How to be an LGBTQ Ally: We Need You!
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@nessajames9572
@nessajames9572 2 күн бұрын
Dumb question: I have a roommate that goes by "they." We just had a conversation where they were explaining their current troubles. Half of the time I was afraid to say too much because I felt like I was messing up their pronouns. If they go by "they," am I supposed to not use the word "you" when describing them. For instance if i were to say "I think YOU were right." Do I say "they" instead? Because then that sounds confusing and making it seem like I am agreeing with someone else's side and not "their" side. I hope that makes sense? And when someone uses "they" does that mean they identify as more than one person that makes up the whole or being "inside of them?" Really trying to understand and be supportive and it's difficult to break old habits!
@TheLMC323
@TheLMC323 5 күн бұрын
LIES
@TheLMC323
@TheLMC323 5 күн бұрын
LIES
@TheLMC323
@TheLMC323 5 күн бұрын
Weirdo
@TheLMC323
@TheLMC323 5 күн бұрын
WEIRDO
@TheLMC323
@TheLMC323 5 күн бұрын
I will NOT play the insanity game. Get help, friends.
@rlynn6658
@rlynn6658 5 күн бұрын
I feel like if men stop trying to own women's bodies, and everybody starts respecting everybody else's humanity, we could have two sexes (and a very small number with anomalies) and everybody could just do whatever they want and be free. And be like, yeah, I'm man or woman but it only affects however much of my life I want it to affect. And we don't have to make up all these stupid terms and have different pronouns. You just said that the idea that female people wear dresses was completely made up out of thin air. But then why does a button-up shirt make you more masculine? These things were all just made up! So let's unmake them!!!
@solosunbeam
@solosunbeam 5 күн бұрын
I'm a cis gay man and I watched this so I can try to better understand my nibling (my sister's child) who identifies as non-binary. I'm not there yet, but thank you, this has helped. I get what you said about us all being gender fluid to a degree, its true there are times I like to be what I'd consider "gayer" but could also be described as feminine yet most of the time I am happy with my masculine life.
@RC-qf3mp
@RC-qf3mp 7 күн бұрын
Seems like we can drop the confusing concept of “gender” and just stick to sex. What gets called “gender” is sex-based stereotypes and feelings/desires/beliefs people have regarding their own sex and the sex-based stereotypes. It’s all about sex.
@RM-xr8lq
@RM-xr8lq 6 күн бұрын
might want to take secular coursework in history and biology at a university you may be from some culture that bijects gender to a non-medical reduction of sexual reproductive role, or one that is primitive enough to conflate sexual dimorphism with behavioral identity and expressions (despite said traits not being sex based and empirically proven to not have anatomical requirements), but your system is not universal in scientific literature we are going to continue to observe and report on what humans do in material reality, including the nuances of their social constructs, rather than how some group wants humans to act or self categorize if that makes you insecure, you can keep using your own rituals and practices. you are not required or expected to move past indoctrinated ethnocentrism or to understand these STEM topics. those of us that do understand it aren't going to drop it just because it confuses your people...
@RC-qf3mp
@RC-qf3mp 6 күн бұрын
@@RM-xr8lq what, in particular, am I getting wrong? “Gender” has no consistent meaning and has devolved into nonsense. An analysis of the history of the term shows how it started off as a term that referred to language (ie, German language has three genders) then became a euphemism for sex for squeamish Americans. Then Dr Money introduced his madman experiments. And then Butler came along. What is missing in replacing the word gender with more precise and accurate terms all based on sex as I suggest above? Odd that you resort to personal attacks . If I said something false, just point out specifically what I got wrong.
@RC-qf3mp
@RC-qf3mp 6 күн бұрын
@@RM-xr8lq you are confusing ‘gender’ for ‘sex-based stereotype’. Different cultures have different sex-based stereotypes. This is true. Ethnocentrism is to deny that fact; i do not. Gender ideology, which is anti-science, holds that there is some magical thing, called ‘gender’, which they can’t define non-circularly, and which can magically be ‘aligned with’ sex, but is not sex and not merely a sex-based stereotype. So perhaps point out if and where I’m wrong. Define gender (non-circularly), define sex, and the relation between the two. Sadly, gender ideologues social justice warriors such as yourself have problems with basic definitions. Like theology, everything is a mystery.
@RM-xr8lq
@RM-xr8lq 6 күн бұрын
@@RC-qf3mp when studying general humans from a secular perspective, gender is referring to a mode of identity and expression contextual to the individual and culture they are being examined under. some cultures do not allow self-identifying gender since it is assigned externally, so an individuals gender identity may not match their perception by others. other cultures do not consider gender static, so it is not an issue to change it this is separate from the physical anatomy of a person that sex generally refers to, which is either a boolean referencing a dichotomized model of human reproductive role (ignoring the null value/intersex), or just a collection of primary and secondary sexual characteristics (e.g. some studies might look at hormone levels and other attributes for a more direct correlation than simply “sex”). some aspects of “sex” (when using the latter definition) can be dynamic, and there is quite a lot of overlap in general, so you might hear it referred to as a bimodal distribution labeling a person from the bugis society only by anatomical “sex”, and labeling an hijra only by sex, does not tell you the same knowledge as using both sex and a separate category for gender. those two cultures do not have the same categories for gender, and do not assign them in the same way. using your suggestion of “dropping gender and just stick to sex” results in information loss. there is little consistency in the mapping of “sex-gender” across different human societies, especially when considering modern LGBT sub-populations where expectations are thrown out the window thus any correlation between sex and gender is (a) inconsistent across different human groups and (b) insufficient to accurately transform from one to the other without data loss, hence why they are seen as distinct. this discussion is mostly an issue in a language like English, where they have decided to use these two same words in vastly different ways across their media and academic literature. ignoring their etymology, and instead seeing “sex” and “gender” as “fieldA” and “fieldB” relating to the above meanings, it should be obvious why you might want to keep both those data fields for analysis
@hollow_ios
@hollow_ios 14 күн бұрын
thank you so much for making me actually feel seen
@haifait
@haifait 17 күн бұрын
Gender is also if somebody think that he is pig cow etc
@sinesaii
@sinesaii 25 күн бұрын
It is strange how much more important gender stereotypes are today as opposed to 20-25 years ago. Tom boys were never an issues. Feminine boys were picked on, and that sucked (I was effeminate), but so long as the guy had friends (like I did), everything was okay. Now life seems so much worse. This gender/sex thing is just mental masterbation. It does not matter. Wear a dress, sleep with whomever you want, but attacking the language is silly. We have too much “identity” BS infecting social life. It is pointless. Life how you want, but leave the rest of us alone.
@chrisb1805
@chrisb1805 Ай бұрын
The book sounds like 20% truth and 80% BS.
@PoliticalSins
@PoliticalSins Ай бұрын
Why say man and woman are genders? The dictionary defines them in relation to being female or male. Having a term for every nuance in expression is convoluted and useless.
@alanaban1840
@alanaban1840 Ай бұрын
One thing you left out is that you mind be sick in all of this / today you feel like a woman and tomorrow a man / next day you do not know what u feel like / that is another gender ( gender confused) / we keep on adding
@alanaban1840
@alanaban1840 Ай бұрын
No
@robertfowler9704
@robertfowler9704 Ай бұрын
This makes no sense to me. It's backwards. Gender is what you're born with. Sex is what you do with it. Bi-sexual means you're attracted to both genders, will have sex with either. Not that you have the genitals of both genders. I've never heard "let's have gender tonight" from anyone. Sex is the activity, gender is the biology. You can decide the activity. You can't change the Biology. At least that makes sense.
@FreedomMeansLearning-ke7dk
@FreedomMeansLearning-ke7dk Ай бұрын
Hey lady Lorri! Why'd you stop posting? If you went out of joy, at least you're pursuing something fun now. If you need some ideas... 1. What are recent trends? Why are they happening? What can individuals do about them? 2. What are causes of dishonesty? How can we cause other people to open up? 3. What makes connections deep and meaningful? How do they go from shallow to strong? 4. We all know that we can do better. But why don't we always do what we consider important? 5. How can we work on ourselves, to become unique and independent, while remaining social and well-connected? 6. What are important principles of leadership? Why do people not know about them? Why aren't they obvious, or obvious and ignored? 7. Can unhealthy relationships or families or friendships, be healthy? Or is there a general consensus. Like some people prefer walking. 8. What happens to us, at a cognitive level, when we give up? How can we become more resilient and gain back our confidence? 9. What are 10 tiny superhabits that we can use for better relationships, emotion regulation, etc. 10. What makes good teamwork? And where can teamwork be applied in life? in Family? in friendships? Where else? How? Have a great day, and never give up :)
@FreedomMeansLearning-ke7dk
@FreedomMeansLearning-ke7dk Ай бұрын
Wow, what a great summary!
@LorriSulpizio
@LorriSulpizio Ай бұрын
@@FreedomMeansLearning-ke7dk thanks!,
@SmallWorld-dh1sw
@SmallWorld-dh1sw Ай бұрын
Why as a born sex of being a woman I feel like any traits that make me a human being are considered to be masculine and are for "men" it still makes no sense to me.
@cobrakai5190
@cobrakai5190 Ай бұрын
So, if there is a Womens group having a special event for say knitting and you feel like a Man that day, that evening, I guess that day you won't and should not be allowed in? We're talking about that one night, one minute of time when you show up at the door??? Mind you, i did not say Female night event. Also, I guess you would agree that EVERYONE now should be drafted for war since as you say we no longer basically need an archaic "system" in place discriminating against CIS men?
@acousticmonkey2209
@acousticmonkey2209 Ай бұрын
Thank you. This is one of the better videos I have seen giving a simple explanation for the difference between gender and sex🙂
@MxAnge
@MxAnge Ай бұрын
Hey Dr. Lorri! First off, love your videos! I'm an agender AMAB person who stumbled upon your videos and appreciate the work your doing in that realm. I've suffered from "imposter syndrome" for many years., from my job to how I've raised my kids, to so many other things over the decades that I've forgotten the vast majority of them. It seems like it's ever-present in my life, to the point where I don't even recognize it anymore. Anyway, the reason for my comment is that it struck me (surprisingly) at how gendered (binary) the discussion was in this video. it's not a critique, as I thoroughly enjoyed it and got a lot out of it, it was just something I noticed. I know you led with 'anyone can get imposter syndrome but...', but everything after that seemed to draw a stark line between the gender binary. I get it though, it's (unfortunately) the world we live in... there's a lot of distinct buckets that society has spent years filling with binary gender stereotypes (and outright reality), and they're not going to disappear overnight, as much as I wish they would. Anyway, it's just what popped into my head when I was watching and thought I'd say hello and share. Thanks for your work and all the content you've provided! 💜
@kengriffin
@kengriffin Ай бұрын
How does a non binary urinate?
@portersmith1876
@portersmith1876 2 ай бұрын
From 2010 up until 2022 I was in a homosexual relationship however, near the end of the relationship when my ex-boyfriends' mother passed after a prolonged battle with metastatic pancreatic cancer. Upon receiving the early morning phone call telling us that his mother had passed during the night hours, After that point our relationship started to gradually deteriorate on a progression which steadily worsened over time. but in the last 4 to 5 years of the relationship I started to figure out that I wasn't homosexual,heterosexual or bisexural however I was in fact a young pan-sexual person.
@DragonGamer0713
@DragonGamer0713 2 ай бұрын
I have struggled heavily all my life being bio female, but being masculine in nature. I had a boy name and a girl name before I was born and in some strange, headcanon way, that might've triggered something in me. I wasn’t exactly "bullied" for my boyish nature (I learned later I was bullied for my mental issues), but I did notice as I grew up, I didnt have any friends. Girls avoided me because I was a brute and guys avoided me because I was a "girl" and thats all they saw. I think it was in middle school I heard the term "tomboy" aka "a girl that acts like a boy" (in the simplest of terms to a kid) and THAT became my label. I still hold that label to this day, but learning that genderfluid is more or less the same (depending on mood, events, etc), I felt like "Genderfluid" was the official label to put on my gender. Im still a bio female, but I can answer to any pronoun/gender nickname (dude, bro, bestie, sis, girl, etc), keep my hair short (my hair long is a NIGHTMARE to maintain!), love men's clothes especially t-shirts, and holy crap the video games and horror movies I have see/played in my lifetime?! But I have noticed as I got older that I like to wear certain jewelry, like fruity alcoholic drinks (although I can drink straight vodka but haven't in years), like to write romance fiction, and online browse/shop. Yeah, I'm Genderfluid. Thank you for this video. Ive struggled for awhile to figure out if I was Genderfluid or not, but thanks to you, I figured it out.
@Misakachichan
@Misakachichan 2 ай бұрын
OMG!! I NEEDED THIS!!!❤❤❤
@melammutumultus4654
@melammutumultus4654 2 ай бұрын
I thought this was a good video and I could really relate to it. I never really fit in the woman box but I'm not gay or want to be a man per se. I just really hate how society has to label everything, when in labling then there's a prioritization and expectation that goes along with it. I can say with a certainty that I don't like women's roles in society and i have always viewed it as a slave status. I always wondered how much of my gender fluidity was due to the fact that I don't want to be considered a second-class citizen or deficient or underestimated 🤷
@jjlindquist601
@jjlindquist601 2 ай бұрын
I’ve been ugly, beautiful crying because I’m feeling I need to label myself. Right now, I say I’m a non-binary lesbian with they/he/she pronouns. I’m going to explore that gender-fluid is more me. I love being masc presenting…but also see my bio as a woman. But then I like her femmes and unfortunately mis-assume they want me more masc. I just want to be authentically me.
@Genmai29
@Genmai29 2 ай бұрын
I always felt like a guy but not full a guy, but not nearly enough to say I resonate with being women either. I’ve thought about where I fall before but ended up just staying known as a guy. Can someone help explain what I should be doing looking into about myself. I do like being feminine sometimes but mostly masculine the rest of the time. I’m not sure if I’m making the right decision atm since I just broke up with my partner who was non binary. I don’t want to be confused with some way to still feel connected to them instead of what I truly feel. But it was my first experience dating non binary. I’m at a loss. Should I just give it a try and try to explore myself or should I give myself some time to heal from the break up first
@ThegreatfishfromMars
@ThegreatfishfromMars 2 ай бұрын
I think another thing that they did not touch on in this conversation is that we, as tribal species, categorize ourselves into groups. We tend to socialize and mimic the behaviour of people who are similar to us, and our gender identity forms because we develop an idea of what it means to be male or female. This is probably a big part of why we have social expectations for men and women. Of course, this is not going to be true for all people, as evolution and psychology are really not consistent.
@zhiqiry
@zhiqiry 2 ай бұрын
Nobody is willing to be gaslit. The problem is that if a person never would have that kind of behaviour themselves they will not think about that someone else would so when it happens they are not prepared for it. When the behaviour continues and they still don't leave, it is important to remember that gaslighting people often choose someone who doesn't have so many friends. In order to leave they might have to go back to being lonely and then it might be easier to live in denial for a while. But you leave when you can leave and then you leave for good. New relationships make it easier to leave.
@mikeschmidt4696
@mikeschmidt4696 2 ай бұрын
I never really felt like a "full woman" or "full man". I am shaped like a woman with the skull shape of a man. I enjoy "woman" characteristics and "male" characteristics. I used to hate my male side because I thought it would make me a "lesser woman". There are days were I'm super girly and days I'm acting super manly. I sometimes prefer all pink/purple and sometimes all blue/green. One day I enjoy wearing men's perfume and another day I wanna smell like roses. I sometimes go through the women's clothing section and I'm in love with everything. Another day I avoid it like a plague and fall in love with the men's section. I always thought that this state makes me nothing but a weirdo. Hoping one day I'll be a "proper woman". But today I talked with a friend. I recently realized I might be pan and he also said he has the same "issue". I talked about my gender issue and he jokingly brought up the question "What if your future partner called you a he/dude one day?"... The thought made me happy. But I'm also happy being called a she. I don't know if this makes me gender fluid.. But ever since he brought that up I've been questioning myself so hard haha
@saxaphone9496
@saxaphone9496 2 ай бұрын
Sex and gender are binary.
@akhilkirty9342
@akhilkirty9342 3 ай бұрын
Very logical video.
@rubyhospitality
@rubyhospitality 3 ай бұрын
Thank you! I tried to drunkenly explain this to my friend and you do it much more eloquently, I'll send her this video.
@Oneironaut9
@Oneironaut9 3 ай бұрын
You have to have a PhD to be this brainwashed and stupid these days.
@jonathanjordan2914
@jonathanjordan2914 3 ай бұрын
Beautiful!
@chopsueey
@chopsueey 3 ай бұрын
That was awesome! Thank you very much. Really well spoken and calming. I could listen to you for hours^^
@aniekanakai
@aniekanakai 3 ай бұрын
This was the most helpful in explaining the terms and addressing some of my issues with the terminology. It is a topic I've always been curious in understanding more of, esp the term non binary. I recently had a queer friend explain it a bit more to me as a personal subjective identification, more than an objective descriptor. This clears that up a bit more. My issue with the nb term has always been bother some to me because it seems like an attempt at rebeling against gender expectations but I feel like it upholds it. I feel that way because I have a belief that we as a society have fought so hard to break down those strict gender roles/expressions and the people that uphold that have always been the weird ones, so the addition of nb as a label always seemed redundant because imo every rational person is nb(switching between masc and fem, i actually also think these terms are obsolete) in one way or the other. I'm seen as a masc person but if you watch me long enough you'll see me be fem in one way or the other, same with all my super macho masc friends, and vice versa with my most feminine friends. With that said the term, nb, seems to create a new distinction and a new goal for those that identify as cis, to fully and "correctly" express their gender. I think it upholds the binary more. I hope i'm wrong and we all just get to a point where gender is seen as irrelevant and we are all gender nonconforming.
@zhiqiry
@zhiqiry 3 ай бұрын
@zhiqiry
@zhiqiry 3 ай бұрын
When you say gender in English, is that the same as gender role? 😊
@barryledgister4496
@barryledgister4496 3 ай бұрын
I don`t see a `gender revolution` as described in the video description. If anything the traditional binary will be strengthened, and the GNC people ignored as having an unworkable, illogical ideology. Offer people something that makes sense and then you will probably have a revolution (in consuming, travel, work etc) but mumbling about abstractions when the physical is obvious...no revolution.
@iamerica7887
@iamerica7887 3 ай бұрын
Yeah, let's break the gender norms! Who needs them anyway?! We need to go back to that. Great video and great message.❤
@LorriSulpizio
@LorriSulpizio 3 ай бұрын
Yes, thanks! Appreciate you. 💙
@dankelly7712
@dankelly7712 3 ай бұрын
1. Two sexes 2. No genders 3. Infinite personalities Sex is a binary, literally, sperm and ova. Secondary sex characteristics ( Adams apple, breasts, hip width, etc) can exist on a spectrum of sorts, but they are SECONDARY SEX CHARACTERISTICS. It’s true we need to be more open to breaking down expected gender roles, stereotypes etc. People should be free to live as they want. Men can be masculine or feminine in their presentation, women can be feminine or masculine in their presentation. But it doesn’t require a vast array of incoherent gender identity philosophies. Its a simple concept, made continuously complex, incoherent and non-parsimonious by current gender ideology.
@ruthtirado2750
@ruthtirado2750 3 ай бұрын
Can we PLEASE just go back to the simplicity of the Bible???
@Stabsnipers
@Stabsnipers 3 ай бұрын
You mean putting people in jail for working on the sabbath?
@Dibious
@Dibious 3 ай бұрын
I'm a cis man and I really enjoyed this video. I'm fascinated with the different ways that peopoe live their lives and all the different kinds of people out there. You're video was very educational, thank you.👍
@theresagaignard1103
@theresagaignard1103 3 ай бұрын
Cis 58 yo female here. Yes. I was curious why so many young people are declaring their pronouns these days, so I Googled it and found this very helpful video. When I was in college for art and theatre in the early 80s, my wide circle of friends included a whole, complex spectrum of genders. We just didn’t worry about how other people defined us.
@adriennedecerce3479
@adriennedecerce3479 9 сағат бұрын
Cis man? So your a man. There's no such thing as "cis" anything
@crescentmoon256
@crescentmoon256 4 ай бұрын
anomaly detected
@chriscyanide2885
@chriscyanide2885 4 ай бұрын
This video gave me chills. I'm not in a place where I can comfortably present myself the way I would like to, but hearing that it's okay to do so brought me a lot of joy. Thank you
@ONCEFORVER12
@ONCEFORVER12 4 ай бұрын
same! it was really relieving to hear :)
@Tahahahahahahaha
@Tahahahahahahaha 4 ай бұрын
There is no gender issue. It is simply narcissism. You can tell by the way this interviewer is completely obsessed with hyper analyzing and categorizing herself. She needs to get a hobby or interest that doesn’t revolve around her self-imagine.