did why did

[@riasb]

@@MindfulAttraction2.0you’re teaching game, father Alex 😂 it is what it is

[@Empress_Energyyy]

@@barbie_princess_ 😂😂😂

[@Braveh3artGirl]

What you do to avoid this, is heal from past trauma, past relationships, find God ❤ level up bit by bit in all areas of your life. You will be unreachable by these men.

[@lucialipland]

If someone ‘forgets’ to call me, it’s not my problem. Life goes so fast. My life can be turned around a day after. I don’t wait unless I know better.

[@lucialipland]

Only sit in the long term and have a life on your own in the meantime ;)

[@lucialipland]

*wait

[@Misyeli]

And tomorrow I still can see the mirror.

[@positivelyunited7479]

😂😂😂

[@activitiesinportugal3255]

If he is playing games and is pulling away when you show interest. He is not the one for you..True its good to back off after 2 months if he is not acting right but if he comes back and behaves the same, he ain't the one. Someone interested in a healthy relationship will show their true interest after they think they lost you. Too many young people are playing games, being manipulative and not being sincere. Probably why young people are having less sex.

[@aishaahmadu2204]

THISSS

[@bellabriggs1393]

Not just young , 50 year old men are doing the same

[@taniaswain-williams1379]

​@@bellabriggs1393omg yes!!! I am shocked to notice how many grown ass 50 yr olds are playing these games. They 100% lose quality women that way and they do realise but i'm going going to give them another try, looking for authentic guy, authentic connection

[@kat-cq7eb]

@@bellabriggs1393for real I was with a 47 year old and he be playing

[@lillierose5304]

I think less sex is happening because young women are more educated then previous generations and are therefore less willing to give it. They have the Internet. Women in previous generations were groomed by sick twisted agendas calling it 'sexual liberation'. Younger people are seeing the consequences of those times.

[@Rokinevythng14]

I think if someone isn’t into you, your absence isn’t going to make a difference. I know people I had 0 interest didn’t impact me when they distanced themselves. I guess what I’m trying to say, emotions and attraction has to be natural, organic. Certain behaviors may create certain outcomes but I think it’s very temporary.

[@icequeen491]

Well put, however no matter how two people love each other, in the early stages there is always a negotiation stage and it’s usually when that big fight happened or a even a simple disagreement…. Whoever can’t stand being apart or is eager to makeup now reveals themselves as the one who wants the relationship most and ends up driving the relationship

[@60wwediva]

This is about MEN not WOMEN! Women can usually go on. Men can't unless he was truly not physically attracted to her or saw her as beneficial. I've had guys who werent into me like I was into them do a 180 and approach me more after that

[@Rokinevythng14]

@@60wwediva yeah but here’s the thing, for how long did that last? These feel more like quick tricks but not permanent solutions. Attraction isn’t something that can be forced. At least that’s not what I have seen.

[@WonderfulQuill-nq3fq]

​@Rokinevythng14 Very true, though I have had men who were not interested in me coming back and chasing me for years - even 3 years after last contact. It's not the feelings, it's the EGO that kept them coming back as they had no power over me anymore.

[@Rokinevythng14]

@@WonderfulQuill-nq3fq yeah but ego isn’t what we want is it? Do we want something real or only something fake? An illusion ?

[@milarepetzky6585]

This isn’t actually a “game” this is an energy work and energy exchange between two individuals. There have to be balance.

[@Meherethen]

Men should just be alone. So they can feel their feels alrite :)

[@AnotherShyFlower]

Avoidant and anxious attachments

[@riasb]

Yes

[@Loyzan88]

I am reading about this and your absolutely on point

[@pardonmymom]

Exactly

[@vesteenblackman208]

It’s absolutely proven brain science. Our neropathways utilized in our attachments to caregivers are re-purposed for romantic attachments.

[@STRONGER_Me]

Same here.

[@MyAkachi]

To be honest, she shouldn't have stopped doing any of those things. You were avoidant. You needed / need emotional intevention. Someone else who's right for her would love all that she is, and how fully present and engaging and proactive that she is.

[@monikori6473]

So true

[@taniaswain-williams1379]

Hahaha yes!!

[@DIAMONDGIRL57]

Absolutely!!!!

[@lonerebeI]

Nobody wants to be smothered, not even the closest people to you

[@nekochan3504]

Let's stop this mentality. No one likes a creepy, desperate person who doesn't understand the concept of space. This is how people don't look into themselves and go into the cycle of being taken advantage of. I would say psychologically giving a lot of effort is setting you up for failure in life.

[@Chell_Eason]

Doing less reveals how much they like you! Love that

[@jelizabethpetrie6656]

Exactly, laying back a bit, reveals more to you than more active, imho🙏

[@sarahchalmers1122]

Patience is key

[@lynneakalynno]

The more you focus on yourself the better. Be mindful of your energy and very selective about your intentions.

[@bellabriggs1393]

You never liked that girl , if you really liked her , you would love her attention and you would never think it is too much ! When we are truly in love , we want to be stuck together, it is the best feeling ever ! Someday when you find the right woman, you will know it .

[@elviagonzalez413]

This comment is assuming that everyone has the same attachment style. Some people need space at certain times.

[@ladykisskissbangbang]

‘If you really like her, you would love her attention’ - I have to disagree. If I like someone but they suffocate me with their presence & neediness, all I want is to get away from them, doesn’t matter how much I like them. It’s about balancing the energies, you can feel it as soon as there’s an imbalance

[@maryamgamadid550]

💯

[@AvaniPOOPS]

I think you’re just unexperienced. If you were dating a guy and he’s crazy and creepy. You won’t think that’s too much?

[@bellabriggs1393]

@@AvaniPOOPS what is crazy and creep ? Wanting to see your partner every day ????? No , I would not . My ex husband texted me every single day since the day we met , he could not stay far from me , it was amazing , we moved in together quickly , it was perfect ! It last 13 years , but the love was mutual .

[@cafeconlechegrl]

I feel sorry for the Gen Z girls how will they find a husband if they need to ignore and play games to get his attention…..

[@SS-bw6cn]

Exactly. That's why I am single. I either Show too much attention or don't at all... Guess have to be single all my life but I think its safer to be alone than letting your heart be broken again and again.

[@BlueBean_4]

I fight on the daily trying to keep any ounce of hope alive for true love🥲

[@angielu3187]

@@SS-bw6cnthis is how I feel and I’m a millennial. Lol. I give up.

[@Dancerphiliac]

Same

[@MariaGonzalesWA]

They'll have to date older guys. But then again, some of them play games, too. Also, meet and find someone who doesn't have social media / isn't addicted to it! That is key, I believe. ❤️ Country bar dances, through friends, similar interest groups.. they out there! 🤗 Hugs!

[@Jasminepsalm]

Self-control is a fruit of the spirit. I noticed when a guy gets emotional about light situations I am instantly turned off even just for friendship as I am self-aware they’re emotionally underdeveloped . Also what turns me off is someone that is rooted in pride I guess that would reference your point about a person that’s not able to apologize. Pride is not an attractive glow I mean in reverse neither is false humility that’s essentially pride as well but some people try to overdo things again it’s about balance in and of everything.

[@SS-bw6cn]

The sad thing is the balance is nowhere.... Either a person will love you Too much or just won't. Stay alone until you find that balance...

[@Jasminepsalm]

@@SS-bw6cn Finding balance in relationships can indeed be challenging. Extremes of overwhelming love or indifference can make it difficult to connect authentically. However, the balance you seek is within you; it's just a matter of tapping into it. Real love isn't merely an emotion-it's an action, a duty we fulfill. Take your time to understand and appreciate this love within yourself before seeking it in others. It's about valuing oneself and others without losing sight of healthy boundaries. Enjoy the journey of growth and self-discovery until you find that sweet spot in relationships.

[@kenishahammond3935]

Well said. I’m the same way.

[@Jasminepsalm]

@@kenishahammond3935 🩵

[@Jasminepsalm]

Your true worth isn't defined by titles or possessions; it's rooted in your character and virtues like integrity, honesty, compassion, and authenticity. In a world focused on appearances/surface aspects, understanding your intrinsic value transforms how you approach everything, including job interviews, where you confidently showcase your true self without playing into submissive roles. some companies uphold integrity as non-negotiable, setting a standard worth emulating. Consider this: if you cheat on your spouse, it's not just a personal matter; it speaks volumes about your character and trustworthiness. Similarly, companies that take a stand against such behaviors recognize that if someone isn't loyal at home, it raises questions about their integrity elsewhere. Embracing your essence means understanding your worth and not settling for anything less, resonating with the idea of loving others as you love yourself. Upholding high character standards isn't just talk; it's a way of life that reflects in your actions, choices, and relationships.

[@Niaesco888]

Beautifully written ✨

[@KayanKayan-yb7mg]

I find you extremely fascinating. Your dedication to your content and channel as well as your determination to go master painting and writing books is truly impressive. Nothing is more masculine in my eyes as a woman than that. You’re disciplined to the max and I respect that so much Alex.

[@Lulubelles]

Disconnect to Reconnect ❤ Yes, people need space.

[@QueenBeeDigital]

This is SUCH good advice. All these other dating coaches and none of them are able to say what needs to be done appropriately. They just run in circles in their videos. This is not toxic. It is on point and completely correct.

[@Ydiana1997]

Agreed with father Alex on spitting facts straight up front❤😂🎉. ◡̈⋆ⒽⒶⓅⓅⓎ😊 new year Eve's😊. 2025

[@Meowphür]

Rarely comment on content but when it hits all at once… just started following a month ago devoured 15ish hours and this video connected my dots. My heart and mind communicated and I got it. I was able to take a real self inventory. Thank you.

[@mimi_elk.7614]

You have to make time for yourself and automatically you will give them space as well this is a must...

[@Braveh3artGirl]

The beginning of the video = an example of what an abandonment wound that is unhealed can do to a person. We have to heal from the past, including after break ups too. ❤

[@candice4007]

An individual is responsible for their own healing. If you don’t disrespect yourself they won’t disrespect you. So really…. the individual (self) need to tighten up and stop blaming others for one inadequate decisions.

[@arcturianoracle784]

“She went back to her creepy ways” 🤣 lmao me hahah

[@lelaslipgloss1728]

Ok so I wasn’t the only one who caught that 😩🤣🤣🤭 chilllld I screamed 😂😂😂

[@severinec6221]

Read that just when he was saying it🤣

[@itsjoyz]

I always hear this advise that we should give men space... but when we give you that space we will definitely work on ourself and we know that we need to let it go. So if we turn it off we are ready to let you go.

[@AspieWise]

As a woman with Asperger’s (aka high functioning autism), I love watching your videos and seeing how effing nuts the neurotypical dating process is… for me, out of sight, out of mind- completely forget about your existence. Your name comes up and there is a “oh shit… that’s right! That person…”😅😅😅

[@PrettyGirlRock1115]

You‘re lucky because I somehow obsess over them until I learn to do the whole out of sight out of mind thing

[@AspieWise]

@@PrettyGirlRock1115 I believe it has to do with my hyperfocusing tendencies. Find something that you’re passionate about and deep dive into it. Could be a hobby, a skill, a new book or tv series. Make sure to set a goal around it (ei. gonna watch the first season in a week- gonna be able to crochet a drink coaster in 3 days). What this does is getting you to have a dopamine hit around your accomplishment that has nothing to do with that person. If you can trigger pleasurable hormones without them, it’ll replace them with your new thing.

[@PrettyGirlRock1115]

@@AspieWise I love that thank you for the advice! I did currently try doing this but I can tell it‘s kind of hard for me to get out of this routine I‘ve built and start something new / get back to my old interests but I‘m trying to teach myself that baby steps are okay too and that I might not be able to fully submerge into my interests as of current I might be able to do so one day again (I at least managed to watch a show again)

[@AspieWise]

@@PrettyGirlRock1115 the brain is very impressionable- even if you “feel” like it’s hard, just say out loud “I know I can put all my attention into this… I know I’ve done this before and can do it again”. Make sure you’re not focusing on saying “I know I can forget them”, you must speak about the new thing. Doesn’t matter if your body or heart feels different, just say it out loud. The subconscious is always listening. Do it everyday. One day the shift will happen and you’ll be shocked.

[@PrettyGirlRock1115]

@@AspieWise You‘re so sweet for actually giving me solid advice thank you so much I appreciate it a lot❤️ I‘m definitely going to try that and I hope I can see some results come into fruition sooner or later I wish you good luck and lots of joy on your further journey🍀

[@Mermaid03_03]

Man, this is so true especially about the inconsistencies throwing us off kilter. The anxiety peaks.

[@Jan-f8w]

20:01 PROFOUND. "...what usually happens is they leave...They were just trying to see whether they could use you..." 🏃‍♀️RUN the other way.

[@cari-if3mq]

Alex? The B.O. reference rocks. Besides that, this is THE MOST helpful video I've ever heard... the part about suffocating so much the other can't feel their feelings. JFC. Thank you for getting this into my brain. I see clearly now how and WHY to hold back. 🙏🙏🙏❤️🎯

[@gogol8941]

I did less, and so did he. I had to block his ass. Now I’m sad.

[@monikori6473]

Then the connection wasn't real to begin with, hugs

[@j209westmoh9]

U probably did nothing from the start so when u dod less than nothing he saw and said f it im out

[@gyusonyt]

real

[@uknoyogirl]

😂😂😂 im not laughing at you, im laughing because I am you in this situation 😭😂

[@scholasticbookfair.]

Same ​@@uknoyogirl

[@Ydiana1997]

Agreed with father Alex on spitting facts straight up front❤😂🎉. ◡̈⋆ⒽⒶⓅⓅⓎ😊 new year Eve's😊. 2025

[@DiLuvLeigh]

it’s always good to miss each other 😊

[@jlady1595]

So when can people just settle in the relationship? The games seem to never stop.

[@catwoman7102]

if they truly put effort to getting to know you

[@60wwediva]

If they're truly into you and you two got past any secrets, your first 3 fights or misunderstanding, at least 1 or 2-3 stretches of not being with each other and you are certain you are absolutely that persons type or they truly love you and cant replace you. Thats when you settle into it.

[@sarahchalmers1122]

I love your stuff about giving a man more space than necessary!

[@LaReineDiana2024]

“She went back to her creepy ways” 😂😂

[@ladyindigo1649]

18:39- forward is the best! Especially 20:03...Thank you.😊❤️🙏🏽

[@ClaireMGay]

This is so incredibly helpful

[@libralady1780]

Such fundamental basic good sense. Thank you Alex.

[@15angelglo]

One of the best video ! Thank you father Alex for leading your 🐑🙏🏼

[@nenevirgo82]

He isn't lying ladies! ✅

[@LJK9]

This wisdom is priceless.

[@piricarmen6726]

Would you continue to shop at a store that gives you bad service? Would you revisit a restaurant that serves bad food or makes you sick every time or let’s say even hit or miss, when you go? Well…? People who are desperate, attention-starved, or trying to fill a void seem to want to continue with people who were never really all that interested or blowing hot and cold to play with you in some way to begin with. The best thing is to leave. Be good to yourself, respect yourself, get counseling, work on yourself FOR YOU and your own benefit and NEVER for the other person. When it is meant to be, it feels like a blessing. It’s effortless. You won’t feel regret, animosity, impatience, hostility, or the feeling of being abandoned or ignored. The right person will get you (no matter how you are), want to connect with you, and accept you with open arms.

[@angeleva999]

I think this is really amazing information, I love your energy and your mind. I'm truly shocked to see so many people shitting on you 😭😭

[@karlagutierrez6155]

Alex I’ve been watching you for years and one of the things that keeps me coming back besides the gems you drop is not knowing enough of YOU! You unknowingly and interestingly spark curiosity on my end as to how you navigate your very own romantic relationships and how balanced or reactive of a young man you are 😂❤

[@TheRelaxationZone1]

I also wonder 😂

[@User_blox16]

Your hair like that makes you look so handsome!

[@basshunter9018]

will have to watch this a few times - so much good advice on this!!👏🤩

[@Stephanie.101]

Me too 😅

[@charlleigh]

If the world was coming to an end run to Jesus the most important relationship for your salvation❤️I love your videos

[@shenshoon8333]

Your long hair and beard is beautiful ❤❤

[@karmicsoul4444]

Alex I have watched you for quite some time now & this presentation was really well done. You are maturing professionally & I really enjoyed listening to you because you were (with respect) nice & calm so I didn't get distracted. Loved the background too.

[@abigailgoodwin4759]

I was once that girl! Great Content! 3 years later he still blowing up my phone smh

[@karolinah12]

In fact ,many women are excellent at controlling emotions....we give them space....we call less or not at all....we mix and match.... we get busy doing stuff without them, but when dealing with jokers, there's still no winning, some folks are not evolved

[@naturally4realmocasio232]

You make so much sense

[@patriciaeverard6537]

I am glad I found your channel. ❤

[@thatkatt_]

The fact that you are able to give us advice while keeping it light hearted and funny is so beautiful and I appreciate you for that

[@eveheart2876]

Is ironic how human behave. Imaginary does the trick. But I won’t play games. I will gave my all. So true 😂 distance and space does cause a reset

[@j209westmoh9]

Not always

[@intentionalgreatness]

"Swear to god if you remind ppl to go out with you..that you have a date with them"😂😂😂😂

[@funnylucu7101]

Alex I follow since you have 50k Subscribers.i like very much your hair and you very good teaching lady I’m very appreciate so much! I’m sorry for my poor English from Indonesia 🇮🇩

[@debrairizarry3432]

Thank you Alex. I have used your advice & it works 😊

[@Petty_princess-i9x]

I love your mentality ❤ keep it up

[@kenyataylor451]

This is one of my favorite video ❤

[@Truthsevolution]

Thank you for reminding me to stay A sexual lmfao I didn’t know wanting to do for your partner was creepy. You truly put things into perspective for me. Ima straight creep and never knew. Finally someone said it and I accept it. Very insightful. Thank you❤

[@kaytea4901]

Thank you this message was so needed, thank you 🙏🏻 ✨

[@basshunter9018]

it's true when i go 'off' a crush - I completely change into someone else..i cant even bare to look at them....give them one word answers...i fly past them

[@Joanah_Faith]

can you explain more of what you mean by this? when you have a crush on someone you distance yourself? wait, i think i get what you mean now, like if you stop having a crush on someone you can’t talk to them anymore? i also feel like if i beat off to my crush i’d have trouble looking at them. idunno if that’s what you mean. probably any of those things could warrant an awkward air n have you avoiding them. do you ever rebuild your relationships with those people where it isn’t weird anymore?

[@rebeccar189]

@@Joanah_Faithpretty sure they mean if their crush treats them in a way disrespectful way or something, they start caring less and less about them. They lose feelings for them.

[@LashundaMenefield]

Whew! I needed this where you been all my life

[@Lisa-hp6wy]

The art of receiving

[@user-yq4cd2ux8k]

One of your best videos 👏🏻

[@elizabethmarie8269]

I really like hearing your perspective. I'm actually alot like this. I'm far more interested if somebody is sort of blowing me off. I don't think it's healthy. I think it speaks to our abandonment issues and how we never saw secure attachment so consistent attention makes us uncomfortable

[@CityCinderella]

Best example of how to spot a narcissist 😅

[@Babychicken_22]

BEST VIDEO EVER MY GOD I NEEDED THIS thank you father Alex it’s my dream to meet you 😢

[@hunbundoe7627]

You look spectacular in white✨🧚🏼

[@ThaQueen5566]

I understand this so much.

[@enwe6487]

Whoa that face roundness/sharpness is true yet such a spacey thing you only usually notice when you‘re really high, want to remember to ask people later if they notice it too but totally forget about it 😄

[@ashleyd7447]

Father alex has spoken

[@Tnc874]

This was a good video Father Alex ❤ ive been putting thus into play! Thanks for the knowledge

[@SkySky-z1k]

Simply, you both were wrong match. When you are a good match, you will have mutual energy. Nothing is too much or too little because you would be a good match.

[@veeyalafaapae798]

Thank u my relationship coach❤

[@deet340]

"I did not know she was into women, i completely missed out"- 😂😂😂

[@Gpeidav]

This amazingly insightful

[@Real_Talk_and_Tea_with_Trissy]

I love this!! I already pulled back. I was wondering what to do when he comes back!

[@AzothDee]

This is very true.

[@cosmickink]

26:52 dyingg 🤣🤣

[@oligreen1192]

Love you videos. Very interesting. Love Frida❤️

[@allisontejada4472]

Same thing I said

[@jamjam0409]

She had anxious attachement style

[@beautybys9142]

also codependency tendencies 🤔🤔🤔

[@darklovelyquinn]

Grows organically

[@jenc9289]

This video was really insightful. Thank you

[@jasminesaez4878]

Great video ❤

[@jennifermacias9048]

Thank you for this ❤

[@ElizabethSeiden-lg6mj]

In the past, I always felt smothered by guys that I wasn’t even interested in and then dated them for attention.

[@mmg_722]

Alex I literally been listening to ur channels since u wore whatever u wanted on videos an didn't care if it was "profession" seeking or not,, when u were a bit feisty towards the subjects u would talk about like u were rly goin thru the words u spoke trying to help others while still frustrated with circumstances... You've really grown into a man as far as I know since I only know who u show on the screen but personal goals is you dude aka meditation, words of knowledge for fruit of evolving excelling prosperity always room for improvement & being all aspects of life in one character.. that people can make u feel like ur not enough but it's only based on as much as their brain knows which is themselves more than anyone that everyone feels insecure everyone chooses and can see how they treat others & to try and remain my self care even when involved with certain individuals cuz thyself is the main character and only I can control how I feel & react only I can put my value into someones hands knowingly that this human may or may not know what he is even doing himself which is y so very important u know your worth taking time alone so u know what u want and what u don't so when u come across someone who looks attractive in the physical form thqt u will still unconsciously know that this one def doesnt align with what I am waiting for mustn't forget who I am even being around everyone who judges labels rude as fuq to everyone an their "friends" too I know what they don't that their wrong about me & that they hardly remember themselves throughout the day 😂❤ thank u Alex for everything you've never given up I never want u to give up teaching on KZbin freeakin love u man

[@reshmasahoo503]

Wonderful vdo indeed ...

[@lisadeav73]

Thank you ❤

[@mattanderson6672]

Thank you

[@mayam719]

So true ❤

[@earthangel8399]

Men.... don't mess with a bisexual girl if you're not cool with her potentially choosing a woman over you.... some will flip flop when the need arises and your pride as a man will be hurt

[@jacquelinew2396]

I have a question. As a 30-something previously divorced woman, I’ve become disillusioned with dating over the years. I’m not willing to show emotion or much attention in the beginning stages of getting to know a man. I tend to feel like this hinders the progress of a lot of the sparks I felt on first dates. The connections easily fizzle out because I put almost no effort and expect to see the man making an effort. So… do you think the love bombing this woman did, then the withdrawal of attention later, was actually the key to these things you felt? Sometimes I wonder if I shouldn’t try to love bomb a little, just to get things moving in some kind of direction. Also, modern men are lazier because they have so many options. It seems like if you’re not in their face for even a little while they forget.

[@redwinnie68]

We don't do the shit... he tells us..😂😂😂😂😂😂❤💯💯💯💯💯💯

[@tiffanymiller585]

I love the braid.

[@Braveh3artGirl]

😂 if they cheat, i’m upgrading ❤

[@marilynharper5854]

Great video

[@LeylaAslova]

You Are amazing 🎉

[@DiLuvLeigh]

dismissive avoidant attachment style 4:35

[@Jerseygirl_J]

Oh man you are GORGEOUS, who would call you father, the Bible say do not call no one Father for he is your Father in Heaven…… remember we are not talking about our earthly father