The one thing that has got me through my parental alienation, and allowed me to be joyful in the midst of my suffering, is the fact that I treat my wounded inner child representing my wounded feelings emotions issues, etc. with acknowledgment acceptance and loving kindness. Whenever he surfaceses into my moment, i embrace him and welcome him with great hospitality and bc of this my wounded feelings issues etc. transform into healed even joyful feelings soon after. It is my way of inner self validation, and inner emotional self regulation. , thereby no longer requiring co-dependent external self regulation or external validation. And this process has helped me to form a better relationship with myself and others outside myself among other pisitive attributes thereby. I am always in Acceptance, and it is Awesome! My daughter 24 is speaking to me now, and we text often and my son 19 is still living with his alienating mother, and i have not seen nor spoken to him for 2 years now. I cannot call or email, dont have number or email address and i dont know , where they live. Just a matter of time! If there's one thing I can say to you parents work on becoming a better you, there's a reason why God puts us in these situations. So make the most of it by becoming a better person instead of being a bitter person. If you can understand the process I wrote above it will change your life I promise you. The real qualification is you need to become self aware which means that you are not your body you are your consciousness who is within your body. Just like you are not your thoughts and feelings but you are one who has thoughts and feelings. The reason why you need to understand this it's because in your psychology you must have an inner parent to care for your inner child. Especially when he is wounded and hurting, and if you, can treat your inner child with acceptance and love, then as a result you are able to treat your physical children the same and it comes naturally and without effort.

Somewhat sweeping generalisation to suggest one parent is a narcissist - it’s got to be one of the most overused words of 21st century. Tired of hearing the label bandied around. Many and varied reasons including personal mental health challenges, depression, addictions and anxiety issues to name a few can lead to family alienation. Bottom line is poor or lack of communication and an inability to discuss issues, believing no contact is a resolution when it’s not. Opting for no contact is often a generational issue where children have observed a parent or grandparent role model the behaviour. Tantamount to putting your head in a bag. Open discussion if not face to face then in a letter is a better option for peace of mind to ensure the generational conflict is not perpetuated for another generation. Concerns not aired grow in our minds and if mulled over long enough can seem like reality even when they are not.

Oh, Debi 😢. Love & hugs to you! Thank you for showing us to shift our mindset and change. Xx

This speech is 100% correct. Most people cant grasp the systemic abuse alienated parents face...this is an accurate depiction of the injustice and maltreatment we face.

I signed up for the course yesterday! Looking forward to learning some more about PA. Thank you for sharing your thoughts and insight. I appreciate your time and dedication to educating us laymen. 😅

“Get on with your life, today!” Powerful one line. Thank you everyone for sharing your insights & experience.

Thank you for sharing your experience!

It sounds like I'm in exactly the same position as you. Thank you for this video it's helped me a lot. My children have turned their back on me without a single word. My ex claimed she never said anything to them, but then slipped up and said she couldn't remember what she said.

Enabling? Is that the word?

Wrote a massive response and lost it 🤦🏼‍♀️ Same page in short regards solutions and I agree this is dark and requires a bright light to extinguish it at the root. The system is complicit and routinely failing to protect our children. I envision us - ALL - as targeted families together finding a way to generate positive momentum to end this suffering for our kids and ourselves. I am on eggshells with what I say here. Freedom for us all 🦋

This is a terrible violence against children and former spouses. 😥

Great that you contribute to spread awareness of this kind of abuse. 💪👏 🤗🇸🇪

Very recognizable. 😥 Even though the main target of this kind of abuse is the other parent, it's the effects on the children that are the most severe. As grown ups, with a previous history of a non abusive environment, the abused parent has something to fall back on, a pre-gaslight experience. The children though, they don't; they grow up, and are being shaped by a fictitious reality, affecting the rest of their lives. Responsible authorities - Please help children (and former spouses) from Cluster-B abuse! This kind of abuse IS documented in the DSM-5: - V995.51 Child Psychological Abuse - V995.82 Spouse or Partner Abuse, Psychological

so much Gratitude

Thank you so much for sharing this online.

Would be great to get the link in the description 🙏

It was a pleasure to meet you Jack. This was a success and you and your team are going in the right direction in assisting and informing us aliented P's and GP's. This was well organised and well attended. Look forward to the next one. Onwards and upwards for PAA.

Rebecca Mandeville Has a channel about family escape voting abuse and all the different forms that it takes As I just made the decision at 61 to go.No contact with my mother.These people will never understand the pain that they caused others and they don't care.They look at it as their perspectiyes

This video is for 'alienated' parents who's adult children return .. not for abusive parents who's adult children have left. There are many of you who have been terribly abused by a parent - physically, emotionally, neglect, sexually, psychologically, alienating you / keeping your physical or emotional involvement diminished between you and the other parent .. before and after separation. This video isn't talking about that abusive parent. Please note .. the perspective of this video is where the other parent has also been abused by the one parent, and has had their child turned against them and lost their place as a parent. In this video, the resulting 'estrangement' is because of 'alienation' .. not 'estrangement' from having been abusive. We stand by any estranged adult child who pushes back on abusive parenting.

“It’s probably not because you’ve been ::abusive:: in any way”… Tell that to someone who, from their earliest memories has been afraid of their mother. The “loving mother” who punched them hard enough to cause permanent deafness in one ear and facial nerve damage. The mother who chased her child with a crazed, enraged look in her face and a butcher’s knife in her hands. On and on and on… No. Don’t need or deserve idiotic and uninformed social commentary from people who knowingly or clumsily inflict additional damage. May the next chapters of your life bring you some wisdom.

Very touching video. 😥 This is a terrible and global abuse that has to be stopped. Behind each of the parents/grand parents in the video there's at least one child that has lost the relationship with a parent/grand parent - so sad. 😞

Now I understand what the channel is about. This is how my sister and I grew up, with our mother and an absent father figure portrayed as an infantile but violent alcoholic. We moved to another country, grew up in and around a religious sect, within a family unit that also functioned like a cult. Weirdly our mother had a number of 'male friends' that included a former teenage runaway slash quasi-homeless alcoholic, a guy who was actually illiterate and cripplingly shy, as well as a number of other somewhat weird characters, yet compared to her they were all strikingly normal. She, of course, liked to act all prim and proper and houseproud and holier-than-thou but we grew up in intellectual, social and economic poverty. When I met my father as a young adult I wasn't really expecting much but his 'laid back hobo' style and demeanour seemed acceptable and overall it was a fairly good reunion. We later had a couple of small scrapes when he got wasted once or twice and got a bit lairy, although mostly in a funny and / or annoying but non-threatening way. Actually, I was really the aggro one there. At some point later he did end up quitting completely. All in all, we had some good times together, bonded a bit and got up to a few adventures. Sadly, my sister never met or spoke to him but when he died she was quite upset and emotional. At least for me, the only way to become a little bit normal involves totally leaving behind all the madness we grew up with, including patient zero (grandma and grandpa) and the whole enabling family squad. There are probably good people there too but we have all made our choices.

Unfortunately, PA has become very common. My situation is severe. No contact for 12 years now. Very painful. I can hardly watch videos on the subject. Autism can also be a source of alienation in that other parent has warped view of relationships. Pretty much impossible to work with that. Thank you for posting these.

So maybe the grandparents are being held accountable for their behavior. How bout that

You offer good advice. I have an estranged adopted daughter I'd like to reconnect with, and thinking about what behavior of mine would make sense, I arrived at most, if not all the same strategies you plan to employ. Her behavior has been heartbreaking to me, but I cannot make my feelings the focus, even though that is exactly what I want & think I deserve. Parents give more than their all to their kids, and many of these kids (mine is one) seem completely comfortable with ignoring all the devotion and sacrifice parents make for their children. I keep reminding myself that the only thing Mother Nature needs from people is for them to eat, drink, have shelter to stay warm, and to make more people. Human happiness, longevity, morality, nobility, financial status, or well being all mean NOTHING to Mother Nature. Just so long as the four actions I outline occur, Mother Nature is completely satisfied, parent/child relationship be d4mned. Good luck with your reunion.

Your in denial of the abuse that's damaged them your so patronizing

My mother would admit she’d done something wrong ever even if you put her feet to flames. Some ppl just can’t be trusted with your emotions or your heart.

As someone who definitely doesn't want to have a relationship with 'a difficult parent from a difficult family' -- it actually sounds like you are providing some pretty good advice.

We hold the grandparents in the highest regard and have the utmost respect for them. Everything good we have today is because of what they did yesterday❤. The most exciting thing when we were young was going to see my grandparents.

It's a fine line to dance on. I've been debating whether to reach out on one of my children's birthday. She's an adult now. Started counselling with our original family counselor after 14 years of non-contact to deal with my pain. She remembers my case so that should tell you something. My situ involves autism as well. Wish I could attend your gathering. Hope you'll post on it. Best!

Hello i am an estranged child. I find the advice to tell parents not to take accountability bad. I understand in cases when they are seperated and the ex was lying about you but do you really think that parents dont have anything they can be accountable for you dont have to be abusive to have made a mistake and there is a chance this video may be reccomended to an abusive parent. Abusive people always tend to have excuses for themselves or to deny what they've done i think some of them are not just lying to other people but also to themselves. In my case my mother tried to convince me to commit suicide When i called her about this she didnt take any accountability if you would ask her she didnt do it she did what you said in the video and continued to call and ask how my day was and things like that like nothing happened it's infurating.

And it doesn’t happen in Russia, Croatia, Greece, Serbia, Italy... because people have different culture, values and respect for tradition...

Your efforts are greatly appreciated...

Im sorry for these people 😢

Grandparents shouldn’t have rights though, they should be at the parents discretion

Thanku for your time and care

My email address has been sent to events management within the charity

I am interested in starting a support group in West Sussex

Thank you this. All of it extremely helpful!!

So much respect. I would add precision beat power, timing beat speed. Thank you Charlie and Guests. Amazing. Something each judge should see before everyone else.

They call this a disorder with rare occurrence. I beg to differ. I believe its quickly becoming endemic in the US. Take a look at Dr Childress's lectures on this subject and find thousands of men and women who have been victims of this. The number of children affected by this is untold. And make no mistake...it destroys the childs life and affects their future directly. I watched, unable to help as it destroyed my children. The worst thing a father can experience. Your instincts are screaming at you that this is wrong and destroying your childs spirit, robbing their innocence and detrimental to their future. Made even worse because your ordered by the court to stay away and have no contact with the very people who are most important to you and who's safety and security is your only concern. It was infuriating to me and the stress I experienced as a result of this nearly killed me. Nearly killed my son too. He had a heart attack at 19 years of age with no underlying conditions. It was the result of prolonged, raised cortisol levels. Otherwise known as Cushing's disease. Caused him a heart attack and resulting heart condition tbat will shorten his life by 15 years minimum. Doesn't include the conditions that will arise down the road which the doctor says to expect. All so his mom could cheat and not have to deal with co parenting after a divorce. She decided to make false accusations to get everything expedited and in her favor. She got everything alright. But the kids have figured out that she used them and they hate her now. They hate her but they are dependent upon her now because she made codependents of each of them. They are stuck together as adults in a home that is falling down around them. They've isolated themselves and have no motivation for anything. They hate each other and their own lives. Its a tragic way to live and its not over yet. Their entire life will be tragic. And if your paying attention that seems to be a common theme in America at the moment. Not a lot of upward mobility at the moment. Its the lack of a family dynamic and the lack of fathers in the home. Not all absent fathers are deadbeats nor are they absent by their own agendas. I spent 90k and nearly killed myself trying to reunite with my 3 kids to save them from this. I was the only one who seemed to care how it would affect them. I was told by an officer of the court that fathers are unimportant to the childs well-being. I thought that was an arrogant and ignorant statement to make in a family court. Its been 9 years since I had any contact with my 3 kids. I was an engaged and loving father. I had a good father, knew how to be one and wanted nothing more then to pay it forward. The court deemed my plight as unnecessary to my sons well being. They were wrong. This destroyed his health and happiness. My daughters too. I have a lot of resentment for the way the court handled my case.

In my opinion Dr. Childress understands this in a way that no one else in the field does. He should receive a noble prize for his work to advance the definition of parental alienation. Now we just need to make it known to all.

Well done, Sir!

This is a heartbreaking video. I'm now fully submerging myself into raising awareness of Parental Alienation and changing my whole life to do so. My experience of the loss has been gradual. Just when you think it's ok again, something happens and it's back to square one. You just can't get anything established that's consistent and stable.

The judges are as much child abusers as the narcissistic parent . I spent 9 years fighting for my 5 beautiful children in the abusing courts. Would love to get my story out there .

It forever feels like your missing a piece of you & your heart. 💔

Dear Children, both parents love you and one parent misses you everyday. Dear Adults, Stop #parentalalienation

Not on top of the list by the looks of it. One of the big taboos of our time.

This is a very eye-opening video and really alarming how little the professionals who work in the field understand about PA. We're so very far away from where we need to be in national awareness.