What Does It Take To Maintain Adult Friendships? | EP 124 | What's The Juice? Podcast

[@nadin97310]

I literally just had a convo with a friend about needing friends to be physically present for me to be able to maintain as solid of a connection with them. Sharing experiences is a huge foundation in friendships for me. I also believe that just because you were once friends with a person, doesn’t mean you should remain attached to the friendship if it is no longer serving you. Catching up can be nice but it doesn’t have to go deeper than that, especially if it’s not sustainable.

[@cristalytee]

I feel like Yoni makes a good point. When friendships are solidified, distance shouldn't matter. If you are close enough friends who talk about anything with one another (especially the deep conversations), then the connection you have with each other will always be there.

[@emilie-7-7]

I so agree with Alia, I always overthink everything especially friendships and that’s why it’s hard to « maintain » friendship I just feel like it takes so much effort. Also with long distance it feels like before we were kind of growing together but now we are just growing apart and our relationship can’t be the same as before because we’re not the same person anymore I mean idk

[@tijanabll]

I think it’s very simple And I agree with Yoni Like if I have a friend and we’ve been close and I love and appreciate them, and then one of us moves away - I want to keep that person in my life, even if it’s through facetime or seeing them once in 2 years, nothing can stop us. It’s the people that change the dynamic or chemistry or closeness, it’s not the distance. If you let it feel like an obligation facetiming your friend, then you just simply don’t love them or don’t care enough about them.

[@silverstarssx]

Maintaining friendships should be more than playing catch up with each other. I feel like I’m always catching up with them with what they’re up to vs creating new mems through shared experiences and actually going to do things actively. I think there’s so much pressure to maintain friendships for the sake of it sometimes, but it’s ok to outgrow friends, sometimes I think of past friends as our friendship cycle is complete and I’m happy to see them when I do. This shit is so layered. Female friendships is a whole different ballgame too!

[@fatimaibrahim5481]

I agree with Alia, distance affects friendships no matter how close we are, perhaps it's just like that in female friendships

[@raquelpeniche7634]

it's sad but i feel the same, alia! totally understand ur point!

[@diyaathappa]

Yoni's fit in this podcast is on another level!!! Fab episode guys!

[@jaelannalee]

I usually see both perspectives, but I can only see Alia’s side on this one 😂 This was a great episode… when we feel distance on our side from our relationship, do we think that needs to be talked about? What happens when there’s an imbalance when we feel that, but they feel like they succeeded the same. And even when it comes to situations like being a bridesmaid and someone’s wedding and you definitely don’t feel that mutual connection with them….so complex haha

[@deeb6582]

One thing I'm finding is that I don't like to receive texts with memes that say "good morning, "happy Friday" "miss you" etc. etc. So boring!! It's so blah; unless it's my kids!!! 😊

[@ewadubaj]

wheres the IG of the guy leaving in brooklyn you mentioned?

[@mariamzakaria5415]

I think that's his channel name "Timm Chiusano" , I tried

[@mariamzakaria5415]

I think that's his channel name "Timm Chiusano" , I tried

[@user13218]

48:22 god yes! YES YES Alia i do. And this causes hard time for me? Kinda feel this puts some pressure on my friends. I don't know I love you guys keep doing what you're doing ❤️ peace a cake

[@uriemaniac]

Really considering sending you guys a voice note now 🤔 For me, I love having different types of friends: close, long distance, from school. Because I think I can explore more types of bonds, what connects me to them is really diverse in most cases, so it's really great to have that diversity now that I'm an adult :) Love the pod and hope you guys are vibing with your Brooklyn summer ♥

[@oooooollllllvvvvvvv]

Are me and alia the same person lol ...literally in my brain

[@aygunsfrova4363]

Now, I’m wondering what was the name of the guy that Alia mentioned 😅 wanna check out his ins page

[@JustJazzy864]

Yes to IG Live!!

[@kierralexis]

I completely understand what Alia is saying, and I believe I had said in a prior video that women tend to take our friendships very serious, not to say men don’t in a different way, I feel like men just flow through friendships from seeing my boyfriends friendships whereas with women we are very interconnected I have a best friend from college, and we use to do everything together, we still see each other every once in awhile but she lives in DC, the first time I went down there to visit her we were all drinking and she just started crying and screaming at me that I left her for my man and that she use to be able to communicate with me without talking and now we can’t, and our other friend is who is a therapist brought us back to her home and we had a 2hr discussion about our friendship with her, I didn’t date anyone or entertain anyone when we were in college and I think finally having a boyfriend and living with him whereas she was traveling and single we just went different ways in life so when we finally saw each other again there were a lot of feelings that just came out, I feel like men don’t go through this 😂 but it was hilarious because after the talk with our friend she was like wow I feel better now I just needed to get it off my chest lmao Also, I relate to Alia on this, I feel like we’re the same person when it comes to friendships, it’s hard for me too when you’re not actually in my life and you live far away, and I think that’s what happened with my friend and I for a bit but now we’re in a good place and things jump back to where they were when we see each other This was a great convo ❤

[@Jibril_Abdulkadir]

First off the fits for today are especially great 🔥 I get what yoni was saying I think within guy friendships it doesn’t need to be that into depth if you either play sports or do something you have so many friends. Also when it comes to friendships I personally feel don’t think it’s that often people stay friends for 10 years plus and live in the same city that’s more so a romanticized version of it people move and change always which I think is great 💯

[@starlavie]

this was a really good episode like all of these episodes i love you guys.

[@samchan1495]

I agree with Yoni a friendship is a friendship no matter what. It would be a shame if the effort isn’t there just because you’re not living close by. From listening to this does Alia have fewer friends than Yoni?

[@flavialeveauarmas4927]

Hi from Perú! I am like Yoni, I always think (while in the moment) if that is the last time that I will be hanging with somebody or if there will be another moment similar to that one :(

[@aleksandra5240]

We need another confess your mess guys.....

[@whatsthejuicepod]

We agree!

[@jessicas8573]

Alia!!! Can we (aka me lol) get id’s on what you’re wearing? I love your shirt! And also, there was another denim button down you had on in a ep that was v v cute too.

[@ЮляГладченко-з5ю]

i like coulours in this video!

[@susand4191]

Not weird that Yoni gets …attached to people he just met. I am a Realtor & get this way with people, Neat when you feel fast connection with people.

[@meryemsalaheddine4233]

Emmm that’s interesting ! Personally I don’t like phone calls or FaceTime but I have a long distance bestie that we are connecting through texting and voice notes and mostly by insta réels not just funny réels but deep ones that can easily bring us to talk about something or share different opinions and debating over a réel but in general it’s effortless. On the other side if something is happening in her life something live and she needs an emergency advice she calls me even if I’m sleeping I’ll pick up and answer her and give her my time . Friendship needs sacrifice that’s what I’ve learned and if the friend worth the effort I’ll make sure they get the attention/time needed it’s my way of maintaining the friendship but not because of the fear of losing it but because that person deserve the best version of me to be their friend/best friend. They’re also those friends that we connect through insta stories it goes like that : me seeing their story me sending theim a little compliment or even a qst and later asking how they’re doing etc.

[@JustJazzy864]

Hmmm. I see Alia’s point, but I disagree. There was a point when I moved to another state and my friend move out of the country to Germany and we remained very close. Even now - over 10 years later - he’s in San Diego and I’m on South Carolina(moving to NYC in a few days!) and he’s still the closest friend that I have. I’d say we’re closer as friend than the friends that I see in person more often. Why? Because we’ve maintained the friendship. & when we see each other it’s not strange - I’d say it’s better- more cherished. I think distance can change a friendship- but not because of the distance alone - there are probably other factors there.

[@elina.schuler]

Heey! Who was the youtuber Alia mention in the episode? Btw it would be so fun with an episode with people you are inspired if youtubers, your grandparents etc ☺️

[@tsscott2268]

The funniest thing I heard come out of Alia mouth is she wants to learn French so that you and your future kids don't talk shit behind her back. Yoni your lucky.

[@Mantizzz]

YES NEW EPISODEEEEE❗️❗️🗣️🚨

[@ednaaapricio9293]

Maybe women take their friendships very serious because women provide emotional support for one another meaning we are there for each other when the other person is going through something hard (whatever that might be whether it’s something logical or not) we like to provide support and be there for the other person and in my experience men don’t always do that or reciprocate. They expect women to be there for them when they are going through something, but they can’t provide that back sadly.

[@susand4191]

Guy friendships are WAYYYYY different!

[@God_talks_77]

Where are the posters? 😅

[@lawrenceshichana]

5:31-5:41 😂😂😂😂😂

[@chewinggumyum]

Alia be thinking too much

[@VaneezyTV]

Alia, I feel exactly how you feel about friendships lol it's kinda... outta sight outta mind type of thing I think. It's very common in the adhd brain.

[@mrsverovalera]

If you want your kids to be friends with your friends kids, maintain the friendships you have now. It’s much harder to achieve that when you are older and starting new friendships. 🤎