A lot of Hmong people so this, it’s really sad. If you love your brother then push him to do better, to be independent and responsible. Don’t enable him to become incompetent by giving him shelter. Help but only for some time.
@stevestevens61573 жыл бұрын
Never allow lazy people to live with you....it does not matter if it is family or not...if you are lazy go live under the bridge..
@baoyang65653 жыл бұрын
You know how Hmong ppl always say to the divorce daughter that she bring bad luck to the family...Well..in this case the younger divorced brother bring you bad luck
@maivayang83893 жыл бұрын
Niam laus cas to ntev ua Luaj li os koj g los hai li lawm os 👍
@Lea-qm1rm3 жыл бұрын
This seems to be a thing for Hmong people. They don’t seem to understand that families need their privacy and it’s not your responsibility to provide them a place to live. I’m sure some circumstances are reasonable but you can’t assume or put this on your family members. There’s got to be a time limit and a level of respect to the home owners who are helping you.
Oh heck no. Call me a bad sister-in-law, bad nyab, bad whatever. I'd rather be call those names then let my marriage fail. I would've gave my husband the ultimatum from the beginning when he allowed a low life brother like his to move in. Just cause the brother failed his marriage, doesn't mean I should allow him to pull my marriage down with his.
@pn53503 жыл бұрын
100%
@madamtokyo13 жыл бұрын
Yog!!!! This story gave me anxiety
@dinayoung47973 жыл бұрын
Tus niam tsev aw koj mas thiaj li yog ib tug neeg siab ntev tiag tiag li os. Neb niag kwv no yeej tsis yog neeg zoo tiag tiag ua tsis tau neeg zoo lawm.
@gaosayvu65543 жыл бұрын
Can’t believe why you have to rent the house for him he is an adult he has to responsible for himself
@xsm833 жыл бұрын
SMH! I would never put up with BS like that. If my husband dare, then he can marry his brother.
@maihmoob36463 жыл бұрын
Agree!!!
@pajlee3167 Жыл бұрын
Yog kawg os mog me viv ncaus aw.
@dustywind063 жыл бұрын
This lady has patience. Lol. If it was me, I would have kicked the brother out a long time ago. 😆
@msgnay61933 жыл бұрын
Right! And if the husband still insist that I be patient then he can go too!
@dustywind063 жыл бұрын
@@msgnay6193 yep! Agreed!
@MaiActivitiesAndThings3 жыл бұрын
Kick the husband out too! LoL
@LM-7553 жыл бұрын
For real! I would not let the brother set a foot in the house. I can't finish this story. But like guess, her husband cheated on her. 😂
@dustywind063 жыл бұрын
@@LM-755 lol.. I was so annoyed, I almost gave up. Hahaha.
@pajmuaschannel19183 жыл бұрын
Kuv tuaj caum koj lawm❤️❤️
@koslis68333 жыл бұрын
This brother did what wrong. He need to understand he need permission from the home owner before he can bring anybody live with them. The house is not his house. They have liability that come to stay with them. Also like Hmong OG said he bring bad luck to his house.
@caaspasvang74273 жыл бұрын
Txhob cia xyob txhiaj los nkag los rau yus lub vaj lub tsev mog hmoob
@cneyxiong553 жыл бұрын
I hated people staying with me and acting like my house is theirs!
@pajthao48133 жыл бұрын
Nej tus kwv nws tsis ua neeg zoo vim nej hlub nws dhau yog nej cia nws mus nyob qab choj zaum puav ces nws yeej ua tau neej lawm
@Thao223 жыл бұрын
I really hate how Hmong people live their lives like this. They think, just because you are family you automatically have to take them under your wing and carry them on and on and support them all the way - NO! Some people need to have respect, work hard, and support themselves and stop being leeching low lives.
@sauvue77163 жыл бұрын
That I want to see if your brother come to stay with you and your husband? What’s your way? Kick him out?
@npawgtooj1movie3 жыл бұрын
Zoo mloog kawg os
@hlubyang40723 жыл бұрын
Muaj neeg nrog yus nyob es yus tsis nyiam ces yeej zoo cuag li hauv tsev muaj xyob txhiaj xwb
@nouxiong36203 жыл бұрын
Kuv yog ib tug Pojrauj Kuv tus kheej Kuv twb tsis pub tsis kam pojrauj yawgraug phoojywg zobtxhiaj lo nrog Kuv nyob. Kuv lub me tsev es yog Kuv thiab Kuv 3 tug me nyuaj. Koj siab ntev kawg no sister
@kershengvang30183 жыл бұрын
Hmong people always have free loader live with them. Of course, it's always kaj siab tshaj to live with just your spouse and kids.
@psnpsh28313 жыл бұрын
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@cheevang7452 жыл бұрын
Kuv nyiam koj hai hv o niam lau
@panghouavang40773 жыл бұрын
Niamlaus aw, koj los siab ntev heev li. My blood boils within 10 min into your story.
@nkaujmoobleeg Жыл бұрын
No, not siab ntev. She just being stupid!
@colleenchan98723 жыл бұрын
Koj siab zoo dhau thiab hos dua heev thiab os
@leethao70173 жыл бұрын
Tus niam tsev koj siab zoo heev os cov neeg zoo li koj tus kwv ces tsim nyog muab ncaws tawm cia tus lub neej zoo xwb mog. Kuv muaj ib tug kwv thiab niam ntxawm los nyob tsi kam tawm li mas nyuaj kawg
@evaher28393 жыл бұрын
Sometimes it’s best to turn a blind eye. I’ve been there and done all that I could . Family or not finding peace and self love is important.
@magicalunicorn58533 жыл бұрын
You can help family members 1, 2x but after 3x it’s enabling them to be losers and drug addicts. Sometimes you need to kick them out and grow up the F- up as adults. I would not put up with losers.
@debbieyaj46423 жыл бұрын
Cia xyob txhiaj nrog yus nyob ces yus yuav liam ib yam li ntawd thiab ntag. Tej niag neeg liam khib xuab li ntawd cez tseem cia nrog yus nyob kom yus neej puas tas li nws thiab. Ncaw tawm ob niag dev thawj thiab ntawd ua ntej neb lub neej yuav puas li nkawv.
@SunsetBlvd853 жыл бұрын
Wow lady, only you. I’m too short temper for that shit.
@monkeybanana92693 жыл бұрын
Same here
@maivang83973 жыл бұрын
Yog kawg li os kuv twb raug tej ko dhau los lawm thiab os
@iagxiong27333 жыл бұрын
Niam laus Kj hai cov muas siab g ntshaj rau cov nyab peb noogthiab o
@minecraftboy26763 жыл бұрын
The more you help those that don't want to help themselves the more they expecting you too and does not see to appreciate you. The earlier you let them know the better for them.
@pojxeemvaj87033 жыл бұрын
Free loaders yeej xyob txhiaj.
@xoio96703 жыл бұрын
Some people are just bad luck. Everything they touch and around turns bad and broke. I’ve seen people like that and I stay away from them.
@christinavang67193 жыл бұрын
Txawm yuav Yog kwv Yog Tij los yus tsuav hlub tau me me xwb yuav kom yus pab tsuag li Yog yus lub neej ces yus yeej kawg ua neej lwj siab thiab sib ceg tas li xwb ces tsis xum yuav lawv niag neeg ntawd lawm os. I went through this and my life are very stressful too. Poob nyiaj los poob hos lwj siab los lwj siab twb tsis xav ua lub neej tas li lawm os.
@youwatchme36313 жыл бұрын
Xyob txhiaj los tsev lawm
@suelo6173 жыл бұрын
Ua txuj hais lus kom zoo li muaj ntsis thab nkawv ces tsis tas koj hais li koj tus txiv yeej txawj2 ntiab nkawv tawm li mas los
@asaa85753 жыл бұрын
Mloog zaj dab neeg no tas ces vim koj yeej siab me tiag nawb tus me niam tsev
@pn53503 жыл бұрын
Omg. You must be so darn patience. One freeloader after another. 🤣 It's either he out or I'm out!
@lisxyooj75153 жыл бұрын
Ntshe kuv yuav mus nyob kuv seb kuv kuv puas kaj siab li koj hais lo cas kuv yuav nyuaj siab npaum li koj hais ko thiab os
@MrsYaj-ei2io3 жыл бұрын
Whenever we try to prevent problems from happening we’re always considered the bad nyab or bad wife. Cov niag yawg nrauj loser no ces hamtsi tib pab liam xwb los tseem mus dag poj nrauj poj ntsuam. You husband still haven’t learn anything that his brother brought bad luck to your house.
@nouthao28963 жыл бұрын
Peb hmoob muaj ib txoj hmoob hais tias sim neej no koj cia ib tug poj nrauj los sis ib tug yawg nrauj los nrog koj nyob nws muaj tus dab txhob txhiaj tiag tiag li koj khwv Tau khaws tsis Tau tu tshuaj los tsis vam li kuv ntseeg tias muaj tiag tiag li peb hmoob hu tias vij sub vij npog
@crystalentertainment51243 жыл бұрын
Koj mas siab ntev tshaj yog kuv ces first week tsis tawm ces kawg ntsib kuv lub nyhav lol
@kalor13253 жыл бұрын
Yuav tsi yog tim tej kev sib nrauj os. Hmoob Txoj kev ntseeg ces nyiam ntseeg dab dhau lawm
@QSL.3 жыл бұрын
Wow another noj quav nyuj loj!
@yeebntshachannel92543 жыл бұрын
Tus mi niam tsev aw koj niag kwv nqa xyob txhiaj los rau neb lawm os
@astmanfirebird55743 жыл бұрын
Koj twb siab ntev hwv lawm os.txawm kwv tij kiag los yog los nyob ua ib tse mas tsuas kav ob peb hnoob xwb.dua li ces tsuas ua miv thiaj dev lawm xwb.hmoob phej ntsai kev tu siab es thiaj muaj tej kev nyuaj siab no los mas.tseg kiag.txawm muaj thiab pluag los nyias nyob nyias zoo dua
@mayvaungh53773 жыл бұрын
Raun dhau lawn os 😅 😂
@msgnay61933 жыл бұрын
3 words: Should've could've would've 😤
@likely89appleJuice3 жыл бұрын
Ohh lord, I will not allow this to happen in my household. I will kick my husband out along with his brother. 👋
@pojxeemvaj87033 жыл бұрын
AMEN
@kingofall9262 Жыл бұрын
As a husband and brother, I would not take my brother in. Sorry but I have a family and a life. Who told you to eff up your life.
@kaciewanh19863 жыл бұрын
Neeg laus tas, luag tsuas pab hli puav xwb. Yus pab nws ces txawm mus coj 1 pab tom kev los ntxiv, ces lawb tawm. Neb tsis tshuav nws nqi, Txhob cia nyob tsim teebmeem hauv neb lub neej. Nws Tusiab tsis tu los don't care, he's an adult.
@Loves_DuckSR3 жыл бұрын
If helping, give them a deadline of 3 months to get their life together, a job, save money, and move out. You are not responsible for this grown persons life.
@oppoit87463 жыл бұрын
Niam ntsuab teev thov kj pab teb kv thiab os
@Mai1nOnly3 жыл бұрын
What a stressful story
@sauvue77163 жыл бұрын
Es yog koj tus dab luag ne? What if your wife brother that come live with you?
Your husband has no balls. You are not the parent of the adult brother, make him go with live his parents.
@YajMorey813 жыл бұрын
Totally agree! Why isn’t their divorced brother living with the parents?!
@qhovtseebqhovcuav33893 жыл бұрын
Koj yog ib tus poj niam siab me heev thiab vwm kawg li
@hmoobxyooj32813 жыл бұрын
Koj vwm lo
@qhovtseebqhovcuav33893 жыл бұрын
@@hmoobxyooj3281 Kim thiab vwm ho kuv li yog koj hais lus tsi tseem ces kuv tias vwm 100% yog koj ntseeg tias muaj dab or los sis muaj vij swb vij si ces koj yog neeg vwm rau kuv
@Shoua6083 жыл бұрын
Wow! It must be frustrating to have family meme era like that and your husband isn’t man enough to put his foot down and still defend them. You’re a very patient woman. Coj cov neeg xyob Txhiaj los nrog yus nyob ces kawg yus lub neej xyob txhiaj xwb os vivncaus aw.
@hmoobsister95343 жыл бұрын
Tus niam tsev, you are so patience! But it is not anyone's responsibility to take care of your brother in law. He is not 5 years old. I understand, family so you help but you can only help so long until you no longer can. He is a grown man and he is very disrespectful. Do not let him come back to live with you and your husband. Don't let him drag your marriage down like his.
@herko3113 жыл бұрын
Coj xob txhiaj los nrog yus Nyob ces yus yuav xob txhiaj. I would have kick them out long ago!
@kueyang19493 жыл бұрын
If I were this lady I already kick out the brother..
@mouayangchannel47073 жыл бұрын
Txoj dab neeg no yog dag xwb .thaum pib twb tsis muaj ntxhais ua cas tom qab ho muaj 2 tug ntxhais pw 2 hoob thiab .nej mloog seb pua s yog li kuv hais .
@mayxiong11663 жыл бұрын
Sorry, I'll leave him. Sister you waited too long.
@maivthoj67623 жыл бұрын
Kuv twb raug lub neej zoo li ko los lawm mob hlwb tiag22 li
@xiongfang19493 жыл бұрын
I would of kick the brother and the husband out.
@leevue19203 жыл бұрын
Omg I was so mad for this wife/mother. How freaking annoying!
@MyLifeRideorDie Жыл бұрын
Everyone needs their privacy..be greatful the wife was super patient to allow a .low life lazy a$$ to live with them.
@atthao56313 жыл бұрын
Aub tus kwv toob nkaug dhau thiaj tsis tau noj yog tsis xav khwv ces cia nws mus nyob qab choj ces thiaj paub.
@somman96393 жыл бұрын
Hmoov tsis phem los yog yus phem hom txhob txwm mus txob phem cais yeej tau yawg nrauj ntag lauv txhob kiamhmoov kiam kiag tus gub xwb ntag
@kazouathao78943 жыл бұрын
I couldn’t stand listening. Can’t believe this lady was this patient.
@luvinniceboxers3 жыл бұрын
The family is part of the loser brother's problem, cuz they keep enabling him. This one should be titled, "Xum ua siab me thiaj kaj siab!" LOL
@yiathao97793 жыл бұрын
Kick them out they need to take responsibility so they learn they lesson
@minnie91753 жыл бұрын
If you have not have a freeloader, you will not know how miserable life can be. Freeloader out there, get a life, don’t be a freeloader forever and never know how to move on.
@beyamvwj48812 жыл бұрын
Still a good listen 👂
@pajthao48133 жыл бұрын
Wow cas koj uv tau ntev tag npaum no os kuv ces ntshe pajhlwb tawg lawm os vim yus ob niam txiv teebmeem me nyuam tsis mloog lus xwb es twb mob hlwb tseem yuav coj tsheej pab xyob txhiaj los thiab
@youalee43853 жыл бұрын
Tu me niam laus aw yog vim yu tu ntxiv paub tia yu tsi tau niam xwb txog thaum kj ua tau niam ce kj hai li ca lo nw yeej yov yuav li ntawv os thaum I kv twb ntsib li kj lo duab os tan txog thaum kj ua tau niam ntsev ce nw yeej yuav li kj hai thiab lawm os
@baothao17283 жыл бұрын
Tsis yog tias cov yawg nrauj poj nrauj ntawd los nrog koj nyob es koj lub neej ntxhov muaj vij muaj swv xwb naj koj tus txiv tham hluas nkauj koj tus poj niam tham hluas nraug sab nrauv los yeej muaj vij muaj swv thiab ov. Vim neb twb tsis kaj siab lawm neb sib ceg tag li xwb ne tsuas xav txog cov lus phem xwb ces cov lus phem ntawd los nyob nrog koj tas li xwb. America hais tias think positive do not Negative.
@hlubyang40723 жыл бұрын
Tu niam tsev awsssss.....tsis hais leej twg li yog yog hauv yim neej es muaj ib pab niag yawg nrauj poj nrauj nrog nyob ces yim no lub neej yeej tsis kab siab li os....txawm tsis mus saib yaig lo yeej paub...yog yus tsis nyiam neeg lo nrog yus nyob es ho muaj ib tug twg lo nrog yus nyob ces tus lub neej yeej tsis kaj siab ces yeej cuag li muaj xyob txhiaj nyob hauv tsev lo mas
@jouavue6514 Жыл бұрын
Tus tsev no tsis yog txiv tsev yog ib niag tseem2 txiv dev tiag2 li lau, tus niam tsev no los tsis muaj txa caj qaum li thiab, koj tus niam tsev mas koj los koj tsis yog ib tug niam tsev khov li thiaj cia muaj tej teeb meem loj tis ua loj npaum no. Yog kuv ces kuv muab kiag tus txiv dev lawb dab kiag lawm txov lawm os poj hmoob aw.
@user-nu2lq3pv8t3 жыл бұрын
Cas tus kwv ntawd es yuav g paub tab li na cuag li ntawd ces yus kuj mus xauj tsev yus nyob yus thiab mos xauj tsev nyob xwb twb xauj g tau thiab ces g txhob ua neeg los tau mas
@tswvvaj2133 жыл бұрын
Ca kj siab dubbua luaj li nws g tau yg kj hnub xb o yg txoj kj hnub ceb kj mm puab o
@amazinggrace81363 жыл бұрын
You should only help someone to get back on their feet, so there should be a time frame of how long that should be. I don’t care if you’re family, if you’re an adult, you need to be able to take care of yourself. Do not be an enabler, don’t be stupid.
@lenalo64103 жыл бұрын
If were me, I keep he out on the first day he come. Don't care what your husband said life is too short. Love yourself first
@kouavang59283 жыл бұрын
Yus ruam yus thiaj ntxhov siab.
@kaimarro5173 жыл бұрын
Thats the thing wrong with Hmong people, always enabling adult moochers. So tiring. I dont know how this wife put up with it for so long. Omgoodness.
@touathao33973 жыл бұрын
Cas koj tsis cia koj niag txiv ruam kov mus ntsog nws niag kwv thiab cov phooj ywg nyob es cia lwm tus txiv zoo paub tab los hlub koj xwb os
@leevaj611 Жыл бұрын
ອອອອອ
@LovacDNZ3 жыл бұрын
Neeg xyob txiaj ces yog tej no nawb. Koj nyiag txiv yog txiv dev liam txw xwb ruam noj quav muab nws tso pov tseg hauv thoob kib nyiab xwb mas.
@brendayangvang97563 жыл бұрын
Coj neeg xob txhiaj los nrog u nyob ces vaj tsev kub nyhiab neej puas ma
@liathoj20613 жыл бұрын
Kuv lub neej ces zoo li koj lub thiab tseem phem tshaj li koj lub thiab nawb yog yus tus txiv tham hluas nkauj los kuj puas xyob txhiaj thiab puas dab ib yam thiab tsis zoo kiag li thiab os aw
@dejntshiabhawj82243 жыл бұрын
Koj tus txiv mas ua tau ntxim ntxub tiag. Nej cov txiv neej na yuav tsum paub hais tias Vaj tsev Peb cov poj niam yog tus tu noj haus peb yog tus ua me tub menyuam peb yog cov take care peb sab npaum li cas na. Tus niam tsev no mas siab zoo tiag22 os yog Kuv ces kuv txiv thiab nws tus kwv cov nra twb nyob nram kev lawm os.
@kovang18403 жыл бұрын
You have been really patient I also know family members like your bil..big headaches
@chuvang54873 жыл бұрын
Tus me niam tsev yog koj tus txiv ruam tsis nkag siab lub ntsiab ces koj hais qhia kiag rau nws haistias, yog koj tsis hais koj tus kwv nkawd tsam ib ntsis los nyob ntev mus ntev tuaj yog koj nyiam ces koj yuav tham no ma !
@cocopha57783 жыл бұрын
Zaj no mas mob hlwb heev
@kaxiong33183 жыл бұрын
It’s not your responsibility to take care of a grown adult. You do not owe him any debts to be caring and feeding like your oldest son. He made a bad choice to lose his wife and kids. Let him suffer and realize how hard life is without them. You made his life too simple and carefree. Would’ve kicked him out a long time. Glad you were able to live a normal life again!
@tongxiong11613 жыл бұрын
tus niam tsev ntshe koj tsis xav yuav nws tus kwv xwb pob yog koj kom tus kwv muab ob tus sab nrauv laij tawm mas yog mas tab sis koj cia li tias yawg nrauj nqa xyob txhiaj no mas dag koj ua li cov laus tias ntxhais nrauj txiv los tsis xav yuav es nim tias nqa xyob txhiaj cov poj niam coj li koj peb paub kawg
@MrsKervang Жыл бұрын
There's a thing called boundaries 🙄. These are grown adults. It's one thing to support but another thing to enable. This younger brother clearly doesn't want to do a thing. He's just a loser.
@thialee64523 жыл бұрын
Kuv xav mas tus niam tsev ntawm zaj dab neeg na yog koj xav kom zoo es koj siab yeej ncaj tiag txawm koj chim npaum Cas los koj tsuas qhuab qhia hauv koj tsev xwb txhob muaj tuaj hais ua dab neem saum no poj nrauj poj ntsuam tsis ntxhais tias neeg phem thiaj tau ua txawm neeg zoo los lav tsis tau thuam tsis yog
@khongmai88233 жыл бұрын
.cas nus niam laus koj tsi teb kuv li o thov txais kuv tus fev thiab o
@baovang34863 жыл бұрын
I get it that he brings back luck but u make it sound like all divorcees are bad luck.
@hmongremark26863 жыл бұрын
Peb nyob rau lub teb chaws USA no yog nuj nqes xwb. Koj nrog lwm tus nyob es koj tsis pab luag them nuj nqes ces koj cia li tawm mus nyob qab choj ua neeg homeless zoo dua li koj nrog luag nyob yam tsis paub nuj nqes dab tsi thiab ua rau lwm tus ntxub thiab dhuav koj.