Thanks Doctor. I never questioned my gender and sex cause I fit the norms of society. But as I explore social constructs I wanted to understand each member of our community. I wish everyone watched this.

Stop being delusional. Accept yourself....youre not free because you don't accept yourself. Be YOU!! BE REAL.Ya'll making this complicated.

Gender Fluid here. Thanks for your support ❤

Very informative.

I like it. Count me in.

pan sexual lol all this bs made up crap .. dumb AF I’m a cat I’m a dog !

In the German language their is no real distinction between sex and gender we only really have the word sex but there we kinda just go and say biological-sex and social-sex and I mean thats it it´s a social construct gender roles are a social or societal construct I mean they don´t really exist. I like the part about describing yourself I personally don´t have a ton of direct connection to this topic but I still wanna learn something and this being about authenticity and describing yourself seems interesting to me. I feel like that could be a good argument to some more conservative people I know that have lets say problems with a lot of things including gender. Also btw I totaly support this revolution if it makes people happy then yeah why not. No one is getting harmed here so I don´t see how people are against this also good quick explanation thanks vor the video.

End of gender, REALlY? You people are as bad as the ppl from other countries who are offended by our traditions and want to change it. Well, I am offended, so do you have any concern for the rest of us"?

I am so glad that I don't have 25 more years to live, I would not make it through a day without some kind of argument over this stupid issue.

I wonder why þis video wasn't first. The algorithm is a pain. Good video þough.

I love that gender non conforming that’s me!

Nothing not grounded in reality should be respected as if it were real. That is egotistical.

for thousands of years the way we described people was by describing them as feminine or masculine. Men could be feminine and women could be masculine and vice versa. Then along came this idiot named John money who created the word gender in 1955. There is zero evidence that gender exists it’s just a made up word that has no actual meaning.

Finally, a good conversation about gender without the usual politics and extremisms. I've been looking for something I feel comfortable sharing with my daughter and this is the best I've found so far.

It might be important to you in what you believe you are, but it's not important for me, in my mind your a non entity I can live with that it's not an issue.

This is the second most stupid idea that's come out of the LGBT agenda. The first is that I somehow am at all responsible for giving a shit about his you feel on a given day or how I handle your pronoun.

Thank you so much for this video. I was born a biological female. I grew up being teased for acting boyish. I even remember getting a Utah jazz basketball with a hoop .and had only boys as playmates. I had more girl crushes than boys. I used to wear dresses, until i came out as bisexual..and i just stopped being comfortable wearing a dress and girly shoes. I have always felt comfortable and myself when i dressed like a man. I'm gender fluid.

Ayo this is a wild comment section 👀 i just came to stop by but imma exit stage left Expeditiously! Hope yal get the help you need though✊🏾

8:14 I feel the same, I categorize myself as female instead of woman in biological terms, because woman doesn’t just have a biological meaning but a sociological one, united with the gender, and personally my body looks androgynous, there are things I would like to change with exercise and a good diet so that I could look a bit more masculine, using clothing that I like to express myself, a haircut as well, choose my pronouns and name, from now I use binders (safe binding), but maybe one day I could have a top surgery to feel better with my body since having a flat chest is something I’ve always wanted, and perhaps training my voice so it could be more masculine. (This might seem part of the procedure that some trans man takes since my expression is in part non binary and masculine, which is the definition of demoboy), but that’s just my experience.

8:14 I feel the same, I categorize myself as female instead of woman in biological terms, because woman doesn’t just have a biological meaning but a sociological one, united with the gender, and personally my body looks androgynous, there are things I would like to change with exercise and a good diet so that I could look a bit more masculine, using clothing that I like to express myself, a haircut as well, choose my pronouns and name, from now I use binders (safe binding), but maybe one day I could have a top surgery to feel better with my body since having a flat chest is something I’ve always wanted, and perhaps training my voice so it could be more masculine. (This might seem part of the procedure that some trans man takes since my expression is in part non binary and masculine, which is the definition of demoboy), but that’s just my experience.

I am nonbinary, I see thing is this way, biologically there are three sex (female, male and intersex), in the terms of dividing humans from other animals we call young females “girls”, adult females “Woman”, young males “boys”, and adult males “man”, but that’s part of a sintaxis which only meaning isn’t biological, because it’ll be odd just to say that a woman is only a woman because she’s a female, or that a man is only a man because he’s a male, there’s so much more than that, and therefore it enters the “gender”, in which says what makes a woman being a woman, or a man being a man outside of the body they we’re born, how is their core, how they experience girlhood, boyhood, womanhood, and manhood, which roles in society (they decide to take part in), how they express their femininity and masculinity, how they dress, how they act, what they like or not, to embrace their gender, I see being a man and a woman sociologically as something that you learn and if you feel good with it then you embrace it, what I meant to say is that being a man, and a woman, are experiences, to live in the rol of, and being seen as, and feeling as one, something that you learn, and it’s not entirely attached to the biological body, (but still some people might transition to feel better in their own bodies, to match their gender expression). But the thing is that these binary experiences are often damaging not only for man and woman but for other people who doesn’t fit in one part or another, people like me who didn’t had a boyhood/girlhood instead just a childhood, and now an adulthood, sometimes gender can be unfair by the hierarchy in which man are often seen as the ones with more freedom to perform activities, but their gender had also damaged them because of the toxic masculinity, which means to suppress emotions and act often violently within a lack of morals, by the other hand the gender of being a woman contains many beautiful and powerful meanings such as be sensitive and compassionate, but it had also been oppressed and seen as fragile, undefensive and with less rights and opportunities than man, today it’s getting better for man and woman but not all around the world, like in Pakistan in which being born as female involves to having the gender of a woman and instantly they dehumanize them… it’s something horribly unfair and inhuman. Personally as one human who’s part of the IGBTQ+ community, I hope that one day we acknowledge that sex isn’t something that binary, there’s sex divergency like intersex people, not only males and females, and perhaps one day we won’t be categorizing ourselves as man, woman, boy, girl, and just humans, children, the same and equal, or perhaps if binary gender keeps existing it’ll be up to anyone to decide and express it the way they want and if they don’t feel like being part of the binary gender, then being free to express and develop and be themselves, because everyone is different and therefore express different, each mind is an entire universe. If perhaps one day this comes true I think that it’ll be the best, and gender dysphoria could disappear since everyone will be free to be acknowledged as human beings instead of an stereotype, self understanding and love for others would be what makes us respect the expressions of others and embrace our selves, at the end, every time I se another person I don’t mind if it’s a man, I don’t mind if it’s a woman, or any other gender, I see a human who’s capable to do grate things, someone who’s life matters as much as every other living being, someone who’s an equal, someone who has good things and bad things, and it’s own way of expression, it’s own way of understanding the world around them, it doesn’t matter what they do, as long as they aren’t hurting anyone, they’ll be great human beings.

Non-binary and gender fluid is such made up nonsense.

Thank you! This was helpful in understanding the language floating around these days, and I’m sure I’ll watch it at least a couple more times. Personally, I’ve often been told “you think like a guy” or even “you’re such a guy.” But I’ve always been SAFE as me (cis f) and don’t worry about other people labeling me for their convenience.

Dumb question: I have a roommate that goes by "they." We just had a conversation where they were explaining their current troubles. Half of the time I was afraid to say too much because I felt like I was messing up their pronouns. If they go by "they," am I supposed to not use the word "you" when describing them. For instance if i were to say "I think YOU were right." Do I say "they" instead? Because then that sounds confusing and making it seem like I am agreeing with someone else's side and not "their" side. I hope that makes sense? And when someone uses "they" does that mean they identify as more than one person that makes up the whole or being "inside of them?" Really trying to understand and be supportive and it's difficult to break old habits!

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I will NOT play the insanity game. Get help, friends.

I feel like if men stop trying to own women's bodies, and everybody starts respecting everybody else's humanity, we could have two sexes (and a very small number with anomalies) and everybody could just do whatever they want and be free. And be like, yeah, I'm man or woman but it only affects however much of my life I want it to affect. And we don't have to make up all these stupid terms and have different pronouns. You just said that the idea that female people wear dresses was completely made up out of thin air. But then why does a button-up shirt make you more masculine? These things were all just made up! So let's unmake them!!!

I'm a cis gay man and I watched this so I can try to better understand my nibling (my sister's child) who identifies as non-binary. I'm not there yet, but thank you, this has helped. I get what you said about us all being gender fluid to a degree, its true there are times I like to be what I'd consider "gayer" but could also be described as feminine yet most of the time I am happy with my masculine life.

Seems like we can drop the confusing concept of “gender” and just stick to sex. What gets called “gender” is sex-based stereotypes and feelings/desires/beliefs people have regarding their own sex and the sex-based stereotypes. It’s all about sex.

thank you so much for making me actually feel seen

Gender is also if somebody think that he is pig cow etc

It is strange how much more important gender stereotypes are today as opposed to 20-25 years ago. Tom boys were never an issues. Feminine boys were picked on, and that sucked (I was effeminate), but so long as the guy had friends (like I did), everything was okay. Now life seems so much worse. This gender/sex thing is just mental masterbation. It does not matter. Wear a dress, sleep with whomever you want, but attacking the language is silly. We have too much “identity” BS infecting social life. It is pointless. Life how you want, but leave the rest of us alone.

The book sounds like 20% truth and 80% BS.

Why say man and woman are genders? The dictionary defines them in relation to being female or male. Having a term for every nuance in expression is convoluted and useless.

One thing you left out is that you mind be sick in all of this / today you feel like a woman and tomorrow a man / next day you do not know what u feel like / that is another gender ( gender confused) / we keep on adding

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This makes no sense to me. It's backwards. Gender is what you're born with. Sex is what you do with it. Bi-sexual means you're attracted to both genders, will have sex with either. Not that you have the genitals of both genders. I've never heard "let's have gender tonight" from anyone. Sex is the activity, gender is the biology. You can decide the activity. You can't change the Biology. At least that makes sense.

Hey lady Lorri! Why'd you stop posting? If you went out of joy, at least you're pursuing something fun now. If you need some ideas... 1. What are recent trends? Why are they happening? What can individuals do about them? 2. What are causes of dishonesty? How can we cause other people to open up? 3. What makes connections deep and meaningful? How do they go from shallow to strong? 4. We all know that we can do better. But why don't we always do what we consider important? 5. How can we work on ourselves, to become unique and independent, while remaining social and well-connected? 6. What are important principles of leadership? Why do people not know about them? Why aren't they obvious, or obvious and ignored? 7. Can unhealthy relationships or families or friendships, be healthy? Or is there a general consensus. Like some people prefer walking. 8. What happens to us, at a cognitive level, when we give up? How can we become more resilient and gain back our confidence? 9. What are 10 tiny superhabits that we can use for better relationships, emotion regulation, etc. 10. What makes good teamwork? And where can teamwork be applied in life? in Family? in friendships? Where else? How? Have a great day, and never give up :)

Wow, what a great summary!

Why as a born sex of being a woman I feel like any traits that make me a human being are considered to be masculine and are for "men" it still makes no sense to me.

So, if there is a Womens group having a special event for say knitting and you feel like a Man that day, that evening, I guess that day you won't and should not be allowed in? We're talking about that one night, one minute of time when you show up at the door??? Mind you, i did not say Female night event. Also, I guess you would agree that EVERYONE now should be drafted for war since as you say we no longer basically need an archaic "system" in place discriminating against CIS men?

Thank you. This is one of the better videos I have seen giving a simple explanation for the difference between gender and sex🙂

Hey Dr. Lorri! First off, love your videos! I'm an agender AMAB person who stumbled upon your videos and appreciate the work your doing in that realm. I've suffered from "imposter syndrome" for many years., from my job to how I've raised my kids, to so many other things over the decades that I've forgotten the vast majority of them. It seems like it's ever-present in my life, to the point where I don't even recognize it anymore. Anyway, the reason for my comment is that it struck me (surprisingly) at how gendered (binary) the discussion was in this video. it's not a critique, as I thoroughly enjoyed it and got a lot out of it, it was just something I noticed. I know you led with 'anyone can get imposter syndrome but...', but everything after that seemed to draw a stark line between the gender binary. I get it though, it's (unfortunately) the world we live in... there's a lot of distinct buckets that society has spent years filling with binary gender stereotypes (and outright reality), and they're not going to disappear overnight, as much as I wish they would. Anyway, it's just what popped into my head when I was watching and thought I'd say hello and share. Thanks for your work and all the content you've provided! 💜

How does a non binary urinate?

From 2010 up until 2022 I was in a homosexual relationship however, near the end of the relationship when my ex-boyfriends' mother passed after a prolonged battle with metastatic pancreatic cancer. Upon receiving the early morning phone call telling us that his mother had passed during the night hours, After that point our relationship started to gradually deteriorate on a progression which steadily worsened over time. but in the last 4 to 5 years of the relationship I started to figure out that I wasn't homosexual,heterosexual or bisexural however I was in fact a young pan-sexual person.

I have struggled heavily all my life being bio female, but being masculine in nature. I had a boy name and a girl name before I was born and in some strange, headcanon way, that might've triggered something in me. I wasn’t exactly "bullied" for my boyish nature (I learned later I was bullied for my mental issues), but I did notice as I grew up, I didnt have any friends. Girls avoided me because I was a brute and guys avoided me because I was a "girl" and thats all they saw. I think it was in middle school I heard the term "tomboy" aka "a girl that acts like a boy" (in the simplest of terms to a kid) and THAT became my label. I still hold that label to this day, but learning that genderfluid is more or less the same (depending on mood, events, etc), I felt like "Genderfluid" was the official label to put on my gender. Im still a bio female, but I can answer to any pronoun/gender nickname (dude, bro, bestie, sis, girl, etc), keep my hair short (my hair long is a NIGHTMARE to maintain!), love men's clothes especially t-shirts, and holy crap the video games and horror movies I have see/played in my lifetime?! But I have noticed as I got older that I like to wear certain jewelry, like fruity alcoholic drinks (although I can drink straight vodka but haven't in years), like to write romance fiction, and online browse/shop. Yeah, I'm Genderfluid. Thank you for this video. Ive struggled for awhile to figure out if I was Genderfluid or not, but thanks to you, I figured it out.

OMG!! I NEEDED THIS!!!❤❤❤