Alia and Yoni’s story beautifully demonstrates the essence of personal and relational growth. Alia, with her impressive journey-from Canadian ballet training to mastering languages and building a successful KZbin channel-epitomizes what psychologist Angela Duckworth refers to as “grit”: the relentless passion and perseverance needed to pursue long-term goals. Her willingness to reflect, adapt, and grow, especially in managing conversations and embracing receptivity, shows a remarkable commitment to cultivating emotional intelligence, as Daniel Goleman describes it-a foundational skill for personal success and meaningful connection. Meanwhile, Yoni’s role embodies the kind of courageous vulnerability Brené Brown champions in her work. By offering unwavering support while encouraging Alia to face discomfort, he creates a secure environment where she can explore her vulnerabilities without fear of judgment. This dynamic reflects what psychologist John Gottman calls “secure attachment” in relationships: the balance of emotional safety and individual growth. Their ability to navigate challenges together with openness and humor turns their partnership into a living testament to the power of resilience and mutual care. For audiences witnessing their journey, there’s an important reminder here. Growth is rarely linear-it’s messy, uncomfortable, and often requires what Carol Dweck calls a “growth mindset”: the belief that abilities and traits can be developed through effort and persistence. Whether you’re navigating a challenging relationship or pursuing an ambitious goal-like swimming the English Channel-the key lies in showing up for yourself and others, day after day. Alia and Yoni’s story isn’t just about them; it’s an inspiring lens through which we can all reflect on our own paths, relationships, and aspirations. Does she stil interrupt Yoni yes, is there progress yes. This podcast is the best from psychologist chair. IMO. She can be anonying.y funny. Yoni I the closest she could get to a good friend, and ping pong player. She blockers all the difficult quips, tptake this journey with. Instead of focusing on criticism, let’s pivot toward the beauty of their evolution. As Brené Brown so eloquently puts it, “What makes you vulnerable makes you beautiful.” Alia’s journey is a testament to this truth. By embracing vulnerability, persevering through challenges, and leaning into self-acceptance, she is showing us all that growth is a courageous act-and a worthwhile one at that. Yes, Edited. Style conflicts was shifted for objectivity

I recommend following Lauren Giraldo as she gave birth not that long ago and talks what it’s like in her videos☺️

Alia I honestly think what you’re saying is totally normal. People are afraid of future especially such changes as kids. I think there are some crucial things to keep in mind. 1) you’re never “ready ready” to have kids because you’re simply don’t know what’s that. And even when you try to imagine it while going out or drinking coffee - it won’t be the same. So don’t think like it’s something weird. It’s not. 2) before giving a birth it’s super helpful to read some psychology literature about kids but very important to choose properly because there is so much bullshit (as a psy student I know). Just to know more about how to treat your child, why it’s important to hold him/her when they’re crying not to leave them in bed and wait etc. 3)the fact that you’re working at home w Yoni is amazing! I know a lot of couples like you and it works perfectly. Your child won’t lack in attention and you can always combine it w babysitters or kindergarteners. I am sure u gonna be an amazing mom ❤️

😂😂😂 I love Alia!

I agree with everyone else here. You already have a solid steady base as partners, and you ll be find your way around it when the baby 👶 comes. I believe you ll be great parents, and the baby or babies will be very lucky to have you as their parents. 🎉❤ We can't wait to witness that when the time comes 🙌 😍 we all will be happy for you !

The fact that you two are already talking about this means you will be great parents. I just want to say, Alia: it's completely normal to have the questions/concerns/fears you have in regards to having a baby and adjusting your life according to their needs. I think a huge part of it too, and this isn't a dig at Yoni because I could already see he's going to be a phenomenal dad, moms never stop thinking and worrying about their kids. So even when the baby is with Yoni, your mom, sister, etc, and you're getting work done/filming, you will be thinking about them. So the mental load is way more on mothers, usually. I will die on this hill: whoever you marry or have a baby with will determine the mental and physical load with your baby. Yoni will give his all and work as a team with you, you're already so so lucky to have each other to support one another with this new chapter. It makes all of the difference to have each other be so supportive. I had so many questions when I was thinking about having a baby and when I got pregnant, my mind went wild just imagining things and wanting to know how our lives will be. I feel like Alia and I are pretty type A, so we want things to be figured out -- being a "planner" will soon be centered around your family. But the truth is, no class or book will ever prepare you as much as the hands on experience you and Yoni will have with your baby. It'll be hard to adjust to at first, but it WILL get better. From my experience, having my in laws and my mom close to us, we have SO much support. If my husband and I want to go on date night or have to go to work, we have someone who will watch our daughter. If no one can, my husband or I will stay home with her. So it's great that you and Yoni are in the industry you're in because you get to stay home with your baby. Someone I really look up to is Lauren Giraldo (youtube.com/@laurengiraldo?si=CMMLiPznSe32t-IG). She had a baby last year and she's very open about how her baby has changed her life while being a content creator :) One last truth, having kids requires some sacrifice. My husband used to be super ambitious about his career and was very hesitant about having kids because he thought our baby would be "in the way" of his career. Now that she's here, he says, "all I want is to be her dad." Regardless, it's COMPLETELY normal to miss your old life. I promise it's okay, it doesn't make you a bad parent to think that. I highly recommend yall to be super open with each other through the entire process: from now, to pregnancy, to when you have your baby. All of your emotions about being a parent can be beautiful and complicated. You're not alone! You two will be amazing parents <3

I've said it once and i'll say it again: you're going to be such cool parents 🖤

I recommend you watch SISSEL's journey .. I myself never thought of having kids until I saw her journey. It's definitely not going to be the same for everyone. However, you must educate yourself well before having a child .

As a parent you will work it out somehow. You do things simultaneously and wonder what you were doing with your time before. You do it all but not as efficiently as before in some cases. You have the feeling of inadequacy and you forget the spontaneity. But it’s another chapter of life. The chapter that your ego is limited in front of the miracle of creating and raising a new life. As the years go by, the child becomes more independent and you find balance again as a person and as a couple. It’s scary, but wonderful.

Love that you both spoke on this topic cause you don’t see that often. There’s so much to figure out and feels like so much pressure to do so, but I really think you don’t ever truly figure it out till you are living the experience cause you also don’t know what type of baby you’ll have (I.e. temperament and sleep needs)coming from someone who tried to figure it out before 😅. To alia’s point it’s also so normal to be sad or afraid little apprehensive etc especially as a woman. I loved watching Jenn im during pregnancy and after. She talks about having a baby and parenthood in what feels like a more authentic way. Her videos are also just great in general

Laini Ozark is a youtuber that gave birth like a year ago. i’m not sure if her partner is also self employed but i’m sure she could help!

1st few mos are FAB but a lot. Give yourselves props for little tasks accomplished. Rally for each other. Trade off making or bringing meals. When baby gets to 11-12 lbs, little will start sleeping more consistently thru the night. Nap often when baby sleeps esp at beginning. You need the sleep! You will sleep at night, but choppy. Hire on an au pair so you have your work together time + your time together. Keep a date night scheduled as much as possible. Then allow each to have time alone or w/friends periodically while the other Parent has one on one time. My Dad was a Pediatrician & Teaching Prof at UCLA Med School. You will be even happier than you are now & more in love. But stay a team! ❤❤❤

Hi :) I'm not a parent, but I have been babysitting a 15months kid for a solo mom. The mom has found a great community of other moms/parents/friends that help her out a lot with (home cleaning, babysitting, events, activities, parenting advice, etc.). As a babysitter, I help out with morning routine and bring the kid to daycare, at night I go pick up the kid and bring him home till the mom comes back from work. I LOVE doing that, it gives me a routine and I'm also happy to babysit when the mom wants to have a night out. The mom has a wonderful relationship with her kid, and I do too. [Challenges, stress, lack of sleep, sickness, difficulties with keeping up with the house and cooking food , etc. happen to the mom, I won't lie haha]. I think community is key. Also, the mom had a doula and a midwife during her pregnancy. A lot of my girlfriends who have kids told me that it has helped them to prepare mentally and physically for the pregnancy and also for the baby to come home. A lot of the times, fathers are implicated in this process too. Anyways, all of this to say that there are ways to manage and prepare for this beautiful adventure you will go through. I wish you all the best! You two have such great communication. From the outside, it feels like both of you will be GREAT parents. And yes, yes, yes, I'm sure those feelings of joy and sadness can coexist. 💙

I can't wait to see what that new chapter will look like for you two!! ❤

Last year a really close friend of mine started moving to another friend group. Initially it was just me and her as a pair, but throughout 2023 I felt like she was continuously being drawn to another group who I didn't really like and felt like weren't a good fit for me. We're all acquaintances and they're polite to me in present day, but it feels like they're tolerating someone (me) without properly acknowledging them. Before this, there was a camp that I went on where this aforementioned friend wasn't going - but the group she later joined were. At that time, two years ago, I genuinely thought we could all be close friends and that on this camp they would be the people I would spent my two weeks with. One week into the camp I realised that these people didn't care about me at all! Yes, they were extremely polite and surface-level kind, but I was excluded from their group photos, on evening talks or just from the opportunity of getting closer with them. I ended up hanging out with other people, but that experience with my friend's future friend group left a bad taste in my mouth that got worse when I realised last year that they were 'officially' (not as in signing a document officially but more, I recognised really what was going on) becoming part of that group. I didn't address the unkind behaviour they had towards me on that camp to that friend, or maybe I did but the friend never brought it up with me, and now they're the main group she hangs out with. Now, I'm slightly better acquainted with these people - but definitely not close. The friend who was absorbed into the friend group still chats with me but we aren't as close as we used to be. Maybe this is a case of 'outgrowing' a friendship but it felt like really bad friendship behavioir! What's the cherry on top though, is that the group who was rude to me thinks that we're all buddy buddy. The tip-toeing that you guys describes exactly my relationship to them, to the point where I'm supposedly in their friend group but I've never gone to any of their events and I'm not really friends with most people in that group. I want to tell my friend, who became part of the group, about feeling uncomfortable being with these people - not that they're bad people but they were not nice to me - and how her abruptly ditching our friendship to become better friends with them made me feel upset, because I really valued our friendship. I also want to confront the group that made me feel alone on that camp, despite it being two years ago, because their trend of thinking we're all friends when we're not has continued to this day. This was a really long comment but! I get what Alia is saying so much and it resonated with me on a really deep level <3

BEST POD EVER!!! so much love to you guys! this was such a refreshing and vulnerable topic I loved seeing your guy's perspectives ❤ Love from Australia

Your over thinking all of it it’s something that you have no control over you go with the flow and everything else will fall into place one day at a time and two people that play together stay your smart both of you it will be great!!!

Julia and Hunter Havens on KZbin vlog their whole life and are both full time creators! They have a baby that's ~1.5 years old and have a 2nd on the way. It's been super interesting to see how they balance work and being parents on a day to day level!

You should watch Lucie Fink's videos! She's a young, talented creator and she just had a baby!

Kids are a whole different world but a good one ❤️ They are literally a half of your husband and yourself. Not for the weak either 😅 Its a sweet time but challenging nevertheless. Cant wait to see you guys as parents one day ❤️🙏

Loved it, love your unique way of communicate together and with us 🤍

I've been a big fan of your podcast & watch it every week! I also love Alia's channel & watch her videos every week! I usually don't comment but felt compelled to this time. I really resonated with your conversation. My husband and I own a wedding photo & video business together so we both work for ourselves and work from home (similar to you guys). We also just got married this past August and naturally, our families are asking us about when we'll have kids. I have the same feelings that Alia has - excited for what's to come, grateful for the life I already have, but also very scared. I'm trying to soak in every ounce of time I have where it's just my husband and I. Just know that you two have a great partnership and will be amazing parents! I'll be following along in your journey and we'll all get through this together! <3

I simply love this podcast. Your level of communication as a couple inspires me, and I don't know much about kids but I am sure that being able to share your thoughts and feelings and also to support each other will make parenting easier. Love from Uruguay, keep posting <3

I‘ve never commented on KZbin before, but I felt I had to this time. I’m a mom to a 15-month-old girl, and she is truly the light of my life. My heart explodes every time I look at her. But I won’t lie-the first month was brutal. I mourned my old life so much and felt sad every single day. At the same time, I was overwhelmed with love for this little being who needed all of me. I thought giving birth would be the hardest part, but I hadn’t realized how much my life would change afterward. Especially breastfeeding. It hit me like a truck. If you are a breast feeding mom there is so much that the dad can do because they need the comfort of it. And they need the mom constantly. Honestly i have no idea how I managed to do it for a whole year. Here’s the thing: it does get better every day. You discover strength you never knew you had. Slowly, you’ll get pieces of your freedom back. And once you realize this phase won’t last forever, you’ll want to cherish every moment because time flies so fast. You will still be you, and your life will come back together. And especially with a supporting partner it will get so much easier. I won‘t say don‘t worry. It is a good sign that you think about this not everyone does. It is a permament decision as you said. Just wanted to say you got this both if you decide for a child or not ❤️

I absolutely love y'all podcast! I totally understand how Alia is feeling, and I’ve been a little worried about her. I think she might really benefit from talking to a therapist about this sometimes. I actually know someone who felt a lot of resentment toward her husband and child because she had them so young and wasn’t ready. Just wanted to let you know I’m keeping you all in my thoughts. Sending love from the WTJ Patreon fam.

This gonna be a good one you guys talk about having kids a lot in other episodes so makes sense to make it an actual full episode

As a nanny, must I say that 7-12m’s is my absolute favorite age! They need you in the sense that they’re your mini bestie. Bring them on a stroll to the park or coffee shop, come back and laugh and play (teach them independent play for short periods as well). Cuddle for nap times and then you have a few hrs to yourself.

Yoni’s face said everything

Dude I just love both of you

Alia & I have so many similar pet peeves LOL, but I feel PASSIONATELY about people facetiming & listening to music/shows loud as hell in public. Like whyyyyyy?!!!!

where can I get a sticker from the poddddd i need one asap

the photo of the house is gorgeous!

Hello, guys. Thanks for putting out the episode, it was an interesting one. One thing that I have to say is that I was really put off by Alia constantly cutting off Yoni... I'm sorry I felt that way, but it really messes up with the flow of the pod. I understand you guys are a couple, so there's less pressure, and you guys are very comfortable talking about anything you want at any moment. But it really does not enhance our listening experience, and it gets annoying to a certain point. I hope Alia will be more open and receptive when you guys have a different understanding of things. You don't need to jump in immediately without Yoni finishing his sentence to get your point crossed. As listeners, we want a good listening experience, and we value the way and attitude you deliver the content, not who's more right or who's more wrong.

I relate to you Alia, but agree with Yoni that being vulnerable first is the first step to creating close relationships. Alia is seems very smart but an important thing is to also be receptive too. You’re BOTH my favourite hosts in the world!

As someone who got engaged earlier this year and is getting married next year I have to agree with a ton of the things you said but I also completely get from another perspective why people may disagree with what you both said. I loved everything you both said !!

1ove❤

It was so interesting to listen to you guys ❤️😌

Great pod guys ❤❤ me personally I don’t really like confrontation sometimes dont know how to maneuver it

talking about how uncomfortable you are with confrontation is actually the first step to actually implement it in your life, (in a healthy way)❣️

also Alia, I wish I could show you how to do black girls hair when you have babies…cuz that is a whole different type of maintenance 😭

Okkk scarf! I see you Alia!

😂 Typical Alia always right and not being receptive to information. If you want to have a deeper relationship with anyone you have to be willing to be vulnerable yourself, Alia. I think you’re afraid of being vulnerable, you have a HUGE ego and seemingly self centered and no one wants to be around someone like that.

Confrontation is only difficult when one of the parties is not open to truly receiving the message. This was a great topic guys 🤎

This might be my favorite intro! I love the energy and chemistry between Yonie and Alia. However, this was pretty hard to listen to; Alia did sound a little judgmental and hypocritical. I understand where she is coming from, however I do feel like she could’ve worded her opinions/judgments a little differently. BUT I guess she just wants to be herself and not worry about what other people have to say. With a podcast and being an influencer, I do think you need to be a little more careful? But what do I know? Anyways, I genuinely love this podcast and both Alia and Yonie. I love how Yonie has really come out of his shell and is very opinionated. I have the utmost respect for him.

My biggest pet peeve is when people will record themselves in public but don’t care about people around them. Like take a video up close and personal of yourself, why record everyone else!

oh top 2 public when people stop MID WALK when it's clearly a walking street or something to talk or do their own thing and block the damn street also when people squeeze to get on the subway before everyone gets off likeeee WHATS UP WITH THAT

my favorite guys! 🥰🫶🏼

Wtj run club 🔥

Loved this ep! I feel like there's a change in Alia's perspective on things since moving to NYC 🥺 obv don't know you guys personally but from watching y'all foreverrr, she's just more relaxed and open to not being so serious/strict with training etc and just overall more inspired which I loveee for her. Just a random thought but anyway love y'all💕

Alia's so me to a T