The Zarna Garg Family Podcast | Ep. 20: A Mother's Guilt

[@nithyarao6608]

A grade to Zarna for showing her vulnerable side and to her entire family for standing by her instead of making her feel guilty.

[@coraaguilar7897]

Mary

[@aunjulei]

0:12 very honestly handled by Zarna, a mom myself have felt that way…. And there is no escaping it. Like she says the money helps! Kudus all the Gargs

[@ferozalabonne799]

What absolutely wonderful children these three Gargs are! Articulate, clear thinking, responsible, caring and so mature!!!

[@Gogigons]

A Grade to Zarna for being the most loving mum and for being so open and vulnerable. It resonates with every normal mother in the world. The guilt won’t go, and don’t try and fight it. It’s ok to feel guilty because that’s love. You have raised awesome children and it’s now your time to shine! Your children are so proud of you! 💝

[@A_Menon]

Awwww....this is so so real. To see Zarna cry...was heartbroken. Between Shalabh and Zarna - they parent their kids in the best way.

[@varshabethi5908]

At what time stamp did she cry. I missed it I guess

[@A_Menon]

25:05

[@aartisingh7952]

In each episode we can see the mother daughter duo ferociously defending each other in their own little ways❤

[@Greenway1234]

A+ to both parents for raising such intelligent, sensitive, responsible and really just good kids in general. I fully understand the mom guilt because I feel it all the time and I don’t think it will ever go away. Somehow once in a while we have trust that we raised our kids well enough to make responsible choices in life. They are usually more capable than we think. Mom guilt however is the price we pay for motherhood I believe and it’s here to stay. ❤

[@lindamarocco4583]

This was an exceptional family podcast…you can see the love and concern each member of this family has for each other…jokes aside, everyone was very concerned about Zarna in this episode….the love you all have created with each other is palpable….your family, in my opinion, is going to help the world bring back the family unit that is terribly missing in this world, today!..,my A grade is given without hesitation to Zarna, for showing a side of her that I knew was deep down inside her…I was always a stay at home Mom..,I can relate to her feelings so deeply and so personally…not always easy to share and discuss those deep feelings…which Zarna absolutely did in this episode!..,much love and appreciation to the entire family!!!!!…thank you all!💜

[@cynthiaabsher9069]

Perfectly stated. This episode made me cry with how the deep love showed through. What a great example for their children to see and feel.

[@shipica]

These podcasts are a gem to watch, absolutely loved seeing your vulnerable side, Zarna Aunty! Please don’t stop making these, it is amazing to see yall navigate through life together and have such open, mature conversations.

[@joannedavis182]

Every podcast you do I think, “This is the best one yet!” Every one is wonderful and so worthwhile!! It’s so valuable to me to hear another family’s perspective and all of the very REAL and transparent conversations. Thank you for sharing and please keep these going!!

[@CSims-wb2bc]

What a great episode! I was brought to tears when Zarna cried, I can relate 100%. My kids are 23 and 28 and I still worry about them and feel guilty when I can’t pick up their calls immediately. Being a mother we will always have this going on, for men it’s different, they did not carry these kids in their womb for 9 months and give birth to them. You are doing a wonderful job as a mother and it shows in how well balanced , smart and self aware your kids are. Thanks for your vulnerability in this episode. Love you all 💗

[@hctobe]

OMG, I agree with you 100%♥️

[@MansiJain-g7h]

I am a daughter of working mom and in India it takes a lot to be a working mom, especially during the 90s when there was not a lot of help. But there is one thing I learned from it was to be independent. She became a role model to me in so many ways that I can’t even explain and she is my best friend for life and no one can ever replace her. Zarna I do understand how you might feel being away from your kids when you were there in their growing years, this is one thing that I discuss with my mom and she has such a wonderful answer to this, ‘my job is also my responsibility and when it comes to my job I feel I need to be dedicated towards it because it makes my children’s lives better’. I hope you can stop being guilty for not being around with you kids because you have a gift of making people laugh with your comedy and we need so many more women in this industry. You are a role model to so many girls out there. Kudos to you!

[@MsStunna11]

Shalabh’s sarcastic humor is too funny 😂 SAHM and he’s so intelligent 😂 On a serious note, I stayed home for 20 yrs raising my kids and my 2 younger kids got the Corporate mom. The guilt we experience as women may never go away, however, it’s a privilege to be able to show our daughters that we can do it!! Cheering you on Zarna ❤

[@iamsauras]

Good grades with Garg section made me super emotional. What a great family, wish you good luck and all the good things of this world. 👏🏼

[@AshwiniParsana]

You and the whole family are doing such a massive service to all families. Your love for each other is so evident. Don’t feel guilty. You’re doing an amazing job at everything, and you are all an inspiration to all women because you said making your own money changes how you make decisions. 1000% true, and you don’t mince words on the toll that takes on working moms. It’s an impossible juggling act that we’re all doing. Thank you for this very real conversation.

[@KatharinaFranca-v9i]

I was a working single mom and I can totally relate to the eternal feelings of guilt! But first and foremost I want to say what an amazing family you are. Listening to what everybody had to say and seeing the support and appreciation for your journey Zarna is heartwarming, don't even think of being a failure as a mom!

[@svatisingh1]

A+ to Shalabh for saying happy parents raise happy kids - so true. And Zarna, I think it's wonderful that you think of your kids all the time even when you are working - to me, that sounds like love, not guilt :))

[@LL-tg5bn]

The A+ grades goes to Zarna and Shalabh for being great parents and raising such emotional and actually intelligent children who are able to articulate clearly and empathically.

[@AradhanaSingh-uw3wb]

Thank you so much for this podcast - I am a single working mom and I feel this guilt so often leaving my daughter - it breaks my heart - and Zarna I resonate with you when you say they are on the back of your head even when you are on stage - I completely get that - but I think all this is just worth it at the end of the day - our kids are seeing us work hard as well as try to be loving and “there for them” parents - Love to your fam - thanks for adding joy into our lives ❤

[@mgmelgar3690]

Zarna, as a mom, it is gratifying to listen to your family discuss family life on this level. You & your family keep it real. You are an inspiration.

[@harisikakolli7852]

Love this family. So authentic and real.

[@julieparera6048]

What Zoya explained about the receptors makes complete sense to the topic. You get the hit of success and immediately a low of guilt! Don’t let your system hijack your happiness! Keep going Zarna!! You have made a great job as a mom and now as a comic.

[@sabinamirchandani8906]

Zarna, your kids are so amazing and supportive! You shouldn’t feel an ounce of guilt, you raised them well and are an exceptional Mom!

[@smithaday9225]

Being a mum is crucial at home. That was your season. Not that it was wrong. Each time there is a season. This is another season

[@sroy6680]

Oh my gosh!!!! What an episode!!! Shalab outstanding dad. Zarna you touched my heart. Brij- no words superb. Zoya - Queen, Vir- wow how do you wake up at 6 am without your mum having to kick your butt??

[@pajoshi70]

Very important and relatable discussion. Yes, every mom goes through the mom guilt; but families like gargs make it easy on them to deal with it. Keep it up Garg family!

[@jyo191]

Zarna… I cried with you… completely broke down… such genuine feelings.. I know this mom guilt and understand it so well… your doing extremely well and have raised very sensible kids… kudos to you!

[@nishap43]

Yet another AMAZING Podcast!!! Loved every bit of it. Even though I am not a mother myself, As a woman, I totally understand the emotion and everything Zarna is saying. When I left home, my mother used to call me pretty much everyday for a good while (and this was international calls) to ask what did I eat that day. It seemed so weird and random, like, why did it matter what I ate, but nothing in this world compares to the love in that phone call. Those "What did you eat" calls perhaps is the most love ive ever received in this lifetime. Having said that, nothing can compare to the love of a mother and hence, Zarna's guilt. The emotion Zarna is showing Vs Shalab and the rest of the family is sooo real lol. This is exactly how a typical father would react and this is how children would respond. Though I am sure everyone loves their mother, there still is something about a mother's heart that no child can understand. There is no denying that your guilt and emotion is real but I hope you know that; 1) You are an inspiration to so many women all around the world 2) Everyone can be an entertainer in today's world, but the authenticity and the genuineness you and your family brings is so refreshing and is incomparable. 3) Your Children are the most amazing children ever, so there is no doubt you guys been great parents. I am not sure if a Mom guilt is something that can go away, but I hope you find some solace in knowing that you make a huge positive difference in people's life, you bring us joy, entertainment in its purest form. Please continue doing what you are doing, the world is your family too now :D

[@AS250188]

We watched real Zarna in this podcast. Loving caring mom with true family values. Guys you create such a great family, supportive parents, brilliant kids. Best of luck for all of you ❤

[@Codeslingerm]

My A grade goes to Zarna because she changed her views on quality family time and I think that shows she’s capable of reassessing her views and changing and being flexible. Kudos.

[@deeparao4804]

This was one of the best episodes. So authentic. You have such a supportive husband and your kids are so mature. Touch wood

[@fernandaalvares6954]

You guys are a precious family ❤️ I came across you all just today and I love you all ❤️ God bless you all mightily everyday ❤️❤️❤️

[@nilov007]

This is so incredibly heartwarming. Thank you Zara for showing vulnerability. Your kids are brilliant and both you and Shalabh have been incredible parents.

[@lensamuel8132]

Auntie Zarna, you and your family are amazing. I love y'all !

[@Shalaka_Khopkar]

Such a cute podcast! Loved it as always. I can relate 100% to the mom guilt

[@golgus]

When you become a global figure, spreading happiness.. just know that the world becomes your family ❤ lots of love

[@chenpinkofficial]

This is an emotional podcast about any mom's guilt in the world. Mother's Day (US) is approaching next month and this podcast was so heartfelt as all Zarna's family members said encouraging words about Zarna. Mother is the greatest and you are, Zarna! Somehow a woman who is capable surely has the guilt for not having the quality time with her family but we can at least do online.

[@zeheraghouse1888]

What a heartwarming family! Love you guys….

[@risg4me]

Both my parents were working when I was young and practically my siblings were the ones who raised me at home. I don't think I thought too much about it because as a kid I had everything I wanted, and looking back now as an adult I really don't blame my parents for that because they were absent to provide for us kids, and what they provided is the reason why I didn't feel any resentment. It also made me quite self-sufficient and responsible because my siblings did not coddle me the way perhaps my mom would have done if she was a SAHM. So obviously there is pros and cons for having a SAHM or vice versa.

[@nedaabedian4705]

I think every mom can relate to this podcast. It was so real. This is an amazing family the kids are so mature and responsible and happy kids too. Well done.👍🏼🙌🏼👏🏼👏🏼❤️❤️

[@winniekohli2379]

A+ to the Garg family for holding each other high. Loved the podcast

[@iasuklinsiangshai]

Wow! All the kids are super matured, living in this generation and being responsible kids, kudos to the parents for bringing up these amazing children.

[@jillianperumal3589]

I can relate in a different way. I am not a working mother, but I am a SAHM. My guilt comes from being a single parent trying to fulfill the role of mother and father successfully. Also, a big guilt factor is I have been very sick for the past 17 years and have not always been there for my children since such young ages. They have had to pick up many things that I should have been doing. All said, Zarna, you are very caring, loving, and attentive mother. Who could ask for more. You are doing a wonderful job with what you have to work with. Go Zarna Go!!! Supporting you all the way!

[@ellenmorgia3995]

I love this episode! I feel you auntie Zarna… I also have this guilt deep inside ever since I started working.

[@Tash303]

A+ to Shalabh. Provider, protector, solid loving father and husband. He is honoring Zarna's seasons, first SAHM...and look at the incredible, wise kids! And now Zarna blossoming thriving and sharing her unique wonderful gifts in a big way with the world. I pray you enjoy and take in the joy of all this instead of letting the guilt rob the greatness you have created. ❤

[@michaelvilleneuve194]

I totally love you guys. Keep it up as long as you have the energy but don't burn out, ok???!!!!

[@MyPureliving]

Oh Zarna it’s such a beautiful family you have built. Your kids are so well raised and wonderful. And two of them are not kids anymore they are adults as hard as it may be for us parents we have to accept it and move on. Just pat your back and achieve things for yourself now. You are very lucky to have had (and still have) a wonderful family time, a fulfilling motherhood and now a wonderful career. How many women around you have it ? Just be happy and grateful. As a wise person once said as a woman you will have everything but just not at the same time. I am a mum of two little children living an expat life in Europe. It’s very difficult right now but I hope one day it will all be worth it. 😊

[@PC-wu8yq]

I have been watching these podcast since day 1 Zarna aunty ❤ Thank you for putting this out. I'm married and now I'm my late 20s and I'll be soon having kids and raising them and I'm so looking forward to my motherhood journey. Your journey has just give me so much hope, perspective and a positive attitude towards it. You have done a brilliant job at raising your kids, I feel extremely proud of your kids. They are so self reliant in every possible way. And I'm so happy you have such a support husband touch wood. Thank you for sharing these podcasts. 💜 and pls can you come to London 😘

[@tris331]

I am 19 and I really like Zoya didi . I have exactly same kind of thinking about everything like her and I have to say Brij is also very very mature unlike the guys I see around my self and even Brij is a amezing boy for his age . Zarna aunty and salabh uncle you guys are amezing for raising such nice kids.

[@itchypen15]

Amazing episode once again. Very well done!

[@sujanithtottempudi2991]

Amazed that your kids are so patient and interested in such lengthy discussions... amazing

[@sudhaviswanathan8399]

Love love it. Such a beautiful bond you have created that zoya makes sure everyone is ok, Brij is such a sweet big brother, Veer is responsible and takes care of his classes. Phenomenal family 🥰😍

[@user-ec2up6mv3j]

A+ to Zarna for sure… Every time I see Zarna on the podcast, I relate to every bits throughout! So so heartwarming to watch this family podcast! Zarna, a question though- do you guys speak in Hindi or Gujarati at home at all? Like being an Indian Parent, do you feel like your kids should at least understand their native language and some cultural aspects! Do you follow it yourself living in USA for 25 years? We as an audio wouldn’t mind a podcast on this topic!

[@thomasbanaszak2688]

Your family is so supportive of you and your career. They are behind you 100%. Love your u tube videos

[@JA-tb8vl]

Love this family. Zarna keeps the discussion so organized 😂

[@DileepaPerera]

loving this podcast, always positive and good insights. eager to see a new episode everyday

[@zzzzzzz1751]

Zoya is so much younger than I am and yet she has such matured outlook on life and very empathetic & supportive towards Zarna on her quest of her career. I think this is kudos to both parents for raising their kids so well.

[@saumyapandey6383]

Learning so much .. from your podcasts. It's giving me so many insights.. n giving the right words to my thoughts that I could never admit

[@jetsun685]

My A+ goes to Brij. Such a handsome, responsible big brother. I absolutely love this podcast. I was in tears watching Zarna crying. I can totally relate to her as a mum myself. Your family dynamics and the respect and love you all have for each otherbis amazing. Wish you all lot's of happiness and love always ❤️ 💕 💖

[@pamelasaunders3736]

Absolutely my favorite family.

[@nancyvillagra7606]

I love every podcast!!!

[@meghnayar]

Hey Zarna ji, Sending you hugs and love ❤️❤️ I know we changed topic at the 28 min point. You are in a transition.. an evolution of your role as a mom.. the kids are growing and they may not need you the same way.. or they have outsourced your role to elder siblings … that is what you have possibly lost even if you were at home.. so now you have the opportunity to building a new version of the mom relationship.. quality time, intentional time with each of your kid.. You have been a awesome mom.. its evident in your kids.. Your value is not in the small everyday tasks but in the love you have for them . Thank you for being an AWESOME mom we all look up to you.. ❤

[@winterlily100]

Aww….. I cried with Zarna! I feel it …totally related! I agree money helps you know! 😆🤣

[@richadikshit8332]

Zarna caught your show at Mumbai, enjoyed it but must say this is better. Somehow seeing you as the mom of your family is so so so much more. I totally relate to mom guilt bit, but have understood it the hard way that it's our burden to carry. I have been advised so many times to just chuck it, but I feel if you are connected to your family, gulit is inevitable. If guilt goes, that means connection is going too.

[@youtubebrowser5888]

Tears again watching this. I am not a mom but I understand the guilt part and very hard for any female not to feel the guilt. My A grade to Zarna - but please take care of yourself too. Your kids are super awesome.You are already successful that they feel so supportive and they told you that they do not find any con of you being away. All your years of being a stay at home mom have already earned you to have your career of your own and kids are already shaped in a great way already. Kudos to Brij to be a role model and to be bringing up Veer (and equal kudos to Veer to be so disciplined). I love how self-aware, Zoya is , that she admits that she is the most needy (of course, she is the first kid that got the undivided attention back then).

[@nupurrisbood]

to see the family dynamics is beautiful. I m learning so much but mine through thr journeys.

[@mridusharma8311]

Zarna aunty, I have been watching your podcasts consistently and wait for them so so eagerly. These conversations are so insightful and much required in every family. My heart aches to see you and every parent who feels guilty for not being there for your children 'all the time'. And is this a realisitic expectation to be there always? You might not be there physically present all the time but your presence in their lives is making them into strong individals who are independent, passionate, loving and mature- JUST LIKE YOU. As a Life Coach, I hope you are able to challenge your beliefs that keep you feeling guilty so much, and can make peace with the fact that you are doing the best of your best. TWO self-coaching questions you may ask yourself is: If my family is telling me that they genuinely are okay when I'm physically absence, what's preventing me from believing it? AND What are some ways where I can be compassionate to myself? 💙 If the guilt persists to a great degree, it would be really helpful to get professional help and lead a much less guilt-free life. Lotssss of love. 🤗🤗

[@SoteKaGota]

My mom is a working mom and i got separated from her due to my studies and her work when i was in 3rd grade. I used to stay in hostel at that age. How it shaped me? It was difficult at first. I used to cry a lot. I think honestly i had a near death experience at that time. It was like somebody taking my breath away. That choking sensation wasn't real like physically but more of mentally. I think first time i killed my heart. At that point i wasn't sure what it means to get loved, what it means to get pampered and emotional support and blah blah... I became very rude and hard on everybody. It made me not to trust people, i got used to detachment. It was difficult to make friends for me. I had friends because i was bossy and ruthless (I was leader of bad boys gang). I hated my mom and dad for so long in my life as if they were my enimies. I think i was so emotional child that's why it impacted me the way it did. And I am 20+ now and it's fine now. I think i am way more mature now due to mental breakdowns i had in early stage of my life but that maturity came with some baised thinking or some stereotypes which i want to get over now and i am failing in it but i'll win one day.

[@yashaspriha5636]

Curious about Brij’s background saying: “if you’re reading this it’s too late” 🤔 Aunty Z, as a daughter who grew up with a single working mom… I just wanted to tell you that seeing your mother being the primary breadwinner in a house is very inspiring… and that inculcates respect for women and feminism like nothing else can. And god knows we need more men who are feminists!! You’re doing great… both as a comedian and as a mom.

[@dipticheerath]

Love this Zarna!! Amazing family ! Zarna you have so so much to be proud about.

[@MS-ov9sv]

Thank you for having these real and open conversations.❤❤❤

[@jessicamatei2116]

I had guilt going back to work when my daughter was little but I had no choice. It was survival. So I understand your conflict Zarna. We learn to live with it.

[@nishadas1935]

Absolutely loved this podcast it was sooo raw :) While i of course love Zarna by A would be for Shalab 💓

[@iffatrizvi9531]

I love that Zarna brought Zoya in with the A grade as each family member had appreciate the others for their different contributions

[@nehawalunjkar5822]

His words „ I am proud of you „ dominates the podcast .. simple words but how deep they value for his wife ❤

[@padmadudgaonkar7518]

My vote for Shalab, he was a sole bread winner for 16 years, but he was in as a team with Zarna. It was never “ I make money” attitude. It was like we both are bringing equally important to OUR unit of family. I’m very glad you both have it.

[@risharodrigues6525]

This was heartwarming 💕

[@sunithajoshi-o7v]

Gahh! Crying like a baby. Beautiful episode.

[@noemirichardson5772]

Love your family your kids reminds me of my boys so real and authentic your like me but a single mom of 4 boys

[@melissaexton8680]

From what I understand, no matter what race, religion, what have you, the social construct of all types of communities, Motherhood, and Mothers in all its forms (however you define it) has always been the most judged, the most stressed, the most opinion-based commented work since the beginning of time. What I mean by that is that everyone has judged the work done by mothers and always have found some fault to it. ( i.e. you spend too much time or not enough time with you kids, etc). Everyone has an opinion on how it’s done, and will always tell the mothers that it is always their fault for not living up to what Their expectations or ideas on how Mothers and Motherhood SHOULD be. Zarna, honey, you are a fantastic mother, just by how your kids react and respond to your questions about “mother’s guilt”. You have done the best you can with what you have as a mother. ❤ and 🤗!

[@Bcbg21]

I just love to hear Zoya talk, she is such a genuine and empathetic soul

[@hilairejoseph3345]

Super proud of Brij .. not even an adult yet is so responsible..I love the relationship among the kids..

[@us863]

Loved this episode!

[@whyme7011]

Zarna, never underestimate the power and influence of a SAHM! The work you did cannot be outsourced nor counted in dollars or career titles. You did very important work in raising wonderful humans! Many moms wish they could stay home. Now is your time to shine in your career. Enjoy both parts of your life. And yes once a mom always a mom; you will always worry about them!❤

[@QueenOfMagic]

I love this. So honest and sweet and hilarious!

[@chenpinkofficial]

In this podcast, I agree with all Garg's family members' giving each other A++ reasons.

[@Gypsygirl9]

Zarna❤❤❤you've done an amazing job of raising the kids. They are well rounded, respectful, kind and honest. Therapy is a huge scam. Not quite as much as Insurance but...

[@aniketgiri8800]

Never had I seen zarna cry..... 😢😢

[@Yankee717]

A + grade to Zoya - she's so proud of her Mom & is constantly propping her up!

[@cherylolartepowell82]

Love Love Love it!!!

[@tseyang9472]

Totally get Zarna’s point of view !! A mom always worries for her children. ❤ ALSO I am a SAHM 😃 but I understand ur working mom guilt ❤ A grade goes to Zoya

[@Joliefleur252]

Another great family talk ❤️

[@EllaeenahJadeFire]

Zoya thank you. That was so interesting!

[@hilairejoseph3345]

Beautiful episode.

[@nikitatiwari1964]

❤❤ I love your videos especially family podcast ❤

[@RoseGarden86]

Amazing family. God bless them

[@marmes868]

I really feel you pain and guilt Zarna, being a working myself.

[@43anugyaabhiti87]

A+ to all 5 of you. Lots of love and Best wishes. ❤️

[@rev.christiebates]

It seemed Zoya was not random talking about how the body tends toward homeostasis. It felt like she was pointing towards the possibility that the brain is creating extra doses of guilt as a balance to the huge amounts of dopamine that comes with receiving laughter and applause. (If I understood her correctly??) It's such a blessing when family members really enjoy each other. It gets us through so much in this life!

[@ShaziaAzad-g7l]

Just wanted to give Zarna a hug through out the episode.

[@belagurung3222]

So authentic n real family. Stay blessed, safe, healthy and happy. 💯👏👌👍☝🤞😍😍😍😍😍🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏❤❤❤❤❤fm- England 🇬🇧 U.K.