Your Reality Might Not be Mine: Sensory Perception and Empathy | Poppy Crum | TEDxLA

[@GarthMurray1]

Anyone who has stood in front of a large group of people to give a presentation can empathize with this lady's nervous reactions while speaking. TED speakers are not professional speakers but ordinary people who have extraordinary stories or insights to share. With that in mind I would think that people could give someone in her position a break from criticism about minor presentation details like noises because her mouth is dry. Instead, and along with the knowledge she shared, gain inspiration from her for speaking about a complex subject while part of her brain is probably screaming, "you're going to die!

[@WildAscension]

Garth Murray just because someone observed her being nervous and mentioned it does not mean they are judging her. They are simply saying she is doing great despite being nervous. You spoke more about it than anyone.

[@morphix8743]

simp!

[@BonnyScotland17]

I think she’s doing a great job, but I’m having a terrible time listening to the crackling noises from her dry mouth. It’s not her fault. I have sensory processing disfunction so my nervous system is causing me to perceive it in such a way that it’s causing me anxiety. It’s not a lack of empathy for her. I’m having trouble calming my CNS down so I can pay attention. 😥

[@fperezro]

I'd never have thought about the sound Poppy Crum made off it if you wouldn't have said it

[@christopherrush1545]

I thought she did fine tbh, just goes to prove her point

[@watchingthebees]

I someone who is autistic and has ADHD, yes, I agree a 100% with you! All my perspectives on the world and how I experience it have always been labelled as “wrong” or “disordered” to the point where sometimes when I hear something others didn’t I automatically think “okay, maybe it was all in my head then and it didn’t happen” when that doesn’t make any sense

[@CrystalLombardo]

I love the way she speaks, she takes her time, she seems nervous but still very confident.

[@Ot-ej5gi]

You are very intuitive

[@fperezro]

In my opinion, most of the people can see the world in different ways. Indeed, as adults, we all know there are multiples interpretations. That's not the problem. The problem is not to deny other perspectives but to think that ours is the right and the best one. Great talk.

[@frogmatt33]

This adds, what I feel, a fundamentally important aspect to neurologically complex and misunderstood conditions such as Autism and ADD/ADHD. Thank you Poppy Crum. Your work is truly inspiring.

[@richardstewart7848]

Poppy, you have a strength that is to be admired. Thank you for your talk.

[@0ptimal]

Her courage is admirable. I'd hv to dig hella deep to get up there. Great talk. An area that needs more spotlight on it.

[@normjitter7579]

Appealing message and well delivered despite the limited possibilities of media representation. Mrs. Crum appears expert, highly motivated (this seems to be a key topic for her) and on a human level somehow vulnerable. Considering the overall topic of empathy this seems to be a perfect match. I do not mind sounds in between some words - if there were any. If anything her tone of voice encouraged me to follow her train of thought more openly. I'd like to get to know more of her work on a wider scale. If empathy is not the key to living somethat peacefully together within the growing diversity of cultures in our neighborhoods I really do not know what is.

[@whatchath385]

Ive been really intrigued with the meaning of empathy as of late. I came across this video and I was blown away! Poppy Crum has a way of drawing you in and you really listen to everything she has to say. Well, she has that affect on me. I definitely recommend any video with her in it!

[@tiffanif9113]

Thank you Poppy for doing this TedTalk. I am just now finding out about being an HSP and have been learning more and more about it and other people who share similar qualities. Accompanied by empathic abilities as well, I drowned a lot of it out by self medication or prescribed. It is much appreciated and so important the work that you and other's are doing, so people like us no longer feel crazy, alone or helpless. Owning our power and grabbing hold of the reins of our lives, paving the way for others. Truly a blessing. You are a blessing and wonder. Keep shining bright 🙌

[@padmafoye]

Wonderful presentation Poppy! I learned a lot about the science of perception and perspective from this talk. If a good number of us were to practice vulnerability and attempt to understand what we and others may be seeing, then there is a good chance that humanity will make a shift towards true empathy and peace with our fellow humans. Talks like these help us become "aware" and by practicing what we learn, can only lead to positive transformation. Yes, there is hope!

[@davidgori4500]

Great job! So much great material. It amazes me that the presenter seems nervous speaking to the crowd because she is obviously one smart cookie.

[@urltima]

I've had a lot of traumatic childhood memories of abuse and have suffered from suicidal thoughts, depression, anxiety, interpersonal relationships, bpd symptoms most of my life. I have not had the proper time to grieve or really feel properly bad at all so I am mostly emotionally detached from the trauma. Because of this, I find no harm or trouble in telling the most intimate and brutal details of my abuse to strangers. When they get taken aback and clearly feel awkward hearing all this, I get very anxious because I can't understand why they feel uncomfortable. That's the kind of perspective thing I'm talking about. My perspective is that abuse was normal in my childhood and I didn't know any better whereas they see the reality of abuse and I do not. I acknowledge this and still find it awkward when people "misunderstand" my telling of abuse and trauma. Different perspectives are crazy.

[@urltima]

skullbait both. They just don't understand, apparently it's a lot to digest because when I started talking about it I typically could go on for hours and it's a lot for someone who hasn't experienced any trauma in their lifetime. They misunderstand my tone of voice, and the words I'm speaking as well. I just see a lot of confusion in their eyes, and this awkward look that says "oookkkkaayyyy."

[@miriahjohnson2076]

+nervousnyan I find people get uncomfortable talking about things outside of the social norm. things that society says should be kept behind closed doors. but things like that should be openly discussed. the issue isn't you it's them.

[@michaelbeary]

I feel like you're being very sensitive to your gut and pushing past and disregarding all awkwardness to talk about stuff people never talk about but need to. Incredibly healthy and brave, believe in yourself absolutely and totally. I feel that is what this is entirely about. Someone told you otherwise and you're looking to hear from someone who knows the whole story. You're looking for those words. I think I understand. Believe in yourself and what you are doing totally. You're learning to be very sensitive to people and to understand every detail. I feel you're fighting like mad to get that attachment back, and so you'll eventually get it. Does this sound right? Many people who go through that just stick with that detachment and lose all empathy. But you're commenting on a youtube video about empathy, wanting to learn. I don't know, but I feel really good about that.

[@KrisBryant99]

@@michaelbeary Or that person could be talking to people who are abusers themselves LOL

[@guadalupesotelo6275]

Yes! And unfortunately in this cruel world , you have to go through bad situations to help build that humble empathetic character . I relate to your whole message. I understand. I get it

[@SuperRicky1974]

This is such a great lead into Marshall Rosenberg‘s life work with NVC

[@Yavanna16]

This was such a wonderful talk, it really moved me with how it brought together expression in the form of art and scientific curiosity to explain the importance of empathy and acknowledging other people's perspectives. The presenter was so excited when talking about her own research, I thought it was really cute! 🌷

[@paramidge8935]

Would the people who are obsessing over 'mic sounds' please back off. What this young woman has to say is both illuminating and important. The fact that she is a bit nervous does not detract from the message or her warm style. It is basic good manners not to draw attention to a bit of nerves. We all get them at some point. I think her work is outstanding and her intelligence and generosity as a speaker shine through.

[@lumooncastofficial8491]

Wow, a truly rad presentation, I really enjoyed this. Can't believe it doesn't have a million views. SO good.

[@jackiehedges320]

neuroscientists are modern day magicians

[@carolgreenberg1253]

You are amazing...you make everything so easy to understand. I love listening to you.

[@joshuajenkins1937]

This was a really good speech. It has made me want to look into methods of alternating observation approaches

[@neverbored]

Fascinating subject. Thank you!

[@LTProductionsInc]

Poppy Crum. I love that name.

[@blackpearl1t]

this is great thank you

[@sreaves73]

Changing my gaze to fuzzy does help me relax....thank you whiskey.

[@byteaesx1373]

I think I'm in love.

[@jessicascorpio1]

Byte Aesx ohhhhh!!! ♥️👍🏽

[@danielamishkovska2833]

😊

[@briangalindoherbert]

Absolutely critical message! Your quiet vocal delivery is really good on this, as are your personal stories. I’ve just started a new podcast called Sentient, it’s about the importance of our perception and experiences amidst the increasing pervasiveness of technology in our work and life, and how to make those interactions more symbiotic!

[@perceptionshare2248]

Brilliant talk!

[@sthalxndr]

I'd like to do a tedX talks.

[@rusticbeats5126]

The mic is positioned in such a way that I can ear every single movement in her mouth. like wet crackle noises. its grossing me out.

[@moonlightingles]

unintentional ASMR 🤪

[@joannajamerson35]

Her mouth is dry. It happens from meds. Nerves. Etc

[@liljay0687]

Horrible

[@Pain4Gain]

hahaha its so bad

[@BonnyScotland17]

OMG I KNOW!!! It’s so hard for me to listen to the crackling mouth noises! 😰

[@gumi_b3ar]

I'm an HSP and I have come to the realisation that my computers fan is one semitone flat of a C# and it will forever annoy me

[@bigbabyg]

did anyone else think of Mat Pat when she said Game Theory

[@GordonBarkerAuthor]

Thanks Poppy something to really think about. Do people hear differently as well?

[@loopdiditydoop1926]

Epnet Streaming Yup! I have a neurological disability called sensory processing disorder. My brain intakes auditory stimuli at the same capacity, regardless of noise levels. I have to use something called an FM system in university, which is a hearing aid that connects to a microphone. I have to use this because my brain intakes the professor talking and a student writing with a pencil at the same level. The brain is crazy.

[@lydiar1004]

It is not her nerves the mic is too close to her mouth. It is mouth sounds not mic sounds and they are terrible. Incredibly distracting and it is not wrong of people to point out this very apparent and valid issue.

[@tombrown1964]

I really like Poppy she seems genuinely empathetic and kind however the danger I see in creating technology like this is that an unintended consequence could be in giving people a believable, immersive alternate reality, it could spintaneously trigger a psychotic break or a psychotic delusion on a mass scale -I mean after all her body was reacting as if she was seeing a real fire - wouldn't the mind be affected somularly?. Doesn't that seem just a bit dangerous?

[@far1002]

wow I thought I was the only one that this happened to

[@jw93]

I'm sure it's a fantastic talk, but those mic sounds are impossible to listen to. Didn't they do a soundcheck?

[@Atlas65]

She is just exreamly nervous, hence the mouth sound

[@ronlight7013]

There's a historic reference for the dress? Can someone please explain what that is as I don't know the historic moment in question.

[@westcoastorbust2462]

The mic popping is so unfair

[@joannajamerson35]

Omg..i thought she had dry mouth. Thanks now i watch this better

[@mhtinla]

Why I have a craving for pop corn after this video?

[@bella300]

wow

[@MultiEcko15]

My grandmother has mental illness n I wonder if I’m inviting it in this is my process of fighting it

[@stormbound]

Hi, I'm *-mouth sound-* a human *-mouth sound-* being *-mouth sound-* and *-mouth sound-* this microphone kinda *-mouth sound-* sucks. *-mouth sound-*

[@TheCohesiveGarage]

Its killing me

[@claudiomarmolejos7891]

m

[@kakashidorendan]

Stormbound She seems very stressed?

[@stormbound]

The Cohesive Garage ikr

[@terpenator93]

HAHAHAH dude this bothered me in the first few seconds... thought it was just me.

[@MichaelDeeringMHC]

Rene Magritte

[@werenostrangerstolove7072]

why does focusing on this video make me feel nervous

[@DannyDelorean]

OH MY GOD DRINK SOME WATER! I'M GONNA HURL!!!

[@sunsetparadise7801]

lmao!!

[@sally.y2k919]

yeah true that bothered me so much

[@jaay955]

I hate those types of mics, you hear literally every smack and noise they make with their mouth.

[@chriscampbell4597]

I dont listen to people when the mic is inside their tongue. Im too far on the spectrum to focus on anything other than these wet sounds.

[@Leppalimes]

I'm just far enough on the spectrum to let it bug me once you pointed it out.

[@NSEasternShoreChemist]

Hmmm.... looks like Adam Savage was onto something when he said "I reject your reality and substitute my own!" on MythBusters!

[@EchadLevShtim]

Get a glass of water!!! Most of those that lack perception actually tunnel there focus and cant see everything else around them. I can train coworkers to break free of what I have assessed as a form of trauma, so much so that I can change them. Break them of their soft PTSD by becoming their new handler. But I am geared to be the healer not the abuser. I use MKUltra in reverse.

[@peekpen]

How bout a slogan. "Your reality might not be mine. Sidereal time."

[@IndianaMermaid]

I see gold and orange

[@IndianaMermaid]

Gold and WHITE... I heard orange and typed orange but the dress GOLD / WHITE

[@joannajamerson35]

I have the blind spot

[@christopherjetson]

I think that their are people who sharing about your self with them is ineffective and counterproductive due to their inability to have the capacity to empathize. We live in the age "aquarius" where we over rate this idea of " being vulnerable" and the lengths some are willing to go to push this idea is sickening to say the least. A world filled with emotionally immatures adults, people who are deeply religious steeped in the faith that their parents programmed them in they dare not. Insider anything but that. Those whose motives are different then what they claim.people have not invested countless hours energy courage and tears into discovering what has molded them into the person they are today. So when you talk about empathy inclusive of vulnerability I really don't see the two being interdependent of one another in any way. Furthermore by not becoming vulnerable I personally have gained the most understanding and healing. No one owes anyone else total disclosure of ones self and contrary to all the hoopla that continually seeks various means to convey this message to people I totally disagree. I can personally say that I have lived my life using the combination you speak of and not. By far the most personal growth in line with self actualization has been through the exemption of vulnerability further more I have found it beneficial at times to intentionally provide a false persona of myself especially to those who have been less then honest about their own self and those whose lives are deeply steeped in new age movements ,cults, and some religeous people who busily all up in yours mine or anyone's but their own business of living. I have personally experienced the overzealous who wear blinders send the most emotional intellectual and socially deprived idiots to attempt to extract from others things they need discover within themselves. People who are unwilling to do the extensive work, they seek to extract from those who do.i personally treasure the wisdom that I have gained though my extensive work . People walk around with cliches like " you have to give it away to keep it" I perceive that as a myth to some they cling tightly to it as truth . I dont debate the belief in the cliche instead I , Today I value the wisdom of those who like myself have put forth the work and unlike the "conventional wisdom of the masses " who seek conformity and uniformity rather then self actualization we agree on the subject of vulnerability .by empathizing with the oppressor you learn to see clearly independent of others perceptions. To conclude the way this vid is narrated just doesn't seem natural . You are talking about perception in a more literal sense and then you include empathy as a more push for humanitarian cause but the vulnerable aspect resembles something more at the aim of directing your intention for the purpose of influencing. At first I mentioned" the lengths some go to" Perhaps a strategist combines multiple sources for the same purpose. They conclude humans are dogs and they set out to correlate their own perceptions with a particular dog they participate in the demise of humanity while they claim that they are helping. healthy parents encourage their children to ask questions to explore and to be men and women of courage. It would be easy for the children to lay down and give their entire god given mind to a pre written pre planned way of life but if children are to be healthy and at peace with themselves they will make the healthy choice if avoiding being told how to believe and what to feel and think.tge biggest mistake a parent makes is deciding fot the child who the child is and attempt to mold the child into whatever that is. Spiritual abuse is so common in society today. Adults today who were forced, programmed molded into becoming what the parent wanted as adults they represent the highest number of suicide and depression, many who upon honest discussion have admitted that during their life time they have felt envious of those who were brought up in homes where the parents encouraged authenticity over conformity. People don't like to think that they are actually participating in destroying humanity because they are taught to believe that what they are doing is wholesome and right. Their life has been such that they have never had the opportunity to question anything or they dare not question anything because they knew if they did their father would harm them. And now here they are acting the part of the perpetrator. They have become that guy they are unconscious in their actions. At some point they could have done the intensive work discovered for themselves the fact that they were forced to be something they didn't have a choice about and now they are victimizing others.

[@giarosenko1000]

EUC

[@MrBlue-km8qv]

what if there's no such thing as an absolute truth? The dress color doesn't matter. it's not worth arguing over. The dress would look awesome on my bedroom floor.

[@MIHUKI5]

I was expecting other thing.

[@janiceflores2468]

the bubbles were making me sick

[@mckennasawyer4594]

Does anyone else see the dress as blue and gold or am I just weird...?

[@himynameislexi100]

ahhhhhhhhhh

[@rooky6886]

Tried to watch this eating my dinner... Had to turn it off

[@slogchamp]

her mouth loud

[@oswaldduc1614]

Like ASMR bro :)))

[@amphibiangoddess]

I'm kind of confused on the whole point she was trying to make, or maybe I was distracted because I could hear her saliva swooshing nonstop.

[@JoeGilson1]

There is only ONE reality. Sorry.

[@lastlaugh183]

your reel is not my reel. is this fool for reel. bue. boo. blue is the new black.

[@lastlaugh183]

we live together. ...

[@iwilleattheworld1]

when she talks the way it sounds is like making out sounds and it makes it hard to listen to,

[@SUME1234]

I haven't even noticed until now, it doesn't bother me, she is so fascinating!!

[@jeramahia123]

Too much saliva in her speech.

[@joshuajenkins1937]

No, she is soft spoken and Mic was turned up

[@surelee327]

delusional & realistic Are Not in the Same Mind or reality . .

[@kamillaburkhanova4373]

Very interesting topic, but I couldn't bear listening to her for 17 mins.... The way she talks is just horrible

[@Ot-ej5gi]

Cut her some slack, she ain't a pro. the content is what should matter a lot more

[@joshuajenkins1937]

@@Ot-ej5gi I disagree, I find her voice soothing and powerful. She keeps my attention

[@failuretolaunch3917]

@@joshuajenkins1937 agreed. She did great. Speaking to a room full of strangers about your personal stuff is not easy. I’d self destruct lol

[@oldschoolrock4evr]

She is hot, bottom line...

[@saramoreorless7318]

No. Bottom line, she is SMART.

[@blakepeter5334]

i think she needs a drink of water...

[@sayravasquez7437]

who's bout to tell her these curls ain't servin' her

[@slimeeeeeeeeeeeaz]

She bad