[ENG SUB] 新加坡独居老人如何不孤独？Living Alone in Singapore: How Seniors Combat Loneliness

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[ENG SUB] 新加坡独居老人如何不孤独？Living Alone in Singapore: How Seniors Combat Loneliness

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新加坡即将步入超老龄社会，独居老人越来越多，孤独状态令人关注。与孩子同住的年长者，为什么也会陷入孤独？我们能如何帮助他们继续活得精彩？zb.sg/r6VM
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#独居老人 #孤独老人 #孤独老龄化 #人口老龄化 #lonely #loneliness #singapore #ageing
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@shufenong5740 Ай бұрын

任何年龄层都会觉得孤独，要充实自己，培养兴趣爱好。善用时间，没时间胡思乱想，就不会孤独寂寞。

@sapphoophoon2141 Ай бұрын

说得对，说得好。👍😊

@lyh9089 18 күн бұрын

接觸人群

@ansleylw3285 Ай бұрын

我的感受是现在的年代好像独居更快乐？好好的工作存钱，保持身心健康（运动+冥想），平时摆弄自己的爱好，再做一些贡献社会的事，很的很快乐啊！独居和合住各有优缺点，但是对我来说，跟别人住，是一定会有摩擦的。会被别人讨厌/嫌弃/要求/看别人脸色，其实真的很不快乐。你需要顾虑别人的感受。但你自己一个人，不用担心吵到人，可以随心所欲的摆放/做。吃什么，要看什么戏，要听什么歌，随你的心意。小到桌布的摆放，冰箱的用法，甚至关不关灯，真的很烦。其实走过了你也发觉不过如此。拥有独立的内心+快乐和自由是最棒的。

@janelee1050 20 күн бұрын

@@ansleylw3285 说得好！独居的好处是自由自在，自己作主，要快也可以，要慢也可以，不要做也可以，不需要一天到晚去配合、迁就、忍让别人，很辛苦的！不要认定独来独往就是孤僻，不合群，其实是人群不适合我，为什么要逼自己和那些看了就讨厌的人混在一起？人生不过是三餐一宿，有得吃有得住，足矣！

@janelee1050 Ай бұрын

不要以为有人同住就不孤独，其实有时候更痛苦！尤其对方是个行为极端的人，用各种变态手段虐待你，比方上个没人用的厕所要等两小时，到时你就会知道独居有多幸福!

@vivianchao3246 20 күн бұрын

@user-zn1hv9fb4m Ай бұрын

我退休滿2年,早於10年前就規劃自己買了1間小2房獨自居住,與小孩每個月相聚1次,不拿孝養金親情關係還不錯,有事line可隨時視訊獲知小孩情況,與鄰里保持良好情誼.上老人大學學習美日語,每日到公園運動1小時以上,做導護媽媽和巡守隊志工,維持著每天用電腦寫日記的習慣,日子過得蠻快樂的。

@user-oh6wb5rj2q Ай бұрын

請問對你而言人生的意义是什么呢

@user-qs4ft5vr1w Ай бұрын

日语好学吗？

@user-qs4ft5vr1w Ай бұрын

日语好学吗？

@yoyo-on6gf 21 күн бұрын

我也是，我退休4年多了，和老公搬到高雄養老，每天去地球村學英日語，也去社區的桌球室打球，一週有兩天的早上去家扶中心當志工，我對退休生活很滿意，老公73歲了，天天爬柴山，下山後到內惟市場買菜，煮晚餐，退休後他有了烹飪的樂趣😊

@cac1504 Ай бұрын

Alone does not mean lonely.

@douglaslee6324 Ай бұрын

@cac1504 Living alone is better than living with your son/daughter in law and your grandchildren. It is more acceptable for those who absorb Western values.

@whkee Ай бұрын

Yes, feel more peaceful🙏

@ronnieong6545 Ай бұрын

Lonely does not mean happy but that's life .

@user-ws2vd3zg7t Ай бұрын

人最重要是活的好，死前有尊严。希望新加坡可以成为亚洲可以成为第一个通过安乐死合法普遍的国家，给病重和70岁以上的人选择使用安乐死的权利。瑞士太贵了，如果不是富豪，根本去不了。

@YENNEE-fs9wz Ай бұрын

@@user-ws2vd3zg7t 我也支持安乐死

@yih-dingchen4029 Ай бұрын

要保持運動健健康康、自由自在享受當下。

@kcchiew4247 Ай бұрын

我56岁， 2030年就会是那25％的老年人了。希望到时候我还能在外头溜达，身体健康，生活愉快。❤

@sapphoophoon2141 Ай бұрын

现在就可以开始计划自己的退休生活了。加油！💪😊

@davidwang3143 Ай бұрын

今年56歲的人，2030年是62

@kcchiew4247 Ай бұрын

@@davidwang3143 我算错了，不好意思。😅

@user-qs4ft5vr1w Ай бұрын

请问您现在在大陆吗？

@karenlua5082 19 күн бұрын

Be independent is the best

@Lee-hw2ik Ай бұрын

老了有什么好怕，接受现实每个人都会老，何必讲的老了这么恐怕，生活看自己怎样过，为什么一定要讲儿女的事，爱护自己❤❤❤😊

@user-lh1he8et2l Ай бұрын

支持我们老了！有老的活法我们自己经济独立年轻人！有自己的生活方式互不干涉互相尊重就好

@Lee-hw2ik Ай бұрын

@@user-lh1he8et2l 早上好！祝您开心每一天😊👍❤️

@sapphoophoon2141 Ай бұрын

老是不可怕，只是怕有时万一不小心在家摔倒，起不来的话，叫天不应，叫地不灵时，就很危险了！谁都不要痛苦地走入死亡，对吧？😅

@Lee-hw2ik Ай бұрын

@@sapphoophoon2141 早上好!都说不怕了，心不要想万一，心想好事，万事都会正能量满满，反正都老了，祝您开心每一天🥰✌️

@user-lh1he8et2l Ай бұрын

@@sapphoophoon2141 独居老人！万一摔倒跟孩子住你的孩子会二十四小时！看着你吗？怕！家里就裝个CCTV 或把手机套在身上……

@YENNEE-fs9wz Ай бұрын

我母亲教我老了！不要跟孩子住一定要把錢捉在自己手里錢……孩子也不能相信我母亲说跟女儿住！要看女婿面色跟儿子住！要看媳妇面色自己一个人住！自在我母亲自已一个人住活到九十多岁她也不交朋友她的娱乐是她自己养小动物狗！鸡！鸭吃鸡蛋！鸭蛋种菜！种花吃自己种的菜太有空了！用火炭蒸饭煮菜开冷气追电视剧！然后睡着了

@YENNEE-fs9wz Ай бұрын

我的邻居也这么黑心 5 1 4 # 4……亚枝带头教513……罗娜和他儿子吉鸿三楼的永彬跟我大儿子说我疼弟弟！不疼他我捨不得给大儿子吃给弟弟吃到胖胖的我大儿子读小学我没给大儿子零用钱去学校食堂吃东西我解释当时我一天我给七毛五毛吃碗面！二毛吃水果自己带水邻居说太少了叫我大儿子！长大不要孝顺我不要给我钱花（我不用孩子给！我会赚钱）

@douglaslee6324 Ай бұрын

@@YENNEE-fs9wz 很西方的思想。不错！

@taicheekong7064 Ай бұрын

遗憾的是你说的［娱乐］在新加坡是会被人complain的

@YENNEE-fs9wz Ай бұрын

@@taicheekong7064 对！我母亲住马来西亚新加坡人！反正退体了可以去柔佛！新山租房子大多是有地住宅区你爱养什么宠物都可以

@shalalachen6051 Ай бұрын

这么多感叹号❗️。感觉你好激动😂

@lastlightsnet Ай бұрын

Being alone doesn't mean lonely. Some are left alone, others choose to be alone.

@meloon5876 Ай бұрын

Getting along with people is not easy, let alone living under same roof.

@whkee Ай бұрын

Importantly, get along with yourself🙏

@WaicheewahSimonWai-h9i Ай бұрын

Senior not alone they can join day care centre dont worry your friends can help you be strong be happy

@gohch3677 Ай бұрын

人老了很难避免不会独居的，只要你老伴走人了，完成了一生的使命了，你就自然的要面对独居的局面，除非，儿女要你去与他们同住而你自己也不反对，甚至乐于接受，那就问题不大。反过来说，对于宁可独居或不得不独居的老人而言，在较年轻时尽可能地培养一些适当爱好，一旦年纪大了，有些消遣活动，那么退休之后或独居之时，就不会觉得太孤单无聊了。

@celestialstar124 Ай бұрын

Worst is staying with your children who refuse to talk to you and give you bad attitude everytime they see you. But the adult children still depend on you to provide all the items at home like toothpaste, shampoo, laundry supplies, aircon, etc. When you buy food for them to eat and knock on their door they yell at you.

@tansookhoon1871 Ай бұрын

㊗️福每个公公婆婆身体健康生活愉快🙏❤️🌹

@newbieforce_xo9757 Ай бұрын

家里养两只狗挺开心的

@user-ml6ms6ef7y Ай бұрын

其實獨居很享受很愉快的😂😂

@shinagawa2012 Ай бұрын

做个可爱的老人不容易，一般都会讨人嫌。

@edvventurer Ай бұрын

Thank God for volunteers to help them

@spacek3516 Ай бұрын

Antie not only yr's siblings don't bother about you,my siblings also don't bother about me.

@douglaslee6324 Ай бұрын

@@spacek3516 human relationship will be changed over time. Lower your expectations.

@spacek3516 Ай бұрын

@@douglaslee6324 Depend to ppl melt actually.

@lizhao6979 Ай бұрын

有一種人好討厭，沒良知，把自己的意志強加於人。

@wengkwongwong2689 Ай бұрын

To the Senior Citizens.................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! You are NOT Alone...................!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 🤛💪👋😊

@andrewleung5329 Ай бұрын

At least they live in decent apartments. Look at Hong Kong living alone seniors' living conditions & you would wonder why they keep on living.

@user-pt4ho9ex8g Ай бұрын

God Blessed you believe and trust in God only he guide and protect you can go any church nearby your place go to come you will feel very happy He will hold your hand whatever you do or wherever you when.

@user-vw9mm7xt4h Ай бұрын

獨居好，達摩面壁9年也是獨居。最後就成爲一代宗師了。

@TheHongkc Ай бұрын

他有宗教信仰, 又在修行, 跟平常人生活于世上庸庸碌碌是完全不同的境界。

@user-vw9mm7xt4h Ай бұрын

@@TheHongkc 釋迦牟尼佛是創立宗教，不是跟隨宗教信仰。

@TheHongkc Ай бұрын

@@user-vw9mm7xt4h 达摩禅师与释迦牟尼佛是两个不同的人。

@user-vw9mm7xt4h Ай бұрын

@@TheHongkc 然後呢？他們不都是在孤獨的求道路上頓悟生命嗎？

@TheHongkc Ай бұрын

@@user-vw9mm7xt4h 没有然后。我只是想告诉你他们两人不是同一个人。BTW, 顿悟生命跟成佛差很远。

@tankman20064 Ай бұрын

有钱。不怕啦😂

@JIANGTG Ай бұрын

独居老人避免孤独，培养兴趣多读好书，音乐盆栽心情舒服，随遇而安减少苦楚，邻居交往不亦乐乎?

@TofuZen Ай бұрын

当你老了，根本就没什么人想靠近你。这就是残酷的事实。

@lintong3084 Ай бұрын

我和我爸妈就很亲啊

@leehyunsong7001 Ай бұрын

主要看有没有钱

@yokesan7563 Ай бұрын

因为老了也没什么利用价值，也没有可观的财产？所以离你越远越好！😂

@newway6260 Ай бұрын

想靠近你时你才得当心呀!

@sunal4305 Ай бұрын

@@lintong3084好👏 人间少有赞

@tory5566 Ай бұрын

Alhamdulillah 希望新加坡人安康❤🎉

@88kxg Ай бұрын

邻居很多事，把父亲不要孩子的事告诉孩子，使孩子对父亲怨恨，为何邻居那么多事，难道不懂什么事该说，什么不该说吗。

@MrTubesong Ай бұрын

Human nature. People like gossips

@88kxg Ай бұрын

@@MrTubesong gossip until can spoil family relationship is v bad. U can gossip among yrself but dont tell the son. This is the boundary. 要鸡婆别人的家事也要有个底线。

@user-vy1et7zo5d 19 күн бұрын

我做義工，照顧流浪狗，把身體照顧好自己有信仰。獨立，跟子女住在一起又怎樣。現在社會就是這樣。自由自在，年輕有有年輕人的生活。

@cheungliu1725 Ай бұрын

獨居挺好

@user-iy7lx5bh1h 20 күн бұрын

全球每一個地方，老人生活模式都不同，跟當地的文化有絕對發展關系。

@ronnieong6545 Ай бұрын

When healthy no worries do not live and die alone my advice .

@user-ck2cp3lt3v Ай бұрын

VERY SOON..I AM ONE OF THEM..

@Yen083 Ай бұрын

只要有人肯倾听，就不会孤独了呀

@tankman20064 Ай бұрын

今天不用道德绑架啦。😂。人好自然有人来。

@felixthecat6284 23 күн бұрын

Still got own place very good loh...malaysia some old man stay in bunker bed with others....cheaper than cheap

@vinceang6414 Ай бұрын

Aunty.. Time to change yrself. U r 71 years.. Nt 17.. If u cannot get along with so many people.. The problem lies with u alone! Harsh but that is the hard truth! Learn to be humble and let go of yr pride and ego! A nice and easygoing person will have no lack of friends and loved ones by their side! Nt hiding alone and still trying to act tough! That is weakness!!!!

@newway6260 Ай бұрын

怯弱的绵羊才需要扎堆，勇猛的狼就有本事独行。

@user-lh1he8et2l Ай бұрын

@@newway6260 老虎！狮子都是独来独往没主见的羊才要有人带领（领头羊）

@ahchoon9067 11 күн бұрын

sorry uncle have all the kepo aunties. I also have this problem hope government can help remove all the chairs under my block

@user-yr4xx8jx6t Ай бұрын

年老，孤獨真的很苦

@victorlo7910 Ай бұрын

很難相處⋯⋯所以,只可以獨居

@ksfong1251 Ай бұрын

最重要俺口袋要有💰。

@ChrysanthemumKhine Ай бұрын

Loneliness depending on parents ,government system ( china system ) ,no enough supporting government system and inflation of modern worlds 🌎.

@sunal4305 Ай бұрын

无奈衆生皆苦照雇好自已和家人给別人赢输得起很多朋友还给听他發口风很多朋友也不计较杯☕️大把friends😂🤣

@tonykwok9763 Ай бұрын

😇

@relaxinglifethailand Ай бұрын

❤❤❤❤❤

@janechua403 Ай бұрын

现在的老人不能靠孩子！

@suechew1420 26 күн бұрын

No point going to join activities. When person 'disappear' from those activities, nobody bother to find out why.

@KiKi-yd2bb Ай бұрын

鄧皆歡75歲（很年輕啊！

@jasper2593 19 күн бұрын

大牌123是什麼意思啊？

@portialiau7407 Ай бұрын

😇

@denisechan5992 26 күн бұрын

It seems a bit absurd that the son bears a grudge against the father just because he once told the wife to give up the son. He has a hand in raising up the son. If so, the son is in ingrate.

@Benjamin_wong2024 18 күн бұрын

😮

@douglaslee6324 Ай бұрын

Her English is so good. Many Singaporeans speak Chinese only.

@KatJade269 Ай бұрын

Are you sure?

@laisengkerk2542 Ай бұрын

可以去教會認識上帝這樣你就不會孤獨了

@我的心声 Ай бұрын

我现在30几岁已经开始考虑养老的钱了😢

@伟宏-d5u Ай бұрын

0.0 孤独本是常态

@kymlee2203 Ай бұрын

May I ask is it common for daughter-in-law to ignore you?

@user-oh6wb5rj2q Ай бұрын

No, that’s rude of her

@user-oh6wb5rj2q Ай бұрын

Kindness have to start somewhere I guess

@kymlee2203 Ай бұрын

@user-oh6wb5rj2q I did all I can. I cook for hee. I let her use my car. My helper cleans her room, washes her laundry and iron.

@felixthecat6284 23 күн бұрын

Lol.....in trend lah....follow after japan.

@ose3813 Ай бұрын

跟年轻人住，要看他们的脸色。没必要。

@pokmerb444 Ай бұрын

跟儿子有什么误会？

@majestictan275 Ай бұрын

每個家庭都有苦澀... 是多或少罷了。惡毒的心醜陋的人性，說三道四，難道你們自家就沒事嗎？非也！！！小心報應啊！

@kongyinfoo6142 Ай бұрын

失去一切，没有子女的安慰及孝道，才是最孤苦烦苦，或是少壮不不努力，老来孤独悲伤😢，参与社交活动，一天过一天，乐观的老人並不孤单，老来身上有存款，不会忧心重重。😮知足常乐，健康就有福气。

@northstar_8827 Ай бұрын

2030 25% 60岁以上的老人。

@user-jb9fy2hs9n Ай бұрын

他是天天找我麻烦惹我惹事生非承担吧有证明

@Humorousguy64 Ай бұрын

What kind of son is that? He will never have good life when gets old ...

@wawawa8964 Ай бұрын

組織社團...老人旅遊社，老人運動社...

@pimple8086 Ай бұрын

我57一个人住四房式，反正死了会长蛆虫发臭，邻居会打电话叫SCDF

@chooningrid6860 Ай бұрын

Not if you're healthy... You're still young to say that. I'm 66 those words are for me to say... 😂

@tan00002 Ай бұрын

如果教育孩子學歐美，把孩子當朋友，結果肯定孤獨。應該回到過去，學祖母輩對兒女的嚴格教育，長幼有別，懂得尊重長輩，老師，才有美好的晚年。

@tankman20064 Ай бұрын

你做皇帝。当然😂。

@douglaslee6324 Ай бұрын

跟小孩同住好吗？天天吵架你喜欢吗？两代同堂是最好的。

@tan00002 Ай бұрын

@@douglaslee6324 這種對孩子嚴格教育，是要從小教起。如果對他們從小寵，長大了才來教已經太晚了。

@douglaslee6324 Ай бұрын

@@tan00002 你的道德绑架已经是旧社会弊端了。

@wawawa8964 Ай бұрын

俺覺得你在反諷，但俺沒證據

@chanchan-wq6qm Ай бұрын

Pls change the music,super boring

@Sharonlimei Ай бұрын

老头子连“儿子，女儿“都不会讲，估计以前在家里特别不知道尊重人，没有礼貌不知道感恩的老人，确实让人无法靠近！

@TeresaTan-jg9oj Ай бұрын

我也非独居。每一个都懂懂你的人一定要善待珍惜。我比你更懂你。你连你8都不懂可我非常懂我自己，你就不懂我没想到曾经你说过懂你比爱你重要可惜你没善待。我的人绝对不是我对人好别人一样要同样好，不过我就是不能1接受别人天天过分跟对我做错你居然不是男人，推给女人非常烂教育还真以为对的做法。别铁齿我做法永远对的。你自己做不到男人做的非常烂乖乖承担承担吧。亏你乱乱替我找借口。这是所有的人该做的。你居然自私自利到一直看我留言太没知慧。我留言都你自己，生气就是脾气暴躁。还敢一直说我生气。都是你对我不是我对你理应不会生气反而我们有理由因为你做可是我居然没你一直生气你却一直冤枉人太坏了你的坏2016开始