Someone once told me that when you get married, you are actually marrying your spouse's entire family.

It's a spirit problem.

Putting a boundary and then if its tested too much they are ignored or blocked. Cant keep doing a cycle. Then they fade away.

Men remember your wifes family is related to you not your family. The sooner you Man up draw the line and tell them enough is enough. Then you will see who's is your enemy. If your spouse is not on your team tell them to go back home. And move on, dont put up with in laws phuccery. The number one reason they do what they do is because they never respected yu from the begining. At the end of the day what are you losing??

BS women ARE Generally Always the ones to adjust. Its so draining.

Love it!

Leave me alone means leave me alone

It's the same as cyber bullies

Restraining order should help keep them away

It's like stalking,tell gang stalkers to leave u alone or face restraining orders

This guy gives really terrible advice. There's so much to address. For example, healthy criticism is necessary in a marriage... Your spouse should have the right to complain. Complain nicely, but nevertheless complain. If they don't have that right then they don't have a voice. Another example is he uses the word "needs" for things that aren't actually needs, but rather preferences or desires. We only need air, water, and food. Everything after that is related to one's quality of life. Needs are only life and death related. He obviously heavily caters to a self-entitled feminist audience.

Pushy people are selfish, self centered, often borderline narcissistic! Yes on being firm but polite

Call you spouse you partner and you've just distanced yourself from them in the worst way possible. Call your boy/girlfriend your partner and won't have one anymore

Excellent

I think, in general, you are naturally going to shy away from someone who is making you uncomfortable. Some people are not sensitive about the fact that they are pushing you away by being too pushy.

That man is an idiot. His first bang was to remind your parents you’ll be taking care of them soon. Ok, well sir, what then if they don’t give much of a shit about that either. Or truly just can’t grasp the reality of it… dude everything you said was trash. Go back to whatever college you graduated from and give them back their degree and slap whoever you received the thing from in the first damn place, directly in the face.

"you don't want to hurt their feelings" -- and that's why pushy people target you in the first place. They can tell that you prioritize THEIR emotional well being over your own.

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I did not want to listen to what you were saying and I realized it's because I'm angry. By the time you finished tip number two, you'd won me over. I could not deny the logic. It is silly to expect the person who is relationally challenged to lead the relationship back to a healthy place. And so thank you. You helped me realize that I have no good reason to be angry and expect the other person to make things right.

This sounds like an adult having to parent a child which is unfair.

What about following you from room to room😮

Just a fantastic video. Thank you! I loved your advise for marriage rituals too!

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Great vid

Hi Dr Matt! This is such a wonderful tutorial. Unfortunately I am requesting a video of when your marriage is over and need to communicate with a difficult person through mediation and divorce. So great to see you!

Marriage can’t work if it’s one-sided. You try everything and anything, and he doesn’t want to do a single thing. You try lead and become the motivational leader but he would stonewall/ignore you, leave, call you names/control freak, abuse you in all forms. Your support system and pro-marriage are all FOR divorce because it’s become so abusive it’s not safe for the emotional mature one to stay.

Thank you so much , my girlfriend was always complaining about me not showing any love but I never even noticed and it was because I was relationally challenged my parents were never together while I was younger and my mom only just got a boyfriend and I've never really known how these things worked and it made me so upset because I never even noticed most of the things she pointed out and all of these things pointed back to me being relationally challenged

Great video ❤️

What I have come to understand is that one can learn on how to be positive...if that is a skill that you lack.

BEST marital relationship advice I've heard.

Great comments. This needs to be taught to couples before they get married.

If the other person cannot or will not take accountability for their mistakes, it's not possible to resolve issues.

Trying to be intimate with someone that is critical of you all day everyday is impossible. It wears you down after a while and you find yourself not even liking the person. It’s just best to leave it’s never going to get better.

Lmao yeah I have no siblings or other family so…

This was incredibly helpful. Each point really made me think, thank you Dr. Matt!

My health is low, when ive been an athlete and healthy my whole life till these past three years. I thought it might be from covid but i dont know. Cant seem to get back to my old health. Tired, irritated, melancholy every day. Its not super bad, and I think he's doing his best but emotionally unavailable and usues all kinds of tactics to play head games to make me feel like i am being needy when hes the one who seems shut down. As i have adjusted, i feel im losing myself....im depressed and anxious, unhappy, bitter i guess. After four years do i just leave...?

Lead and influence if you’re the strongest relationally

👉law of India 🕵️👉law of man not naryan 😯

What's the point?

My father will never change… he’s one big disappointment!!

these cops spend so much effort, time and money to achieve so little. My dude is not taking off his music playlist. Its never going to happen. keep crying

Bro imagine being so horny you risk being dismembered by the cartel....................

we don't want to have sex with old cows, do you people understand or not? Don't make us do you even more harm.

show them their family on livegore

Now imagine that pushy person is your wife. And she won't stop.

❤❤❤❤ yay love Dr. Matt

Im here to help my friend get through a hard time with her gf She likes to use me as a therapist and im happy to help and learn so here i am

The difference between hearing criticism from a child is we don’t really respect the child like we do our spouse so it’s not the same. I respect my boyfriend so his criticism really hurts and I argue with him that he shouldn’t say that about me or treat me that way. Just saying “yes dear” or laughing in his face works for someone who doesn’t respect their spouse. I guess I’m fighting to keep that respect because once it’s gone i won’t be interested in him anymore.

So when a new poor neighbor sees me carrying my shopping bags n says "you went shopping again? you must have a lot of stuff in your apt" should i say i feel like it doesnt matter . .i feel like its my hard earned money . .or i work hard for my stuff dont i ? . No wonder she offerred to help unload my car and asked THREE times to bring IT INSIDE my apt ! My bad for accepting her manipulative help. i dont want to piss her off bcuz this poor neighbor grew up with my immediate next door neighbor who i dont care for either. I just recently moved in. Dont want to make enemies. Recently i was going lunch she asked on sidewalk if i was going to work? I think i'll just laugh n say, im just going ! Any suggestions.

Some people could be expressionless by choice, not just because of some medical condition or personality disorder.