I love my little brown Filipina just the way she is, no whiteners or make up needed.

The prettiest Filipinas ive seen have all been Morena.

300 years of spanish colonialism made Filipinos a lot of self hatred. I lived in the Philippines for a long time and have never seen so many people obsess about skin color and nose shapes before. Its very sad. Filipinos are extremely beautiful people and need to love their natural beauty more.

I just followed you on IG. My name is different but the profile pic is the same.

I encountered the morena phenomenon during my years in South America. It's colonial baggage, just like the crab mentality around a person's ability to speak English. It seems to me that if someone is serious about making a go of it in the Philippines, they need to (at least) learn Tagalog. It's of roughly equal difficulty to Spanish, yet I see a lot of Anglo 'expats" who don't seem to bother and then whine about isolation on their vlogs. If nothing else, having to uncomfortably stumble through a language that we don't have complete mastery of creates understanding for the person we're with as they stumble through communication and relationship hurdles with us. Back to the morena thing. I dated a Bolivian girl who I was really into. She was fiercely intelligent, curious about everything, and had a wicked sense of humor. I wanted to show her a nice time, so I took her to the best restaurant in La Paz. She was ...muted. Uncomfortable. When I asked her what was going on, she told me, "I wouldn't be allowed to clean the tables here if I wasn't with you." There was so much that I didn't know then. I started to catch it though: the way the wait staff dealt with her versus me: dismissive toward her, obsequious toward me. We hurried through our meal (she insisted that we finish it rather than leave). Her dad ran a Pena, and that's where we went afterward: 30 minutes of Andean music and poetry, 30 minutes of conversation, and it goes all night. While she bounced from group to group, completely alive again, I stumbled through, the only non-Bolivian at a VERY traditional Bolivian event. Under the watchful eye of her father, she plopped down next to me and took my hand, grinning with life again. "What do you think?" I told her, "I wouldn't be welcome here if I wasn't with you." She nodded sagely, smooched me on the cheek, and bounced off again. God, she was beautiful. Marcella. Long-lost to me now, but she taught me what a stupid, arrogant person I was in my late 20's. I'm in my mid 50's now. I've made a lot of mistakes, but not all of them, and rarely the same mistake twice. What I DO know is that we have to meet people where they are. If there are biases that result from skin color or height or perception of wealth or crab mentality or lack of exposure to the outside world, those are real to the people we're with. We can find them limiting or ridiculous or unfair, but they're REAL. What we think about that is irrelevant. If your girl is kaymungi, maybe don't take her to a bar full of expats where drunken, loud English and scantily clad bar girls will shut her down. Sure, your arm is over her like you own her, but she doesn't feel safe. And great, you have a condo and a car, and now she lives with you, but she lost her friends because of crab mentality and her family makes demands that weren't there before. You can leave it to her to put her foot down or you can man up. Big Love changes you. You may not be ready for it. But be humble and flexible in case you encounter it. With Marcella's family, I got multiple chances and ruined them. With Claudia's, I got one. Big Love, twice, and I was ready for neither. Perhaps I'll get another chance. I've had 30 years to learn.

I was with someone who had low self-esteem and consequently, major trust issues. It was absolutely stifling. This one was also a malignant narcissist because I REALLY knew how to pick 'em. At any rate, the interplay between low self-esteem and lack of trust is gruesome. I became her emotional prisoner on the theory that if I'm completely transparent about everything, always, then there's no reason to distrust me. No. She routinely projected her fears on me: "You're going to cheat on me." "You're going to leave me." There is no effective argument against projection; you're being pre-accused of something that your partner believes you will do in the future, and she believes it with the same weight as if you were already doing it. I naively thought that if I can improve her self esteem, the trust issue would evaporate. No. What happened instead is that with her newfound self-esteem, she monkey-branched to the NEXT one. That's just one person, I know; mileage varies. But I'm loath to take on another low self-esteem project, especially if there's an age gap. It's a red flag that makes me ask better questions.

Your videos are getting shorter and shorter. In fact, they are almost YT Shorts. Is it due to the cold air up in the north? If you want to keep / increase your subscribers, you honestly need to produce more videos. The interest is there, you just need to maintain it.

You are stunningly beautiful. As a pale white male with blue eyes, I would love darker skin. We always want what we don't have. Hopefully, I can get a bit darker when I move to the Philippines.

Hello Ate Jo! You look just great!

Thank you very much for this video!

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Can I ask if your free and single mwahhhhhh

Thats just crazy cause when i think of a beautiful filipina i'm definitely thinking about morena women.

When a woman says, "Trust me"...........

When a woman says, "Trust me"...........

wow anjo..nice make up,red lips at red nails.😁 Pretty.😍..take care always. ❤mharj❤

Oh for Christ's sake, it is simple, if you want a foreign man, DO NOT whiten or lighten your skin. It may not always be the case, but as a general rule, you can have one or the other. As an American I am amazed how many pretty Filipinas ruin their beautiful skin with whitening products. On the other hand, almost every time I meet another American here, he is with a lovely morena woman (I can count on one hand the times when this has not been true). If other Filipinas look down on her ("she looks like a nanny"), that is their loss. Plus it is a great signal, for us and everyone else, which Filipinas are beautiful inside and out, and which are shallow-minded, and have "beauty" that is only skin deep.

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Much rather date a mareno girl. Much more beautiful to Westerners.

The loser mindset! Pinoys...😅 further emasculation of local men. I understand now why so many men are gay here😢

Hmm surprised she did not mention Chelsea Manalo, Miss Philippines, a morena and beautiful...a good representation of how the country's peoples are growing.

Filipinas don't seem to really believe foreigners love darker skin. And foreigners don't seem to really believe Filipinas like white skin. Pretty weird.

Hello Jo 👋, you know how i feel about Morenas, or you should by now 😊. Skin kissed by the sun , combined with those Ocean eyes, my goodness 😊. Looking very gwapa today , i hope all is well for you and you are enjoying your adventure. How long will you be in Helsinki, whats next? Do a video about it. See you next time .

Good video, Jo, but I notice you didn't answer George's question . . .🤣 Hope you are well and enjoying the last remnants of good weather in Finland. Take care.

We, ex-pats, have a lot to do with Filipinas liking the Sun. We prefer morenas.

I follow you for years , hello

Have a beautiful day, take care and God bless you 🙏 😀😉

Are you single married or have a bf? You're such an incredibly beautiful woman my dear ❤️

Hi! Plus American men tend to side with morena skin tone.

Hello Jo 👋, oh I'm sorry , hey gwapa 😊 , in America couples call each other Bae as a term of endearment

Very endearing, bhe! Thank you, and you have a great day as well. 😊

Terms of endearment are great when used with someone you are actually in a relationship with. But if you are on a Philippines internet dating site and a girl calls you “love” or “honey” or “babe”, etc., within a few minutes of first chatting with you it means she is either a scammer, a cam girl, a freelancer, a sugar baby, or a lady boy. It's such a dead giveaway I’m not sure why they all still do it.

Don't ever ever marry filipina gold diggers and scammers. They only love your money and country..not you. I am talking from experience

Thank you very much for this video!

Always enjoy your language lessons.👍

If a gal is calling the guy she is sleeping with 'uncle' there is some deep issues going on. Why in the world would you do that? Brother, father, teacher, all names you should not use with the guy you have sex with. That is some deep psychological scar that needs to be addressed. My partner calls me something like that, I'm out. That is sounding like a Freudian Slip. What would you think if I started calling you 'sexy Aunt Judy'? In a sentence... "Wow, sexy Aunt Judy, it feels so good when you move like that." Creepy, right?

Beautiful Jo. maybe stay to live in Finland.?

I recognize some of those words 😂 guapo (gwapo) had me blushing through the phone screen 🤭

Thank you for the always educational videos.🙏

Thanks for the Tagalog lesson. I will need some practice 😀

Difficult life! Go home

Thanks for showing us how you live in Finland and what it costs.

Hi Jo! Thank you for the update in your life. I agree with Michael on the innovative use of the bag of potting soil, but yes, the roots maybe need some extra depth to truly bear fruit (as you asked me about on your Patreon page). It’s a bummer to be limited on the groceries you get as you walk them back to your apartment, especially when your time is so precious. Yes. Fresh milk is best (I keep powdered milk on hand). I grew up on whole milk as we always had a milk cow or two to milk by hand. That also makes for a mighty grip for handshakes, or arm wrestling. Later on, was involved with a Grade A dairy in the states, that was an interesting experience.

Thinking its a good idea, she stay living in Finland. and visit home later in life.

It's very kind of the Finnish people to be generous in helping furnish your apartment... especially as you have said, they are very private. Thanks for the always informative videos. You have a very nice apartment. I remember drinking powdered milk as a kid... It doesn't taste the same as liquid milk. Does it? 😊

Thanks for the video, Jo. But I am curious . . . you look like that when you go to work? You must have a guapo client to impress as you look more like you are ready to go out to a nice dinner or a party! Very stylish! 🤣 Take care.

Seems like a good deal: big apartment, balcony, supermarket nearby, green environment, and quiet neighbours ;-). I assume you had to pay a deposit, or your employer did that for you?

Look at you higala, all glamorous 🤩, you could have invited your subscribers to the party 😄. It's good to see you. 100 euro is approx 6100 php . Nice little garden, smart use of bag, next time use 5 gallon buckets, easy to decorate. Thanks for the tour of your home, 😊. Prices not too bad, how about the hotels and mall shopping? How long has it been ? A year yet in Finland?