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@RamBadu-o9s 3 күн бұрын
Hello
@michaellawson6533 13 күн бұрын
Most people I know didnt have cleaners in Cape Town unless they were upper class living in Rich suburbs. We all had our household chores to perform. And garden if we had one.
@michaellawson6533 13 күн бұрын
A cat in Afrikaans is the same as in Dutch except that it has been used so much in a derogatory way that no one dare use it anymore. Same as the word gay for happy in English.
@freddyfrieza6742 15 күн бұрын
OMG 😂😂😂 worldwide people pstpstpstpst to call a cat in the Netherlands we doe poespoespoespoes 🤣🤣🤣🤣
@zeikerd 16 күн бұрын
sarcasm is something you'd find more in the randstad
@mattgiantDuTcHiE 18 күн бұрын
Dutch friendships take time. But they will be solid eventually.
@AndreaProzesky 20 күн бұрын
Hi Marte, ek en my man is albei CA’s met 10 tot 15 jaar ondervinding. Ons oorweeg om te emigreer weens werkgeleenthede. Jy het genoem dat jou man werk gesoek het via LinkedIn en recruiters. Is daar enige wat jul sal aanbeveel, veral omdat ons van SA is en nie aansoek doen via n internasionale werkgewer in SA. Op die oomblik is dit ons grootste challenge. As jy nie omgee, ek sal graag direk kontak wil maak. Laatweet gerus as jy my privaat wil kontak. Ek hoor graag van jou. Andrea
@LearnDutchWithYas 23 күн бұрын
What a brave story 💪🏽
@lezonedutoit7910 27 күн бұрын
Hello mooi mens! We are planning on moving, the only challenge is that we have 2 teens and was wondering about the education system. Do you perhaps have any information on relocating with teenagers please?
@lezonedutoit7910 27 күн бұрын
Hello mooi mens! We are planning on moving, the only challenge is that we have 2 teens and was wondering about the education system. Do you perhaps have any information on relocating with kids in high school.
@bertranstrydom257 28 күн бұрын
What industry are you and your husband in?
@gevoel8293 28 күн бұрын
It is the same in South Africa. It is not like we go out of our way to make friends with foreigners. I don't look for Dutch expats in SA to make friends with.
@WindmillChef Ай бұрын
Yes, it is hard to make close friendships with Dutch people in Holland and this has a lot of foreigners perplexed because when they have met Dutch people they were friendly and outgoing, so what gives? Trust me when I say that the Dutch don't mean for it to be so hard, they don't mean to be not hospital. It is too harsh to say that Dutch people put strangers through some vetting process before they decide to be friends but a Dutch person before becoming your friend often needs to feel some reference, some reason for becoming your friend. The question ""why do I need this person as a friend in my life"" needs to be answered for them. You are a nice and great person is often processed as; there are many nice and great people in this world, they are not all my friend! The Dutch interact in friendships, as do many people in the world, in groups, a group of your old school friends, a group that you hooked into through one of your family members, a group that formed when you played sports in team fashion, a group of work colleagues. As I said this is not unique to Holland but what is unique is that The Netherlands is a small country, meaning you don't loose many friends because, like in The US for example, they end up moving far away. Many of the Dutch friends that I had when I left the country at age 22 were friends that I made when I was 6 years old and entered school. This is very common. Also family members are close not out of reasonable reach. So Dutch people have not a great need to always make new friends, they don't loose old ones. Don't under estimate the group thing power. I think that all the Dutch girlfriends that I have had as a teenager (girlfriend is a pretty close relationship I would say) I first got to know via some group that we both found ourselves part of. They, perhaps would not have dated me if meeting was some casual bumping into each other. So work at it, purposely join groups but not in a fashion that you are used to, translate it into Dutch society. Here in The US I would say "join a bowling league" or in Texas I would say "join a square dancing night" but there's not much bowling in Holland and not too many Dutch people wear their cowboy hats once a week. If a year brings a cold winter and ponds actually freeze over go to where The Dutch ice skate, even if you are terrible at it. You seem very sporty, join a group of wind servers (not in Limburg). I hear that playing darts is now big in The Netherlands. My last advise: DON'T TURN DOWN OPPORTUNITIES GIVEN! If a few work colleagues ask if you want to join for a "borrelje" after work, GO, even if you don't want to, even if you don't drink, even if you don't really like the 2 people asking because there may be 5 others going, some of who you really do like. Lastly, Dutch people are very focused people, conscious people, sincere people, what they call friends are a big emotional investment, they care about their friends, it means a lot. Focus on groups and Good Luck!
@brianlespoir6287 Ай бұрын
You probably live in the randstad, in the south, Brabant and Limburg it is much less complicated to live, it's cheaper and easier to make friends with neighbours, in bars and even in the parks and streets.
@Keyboardje 2 ай бұрын
I wished people would stop putting loud music over their video's.
@robbertroomer6705 2 ай бұрын
Ik denk dat het er aan ligt waar je woont. Normaal heb je zo vrienden.
@tic-tacdrin-drinn1505 2 ай бұрын
I don't want to start with a criticism, but the first thing I noticed about the video was that the echo in this room and the (unnecessary) music made listening a bit tiring...
@SubNL96 2 ай бұрын
I can tell you that "Poes" has the same meaning in Dutch and Flemish, albeit with less gravity but rather a comedic load kzbin.info/www/bejne/roGrq4KLhpVrfKM kzbin.info/www/bejne/n4WchqWloMuoi9k
@spvdijk 2 ай бұрын
If you want help for a few hours per week in house cleaning, put an add on the message board in the grocery store. To get friends join a (sports)club.
@neilrautenbach96 2 ай бұрын
Hi Marte. As a 1st year LLB student in South Africa do you have any advice on ways to maximize the opportunity of finding work abroad? This excluding the obvious notion of further studying in Europe. Besides being an attorney, are there career opportunities for South African law graduates?
@paddyh1834 2 ай бұрын
Fiets ry, Nederlands leer, ’n Nederlandse maat, reënjas en jy is heeltemal deel van die groep. 🇳🇱
@robertkuipers6317 3 ай бұрын
Love from AMSTERDAM❤😂
@snoepnr1 3 ай бұрын
News flash, you had Dust at home too, only your cleaner took it away for you 😂
@t.corazon6350 3 ай бұрын
Hi ! You still need to go to the gym after cleaning your house every day😮 ?
@Project_Erasmus 3 ай бұрын
To be honest, the "can't find cheap domestic help" kind of rubs me the wrong way. South Africa has had a long history of 'having cheap help' alas. In the Netherlands domestic work is work like any other and as such it is rewarded like any other hard work. I am genuinely sorry to sound so negative and I totally get the culture difference in this case. For my Dutch ears your complain however is somewhat ridiculous.
@Skullk_ Ай бұрын
To be honest, the "lack of equality in your country" kind of rubs me the wrong way. I know the Netherlands has a history of 'having a well functioning government and society'. Alas, in South Africa, governmental corruption is abound and thus it doesn't allow for a well functioning society where people are treated as equals, especially the lowest of the lower class. I am genuinely sorry to sound so negative and I totally get the culture differences in this case. For my South African ears your complaint, however, seems a bit ridiculous.
@yoyoyuyu234476 3 ай бұрын
accept the dust, accept the dust, accept the dust. repeat
@dutchyjhome 3 ай бұрын
Yes, so the major lesson to be learned here is: Learn to speak Dutch ! And especially for you: Afrikaans basically is derived from Dutch and objectively spoken English is the nearest language to Dutch and both English, Afrikaans, Dutch and German; they all came from 1 source language called : Proto Germanic. Go see the video of the langfocus channel, called the dutch language (not deutsch!) The Dutch basically have a group of friends they grew up with from the same street, the same school and the same university they went to, if they did so in the first place. So with all due respect, but we do not need any "friends" from abroad, especially not when they do not speak Dutch, or/and they are here for just a brief moment of time like expats. So if you do feel the urge to try to break in such a group of Dutch friends, you better make sure you speak Dutch, since we do no like to be forced in to a foreign language we do not control the way we control our mother language: Dutch, especially amongst friends with whom you want to be able to discuss everything, especially sensitive and uncomfortable things. This is not typical Dutch, this goes for every country with their own language. The Dutch may speak a little English, but again: English is a true foreign language to us, just like Spanish and German is, because we grew up in Dutch in a Dutch society in Dutch culture and Dutch Norms and values --> Strange...? No Obvious, this goes for you as well, being South Afrikaans, growing up in South Afrika, in the South Afrikan culture and the South Afrikan Norms and Values, right...?
@DesireeWilken Ай бұрын
Being a South African, it is not that simple. We are many cultures sharing 1 country. Marté ek dink jy doen fantasties, hou jou kop hoog, jy praat reeds twee tale en die beste manier om Nederlands te leer is om omring te wees met mense wat Nederlands praat. Hier kan jou werk dalk help (saam ekstra klasse) waar jy jouself forseer om die taal te praat. Jy weet self hoe in Suid-Afrika as jy nie Sotho byvoorbeeld praat word jy onsigbaar. As ek daar bly, is ons verseker pelle maar ons gaan heeldag Afrikaans praat😂 Ai sterkte, jy gaan nie spyt wees nie. Hou net aan en uit en leer die taal! Ons dooi hier van die hitte, 41C. Groete van Bloemfontein!
@dutchyjhome Ай бұрын
@@DesireeWilken Hey Desiree, dankie vir jou reaksie! as jy die regte ingesteldheid handhaaf, sal volledige integrasie in die Nederlandse samelewing nie 'n probleem wees nie. Om regverdig te wees; niemand, insluitend ek, sal sê dat so 'n oorgang maklik sal wees nie. Dit is regtig 'n volledige uitdaging en daar is nogal baie om aan te pak. Om so 'n internasionale skuif te onderskat lei oor die algemeen tot baie hartseer, eensaamheid en lei nie tot die beraamde resultaat nie. Om jouself te dwing om die taal, kultuur en sosiale struktuur te gebruik, is inderdaad noodsaaklik. Jy kan net ’n suksesvolle immigrant wees as jy stadig maar seker die land waarvandaan jy kom en die taal wat daar gepraat word kan los, ruimte skep in jou brein om die nuwe land en die nuwe taal te laat insink, ens. Jy kan nie met twee voete in twee lande staan as hulle duisende kilometers uitmekaar is nie. Die leuse is dus, of jy daarvan hou of nie; Keuses maak; Distansieer jou van die ou land, taal en kultuur en stel jou heeltemal oop vir die nuwe land, taal en kultuur ensovoorts. Dit is die vereistes oor die hele wêreld wat geld vir enigiemand wat na enige plek beweeg, internasionaal gesproke. Dit sal natuurlik net so goed vir my geld as ek byvoorbeeld na Suid-Afrika sou verhuis. Terloops, ek praat nie Suid-Afrikaans nie; Google translate het my hier gehelp ;-) Ek praat bietjie Engels, maar Google translate help my ook gereeld. Moet dus nie geflous word as jy sien hoe 'n Nederlander 'n redelik goedgeskrewe stuk teks skryf nie; Daar is 'n goeie kans dat Google translate van toepassing was ;-). As jy in Nederland is en jy benodig 'n sparringmaat rakende Nederlands, kan ek jou van diens wees. En dan nu in het Nederlands:-) Hey Desiree, dank je voor je reactie! als je de juiste mind-setting handhaaft, zal compleet integreren in de Nederlandse samenleving geen enkel probleem zijn. Eerlijk is eerlijk; niemand, ook ik niet, zal zeggen dat een dergelijke transitie eenvoudig zal zijn. Het is echt een complete uitdaging en er komt best veel op je af. Het onderschatten van en dergelijke internationale verhuizing lijdt in het algemeen to veel verdriet, eenzaamheid en lijdt niet tot het geraamde resultaat. Jezelf forceren in het gebruik van de taal, de cultuur en se sociale structuur is inderdaad van vitaal belang. Je kunt eigenlijk pas een succesvol immigrant zijn als je het land waar je vandaan komt en de taal die men daar spreekt langzaam maar zeker los kunt laten, waardoor er in je brein ruimte komt om het nieuwe land en de nieuwe taal enzovoort te laten indalen. Je kunt namelijk niet met twee benen in twee landen staan als die duizenden kilometers uit elkaar liggen. Het devies is dus, of je dat nu leuk vindt of niet; Keuzes maken; Afstand nemen van het oude land, taal en cultuur en je volledig openstellen voor het nieuwe land, de nieuwe taal en nieuwe cultuur enzovoort. Dat zijn over de gehele wereld de eisen die gelden voor wie dan ook waar heen verhuist, internationaal gesproken. Voor mij zou dat uiteraard net zo goed gelden als ik bijvoorbeeld naar Zuid-Afrika zou verhuizen. Overigens spreek ik geen Zuid Afrikaans; Google translate is mij hier van dienst geweest ;-) Engels spreek ik wel wat, maar ook daarbij is Google translate mij regelmatig van dienst. Laat je dus niet om de tuin leiden als je een Nederlander een redelijk goed geschreven stukje text ziet schrijven; kans is groot dat Google translate van toepassing is geweest ;-). Als je in Nederland bent en je hebt een sparringspartner nodig voor wat betreft Nederlands zou ik je van dienst kunnen zijn.
@eXeNL1977 3 ай бұрын
Best about Cycling is that up to 30 km an hour is that you still have eye for your surroundings. The moment i sold my car and started to go electric Cycling helped me reduce my Stress level and made me more approachable and reasonable.
@xXTheoLinuxXx 3 ай бұрын
A lot of expats are living in the larger cities in The Netherlands and those places don't have communty things like in smaller villages, so it's harder to make friends.
@jazzyonno 3 ай бұрын
As a kaaskop who moved to SA in 1998 for 7 years, I recognise your video "in reverse". I love both countries deeply and miss them when I'm not there. You touch upon the really hard things about being an expat that people who have not done it don't understand. It is really hard to miss all those birthdays, weddings etc. In the end the only remedy is to get more out of your time away from friends and with other friends to fill that hole a little bit. I've lived in 9 countries now, and spent most of the past 25 years away from friends and family, and sometimes I wonder if it was worth it. But most of the time I am thoroughly happy about the life path I've been on. So - I guess you just have to keep the chin up and make the most of it. Ek dink jy sal Afrikaner mates in Nederland he, maar as jy nuut vriende wil maak kan ek jou kontakt met Afrikaners in die Randstad. Self geniet ik die mooi lewe in Zuid Limburg. Nice video, and I hope your life in my country will be as nice as the one I had in yours. Lekkerbly.
@JohnDoe-uc7et 3 ай бұрын
So long story short. The KAFFERS are fucking up South Afrika. I'm not surprised. Iq=65 average.
@locmer1970 3 ай бұрын
We take making friends very seriously, it can take a while. Sports can be a great vehicle.
@xoxothelibrariangirl6561 3 ай бұрын
Hi, I really loved your video❤ It would be so, so helpful if you could please make more videos of this kind. Especially on how to find housing as an expat and how to settle in... I'm planing to move to the Netherlands in the summer of next year all by myself, and ngl while I'm so excited, simultaneously I'm extremely anxious... Any little bit of advice is welcomed ❤❤thank you ❤❤
@RobRoordink 3 ай бұрын
Try to at least understand Dutch. Making friends is much easier with people who understand your language so that you can speak English and your friends can speak Dutch.
@benbontjer 3 ай бұрын
I changed my life too. As a Dutch citizen I fled the Netherlands over 10 years ago and moved to Denmark. Just like the 600,000-700,000 people who have left the Netherlands for good in the last 2 years and this year (CBS) . Reasons: too criminal, too expensive, too low income, no houses for young people to live there, they first go to the asylum seekers. Those young people have to wait 10 years in their parents' attic. Hav en god dag....
@patricksteunebrink7758 3 ай бұрын
whats your lenght 1,70cm? marry me
@lehandrevanwyk9134 3 ай бұрын
I just love this video. Very true and honest comments/opinions that you are making. We are going through the immigration process from South Africa to the Netherlands. It's so confusing as to which documents should be apostilled and do you need police clearance etc.🤯🤔
@skin4813 3 ай бұрын
It's much easier to meet other international people, because locals mostly already have a circle of family and friends. When I studied abroad, almost all my friends were also not locals. In the Netherlands when you want to meet people, clubs are the best start, so you have at least a common interest. Check out your local triathlonvereniging. Often they have trainings that you can do together. BTW Congrats on your Ironman that's quite something.
@DeidriZiemerink 3 ай бұрын
Ons het ook Nederland toe getrek uit SA uit en is nou amper 2 maande hier. Jou videos het ons so baie help in ons besluit om hierheen te kom. Ek stem 100% saam met wat jy sé!
@anniek4681 2 ай бұрын
Ik vind het fantastisch dat ik toch wijs kom uit het Zuid Afrikaans. Fijn dat deze video bij jullie besluit om naar hier te komen heeft geholpen. Jullie hadden alleen wat meer 🌞mogen meebrengen. Het was inderdaad een 🤬-zomer dit jaar.😁
@Meppeler1971 3 ай бұрын
Nederlands met een Afrikaans accent.... beautiful... ik vind Afrikaans een mooie taal 😀
@sunnysaggu830 3 ай бұрын
Hi madam .....madam Rotterdam is in Netherlands
@napke8571 3 ай бұрын
Welkom in Nederland! It is not that difficult to make friends, you will find your way. Go downtown on saturdays, most cities and towns do have markets which attracts a lot of people, I like Saturday markets a lot. During spring and summer time we do have A LOT of festivals, always a good plan :) for the rest, well as it October and the final quarter of the business year, lot of people get a bit stressed. Targets must be secured, bonusses must be calculated 😋so we live often in rush when summer holidays ended until happy new year. You will find your way here, great advantage is that you can take a train and visit practically every city within a few hours at most. Almost in every city you can walk to see the highlights and do shopping, take a drink or whatever, it is impossible in Nederland to avoid people.
@richardwe2920 3 ай бұрын
You look so much like Petra Kvitova
@BandSteel 3 ай бұрын
Love the suid afrikaans accent
@100percentnonofyourbiz 3 ай бұрын
Actualy Den Helder and Texel have the most sun hours in the Netherlands...that is way up north....
@vogel2280 3 ай бұрын
Well, since you've survived THE most depressing winter in the Netherlands since recorded history (it rained the majority of each day from September 2023 to June 2024), so I think you''l be just fine living in the Netherlands. And remember, we ALWAYS complain about the weather. Either too hot with sunburn or got too wet because of the rain, traffic was a nightmare because it was freezing. The weather is NEVER good or even fine for that matter. About making friends....that is an issue. We tend to have only few but very deep friendships. Mostly, our friendships grow over a shared live experience, like growing up together, living in a student house together, become soccer champion together, traveling together or be in a committee of some club, organizing an event of some magnitude. I can imagine you have passed the phase in live were you have time for these things. With other expats you share such a big life experience (moving abroad), witch is a blessing, but also could be your downfall in making Dutch friends. I wish you a pleasant home here in the Netherlands.
@beeldbarista 3 ай бұрын
Welcome to the Netherlands, having a black person doing the cleaning for you is not how the Dutch are raised. People here will not do this kind of work for you unless you pay them properly and provide them an honest income. As a Dutchy I found that part of your video kind of concerning. Tread people with respect and theu will respect you too.
@martebarnard 3 ай бұрын
@@beeldbarista hiya! I think people are way misreading the intent of that comment. It’s just a new set of chores that needed to be added to a schedule for something we didn’t need to think about before. I didn’t mention anything about poor pay or mistreating anyone - that you inferred yourself 😉
@Frag_Limit 3 ай бұрын
Assassin's Creed stuff right there
@61tomtomtom 3 ай бұрын
15 euro per dag . Lang leve de slavernij
@sunnysaggu830 3 ай бұрын
Can u hepl me for room rent