This is what I want!❤❤❤ thank you for making this inspiring video!

Great content, but you don’t need the Supreme Court decisions bit, please leave politics out of it. Just mention politics generally and everyone will know to park it aside! Z

Wow it means I'm currently on the peak 🥺. It's getting worse and worse

I'm dealing with not wanting to engage because I'm not feeling the best mentally but I do things to make me feel better for i.e walking outside, window shopping or joining different groups for engagement

I get paid to sleep all day ....

I have experienced loneliness frequently for the last couple of years, especially since my mom died of end-stage Alzheimer's in December 2022. I was her full-time caregiver and very few people understand the relationship we had. I often feel lonely in a crowded room. Solitude tends to be by choice more often than not.

This is what I want moving forward ❤ thank you

I got to meetups but people hardly ever show up again. How do you build meaningful connections when you aren't the type of person who hits it off when you meet someone for the first time?

I learned 4 key points to engage with my adult son - so thank you for that. These 4 measures can be applied to many assessments with the different people in my life.

I was in a relationship where my partner was my best friend but they did something awful to me and I started to crave for what I believed was loneliness because I felt I was losing myself in that relationship, so I broke up with them. Now that I finally have what I wanted it feels not so good because I live in a city away from my family and friends and this person was my only company. I understand now that solitude is amazing but comes with the price of feeling lonely from time to time. Thanks for this video, it really helped me clear my mind.

I’m 54 years old. The friends I had have either gotten married or have family matters to deal with or have children too. I’m not married and I don’t have a boyfriend either. Needless to say : I’m tired of it. Wen I was younger I just figured that friends came the same way as a boyfriend did, they just came into my life wenever they came.

I’ve been there for 10 years now.

Sometime better lonely and living toxic environmente to protect yourself and peace of mind one day you must the right person for you

A whole bunch of rubbish, People are s***.

I've been lonely all my life. As a child, I was very aware that those basic needs you described were being neglected by my parents, and I was unable to connect with my peers. I was told by adults I was naive and by my peers that I was a "space cadet." My parents thought I was on drugs or mentally ill as a teenager, and peers praised me for being "naturally high." Yet nobody knew I was suicidal. Throughout my life I have entered one abusive relationship after another. All ended with my being discarded. The one I am in now is with a homeless couple who have seized my house and are taking advantage of me financially while refusing to communicate. Now 68 and disabled, I discovered recently that I am Autistic. This explains why I have had trouble all my life genuinely connecting with others. I just don't know how. It's like being a foreigner in a country speaking a different language and adhering to a culture and customs I can't make sense of. I find all my social input from KZbin (which is one way only) and my church Bible Study. I thought my church had accepted me because they seemed to appreciate my knowledge and recall of Scriptural references, so I chanced vulnerability and shared the discovery of my Autism. In time, their respect has turned to mere tolerance. I've continued to be honest and vulnerable, seeking prayers and support for my abusive home life, but the responses are reticent and bordering on avoidant. I don't know what to make of it. Seeking spiritual answers, I shared with the Pastor that I am so lonely I feel like I'm dying. He told me loneliness is selfish, and I needed to serve other's needs. I told him I'm doing that and I'm still lonely because I don't feel connected. He told me to go door to door telling people about Jesus. Right, I thought. I can't connect with anyone, so I'm going to force myself on everyone? That's a good way to get shot. Finally, I confided in my Bible Study at prayer time that I am on the brink of suicide, and their response was to discuss how to get the homeless people to leave my house. I said I need prayer for God's grace to keep me alive and loving, because I feel like giving up. The pastor's wife told me I was being too self-focused and that was selfish. Ya, I said, I have been self-focused all my life and I hate that about me. I don't know how to connect with other people, and I don't see any viable way out of this. She gave me some Scriptures and told me to focus on God when I feel afraid. Good advice, but barely scratches the surface.

Whats app messaging does not social contact make!

This vid needs more views

I think I may have this but mine has caused such extreme anxiety that I couldn’t hold a job for a long time.

This is a fantastic video. I’m really into self development, have multiple resources on friendship and this is especially practical, helpful, with new ways of thinking about this topic. 🙌🌸

well theres eleven minutes wasted

I want her to be my therapist. She is healing

I stay engaged by doing community theatre, attending concerts, traveling, hiking. I have found mostly well-intentioned but only casual connection. It’s better than nothing. Older widowers like myself are a bit of a third wheel. Facebook interestingly gives me a positive connection. When I travel, it gives me a group to share my experiences with even though I’m alone. It can be a struggle to stay upbeat.

I´m wondering how you became a therapist, since you´re missing a lot of key factors. And by not mentioning them, you´re doing a disservice.

Therapists like her are the reason why i dont go to therapy, everything that was said was obvious knowledge and no real solutions...

i can’t stand when people say >you are not alone < yes i am - i’m not the only one struggling but i am struggling alone

What about the autistic kids who were still awkward 6 months into the school year? I used to be that kid. Talk about keeping it real. Or not. How about acknowledging us weirdos out here?

During periods of lonlyness, I need to be on guard against over drinking and getting involved with undesirables.

This is what I was looking for 🙌🏽

mental-health professional here! that was beautiful - especially the part about the statistics! :)

i would like asking u instead cafe or tea wht should i drink for morning time i like drink warm n make me awake doc?

Thank you for your information Doctor 😍😍🙏🏻🙏🏻

i like your hair so much

People don't want to be approached or talked to, so going out and trying to make friends is impossible. 😅

We know what loneliness is. This was disappointing.

Hearing once again how harmful can be to be lonely ( equivalent to smoking x cigarettes) it's making things feel even worse. And my point it's that is super overrated. I've learned that happiness is something you achieve by daily habits, and not necessary depending by the emotional support you have from others. Nevertheless connection it's super important but most of the time people feel they are way behind just because they lack daily significant connection. And the true is that by a wealthy routine, hobbies, self care, good relationship with the self, keep seeing your friends, sun time etc. everyone can enjoy even a happier living compared with someone that has a significant connections with family and friends but lacks a good mindset. Just a note not to feel discouraged and trust that you can exit this loop from where a low mood it can distance people apart while you need them the most.

Thanks for this❤

You want us to walk up to 5 random strangers at a coffee shop and make them answer 3 questions. Sounds like a good way to get kicked out.

Thanks for nothing..your title is misleading..you tell us all the BAD THINGS OF LONELY AND DEPRESSION...but didn't say how CAN YOU MAKE LONELINESS BETTER...came here for better health..not how I can make it worse.. again thanks for nothing 😊

Worst “commercial” superficial info here

Loneliness is a horrible thing to go through it really makes you feel like youve hit rock bottom and no matter how much u try to claw out you keep falling back in ive lost most my hope

Definitely no need to make any more vids

Yeah this was wildly unhelpful.

I ve been lonely for 10 years. I have BPD and I am not able to find a partner or accept love :( All of my friends have partners and nobody wants to spend time with me....

My family has all passed away. I moved to a new city after the losses. I've been here 8 years, 3 of those years the recent Covid/Isolation time frame. Thankfully, I'm an Introvert & that made managing a little easier. I worked in public service until retirement. I got myself into therapy recently, but during covid, there were no openings for counseling. I know what I need & want to accomplish through counseling. I volunteer, I help the less fortunate and I rescued pets to fill my home with life. I'm a single woman. I joined a music group on Tiktok and even found friends there in the same age group. I listen to podcasts to learn, I enjoy hearing others & how they deal with the subject at hand & other social issues. Never give up, keep learning and know what you want your goal to be. For me, it was enjoying my independence, having inner peace & serving others. I feel content & happy.

THE LONLEY FLY !

This video was really succinct and felt like it helped to get to the core of loneliness feelings. Even just the definition she gave like cleared the clouds around my confusion with my own prolonged loneliness.

TLDR

Im in the recipe for disaster 😢

I am glad you said about being vulnerable. I asked my roomate out and talked on a walk found out that talking about a guy i met on vacation i guess was big error. Anyway I get complete silence now. Well oh well.

6:27 Does the doctor knows that most of our loneliness comes at 12.00am onwards!!