If the other person cannot or will not take accountability for their mistakes, it's not possible to resolve issues.

Trying to be intimate with someone that is critical of you all day everyday is impossible. It wears you down after a while and you find yourself not even liking the person. It’s just best to leave it’s never going to get better.

Lmao yeah I have no siblings or other family so…

Now in my 20s, I'm surrounded by guys with fragile ego taking everything personally, blaming others for criticising them and blaming circumstances for their failure. It's so infuriating to babysit their feelings, when they can just suck it up and grow up! It's not about their inner child anymore, it's them being an adult child! If everyone has an ego, why should I be the one sacrificing mine for your comfort? Guess I'm just young and immature in terms of taking care of guys' feelings, that's why I can't figure it out.

This was incredibly helpful. Each point really made me think, thank you Dr. Matt!

My health is low, when ive been an athlete and healthy my whole life till these past three years. I thought it might be from covid but i dont know. Cant seem to get back to my old health. Tired, irritated, melancholy every day. Its not super bad, and I think he's doing his best but emotionally unavailable and usues all kinds of tactics to play head games to make me feel like i am being needy when hes the one who seems shut down. As i have adjusted, i feel im losing myself....im depressed and anxious, unhappy, bitter i guess. After four years do i just leave...?

Lead and influence if you’re the strongest relationally

👉law of India 🕵️👉law of man not naryan 😯

What's the point?

My father will never change… he’s one big disappointment!!

these cops spend so much effort, time and money to achieve so little. My dude is not taking off his music playlist. Its never going to happen. keep crying

Bro imagine being so horny you risk being dismembered by the cartel....................

we don't want to have sex with old cows, do you people understand or not? Don't make us do you even more harm.

show them their family on livegore

Now imagine that pushy person is your wife. And she won't stop.

❤❤❤❤ yay love Dr. Matt

Im here to help my friend get through a hard time with her gf She likes to use me as a therapist and im happy to help and learn so here i am

The difference between hearing criticism from a child is we don’t really respect the child like we do our spouse so it’s not the same. I respect my boyfriend so his criticism really hurts and I argue with him that he shouldn’t say that about me or treat me that way. Just saying “yes dear” or laughing in his face works for someone who doesn’t respect their spouse. I guess I’m fighting to keep that respect because once it’s gone i won’t be interested in him anymore.

So when a new poor neighbor sees me carrying my shopping bags n says "you went shopping again? you must have a lot of stuff in your apt" should i say i feel like it doesnt matter . .i feel like its my hard earned money . .or i work hard for my stuff dont i ? . No wonder she offerred to help unload my car and asked THREE times to bring IT INSIDE my apt ! My bad for accepting her manipulative help. i dont want to piss her off bcuz this poor neighbor grew up with my immediate next door neighbor who i dont care for either. I just recently moved in. Dont want to make enemies. Recently i was going lunch she asked on sidewalk if i was going to work? I think i'll just laugh n say, im just going ! Any suggestions.

Some people could be expressionless by choice, not just because of some medical condition or personality disorder.

“70 percent of divorces are filed by women”………. Update: that number increases to 90% if he has graduate level or doctoral education. Jumping out of a Plane ✈️ with a 70% - 90% chance that a parachute will not open is not something any man should sign up for, because that’s what happens with divorce.

People need to stop using the word Narcissistic per this video. Nothing described here is narcissistic. You have lack of knowledge of the meaning. People don’t have to be narcissistic to not give in a relationship, and for many reasons. Some don’t know how to give. They may have ptsd from other relationships. They might self sabotage because they don’t feel they are worthy and it’s their way to get out and be back to their comfort zone of being alone because that’s always the result. Plus many more. What people lack is communication, empathy, and the inability to truly listen and understand.

I’m sorry . . . But cleaning should be done completely. For example . . . When you clean the kitchen, wipe down the counters, refrigerator, stove and floor also need to be cleaned.I hate a half ass job!

OMG!!!! I needed to hear this.

I feel like. ‘No’ is a complete sentence. 🎉

This is honestly about the only good advice that I've found on this topic.. Everything else just makes it sound like you are responsible for making them happy... "Try doing the dishes for them and asking what else you can do to please them so they don't try to make you miserable and criticize everything you do", unreal 😅 For some of us, we've tried everything and there is literally no changing the pessimistic and critical person we are married to. That being said, this advice actually focuses on what YOU can do to keep YOUR head above water and not get wrapped up in their negativity. Love it! Thank you!

In most cases you are dealing with an egoncentric or some traits of a narcissism. No cure , no terapy. Leave as quickly as possible

My mother did that whole my life. Im completely exosted😢 There is no differnence today Im 55. She still do same. Problem is that I push back. So bad circle is there whole time.

Tell’em to f off!

If you have your inlaw move in w you because they need help you become their parent but they will never listen to you and dont care about consequences of their behavior 😢hence why they have to rely on you in the first place!

I’ve seen it, strong and nice doesn’t work sometimes.

Call them out if its just to much and consitant, it needs to stop,often a critical partner is projecting their own bullshit onto you.

Great counsel. Background “music” very annoying

ॐ नमः शिवाय 📿🕉️🙏 Om Namah shivaya

Thank you for sharing these videos.

You don't keep giving... That's how you spoil an adult. They become ungrateful, entitled, and they lose respect for your nice guy bullshit. You need to set boundaries. It's tough love but if you don't do it, you'll end up seeking validation and feel empty inside or be stuck in a loop trying to change them, which can't be done

No not fun. Dating isn't fun.

Yep

If you don't want to do what the pushy person is trying to get you to do, saying "no" is the FIRST thing you should say. You don't owe them an explanation. "No" is a complete sentence. If you want to be "nice" you could say, "No, thank you." You can be honest and diplomatic by saying "I don't have time" rather than give an explanation, which is likely not to satisfy the pushy person, who is deluded that both you and s/he will be "happy" if you just "do" what they want. Not having enough time is always true if you don't want to do something. You don't have time to do someone else's bidding or jump through their hoops.

I tried until after 13 years and two kids and end up cancer and not getting tiny bit of back. Well after that not so easy to follow to steps..

Hey man - why don’t you say that to my face - I’ll open hand slap you for disregarding ALL of our experiences, feelings, and sadness. Abadonment is cool then yea??

Mother-in-laws are a scourge to our planet.

I didn't know l was pushy until today! When a friend said no and l kept on asking,why not...just tell me! Thinking it's okay if l continue asking he'd give in and answers,he literally asked me "Must you always have your way?

Hear O YSHRAL, Hayah our ALaHYM, Hayah is One! And you shall love Hayah your ALaHYM with all your heart, and with all your being, and with all your might (Deuteronomy 6:4-5). Thank you for helping people. I come in love (ANY BUA BHaB). You have idols on your bookshelf in the background (the hand, the head, the duck). An idol is something, 3-dimensional, made in the image of anything in the heavens, earth, or seas. Demons can attach to idols because idols are forbidden, in the TURaH. // SHLM & HaB (peace & love). The Name of the Creator is Hayah asher Hayah, as what He told Moshah (Exodus 3:14), preserved in the Hebrew Scriptures. There is a curse to the G-o-d name (Isaiah 65:11-12), preserved in the Hebrew Scriptures. All followers of the Messiah are to do the 7 appointed times (Leviticus 23), but no more animal sacrifices, following the Crucifixion of the Messiah. We are now of the order of MLK TSDQ (King, righteous), to Whom ABRaHM tithed. Ask the Messiah to be your personal Savior. He said to him, I am the way, the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through me (John 14:6). ...for all have sinned and fallen short of the glory of Hayah (Romans 3:23). The wages for sin is death but the gift of ALaHYM is Everlasting Life through Messiah Yahushgh our Master (Romans 6:23). That if you confess with your mouth the Master Yahushgh and believe in your heart that ALaHYM raised Him from the dead, you shall be saved (Romans 10:9). He Himself is an Atoning Offering for our sins, and not for ours only but also for all the world (1 John 2:2). The Messiah died on the cross, & Resurrected three days later (presenting Himself as First Fruits to the Father). Please ask Him to be your Savior. He is the ONLY way to Everlasting Life.

Just distance yourself and avoid them. They are not worth it

Many times they just will not change and you need to get out before it makes you ill, one-sided is incredibly draining and will take it's toll.

Bloody Mary's

What about a 20 year old son who said,” I don’t need a relationship with you” but lives in your home and has never made a penny in his life. I kicked him out and changed the locks. He’s shut me out since he was 13 and I’ve been rejected and guilty and jumping through hoops for 7 years.

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