Coming from experience and as someone who is studying psychology as a major I can say this is some genuinely stellar advice. Some people may watch this video and think that he is swaying more towards an “alpha male mindset”, but this simply isn’t the case here.

Such an impactful video!

Love the dreamy effect, the bloom is magical

Wish I knew this 2 weeks ago

Women can't read you like a book. Tell them and show them who you are so that when shit hits the fan you have no regrets and no complaints and when they come back they will do so because they understood who you are. You can make a decision to keep going or leave.

Great video. Number 2 was big for me. Even if I make the wrong decision I'll still be alive. I'm a perfectionist in my work and I realize now that it carries over to simple decision making too. I'm afraid of the consequences of making the wrong decision which is at the root of why I don't trust my judgement enough to be decisive.

13:10 MASSIVEEEE????

Always good stuff Bene

Should I get a pedicure with her then or no? It’s not my thing but she thinks it would be a fun thing to do with her but I was like I wouldn’t like it never gave her a solid answer though

good shit

this is my first video but i can see im gonna love you as a content creator keep up the good work man!🙏🏾

Crazy good advice again Bene, thank you. I am lucky in the sense that I learned humor early on, and knew it's the #1 thing needed for life, women, and everything in between. But good to hear it in the context of a relationship.

your videos definetly are the youtube version of way of the superior man book , oove your content bro

All these videos are for stupid people, be normal and you win.

Great insight. Thanks

I can see the integrity behind your words. I see a lot of myself in you. Truly I think God brought me here for a reason and I couldn't be more grateful about it. Thanks for your hard work all these years brother. Not giving up. Your work will never be in vain. Love to you all from Brazil.

Bro is in valheim

Great advice man. Thank you. You are the real deal.

The Apophatic method: discovering truth through describing what something is definitely not. Bene you're on fire (as usual I might add).

Im so glad for this video. I have made many of these mistakes before

amazing video

Thanks for the video! What I like on this channel is that it concentrates on personal growth and becoming a good man and partner, not just seeking red flags or issues in others. And the way you described the feelings woman want to feel is amazing

Hello goat

I don't have a girlfriend yet but I appreciate this advice a lot. Also, the background is fucking amazing.

Don't be a jerk but be yourself, speak your mind. Who wants to stay will stay, who wants to leave will leave.

I like this "logically negated" narrative, I could identifiy myself in a couple of points, so I'll work NOT to do that ;)

Yeah learned this the hard way. Started speaking my mind now I'm happy with my woman.

Fuck that, I won't put a mask for someone. I won't break my morals for a woman, if she don't like what I am then she can F off. I am "me" with my GF, I didn't put a mask for her.

Lmao bro I just went full celibate. Wtf are we doing. What is the point of all of this.

yesyes

All these are very true (I mean the opposite of these of course) - however with one caveat: it has to be a person that is intrinsically good at heart and soul. And that's the real challenge these days. When both parties strip all the words of external advice people say of "how to" / "you need to do this and that and that's the only way" then we all know what to do to express and cherish each other intuitively. When we give into the "rules" that are often misguided that's when the noise distorts the perception of intent and need and it can become problematic. Keep searching for that pure intent folks. Much love.

fun format, use it more for sure. But be sure not to stop teaching the opposite too, otherwise you will simply confuse people :D

Might as well do this more often to be fair.

But what do I do when saying no upsets her until you say yes

A beautiful video my brother. Here’s the catch After 35+ years of marriage, my parents divorce 1 month ago I’m 27 The situation may well have been, “my mother was scared to leave, being my dad would threaten her saying she would never see the kids again” (myself and my sister) So she stayed Evidently, sacrificing her own self, you might say My dad was a detective at the highest calibre So here we are, I’ve recently met someone beautiful, But as a man, being masculine, taking the lead, I know 0 about this I feel this is a problem too in todays world, And so the couple then brings kids into the relationship, “this will make us happy” and on it goes I will dive into your Mentorship very shortly, Just thought you might appreciate my side of things, Cause and effect Big fan. ❤️

Not gonna lie, listened to the first 2 minutes and read the comments and I already feel wiser.

I needed to hear a couple of things in this video….. thank you for giving me a reality check

I commend you for sharing your story for men to do better. Unfortunately, most never truly work on themselves, so how can you expect them to work for you

bro is in heaven or whatt??

Masculine grows by challenge! THANKS!!!

I just cried 😢

Ich bin so froh diesen Kanal gefunden zu haben. Du bist besser als alle Deutschen Kanäle. Ich kann mich sehr gut mit deiner vergangenheit identifizieren. Jetzt habe ich eine wundervolle Freundin. Deine Worte helfen mir sehr, am Anfang einiges richtig zu machen. Ich hoffe du machst weiter! Schöne Grüße aus Deutschland

Its not about being a “bad man”, its about being a truly good man which includes the ability to be “bad” but its not bad it’s just standing up for yourself. It’s being true to yourself. It’s being real. The ability to be bad is just putting your foot down and shining a light on shadows. A truly bad man is a coward, a nice man, a man who neglects his moral duties for the satisfaction of his animal desires. A truly bad man disguises himself as a good man. A truly bad man morphs and shape shifts himself to manipulate women for his own pleasure. It’s all well and good getting sex but what does it all mean if it is in expense of your soul? Truth = Good / Strength Fantasy = Bad / Cowardice People care so much about sex on a material level and forget what it means spiritually. It’s meant to fulfil both of you. You’re not meant to regret sex and most definitely neither is she. If you ever get a woman into bed and she regrets it straight after or the next coming days. You fucked up big time. The universe serves true justice. This is a spiritual war we are in.

You were the most random guy I'm watching his videos, I deeply felt each sentence of yours , thanks man

I really need some good advice. I was dating someone a while ago, and while it didnt work out and I for the most part got over it, I realized I messed it up in some ways by being “too nice”. I should have said what I really thought more. Though we werent that compatible, I still feel like things could’ve been different. I want to move on but I can’t forgive myself for these mistakes. I dont know why, I just can’t accept that I messed up. With relationships I feel like its different than most things. If you mess it up once, there aren’t good odds that you’ll get a second chance. Just want some advice if anyone has it. I want to stop thinking about this, its honestly driving me crazy and draining me mentally. Maybe the solution is to stop thinking and focus on moving on

"A cow just sneezed that was funny as fuck..." was all I needed to hear to subscribe! Haha. JK. Great message!

I lost a very good girl just recently. Everything she said, well it hurt. I made almost every mistake you said nearly and you made a point of that. I was stupid and younger and just thought being there was enough. She left me and it broke me. I don't think I can get her back because she fell out of love with me. But I am going to learn from you for the future, for a girl that will come and I won't look for her. As brutal as this loss was to me, I know if I made the effort to change earlier maybe we could have lasted, but I cannot look back now and its easier said than done. I will learn from my mistakes and water my plant every day because I let the last one dry.

I think it isn’t a need to be bad. I think trying to conform to some standards you don’t actually feel is bad. You are being a liar. Lying isn’t good. I think sometimes women will just throw out some dumbass opinion on a date and watch what you do with it. It’s funny I’m watching lil homie at work become an orbiter. He is bending his will to fit in. She doesn’t drink and he is pretending to not be into drinking. I was thinking oh no bro. Idk you must disagree sometimes. The dude has a history of getting in friendzones and I’m just watching him do it.

I thought I had her/it up to two years ago, and quite some time after that too, but I guess I was wrong. Hoping to learn from this for the next potential one. Key word: potential.

Damn bro, this showed up at the best time. My Wife and I have a strong relationship but in recent months we have been still close but she has lost trust in me. I basically trust in her judgement about things and often go against my own instincts and let her call the shots on many things. Our sex life dropped off more recently and she told me she doesn't trust my leadership anymore. Then this video came across my feed 2 days later. I needed to hear this, thank you.